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- 1:51Speaker 4: Everybody knows about obviously what you know has been transpiring
- 1:55Speaker 4: with Diddy, but I think it's a larger conversation one
- 1:59Speaker 4: of the bigges people that trolling him with fifty cents
- 2:01Speaker 4: and last week he actually got brought up on accusations
- 2:04Speaker 4: from his baby mam. Then we see, we see Jonathan Majors,
- 2:09Speaker 4: we see Vince McMahon. This is like a common theme
- 2:14Speaker 4: over the last sixteen months of powerful men that have
- 2:22Speaker 4: had issues with women, a variety of different issues, from
- 2:25Speaker 4: assault to accusations to.
- 2:29Speaker 2: All kinds of different things right, and.
- 2:33Speaker 4: It's some have actually ruined businesses and some are still
- 2:38Speaker 4: in the allegation phase. But what do your what's your
- 2:42Speaker 4: thoughts and takeaways from this current UH landscape that when
- 2:48Speaker 4: we've seen Eric Adams, the mayor of New York, he
- 2:50Speaker 4: got accused of something.
- 2:54Speaker 2: There's just like a variety of different people that have been,
- 2:57Speaker 2: you know, in the over the time.
- 3:00Speaker 1: I think for too long, men that have had power
- 3:05Speaker 1: have used it to get sexual favors out of people.
- 3:09Speaker 1: And I don't think men are taught properly how to
- 3:14Speaker 1: approach a woman or be able to read the room
- 3:16Speaker 1: when it's time to back away some of it, which, honey,
- 3:21Speaker 1: I'm sure in some of the cases, yes, but I
- 3:24Speaker 1: think there's too much force going on. And whatever I
- 3:28Speaker 1: keep saying, whatever you do is going to come out publicly,
- 3:31Speaker 1: so you have to remember, like off the record, everything's
- 3:34Speaker 1: always on the record. Some people chose to go to
- 3:37Speaker 1: the NBA route, some people choose to record in their house.
- 3:40Speaker 1: I think it's a good idea if you get permission
- 3:42Speaker 1: to do so. But I think for too long people
- 3:45Speaker 1: use their money, power wealth to throw themselves upon people
- 3:50Speaker 1: who didn't want it, and also to back to the
- 3:53Speaker 1: integrity thing. Vince McMahon, you should have paid the girls
- 3:57Speaker 1: settled with you. You paid her nine hundred another three. What
- 4:01Speaker 1: did you think was gonna happen? Like she agreed to
- 4:06Speaker 1: the three? You agreed to the three? Okay, after you
- 4:09Speaker 1: all agreed to the three. Hey, he was paying everybody
- 4:13Speaker 1: else anyway. And also to going back to vinstment Man,
- 4:17Speaker 1: if that many people died in the NBA, David Stern
- 4:20Speaker 1: would have went to jail. At one point, almost a
- 4:25Speaker 1: wrestler per year was dying from drug overdose that he
- 4:29Speaker 1: knew about, but all of a sudden it was off
- 4:32Speaker 1: the books. You can't have all these heinous actions in
- 4:35Speaker 1: your business and think that nothing is going to come
- 4:38Speaker 1: back on you. Like, it's better to just do business
- 4:41Speaker 1: the right way, be above board, be integral, keep your word,
- 4:45Speaker 1: be honorable, and I don't want the downfall to anybody.
- 4:48Speaker 1: But and also too, it's another lesson and be careful
- 4:52Speaker 1: and who you cross? That boy went and married your
- 4:56Speaker 1: daughter and you tried to cut his legs from underneath him,
- 5:00Speaker 1: and then girl legs got undercut while teaming up with
- 5:03Speaker 1: black Rock. Like the stuff that happens in corporate will
- 5:07Speaker 1: make narcos look like a kindergarten show. Operate with integrity, yo.
- 5:13Speaker 2: I think it's a few lessons for.
