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The Hard Things About Doing Hard Things Success Doesn't Get Easier. You Get Wiser & Stronger. · The Black Sheep Leadership Podcast

• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Black Sheep Leadership Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Athena Renee, your host, and this is where the underdogs, the misfits, and the black sheets come to turn pain into power so that they can build a lifebout design and leave a legacy behind.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: Now, if this is your first time tapping in, welcome in, fam.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pull up a chair.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: We're glad you're here.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're back again, welcome back, fam.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's good to see you again.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for trusting me with your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't take that lightly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, let's do this quick vibe check.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're easily offended, sensitive, entitled, waiting on somebody to come save you, or allergic to accountability, get your ass up out of here.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can go ahead and tap out now.
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  SPEAKER_00: This ain't your safe space.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you're ready to think bigger, move smarter, and refuse to live beneath your potential, you don't care who out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stay locked in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because by the end of this episode, you're gonna walk away with some information that you can execute immediately.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get to work, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today's briefing is all about the hard thing, the hard things about doing hard things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this one right here is just really so deep, and I'm gonna repeat it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The hard things about doing hard things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Y'all pull up, y'all chair, get y'all something to drink.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, we gotta dive into this one right here.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: See, listen, if you've been following this, um, if you've been following up this season, you already know we're building a new way of thinking, right?
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: This is not just motivation, this is not just inspiration, this is a whole operating system, okay?
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: It's the black sheep operating system, and today's brief falls under the execution phase, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because on around these parts, execution answers one question What's my next move?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because knowing without doing, talking without walking, it changes nothing, it's a waste of time, all right.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: Now, last week we talked about the invisible prison.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, if you want to check that out, here's the link.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the links in the description box, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: But we discovered some of the biggest limitations in life aren't physical, they're mental.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the kicker with that, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Please understand you want to observe yourself first, obviously, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you must master yourself before you go out here trying to master everything else.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: But so you want to make sure you're observing the mindsets that you have about certain topics, but also the people you're around.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: Oh man, for the last two days, it's crazy, y'all, because I'm giving you guys these messages, and God is just giving me the lessons to bless y'all with the with the episode.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: This is fresh off the press, like this ain't theory, and um, so it's like, man, I'm telling you guys um these mindsets right now.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: If you on this podcast, I already know you want ascension, you want leveling up because that's all I'm about.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: That's all I'm gonna talk about.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're trying to be comfortable, like I said, if you ain't on that, you can get on up out of here, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But I know you're here, so I know that's what you're about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I need you to understand is if you're about ascension, growth, and leveling up, man, you gotta have the right energy around you, you got to have the right energy around you, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you gotta start making the moves.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like two E's, execution and energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so serious, okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so last week we talked about the mindsets, and people have, I said the energy part because people have negative mindsets, or you have people that have a limited belief, and limited belief is not necessarily just oh, I can't do that because I'm from here, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not that it's a part of that, but one of the biggest ones also is how people will come in your life and try to set the ceiling for you, they'll set limits for you just because that's not how they see you, and it turns into envy, it becomes a big problem when you don't go ahead and you start to notice it's like wait a minute, now they get to a place where you're trying to you steady growing, it ain't no trying, you growing, and they just try to find any and everything and nitpick about what you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, this is why it is important for you to keep the right type of energy around you for the growth for the person you want to be in the future, it don't matter what it is, it don't matter what it is, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, you always want to be asking yourself what's your next move because knowing without doing anything, y'all, is nothing and energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you get some energy or people around you that taint your confidence, you start to slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, I want you to make sure you are looking out for these different mindsets, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: We we talked about how you can inherit it the thinking and everything, but can I tell you something that's even more important?
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't even want to say it's more important, but it is it is very uh what's the word that I'm looking for?
