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E 327: Are We Losing Our Kids to Their Screens? Guest Kaylin Peete · Adult Child of Dysfunction

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  Welcome
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  back.
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  Today
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  we
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  have
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  with
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  US
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  Kaylyn
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  Pete.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  specialist
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  Family
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  Online.
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  Safety
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  Institute
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  and
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  a
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  former
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  educator.
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  She
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  is
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  pass
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  passionate
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  about
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  supporting
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  young
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  people
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  and
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  helping
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  families
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  build
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  open,
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  honest
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  conversations
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  around
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  digital
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  life.
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  Drawing
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  on
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  our
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  experience
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  working
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  with
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  marginalized
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  youth
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  in
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  the
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  classroom,
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  I
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  actually
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  have
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  a
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  book
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  that
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  I
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  wrote
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  and
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  it's
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  about
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  dis
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  reaching
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  out
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  to
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  the
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  disconnected
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  youth
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  in
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  the
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  classroom.
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  It's
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  all
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  about
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  empowering
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  the
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  children
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  with
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  just
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  connection
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  and
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  love
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  without
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  having
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  to
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  single,
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  single
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  them
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  out.
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  So
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  talk
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  about,
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  well,
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  let's
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  just,
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  I'm
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  just
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  gonna
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  jump
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  in
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  and,
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  and
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  ask
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  you
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  a
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  few
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  questions,
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  but
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  before
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  we
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  get
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  going,
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  what
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  was
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  it,
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  your
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  teaching
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  career
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  that
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  made
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  you
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  realize
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  how,
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  how
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  disconnected
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  and
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  how
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  unsafe
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  and
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  how
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  un.
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  Unconnected,
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  I
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  guess
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  some
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  of
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  these
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  children
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  were.
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  I
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  think
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  so.
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  I
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  mean,
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  I
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  think
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  the
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  classroom,
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  it
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  provides
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  a
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  specific,
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  I
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  guess,
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  perspective
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  that
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  you
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  wouldn't
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  get
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  outside
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  of
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  the
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  classroom.
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  And
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  it,
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  it
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  helps
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  me
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  approach
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  my
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  work
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  today
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  more
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  humanistically,
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  which
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  I
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  think
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  is
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  a
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  really
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  important
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  component
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  that
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  people
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  miss.
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  You
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  know,
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  when
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  you
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  teach,
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  you
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  see
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  firsthand
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  how
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  tech
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  impacts
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  kids
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  and
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  their
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  wellbeing.
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  I
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  think
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  it
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  really
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  gave
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  me
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  the
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  chance
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  to
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  see
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  how
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  these
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  social
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  dynamics
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  are
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  playing
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  out.
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  I
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  taught
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  ninth
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  through
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  12th
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  math.
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  So
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  teaching,
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  you
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  know,
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  teens
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  math
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  is
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  also
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  just
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  an
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  interesting
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  journey
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  in
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  and
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  of
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  itself.
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  But
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  you
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  really
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  see
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  how
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  technology
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  can
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  open
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  the
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  doors
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  for
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  some
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  and
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  close
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  the
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  doors
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  for
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  others.
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  Absolutely.
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  I
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  think
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  the
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  biggest
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  thing
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  I
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  saw
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  is
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  that
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  there
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  is
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  a
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  disconnect,
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  right?
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  So
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  there's
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  a
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  disconnect
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  between
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  what
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  kids
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  are
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  experiencing,
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  what
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  parents
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  think
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  they're
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  experiencing,
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  and
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  also
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  kind
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  of
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  what
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  educators
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  think
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  that
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  kind
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  of
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  both
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  parties,
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  how,
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  how
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  they
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  kind
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  of
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  fit
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  together.
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  And
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  so
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  some
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  of
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  the
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  ways
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  that
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  kids
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  were
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  using
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  tech,
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  whether
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  it
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  was
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  in
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  positive
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  ways,
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  you
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  know,
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  as
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  homework
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  support
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  or
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  even
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  negative
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  ways,
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  right?
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  Something
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  kind
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  of
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  as
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  bad
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  as
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  bullying.
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  Parents
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  weren't
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  really
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  aware
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  of
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  this,
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  sometimes
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  gave
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  their
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  teen
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  a
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  phone,
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  and
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  that
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  was
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  kind
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  of
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  the
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  end
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  of
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  the
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  conversation.
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  It
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  wasn't
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  what
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  were
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  you
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  doing
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  on
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  this
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  phone?
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  What
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  apps
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  do
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  you
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  have
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  on
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  this
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  phone?
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  You
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  know,
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  how
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  are
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  you
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  interacting
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  with
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  peers?
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  It
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  was
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  just
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  kind
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  of,
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  here
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  you
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  go,
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  you're
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  13,
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  you
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  know,
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  happy
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  birthday
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  and
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  we,
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  you
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  know,
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  we'll,
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  we'll
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  talk
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  about
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  this
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  a
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  few
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  years
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  down
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  the
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  line.
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  So
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  it,
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  it
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  really
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  is,
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  conversations
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  were
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  missing.
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  Absolutely.
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  And
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  do
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  you
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  find
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  that
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  kids.
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  I
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  think
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  this
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  is
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  one
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  of
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  my
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  biggest
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  fears
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  right
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  now
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  is
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  that
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  kids
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  are
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  reaching
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  out
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  and
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  I
• 2:23
  think
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  I
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  just
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  read
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  an
• 2:23
  article
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  not
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  too
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  long
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  ago
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  about
• 2:25
  a
• 2:25
  kid
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  that
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  was,
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  or
• 2:26
  a
• 2:26
  parent
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  that
• 2:27
  was
• 2:27
  suing
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  one
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  of
• 2:28
  the
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  ais
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  because
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  her
• 2:30
  child
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  had
• 2:31
  actually
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  befriended,
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  quote
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  unquote,
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  the
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  chat
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  GTP
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  and
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  GPT,
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  and
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  it
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  ended
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  up
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  hurting
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  himself.
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  Yeah,
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  because
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  you
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  know,
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  because
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  it
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  was
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  like,
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  I,
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  I
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  can
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  only
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  imagine
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  that
• 2:45
  children,
• 2:45
  they
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  use
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  Google.
• 2:47
  Like
• 2:47
  they're
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  talking
• 2:48
  to
• 2:48
  a
• 2:48
  person,
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  right?
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  They
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  do.
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  And
• 2:53
  it,
• 2:53
  it's
• 2:54
  a
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  bit
• 2:54
  concerning.
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  We
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  actually
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  just
• 2:55
  did
• 2:55
  some
• 2:55
  research
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  on
• 2:56
  this,
• 2:56
  you
• 2:56
  know,
• 2:56
  a
• 2:56
  month
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  or
• 2:57
  two
• 2:57
  ago,
• 2:57
  and
• 2:57
  we
• 2:58
  found
• 2:58
  that
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  nearly
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  60%
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  of
• 3:00
  teens
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  are
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  using
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  AI
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  every
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  day.
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  Right.
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  So
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  that's
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  a
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  very,
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  very
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  large
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  percentage.
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  And
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  as
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  you
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  spoke
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  to,
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  some
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  are
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  kind
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  of
• 3:06
  using
• 3:06
  this
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  as
• 3:08
  homework
• 3:08
  support
• 3:09
  or,
• 3:09
  you
• 3:09
  know,
• 3:10
  for
• 3:10
  academic
• 3:11
  support
• 3:11
  and
• 3:11
  others
• 3:11
  are
• 3:12
  kind
• 3:12
  of
• 3:12
  leaning
• 3:12
  more
• 3:12
  into
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  this,
• 3:13
  emotional
• 3:14
  aspect
• 3:15
  and
• 3:15
  so,
• 3:16
  you
• 3:16
  know,
• 3:16
  they're
• 3:16
  creating
• 3:17
  these
• 3:17
  relationships
• 3:18
  with
• 3:18
  chatbots
• 3:19
  and,
• 3:19
  you
• 3:20
  know,
• 3:20
  depending
• 3:20
  on
• 3:20
  their
• 3:20
  age,
• 3:21
  some
• 3:22
  children,
• 3:22
  you
• 3:22
  know,
• 3:22
  if
• 3:22
  they're,
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  know,
• 3:23
  as
• 3:23
  young
• 3:23
  as
• 3:23
  let's
• 3:24
  say
• 3:24
  seven
• 3:24
  or
• 3:24
  eight,
• 3:24
  or
• 3:25
  as
• 3:25
  you
• 3:25
  know,
• 3:25
  as
• 3:25
  old
• 3:25
  as
• 3:26
  teens,
• 3:26
  they're
• 3:27
  not
• 3:27
  able
• 3:27
  to
• 3:28
  make
• 3:28
  that
• 3:28
  distinction
• 3:29
  that
• 3:29
  this
• 3:29
  isn't
• 3:29
  a
• 3:29
  person,
• 3:30
  this
• 3:31
  doesn't
• 3:31
  have
• 3:31
  feelings.
• 3:32
  And
• 3:32
  this
• 3:32
  doesn't
• 3:33
  necessarily
• 3:33
  have
• 3:34
  my
• 3:34
  best
• 3:34
  intent
• 3:34
  in
• 3:35
  mind.
• 3:35
  Especially
• 3:36
  when
• 3:36
  they're
• 3:36
  in
• 3:36
  situations
• 3:37
  where
• 3:37
  they're
• 3:37
  in
• 3:37
  a
• 3:37
  mental
• 3:38
  health
• 3:38
  crisis.
• 3:38
  And
• 3:39
  you're
• 3:39
  talking
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  chat.
• 3:41
  That
• 3:41
  doesn't
• 3:41
  have
• 3:41
  medical
• 3:42
  training,
• 3:42
  and
• 3:42
  so
• 3:42
  it
• 3:43
  really
• 3:43
  kind
• 3:43
  of
• 3:43
  hits
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  wall.
• 3:44
  Absolutely.
• 3:45
  I
• 3:45
  can
• 3:45
  only
• 3:46
  imagine
• 3:46
  because
• 3:46
  I
• 3:47
  see
• 3:48
  some
• 3:48
  of
• 3:48
  the
• 3:48
  chats
• 3:49
  and
• 3:49
  I'm
• 3:49
  like,
• 3:49
  oh
• 3:49
  my
• 3:49
  goodness.
• 3:50
  I
• 3:50
  guess
• 3:51
  that's
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  problem.
• 3:51
  I
• 3:51
  guess
• 3:52
  there
• 3:52
  is
• 3:52
  that
• 3:52
  disconnect
• 3:53
  with
• 3:53
  the
• 3:53
  human
• 3:54
  and
• 3:55
  so
• 3:55
  they
• 3:55
  feel
• 3:55
  like,
• 3:55
  especially
• 3:56
  kids
• 3:56
  in
• 3:57
  these
• 3:57
  hor,
• 3:58
  not
• 3:58
  horrible,
• 3:58
  but
• 3:59
  even
• 4:00
  disconnected
• 4:00
  lives
• 4:01
  from
• 4:01
  their
• 4:01
  parents,
• 4:02
  from
• 4:02
  their
• 4:02
  teachers,
• 4:02
  from
• 4:03
  their
• 4:03
  peers,
• 4:03
  you
• 4:03
  know,
• 4:03
  going
• 4:04
  through
• 4:04
  some
• 4:04
  kind
• 4:04
  of
• 4:04
  crises.
• 4:06
  And
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  know,
• 4:06
  we
• 4:06
  spoke
• 4:07
  with
• 4:07
  teens,
• 4:08
  at
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  community
• 4:09
  center
• 4:09
  a
• 4:09
  few
• 4:09
  weeks
• 4:09
  ago
• 4:10
  when
• 4:10
  they
• 4:10
  said
• 4:10
  that
• 4:11
  when
• 4:11
  they
• 4:11
  talk
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  a
• 4:11
  chatbot,
• 4:12
  it
• 4:12
  feels
• 4:12
  like
• 4:12
  there's
• 4:13
  less
• 4:13
  pressure,
• 4:14
  there's
• 4:14
  less
• 4:14
  judgment.
