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Ep 39 | There Is Nothing to Fix: Feeling to Heal and the Breath as Your Bridge · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive, authentic self. So last week,
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episode 38, quantum sensitivity from mental loops
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to conscious co -creation, I reflected on the
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relationship that we have with our own body,
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our mind, and our spirit, and how so many of
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us have been living from mental processes that
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keep us looping, waterlogged, and disconnected
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from the stillness where our inner guidance actually
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resides. So this is really what I want to speak
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to because when I even reflect back to 2008 and
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the way I was living my life, very, you know,
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earthly plane, physically focused, but yet I'm
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also very open and curious. You know, I did go
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to church at the time. My children were young.
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I wanted them to know that they were connected
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to something greater and to develop their own
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relationship. But once I had that spiritual awakening,
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you know, there just was no kind of religious
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lingo. And it was more of this energy, right?
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I've referred to it as this pure, positive love
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energy. But things that I remember still very
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clearly are, you know, I remember being on a
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massage table and just feeling this full body.
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You know, this just life force energy moving
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through me in such a full way that I had never
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experienced before. And it was just so magical
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the way it just, you know, made me feel so safe
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and supported, you know, held and connected.
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and you know following those initial weeks of
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bliss and love and light and perfect you know
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healing and all of that is when I began navigating,
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you know, strong emotions and, you know, just
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feeling that activation of frustration or, you
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know, why isn't something happening faster than
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I want it to kind of thing. And why aren't my
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decisions, you know, that I thought were so great
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working out for me. And, you know, I've certainly
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learned so much from 2008, as I'm sure all of
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you have, right? But some of the things that
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I definitely, you know, have continued to recognize
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is that, you know, we need to face our fears,
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you know, we really need to feel, you know, what's
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moving through us. to heal right i say face your
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fears and you need to feel it to heal it um now
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that's taken on different understandings from
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my own personal journey in addition to the women
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that i have the honor of supporting um but definitely
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you know when i reflect on this spiral journey
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right this you know in a sense circling back
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to previous experiences again, like what else
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have I gleaned from it? Or, you know, a similar
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situation and a new opportunity for how I'm going
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to move through that experience, right? Like
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has just helped me see that. And again, this
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is why I talk to you in the way that says there's
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nothing wrong with you and there's nothing to
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fix. Your journey is uniquely yours. You know,
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whether you or I or any of us remember, you know,
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on the other side, we said, yes, let me go to
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that earthly realm, you know, and here's my soul
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curriculum. And then we get here and come on,
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you know, the way we're. created and develop.
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And, you know, we're just these like sponges
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and we take on so much from our environment,
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our parents. Right. And, you know, I love the
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work of Bruce Lipton and, you know, of course,
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psychology, you know, quantum physics, so many
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different areas that I. reference you know kind
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of regularly um but just understanding like that
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those early years do have imprinting you know
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I've done I'm also uh certified as a clinical
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heart -centered hypnotherapist and so when I
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was going through the training and I was the
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client you know I tapped into experiences that
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I was like how could I even remember this how
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can I know this you know and even some of my
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experiences brought me to past lives that just
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showed me you know this evolutionary journey
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that we're on when we're here um and what's funny
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is I remember early on in my spiritual journey
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of awakening right from 2008 and I remember the
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first time I heard somebody talk about like past
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life regression or past life experiences I remember
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so clearly having like this hand up like stop
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sign like nope like I'm not going down that road.
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Like I really need to understand how to live
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in this lifetime. Nevermind, go back to reference
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previous lifetimes. So if this is the first time
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you're hearing about this, you know, believe
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me, there's nothing wrong with where you are
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on your journey, what you are aware of or not.