- 5:16Speaker 4: This is a business lesson because I feel like this
- 5:19Speaker 4: is something I'm gonna talk from both perspectives. For men,
- 5:24Speaker 4: I don't think a lot of men are actually taught
- 5:26Speaker 4: how to properly interact with women. Sexual harassment is a
- 5:29Speaker 4: real thing, and not even talking about these cases, but
- 5:32Speaker 4: just in general, and I've seen I've seen situations firsthand where.
- 5:39Speaker 2: Men, yeah, you're doing too much.
- 5:42Speaker 4: Men don't fully understand boundaries a lot of time, right,
- 5:46Speaker 4: And it starts with even boys and little kids, where
- 5:52Speaker 4: men are taught to be super aggressive, right, and that's
- 5:58Speaker 4: like the way that you should court women, right, And
- 6:03Speaker 4: it can get a little confusing because sometimes that can
- 6:05Speaker 4: actually turn somebody on, that could turn a woman on.
- 6:08Speaker 4: But in this environment and just in life in general,
- 6:13Speaker 4: I think that that's not a good way to go
- 6:15Speaker 4: about it.
- 6:15Speaker 2: Right.
- 6:15Speaker 4: For me, personally, I'm always super.
- 6:20Speaker 2: Like, you got to come on with me.
- 6:22Speaker 4: Like now I'm saying never, I'm never gonna go out
- 6:25Speaker 4: of my way to do something because at the end
- 6:27Speaker 4: of the day, you don't know how a person is feeling.
- 6:31Speaker 4: And sometimes it's not communicated, but it can it can
- 6:34Speaker 4: come out later on. And they started making these sexual
- 6:37Speaker 4: harassment laws in business and hr because it's a real thing.
- 6:41Speaker 4: This is this is billions of dollars that have been
- 6:46Speaker 4: in lawsuits and people fired the workplace. Sexual harassment and
- 6:51Speaker 4: sexual assault in the workplace is a real thing, right,
- 6:56Speaker 4: And this is why they have like training and all
- 6:59Speaker 4: of that, And like a lot of time peop will
- 7:00Speaker 4: look at like, oh, this is corny, this is stupid,
- 7:02Speaker 4: but it's really not, because it's like if you don't
- 7:04Speaker 4: if you don't probably if you don't properly know how
- 7:07Speaker 4: to interact with a woman, then you could catch a
- 7:11Speaker 4: charge for something that you you don't even think that
- 7:14Speaker 4: there's anything wrong with. Right, So that's that's the first part,
- 7:17Speaker 4: is like you have to teach your sons right and
- 7:22Speaker 4: wrong when it comes to dealing with women and women's boundaries.
- 7:25Speaker 4: Then also women have to teach their daughters certain things
- 7:30Speaker 4: as well, right as far as like this is something
- 7:35Speaker 4: that when a lot of times you put yourself in
- 7:40Speaker 4: in environments where you want to be what you want
- 7:42Speaker 4: to be with a rapper or you want to be
- 7:44Speaker 4: with a CEO or you want to be with, and
- 7:46Speaker 4: it's like there's a lot of negatives that come with that, right,
- 7:50Speaker 4: And this is the harsh reality of stuff that we
- 7:52Speaker 4: have to talk about as well, right, where it's like,
- 7:55Speaker 4: this is a lifestyle that is not.
- 8:00Speaker 2: Holy.
- 8:02Speaker 4: Right, it's not wholy at all, And there's benefits that
- 8:06Speaker 4: come with that, monetary benefits that come with that. But
- 8:09Speaker 4: now we're starting to see the dark side of that.
- 8:12Speaker 4: And I think that that's something that this is because
- 8:14Speaker 4: my thing is like, how do we learn from this?
- 8:16Speaker 4: Everybody wants us to talk about Diddy and make memes,
- 8:19Speaker 4: but it's like, whether we talk about him or not,
- 8:21Speaker 4: it doesn't matter, right, But how do we learn from
- 8:25Speaker 4: this situation? For young women, it's extremely important to understand
- 8:29Speaker 4: that what's being portrayed on social media is to get
- 8:32Speaker 4: a baller, to get somebody with diamonds, to get a
- 8:35Speaker 4: private jet. Okay, that's cool, but now we're starting to
- 8:39Speaker 4: see the other side of that story. You get on
- 8:43Speaker 4: a private jet, now what's happening on the jet?