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  SPEAKER_00: It is you must know this, okay.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: This is just something that you got to understand, okay.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'll think of the word later, and this is about doing the hard things when it's time to do those hard things when we always talk about standing on business and stuff, it does not get easier to do.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, doing the hard things never get easier, but what does change is is you change, you change, you become stronger, and you become wiser.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do I know this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if a person isn't steady doing the same thing, we know we call that insanity, but that also means you're not growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I used to believe that one day discipline will feel natural.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it does something, it don't feel natural, but I'm gonna say you get into that wrong routine and you lock in, it's like, okay, this is what I'm supposed to be doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even courage, sometimes you feel like, oh, courage will feel comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's I if because if it's courage, that means if you need to apply courage to something, that means you're doing something that pushes you out of your comfort zone, and it's gonna make you feel a certain type of way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you have to put that extra energy in and say, you know what, I'm gonna do it anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm scared, but I'm it's important enough for me to do it anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: That don't ever feel comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: You might just get it, you might become wiser at it where you say, you know what, I understand now that fortune favors the bold, no risk, no reward, so I might as well go for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: You become wiser, and difficult conversations will become easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Y'all, they don't ever get easier, those darn conversations, they don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you just gotta become someone who's willing to do them anyway, and I think that's where a lot of people get frustrated, like as far as being successful.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever success is to you, you can start just want to make$70,000 a year, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: But I believe that's where people get frustrated and they quit, they stop doing what they're doing, and it's not because they're incapable, they're highly, they're very intelligent.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's just that they assumed that if it still feels hard, if all this crazy stuff is coming at me, they must be doing something wrong.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_00: But no, no, my friend, you're probably doing something right.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: See, one of the biggest lies we've been sold is if I can just get through this season, life will finally get easier.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I just make it, don't get me wrong, sometimes you want to get to a milestone and you can simply get a breather.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't get the breather twisted with the getting easier, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: When you get your driver's license, did life get easier?
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  SPEAKER_00: You may have first thought it was oh, I get to I get to move around myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I ain't got nobody gotta tell me nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: You probably got a possibly got a car note, insurance, maintenance, responsibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: What about when you decide to level up in your career?
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did life get easier?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe in a department of your life, but overall, no.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: You now you got responsible for more people, more pressure, more expectations.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: This is why I always tell people don't become a leader or a manager if you don't love people.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: Because a manager or a leader, you want to see other people succeed.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: It don't matter on what level it is, you want to see other people succeed so that you can reach the objective of the department for the company, right?
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: So, no, it does not get easier.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: But like I said, a lot of people they just get in it for the title or for extra money, and then they realize problems just change, problems just leveled up.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you must understand that success, the level of does not eliminate problems, they upgrade them.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: And this is why a lot of people like to refer to the folks that's getting all the money, they are master problem solvers, they are master problem solvers.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: See, new levels, some people like to say new levels equals new devils, and that is so true because it's another level now, right?
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_00: But the prize you get for beating any level of any game, anything, let's say if you look at everything as a game, life is a game, right?
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: So everything is a game.
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  SPEAKER_00: The price you get for beating any level of any game is the next level, which is always harder, more complicated, right?
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: Life is similar to that, and that's why today's briefing falls under execute, because execution isn't about waiting until something feels comfortable, it's about choosing the right action, even when it's uncomfortable.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, y'all, I'm telling you, because listen, once you get your flow, once you get your flow and doing like your routine and doing the things you're doing, and you feeling good, and you flying high.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, think about you not having a conversation with one of your friends that just talk real small, real stupid.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: You've been knowing them from way back in the day, you've been knowing them for a while, and they're cool, but they the type of person that'll come sprinkle a little salt in the game.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you don't know what that is, they just come be a little bitter, a little negative.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know how you smell that vinegar, they come give you like what?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then it'll plant seeds of doubt.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, if you would have had the conversation, if you would have done the hard thing, and the hard thing don't even be that you have to have a conversation.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you just disappear from people's life, sometimes you just holler at them around the holiday season.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: Baby, let's do a Zoom call, sing some songs, and keep it moving.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you gotta play people like that, you know.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, my friend, when you keep seeing the signs that you need to cut their ass out your life, you need to pull out the sword like a samurai and get the ass up out of there because it's not going to do anything except delay what you're doing.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, and here's the crazy thing about doing the harder things we procrastinate them until sometimes or we try to avoid them, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's a hard thing.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's I get it, right?
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: We all do this, so we avoid doing the hard thing, but then we end up having to do it anyway.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: You got you end up doing it anyway, and guess what else?