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I've said it before, you know, since my awakening
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journey, I've been exposed to so many different
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paths, I'll say, right? And what interests people
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and, you know, what their unique journeys bring
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them. And this is why I just always want you
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to come back to yourself. Because, you know,
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there's times when, gosh, I remember early on
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in my awakening too, in the Louise Hay movie,
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You Can Heal Your Life, Esther and Jerry Hicks
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were talking. And I remember that was the first
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time I had ever heard about channeling. And I
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definitely felt the walls go up, you know, and
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I was just like. No, thank you. I do not want
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to know anything about that. You know, it kind
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of spooked me. But it didn't take long before
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I like saw an interview where they were just
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talking, you know, and talking about how she
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started meditating and how she, you know, had,
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you know, referenced Seth Speaks and, you know,
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meeting with the woman who channeled, you know,
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Seth. It was just like, okay, this isn't so wild
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and crazy like I thought. And I actually used
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to listen to Abraham Hicks quite a bit in those
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early years. And then everything changed when
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I went to one of the events, which it wasn't
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my first event, but it was the first time I got
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in the hot seat. And I did not feel that pure
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positive love energy coming at me. and around
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me and that didn't feel good. So again, I followed
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my own inner guidance that said, you know what,
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that may work for some people and a lot of people
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because Abraham X has been, gosh, it's probably,
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well, I first started going to events in probably
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2009. So, and they were already, you know, traveling,
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uh, you know, for years. So Their material is
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out there readily accessible to many people.
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But for me personally, you know, I took a turn
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away from it where I was just like, you know,
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that just doesn't feel like the love and light
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that I'm here to experience. And so, again, not
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saying that, you know, those who are drawn to
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Abraham Hicks or, you know. Them themselves that
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there's anything wrong. Like this is just me
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speaking to how your journey is uniquely yours
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and something that you may feel nervous about
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or scared about, you know, or feel your walls
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build up, you know, that is your nervous system
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protecting you. Right. And that's what we want
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to understand. Our nervous system is taking in
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so much information, right? And this is for everybody,
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but as highly sensitive individuals, right, we're
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taking in five times more input. So you get a
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stronger signal, right? This high resolution
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navigational system that you have is something
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that you really want to hone in on and understand
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how it's communicating with you. Because, you
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know, I can certainly tell you that. i've recognized
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patterns within myself right where i used to
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when things felt really strong you know and my
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nervous system just you know that that armor
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came up and that protective mode and it was just
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like i need to make a decision because this i
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need to exit you know but again i want you to
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know that wherever you are on your journey is
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perfectly designed for you and The invitation
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is to, again, feel what you need to feel as you
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face those fears, right? Because that's part
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of the process, you know, of moving. You know,
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emotion is referred to as energy in motion, right?
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So, you know, I would describe anxiety for me
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as I'm feeling, you know, this nervous energy,
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right? Or anger, I would say, like, I'm feeling
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my blood boil, right? Like the temperature's
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rising, you know? But again, when we understand
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the mind -body connection, right? Like the more
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we can be with what's arising and just be fully
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present. You know, it allows us to face the fears
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because that's what you're going to get, right?
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From the thoughts, right? The thoughts are what,
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you know, start to be protective and saying what
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you need to do, right? And again, there's nothing
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wrong with this voice of protection. That's a
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natural part of our inner dialogue. the relationship
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that we have with it, you know, and to understand
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these different internal voices. So the reason
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that I brought up some of these things is just,
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you know, there's so many different ways to walk
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this path. And you've heard me say before, there's
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not one right or wrong way. Even the ones that
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feel really heavy and hard, you know, it's for
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a purpose. You know, it's something that you
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knowingly or unknowingly said, I want to learn
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this, right? I want to discover more about this,
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you know, and I've said before, From a human
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design perspective, my incarnation crosses the
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sleeping Phoenix, right? So this is one of the
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reasons why I use the word rise a lot, right?
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Rise and realign, because for me, it's about
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rising up out of that heaviness, right? That
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guardedness, that. big emotion, or even that
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voice of protection that's saying like, you've
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got to do something about this, right? You've
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got to make a decision. Um, it's, it's so therefore,
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right? Like that's part of my journey. And so
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I do, I spiral through things many times. So
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I gain all these different perspectives. But
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what I want to say about this is the breath is
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the bridge. This is, I've been teaching this
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for years and years and years since my awakening,
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of course. Um, although I did, you know, do dialect,
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dialectical behavior therapy in my early part
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of my career. So of course, mindfulness, breathing
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practice, like that's all, um, something that
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has been part of my career, but to really have.
