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Dream Big! | Episode #403 · Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess

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Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your Life Count.
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I'm your host, Doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, international leadership expert and trusted
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advisor. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make your Life Count. I'm so delighted
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that you join me today. I have a very special guest on our episode
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for today. Her name is Desi Payne. Desi is a humorous motivational speaker,
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trainer, and the stress Less Coach. I love that she loves to
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inspire leaders and their employees to adjust their attitudes so they will work in a
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positive environment. As a stress less coach, she helps people let go of
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the stress that is robbing them of their joy so they can enjoy life.
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I just love that. I love the idea of it now. Daisy instills
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joy and laughter into all of her programs. She is also a John Maxwell
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team member, traveling internationally to coach people to be better leaders. She also
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teaches Youth Max in schools, helping youth become great leaders. Today's topic is
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all about letting go, a topic that is near and dear to my heart
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and I can't think of a better person, a better leader, a better
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human being to address this topic than Desi Pain Now. I met Desi a
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few years ago. We're both part of the John Maxwell team, and I
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met Desi as part of a mentoring series for leaders. In fact, I
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met her because she had been selected from a pool of about twenty thousand or
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so leaders. That's a lot of folks. She had been selected to be
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interviewed for the impact that she was making on the world. And when I
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met Desi and heard her speak about her passion, she was just on fire
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about it. So I can't wait to host my friend and fabulous colleague,
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Desi Pain. Now, before I bring Desi in, I want to just
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take a moment to connect the dots between today's topic, letting go and legacy
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living. Now, there are many ways that letting go connects to legacy living,
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which you'll hear more about later in the show. For now, let
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me just say that legacy living is a way of being and a way of
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living in the world, so that we make the conscious choice to be the
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difference we want to see in the world. We make the conscious choice now,
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not in some distant future. We make that choice day in and day
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out, three sixty five, twenty four to seven, Okay, again.
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I'll tell you more about that later. Let me bring in my friend and
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colleague, Desi pain Well. I want to welcome you to this podcast.
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I am so grateful to have you as my very special guest today and I
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would love to talk with you about what's happening with you right now. I
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know that we're both dreamers and we're going to focus today on never giving up
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on your dreams. So I just again want to welcome you, and would
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you just tell us a little bit about you, Desi and why never giving
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up on your dreams is important to you. Sure well, thank you Gloria
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for having me. And I would probably have to say I am a big
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dreamer. In fact, sometimes my husband just shakes his head when I throw
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out one of the things or two of the things are a dozen things that
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I'm going to be planning on doing, and he just again shakes his head,
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thinking I just can't believe you. And I think I've always been that
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way, maybe because you know, on the on the dischart on a ID,
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but but yeah, I am a big dreamer. I love achieving things
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and adventure and being creative. I think being creative is one of my favorite
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things to do. If you say, why don't you come up with something
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new with whatever it is, then you know I'll just run with it.
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So yeah, I love dreaming big dreams. And the thing is, through
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the course of my life, I've had to learn not to give up on
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those dreams because you know what we both face and those are obstacles. Absolutely
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absolutely, Sojisie, would you tell us about I know you're a writer and
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you're a seeker, and you have a fairly recent book out called Do You
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Work with the Living Dead? I love that title, So can you tell
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us a little bit about the book? Sure? Well, I started writing
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that actually a couple of years ago because I started teaching workshops on attitude and
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workplace and one night I walked through my living room and one of those zombie
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shows were on. And I don't get into zombies at all, but my
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husband and my daughter were watching on. I just kind of shook my head,
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like, oh, I don't believe this. But then the more I
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thought about it, every time I walked through the room, it just reminded
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me of people that drag theirselves through the lots through life and have negative,
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bad attitudes. It was a springboard for even expanding on the workshop that I
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did, and so I wrote the book and it's pretty much how to survive
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among lifeless and negative people in the workplace. But then what's interesting is not
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only is do I give strategies on how to how to, you know,
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work with these what I call workplace zombies. The book is also about what
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to do with you get infected. And that's one of the things a lot
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of people will even approach me with after they've read the book. They say,
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you know, I've this book because of these people I work with.