- 8:46Speaker 2: Right?
- 8:47Speaker 4: Or you can't get off the jet right? So now
- 8:50Speaker 4: it's like, now a full story has to be told,
- 8:53Speaker 4: so now you can make an informed decision about Okay,
- 8:57Speaker 4: the glitz and glamour, everything that glitters isn't right. And
- 9:02Speaker 4: like I said, it's a business lesson because these things
- 9:05Speaker 4: are happening in business and they're causing real issues in business, right,
- 9:10Speaker 4: But bigger than that, it's just a life lesson that
- 9:13Speaker 4: I think that you know, a lot of people are
- 9:15Speaker 4: looking past it. They're making mockery a situation. They're having fun,
- 9:18Speaker 4: they're making memes, and they're not learning from the situation.
- 9:23Speaker 2: Right.
- 9:23Speaker 4: They want to chastat somebody. Your chastisement doesn't mean anything
- 9:27Speaker 4: if somebody's going to face time in jail and they're gonna dot.
- 9:30Speaker 4: You don't have enough power to put somebody in jail.
- 9:32Speaker 4: So look at the situation objectively. You don't know these people,
- 9:37Speaker 4: but you can still learn from these people, right, And
- 9:40Speaker 4: that's how I always.
- 9:41Speaker 2: Look at like what can I learn? What can I
- 9:43Speaker 2: learn from the situation?
- 9:44Speaker 4: And that's one thing and I tell my friends all
- 9:46Speaker 4: the time, like, be careful w how you deal with women,
- 9:48Speaker 4: Like it's not okay to make somebody do something that
- 9:52Speaker 4: they don't want to do. It's not okay to forcibly
- 9:55Speaker 4: put somebody in a situation that's uncomfortable. For them, it's
- 9:58Speaker 4: not okay to touch somebody if they don't want to
- 10:01Speaker 4: be touched. These are things that happened very often, and
- 10:05Speaker 4: it happens so often that we start to normalize it.
- 10:08Speaker 4: Even growing up, we see a lot of things that's dysfunctional,
- 10:11Speaker 4: and after a while you don't even you don't even
- 10:14Speaker 4: think it's dysfunctional because it's happened so much that it
- 10:17Speaker 4: just becomes normal. But it's like, it's really not. And
- 10:20Speaker 4: this is something that we really have to start having
- 10:23Speaker 4: some real conversations about as far as you know, the
- 10:27Speaker 4: proper etiquette and the proper manner how you carry yourself
- 10:32Speaker 4: for men, but for women also.
- 10:34Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's vitally important. I'll keep it brief.
- 10:37Speaker 3: I think you kind of alluded to end. With great
- 10:40Speaker 3: power comes more opportunities. With that comes more responsibility, and
- 10:45Speaker 3: with that you have to move with integrity.
- 10:48Speaker 2: But I'll just add to what Shoddy.
- 10:50Speaker 3: Said and one of the strongest things, and I think
- 10:53Speaker 3: because we make light of a lot of things, and
- 10:55Speaker 3: some things, really this is not for comic relief. This
- 10:59Speaker 3: is somebody's life, right, and there's victims to this, so
- 11:01Speaker 3: there's no comic relief in it. But one of the
- 11:04Speaker 3: most important things, and you alluded to it, but you
- 11:06Speaker 3: didn't say it is having a strong team around you,
- 11:09Speaker 3: because that's important. A lot of times when people are
- 11:12Speaker 3: in positions of power, there is nobody to have a
- 11:15Speaker 3: checks and balance with, and so it's kind of whatever
- 11:18Speaker 3: I say, it goes. And I don't want to upset
- 11:21Speaker 3: the person who's thehead of the food chain. With that,
- 11:24Speaker 3: you're going to have abuse of power.
- 11:26Speaker 2: So it's important to have a strong team.
- 11:27Speaker 3: It's important to have somebody, like you said, when something
- 11:30Speaker 3: is moving out the line, like now, we.