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: You end up doing it anyway, and then because you didn't do it in advance, it's a good chance you'll be forced to do it, and now you're gonna add some tax to it.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: And that tax could be in hurt feelings, an argument, a blowout, a crash out.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: Something that's just completely off the Richter.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: But if you would have gone ahead and did that hard thing, guess what?
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: It wouldn't even be nothing to discuss.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: See, some people they'll spend years waiting until they're confident, confident enough, ready enough, motivated enough, pissed off enough, certain enough.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the truth action creates confidence.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_00: Confidence rarely creates action.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: Did y'all get that?
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: Confidence rarely creates action.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: Don't believe me.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever met a person that got all the mouth and they're very confident?
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: And you be like, and you meet them and they ain't doing nothing.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: You be like, Why you ain't doing nothing?
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_00: You you know they're one of those people that is a black sheep, you over there cheering them on, man.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: I know they're gonna do something, and they're not doing nothing.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: Because confidence does not create action.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: Confidence is almost like mouthpiece, it's just it's an energy, it's a way they move, they confident in themselves, but they really not because if you're not gonna act on it, you scared.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_00: You understand?
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: So confidence says, I'm gonna do it, and it might not be everything, but it the whole thing is I'm good in my position.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_00: Whether I'm gonna do it is really a real confidence, is I'm doing it because I want to do it because I know it'll level me up.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: Whether I fail or not, I'm really not gonna fail, I'm gonna learn, right?
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what real confidence is.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: But you get some people they flex, like confidence is being cocky and talking real good, but never doing nothing because they want to quote unquote judge everybody else, baby.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not confidence.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_00: You scary, baby.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: You scary, you just talking too much.
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's all you just wasting time.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_00: That's what we call that.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: So let's get into the four hard things I I want to leave you with.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because when I tell you doing the hard things, y'all, this one right here just cost me within the last two, three weeks.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's no monetary value that I can put on it.
• 13:33
  SPEAKER_00: I was gonna try to put it on the monetary value, but I'll give you the paint a meter scale one to ten, definitely an eight.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely an eight.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: And it's just crazy.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what, y'all?
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta take it because if I would have done the hard thing, and let's talk about these four.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, having the conversations you've been avoiding, having the conversation you've been with.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, y'all, listen, listen to me very carefully as a black sheep.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: Black sheep family.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: If you uh resonate with being a misfit underdog, listen, y'all, we root for so many people, and a lot of times you mess around and find out that ain't nobody really rooting for you, they're actually competing with you or they don't really believe in you.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong, you got your golden, you got your real deal supporters, but they come far few in between.
• 14:22
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, the other people gonna fall in that category.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: And so if you see yourself and you decide, man, I'm about to get up off this level, man.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm about to go, I got to do something better with what I got going on, and you know who you are as a person.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're the type of person that you already scared that you're doing and you're doing it anyway, and you know for a fact if somebody comes with some bad news, it's gonna throw you off, and you ain't gonna want to do it no more.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_00: If you know that's you, then you may need to have a conversation with somebody and just hey, tell them, hey, I'm about to go off the radar for about six months.
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, it just depends on what it is having that hard conversation with our relationships.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: No more people pleasing black sheep, even with our mates.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: Let me tell you guys something too.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: The way you train people how to treat you by what you allow, everything that you allow, you're training people how to treat you.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: Some of you need to have the hard conversation and let folks know.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, hey, I know I was doing that a while back, but I'm just serving notice.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_00: That's a done deal.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: And don't get me wrong, some people just do it.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: But I like to at least give a person, like you know, when in in in relationship and stuff and communicate because people do get accustomed, and it is our fault, right?
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: But that's okay, it's a new day, and that's why you gotta go ahead and have those hard conversations you've been avoiding.