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But then they say this, they say, you know what, when I
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was reading the book, I came to the realization that I needed to look
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at myself and I thought, wow, that it was even you know I
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seen on the cake for me once it was done. But I guess when
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you go back to dreams, I would say, probably oh, twenty five
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years ago, if I were to walk into Barnes and Noble bookstore, I
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would say out loud to anyone that was with me, someday I'm going to
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have books in the Barnes and Noble bookstore. I and I said that out
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loud two people for years and years and years and years. So It was
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actually especially a thrill for me last October when it was published and I was
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in Cincinnati and I was at the world's largest I mean it's the world's largest
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Barnes and Noble book sighting. I think there were like twenty six authors there
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and I forgot to take part of that. Congratulations, thank you. So
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so that was a huge win for me to, you know, to pug
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the book published and go through that process. And onyn't you publish one book,
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you get the bugs to write another and so yes, so I ended
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up writing book two. Well, good for you. And I know that
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in your notes you talked about this book being a finalist a top ten.
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Yes, yes, so at the probably in the spring, I found out
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that my book was in a category, a business category to win an award.
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So it's in like the top ten finalists to win award with the publisher,
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which is huge if your book wins an award. So tell us more
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about this, because you know, we all run into people who have negative
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attitude sometimes, like you said, you know about us, So why did
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you write this particular book. You know, I am from a family of
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very negative people and holidays when you know everybody's going to be coming over.
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It's almost like you put your guard up because you know, you know conversations
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are going to turn maybe negative or critical. And so that was probably the
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main reason, you know, secretly writing this book to give to all my
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different family members. But but you know, it expanded so that you know,
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it would be able to help people in the workplace. And and it's
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been awesome because after I've even taught the Workshoper, people have read the book.
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It's been so nice for people again to say, you know, when
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I was reading this book, I saw this person and this person and this
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person, and so people were really able to relate with it. And you
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know, the st ategies I give, you know, a lot of them
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are pretty practical. For example, a couple of them are don't descend to
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another person's level or go to their grave is what I call it. Is
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because a negative person doesn't want to be the only one negative or griping or
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complaining. You know, they want to drag other people into it. And
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just like their secondhand smoke, I believe there's secondhand negativity and if you're around
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it, you can be sucked into that. And so it's really important to
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do different things. If you work those kinds of people, or if you
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see those people in the grocery store, to distance yourself. But then if
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you can't distance yourself from those people, especially if you work with them,
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you know. I give some different strategies, but the one I say is
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probably the most important is to infect them with your own positive attitude. Let
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you be the one that infects them versus them infecting you. Oh that I
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love that. And you talk about getting CPR, So what do you mean
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by that? Yes, you know, if you were to take your pulse
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right now, you know, I would hope you'd have your pulse. But
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you know what, I think it's important that we take our attitude pulse.
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And if we find that we're we're among the ungrateful dead, or we're acting
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like any of these negative people, then we need CPR. And that CPR
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is number one. C stands for choice. It's always your choice on how
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you're going to act. And it's interesting, you know, when I wrote
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this book, I got this nickname the Attitude Adjuster. And I was in
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the grocery store one time and it was one of those days when the line
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for one only one aisle one checkout was open when I was in a hurry
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and the line was so long, and there was a part of me that
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just wanted to glare or you know, act like, you know, what
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is the problem here? And because I knew I had this nickname the attitude
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adjuster, I thought, you know, you never know who's watching you,
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and so I thought, you know what, I am going to be cool,
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calm and collected. In fact, when I get up to the checkout
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gal, I'm just going to talk to her and ask her how her day's
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going. And you know, she went on to tell me that they had
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several people that called up sick. You know, she had no control over
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that. And so it taught me a lesson that day that you really do
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have the ability to take control in a situation where your attitude is concerned.
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So ceased. In CPR, C stands for choice and P stands for perspective.
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It's so important to always have the right perspective. And you know,
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I've had the wonderful privilege about a year ago to speak with Nick Voichich at
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an event in Texas, you know, to fifteen thousand youth. And every
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time I see Nick, I always think I have so much to be grateful
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for. I mean, here's Nick kloicha to man without arms and legs.
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Yes, And and we lose perspective very easily when we get up in the
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morning not thinking how grateful we should be for every single thing that we have.
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And if you are grateful, if you have the right perspective, it's
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going to affect your attitude. And then r in CPR stands for reboot your
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brain. And uh so, for example, you if your computer is not
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acting right or it's stuck, you get aggravated with it, and so you
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have to reboot it. So you have to hit control, alt and delete.