- 11:31Speaker 2: Need to check that now.
- 11:33Speaker 3: Because number one, it's not indicative of who you are, right.
- 11:36Speaker 3: So that's why the integrity part is important, but not
- 11:38Speaker 3: indicative of who we are right. Especially if you're representing
- 11:42Speaker 3: a company or you're representing yourself and your family. You
- 11:45Speaker 3: need to make that very clear because the last thing
- 11:47Speaker 3: you want to be part of is something that is
- 11:50Speaker 3: heinous and now you had no part in it, but
- 11:52Speaker 3: the fact that you were there you are. So having
- 11:55Speaker 3: a strong team is important. Not having just yes men
- 11:58Speaker 3: or yes women is important. And I think it's vice
- 12:00Speaker 3: versa two. You talked about the men and when it
- 12:02Speaker 3: comes to harassment, but women as well. That's happened not
- 12:05Speaker 3: as often as men, but it does happen. So I
- 12:07Speaker 3: think everybody can learn from this and make sure that
- 12:11Speaker 3: you know when you're moving, uh, that you're very aware
- 12:14Speaker 3: and you don't lose yourself inside the space, because that
- 12:17Speaker 3: can happen. Right with success, you start to lose some
- 12:21Speaker 3: of the morals, you start to lose some of the integrity,
- 12:22Speaker 3: you start to lose some of the character that you
- 12:24Speaker 3: grew You grew up knowing, which is easy, and that's
- 12:27Speaker 3: why it's important to have strong people around you to
- 12:29Speaker 3: make sure that it's not an autocorrect but it's something
- 12:31Speaker 3: that needs to be corrected.
- 12:32Speaker 2: In that moment.
- 12:33Speaker 1: There's an entertainment industry a playground for this though. Like
- 12:37Speaker 1: even the Nickelodeon documentary that was Desate set that like, yes, insane.
- 12:45Speaker 1: That girl who played r Carly was mandon Bids was
- 12:47Speaker 1: crying out for years and everyone called her crazy in
- 12:50Speaker 1: her face, yeah and never said nothing like.
- 12:54Speaker 3: That was That's a tough documentary to watch, Yeah, especially
- 12:58Speaker 3: at kids.
- 12:59Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, So yeah, don't you know, be mindful,
- 13:06Speaker 5: but yeah, I don't abuse of any time, Abuse of
- 13:11Speaker 5: any kind.
- 13:12Speaker 4: Is something that you know, it's just a corny way
- 13:15Speaker 4: to go about life. If you're abusing kids, I feel
- 13:17Speaker 4: like if you if you're an abuser, then that's something
- 13:20Speaker 4: that says a lot about you. You have an inferiority
- 13:23Speaker 4: complex because you have to pick on people that are
- 13:25Speaker 4: not able to match up to you physically or mentally.
- 13:29Speaker 4: So you know, you pick on a kid, you abuse
- 13:32Speaker 4: a kid that's a vulnerable person that you have more
- 13:35Speaker 4: power over. Right, if you abuse a woman that's a
- 13:37Speaker 4: vulnerable person, nine times I attend that you have more
- 13:40Speaker 4: power over or vice versa. Some some women can abuse men.
- 13:43Speaker 4: That happens, but most of the time it's a man
- 13:45Speaker 4: abusing a woman.
- 13:46Speaker 2: So it's like, you know, I don't. I don't agree
- 13:48Speaker 2: with that.
- 13:48Speaker 4: I don't agree with like, you know, physically just beating
- 13:51Speaker 4: somebody or you know, cursing somebody out. You know, arguments
- 13:55Speaker 4: may happen. But that's another thing. Emotional intelligence. We have
- 13:58Speaker 4: to teach kids how to deal with emotion, how that
- 14:01Speaker 4: you know, because it could be heated exchange. But you know,
- 14:04Speaker 4: you don't, you don't Nothing good comes from that. And
- 14:08Speaker 4: once you start to do that on an ongoing basis,
- 14:10Speaker 4: it becomes a habit, and then it becomes part of
- 14:12Speaker 4: a daily routine and before you know it, you just
- 14:15Speaker 4: be that just becomes part of what you what you do.