• 4:15
  And
• 4:15
  so
• 4:15
  they
• 4:15
  can
• 4:15
  ask
• 4:16
  these
• 4:16
  deep
• 4:17
  questions
• 4:17
  or
• 4:17
  talk
• 4:17
  about
• 4:18
  these
• 4:18
  deep
• 4:18
  emotions,
• 4:19
  in
• 4:19
  a
• 4:19
  judgment
• 4:20
  free
• 4:20
  zone.
• 4:21
  And,
• 4:21
  you
• 4:22
  know,
• 4:22
  whether
• 4:22
  that
• 4:22
  chatbot
• 4:23
  responds
• 4:23
  appropriately
• 4:24
  as,
• 4:24
  you
• 4:24
  know,
• 4:24
  something
• 4:25
  very,
• 4:25
  very
• 4:26
  different.
• 4:26
  But,
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  know,
• 4:27
  I
• 4:27
  think
• 4:27
  what
• 4:27
  we're
• 4:27
  lacking
• 4:28
  is.
• 4:29
  These
• 4:30
  comfortable
• 4:30
  spaces
• 4:31
  for
• 4:31
  teens
• 4:31
  to
• 4:31
  have
• 4:31
  these
• 4:32
  conversations
• 4:32
  with
• 4:33
  real
• 4:33
  people,
• 4:33
  whether
• 4:34
  that's
• 4:34
  a
• 4:34
  parent,
• 4:34
  a
• 4:34
  caregiver,
• 4:35
  or
• 4:35
  even
• 4:36
  an
• 4:36
  educator.
• 4:37
  It
• 4:37
  really
• 4:37
  shows
• 4:37
  that
• 4:38
  these
• 4:38
  spaces
• 4:39
  haven't
• 4:39
  been
• 4:39
  created
• 4:40
  and
• 4:40
  they
• 4:40
  need
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  be.
• 4:41
  And
• 4:41
  I
• 4:41
  remember
• 4:41
  when
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  was
• 4:42
  teaching,
• 4:42
  and
• 4:42
  I
• 4:43
  taught
• 4:43
  first
• 4:43
  grade
• 4:43
  for
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  little
• 4:44
  bit,
• 4:44
  but
• 4:45
  in
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  school
• 4:45
  there
• 4:45
  was
• 4:46
  always
• 4:46
  what
• 4:46
  they
• 4:46
  called,
• 4:47
  I
• 4:47
  think
• 4:47
  they
• 4:47
  called
• 4:47
  it
• 4:47
  like
• 4:48
  the
• 4:48
  safe
• 4:48
  zone
• 4:49
  or
• 4:49
  some
• 4:49
  kind
• 4:49
  of
• 4:49
  zone
• 4:50
  where
• 4:50
  if
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  had
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  question,
• 4:51
  had
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  problem,
• 4:52
  needed
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  tell
• 4:54
  somebody
• 4:54
  something,
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  would
• 4:55
  go
• 4:55
  into
• 4:55
  this
• 4:56
  certain
• 4:56
  room.
• 4:57
  I
• 4:57
  remember
• 4:59
  always
• 4:59
  thinking
• 5:00
  nobody's
• 5:00
  gonna
• 5:01
  walk
• 5:01
  in
• 5:01
  that
• 5:01
  room
• 5:02
  because
• 5:02
  the
• 5:02
  minute
• 5:02
  you
• 5:02
  got
• 5:03
  seen
• 5:03
  going
• 5:04
  in
• 5:04
  that
• 5:04
  room,
• 5:06
  you
• 5:06
  know,
• 5:06
  it's
• 5:06
  almost
• 5:06
  like
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  was
• 5:07
  like,
• 5:07
  they
• 5:07
  should
• 5:08
  have
• 5:08
  like
• 5:08
  an
• 5:08
  anonymous
• 5:09
  box
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  say,
• 5:09
  Hey,
• 5:10
  meet
• 5:10
  me
• 5:10
  here,
• 5:10
  like
• 5:10
  with
• 5:11
  a
• 5:11
  teacher,
• 5:11
  because
• 5:12
  nobody
• 5:12
  would
• 5:12
  walk
• 5:12
  in
• 5:12
  the
• 5:12
  room.
• 5:13
  Because
• 5:13
  that's
• 5:13
  the
• 5:13
  problem
• 5:14
  is
• 5:14
  there's
• 5:14
  so
• 5:14
  much
• 5:15
  shame
• 5:15
  and
• 5:15
  stigma
• 5:16
  around
• 5:17
  what's
• 5:18
  going
• 5:18
  on
• 5:18
  in
• 5:18
  these
• 5:19
  children's
• 5:19
  lives
• 5:19
  that
• 5:20
  they
• 5:20
  feel
• 5:20
  like
• 5:20
  they
• 5:20
  can't
• 5:21
  talk
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  anybody.
• 5:24
  And
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  know,
• 5:24
  I
• 5:25
  think
• 5:25
  that's
• 5:25
  a
• 5:25
  perfect
• 5:26
  example
• 5:26
  of
• 5:26
  how,
• 5:27
  you
• 5:27
  know,
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  intent
• 5:28
  was
• 5:28
  there.
• 5:28
  We
• 5:28
  want
• 5:29
  to
• 5:29
  create
• 5:29
  these
• 5:29
  safe
• 5:30
  spaces,
• 5:30
  but
• 5:30
  it
• 5:30
  kind
• 5:31
  of
• 5:31
  has
• 5:31
  the
• 5:31
  opposite
• 5:31
  effect.
• 5:32
  And
• 5:32
  like
• 5:32
  you
• 5:32
  said,
• 5:33
  no
• 5:33
  one
• 5:33
  is
• 5:33
  ever
• 5:33
  gonna
• 5:33
  go
• 5:34
  in
• 5:34
  that
• 5:34
  room
• 5:34
  and
• 5:34
  so
• 5:34
  these
• 5:34
  conversations
• 5:35
  aren't
• 5:35
  going
• 5:35
  to
• 5:35
  be
• 5:36
  had.
• 5:36
  And
• 5:36
  so,
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  know,
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  think
• 5:38
  conversations
• 5:38
  are
• 5:38
  what
• 5:39
  we
• 5:39
  really
• 5:39
  like
• 5:39
  to
• 5:39
  tell
• 5:39
  parents.
• 5:40
  You
• 5:40
  know,
• 5:40
  if
• 5:40
  nothing
• 5:41
  else,
• 5:42
  just
• 5:42
  a
• 5:42
  simple.
• 5:43
  You
• 5:43
  know,
• 5:43
  effective
• 5:44
  conversation
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  what
• 5:45
  are
• 5:45
  you
• 5:45
  doing
• 5:46
  online?
• 5:46
  You
• 5:46
  know,
• 5:47
  what
• 5:47
  friends
• 5:47
  are
• 5:47
  you
• 5:48
  talking
• 5:48
  to?
• 5:48
  What
• 5:49
  apps
• 5:49
  do
• 5:49
  you
• 5:49
  have
• 5:49
  on
• 5:49
  your
• 5:50
  phone?
• 5:50
  It
• 5:50
  kind
• 5:50
  of
• 5:51
  opens
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  door.
• 5:52
  And
• 5:52
  so
• 5:52
  again,
• 5:52
  you
• 5:53
  don't
• 5:53
  want
• 5:53
  it
• 5:53
  to
• 5:53
  feel
• 5:53
  like
• 5:53
  you're
• 5:53
  interrogating
• 5:54
  them,
• 5:54
  right?
• 5:54
  Because
• 5:54
  if
• 5:55
  it's
• 5:55
  a
• 5:55
  team
• 5:55
  that's
• 5:55
  not
• 5:55
  gonna
• 5:56
  work,
• 5:56
  right?
• 5:56
  But
• 5:56
  just
• 5:57
  opening
• 5:57
  the
• 5:57
  door
• 5:58
  to
• 5:58
  those
• 5:58
  conversations,
• 5:59
  you
• 6:00
  know,
• 6:00
  that's
• 6:00
  step
• 6:00
  one
• 6:00
  in
• 6:01
  creating
• 6:01
  those
• 6:01
  safe
• 6:02
  spaces.
• 6:02
  And
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  continuously
• 6:03
  builds
• 6:04
  right
• 6:04
  as
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  have
• 6:04
  more
• 6:05
  and
• 6:05
  more
• 6:05
  and
• 6:05
  continue
• 6:06
  to
• 6:06
  engage
• 6:06
  with
• 6:06
  your
• 6:06
  child.
• 6:07
  And,
• 6:08
  turn
• 6:08
  them,
• 6:08
  literally
• 6:09
  flipped
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  girl
• 6:09
  against
• 6:10
  her
• 6:10
  parents.
• 6:11
  And
• 6:11
  then
• 6:12
  she,
• 6:12
  I
• 6:12
  guess
• 6:12
  he
• 6:12
  asked
• 6:13
  for
• 6:13
  a
• 6:13
  picture
• 6:14
  and
• 6:14
  so
• 6:14
  she
• 6:14
  sent
• 6:15
  a
• 6:15
  picture
• 6:15
  and
• 6:15
  then
• 6:15
  once
• 6:16
  she
• 6:16
  sent
• 6:16
  that
• 6:16
  picture,
• 6:16
  it
• 6:17
  was
• 6:17
  all
• 6:17
  over.
• 6:18
  Yeah.
• 6:18
  And
• 6:18
  she
• 6:18
  was
• 6:18
  like,
• 6:19
  don't
• 6:19
  do
• 6:19
  this
• 6:19
  to
• 6:19
  me.
• 6:19
  And
• 6:20
  he
• 6:20
  literally,
• 6:20
  it
• 6:20
  ended
• 6:21
  by
• 6:21
  him
• 6:21
  saying,
• 6:21
  you
• 6:22
  did
• 6:22
  this
• 6:22
  to
• 6:22
  yourself
• 6:23
  and.
• 6:24
  I
• 6:24
  like
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  watch
• 6:25
  the,
• 6:26
  the
• 6:26
  faces
• 6:27
  of
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  kids
• 6:28
  in
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  room
• 6:28
  that
• 6:28
  are
• 6:29
  like,
• 6:29
  wow,
• 6:30
  that
• 6:30
  that
• 6:30
  could
• 6:30
  be
• 6:31
  me.
• 6:31
  That
• 6:32
  started
• 6:32
  so
• 6:33
  innocently.
• 6:35
  Yeah.
• 6:35
  You
• 6:36
  know,
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  brings
• 6:36
  a
• 6:36
  good
• 6:36
  point.
• 6:37
  You
• 6:37
  know,
• 6:37
  I
• 6:37
  think
• 6:37
  that
• 6:38
  kind
• 6:38
  of
• 6:38
  in
• 6:38
  this
• 6:39
  space
• 6:39
  we
• 6:39
  have
• 6:40
  this
• 6:40
  struggle
• 6:40
  with,
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  know,
• 6:41
  educating
• 6:42
  children,
• 6:43
  but
• 6:43
  trying
• 6:44
  not
• 6:44
  to
• 6:44
  use
• 6:44
  that
• 6:44
  kind
• 6:45
  of
• 6:45
  fear-based
• 6:46
  rhetoric.
• 6:46
  And
• 6:46
  so,
• 6:47
  sometimes.
• 6:48
  If
• 6:49
  you
• 6:49
  don't
• 6:49
  evoke
• 6:49
  a
• 6:49
  little
• 6:50
  bit
• 6:50
  of,
• 6:50
  worry,
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  child
• 6:51
  might
• 6:52
  not
• 6:52
  listen,
• 6:52
  but
• 6:52
  it
• 6:52
  sounds
• 6:53
  like,
• 6:53
  from
• 6:53
  your
• 6:53
  story
• 6:54
  that
• 6:54
  after
• 6:54
  watching
• 6:55
  that,
• 6:55
  kids
• 6:55
  were
• 6:55
  like,
• 6:56
  oh
• 6:56
  my
• 6:56
  gosh,
• 6:57
  this
• 6:57
  is
• 6:57
  real.
• 6:58
  This
• 6:58
  can
• 6:58
  happen
• 6:59
  and
• 6:59
  it
• 6:59
  can
• 6:59
  happen
• 6:59
  to
• 6:59
  anyone.