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The breath is the bridge as a primary focus that
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came after my spiritual awakening or soul awakening
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remembrance. But it's that our breathing gets
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constricted, right? And that prevents, right,
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the feelings. to be fully felt. And oftentimes,
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that's when, you know, we get that, that heaviness,
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right, that guardedness, that waterlogged feeling
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that I talked about, right, and even the mental
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looping process, right, because it hasn't finished,
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like, we haven't felt what we need to feel fully.
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And so it just kind of gets like, it'll just
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come around again, you know, and So, again, just
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speaking to the invitation for you to tune inward,
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you know, tune into you more. What are you feeling?
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What are you sensing? You know, what are you
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becoming more aware of, right? Because rising
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for me is also about rising in awareness, right?
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Like as a highly sensitive woman, like, That
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was so powerful. The more I studied, you know,
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the research and Dr. Elaine Aron's work, the
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more I was like, oh my God, this just explains
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so much for, you know, these different aspects
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of what I'm experiencing and what these women
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I'm supporting, you know, are experiencing. And
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then the way the universe would just bring me
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more and more women who became very clear, you
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know, that they were highly sensitive. And the
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universe just guided me on this path of, you
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know, this is who you're here to support. You
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know, not only learn this for yourself, but actually
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bring it into your professional offerings. The
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breath being the bridge is what allows you to
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feel what's coming up for you to heal and so
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in the past you know like i said i would refer
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to myself as high strung i didn't have time for
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a lot of things i used to feel significant frustration
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you know when something unexpected showed up
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and these are all different episodes that i've
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talked more in depth about you know but the important
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thing to understand is you know when we are so
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so overloaded right with schedules with you know
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needing to feel the things that we haven't felt
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from decades ago right like this is why I continue
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to speak about take a break and breathe love
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every day whatever breath practice you know you
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most feel called to use you know whether that's
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that double inhale through the nose And then
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nice long and slow exhale out the mouth. Just
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one is better than none, but I'm a big fan of
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at least three. Um, but the key is, you know,
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do as many as you need to feel that release where
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you can be more present with what is, because
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that's the thing when we have very busy. busy
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and hectic lives whether that's because of our
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career aspirations passion right whether whether
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we're extroverted and have a really busy social
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life um you know whether you know we feel like
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we've got to do you know a gazillion different
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Tasks and chores or activities for our health,
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right? All these different things. It's so important
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to recognize that rest is part of what we need.
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We need these restful periods beyond just...
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our sleep at night which sleep is huge for our
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health right our holistic health right because
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um it allows the body to do its detoxing right
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it's repairing while we're resting and you know
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we don't have those mental processes going You
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know, and it does allow us to get rest from the
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list of to do's the experiences that we haven't,
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you know, fully processed and may still be spinning
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a bit. And it's where you're connected, again,
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more fully with your soul, your spirit. So sleep
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is number one. So if you are somebody who's not,
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you know, giving attention to your sleep or feeling
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really off because you're not feeling rested,
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like I really want you to hear, you know, the
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invitation to give more attention to your sleep,
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you know, and if you don't already, you know,
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align your body with the circadian, you know,
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rhythms uh waking up with the sun getting outside
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right away right i bare feet on the earth first
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thing in the morning. I'm grateful for the day,
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you know, but starting the day in a healthy way,
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you know, connected to yourself, your source,
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right? The earth, right? Like all of these things
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are so important. So when I talk about rest,
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I'm not only talking about sleep. I'm not only
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talking about take a break and breathe love,
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right? It's like, These are things that we need
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to include in every day. And so if you're in
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a stage of life where you feel like life is too
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hectic and you don't have time to take a break
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and breathe love, I really, really invite you
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to reassess, you know? I tell people, hey, while
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you're laying in bed, take a break and breathe
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love first thing in the morning. Just start right
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out the gate. You know, every time you use a
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restroom, perfect time. Just again, take a break
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and breathe love while you're there. Like keep
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bringing yourself back to your center. Just saying
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that reminded me of when I first traveled across
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the country with my family and we were in California.