- 14:18Speaker 4: So yeah, you know, I think it's just be mindful,
- 14:20Speaker 4: like I said, cough, and don't got nothing to do
- 14:23Speaker 4: with puff. Really, it's just this is just the highlight
- 14:26Speaker 4: of the whole thing. So I know people, you know,
- 14:28Speaker 4: want me to throw Puff under the bus, but that's
- 14:31Speaker 4: not a It's not going to happen because I don't
- 14:33Speaker 4: even know what happened, and be that's not helpful even
- 14:37Speaker 4: if I did do that, right, Like me, throwing Puff
- 14:40Speaker 4: under the bus doesn't help the situation. It doesn't help
- 14:43Speaker 4: the victims, and it doesn't it doesn't get justice for anybody.
- 14:46Speaker 4: It's just me speaking ignorantly because I don't know what happened.
- 14:48Speaker 4: I don't have any information on it. So I think
- 14:52Speaker 4: you guys would be better suited if you worry about
- 14:54Speaker 4: yourselves and worry about your families and raise your children
- 14:59Speaker 4: and a man her that would be conducive to this
- 15:03Speaker 4: not happening again for the next generation, because there will
- 15:06Speaker 4: be another Puff. There'll be another you know, whoever. Vince
- 15:10Speaker 4: McMahon there will be another, excell.
- 15:11Speaker 1: What's what I'm rolling around right now? They won't put
- 15:14Speaker 1: charges on.
- 15:15Speaker 4: Yeah, So instead of you worrying about a celebrity, worry
- 15:18Speaker 4: about your family, worry about your community. And if we
- 15:21Speaker 4: all did that, then this world will be a much
- 15:24Speaker 4: better place and our culture would be in a much
- 15:27Speaker 4: better space.
- 15:29Speaker 2: Fellas, no means no.
- 15:30Speaker 1: And if you shoot a shot in the DM, if
- 15:32Speaker 1: she don't reply by the second one, let it go.
- 15:35Speaker 2: That's she interested.
- 15:36Speaker 1: She messages you all day, all night, bro. But if
- 15:39Speaker 1: you're talking to yourself and the DMS for five months.
- 15:42Speaker 4: To a clue, that's chapter that's chapter one. Well, mental
- 15:46Speaker 4: illness is real to in a lot of men are real.
- 15:49Speaker 4: And you know somebody got killed or of that. The
- 15:52Speaker 4: woman rejected his advances and I think it was in
- 15:55Speaker 4: Brooklyn stabda in a bodega, and it's like, you know,
- 15:57Speaker 4: this is just real.
- 15:58Speaker 2: Like you know what I'm saying.
- 15:59Speaker 4: If you got daughters, you gotta teach your daughters to yeah,
- 16:01Speaker 4: so you know this is real. They got to you know, know,
- 16:04Speaker 4: the different type of environments so they can go too hours,
- 16:06Speaker 4: how you dress, a variety of different things. I'm not
- 16:09Speaker 4: justifying anything, but you also have to be intelligent. You
- 16:11Speaker 4: don't want to put yourself in bad situations. Right, So
- 16:14Speaker 4: this is real. There's a lot of there's a lot
- 16:15Speaker 4: of men that are mentally deranged out here, and they
- 16:20Speaker 4: do crazy things for no reason.
- 16:23Speaker 2: So be mindful, ladies and gentlemen.
- 16:27Speaker 1: The woman ne gott to give their number out and
- 16:29Speaker 1: then act like they're interested to then get out the
- 16:31Speaker 1: spot and block you like what? A lot of them
- 16:36Speaker 1: sort like what you gave me a number four? What? Like? No,
- 16:38Speaker 1: I don't want him to go crazy, so I gave
- 16:39Speaker 1: it to him and.
- 16:42Speaker 2: What I got them?
- 16:45Speaker 1: And some of y'all just need to start getting beat
- 16:46Speaker 1: up too, old school facts. Y'all want to be predators. Okay, yeah,
- 16:54Speaker 1: stop it.
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