• 7:00
  And
• 7:00
  so
• 7:01
  it's
• 7:01
  really
• 7:01
  walking
• 7:01
  that
• 7:02
  balance
• 7:02
  okay.
• 7:02
  Of
• 7:03
  how
• 7:03
  can
• 7:03
  we
• 7:03
  meet
• 7:03
  kids
• 7:04
  where
• 7:04
  they
• 7:04
  are
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  how
• 7:05
  can
• 7:05
  we
• 7:05
  get
• 7:05
  them
• 7:05
  engaged?
• 7:06
  Because
• 7:06
  when
• 7:06
  you
• 7:07
  say
• 7:07
  you
• 7:07
  wanna
• 7:07
  talk
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  'em
• 7:07
  about
• 7:08
  digital
• 7:08
  safety
• 7:08
  or
• 7:09
  extortion,
• 7:10
  you
• 7:10
  know
• 7:10
  it's
• 7:10
  in
• 7:11
  one
• 7:11
  ear
• 7:11
  out
• 7:11
  the
• 7:11
  other.
• 7:12
  So
• 7:12
  it's
• 7:12
  right.
• 7:12
  Where,
• 7:13
  where
• 7:13
  can
• 7:13
  we
• 7:13
  meet
• 7:13
  them,
• 7:14
  where
• 7:14
  they
• 7:14
  are?
• 7:15
  Right.
• 7:15
  And
• 7:16
  it
• 7:16
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• 7:16
  just
• 7:16
  kind
• 7:16
  of
• 7:16
  a,
• 7:17
  it
• 7:17
  was
• 7:17
  a
• 7:17
  obviously
• 7:18
  something
• 7:18
  they
• 7:18
  had
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  do.
• 7:19
  Their
• 7:19
  class
• 7:19
  was
• 7:19
  all
• 7:19
  brought
• 7:20
  in
• 7:20
  there.
• 7:20
  Yeah.
• 7:21
  But
• 7:21
  it
• 7:21
  is,
• 7:22
  it
• 7:22
  hopefully
• 7:23
  invoked
• 7:24
  more.
• 7:24
  So
• 7:25
  then
• 7:25
  it,
• 7:25
  it
• 7:25
  was
• 7:26
  left
• 7:26
  up
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  the
• 7:26
  teachers
• 7:27
  because
• 7:27
  you
• 7:28
  could
• 7:28
  see
• 7:28
  on
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  faces
• 7:30
  of
• 7:30
  the
• 7:30
  children,
• 7:30
  like.
• 7:31
  The
• 7:31
  kids
• 7:32
  that
• 7:32
  had
• 7:32
  clearly
• 7:33
  probably
• 7:34
  sent
• 7:34
  some
• 7:35
  pictures
• 7:35
  and
• 7:35
  selfies
• 7:36
  and,
• 7:36
  and
• 7:36
  so
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  really
• 7:37
  approached
• 7:38
  it
• 7:38
  because
• 7:38
  I
• 7:38
  think
• 7:38
  that's
• 7:39
  the
• 7:39
  biggest
• 7:39
  thing
• 7:39
  too,
• 7:39
  is
• 7:40
  approaching
• 7:40
  it
• 7:41
  with
• 7:41
  no
• 7:41
  guilt
• 7:41
  and
• 7:42
  shame.
• 7:42
  Approaching
• 7:43
  it
• 7:43
  with,
• 7:43
  if
• 7:44
  this
• 7:44
  has
• 7:44
  happened
• 7:45
  to
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  or
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  see
• 7:46
  a
• 7:46
  friend
• 7:46
  this
• 7:47
  happening
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  you,
• 7:47
  it's
• 7:48
  not
• 7:48
  your
• 7:48
  fault,
• 7:49
  it
• 7:49
  is
• 7:49
  human
• 7:49
  nature
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  respond
• 7:50
  the
• 7:51
  way
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  did,
• 7:52
  but
• 7:52
  now
• 7:53
  let's,
• 7:53
  we,
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  have
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  fix
• 7:54
  it
• 7:54
  because
• 7:56
  it's,
• 7:57
  it's
• 7:57
  dangerous.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:59
  so
• 7:59
  whether
• 7:59
  that's
• 7:59
  creating
• 8:00
  webinars
• 8:00
  with
• 8:01
  both
• 8:01
  parents
• 8:01
  and
• 8:01
  experts,
• 8:02
  whether
• 8:02
  that's
• 8:03
  using
• 8:03
  our
• 8:03
  research
• 8:04
  to
• 8:04
  create
• 8:04
  resources
• 8:05
  for
• 8:05
  parents,
• 8:06
  we've
• 8:06
  had
• 8:07
  resources
• 8:07
  about
• 8:07
  notification
• 8:08
  app.
• 8:09
  Which
• 8:09
  are
• 8:09
  becoming,
• 8:10
  more
• 8:10
  popular
• 8:11
  now
• 8:11
  with
• 8:11
  the
• 8:11
  rise
• 8:11
  of
• 8:12
  ai.
• 8:12
  We've
• 8:13
  had,
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  know,
• 8:14
  just
• 8:14
  digital
• 8:14
  wellbeing,
• 8:15
  conversation
• 8:15
  starters,
• 8:16
  kind
• 8:16
  of,
• 8:16
  we
• 8:16
  run
• 8:17
  the
• 8:17
  gamut
• 8:17
  of,
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  know,
• 8:17
  what
• 8:18
  parents
• 8:18
  are
• 8:18
  looking
• 8:18
  for.
• 8:19
  We
• 8:19
  also
• 8:20
  talk
• 8:20
  with
• 8:20
  parents
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  children
• 8:21
  directly.
• 8:22
  So
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  was
• 8:22
  speaking
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  you.
• 8:23
  Earlier
• 8:23
  on
• 8:23
  in
• 8:23
  our
• 8:24
  conversation,
• 8:24
  we
• 8:25
  had
• 8:25
  an
• 8:25
  event
• 8:25
  at
• 8:25
  a
• 8:25
  community
• 8:26
  center
• 8:26
  where
• 8:26
  we
• 8:26
  were
• 8:26
  speaking
• 8:27
  directly
• 8:27
  with
• 8:27
  teens,
• 8:28
  directly
• 8:28
  with
• 8:28
  parents,
• 8:29
  because
• 8:29
  we
• 8:29
  wanna
• 8:29
  hear
• 8:30
  what
• 8:30
  they're
• 8:30
  dealing
• 8:30
  with.
• 8:30
  Right.
• 8:31
  You
• 8:31
  know,
• 8:31
  you
• 8:31
  can
• 8:31
  Right.
• 8:32
  Kind
• 8:32
  of
• 8:32
  assume
• 8:32
  and
• 8:32
  try
• 8:33
  to
• 8:33
  guess,
• 8:33
  but
• 8:33
  unless
• 8:33
  it's
• 8:34
  from
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  parent
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  from
• 8:35
  the
• 8:35
  teen,
• 8:35
  you're,
• 8:36
  you're
• 8:36
  never
• 8:36
  gonna
• 8:36
  know
• 8:36
  if
• 8:36
  you're,
• 8:37
  you're
• 8:37
  solving
• 8:37
  or
• 8:37
  helping
• 8:38
  the
• 8:38
  problem.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:39
  what
• 8:39
  would
• 8:39
  you
• 8:40
  say
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  average
• 8:40
  screen
• 8:41
  time
• 8:41
  is
• 8:42
  for,
• 8:42
  say,
• 8:42
  a
• 8:42
  ninth
• 8:43
  grader
• 8:43
  or
• 8:43
  a
• 8:44
  high
• 8:44
  schooler?
• 8:45
  Yeah,
• 8:46
  it,
• 8:46
  you
• 8:46
  know,
• 8:46
  it
• 8:46
  depends.
• 8:47
  The
• 8:47
  American
• 8:47
  Academy
• 8:48
  of
• 8:48
  Pediatrics,
• 8:49
  says
• 8:49
  that
• 8:49
  it's
• 8:49
  between,
• 8:51
  I
• 8:51
  believe
• 8:51
  six
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  10
• 8:52
  hours
• 8:53
  a
• 8:53
  day.
• 8:54
  Yeah.
• 8:54
  Which
• 8:54
  again,
• 8:55
  at
• 8:55
  first
• 8:55
  glance,
• 8:55
  there's
• 8:56
  only
• 8:56
  24
• 8:56
  hours
• 8:57
  in
• 8:57
  the
• 8:57
  day
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  you
• 8:57
  know,
• 8:57
  eight
• 8:58
  of
• 8:58
  those
• 8:58
  are
• 8:58
  sleeping.
• 8:58
  So
• 8:59
  that
• 8:59
  sounds
• 8:59
  a
• 8:59
  bit,
• 9:00
  scary.
• 9:01
  But
• 9:01
  I,
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  know,
• 9:01
  I
• 9:01
  think
• 9:02
  it's
• 9:02
  important.
• 9:02
  We,
• 9:02
  we
• 9:03
  typically
• 9:03
  don't
• 9:03
  like
• 9:03
  to
• 9:03
  use
• 9:04
  the
• 9:04
  term
• 9:04
  screen
• 9:04
  time
• 9:05
  because
• 9:06
  screen
• 9:06
  time
• 9:06
  can
• 9:06
  include
• 9:07
  education,
• 9:08
  right?
• 9:08
  So
• 9:08
  a
• 9:08
  lot
• 9:08
  of
• 9:08
  schools
• 9:09
  these
• 9:09
  days,
• 9:10
  all
• 9:10
  the
• 9:10
  work
• 9:10
  is
• 9:10
  done
• 9:11
  on
• 9:11
  a
• 9:11
  laptop.
• 9:11
  And
• 9:11
  so
• 9:12
  that
• 9:12
  alone
• 9:12
  can
• 9:12
  mount
• 9:12
  to
• 9:13
  like
• 9:13
  five
• 9:13
  or
• 9:13
  six
• 9:13
  hours
• 9:13
  of
• 9:14
  screen
• 9:14
  time
• 9:14
  a
• 9:14
  day.
• 9:15
  You
• 9:15
  know,
• 9:15
  maybe
• 9:15
  it's
• 9:15
  some
• 9:16
  type
• 9:16
  of,
• 9:16
  video
• 9:17
  for
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  hobby
• 9:17
  that
• 9:18
  a
• 9:18
  child's
• 9:18
  learning,
• 9:18
  you
• 9:18
  know,
• 9:19
  or
• 9:19
  they
• 9:19
  learning
• 9:19
  to
• 9:19
  play
• 9:19
  the
• 9:20
  piano.
• 9:20
  Is
• 9:20
  it
• 9:20
  the
• 9:20
  guitar?
• 9:21
  And
• 9:21
  so
• 9:22
  not
• 9:22
  all
• 9:22
  screen
• 9:23
  time
• 9:23
  is
• 9:23
  equal,
• 9:23
  is
• 9:23
  what
• 9:24
  we
• 9:24
  like
• 9:24
  to
• 9:24
  say,
• 9:24
  right?
• 9:25
  Right.
• 9:26
  So
• 9:26
  I
• 9:26
  guess
• 9:26
  I'm
• 9:26
  thinking
• 9:27
  more.
• 9:28
  Just
• 9:28
  the
• 9:29
  scrolling,
• 9:29
  the
• 9:30
  looking
• 9:30
  around,
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  being
• 9:31
  curious.
• 9:31
  I
• 9:31
  mean,
• 9:32
  my
• 9:32
  son
• 9:32
  learned,
• 9:33
  taught
• 9:33
  himself
• 9:33
  how
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  play
• 9:34
  chess
• 9:34
  several
• 9:34
  years
• 9:35
  ago,
• 9:35
  and
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  think
• 9:35
  he
• 9:35
  played
• 9:36
  chess
• 9:36
  online
• 9:37
  18
• 9:37
  hours
• 9:37
  a
• 9:37
  day.
• 9:37
  Every
• 9:38
  waking
• 9:39
  moment.
• 9:39
  He
• 9:39
  was
• 9:39
  playing
• 9:39
  chess
• 9:40
  and
• 9:40
  teaching
• 9:40
  himself.
