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Payton's NEWLYWED Advice · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm a newlywed, right?
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  Speaker 2: And it has been so much fun. Like, we just
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  Speaker 2: passed our six-months mark. But, Rich, you know, you're still
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  Speaker 2: in that newlywed. You and Stace have been together for, like,
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  Speaker 2: a little over two and a half years. Kyle, like,
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  Speaker 2: a decade worth of love. John Jay, a couple of
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  Speaker 2: decades worth of love. Yeah, and so I actually have
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  Speaker 2: some weird pieces of marriage advice that low-key make sense.
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  Speaker 3: Weird marriage advice?
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  Speaker 2: Like, yeah, they're just a little bit different.
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  Speaker 1: It's not the don't go to bed angry stuff. It's
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  Speaker 1: other stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: It's the other stuff.
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  Speaker 3: If you go over it, we can discuss it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I'll see. Okay, go ahead.
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  Speaker 2: So number six is be afraid to lose each other.
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  Speaker 2: So compete over who can show more love and like
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  Speaker 2: not literally fear and competition, but the idea is to
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  Speaker 2: never get so comfortable that you stop making yourself feel
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  Speaker 2: wanted and appreciated. I know, Rich, you and Stacey are
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  Speaker 2: like that. adamant on your Friday night dates, which I.
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  Speaker 1: Think is awesome. If I didn't take her out, she'd
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  Speaker 1: probably go out with somebody else.
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  Speaker 3: Well, you're saying.
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  Speaker 3: You said something, but then you tied into going out.
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  Speaker 2: So be afraid to lose each other.
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  Speaker 1: Have that fear.
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  Speaker 2: Have that fear that, hey, if I don't step up
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  Speaker 2: and I don't show up in this relationship, that they
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  Speaker 2: might see something else and go for that.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't mean going out, though.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that.
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  Speaker 1: But maybe for some people it does because that's how
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  Speaker 1: you stay connected.
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  Speaker 3: Like for my wife, she always wants to play backgammon.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Always wants to play backgammon.
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  Speaker 2: So make sure you bring her flowers so she doesn't
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  Speaker 2: want to play backgammon with someone else.
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  Speaker 3: Bring her flowers so she doesn't play badgammon? With someone else.
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  Speaker 3: Why don't I just play badgammon with her?
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  Speaker 2: Well, you could, but the idea is to be afraid.
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  Speaker 3: Because when I beat her, I'm like, in your face.
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  Speaker 1: John Jay's not afraid.
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  Speaker 2: Remember when one guy was like hitting on Blake and
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  Speaker 2: you were like, eh.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's nice.
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  Speaker 3: He gave her flowers. I was like, that's nice of
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  Speaker 3: the guy.
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  Speaker 1: Bring her flowers, look at that.
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  Speaker 3: All right, go ahead. That's good, Peyton.
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  Speaker 2: Here's another one. So keep the TV out of the bedroom.
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  Speaker 2: Go to bed together and actually talk. So less screen
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  Speaker 2: time can mean more conversation and better sleep and more intimacy.
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  Speaker 3: I just screwed that. I need TV.
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  Speaker 1: TV should be everywhere.
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  Speaker 2: So far, we're 0 for 2 with John Jay.
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  Speaker 3: My wife, she reads in bed.
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  Speaker 4: And the only reason I don't watch TV in bed,
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  Speaker 4: true story, is it won't turn on.
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  Speaker 1: You'd have to like get up out of bed.
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  Speaker 4: I've got to figure out if I think I might
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  Speaker 4: need new batteries or something like that. And those speakers
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  Speaker 4: kind of acting kind of weird. I got to have
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  Speaker 4: a guy come fix it.
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  Speaker 3: Well, you know what?
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  Speaker 1: If that were me, that would have been done yesterday.
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  Speaker 4: Right. So I've been watching TV downstairs a lot. So, uh,
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  Speaker 4: but I think watching TV in bed is important.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Plus you can talk about the show.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. Go ahead.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Bring your spouse a cold drink on a hot day.
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  Speaker 2: The drink isn't the point. It's the, I was just
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  Speaker 2: thinking about you gesture that can matter more than the
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  Speaker 2: occasional like grand romance.
