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The Price You Have to Pay: What It Really Costs · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, realizing everyone is always learning and
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  living your full experience.
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  This is where we live out loud, on purpose, and with purpose.
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  I'm Coach C, your host, and this is Season 1, Episode 12, The Price You Have to Pay.
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  Let me take y'all somewhere for a second. My granny used to say this thing and
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  depending on her tone, you knew if it was funny or if she meant business.
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  She'd look at you, shake her head just a little and say, that's the price you gotta pay.
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  Now sometimes it came with a little chuckle and other times,
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  baby, it came with a lesson.
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  I remember hearing her say that in moments that didn't always look pretty.
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  Talking about my granddad, her husband of almost 50 years.
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  Love was there, but so was frustration. And she said it like she had already
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  made peace with something.
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  That's the price you gotta pay. Or when it came to my dad.
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  Now listen, I loved my dad, but let's be real.
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  He gave her some work. and again there she go that's the price you gotta pay,
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  At the time, I didn't fully get it. I thought she meant this is what I have
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  to put up with, but now I hear it differently.
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  What she was really saying was, everything you choose comes with a cost.
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  Not just the things you don't want, but the things you pray for too.
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  Let's talk about it. You want marriage? There's a price.
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  Motherhood? There's a price. Leadership, there's a price. Growth, there's a price.
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  Peace, yep, even that, there's a price. And here's where people get it twisted.
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  We love the promise, but we're not always prepared for the price tag.
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  Because nobody posts the hard conversations in a marriage, the sleepless nights
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  in motherhood, the discipline behind the glow up, the loneliness that comes with leveling up.
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  But granny knew, if you choose it, you accept what comes with it.
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  Now, let me be clear. This is not about tolerating dysfunction.
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  This is not about staying stuck in things that break you.
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  No, this is about understanding the cost of what you said you wanted.
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  Because some of y'all are asking for things, but when the price shows up,
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  you're trying to send it back like a package you didn't order.
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  Let me flip it. The price is not punishment.
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  The price is participation.
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  It's your contribution to the life you said you wanted. So the real question
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  isn't, why is this happening to me?
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  The real question is, am I willing to pay for what I ask for?
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  Because everything valuable costs something, time, energy, discipline, patience, growth.
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  And if you're not willing to pay the price, you don't really want the thing.
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  You just like the idea of it. Here's your fearless homework. Let's get honest.
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  Number one, identify what you've been asking for. Be specific.
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  Better body? Stronger relationship? More income? Peace of mind?
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  2. Identify the price attached. What does it actually require?
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  Consistency? Boundaries?
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  Sacrifice? Accountability? 3.
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  Check your willingness. Are you truly willing to pay for it?
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  Or are you just wishing for the outcome?
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  Number four, make one payment today. Do one thing that aligns with the price.
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  Have the hard conversation.
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  Show up for the workout.
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  Say no where you need to. Follow through.
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  My granny wasn't complaining. She was acknowledging. She understood something
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  a lot of us are still learning.
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  You next time life stretches you, don't panic. Don't fold.
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  Just pause and ask yourself, is this the price I said I was willing to pay?
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  And if the answer is yes, then stand in it.
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  Because on the other side of that price is the life you asked for.
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  This is real talk where we're realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.