• 9:41
  Wow.
• 9:41
  And
• 9:41
  I
• 9:41
  couldn't
• 9:42
  really
• 9:42
  be
• 9:42
  angry
• 9:42
  about
• 9:43
  that.
• 9:43
  I'm
• 9:43
  like,
• 9:43
  you
• 9:43
  know
• 9:43
  what?
• 9:43
  He
• 9:43
  is
• 9:43
  a
• 9:44
  high
• 9:44
  school
• 9:44
  boy.
• 9:44
  He
• 9:44
  could
• 9:44
  be
• 9:45
  getting
• 9:45
  in
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  lot
• 9:45
  more
• 9:45
  trouble
• 9:46
  than
• 9:46
  playing
• 9:46
  chess.
• 9:47
  But
• 9:48
  I
• 9:48
  also
• 9:48
  know
• 9:48
  this
• 9:49
  is
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  same
• 9:49
  child
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  at
• 9:50
  five
• 9:50
  years
• 9:51
  old
• 9:51
  was
• 9:51
  playing
• 9:51
  Minecraft.
• 9:53
  Mm.
• 9:54
  And
• 9:54
  when
• 9:55
  I
• 9:55
  found
• 9:55
  out
• 9:55
  that
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  average
• 9:56
  age
• 9:57
  of
• 9:57
  Minecraft
• 9:58
  users
• 9:59
  was
• 9:59
  35,
• 10:02
  I
• 10:02
  was
• 10:02
  blown
• 10:03
  away.
• 10:05
  Yeah.
• 10:06
  Yeah.
• 10:06
  I,
• 10:07
  I,
• 10:07
  I
• 10:07
  think
• 10:07
  that's
• 10:07
  a
• 10:07
  common
• 10:08
  concern.
• 10:08
  I
• 10:08
  think
• 10:08
  there's
• 10:09
  a
• 10:09
  number
• 10:09
  of,
• 10:09
  similar
• 10:10
  to
• 10:10
  Minecraft,
• 10:11
  there's
• 10:11
  a
• 10:11
  number
• 10:11
  of
• 10:11
  kind
• 10:12
  of
• 10:12
  online
• 10:12
  gaming
• 10:13
  spaces
• 10:13
  like
• 10:13
  that
• 10:14
  these
• 10:14
  days
• 10:14
  that
• 10:14
  young
• 10:15
  kids
• 10:15
  kind
• 10:16
  of
• 10:16
  really
• 10:16
  enjoy
• 10:17
  playing.
• 10:17
  Mm-hmm.
• 10:18
  But
• 10:18
  you
• 10:18
  know,
• 10:18
  while
• 10:18
  there's
• 10:19
  this
• 10:19
  group
• 10:19
  of
• 10:19
  young
• 10:19
  kids
• 10:20
  that
• 10:20
  play,
• 10:20
  it's
• 10:20
  also
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  platform
• 10:21
  that's
• 10:22
  for
• 10:22
  adults,
• 10:22
  right.
• 10:22
  Several
• 10:23
  of
• 10:23
  these
• 10:23
  have
• 10:23
  both
• 10:24
  adults
• 10:24
  and
• 10:24
  young
• 10:24
  people,
• 10:25
  and
• 10:25
  so
• 10:25
  I
• 10:26
  think
• 10:26
  that's
• 10:26
  when
• 10:26
  it's
• 10:26
  really
• 10:27
  important
• 10:27
  too.
• 10:28
  When
• 10:28
  parents
• 10:29
  allow
• 10:29
  their
• 10:30
  child
• 10:30
  to
• 10:30
  play
• 10:30
  these
• 10:31
  games,
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  really
• 10:31
  have
• 10:32
  to
• 10:32
  look
• 10:32
  at
• 10:32
  what
• 10:32
  the
• 10:33
  game
• 10:33
  is,
• 10:33
  what
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  age
• 10:34
  range
• 10:34
  is,
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  to
• 10:35
  your
• 10:35
  point,
• 10:36
  who
• 10:36
  is
• 10:37
  the
• 10:37
  main
• 10:37
  group
• 10:37
  that's
• 10:37
  on
• 10:38
  this,
• 10:38
  right?
• 10:38
  Because
• 10:39
  even
• 10:39
  though
• 10:39
  a
• 10:39
  lot
• 10:39
  of
• 10:39
  them
• 10:39
  have
• 10:40
  parental
• 10:40
  controls
• 10:41
  or,
• 10:41
  certain
• 10:42
  settings
• 10:42
  for
• 10:42
  kids
• 10:42
  under
• 10:43
  18,
• 10:44
  just
• 10:44
  to
• 10:44
  be
• 10:44
  safe
• 10:45
  and
• 10:45
  just
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  make
• 10:45
  sure
• 10:45
  you're
• 10:45
  covering
• 10:46
  your
• 10:46
  bases,
• 10:46
  you've
• 10:46
  gotta
• 10:47
  do
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  research
• 10:47
  before.
• 10:48
  Talk
• 10:49
  a
• 10:49
  little
• 10:49
  bit
• 10:49
  more
• 10:49
  about
• 10:49
  that,
• 10:50
  about
• 10:50
  the
• 10:50
  online
• 10:50
  safety
• 10:51
  because.
• 10:52
  A
• 10:52
  good
• 10:52
  example
• 10:53
  is
• 10:54
  I
• 10:54
  remember
• 10:54
  asking
• 10:55
  my
• 10:55
  son,
• 10:56
  how
• 10:56
  do
• 10:56
  you
• 10:57
  have
• 10:57
  this
• 10:57
  account?
• 10:57
  Like,
• 10:58
  I
• 10:58
  think
• 10:58
  he
• 10:58
  was
• 10:58
  10
• 10:58
  or
• 10:59
  12
• 10:59
  or
• 10:59
  whatever.
• 10:59
  I'm
• 10:59
  like,
• 11:00
  how
• 11:00
  do
• 11:00
  you
• 11:00
  have
• 11:00
  this
• 11:00
  account?
• 11:01
  Oh,
• 11:01
  I've
• 11:01
  had
• 11:01
  it
• 11:01
  for
• 11:02
  four
• 11:02
  years.
• 11:02
  I
• 11:02
  signed
• 11:03
  up
• 11:03
  for
• 11:03
  it
• 11:03
  when
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  was
• 11:03
  eight
• 11:03
  and
• 11:03
  just
• 11:04
  said
• 11:04
  I
• 11:04
  was
• 11:04
  18.
• 11:06
  I
• 11:06
  know
• 11:07
  also
• 11:08
  I'm
• 11:08
  more
• 11:08
  concerned
• 11:09
  about
• 11:09
  the
• 11:09
  other
• 11:09
  people
• 11:10
  getting
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  him
• 11:11
  than
• 11:11
  him
• 11:11
  reaching
• 11:12
  out.
• 11:12
  But
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  think
• 11:13
  that's
• 11:13
  where.
• 11:14
  I
• 11:15
  think
• 11:15
  that's
• 11:15
  where
• 11:15
  the
• 11:15
  confusion
• 11:16
  starts,
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  that's
• 11:17
  where
• 11:17
  the,
• 11:17
  the
• 11:17
  danger
• 11:18
  of
• 11:18
  it
• 11:18
  starts.
• 11:19
  Yeah.
• 11:19
  Talk
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  little
• 11:19
  bit
• 11:20
  about
• 11:20
  that.
• 11:21
  I,
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  completely
• 11:21
  agree,
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  I
• 11:22
  think
• 11:22
  the
• 11:22
  number
• 11:22
  one
• 11:22
  thing
• 11:23
  that
• 11:23
  we
• 11:23
  hear
• 11:23
  from
• 11:23
  parents
• 11:24
  is
• 11:24
  that
• 11:24
  they're
• 11:24
  overwhelmed,
• 11:25
  right?
• 11:25
  And
• 11:25
  so,
• 11:26
  for
• 11:26
  example,
• 11:26
  in
• 11:26
  your
• 11:26
  son's
• 11:27
  case,
• 11:27
  I
• 11:27
  mean,
• 11:27
  there's
• 11:27
  probably
• 11:28
  several
• 11:28
  gains
• 11:29
  that
• 11:29
  he
• 11:29
  wants
• 11:29
  to
• 11:29
  have
• 11:30
  on
• 11:30
  his
• 11:30
  laptop
• 11:30
  or
• 11:31
  his
• 11:31
  phone,
• 11:31
  or,
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  know,
• 11:32
  for
• 11:32
  a
• 11:32
  teen's
• 11:32
  case,
• 11:33
  there's
• 11:33
  probably
• 11:33
  several
• 11:34
  social
• 11:34
  media
• 11:35
  platforms
• 11:35
  that
• 11:35
  they
• 11:35
  wanna
• 11:36
  have
• 11:36
  downloaded.
• 11:37
  And
• 11:37
  each
• 11:37
  of
• 11:37
  these
• 11:37
  spaces.
• 11:38
  Poses
• 11:39
  different
• 11:39
  benefits,
• 11:40
  but
• 11:40
  also
• 11:40
  different
• 11:41
  risks.
• 11:41
  And
• 11:42
  so
• 11:42
  for
• 11:42
  some
• 11:42
  of
• 11:42
  them,
• 11:42
  you
• 11:43
  know,
• 11:43
  it
• 11:43
  maybe
• 11:43
  it
• 11:43
  requires,
• 11:44
  parental
• 11:45
  consent
• 11:45
  for
• 11:45
  you
• 11:45
  to
• 11:45
  create
• 11:46
  an
• 11:46
  account
• 11:46
  and
• 11:46
  for
• 11:47
  others,
• 11:47
  you
• 11:47
  know,
• 11:47
  to
• 11:47
  your
• 11:47
  point
• 11:48
  earlier,
• 11:48
  maybe
• 11:48
  your
• 11:48
  son
• 11:49
  can
• 11:49
  just
• 11:49
  say
• 11:49
  that
• 11:49
  he
• 11:50
  was
• 11:50
  born
• 11:50
  in
• 11:50
  1990
• 11:51
  and
• 11:51
  then
• 11:51
  he,
• 11:52
  he's
• 11:52
  on
• 11:52
  the
• 11:52
  platform.
• 11:53
  And
• 11:53
  so
• 11:53
  we
• 11:53
  really
• 11:54
  like
• 11:54
  to
• 11:54
  tell
• 11:54
  parents
• 11:55
  that.
• 11:57
  The
• 11:57
  first
• 11:58
  step
• 11:58
  is
• 11:58
  always
• 11:58
  conversation.
• 11:59
  Second
• 11:59
  step
• 12:00
  is
• 12:00
  parental
• 12:00
  controls.
• 12:01
  And
• 12:01
  so
• 12:01
  whether
• 12:02
  that's,
• 12:02
  you
• 12:02
  know,
• 12:02
  parental
• 12:03
  controls,
• 12:03
  let's
• 12:03
  say
• 12:04
  on,
• 12:04
  a
• 12:04
  phone
• 12:05
  or
• 12:05
  a
• 12:05
  desktop,
• 12:06
  you
• 12:06
  know,
• 12:06
  that
• 12:06
  helps
• 12:07
  to,
• 12:07
  it's
• 12:07
  kinda
• 12:08
  like
• 12:08
  the
• 12:08
  first
• 12:08
  line
• 12:08
  of
• 12:08
  defense.
• 12:09
  And
• 12:09
  then
• 12:09
  second
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  that
• 12:10
  is
• 12:10
  the.
• 12:11
  App
• 12:11
  specific
• 12:12
  or
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  game
• 12:12
  specific
• 12:13
  parental
• 12:13
  controls.
• 12:14
  And
• 12:14
  so
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  know
• 12:15
  that
• 12:15
  again,
• 12:16
  parents
• 12:16
  are
• 12:16
  overwhelmed
• 12:17
  and
• 12:17
  to
• 12:17
  go
• 12:17
  through
• 12:18
  all
• 12:18
  of
• 12:18
  these
• 12:18
  steps
• 12:19
  just
• 12:19
  to
• 12:19
  make
• 12:19
  sure
• 12:19
  a
• 12:19
  child's
• 12:20
  safe
• 12:20
  is
• 12:20
  a
• 12:20
  little
• 12:21
  bit
• 12:21
  daunting,
• 12:21
  but,
• 12:22
  you
• 12:22
  know,
• 12:22
  that's
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  most
• 12:23
  kind
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  safe
• 12:23
  and
• 12:23
  sure
• 12:23
  way
• 12:24
  to
• 12:24
  do
• 12:24
  it.