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Well, that's what you have to do with your you your attitude.
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You have to reboot your brain. You have to control what you're thinking about,
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alternate those thoughts with good thoughts and you have and then that that will
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delete those negative thoughts. So that's a part of rebooting your brain. And
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then another part of rebooting your brain is humor and laughter, you know,
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incorporating more humor and laughter into your life, because anytime you laugh, it
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really does reboot your brain because your brain chemistry change. So so that's essentially
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CPR for your attitude. H. Well, I love that. And so
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someone gave you the name of the attitude adjuster. Yeah, I was the
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H was called the attitude adjuster. So I kind of just span with that
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for a while. And so so it's on my website, you know,
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and the attitude adjuster. So yeah, and then it keeps me in line.
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That's so important as a And I love the CPR approach. Could you
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go through the C and the P and the R again because I know that
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there are people out there taking taking notes. Okay, sure, m C
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stands for choice. It's always your choice on what kind of attitude you're going
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to have. I mean, you choose that attitude no matter what is happening
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around you. P stands for perspective and a lot of that has to do
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with gratitude. Then then OUR stands for reboot your brain. And I think
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there's two ways to reboot your brain. One is to control what you're thinking
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about in your thoughts. And the other way to reboot your brain is with
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laughter, because when you do laugh, it does change your attitude, let
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alone change the chemistry of your brain to make you feel better. Yeah,
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so thank you, And I know you know, when I think about perspective.
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This little thought runs through my mind. You know, when we change
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our perspective or hardly look at things, then the things around us actually begin
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to change. That's so true, That is right. Yeah, so I
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hadn't planned out asking you this question. So if you don't want to answer
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it, just tell me that I love how you talk about, you know,
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rebooting your brain and you humor right, and you and I had you
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know, we talked a while ago and another another interview and you talked about
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your town. Sure sure, sure, sure. So Actually, you know
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that has a lot to do with the dreams in my life. You know,
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after I graduated from college, I got a job at a hospital and
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I did not like it at all. I mean, it was very stressful,
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but I ended up staying in that job for a very long time.
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And then after that job, the door opened to another job, which was
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which is funny, I was the complaint department. But I actually loved that
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job and it was always challenging. But had I left, had I left
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that job, I would not have had the opportunity for my life to change
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because that door opened up to a whole new life for me. Because while
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I was working at the hospital. There was a professional clown and when I
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would get complaints from patients, I would, you know, call Hm out
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and say, I mean he was on staff. I'd say, hey,
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I need to go see this this patient because they're really grumpy. And he
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would go in do his magic and it was amazing. Well, one night
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he was at a banquet where I was actually performing as the entertainer and I
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was a mine and I did my mind skit and he came up to me.
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I mean he made a beeline write up to me afterwards, and he
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asked me, who taught you how to do that? And I said to
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do what He said, well, what you did on the stage. And
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I said, I don't know. I just I don't know. I taught
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myself. I did it. And he said, have you ever thought about
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going to clown college? And I thought, oh, my goodness, that
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is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. And my husband, my husband hates
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clowns. That is crazy. Well, he kind of kept at me and
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finally one day he throws a sure on my desk and he says, the
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University of Wisconsin is going to have a clown college experience up in Des Moines.
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Iowa. I'm about an hour and a half from there, and he
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said, why don't you go, And I thought, oh, now,
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I'll just go. I'm sure I can learn how to do a blue animal
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for my Sunday school class. Well, little did I know going to that
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clown college experience, which was for clown college, it changed my life and
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I to make a long story short, I went to clown school and I
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was able to be trained by professional entertainers from around the world who understood the
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art of clowning, not just throwing on makeup and going out and being goofy,
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but actually the art of a clown. So I became a professional clown
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and he actually wanted to mentor me to take his place at the hospital,
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which I ended up doing for twenty two years. Actually retired from the hospital
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as from a professional last December. But you know, I saw cancer patients
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kids, I've worked in the emergency room. I see. I worked all
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over that hospital as a as a professional clown, and then little did I
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know, doors were going to open. I ended up being a guest performer
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with Ringling Brothers. I worked on Royal Career bringing cruise lines and I was
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in high demand for schools to come and teach kids about character anti bullying.
