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Redefining Success as Stability Power (S5) S6:E7 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey guys, it is John C. Morley ere,
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serial entrepreneur, getting this out a little bit
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late, but obviously before I get to sleep,
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So it was still catching up with stuff.
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OK, this is, by the way, this is
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And we are basically ending up the master
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topic of the week.
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So as I said, welcome back, everyone, to
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Inspirations for Your Life, a daily motivational show
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where growth is intentional, success is sustainable and
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Yes, guys, I'm your host, John Seymour, a
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serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student and a
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passionate lifelong learner.
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And it is, yes, guys, my privilege and
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my pleasure to be with all of you
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here on the Inspirations for Your Life show.
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Thank you so much for for being here,
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for watching, for making this a part of
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your life.
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And today's episode is all about challenges, basically
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the loud definition of success.
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We've all been told that we have to
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be loud to be successful, and that's wrong.
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We actually need to be quiet.
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We need to listen and we need to
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be mindful in our environment, not hustling.
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Not chaos, not burning out, disguised as ambition,
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because I think sometimes people feel that if
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they're close to burnout, they're close to success.
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No, they're close to exhaustion.
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I know I've done this many times when
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I was younger.
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And, you know, it doesn't get you any
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further, guys.
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It really doesn't.
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It's about you recognizing your strengths and what
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you can do about them and how you
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can make a big difference in this world
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and how you can help yourself and how
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you can help others.
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That's important.
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So today or tonight, we are redefining success
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as stability because peace isn't quitting, guys.
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Calmness isn't weakness and quiet wins last much
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longer.
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I know there's other people who'll say differently
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because you've got to be loud and the
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squeaky wheel gets the noise.
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And that's all BS.
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OK, just total BS.
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Number one, guys, peace is progress.
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If your life feels calmer, you're moving forward
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even if it's slower.
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That's nice and ice cold.
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I put actually put ice cubes in there.
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If you guys can see, I put ice
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cubes in there and that's really good.
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That's important.
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You're moving forward and even if it's slower.
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Number two, stability is power.
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What you can maintain matters more than what
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you can spike.
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I think that's a I think that's a
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real quick and that's a real interesting one
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that I think a lot of people don't
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quite understand.
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But it's one that I think we need
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to we need to realize when we really
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need to realize so we can move forward.
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Number three.
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Number three is this quiet success lasts loud
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wins.
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They fade away.
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OK, steady ones compound.
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You might have had somebody before that yells
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and screams and they get your attention and
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they get your attention.
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But you know what happens as soon as
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they talk, do they do something?
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You're like, oh, wait a minute, I don't
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want to listen to this person anymore because
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it's not in alignment with me.
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Maybe somebody else fire or something else.
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And you say, you know, you're not going
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to pay attention.
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But when they yell something like a superlative
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like that, our body is designed to pay
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attention to it and respond.
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So that's where that comes from.
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Number four, guys, sustainable wins.
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They matter every single day.
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Anything that burns you out isn't success.
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And I know a lot of saying, hey,
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John, you know, I got to keep trying
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and I got to keep trying harder.
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Well, here's what I want to tell you
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guys, and maybe some of you won't agree
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with me, but you've got to agree to
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do it in alignment with yourself.
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Without as much energy, you've got to do
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it smarter, not harder.
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I think that's the thing that a lot
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of people you know, I think a lot
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of people will miss that.
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All right, a lot of people, a lot
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of people miss that.
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And by missing that, I think that's a
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huge, huge thing.
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OK, a very huge thing.
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And a lot of times people want to
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go back, but then they can't.
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Because maybe they burned a bridge.
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Number five, guys, balance beats burnout.
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You don't need to collapse to prove anything.
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Who says you have to prove anything to
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anybody?
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You don't.
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You absolutely don't owe a proof to anybody.
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Number six, guys, calm lives, they scale.
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Guess what?
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They scale easily.
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Yep.
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Chaos doesn't grow well.
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Systems do.
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When we have a system in place and
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the system is able to move us forward.
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Oh, yes.
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Now, now I get it.
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Now it works.
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But the beginning, you'd be like, oh, I
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don't know.
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I don't know if this really going to
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work.
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Right.
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I don't know.
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I think sometimes people just get so.