• 12:25
  Well,
• 12:25
  and
• 12:25
  I
• 12:25
  think
• 12:26
  it's,
• 12:26
  parents
• 12:26
  especially
• 12:27
  stand
• 12:27
  back
• 12:28
  and
• 12:28
  go,
• 12:28
  they
• 12:28
  don't,
• 12:29
  a
• 12:29
  lot
• 12:29
  of
• 12:29
  parents
• 12:29
  just
• 12:29
  don't
• 12:30
  understand.
• 12:30
  We,
• 12:30
  they
• 12:30
  didn't
• 12:30
  have
• 12:31
  the
• 12:31
  internet
• 12:31
  growing
• 12:32
  up,
• 12:32
  so
• 12:33
  they're,
• 12:33
  they
• 12:33
  don't
• 12:34
  understand
• 12:34
  the
• 12:34
  dangers.
• 12:35
  They
• 12:35
  don't
• 12:35
  understand
• 12:36
  the
• 12:36
  whole,
• 12:36
  I
• 12:36
  mean,
• 12:37
  I
• 12:37
  was
• 12:37
  on
• 12:37
  the,
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  side
• 12:39
  of
• 12:39
  working
• 12:39
  for
• 12:39
  a
• 12:39
  company
• 12:40
  that
• 12:40
  did
• 12:41
  human
• 12:41
  trafficking
• 12:42
  and,
• 12:42
  and
• 12:42
  help
• 12:42
  protect
• 12:43
  human
• 12:43
  traffick
• 12:43
  victims,
• 12:45
  victims.
• 12:45
  But
• 12:46
  the
• 12:47
  number
• 12:47
  of
• 12:49
  human
• 12:49
  trafficked
• 12:50
  victims
• 12:51
  that
• 12:51
  were
• 12:51
  literally
• 12:52
  groomed
• 12:52
  online
• 12:53
  is
• 12:53
  astronomical.
• 12:55
  And
• 12:55
  so
• 12:55
  it's,
• 12:56
  but
• 12:56
  people
• 12:56
  say,
• 12:56
  well,
• 12:56
  it
• 12:56
  couldn't
• 12:57
  happen
• 12:57
  to
• 12:57
  me.
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  have
• 12:58
  those
• 12:58
  controls
• 12:58
  in
• 12:59
  place.
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  have
• 12:59
  this
• 13:00
  in
• 13:00
  place.
• 13:01
  What
• 13:01
  would
• 13:01
  you
• 13:02
  say
• 13:02
  is
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  best
• 13:03
  way
• 13:03
  for
• 13:03
  parents
• 13:04
  to
• 13:05
  really
• 13:05
  know
• 13:05
  that
• 13:06
  they
• 13:06
  have
• 13:06
  them
• 13:06
  in
• 13:06
  place
• 13:06
  and
• 13:07
  then
• 13:07
  also
• 13:07
  kind
• 13:08
  of
• 13:08
  hold
• 13:08
  those
• 13:08
  boundaries
• 13:09
  with
• 13:09
  their
• 13:09
  children
• 13:10
  without
• 13:10
  it
• 13:10
  being
• 13:10
  a
• 13:10
  constant
• 13:11
  battle?
• 13:12
  I
• 13:13
  think
• 13:13
  that
• 13:13
  that
• 13:14
  second
• 13:14
  part
• 13:14
  is
• 13:14
  especially
• 13:15
  a
• 13:15
  bit
• 13:15
  difficult
• 13:16
  because
• 13:16
  even
• 13:16
  if
• 13:16
  you
• 13:17
  have,
• 13:17
  control
• 13:18
  specific
• 13:18
  to
• 13:18
  your
• 13:18
  household,
• 13:19
  as
• 13:19
  soon
• 13:20
  as
• 13:20
  a
• 13:20
  child
• 13:20
  hangs
• 13:20
  out
• 13:21
  with
• 13:21
  a
• 13:21
  friend
• 13:21
  or
• 13:21
  as
• 13:22
  soon
• 13:22
  as
• 13:22
  they
• 13:22
  go
• 13:22
  into
• 13:22
  a
• 13:22
  school
• 13:23
  environment,
• 13:23
  and
• 13:23
  if
• 13:23
  everyone
• 13:24
  has
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  app
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  they
• 13:25
  don't.
• 13:26
  So,
• 13:26
  we
• 13:27
  like
• 13:27
  to
• 13:27
  tell
• 13:27
  parents
• 13:27
  that
• 13:28
  once
• 13:28
  they've
• 13:29
  tried
• 13:29
  an
• 13:29
  application
• 13:30
  or
• 13:30
  a
• 13:30
  game
• 13:31
  and
• 13:31
  they've
• 13:31
  made
• 13:31
  the
• 13:32
  decision
• 13:32
  that
• 13:32
  yes,
• 13:32
  this
• 13:33
  is
• 13:33
  right
• 13:33
  for
• 13:33
  a
• 13:33
  family
• 13:34
  to
• 13:34
  have
• 13:34
  the
• 13:35
  conversation
• 13:35
  as
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  why
• 13:36
  this
• 13:36
  is
• 13:36
  right
• 13:36
  for
• 13:36
  your
• 13:36
  family
• 13:37
  and
• 13:37
  if
• 13:37
  it's
• 13:37
  not
• 13:37
  right
• 13:37
  for
• 13:38
  your
• 13:38
  family.
• 13:39
  To
• 13:39
  not
• 13:40
  make
• 13:40
  it
• 13:40
  a
• 13:40
  strict
• 13:41
  boundary,
• 13:41
  but
• 13:41
  more,
• 13:42
  this
• 13:42
  is
• 13:42
  not
• 13:42
  right
• 13:43
  at
• 13:43
  the
• 13:43
  moment,
• 13:43
  you
• 13:44
  know,
• 13:44
  let's
• 13:44
  speak
• 13:45
  again
• 13:45
  at
• 13:45
  this
• 13:46
  point
• 13:46
  in
• 13:46
  a
• 13:46
  couple
• 13:46
  months,
• 13:47
  maybe,
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  know,
• 13:47
  to
• 13:48
  give
• 13:48
  them
• 13:48
  a
• 13:48
  little
• 13:49
  bit
• 13:49
  of
• 13:49
  wiggle
• 13:49
  room
• 13:49
  because
• 13:50
  when
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  tell
• 13:50
  a
• 13:50
  child
• 13:50
  no
• 13:51
  and
• 13:51
  that's
• 13:51
  it,
• 13:52
  you're,
• 13:52
  they're
• 13:52
  typically
• 13:53
  not
• 13:53
  gonna
• 13:53
  respond
• 13:54
  well.
• 13:54
  You
• 13:54
  know,
• 13:54
  make
• 13:54
  it
• 13:54
  a
• 13:54
  conversation
• 13:55
  that
• 13:55
  bridges
• 13:56
  a
• 13:56
  gap
• 13:56
  instead
• 13:56
  of
• 13:57
  just
• 13:57
  a,
• 13:57
  kind
• 13:57
  of
• 13:57
  a,
• 13:57
  a
• 13:57
  hard
• 13:58
  concrete
• 13:58
  wall.
• 13:59
  And
• 13:59
  I
• 13:59
  think
• 14:00
  that's
• 14:00
  with
• 14:00
  everything,
• 14:00
  because
• 14:01
  if
• 14:01
  kids
• 14:01
  don't
• 14:01
  feel
• 14:01
  like
• 14:02
  they
• 14:02
  trust
• 14:02
  you
• 14:02
  to,
• 14:03
  to
• 14:03
  have
• 14:03
  the
• 14:03
  conversations.
• 14:05
  They're
• 14:05
  not
• 14:06
  gonna
• 14:06
  have
• 14:06
  the
• 14:06
  harder
• 14:06
  conversations.
• 14:07
  And
• 14:07
  that's
• 14:08
  a
• 14:08
  typical,
• 14:09
  seemingly
• 14:09
  easy
• 14:10
  conversation
• 14:11
  compared
• 14:12
  to
• 14:12
  some
• 14:12
  of
• 14:12
  the
• 14:12
  hard
• 14:12
  conversations
• 14:13
  that
• 14:13
  they're
• 14:13
  facing
• 14:14
  at
• 14:14
  school.
• 14:15
  And
• 14:15
  I
• 14:15
  think,
• 14:16
  you
• 14:16
  know,
• 14:16
  as.
• 14:18
  Kids
• 14:18
  get
• 14:18
  older
• 14:19
  when
• 14:19
  they
• 14:19
  reach
• 14:19
  those
• 14:19
  teen
• 14:20
  years.
• 14:20
  Like
• 14:20
  another
• 14:20
  thing
• 14:21
  that
• 14:21
  we
• 14:21
  like
• 14:21
  to
• 14:21
  tell
• 14:21
  parents
• 14:22
  is
• 14:22
  to,
• 14:22
  to
• 14:23
  kind
• 14:23
  of
• 14:23
  make
• 14:24
  sure
• 14:24
  that
• 14:24
  you're
• 14:24
  really
• 14:24
  balancing
• 14:25
  this
• 14:25
  kind
• 14:26
  of
• 14:26
  control
• 14:26
  versus
• 14:27
  trust.
• 14:28
  You
• 14:28
  know,
• 14:28
  I
• 14:28
  think
• 14:28
  that's
• 14:28
  really
• 14:29
  important
• 14:29
  because
• 14:29
  it's
• 14:30
  kind
• 14:30
  of,
• 14:30
  you
• 14:30
  know,
• 14:30
  completely
• 14:31
  understandable
• 14:31
  that
• 14:31
  parents
• 14:32
  wanna
• 14:32
  lean
• 14:32
  towards,
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  know,
• 14:34
  something
• 14:34
  that's
• 14:35
  completely
• 14:35
  controlled
• 14:36
  when
• 14:36
  they
• 14:36
  ex
• 14:36
  experience
• 14:37
  something
• 14:37
  online
• 14:38
  that's,
• 14:38
  you
• 14:39
  know,
• 14:39
  unfamiliar
• 14:39
  or
• 14:40
  risky.
• 14:41
  And
• 14:41
  so.
• 14:42
  We
• 14:42
  really
• 14:42
  tend
• 14:43
  to
• 14:43
  implement
• 14:44
  this
• 14:44
  control
• 14:44
  and
• 14:45
  not
• 14:45
  give
• 14:45
  a
• 14:45
  reason
• 14:46
  as
• 14:46
  to
• 14:46
  why.
• 14:47
  And
• 14:47
  again,
• 14:48
  a
• 14:48
  kid
• 14:48
  doesn't
• 14:48
  really
• 14:49
  understand
• 14:50
  these
• 14:50
  reasons
• 14:50
  behind
• 14:51
  this
• 14:51
  control,
• 14:51
  and
• 14:51
  so
• 14:52
  they
• 14:52
  just
• 14:52
  get
• 14:52
  better
• 14:53
  at
• 14:53
  hiding
• 14:53
  it
• 14:54
  or
• 14:54
  they
• 14:54
  find
• 14:54
  ways
• 14:54
  around
• 14:55
  it
• 14:55
  and
• 14:55
  that's,
• 14:55
  you
• 14:56
  know,
• 14:56
  not
• 14:56
  what
• 14:56
  you
• 14:56
  want
• 14:57
  both
• 14:57
  in
• 14:57
  the
• 14:57
  digital
• 14:58
  space,
• 14:58
  but
• 14:58
  then
• 14:58
  also
• 14:59
  just.
• 14:59
  As,
• 14:59
  you
• 15:00
  know,
• 15:00
  in-person
• 15:00
  relationships
• 15:01
  with
• 15:01
  your
• 15:01
  child.