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And so I mean I worked literally full time, a lot of times fight
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and six days a week in clown makeup, and I did that. I
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mean it was a very, very rewarding, rewarding occupation. And with all
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that said, I learned the power of laughter. I learned the power of
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humor and what it does to a person when you make somebody else smile and
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make somebody else laugh. So my background has a lot to do with helping
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people laugh and smile, and so thankfully that has come into my speaking world
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and my career, and that has actually helped me a great deal on being
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very busy as the speakers. Yes, you just never know, right,
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You never know. And you know what, it's interesting. One morning I
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was watching Good Morning in America and Jay Leno was on, and it was
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one of those feel good shows where he was giving away one of his mini
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cars to a veteran. You know, you had the tears in your eyes.
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But he said something that caught my attention, and he said this.
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He said, if I have not gone through a day without making somebody smile
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or laugh, I have not done my job. And I thought, what
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a great philosophy to adapt into your own life. I mean, to be
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intentional about every day helping somebody else smile or laugh. And I tell you,
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if you have that philosophy, it will it will change your attitude about
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life. If you will change your attitude in a day, if that is
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your goal to help other people's Ye, yes, I love that. Well,
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thank you, thank you for sharing that. And you talked earlier about
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sharing the stage with Nick Voye Chase, and could you say a little bit
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more about that? And you know, I know that your big team again
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is to never get up on your dream. So if you could tell us
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about Nick and maybe give us a few more examples of that as well.
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Sure. Well you know so I just told you that I told you that
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my husband couldn't stand clowns, and here I'm going to become a professional clowns.
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Well he did eventually like one, and that was me. But you
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know I I'll never forget the night that I told him. You know what,
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I want to join the John Maxwell team. I'm going to become a
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motivational speaker. And he looked at me and he said, oh my goodness,
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I can't stand motivational speakers, and I just was thrown for a loop
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and I thought, oh my goodness. But you know what, I one
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to respect. I thought, huh, you didn't like clowns, but you
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did end up liking me. I'm going to have to prove myself to you.
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And then when I started leaning out of that profession and in town was
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talking to different business people about becoming a motivational it was interesting that I actually
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had business people that said, you will never make it in this town as
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a motivational speaker. And I was like, oh my, I mean really,
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it was kind of heartbreaking. And they said, because you're known as
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this professional clown in town. And so that was kind of in the back
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of my head for a long time. Thankfully, now I'm also well known
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as a speaker and been hired many many times in this town. But it
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was in the back of my mind. Well, when I became a John
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Exell team members. You know, when you go to Orlando and you go
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through the three day certification. That first day you see ten different John Maxwell
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team members go up on the stage and they get to do their three minute
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speech and it's like, you know, it's like pretty it's a wow thing.
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And I remember thinking, well, when I come back in six months,
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when they do this again, I want to get up there. I
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want to get on the stage. So that was my dream. Well,
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I didn't realize that it was going to be a grougling process to go through
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the interview process with We both know Roddy Gaalbroth, and you have to submit
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your videos and he wants the highest quality in speeches. If you, I
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mean, if you want to share the stage of John Maxwell, it's got
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to be good. And I remember speech after speech after speech that I suaid
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it and he would just say, you know what, you need to go
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back and do this again, and I was like, ah ah. But
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finally I remember the day when he said, you know, I think this
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is going to be great. And so I made it through stage the stage
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one of around when is probably what I should say. And then so if
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you make it through round one, when you get to Orlando, you audition
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in front of other people. And I remember walking into that room and my
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plane was late, so I actually got in on the last ten minutes of
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being able to get into that room, and I rushed in the room and
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I sat down and he walked over to me, I mean within seconds,
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and he handed me that microphone and I was like, oh, oh,
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it's my turn. And I went up there and I froze, literally froze,
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and he was kind enough to, you know, asked me if I
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wanted to start over or no. I asked him if I could start over,
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and he said yes, and I froze again. I mean I just
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stared at everybody like a deer in headlights, and you know, everybody was
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so gracious, Hey, we love you, you can do this, and
