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SPECIAL PODCAST: What I learned working with Jennifer Lopez, Diddy, Alicia Keys and Jessica Simson · Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

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  Speaker 1: Get All Advice. Welcome to the weekend edition of the
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  Speaker 1: Naughty But Nice Podcast. I'm Rob Shooter, your host. You
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  Speaker 1: know me as a gossip columnist and entertainment reporter, but
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  Speaker 1: as well as doing that, I'm also a best selling
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  Speaker 1: author and one of the leading experts in change and
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  Speaker 1: habits and motivation. So for ten minutes on the weekend,
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  Speaker 1: we love to bring you these special additions of the
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  Speaker 1: podcast inspired by my book The Foreword Answer. So since
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  Speaker 1: doing these now really at the top of the year,
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  Speaker 1: I think we've done one pretty much every week end
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  Speaker 1: Since the beginning of the year, I've been getting a
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  Speaker 1: ton of questions, so I thought today it would be
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  Speaker 1: fun to go through some of the questions. Our first
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  Speaker 1: question comes from Elie, Hello, Billy and Boston, who said,
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  Speaker 1: what did you learn working with some of the most
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  Speaker 1: successful people on earth? So a little backstory here, Before
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  Speaker 1: I was a gossip columnist as a celebrity publicist, and
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  Speaker 1: I worked with Jennifer Lopez, Jessica Simpson, Licia Keys, John
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  Speaker 1: bon Jovi, Paris Hilton p did he, Naomi Campbell, Estate Lorder,
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  Speaker 1: even Her Royal Highness Princess Michael of Kent. So I
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  Speaker 1: had a ton of high profile clients, and the question
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  Speaker 1: is what did I learn from working with some of
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  Speaker 1: those amazing people? What I learned was quite simple. Every
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  Speaker 1: successful person I have ever met could describe themselves in
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  Speaker 1: just a few simple words. Entire marketing departments, branding departments,
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  Speaker 1: and PR departments. Their only job was to find out
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  Speaker 1: who they were, who they were, and then promote it.
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  Speaker 1: It's the most important and question a personality or a
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  Speaker 1: brand will ever ask, Who are you? I took this
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  Speaker 1: question from clients like s the Louder, from clients like
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  Speaker 1: Jennifer Lopez, and I applied it to my own life.
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  Speaker 1: Answer that question, who are you? I can tell you
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  Speaker 1: that only those comfortable enough in their own skin know
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  Speaker 1: the answer, and only those who know the answer will
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  Speaker 1: be super super successful. So start thinking about that who
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  Speaker 1: are you? In just a few words. Another question I
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  Speaker 1: got was from Claire in Nebraska. Hello Claire, Claire said,
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  Speaker 1: you say kindness is the key to success. I don't
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  Speaker 1: often think about celebrities as being kind. That's a good comment.
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  Speaker 1: Kindness is acceptance, and nobody accepts themselves more than successful people.
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  Speaker 1: There is nothing kinder than accepting yourself. It allows you
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  Speaker 1: to be comfortable in your own skin. It allows you
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  Speaker 1: to be free. People who are kind don't say cruel
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  Speaker 1: things to themselves. People who are kind have silenced theo's
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  Speaker 1: voices inside their heads, voices were unfortunately all have telling
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  Speaker 1: them that they are not good enough. Let me be
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  Speaker 1: clear here about kindness. I'm not saying that you should
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  Speaker 1: not hold open the door of opportunity for other people.
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  Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying is that you need to be
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  Speaker 1: kind enough to open the door of opportunity for yourself.
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  Speaker 1: When you start practicing this very special form of kindness,
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  Speaker 1: you will be the star are in your own life.
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  Speaker 1: Doesn't that sound good? I love this quote by Lady Gaga.
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  Speaker 1: She said, I've been searching for ways to heal myself,
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  Speaker 1: and I've found that kindness is the best way. She's
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  Speaker 1: so right. I wanted to heal all the traumas, all
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  Speaker 1: the past past events in my life, and I found
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  Speaker 1: out that kindness is the best medicine. Putting ourselves first
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  Speaker 1: isn't something that a lot of us practice, but those
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  Speaker 1: who do will thrive and never forget. It doesn't matter
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  Speaker 1: why you are kind, the end result will be the same.
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  Speaker 1: Do you want to know how to be kind. It's
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  Speaker 1: really easy. We are made kind by being kind. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: And nothing is kinder than accepting yourself. I love this
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  Speaker 1: question from Donnie. Hey, it's not add Donnie in LA
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  Speaker 1: this is Donnie in texts us. Hello, Donnie, thank you
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  Speaker 1: for your question. You asked, what's the smartest decision you
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  Speaker 1: have ever made? Oh? That's a good question. Let me think.