• 15:02
  You
• 15:02
  know,
• 15:02
  I
• 15:02
  think
• 15:02
  that's
• 15:03
  a
• 15:03
  really
• 15:03
  important
• 15:03
  thing.
• 15:04
  Sometimes
• 15:04
  people
• 15:04
  like
• 15:05
  to
• 15:05
  think
• 15:05
  that
• 15:05
  the
• 15:05
  digital
• 15:05
  world
• 15:06
  and
• 15:06
  the
• 15:06
  real
• 15:06
  world
• 15:06
  are
• 15:06
  distinct,
• 15:07
  but
• 15:07
  they're
• 15:07
  kind
• 15:08
  of
• 15:08
  reflections
• 15:08
  of
• 15:08
  each
• 15:08
  other,
• 15:09
  so
• 15:09
  absolute.
• 15:10
  You
• 15:10
  know,
• 15:10
  they're
• 15:10
  very
• 15:10
  interconnected.
• 15:11
  Absolutely.
• 15:12
  And
• 15:12
  I
• 15:12
  can
• 15:12
  remember
• 15:12
  my
• 15:13
  kid,
• 15:13
  you
• 15:13
  know,
• 15:13
  my
• 15:13
  daughter
• 15:14
  being
• 15:14
  like,
• 15:14
  mom,
• 15:14
  just
• 15:14
  trust
• 15:15
  me.
• 15:16
  I
• 15:16
  don't
• 15:16
  trust
• 15:16
  the
• 15:16
  people
• 15:17
  on
• 15:17
  the
• 15:17
  other
• 15:17
  side.
• 15:18
  Exactly.
• 15:18
  You
• 15:18
  know,
• 15:19
  and
• 15:19
  I
• 15:19
  tried
• 15:19
  to
• 15:19
  get
• 15:19
  her
• 15:20
  to
• 15:20
  understand
• 15:20
  that,
• 15:20
  like,
• 15:21
  it's
• 15:21
  not
• 15:21
  you.
• 15:22
  I
• 15:22
  know
• 15:23
  you're
• 15:23
  not
• 15:23
  reaching
• 15:24
  out
• 15:24
  looking
• 15:24
  for
• 15:24
  30
• 15:25
  5-year-old
• 15:25
  men
• 15:25
  at
• 15:25
  12
• 15:26
  years
• 15:26
  old,
• 15:27
  but,
• 15:28
  but
• 15:28
  that
• 15:29
  16-year-old
• 15:29
  girl
• 15:30
  you're
• 15:30
  talking
• 15:30
  to
• 15:31
  could
• 15:31
  be
• 15:31
  a
• 15:31
  30
• 15:31
  5-year-old
• 15:32
  man.
• 15:32
  You
• 15:32
  just
• 15:33
  don't
• 15:33
  know.
• 15:34
  And
• 15:34
  so
• 15:36
  what
• 15:36
  do
• 15:36
  you.
• 15:38
  What
• 15:39
  answers
• 15:40
  like,
• 15:41
  I
• 15:41
  guess
• 15:41
  in
• 15:41
  the
• 15:42
  schools,
• 15:42
  what
• 15:42
  are
• 15:42
  they
• 15:43
  doing?
• 15:44
  Obviously
• 15:44
  they're
• 15:44
  teaching
• 15:45
  people
• 15:45
  about
• 15:46
  online
• 15:47
  safety,
• 15:47
  you're
• 15:47
  working
• 15:48
  with
• 15:48
  parents,
• 15:48
  you're
• 15:48
  doing
• 15:49
  that
• 15:49
  kind
• 15:49
  of
• 15:49
  thing.
• 15:50
  What
• 15:50
  blocks
• 15:51
  or
• 15:51
  anything
• 15:51
  do
• 15:51
  they
• 15:52
  have?
• 15:52
  Because
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  know
• 15:52
  there
• 15:52
  used
• 15:53
  to
• 15:53
  be,
• 15:53
  you
• 15:53
  could
• 15:53
  barely
• 15:54
  get
• 15:54
  onto
• 15:54
  anything
• 15:55
  when
• 15:55
  you
• 15:55
  were
• 15:55
  in
• 15:55
  a
• 15:55
  school,
• 15:56
  but
• 15:57
  now
• 15:57
  it's
• 15:57
  like
• 15:58
  phones
• 15:58
  are,
• 15:58
  are
• 15:58
  part
• 15:59
  of
• 15:59
  the
• 15:59
  day
• 15:59
  and
• 16:00
  it's,
• 16:00
  it's
• 16:01
  nuts.
• 16:02
  Answer
• 16:02
  is
• 16:02
  really
• 16:03
  district
• 16:03
  specific.
• 16:04
  I
• 16:04
  do
• 16:04
  think
• 16:05
  that
• 16:05
  there's
• 16:05
  kind
• 16:06
  of
• 16:06
  a
• 16:06
  wave
• 16:06
  right
• 16:06
  now
• 16:07
  towards
• 16:07
  banning
• 16:08
  phones
• 16:08
  in
• 16:09
  schools,
• 16:10
  which
• 16:10
  a
• 16:10
  lot
• 16:10
  of
• 16:10
  parents
• 16:11
  are
• 16:11
  beginning
• 16:11
  to
• 16:11
  support.
• 16:12
  In
• 16:12
  the
• 16:12
  report
• 16:13
  that
• 16:13
  I
• 16:13
  was
• 16:13
  talking
• 16:13
  about
• 16:14
  earlier,
• 16:14
  we
• 16:15
  surveyed
• 16:15
  US
• 16:15
  parents,
• 16:16
  and
• 16:16
  almost
• 16:17
  60%
• 16:17
  of
• 16:18
  US
• 16:18
  parents
• 16:18
  support
• 16:18
  a
• 16:19
  ban
• 16:19
  in
• 16:19
  schools.
• 16:20
  Because
• 16:20
  they're
• 16:20
  finding
• 16:20
  this
• 16:21
  technology
• 16:21
  is,
• 16:22
  a
• 16:22
  bit
• 16:22
  distracting
• 16:23
  and
• 16:23
  might
• 16:23
  not
• 16:23
  be
• 16:23
  conducive
• 16:24
  to
• 16:24
  kids
• 16:24
  learning.
• 16:25
  So
• 16:25
  that's
• 16:26
  one
• 16:26
  thing
• 16:26
  is
• 16:26
  that
• 16:26
  some
• 16:26
  schools
• 16:27
  are
• 16:27
  trying
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  remove
• 16:28
  phones.
• 16:29
  Another
• 16:29
  thing
• 16:29
  is
• 16:30
  that,
• 16:30
  we
• 16:31
  talked
• 16:31
  about
• 16:31
  this
• 16:31
  a
• 16:31
  bit
• 16:31
  earlier,
• 16:32
  is
• 16:32
  that
• 16:32
  some
• 16:32
  schools
• 16:33
  are
• 16:33
  blocking
• 16:33
  ai,
• 16:34
  because
• 16:36
  kids
• 16:36
  are
• 16:36
  not
• 16:36
  using
• 16:37
  it
• 16:37
  as
• 16:37
  a
• 16:37
  tool,
• 16:37
  but,
• 16:38
  hey,
• 16:39
  write
• 16:39
  this
• 16:39
  paper
• 16:39
  for
• 16:39
  me.
• 16:40
  And
• 16:40
  so
• 16:40
  it's
• 16:40
  really
• 16:40
  kind
• 16:40
  of
• 16:41
  hurting
• 16:41
  that
• 16:41
  learning
• 16:42
  and
• 16:42
  those
• 16:42
  critical
• 16:43
  thinking
• 16:43
  skills.
• 16:44
  Right.
• 16:44
  And
• 16:44
  then
• 16:45
  again,
• 16:45
  teachers
• 16:46
  have
• 16:46
  classroom
• 16:46
  specific
• 16:47
  kind
• 16:47
  of
• 16:48
  tech
• 16:48
  rules
• 16:49
  and
• 16:49
  so
• 16:49
  that,
• 16:49
  I
• 16:49
  guess
• 16:49
  just
• 16:50
  depends,
• 16:50
  you
• 16:50
  know,
• 16:50
  what,
• 16:51
  how
• 16:51
  a
• 16:51
  teacher
• 16:52
  views
• 16:52
  tech
• 16:52
  either
• 16:52
  as
• 16:53
  a
• 16:53
  positive
• 16:54
  thing
• 16:54
  or
• 16:54
  a
• 16:54
  negative
• 16:54
  thing.
• 16:55
  I
• 16:55
  don't
• 16:55
  remember
• 16:56
  the
• 16:56
  whole
• 16:56
  story,
• 16:57
  but
• 16:57
  I
• 16:57
  remember
• 16:58
  the
• 16:58
  parents
• 16:58
  saying,
• 16:59
  I
• 16:59
  think
• 17:00
  this
• 17:00
  is
• 17:00
  ridiculous.
• 17:00
  They
• 17:01
  can't
• 17:01
  have
• 17:01
  their
• 17:01
  phones
• 17:01
  on
• 17:02
  them
• 17:02
  because
• 17:02
  if
• 17:02
  I
• 17:03
  need
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  reach
• 17:03
  my
• 17:03
  child,
• 17:05
  your
• 17:05
  child
• 17:06
  is
• 17:06
  in
• 17:06
  school.
• 17:07
  And
• 17:08
  I'm
• 17:08
  like,
• 17:08
  go
• 17:08
  back
• 17:08
  to
• 17:09
  old
• 17:09
  school
• 17:09
  where
• 17:10
  if
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  needed
• 17:10
  to
• 17:10
  reach
• 17:10
  your
• 17:11
  child,
• 17:11
  you
• 17:11
  called
• 17:11
  the
• 17:11
  office.
• 17:12
  They
• 17:12
  went,
• 17:12
  they
• 17:13
  got
• 17:13
  you.
• 17:13
  They
• 17:13
  brought
• 17:14
  their
• 17:14
  child
• 17:14
  to
• 17:14
  you.
• 17:15
  Link.
• 17:16
  And
• 17:16
  it
• 17:17
  was
• 17:17
  so
• 17:17
  funny,
• 17:17
  and
• 17:17
  I
• 17:17
  think
• 17:18
  I
• 17:18
  was
• 17:18
  the
• 17:18
  only
• 17:18
  one
• 17:19
  in
• 17:19
  the
• 17:19
  whole
• 17:19
  group.
• 17:19
  They
• 17:20
  were
• 17:20
  like,
• 17:20
  I
• 17:20
  think
• 17:20
  that's
• 17:20
  ridiculous.
• 17:21
  And
• 17:21
  they
• 17:21
  kept
• 17:22
  saying,
• 17:22
  if
• 17:22
  my
• 17:22
  kid
• 17:22
  needs
• 17:23
  me,
• 17:24
  if
• 17:24
  your
• 17:24
  kid
• 17:24
  needs
• 17:25
  you,
• 17:25
  she
• 17:25
  can
• 17:25
  go
• 17:25
  to
• 17:25
  the
• 17:25
  office.
• 17:26
  She
• 17:26
  can
• 17:26
  go,
• 17:27
  like
• 17:27
  I,
• 17:28
  I
• 17:28
  was,
• 17:28
  I
• 17:28
  was
• 17:29
  the
• 17:29
  only
• 17:29
  one
• 17:30
  in
• 17:30
  the
• 17:30
  whole
• 17:30
  group.
• 17:31
  And
• 17:31
  I,
• 17:31
  they
• 17:31
  were
• 17:31
  like,
• 17:32
  well,
• 17:32
  what
• 17:32
  do
• 17:32
  you
• 17:32
  think?
• 17:32
  And
• 17:33
  I'm
• 17:33
  like,
• 17:34
  I
• 17:34
  think
• 17:34
  I
• 17:34
  made
• 17:34
  it
• 17:34
  just
• 17:35
  fine
• 17:35
  without
• 17:35
  a
• 17:35
  phone
• 17:35
  when
• 17:36
  I
• 17:36
  went
• 17:36
  to
• 17:36
  school.
• 17:37
  Yeah.