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you know, I look back and I the third time round. I don't
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know what I said, but I remember going back to my seat wanting to
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hide underneath the take out. Of course, didn't pass, didn't make it
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to this big old stage time. But I thought, you know, six
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months later, when I come back, I'll do it again. And went
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through the whole grueling process of submitting video after video after video, and then
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you know, I made it through the process, and so when I got
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there again, you know, I felt more confident. But when I get
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up on the stage about halfway through, I noticed that my legs were shaking
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so bad that it tripped me up and I just stared out at everybody again
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because I totally couldn't remember what I had just said. I mean, it
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freaked me out, and I remember walking out and thinking this is not for
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me. I'll never do this again, I'll never come back again. And
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I I mean, I went up called my family and I was just devastated,
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and I have I mean, as an entertainer, I've been in front
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of thousands of people, been on stages, and for me to not be
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able to say a three minute speech was so tough. And so a couple
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months later, I am actually speaking out of college to new college students,
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and I'm speaking to them ironically about their dreams and their life and how they
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should never give up on their dreams. And literally, while I am speaking
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to them, I'm having this conversation in my brain and I'm saying to myself,
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how can you talk to these kids about never giving up on a dream
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when you gave up on your own dream, You're a hypocrite. And I
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mean, I'm talking to these kids and thinking all these things, and while
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I'm talking to them, I ended up talking to myself and saying, you're
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not going to give up on your dream. You're gonna you're gonna get back
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up on that stage. And I remember when I went through the process again,
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submitting video after video video, and finally, you know, one was
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accepted. I remember putting my head on my desk and literally making the decision
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are you going to go for it or not? And I decided I was
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gonna. I mean, HI was so determined. I was like, I
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was like Rocky Nothing, nothing was going to stop me. And when I
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got on the plane to fly to Orlando, it was an hour and a
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half flight, and I shut my eyes and I said that three minute speech
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every three minutes until I got to Orlando. And then when I got to
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the hotel and I got settled, I went into the halls of the Marriotte
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down in the conference center, and I looked for people and I asked them,
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can I do my speech for you? And you know what, I
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didn't want to. In fact, I had stayed with my sister and I
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did it for her and she says to me, well, when you do
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it, you might have a little bit more enthusiasm. I thought, this
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is not a good start. And so I found some people and I did
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it, and I messed up just a little bit, but I thought I
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did it, and so I ended up probably went around about ten different people
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and I say, can I do my speech for you? I mean,
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I was so determined. And then on the day, you know what it's
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like on that day, you don't know if your name's going to be called
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or not. And they called they called ten people up. So I sat
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there and I wrote out my speech all day long. And you know,
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when Rodny got up there and announced the person, guess what, my name
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wasn't called and I was and I just my heart sunk. But you know
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what, a couple minutes later, he said, you know what, I
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have somebody else that I want to come up on the stage and he announced
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my name and I was in the very back and I just was like,
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I mean, I just was like wow. And all the way up to
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the stage, I was saying my speech. So you know, it's thank
29:30
goodness it's recorded, because I mean, anybody can go to my YouTube channel
29:33
and they can watch me do the speech that I did, because my speech
29:37
was about messing up the first two times and so so you know, that
29:44
was that was a huge dream for me. And because I didn't give up.
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Give up. You have no idea, the amount of confidence that was
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built on the inside of me for doing that and speaking in front of three
29:57
thousand people, So yeah, it was it was. It was huge to
30:03
be able to do that, and so it prepared me for six months later
30:08
when I was going to be speaking before Nick Voygic in an arena to fifteen
30:14
thousand kids. And so I truly believe what you're doing today is always preparing
30:19
you for what you're going to do tomorrow. And absolutely don't give up on
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your dreams, no matter how small or how big they are. I love
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that. I was just writing as you were talking, like not once,
30:33
not twice, but three times. Yeah, self talk and just getting up
30:40
there and having the courage present yourself again and again and again. And I
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do know what that process is like. So I'm reading it with you.
30:49
Congratulations. I love the image of rocking because at the end, I'm just
30:52
imagining your hand just umping that you know, big b that he does right.
30:57
Well. Well, what's funny is after the speech I did jump up
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and down so and then Roddy says finally, so, yeah, you'll have
31:08
to go on YouTube and watch watch my John Maxwell stage speech. Congratulations.
31:15
I noticed that that story is such a powerful story because so many times we
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have a dream and a lot of us don't get started, right, but
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those who do, it's not like an overnight, instant thing. You have
31:29
to really really work hard and stay in there and you know, stay committed.