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  Speaker 1: I like that. I like that. It's a little thing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I always, okay.
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  Speaker 4: And I don't say always, but I, there's a lot
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  Speaker 4: of times where I will go when I, my, when
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  Speaker 4: I leave the gym, her, one of her favorite, T's
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  Speaker 4: is the AJ's green tea.
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  Speaker 3: So I will go to AJ's and get her green
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  Speaker 3: tea and bring it to her. Nice. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's strong.
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  Speaker 3: Very strong. That's a good one. That's a good one.
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  Speaker 3: I agree with that one. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Before you start an argument or before you get into
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  Speaker 2: an argument. eat something because you might actually not be
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  Speaker 2: mad at them. You're probably just hangry. And a little
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  Speaker 2: snack can make us all feel a little bit better.
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  Speaker 1: I've heard that's true for guys.
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  Speaker 3: For sure.
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  Speaker 2: Except for my thing is that if I'm mad, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not going to sit there and be like, hmm, I
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  Speaker 2: think I need a granola bar.
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  Speaker 1: You know, like I'm going to light you up. I
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  Speaker 1: had a therapist tell me one time, many times actually,
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  Speaker 1: that they would preach this. And I can't see this working, but,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it kind of makes sense. They say if
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  Speaker 1: you're really mad, you're getting ready to have a fight
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  Speaker 1: with your sick other, you should kiss them. They're like,
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  Speaker 1: if you kiss, then you're less likely to yell with
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  Speaker 1: your mouth if you're actually kissing. But I can't see
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  Speaker 1: being so pissed at somebody like, hey, you want to
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  Speaker 1: make out? I can't see that going.
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  Speaker 3: No, I would not want to kiss you.
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  Speaker 2: If my husband came to me and tried to kiss
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  Speaker 2: me in the middle of arguing, I would probably try
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  Speaker 2: to bite his lips off.
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  Speaker 3: See, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah that's like a dangerous move.
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  Speaker 2: Dangerous move for sure okay never go to bed with
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  Speaker 2: dirty dishes and not like it's not about the dirty
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  Speaker 2: dishes right it's about like actually like doing something together
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  Speaker 2: and winding down together and having that chance to talk
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  Speaker 2: and you're less likely to fight over who's doing all
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  Speaker 2: the work if you do it together we.
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  Speaker 3: Go to bed with dirty dishes in our sink all
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 4: You know what's funny is I tell my wife it's
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  Speaker 4: okay if there's dirty dishes in the sink. And she freaks,
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  Speaker 4: she will not go to bed with dirty dishes in
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  Speaker 4: the sink.
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  Speaker 3: But it doesn't bother me. But I'm not going to
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  Speaker 3: go with her and clean up.
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  Speaker 2: Well, these are just weird pieces of marriage advice that
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  Speaker 2: low-key make sense. Here's the last one, which I am
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  Speaker 2: totally on board with. Get a king-size bed. You can
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  Speaker 2: cuddle when you want to and you have your own
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  Speaker 2: space when you don't. Plus, if you have kids and
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  Speaker 2: they climb in, nobody gets a foot to the face.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, the more space in the bed, the better.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a big fan of the foot in the face.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, of course you are, Joe.
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  Speaker 4: I have some advice I think that is a good one.
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  Speaker 4: We try to do a six-second or longer hug. Six
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  Speaker 4: to 20 seconds.
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  Speaker 1: That's great.
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  Speaker 3: I do it with my kids, too. You go out
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  Speaker 3: of your way and hold. You think about it. That's
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  Speaker 3: kind of a long time. Yeah, it is. But it
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  Speaker 3: creates something between you and the other person.
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  Speaker 1: That's really good. It is actually like.
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  Speaker 2: Like the chemistry in your body changes after a certain
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  Speaker 2: amount of time.
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  Speaker 3: But six seconds is weird.
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  Speaker 4: We'll even be like one, two, three.
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  Speaker 2: At that point, it sounds like that would just be
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  Speaker 2: like a chore.
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  Speaker 4: I just feel like it recharges my kids when I
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  Speaker 4: do it. Anybody else? Other advice?
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  Speaker 3: All right. If you got any weird advice, let us know.
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  Speaker 3: Text it. JJR to 96893. Yeah.