• 17:38
  You
• 17:38
  know,
• 17:38
  you
• 17:38
  bring
• 17:38
  up
• 17:38
  a
• 17:38
  really
• 17:39
  good
• 17:39
  point.
• 17:39
  I
• 17:39
  mean,
• 17:39
  I
• 17:39
  think
• 17:40
  it's
• 17:40
  a
• 17:40
  very,
• 17:40
  very
• 17:41
  heated
• 17:41
  issue
• 17:41
  right
• 17:42
  now.
• 17:42
  Mm-hmm.
• 17:43
  Because
• 17:43
  you've
• 17:43
  got
• 17:44
  some
• 17:44
  parents
• 17:45
  like,
• 17:45
  like
• 17:45
  yourself,
• 17:46
  that
• 17:46
  are
• 17:46
  like,
• 17:46
  we
• 17:46
  didn't
• 17:47
  always
• 17:47
  have
• 17:47
  phones
• 17:48
  in
• 17:48
  school,
• 17:48
  so
• 17:48
  you
• 17:48
  know,
• 17:48
  why
• 17:49
  do
• 17:49
  we
• 17:49
  need
• 17:49
  them
• 17:49
  now?
• 17:50
  We
• 17:50
  did
• 17:50
  well
• 17:50
  before.
• 17:51
  We
• 17:51
  can
• 17:51
  do
• 17:51
  well
• 17:51
  now.
• 17:52
  And
• 17:52
  then
• 17:52
  you've
• 17:52
  got
• 17:52
  the
• 17:52
  other
• 17:53
  half
• 17:53
  of
• 17:53
  parents
• 17:53
  that,
• 17:54
  again,
• 17:54
  they
• 17:54
  make
• 17:54
  it
• 17:54
  more
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  safety
• 17:55
  issue.
• 17:55
  Given
• 17:56
  some
• 17:56
  of
• 17:56
  the
• 17:56
  political
• 17:56
  stuff
• 17:57
  going
• 17:57
  on
• 17:57
  right
• 17:57
  now,
• 17:58
  you
• 17:58
  know,
• 17:58
  gun
• 17:58
  violence,
• 17:59
  all
• 17:59
  that
• 17:59
  stuff,
• 17:59
  I
• 17:59
  think.
• 18:00
  You
• 18:00
  know,
• 18:00
  it's
• 18:00
  hard
• 18:01
  because
• 18:01
  each,
• 18:01
  each
• 18:02
  part,
• 18:02
  you
• 18:02
  know,
• 18:02
  has
• 18:03
  some
• 18:03
  validity
• 18:03
  and
• 18:03
  so
• 18:04
  it's,
• 18:04
  how
• 18:04
  do
• 18:04
  you
• 18:04
  found,
• 18:05
  find
• 18:05
  that
• 18:05
  middle
• 18:05
  ground?
• 18:06
  I
• 18:06
  know
• 18:06
  at
• 18:06
  the
• 18:06
  school
• 18:07
  that
• 18:07
  I
• 18:07
  was
• 18:07
  working
• 18:07
  at,
• 18:08
  there
• 18:08
  wasn't
• 18:09
  necessarily
• 18:09
  a
• 18:09
  phone
• 18:10
  ban
• 18:10
  per
• 18:10
  se,
• 18:10
  but.
• 18:12
  When
• 18:12
  kids
• 18:12
  would
• 18:12
  come
• 18:13
  through
• 18:13
  the
• 18:13
  front
• 18:13
  door,
• 18:14
  they
• 18:14
  would
• 18:14
  have
• 18:14
  to
• 18:14
  check
• 18:15
  their
• 18:15
  phone
• 18:15
  into
• 18:16
  a
• 18:16
  pouch
• 18:16
  and
• 18:16
  the
• 18:16
  pouch
• 18:17
  locked
• 18:17
  for
• 18:17
  the
• 18:17
  day.
• 18:18
  And
• 18:18
  so
• 18:18
  the
• 18:18
  only
• 18:19
  way
• 18:19
  that
• 18:19
  they
• 18:19
  could
• 18:19
  unlock
• 18:20
  this
• 18:20
  pouch
• 18:20
  is
• 18:21
  at
• 18:21
  the
• 18:21
  end
• 18:21
  of
• 18:21
  the
• 18:21
  day
• 18:22
  where
• 18:22
  teachers
• 18:23
  put
• 18:23
  it
• 18:23
  on
• 18:23
  this
• 18:23
  like
• 18:23
  magnetic,
• 18:25
  kind
• 18:25
  of
• 18:25
  bar
• 18:25
  and
• 18:25
  it
• 18:25
  would
• 18:26
  pop
• 18:26
  open.
• 18:26
  But
• 18:27
  then
• 18:27
  kids
• 18:27
  started
• 18:28
  cutting
• 18:28
  into
• 18:28
  the
• 18:28
  pouches
• 18:29
  and
• 18:29
  all
• 18:29
  that
• 18:29
  good
• 18:29
  stuff.
• 18:30
  But
• 18:30
  you
• 18:30
  know,
• 18:30
  in
• 18:31
  theory
• 18:31
  it
• 18:31
  was,
• 18:31
  it
• 18:32
  was
• 18:32
  an
• 18:32
  effort,
• 18:33
  right?
• 18:33
  It
• 18:33
  was
• 18:34
  trying.
• 18:34
  Yeah.
• 18:34
  But
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  mean,
• 18:35
  it's,
• 18:35
  and,
• 18:36
  and
• 18:36
  you
• 18:36
  have
• 18:36
  to
• 18:36
  trust,
• 18:37
  I
• 18:37
  mean,
• 18:37
  I
• 18:38
  was
• 18:38
  kind
• 18:38
  of
• 18:38
  one
• 18:38
  of,
• 18:38
  I,
• 18:38
  and
• 18:39
  I
• 18:39
  was
• 18:39
  a
• 18:39
  teacher
• 18:40
  and
• 18:40
  I
• 18:40
  one
• 18:40
  of
• 18:40
  one
• 18:41
  of
• 18:41
  those
• 18:41
  people
• 18:41
  that
• 18:41
  was
• 18:41
  like,
• 18:42
  Ooh,
• 18:43
  when
• 18:43
  my
• 18:43
  kids
• 18:43
  go
• 18:43
  to
• 18:43
  school.
• 18:45
  I
• 18:45
  try
• 18:45
  to
• 18:45
  either
• 18:46
  reinforce
• 18:46
  or
• 18:46
  undo
• 18:47
  what
• 18:47
  was,
• 18:47
  you
• 18:47
  know,
• 18:48
  as
• 18:48
  my
• 18:48
  parenting
• 18:49
  and
• 18:50
  yeah,
• 18:50
  it's
• 18:51
  definitely
• 18:51
  something.
• 18:52
  But
• 18:52
  I
• 18:52
  think
• 18:52
  the
• 18:52
  big
• 18:53
  picture,
• 18:53
  and
• 18:53
  I
• 18:53
  think
• 18:54
  going
• 18:54
  back
• 18:54
  to
• 18:54
  what
• 18:55
  we
• 18:55
  were
• 18:55
  talking
• 18:55
  about
• 18:56
  is
• 18:56
  you
• 18:57
  don't
• 18:57
  want
• 18:57
  kids,
• 18:59
  kids
• 18:59
  are
• 18:59
  going
• 18:59
  through
• 18:59
  so
• 19:00
  much
• 19:00
  right
• 19:00
  now,
• 19:01
  and
• 19:01
  that's
• 19:02
  the
• 19:02
  big
• 19:02
  thing
• 19:02
  is
• 19:02
  we
• 19:03
  need
• 19:03
  to
• 19:03
  have.
• 19:04
  Personable
• 19:05
  connection.
• 19:05
  Like
• 19:06
  I
• 19:06
  feel
• 19:06
  like
• 19:06
  we
• 19:06
  need
• 19:06
  to
• 19:06
  rebuild
• 19:07
  that
• 19:07
  personable
• 19:08
  connection
• 19:08
  part
• 19:09
  of
• 19:09
  it.
• 19:11
  We
• 19:11
  do.
• 19:11
  And
• 19:11
  I
• 19:11
  think
• 19:12
  it
• 19:12
  kind
• 19:12
  of
• 19:12
  goes
• 19:12
  back
• 19:12
  to
• 19:12
  what
• 19:12
  we
• 19:12
  were
• 19:13
  saying
• 19:13
  that,
• 19:14
  you
• 19:14
  know,
• 19:15
  when
• 19:15
  you
• 19:16
  create
• 19:16
  these
• 19:16
  relationships
• 19:17
  with
• 19:17
  your
• 19:17
  child
• 19:18
  in
• 19:18
  the
• 19:19
  real
• 19:19
  world,
• 19:19
  it's
• 19:19
  going
• 19:20
  to
• 19:20
  reflect
• 19:20
  in
• 19:20
  the
• 19:20
  digital
• 19:21
  space.
• 19:21
  And
• 19:21
  so
• 19:22
  they
• 19:22
  don't
• 19:22
  have
• 19:22
  to
• 19:22
  be
• 19:23
  too
• 19:23
  distinct
• 19:23
  domains.
• 19:24
  And
• 19:24
  so
• 19:24
  it's
• 19:25
  creating
• 19:25
  that
• 19:25
  trust,
• 19:26
  creating
• 19:26
  those
• 19:26
  conversations,
• 19:27
  creating
• 19:28
  those
• 19:28
  values.
• 19:29
  Understanding
• 19:29
  that
• 19:30
  that
• 19:30
  relationship
• 19:30
  building,
• 19:31
  I
• 19:31
  mean,
• 19:31
  just
• 19:31
  as
• 19:31
  a
• 19:31
  parent,
• 19:32
  as
• 19:32
  a
• 19:32
  caregiver,
• 19:32
  as
• 19:32
  an
• 19:33
  educator,
• 19:33
  I
• 19:33
  mean,
• 19:33
  that's
• 19:33
  a
• 19:34
  crucial
• 19:34
  part,
• 19:34
  you
• 19:35
  know,
• 19:35
  to,
• 19:35
  to
• 19:35
  making
• 19:36
  sure
• 19:36
  that
• 19:36
  kids
• 19:36
  trust
• 19:36
  you
• 19:37
  and
• 19:37
  that
• 19:37
  they,
• 19:38
  you
• 19:38
  know,
• 19:38
  they
• 19:39
  grow
• 19:39
  up
• 19:39
  and
• 19:39
  that
• 19:39
  they
• 19:40
  have
• 19:40
  these,
• 19:40
  you
• 19:41
  know,
• 19:41
  productive
• 19:41
  lives
• 19:42
  that
• 19:42
  we
• 19:42
  want
• 19:42
  them
• 19:42
  to
• 19:42
  have.
• 19:42
  It
• 19:43
  all
• 19:43
  begins
• 19:43
  with
• 19:43
  relationships.
• 19:44
  Right?
• 19:45
  And
• 19:45
  I
• 19:45
  would
• 19:45
  love
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  see
• 19:46
  more
• 19:46
  done
• 19:46
  in
• 19:46
  the
• 19:47
  schools
• 19:47
  because
• 19:47
  unfortunately,
• 19:48
  I
• 19:48
  mean,
• 19:48
  I
• 19:48
  come
• 19:49
  from
• 19:49
  a
• 19:49
  background
• 19:49
  of
• 19:49
  having
• 19:50
  two
• 19:50
  very
• 19:50
  emotionally
• 19:52
  unavailable
• 19:53
  or
• 19:53
  abusive
• 19:53
  parents.
• 19:55
  So
• 19:55
  I
• 19:55
  didn't
• 19:56
  trust
• 19:56
  my,
• 19:56
  I
• 19:56
  would've
• 19:56
  gone
• 19:57
  to
• 19:57
  my
• 19:57
  parents
• 19:57
  with
• 19:58
  nothing.
• 19:58
  Nothing.
• 19:59
  And
• 20:00
  you
• 20:01
  know,
• 20:01
  that's,
• 20:01
  I
• 20:01
  to
• 20:01
  say
• 20:01
  that's
• 20:02
  things
• 20:02
  that
• 20:02
  get,
• 20:03
  things
• 20:03
  that
• 20:04
  be
• 20:04
  left
• 20:04
  unprocessed
• 20:06
  are
• 20:06
  what
• 20:07
  do
• 20:08
  the
• 20:08
  damage.