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And I was delving into Joseph Campbell and all
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of his, well, just his journey and all of his
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research. And I was learning about so many different,
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you know, religious and spiritual practices.
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And I remember hearing in Hinduism how they pause
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five times across the day to do their prayer
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rituals in the way that. that they do it. And
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I just remember feeling completely aligned with
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that makes total sense. You know, we can't just
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do it once a day. We can't just say, oh, we get
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our rest, you know, when we sleep, right? Like
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it's something that we need throughout the day.
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Because there are unexpected things that happen,
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right? I mean, this morning I woke up and we
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didn't have electricity. Like, that totally changed
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my rhythm and flow, right? So life happens, you
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know? This earthly plane presents us with so
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many different opportunities, you know, to, as
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I say, realign. But it's something that we do
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need to become more aware of. So I invite you
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to, you know, just pause now or, you know, later
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this evening. You know, have a notepad handy
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or just speak it, you know, to your own voice
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recorder and just reflect on, you know, how many
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times throughout the day do you actually pause?
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to, as I call it, take a break and breathe love,
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right? How often are you pausing to reconnect
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with your breath, your body, your heart? Because
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stress is really impacting so many of us and
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highly sensitive individuals with that more finely
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tuned central nervous system. You know, when
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we don't understand how we're taking in so much
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and how we're not having the time to process
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it and discharge, you know, that stress, it compounds.
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And compounding stress is detrimental to our
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well -being, right? We're talking physical health,
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mental health, right? All of it, our relationships,
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everything can suffer. And it doesn't have to
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be that way. I definitely want you to know that
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you're not alone if you're somebody who's living
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in chronic go mode or stress mode, or you just
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don't know how to slow things down because you
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have beliefs that say you've got to keep pushing
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forward, you know. I'm really here to remind
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you that it is important that you have ample
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times for rest, you know. the other day i was
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um recording for my rise and realign lunar letter
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and i was you know just saying it's like the
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pendulum you know that needs to swing you know
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we need to um know how to come back to our center
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right and again being activated being stressed,
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you know, that sympathetic nervous system is
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just on high alert and it gets compounded and
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we're not able to really relax and breathe and
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receive all that we need in the ways that we
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truly can as we come back into alignment with
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who we really are as whole beings and especially
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as sensitive souls. So I just want to invite
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you into a more restful, you know, state, one
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that really meets you where you are and that
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it allows you to rise up out of the old patterns
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that don't serve you, you know, that help you.
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rise in awareness of where you may be going,
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you know, in too many different directions, or
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too fast, you know, and to really bring you back
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into alignment with your own heart, your own
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soul, your own inner guidance, you know, alignment
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with your higher self, and this physical self,
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you know, is something really It's really incredible.
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You know, I'm really grateful that I live in
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alignment with, you know, that and have for almost
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18 years now. Because when we are only physically
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focused, right, only focused on the 3D, those
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guards just keep coming up. You know, that protective
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voice just speaks really loud. So the more you
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come home to yourself, the more opportunities
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you give to the voice of your soul or the voice
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of your higher self. You know, whatever terminology
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feels most resonant for you. So before we close,
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I invite you to return to your breath, to your
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body. to what feels true for you right now. There's
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nothing you need to fix. Just notice what's here.
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Where the heart leads, the body remembers, and
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the soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here
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together to rise, reclaim, remember. And as always,
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I am so deeply grateful that you're here. You
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are so important. Your journey, your voice, your
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presence, it all matters. And if you'd like to
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walk this sensitive and strong realigned path
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with me, you can explore everything at realignwithmelissa
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.com. I have both my holistic psychotherapy offers
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for those who reside in California, Massachusetts,
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and Arizona. And then I also have other integrative
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consultations and educational things like my
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Your Sensitivity is Intelligent Design Essentials
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course, which will have a six -month um component
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to it for a small group of women um but it's
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all right there anytime you want to explore so
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take good care of you much love and light