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Lost that they don't necessarily know like what
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to say or why they're saying something.
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OK.
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That's a that's a very important thing, guys,
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to to realize that one concept, right, that
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chaos doesn't ever grow well.
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It's the systems that grow.
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It's the systems that help us become successful.
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It's the systems that allow us to work
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and and be profitable.
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Even when we're sleeping.
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You might hear a lot of wealthy people
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say, you know, I make money 24 seven.
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Of course, they get the rest, but they
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make money 24 seven.
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So when they go to sleep at night,
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they're still making money.
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The money is working for them all the
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time.
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Number seven, success without chaos.
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It's real, guys.
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It's absolutely real.
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Peaceful growth still counts in any part of
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the world, in any denomination, in any religion,
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in any race, religion, sexual orientation, creed, color,
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political party.
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It works everywhere.
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Number eight, stability.
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Stability compounds happiness.
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Consistency builds confidence over time.
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And.
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It's these subtle things we do.
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I don't know if you realize that the
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micro gestures that we do with our hands
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or even our let's say even our body,
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I think we don't quite unnecessarily understand why
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that's happening.
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But I can tell you that these micro
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adjustments that don't seem like anything are the
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reason that people are paying attention to you.
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All right, number nine, quiet wins.
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They feel better.
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Yeah, there's just less anxiety when nothing needs
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defending.
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There's nothing like that.
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I think the more that we can learn
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from these things, the more that we can
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say, wait a minute, I actually get this.
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I actually understand why this is not a
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direct match with me anymore.
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I get what that is now.
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All right.
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I get what that is.
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And that's something that I feel a lot
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of people like they just don't quite understand.
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Why?
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They just don't have the insight to it.
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OK, I hope that makes sense to you,
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but maybe you get lost sometimes.
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Maybe you get lost.
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Maybe you just don't know what to say.
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Maybe other people confuse you.
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Right.
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And maybe it's something you want to do,
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but then somehow it doesn't work.
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Maybe when you do that, maybe you can
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realize that things have the ability.
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Things can make differences for you when you
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start to understand the nuances that happen, when
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you start to understand the nuances.
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But if you do not understand the nuances,
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then for whatever reason, you're going to be
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like, oh, my gosh, what do I do?
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What am I going to say?
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Right.
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Maybe that maybe that's the whole thing.
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Maybe you're concerned because something's different right now
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and it's not what you're used to.
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Number 10, peace reduces regret.
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Calm decisions age better than the rushed ones
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do.
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They do, guys.
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Number 11, calm success endures.
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What doesn't exhaust you can last decades.
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That's what I think that a lot of
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people, if we had to just stop for
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five minutes and say, oh, my gosh, like,
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where am I getting my perception from?
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Like, where is it coming from?
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Is it coming around the corner or is
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it coming from somewhere else?
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Like like that?
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That's what I want to know.
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Is it coming from you or is this
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coming from, let's say, some auxiliary source that
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you might think is you?
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But you know what it isn't.
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It's not you.
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You may think it's good for you, but
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really it's not.
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It's a placebo.
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That's the best way to think of it.
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So calm success endures.
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What doesn't exhaust you, as I said, can
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last decades, can last your entire life.
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Number 12, guys, low drama is high value.
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We get a lot of people sometimes, you
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know, that their drama is like such a
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chore to deal with.
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All right.
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But low drama equals high value and emotional
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steadiness attracts opportunities.
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Number 12, nobody wants to be around somebody
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who's dramatic unless we're in the theater, right?
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Some people exhibit drama because, well, they think
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that they're going to get better treatment.
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They think they're going to get more in
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their life.
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That's what they think.
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But does it mean that?
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No.
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It's a psychological premise.
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It's causing the chase, a placebo, a fake
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carrot, a carrot or a bone that doesn't
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really exist.
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Number 13, sustainable ambition.
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It wins every single time.
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Long games reward patience.
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People that are impatient.
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Always seem to blame others for why can't
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we move faster?
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But it's not about moving faster, guys.
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It's about moving in a way that I'll
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say is aligned with your core purpose.
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Yeah.
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Number 14.
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Calmness creates clarity.
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Noise clouds judgment.
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Stillness sharpens it every single time, every single
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time, not just one time, but every single
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time.