• 15:44
  SPEAKER_00: Ain't no letting nothing build up, ain't no letting nothing slide.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: No more black sheep family, they don't want you to win.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: What I found out this past weekend is that even though I have the loyalty like Spike Lee did to the New York Knicks, it's people in your life, and unfortunately, it'd be people that you've been knowing for a while, they don't want you to win, they don't want you to get a ring, they don't want you to level up.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: Here's the other pathetic part they probably got more than you, but because they see what's in you, they don't want you to win.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: Don't forget that.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: So have those conversations.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_00: Number three, number two, hard thing.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, walking away from environments you've already outgrown, people, places, and things.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, man, you gotta walk off like the Migos used to do in them interviews.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta just walk off on people, man.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: People be talking all stupid, man.
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_00: You ain't listen.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: No, don't even engage, you don't even have no energy for that.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: You got a lot of energy left, black sheep.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_00: You got a lot of energy, but not for that crap, not for that low vibration stuff.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Check this out, and this is what's gonna make it real easy for you.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: If you encounter people, places, or things, but specifically people, and if they throw your past in your face in any way, shape, or form that's negative and trying to like humble you.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: That's confirmation, that's where they belong.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: That is all the confirmation you need to leave their ass in the past because that's where they belong.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be able to do the hard thing of walking away, y'all.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: Think about a plant.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: We're all seeds.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all hear me talk about this all the time.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: We're all seeds.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: Think about a plant, think about a tree.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: You starting off as a seed, the way you grow is also in the environment, it's also a factor.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: It's also a factor.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: And if you already in a spot where you like you kind of feel like your growth could definitely be a little stunning, but you still maxing it out, you absolutely cannot have any their other extras trying to damn your light.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: No, you already got stuff stacked up against you.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: Why would you let people come in and spit more salt and venom and people, places, and things to take you down to a low vibration?
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_00: Hell to the gnar.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: Walk away from those environments.
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: When they say you acting funny, I am.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_00: Is there a problem?
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: Shit.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: Game over for all that nice stuff, y'all.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: Game over.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_00: I ain't saying to be mean and rude.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's enough of those dirtbags out here.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: But game over, y'all.
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_00: We out here like a marine, like salt life.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is this is uh Navy SEALs, ranger ops, delta team six.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, number three, doing today's work even when tomorrow's reward isn't visible.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_00: Y'all, this one right here is so deep because I'm actually definitely digging my uh my heels into this.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: Doing today's work even when tomorrow's reward isn't visible, and I know it is so much easier said than done.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: It is, but listen, y'all, it's the hard thing, and it's time now to go ahead and dig in and really just I'm talking about go hard in the paint.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: And what's so cool is we're at the top of August, we're not even in August yet, right?
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: We're heading into August, and this is just a perfect block of time to transform your life, and we can do it together, okay, y'all.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_00: Don't forget we got our um Facebook group and everything.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna transform it together.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: But I want you to start off with doing these things.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: See if you do these things in the group, we're doing them all together.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: But when you come to the group, you already ahead start with the transformation.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_00: You just come and get watered, you come charge up.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: See the thing with black sheep, is we're charging everybody else up, and these motherfuckers ain't nothing but some damn energy vampires, cheap ass.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so doing today's work even when tomorrow's reward isn't visible.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: Ugh.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm gonna challenge you because I'm challenging myself.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: And listen, y'all, we're about to turn it up.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about I want you to turn it up like it's guaranteed something's waiting on you in the end, and it is, it's a new you, but I want you to get the inspirational, I want you to think how they say put a carrot in the front.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to really, I'm talking about, I'm really thinking about tapping into a philosophy where they where they talk about getting your revenge body and all those different things, you know, different motivational factors and stuff like that.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: I do like to do that because I do I kind of tap into different psyches, like when I was getting a couple tattoos, I'm not into that anymore, but I would tap into different psyches to take the pain because that doesn't feel good.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_00: I know it's a lot of tattoo lunatics out there, but tattoos do not feel good, okay.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: So, and I don't even have a light like that, but I'm just saying in general, I had to tap into another psyche to take the pain, and so with working out sometimes, like let's say, for instance, if you're jogging, I've done this too when I'm working out.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: When I get past, let's say 45 minutes on the treadmill and I'm running, and I want to just go to an hour, and I haven't done it in a while, but I just want to zone out, I zone out, I go into another psyche.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I'll just close my eyes, especially if I'm on an um elliptical, I'll close my eyes and just zone out, and you just do it, you just do it, and by the time you blink back in, boom, you look at that, you only got like five, six minutes left.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_00: You understand?