31:34
So congratulations, Deasy, well, thank you. And you know,
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from the first time that I went until I finally did it, I think
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it was a total of four years. Oh my wow. Yeah, But
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as you said, you know, that was equipping you unbeknownst to you at
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the time, but that was eclipping you for an even bigger audience and bigger
31:56
platform. And you know, how cool is it to talk to fifteen thousand
32:00
kids with Nick voyaging, right right? Yeah, right, yeah, that's
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that's that's just astounding. Thank you, thank you, thank you. So
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tell me, I know that you have done so many very cool things in
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your in your career as an entertainer, as a seeker, as a clown.
32:21
And how has this pandemic shaped or influenced or impacted your career. Well,
32:29
it's some impact, actually impacted it in a huge way. Because my
32:34
last speaking event was March sixth, and in March and April through the summer,
32:42
I had a record number of speaking events. I mean I was blown
32:45
away by how many I was booked. And it was like overnight, I
32:51
mean it seemed like overnight they were all canceled and I started getting the calls,
32:58
getting the emails to the point where or literally everything was canceled and until
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I think this week will be my first speaking event that I will be live,
33:08
which I'm just so excited. They have no idea the amount of energy
33:12
that I'm gonna be bringing to them. But but yeah, it and so
33:17
you know, it gave me a huge perspective because of the way I'm paid
33:23
through my corporation, I was not able to get even unemployment, and so
33:28
it gave me a different perspective on what happens when you have no money coming
33:32
in. And my husband and I also own a business in the in one
33:37
in our local mall, and for two months the mall was closed, but
33:42
we still had to pay a huge rent, internet insurance and all that,
33:45
and and there was a couple of times I literally got in my car to
33:50
take it to the car dealership and say, I have to give my car
33:52
back, and so it was so I have I have a new perspective of
34:00
on being on the side of having really serious financial needs and how you're going
34:09
to adapt and deal with that. And so with a couple of the things
34:14
that I did, because I hate to waste time, and especially since I
34:19
wasn't working, I spent a lot of time. My YouTube channel was stress
34:22
Busters, so I did a lot of those. And then I wrote my
34:25
second book, which is ironically about stress. So it's called give Me some
34:30
Chocolate, I'm Stressed, and it's from a faith perspective, so it's faith
34:38
filled strategies on how to refuel, recharge, and redo stress. So it'll
34:42
be published in January. But I also had an opportunity because I needed to
34:47
work my mother lesser heart, I had the opportunity to help her fulfill one
34:53
of her dreams. And that's seventy nine years old. My mother decides to
34:58
open a restaurant COVID. So I just decided I was going to go all
35:04
in and help her and get this going. And it's it's opened and it's
35:09
going well. And and now with speaking of events that are going to be
35:15
starting actually this week, you know, I'll be winning myself out of that.
35:19
But I've been able to spend time with my mom and be a blessing
35:22
to her. So yeah, it's been it's been a very interesting year for
35:27
all of us, yes, ma'am indeed, and it sounds like you are
35:30
learning a lot. And I'm just praying for you that you will have those
35:37
seeking engagements that were canceled earlier. Just you know that your cavendar discontinues to
35:43
fill for the rest of this year and beyond. Desi, thank you,
35:47
and so I just want to thank you again for joining us today. Desi,
35:52
you are positively amazing. I love just the breath of your background,
35:59
love your passion. I'd love that you're a woman of faith, and just
36:04
thank you so much for never never giving up on your dreams. Thank you
36:07
so much, Gloria, all right, thank you, thank you so inspiring.
36:15
Clearly, Desie is an amazing leader. She makes a difference in her
36:21
own life and in the lives of so many others in her family, her
36:24
community, and throughout the world in her work as the stress Less Coach.
36:31
To learn more about Desi's work, you can go to her website and that's
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www. Dot Desi Paine and that's d s I p A y n E.
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Www. Dot Dezi Payne dot com. Okay again, I'm gonna spell
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it for you because I know we have listeners all over the world and I
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want you to be sure to get this. It's www dot Desi Paine d
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E s I p A y n e dot com. You can also check
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out Desi's books and I love these titles. Do you Work for the Living
37:13
Dead? Right? And another title is give me some Chocolate I'm stressed.
