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Half of Your Friends Are Really Not Your Friends · The Cubby and Christine Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: Well, I know it's Monday. I hate to give you
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  Speaker 1: bad news, but I do have bad news. According to
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  Speaker 1: an article I'm reading, Yeah, half of your friends probably
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  Speaker 1: don't think of you as a friend. What those six
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  Speaker 1: point seven light fmb Christine and Kristen. I will assure
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  Speaker 1: you this. You guys legit are my close friends. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and you'll be with me.
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  Speaker 2: Until I die. I promise you that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: But it says here, take a minute.
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  Speaker 1: Count up all your friends, not just the close ones
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  Speaker 1: or the ones you've seen recently, every single person on
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  Speaker 1: this earth that you consider a pal. You've got a
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  Speaker 1: number in your mind. Good, now cut it in half.
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  Speaker 1: Researchers say this smaller number may actually be more accurate.
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  Speaker 1: As it turns out, we can be pretty terrible at
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  Speaker 1: knowing who our friends really are, and a study in
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  Speaker 1: this journal made the case that as many as half
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  Speaker 1: the people we consider our friends don't feel the same way.
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  Speaker 1: Across a test group of eighty four people, researchers documented
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  Speaker 1: on three hundred and fifty three cases of friendship. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so you got thirteen hundred cases of friendship, and in
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  Speaker 1: ninety four percent of them, the person doing the ranking
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  Speaker 1: guest that the other person would feel the same way,
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  Speaker 1: but in reality, only fifty three percent of the friendships
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  Speaker 1: were actually reciprocal.
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  Speaker 3: So you're just being nice to my face, is what
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  Speaker 3: you're saying. Is that what's going on to you?
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  Speaker 1: But I guess I'm doing it to somebody and I
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  Speaker 1: didn't even know it, or they're doing it to me.
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  Speaker 3: Now I'm racking my brain.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, you're about to go on Facebook and to
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  Speaker 2: lead some.
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  Speaker 3: People consider my entire life here.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever said it to a friend, Like you're
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  Speaker 1: talking to a friend about a friend, but you're like,
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  Speaker 1: but that person's not a real friend.
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  Speaker 2: They're more of a Facebook friend, Like.
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  Speaker 3: Oh really, yes, that's a whole different convery. I mean
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  Speaker 3: there's your in real life friends, uh huh. And yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you do become friends with people like through social media,
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  Speaker 3: and then that always feels odd to me. It's like,
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  Speaker 3: are they a real friend because they feel like a
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  Speaker 3: real friend. I know, I know, but now I have
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  Speaker 3: like pen pally friends like friends in other countries, but
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  Speaker 3: we're legit friends, but we'll DM each other like that's
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  Speaker 3: how we keep in touch. I know you're making me
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  Speaker 3: question everything, covey.
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  Speaker 1: But now dm them and go, hey, are you really
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  Speaker 1: my friend? And of course they're going to probably say yes,
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  Speaker 1: but yeah, sure. But I mean I think people I
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  Speaker 1: see in the hallway here at work that they come
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  Speaker 1: towards me and I'm like, you know what, that's my
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  Speaker 1: friend right there. But to them maybe I'm just it's
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  Speaker 1: Cobby see, you know. But they put a smile in
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  Speaker 1: front of me, and that's about it.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, but.
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  Speaker 3: Those are like, okay, friendly acquaintances, right And then.
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  Speaker 1: Like you think Trevor's our friend down the hall, you
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  Speaker 1: think Trevor's a legitive friend.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know Trevor's are a legit friend? Think do
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  Speaker 3: you want to? I think that a blind question. Like
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  Speaker 3: have somebody go in and he's with Jim Kerr and
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  Speaker 3: question Trevor and say, hey, you're Covey and Christine your friends.
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  Speaker 1: Oh Christ's gonna try to get back on the air
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  Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, he don't know we're doing this topic
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  Speaker 1: right now. Let's put him on the spot.
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  Speaker 3: But Covey, I've always like kind of been told and
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  Speaker 3: warned by my close friends and advisors that you have
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  Speaker 3: work friends and you have real friends, and you're you
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  Speaker 3: shouldn't confuse the two.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, but you feel like a work friend and a
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  Speaker 2: real friend.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, so I do confuse the two all the time time.
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  Speaker 3: But then I've been in the situation where like you're
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  Speaker 3: hurt by a work friend and they'll say it's just business,
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  Speaker 3: and it's like, but I thought we were friends, like
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  Speaker 3: in real life, I thought we were real friends.
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  Speaker 2: If you're a therapist, can you please text us at
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  Speaker 2: for Fox.
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  Speaker 3: Help getting super paranoid right now?
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  Speaker 1: By the way, Trevor was on the air also he's
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  Speaker 1: unable to be spontaneous with us. We'll report back and
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  Speaker 1: let you know what he says. I think to our
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  Speaker 1: face he's going to say, yeah, of course you're my friend,
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  Speaker 1: but do you really trust it?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: More next on Okay,