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_00: So sometimes that works, but I'm just challenging you.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm challenging myself, y'all.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what it is in your life.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to pick one thing that you really want to transform.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: And listen, let's what we're gonna do is let's pick one thing that we really want to transform, and we're gonna we're gonna continue to talk about this challenge and stuff like that, but we're gonna post pictures and updates right before the holiday season.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think that would really be good for us because even if you say you had a weight loss, uh, let's just say for the weight loss, mine is really to kind of shape up more, okay?
• 21:22
  SPEAKER_00: And around the holiday season, even if you decide to eat, it's not like you're gonna have all these huge crazy gains because you just went crazy dumb hard for five five months or so, right?
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: And we're not letting up, y'all.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_00: We're not letting up.
• 21:37
  SPEAKER_00: We're not letting up.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: Black sheep, it's time to rise up, okay?
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: So that's number three doing today's work even when tomorrow's reward is invisible.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, y'all, it's a lot of people that wouldn't want you to make it.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to fucking stun on their ass.
• 21:49
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to make them sick to the stomach that they doubted you when they see you.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: I want them to get that nauseous feeling because they know they doubted you, and you Even gotta say nothing.
• 22:01
  SPEAKER_00: You can just be as kind and as lovely as all out, right?
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: But you want to make them sick to the stomach that they doubted you, hurt their feelings, and you ain't do nothing but come in the room smelling good.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: Number four.
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: Here's this one right here is major, guys.
• 22:17
  SPEAKER_00: Being misunderstood while building the life you know you're supposed to build.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: The hard things about doing you have to be able to be misunderstood while you're building the life you know you deserve.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_00: You're not going to go, you're not gonna go out without living up to your full potential.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_00: You refuse to sign up for the cookie-cutter lifestyle that whomever wants to assign you.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: You refuse to do it.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: You refuse.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_00: And so what you must understand is you're going to be misunderstood.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_00: You're going to be misunderstood.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be people that don't want to understand you anyway.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: They just don't want to see you doing it because while you steady doing it and they see you showing up, it's putting pressure on them.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_00: You know why?
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: You ain't even studying their ass, but they've been competing and comparing with you the whole time.
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_00: So now they see you steady making moves, you ain't stopped yet, right?
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because they thought they knew you, they had you figured out, but they figured wrong.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: And so every time you level up, they like what you got that whole mirror on them.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_00: You ain't even studding them.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: You this is what you must understand.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_00: Being misunderstood is a part of it.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: That's the hard thing about the hard things.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_00: And do you know what that really means about being misunderstood?
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: The art of not giving a crap.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: Check that episode out in season one.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: The art of not giving a crap.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: Because black sheep family, these people was eating and they wouldn't even give you a crumb.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of them, they smudged in your face, knowing you've been solid, knowing you was around when they was building it up.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: When they got up, what you think they did?
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_00: They said it stuck.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_00: And good luck to you.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_00: Straight up.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: But this is what I want you to understand, guys, because you got to become a savage about your your mission, your core values.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: This is why it's good to understand and figure these things out.
• 24:09
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you it's just like Michael Max says if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.
• 24:15
  SPEAKER_00: A person that stands for nothing, what are your core values?
• 24:21
  SPEAKER_00: What do you stand for?
• 24:23
  SPEAKER_00: That way, when people come to you with that low dust bucket type of vibe, you are like, no, that ain't for me.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: This ain't that.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: No thank you.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: And you can move around, you can position yourself somewhere else.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_00: It ain't even no arguments, you just don't identify with what they talk about.
• 24:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, but this is why you have to become a savage about it, and your core values allow you to do that because you're like, this is what I stand for.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: This is what I stand on.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'm standing on that, and it's easier, it makes it easier for you because you pick core values that, like, you know, it might be great education, um, uh income on a certain level to take care of your family.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 25:02
  SPEAKER_00: A safe environment.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you ain't gonna let nobody run up in your crib, right?
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_00: That's something your core values like you stand on there, like what?
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_00: I don't give a damn who outside, right?
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: So think about your core values so that you don't give a crap about being misunderstood.