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  Speaker 1: Let me take a step back from this and say,
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  Speaker 1: the only thing that makes anybody smart is their willingness
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  Speaker 1: to try. Smart people fail all the time, but they
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  Speaker 1: keep trying. That's what makes them smart. The road to
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  Speaker 1: success is paved with failure. Don't be afraid to fail.
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  Speaker 1: That's the smartest decision that I have ever made. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not afraid to fail. It's not the end of the world.
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  Speaker 1: It's the first step towards learning something better. It was
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  Speaker 1: actually Jessica Simpson who taught me that you have to
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  Speaker 1: work at being the best you, because pretending to be
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  Speaker 1: somebody else it never ever works out. This is why
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  Speaker 1: you have to figure out who you are and then
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  Speaker 1: learn to love and sept that person. For a long time,
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  Speaker 1: I mistakenly brought into the theory that being smart was
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  Speaker 1: a god given gift something that was in your DNA,
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  Speaker 1: but I was wrong being smart, It's just about your
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  Speaker 1: willingness to try. Also to always remember to play a positive,
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  Speaker 1: winning game, not air losing negative. One. One thought at
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  Speaker 1: a time is the only way to win the game
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  Speaker 1: of life. I love this quote from Oscar Wild. The
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  Speaker 1: optimist sees the donut, the pessimist sees the whole. I
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  Speaker 1: see the donut, yummy. I think we have time for
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  Speaker 1: one more question. You're owning your book about how did
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  Speaker 1: he taught you to believe that you are important? How
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  Speaker 1: did you do this? It's a really good question, because
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  Speaker 1: when you believe you are important, you invest in yourself,
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  Speaker 1: You learn your craft. Did he talk to me, I'm
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  Speaker 1: the most important person in my life, and to always
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  Speaker 1: remember that if I'm not doing the work, I don't
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  Speaker 1: deserve the results. You've got to do the work, did
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  Speaker 1: he said? Quote? It always seems impossible until it's done.
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  Speaker 1: Two three years ago, if somebody told me I would
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  Speaker 1: have a top ten podcast, I wouldn't have believed them.
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  Speaker 1: I would have wanted it, but I wouldn't have believed
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  Speaker 1: them because I hadn't done the work. Now, after doing
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  Speaker 1: the work every day for three years, we got really
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  Speaker 1: good at this. I went back and listened to some
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  Speaker 1: of our very early podcasts. Oh my goodness, they were
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  Speaker 1: not so good. They were not very good at all.
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  Speaker 1: But I had to start somewhere. Start at the beginning.
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  Speaker 1: We all start at the beginning, and then do the work. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I love this question. We're going to squeeze this one in.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know we're running out of time. But
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  Speaker 1: why do we doubt asks? That's a really, really profound
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  Speaker 1: question from Christine, who doesn't say where she's from, Florida,
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  Speaker 1: Christine from Florida. Here it is that. The answer is easy, Christine.
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  Speaker 1: We doubt ourselves because somebody taught us to doubt ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: This is why you need to get away from those
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  Speaker 1: people in your life. They've done enough damage already. Wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: doubt seeks its clause into you? We seek it out
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  Speaker 1: to comfort us. Then we unknowingly surround ourselves with people
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  Speaker 1: who confirm this ugly lie. The best way to eliminate
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  Speaker 1: self doubt is to be prepared. I love this quote
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  Speaker 1: from Benjamin Franklin, who said, by failing to prepare, you
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  Speaker 1: are preparing to fail. The bigger your dream, the more
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  Speaker 1: time it's going to take to come true, because success
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  Speaker 1: does not happen overnight, which is why you must constantly
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  Speaker 1: remind yourself why you start art it, Why did you
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  Speaker 1: start this? Why do you want it? Write that down
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  Speaker 1: and remind yourself all the time. Hey, that's all we
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  Speaker 1: have time for this week. But I'm loving doing these
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  Speaker 1: que and as if you want to send me a question,
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  Speaker 1: you can send it to Naughty Nice rab at aol
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  Speaker 1: my email address. Send me a question though, or you
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  Speaker 1: can hit me up on social media, DNA. Thank you,
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  Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for the questions, and thank you
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  Speaker 1: for listening to this special bonus weekend show. I love
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  Speaker 1: love love doing them, and I love love love hearing
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  Speaker 1: your response, So email me, text me, don't forget to
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  Speaker 1: little bit of help this weekend, don't we all. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: let's end with our tagline. If you're going to be naughty,
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  Speaker 1: you've got to be heycare everybody start you but nice
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