37:22
Now. Be sure to connect with Desi directly as well. You can do
37:25
that by going to her YouTube channel, which is called stress Busters. Very
37:32
very cool. Okay, if you're just joining us, I'm doctor Gloria and
37:39
this is Legacy Living Make your Life Count. We just heard from my very
37:45
special guest, Desie Pain, motivational humor speaker, trainer, leader, author,
37:52
and fabulous John Maxwell team member. If you want to make your life
38:01
count, if you want to be the change you seek, be sure to
38:06
listen to this show again and again. And hey, be sure to tell
38:12
somebody right, tell your friends, your family, your coworkers. All right.
38:17
You can find me right here on iTunes, Audible, Alexa, SoundCloud,
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many other places. Be sure to tune in again next time. Now,
38:37
before I close, I just want to give a shout out to all the
38:40
women, men and our young people all around the world, because you know
38:44
what, we are the ones. We are the ones we have been waiting
38:50
for. What do I mean by that? Here's what I mean. Don't
38:55
wait, Do not wait for somebody else to stay step up to make things
39:00
happen in your life, because you know what, they might not step up.
39:06
In fact, they might not even know you're waiting for them right to
39:09
do something. But you can be the one. Can I just tell you
39:14
something. You are the one. You are that person in charge of you.
39:20
You are the one who can make a difference in your own life so
39:23
that you can model and make a difference in the lives of people in your
39:28
life. Your sister, your brother, your mom, your dad, your
39:31
auntie, your uncle, your teacher, your boss. You are the one.
39:38
You know something. It is truly amazing how much impact we have as
39:45
leaders in the workplace, in our communities and in our own family, especially
39:52
in our family. That's where it all begins, right, Leading begins exactly
39:58
where you are. You your spouse, with your own children, right in
40:02
your own kitchen, around the dinner table, helping out with homework, when
40:07
you go to church, or when you go out shopping. So, moms
40:12
and dads, even when you think that your son or your daughter isn't paying
40:16
any attention at all, let me tell you something. They are. They
40:22
are listening, they're soaking it in, and more than anything else, they
40:28
are watching you. Because, you know what, more than anything else we
40:35
can do, we can demonstrate our leadership right. And leadership is caught,
40:42
not taught. That's right, leadership is caught, not taught. Now,
40:47
let me be really clear. Your children are scoping you out. They observe
40:53
everything you are, and everything you say and everything you do. Most importantly,
41:01
know that they are watching you to see if what you say and what
41:07
you do match up. Now, our actions really do speak much much louder
41:14
than our words. A good friend of mine who's a former CEO always says,
41:20
as a parent or as a leader, in any context, your walk
41:24
has got to talk louder than your talk talks. Let me repeat that.
41:30
She says, your walk has got to talk louder than your talk talks.
41:37
Why is that? Because that's how we build the bridge called trust. That's
41:45
how we strengthen our bond with those we love. That's how we deepen our
41:50
relationships one step at a time, inch by inch, mile by mile,
41:57
and smile by smile at home, at work, and in any area of
42:01
our life, every single day. Three sixty five, twenty four to seven.
42:08
So how is your walk lining up with your talk? You know what?
42:15
It is never too late to get your walk and your talk synced up,
42:20
to get your act together, so to speak, right, so you
42:22
can take it on the road. So don't beat yourself up if you kind
42:27
of had a misstep here and there right with your walk and your talk.
42:30
Okay, It's never too late to get it together and put it on the
42:36
road so that you can make the difference in someone else's life that only you
42:42
can make. Remember this, how you live is how you lead. Now,
42:51
if you happen to miss any part of this week's episode or last week's,
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44:51
again, before I close, I just want to thank each of you for
44:54
tuning in for allowing me to share a bit about my journey with what leg
45:00
Yes living is all about, not just living and learning, but living and
45:05
learning and serving so that you make a difference in your own life and in
45:12
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45:19
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45:34
I'm your host, doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, and this is Legacy Living.
45:40
Make your life count. Join me again next time right here for another
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45:57
in your life, Make the day in your life count. That's what legacy
46:02
living is all about. Have a fantastic day and remember, make the days
46:12
in your life count. God bless you. That's our show today. I'm
46:30
your host, doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess. I hope you'll join me again next
46:37
time. Until then, don't just count the days in your life, Make
46:43
the days in your life count. That's what legacy living is all about.
46:49
Here's to you have a fantastic day and be sure to make it a yes
46:54
kind of day. Remember to celebrate the music of your life. Make the
47:04
days in your life count