• 25:14
  SPEAKER_00: But here is something that I really want you to remember, and this is going to help you.
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: Because a lot of times we need these different types of statements to be able to power us up.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about games and stuff, a gamer.
• 25:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know how to get that pellet, man, get powered up.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: I used to love that part of the game, but check this out until people's opinions equals deposit in the bank, 99.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_00: 99.9% of the time, fuck what they think.
• 25:39
  SPEAKER_00: Fudge what they think until their opinions equal deposits in the bank, fudge what they think.
• 25:47
  SPEAKER_00: Now I say 99.9% of the time because I'm that person that always wants to try to squeeze a little wisdom out of something, because I truly believe that the creator is always gonna give you some wisdom in something, right?
• 25:57
  SPEAKER_00: And he will use a dumb ass to give you wisdom, he really will.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I still because I'm not arrogant, I'm not prideful, because I understand we'll learn until we die.
• 26:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna give it that one, that one, that sliver, but for the most part, guys, fuck they opinions.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_00: Half of the people that we're that's gonna be talking, they never did nothing for you.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_00: See, even if you put it into two buckets, opinions of people that's actually supporting me that I know love me, that's solid with me for sure, and motherfuckers that ain't did nothing but got opinions.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_00: I bet you any amount of money today that that bucket with the people that was talking trash and they never did nothing, I bet you it's bigger than the other one.
• 26:34
  SPEAKER_00: I bet you.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_00: So that's why I say, Man, ask what they think.
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_00: Man, listen, you gotta stand on that.
• 26:39
  SPEAKER_00: And listen, it gets even if it sounds cool, but guess what?
• 26:43
  SPEAKER_00: It gets even to the point where you got, let's say, for instance, okay, as a black sheep underdog, you might fit a statistic.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: Who knows?
• 26:51
  SPEAKER_00: But you're gonna always have somebody from some other race, country, place, your neighborhood.
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_00: You know, the black, you I mean, not as a black sheep, you know you get it crap from your hood first.
• 26:59
  SPEAKER_00: And what I mean by hood, I'm talking about whoever your people, your community first, right?
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: They're the first ones to be a-holes towards you.
• 27:05
  SPEAKER_00: So this is like when you go out in the world and everybody else got something you say, you like, oh shh, crap off, right?
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: F off.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_00: At the same time, it's like, who you supposed to be?
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_00: Who you supposed to be?
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_00: So when you think of it on that level, how many people that's gonna be coming to you telling what you can and cannot do, and all of their little stereotypes and all their stupid stuff that people do.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: Remember in your mind, until your opinions equals deposits in the bank, fuck what they think, and you go right on and have you a good day.
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna walk right off and have you a beautiful day because you know they all mouth.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, see, here's where the black sheep, y'all, we gotta be different.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_00: We gotta stop asking when will this get easier?
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: And instead, ask yourself, who do I need to become?
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, y'all, y'all ask yourself, who do you need to become?
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to close your eyes.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_00: This might be crazy.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, not crazy, but you might think this is like, what is this weirdo stuff, right?
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_00: But I just want you to think about if you can.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_00: Think about how Iron Man, how Tony Stark went through everything.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_00: You know, he had the little heart and everything, and even him as a actual man, I don't know why I can't think of his name because I really love that guy.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_00: He's really cool, but he made an awesome comeback.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: But just think about Iron Man, how Iron Man goes into his shell, boom.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, who do I need to become?
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_00: Who do you need to become?
• 28:32
  SPEAKER_00: Or you can even think about Bruce Wayne and Batman.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I love the superheroes, right?
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, who do I need to become?
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not all I'm not saying you gotta go and get your alter ego, but a lot of people do do that.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: But my mind, my thing is, who do you need to become?
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_00: It could just be an avatar of the type of person that you need to become, and you just have those traits.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: You don't even have to have a different name.
• 28:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you guys something though.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm about to go so stupid hard.
• 28:57
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just in my mind, I'm just really putting together, y'all.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_00: I almost can imagine like Transformers or like Iron Man, um, how they had the different pieces on the wall and/or or the um electrical board or whatever, and you just moving different tiles around and stuff because it's so many, it's so much information out here, and so many different tactics that you can use to go F and hard.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_00: It's all about how you want to execute.