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And if we could understand that it does
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sharpen every single time, does that mean we
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could change how we are?
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Absolutely.
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We could change on a dime.
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But many people are afraid because it's different
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than what they're used to.
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OK, to what they're used to.
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I think what people think about calmness, creating
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clarity and.
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Noise clouding judgment and the stillness has the
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ability to be razor sharp to it.
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They sometimes back away because they don't know
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what to say.
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They don't know how to express themselves, so
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they start looking for excuses to why they
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can't do something.
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Number 15.
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Stable habits when what you repeat becomes your
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edge.
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Huh.
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We remember Neil Dale Carnegie.
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Remember Nightingale Conant Nightingale Conant said we think
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about most often is what we become.
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Right.
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What we think about, even when we think
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we're not thinking, we're still thinking about something.
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All right.
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Number 16.
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Quiet wealth lasts flashy gains.
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Oh, they disappear, guys.
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Grounded growth remains every single day.
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But when you have the flash, it's like,
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oh, I can't really do much with that.
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I just can't.
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Number 17, peace multiplies focus and calm minds
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do better work.
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When you are not stressed, when you are
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peaceful, you're able to not only be tranquil,
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but you're able to have a calmer and
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more clear focus.
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You're more, more engaged and a perspective that
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means something.
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More than if you were chaotic.
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All right, you want to do things twice.
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My great my grandfather said, you know, John,
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measure twice and cut once.
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What he meant is that once you cut,
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you can't go back and re add.
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You can always cut again, but you can't
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like, you know, glue it back together.
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Just can't do that.
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I think that's important thing to understand.
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Number 18, number 18 is this calm minds,
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enjoy, enjoy success.
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What is the point if you can't breathe
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inside it?
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What is the point if you can't enjoy
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life?
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What is the point if you can't take
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the gifts you have and help others?
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What is the point if you don't recognize
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what a gift you are?
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Now, that's not being egotistical.
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That's being sensible.
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Number 19.
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Slow growth lasts longer.
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Just like we talk about snow, right?
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The snow that falls, you know, a lot
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slower.
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And less amount lasts longer.
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It sticks, right?
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Slow growth lasts longer and momentum doesn't need
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panic.
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But I know so many people are like,
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oh, my gosh, what are we going to
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do?
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We could do this is happening.
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What are we going to do?
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Well, I don't know.
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Let's just panic until till we can't breathe.
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No.
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People are designed and conditioned and trained to
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panic.
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Why?
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I don't know.
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Comes from lineage sometimes of your ancestors, your
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parents, your grandparents, your great grandparents.
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It becomes your story when this isn't a
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story that you want to really be, but
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somehow it takes you over.
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So slow growth lasts longer.
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Momentum doesn't need panic.
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So don't you panic because everyone else is
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saying, oh, my gosh, let's panic.
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No.
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Let's approach this with a calm and cool
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head.
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Number 20.
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Stability.
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It protects your health.
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Success.
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Is it worth your nervous system?
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No, guys, it's not.
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It's not worth your nervous system.
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And if it's not worth your nervous system,
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then.
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You need to discard it, right?
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You need to discard it.
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Stability protects health.
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Success.
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Is it worth your nervous system?
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It's not worth giving that up, right?
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It's not worth giving up your health and
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your body so that you think you could
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be successful.
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Remember when your body is compromised, I don't
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care whether we're talking physically, mentally, or spiritually.
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It takes a toll on that part of
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your life.
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And then.
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You become stressed.
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Number 21, quiet success scales, less stress, more
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capacity.
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So when I am very peaceful and tranquil,
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I have more room to store information that
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maybe I couldn't reach before, just maybe, right?
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But when I am calm, okay, when I'm
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peaceful, all right, I get more capacity.
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I retain more.
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Number 22, guys, peace is earned.
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It comes from alignment, not from avoidance.
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If you think you can get peace by
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avoiding people or avoiding something, that's never going
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to give you peace.
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I had a lady today I was talking
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to, and the lady was a, was a
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little bit rude because they had called multiple
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times regarding something.
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And so I called them back and I
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said on the carpet, so, you know, I
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said, you people have changed.
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You treat us like a number and it's
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pretty sad the way you say you care
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about your customers, but really all you care
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about is your money.