• 29:18
  SPEAKER_00: My whole thing is I just want you to make sure you're moving, make sure you move, don't sit around and be still.
• 29:23
  SPEAKER_00: F with these people, F and think.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: Because you gotta lock in and you gotta ask yourself, who do I need to become?
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_00: Because every difficult decision is developing someone you will need later.
• 29:34
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna always use that what you learn.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_00: Life doesn't get easier, it gives you a different set of things going on, right?
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_00: Being broke is hard, but building wealth is hard, being unhealthy is hard, but getting healthy is hard.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_00: Working from someone is hard, but running your own business is hard.
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_00: Being single is hard, building a healthy relationship is hard.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_00: No matter what path you choose, there will be difficult moments.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_00: So there's no point in asking, um, how do I avoid hard?
• 30:02
  SPEAKER_00: So, family, like I was saying, no matter what path you choose, there's gonna be difficult moments.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_00: So, forget about thinking, how do I avoid hard?
• 30:12
  SPEAKER_00: That's the wrong question.
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: The bossed up level up question is which heart is worth it?
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: Is it worth it?
• 30:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because you don't get to avoid difficulty, that's just part of the game of life.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: You get to choose your heart, and the life you've been praying for is usually hiding behind the heart you've been avoiding.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, let me say it again for the people in the back.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: The life you've been praying for, been begging for, been wanting, is usually hiding behind the heart you've been avoiding, and that's what execution really is.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_00: Not waiting until something feels comfortable, feels right, not waiting until fear disappears, or you feel completely ready.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody's ever completely ready.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: Execution is choosing the hard that moves your life forward instead of accepting the hard that keeps your life exactly where it is.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I want you to write down one hard thing you've been postponing and do it within 48 hours.
• 31:19
  SPEAKER_00: Go ahead and get it done.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: That way you can say, you know what, I did it.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, y'all.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_00: So after this crazy ass weekend or this lesson that I just learned from what I'm telling y'all about the hard things about doing the hard things because I had postponed on doing the hard thing and I paid for it.
• 31:33
  SPEAKER_00: Well, guess what?
• 31:34
  SPEAKER_00: When I got back from Jacksonville, I said, Oh, you gotta do it.
• 31:39
  SPEAKER_00: Go ahead and do it.
• 31:40
  SPEAKER_00: And so I was ready to go ahead and pull the trigger right away.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_00: But I said, Um, because I know I'm quick to act, I said, Let me just calm down and let me just think things through.
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_00: But in my spirit, yo, it was like, no, this is why you're here right now, because you didn't do the hard thing before now, y'all.
• 31:59
  SPEAKER_00: And so I went ahead and took them steps and I did it within the 48 hours.
• 32:02
  SPEAKER_00: And when I tell you guys, I felt so much better.
• 32:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, for sure, it was hard, but sometimes in life you got to choose the one that's worth it.
• 32:10
  SPEAKER_00: In this particular time, it was about respect to me, right?
• 32:13
  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm at a point in my life where I'd rather you be a real enemy than a fake friend.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm cool with that, I am absolutely good with that.
• 32:21
  SPEAKER_00: But we're not gonna be on some borderline where I want to speak negative, speak soft, you know what I'm saying, do shy type of things, and then act like you, my friend.
• 32:30
  SPEAKER_00: No, I don't think so.
• 32:31
  SPEAKER_00: We're not playing that dumb game, it's not even that serious.
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_00: But when I tell you guys, here's another one, I felt so much lighter.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: I felt like I had lost 10 pounds.
• 32:38
  SPEAKER_00: That's crazy, and it was all wrapped around me just ending a friendship with a person.
• 32:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about the decision made me lose weight, but listen, this is another one.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_00: The weight of that negative ass snake energy had been lifted off my life because we met, we're at a point where there's no coming back.
• 32:57
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you get to that point of no return, there's no return from that.
• 33:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's certain things about life that you can do to people, places, and things, there's no coming back from it.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_00: There's no need of being fake about it, there's no coming back, and that's what that was.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel so much better.
• 33:11
  SPEAKER_00: Check this out.
• 33:12
  SPEAKER_00: Here's an action move number two.
• 33:13
  SPEAKER_00: Stop waiting to feel motivated, man.
• 33:15
  SPEAKER_00: Schedule it, schedule the action, then let motivation catch up to you, baby.
• 33:18
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you just gotta move on that thing when you know you should have been needed, especially once things like that, or when you just want to do it, just go ahead and do it.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: That's why Mikey's slogan is so important.
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_00: Just do it, seriously.
• 33:28
  SPEAKER_00: Don't even think about it.
• 33:30
  SPEAKER_00: Certain actions that you know you should have been and took, you've already done the research, just do it, just do it and let the motivation catch up.
• 33:37
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what's crazy?
• 33:39
  SPEAKER_00: Motivation always does.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_00: One thing about motivation will catch up.
• 33:43
  SPEAKER_00: You know how I know get on a treadmill and you don't really want to be bothered with a treadmill.
• 33:47
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, eh, I'm gonna just get on for 10-15 minutes.
• 33:49
  SPEAKER_00: I promise you, by the time that 10-15 minutes get up, you're gonna be gonna do an extra five minutes.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_00: Because motivation just caught up to you.
• 33:56
  SPEAKER_00: Motivation just caught up.
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: Action move number three.
• 34:00
  SPEAKER_00: Replace the question, why is it so hard?
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_00: And ask yourself, what is this difficulty preparing me for?
• 34:07
  SPEAKER_00: What is this prepping me for?
• 34:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing this hard thing.
• 34:10
  SPEAKER_00: What I'm about to have this hard conversation, I'm about to do this hard action.
• 34:14
  SPEAKER_00: What is this prepping me for?
• 34:16
  SPEAKER_00: See, mine was a final lesson about believing that when people show you who they are, believe them and leave them where they belong.
• 34:25
  SPEAKER_00: Now, when I meet people, I know where you belong.
• 34:28
  SPEAKER_00: There's no flexing and fronting like you belong somewhere where you don't.
• 34:32
  SPEAKER_00: It is what it is.
• 34:33
  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what is this thing that this difficult thing that you're doing?
• 34:36
  SPEAKER_00: What is it prepping you for?
• 34:38
  SPEAKER_00: See, comfort is expensive, but growth acts for the payment up front.
• 34:43
  SPEAKER_00: That's why people like to, that's why they cheap ass like comfort because they don't want to pay it up front.
• 34:48
  SPEAKER_00: Then they get mad at you because they flex like they was really the baller.
• 34:52
  SPEAKER_00: See, the baller, the boss mentality.
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_00: When I say baller, I mean boss too.
• 34:55
  SPEAKER_00: The boss mentality is gonna pay it up front.
• 34:57
  SPEAKER_00: They're gonna pay the cost to be the boss.
• 34:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's how you know what a real boss is.
• 35:01
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people they flexed, so when they see that they know you paid the cost, they get intimidated.
• 35:07
  SPEAKER_00: That's why they try to humble you and bring up your past, but that's why you got to leave their ass back there.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_00: See, this week's mission is simple.
• 35:12
  SPEAKER_00: Choose one difficult decision you've been delaying.
• 35:14
  SPEAKER_00: Don't overthink it, don't wait for the perfect timing, execute it because the goal isn't proving that you're fearless, the goal is proving that your fear doesn't get the final vote.
• 35:25
  SPEAKER_00: The people you admire, there aren't people who found an easier path.
• 35:28
  SPEAKER_00: They are simply the people who kept making difficult decisions, and long after everyone else stopped, they kept going because they know you get stronger.
• 35:38
  SPEAKER_00: Success don't get easier, you get wiser, and that's exactly who you're becoming.
• 35:45
  SPEAKER_00: Now, this mission starts the moment you hit the stop button.
• 35:49
  SPEAKER_00: But don't just hear today's lesson, run it, test it out, master it because knowledge without execution is nothing but entertainment.
• 35:59
  SPEAKER_00: Move with discipline, study the patterns, protect your energy and focus, and stay ready so you don't have to get ready until next time.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_00: Information is everywhere, but execution is rare.