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I think the person got the message.
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I mean, I know they were working for
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corporate, but I think they got the message.
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Number 23, guys, calm routines win.
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Yes, structure creates freedom.
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Now, you might say, John, well, if I
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have structure, how can I have freedom?
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So when you have a schedule, you find
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you have so much more time as you
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get things done.
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Even my to-do list that I have
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and I cross them off, right?
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Number 24, success without noise is powerful.
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You don't need applause to advance.
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Although many people think the only way to
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victory is applause is a pat on your
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back is, hey, you know, you're doing great
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as a handshake.
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You don't need that.
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Maybe you needed that in grammar school.
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Maybe you need a part of high school.
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You definitely don't need it in college and
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you don't need it now after you graduate.
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And if you keep looking for it, you
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don't get it.
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You're going to become depressed.
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You're going to become demotivated.
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Number 25, guys, stability beats volatility.
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Predictable progress builds trust.
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People you can count on, processes you can
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know have got your back.
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Number 26, quiet ambition wins all the time.
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Right, you've heard the phrase, you know, walk
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softly with a big stick.
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The stick is on you, but you never
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have to use it.
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People know you have it, but it's a,
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it's a presence, right?
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A presence.
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Maybe you're watching younger people and when they
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know, even though you're a good person, when
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they know that you're not going to tolerate
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something, they have demand, they have basically developed
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respect for you.
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Number 27, calm confidence grows.
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It doesn't rush or compete.
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I want to go back to a post
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that I made just a few days ago.
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It got, well, I think it got like
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several thousand views, um, which I have to
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tell you, I'm, I'm very, I'm very grateful
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for that, that it got so many views,
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but my point, ladies and gentlemen, is that
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this is something that can change your life.
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It can change your life over day.
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And I know sometimes you might be saying,
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oh, John, you know, I can't quite get
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that.
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I can't quite understand.
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Well, the post I made, uh, on February
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4th, I made a very soon post and
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it was this, had my name, just had
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my state and it said, I've always believed
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good genes say a lot about a person,
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comfort, confidence, and showing up as yourself.
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Let me say that again.
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I've always believed good genes say a lot
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about a person.
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It didn't have to be the genes, but
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that was me.
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Comfort, confidence, and showing up as yourself.
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Comfort, confidence, and showing up as yourself.
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And it got thousands of responses, but I
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share that with you because a lot of
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people in the world, you know what they
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do, they show up, but they show up
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trying to be somebody else.
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Number 28, sustainable success in doors.
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What you can repeat is really what matters.
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Now, number 29, peace equals freedom.
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No constant reacting, no constant proving.
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You don't need to prove to anybody, jack
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squat.
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Number 30, stability, defined success.
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If your life works, you're winning.
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If you're chasing the eight ball, well, then
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you're not.
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And you're not.
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Life is all about a balance, right?
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And you have to keep that balance, right?
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Just like we have a balance in our
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body.
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We have equilibrium, a balance with our ears.
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We have fluid.
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If the ears, let's say, become out of
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balance, equilibrium comes from fluid in our ears,
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could happen for a lot of reasons.
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Maybe it's very cold and there's some fluid
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in your ears and that causes your ear
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to get, let's say, irritated.
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That works because of our body.
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So if one ear gets out of whack,
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it throws off our equilibrium, it throws off
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our balance, and that can make us not
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be able to walk, could make us nauseous.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I really want to thank
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you for joining me today or tonight on
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the Inspiration for Your Life show.
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This has been Inspirations for Your Life.
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This is the daily motivational show.
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For people who want results without losing themselves
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in the process.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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And I'm reminding you that success doesn't need
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chaos to count and stability isn't settling, it
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is a strategy.
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Find more inspiration, short form, long form content,
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anytime.
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24 hours a day, 365 days a year,
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where?
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Well, you know where, but I'll tell you.
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It's at BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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When we start taking in even a nugget
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of information and we do that consistently, guess
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what, we're on the path of becoming a
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better person.
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Have yourself, ladies and gentlemen, a fantastic day
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or a fantastic evening, and I will catch
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you guys tomorrow for a brand new master
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topic, which will go from Saturday again till
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next Friday.
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Take care, everyone, and be well.