• 20:08
  Traumatic
• 20:09
  events
• 20:09
  can
• 20:09
  happen
• 20:09
  all
• 20:10
  day
• 20:10
  long
• 20:10
  and
• 20:11
  if
• 20:11
  people
• 20:11
  are
• 20:11
  processed
• 20:12
  and
• 20:13
  can
• 20:13
  deal
• 20:13
  with
• 20:13
  it
• 20:14
  and,
• 20:14
  and
• 20:15
  get
• 20:15
  it
• 20:15
  outta
• 20:15
  their
• 20:15
  system
• 20:16
  and
• 20:16
  talk
• 20:16
  about
• 20:16
  it
• 20:16
  and
• 20:17
  have
• 20:17
  trusting
• 20:17
  community
• 20:18
  or
• 20:19
  family.
• 20:20
  To
• 20:20
  deal
• 20:20
  with
• 20:20
  these
• 20:20
  things.
• 20:21
  It
• 20:21
  doesn't
• 20:21
  nec
• 20:22
  it
• 20:22
  doesn't
• 20:22
  have
• 20:22
  the
• 20:22
  same
• 20:23
  impact
• 20:23
  I,
• 20:24
  in
• 20:24
  my
• 20:24
  belief,
• 20:25
  yeah.
• 20:25
  It's
• 20:25
  the
• 20:25
  things
• 20:26
  that
• 20:26
  don't
• 20:26
  get
• 20:26
  processed.
• 20:27
  So
• 20:28
  I
• 20:29
  agree.
• 20:29
  And
• 20:29
  I
• 20:29
  think
• 20:29
  a
• 20:29
  big
• 20:29
  part
• 20:30
  of
• 20:30
  that
• 20:30
  is
• 20:30
  just
• 20:30
  breaking
• 20:30
  those
• 20:31
  generational
• 20:31
  cycles.
• 20:32
  Mm-hmm.
• 20:32
  You
• 20:32
  know,
• 20:33
  I
• 20:33
  think
• 20:33
  a
• 20:33
  lot
• 20:33
  of
• 20:33
  parents.
• 20:35
  Today
• 20:35
  are
• 20:35
  aware
• 20:36
  that
• 20:36
  they
• 20:36
  wanna
• 20:36
  do
• 20:36
  things
• 20:36
  differently.
• 20:37
  They
• 20:37
  almost
• 20:38
  have
• 20:38
  to
• 20:38
  do
• 20:38
  things
• 20:38
  differently,
• 20:39
  from
• 20:39
  how
• 20:39
  they
• 20:39
  were
• 20:40
  raised.
• 20:40
  And
• 20:40
  so
• 20:41
  if
• 20:41
  that
• 20:41
  intention's
• 20:42
  there,
• 20:42
  you
• 20:42
  know,
• 20:42
  that's
• 20:43
  the
• 20:43
  first
• 20:43
  step.
• 20:44
  And
• 20:44
  it's
• 20:44
  just
• 20:44
  figuring
• 20:44
  out,
• 20:45
  okay,
• 20:45
  how
• 20:45
  do
• 20:45
  I
• 20:45
  want
• 20:46
  this
• 20:46
  to
• 20:46
  look
• 20:46
  in
• 20:46
  my
• 20:46
  household?
• 20:47
  Because
• 20:47
  you
• 20:47
  know,
• 20:48
  how
• 20:48
  you
• 20:48
  were
• 20:48
  raised
• 20:48
  generationally
• 20:49
  doesn't
• 20:49
  mean
• 20:49
  that's
• 20:49
  how
• 20:50
  your
• 20:50
  children
• 20:50
  have
• 20:50
  to
• 20:50
  be
• 20:50
  raised
• 20:51
  and
• 20:51
  how
• 20:51
  their
• 20:51
  children
• 20:51
  have
• 20:52
  to
• 20:52
  be
• 20:52
  raised.
• 20:52
  Like
• 20:52
  you
• 20:53
  can
• 20:53
  be
• 20:53
  the
• 20:53
  one
• 20:53
  to
• 20:53
  break
• 20:54
  that
• 20:54
  cycle.
• 20:54
  And
• 20:55
  so
• 20:55
  I
• 20:55
  had
• 20:55
  this
• 20:55
  mailbox
• 20:56
  and
• 20:56
  kids
• 20:56
  could
• 20:56
  draw
• 20:57
  pictures.
• 20:57
  They
• 20:57
  could
• 20:57
  have
• 20:58
  their
• 20:58
  brothers
• 20:58
  or
• 20:58
  sisters
• 20:59
  write
• 20:59
  a
• 20:59
  letter,
• 21:00
  and
• 21:00
  it
• 21:00
  was
• 21:00
  anonymous.
• 21:01
  So
• 21:01
  every
• 21:01
  day
• 21:02
  we
• 21:02
  would
• 21:02
  pull
• 21:02
  out
• 21:03
  of
• 21:03
  the
• 21:03
  mailbox
• 21:03
  and
• 21:03
  we
• 21:04
  would
• 21:04
  show
• 21:04
  the
• 21:04
  pictures,
• 21:05
  but
• 21:05
  they
• 21:05
  didn't
• 21:05
  know
• 21:06
  who
• 21:06
  wrote
• 21:06
  'em.
• 21:07
  And
• 21:07
  then
• 21:07
  we
• 21:07
  would
• 21:07
  talk
• 21:08
  about
• 21:08
  it,
• 21:08
  whether
• 21:08
  it
• 21:08
  was
• 21:08
  a
• 21:08
  question,
• 21:09
  and
• 21:09
  there
• 21:09
  was
• 21:09
  some
• 21:10
  pretty
• 21:10
  serious
• 21:10
  questions.
• 21:11
  And
• 21:11
  I
• 21:11
  could
• 21:11
  tell
• 21:11
  by
• 21:12
  looking
• 21:12
  at
• 21:12
  the
• 21:12
  kids'
• 21:12
  reactions,
• 21:14
  but
• 21:14
  it
• 21:14
  was
• 21:14
  like
• 21:14
  they
• 21:14
  built
• 21:15
  their
• 21:15
  own
• 21:15
  little
• 21:16
  communities
• 21:17
  because
• 21:17
  they
• 21:18
  could
• 21:18
  see
• 21:18
  who
• 21:18
  was
• 21:19
  kind
• 21:19
  of
• 21:19
  like,
• 21:19
  oh
• 21:19
  yeah,
• 21:20
  I
• 21:20
  get
• 21:20
  it.
• 21:20
  You
• 21:21
  know?
• 21:21
  And
• 21:21
  when
• 21:21
  we
• 21:21
  would
• 21:21
  talk
• 21:22
  about
• 21:22
  things
• 21:22
  and,
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  it
• 21:23
  was
• 21:23
  really
• 21:24
  like
• 21:24
  those
• 21:25
  were
• 21:25
  the
• 21:25
  connections
• 21:26
  and
• 21:26
  then
• 21:26
  we'd
• 21:26
  do
• 21:26
  a
• 21:27
  big
• 21:27
  group
• 21:27
  hug
• 21:28
  and
• 21:28
  you
• 21:28
  know,
• 21:28
  I'm
• 21:29
  like,
• 21:29
  oh
• 21:29
  gosh,
• 21:29
  none
• 21:29
  of
• 21:29
  that
• 21:30
  would've
• 21:30
  probably
• 21:30
  gone
• 21:30
  over
• 21:31
  right
• 21:31
  now.
• 21:31
  But
• 21:33
  you
• 21:33
  know
• 21:33
  what?
• 21:34
  I
• 21:34
  would
• 21:34
  love
• 21:35
  to,
• 21:35
  like
• 21:35
  I
• 21:35
  always
• 21:36
  said,
• 21:36
  I
• 21:36
  wish
• 21:36
  there
• 21:36
  was
• 21:36
  a
• 21:36
  magic
• 21:37
  mailbox
• 21:37
  in
• 21:37
  every
• 21:37
  single
• 21:38
  classroom.
• 21:39
  Yeah.
• 21:39
  Yeah.
• 21:40
  I
• 21:40
  used
• 21:41
  to
• 21:41
  bring
• 21:41
  it
• 21:41
  in
• 21:41
  when
• 21:41
  I
• 21:41
  substituted
• 21:42
  high
• 21:42
  school
• 21:43
  and
• 21:43
  I'd
• 21:43
  be
• 21:43
  like,
• 21:43
  come
• 21:43
  on
• 21:43
  guys.
• 21:44
  Humor
• 21:44
  me.
• 21:44
  And
• 21:44
  they're
• 21:44
  like,
• 21:45
  oh,
• 21:45
  come
• 21:45
  on,
• 21:45
  miss
• 21:45
  me.
• 21:46
  We
• 21:46
  don't
• 21:46
  wanna
• 21:46
  do
• 21:46
  the
• 21:46
  magic
• 21:46
  mailbox
• 21:47
  for
• 21:47
  this.
• 21:47
  Yeah.
• 21:48
  With
• 21:48
  the
• 21:48
  stuff
• 21:49
  that
• 21:49
  they
• 21:49
  would
• 21:49
  put
• 21:50
  in
• 21:50
  that
• 21:50
  mailbox
• 21:51
  anonymously.
• 21:53
  Wow.
• 21:54
  And
• 21:55
  then
• 21:55
  the
• 21:55
  class
• 21:55
  would
• 21:55
  be
• 21:55
  like,
• 21:57
  and
• 21:57
  the
• 21:57
  empathy
• 21:58
  and
• 21:58
  the
• 21:58
  compassion
• 21:59
  in
• 21:59
  those
• 21:59
  classrooms.
• 22:00
  Was
• 22:01
  unbelievable
• 22:02
  because
• 22:03
  for
• 22:03
  every
• 22:03
  person
• 22:03
  having
• 22:04
  a
• 22:04
  situation,
• 22:04
  there's
• 22:05
  nine
• 22:05
  more
• 22:05
  in
• 22:05
  the
• 22:05
  classroom
• 22:06
  that
• 22:06
  are
• 22:06
  having
• 22:06
  almost
• 22:07
  a
• 22:07
  very
• 22:07
  similar
• 22:07
  situation,
• 22:08
  but
• 22:08
  there's
• 22:08
  just
• 22:09
  eight
• 22:09
  people
• 22:09
  that
• 22:09
  won't
• 22:09
  talk
• 22:10
  about
• 22:10
  it.
• 22:10
  I
• 22:10
  think
• 22:11
  that's
• 22:11
  what
• 22:11
  we're
• 22:11
  missing
• 22:11
  today.
• 22:12
  I
• 22:12
  think
• 22:12
  we're
• 22:12
  missing
• 22:12
  that
• 22:12
  magic
• 22:13
  mailbox.
• 22:14
  And
• 22:14
  we're
• 22:14
  kind
• 22:14
  of
• 22:14
  struggling
• 22:15
  to
• 22:15
  understand
• 22:16
  what
• 22:16
  does
• 22:16
  that
• 22:16
  look
• 22:16
  like
• 22:16
  in
• 22:17
  the
• 22:17
  digital
• 22:17
  space?
• 22:18
  And
• 22:18
  like
• 22:18
  what
• 22:18
  does
• 22:18
  that
• 22:18
  look
• 22:18
  like
• 22:19
  at
• 22:19
  the
• 22:19
  classroom
• 22:19
  level?
• 22:20
  It's
• 22:20
  hard
• 22:21
  because
• 22:21
  young
• 22:21
  people
• 22:21
  today
• 22:23
  are
• 22:23
  really
• 22:23
  building
• 22:24
  their
• 22:24
  sense
• 22:24
  of,
• 22:25
  identity
• 22:25
  very
• 22:25
  differently.
• 22:26
  Their
• 22:26
  sense
• 22:26
  of
• 22:27
  worth,
• 22:27
  their
• 22:27
  sense
• 22:28
  of
• 22:28
  what
• 22:28
  they
• 22:28
  value.
• 22:29
  And
• 22:29
  a
• 22:29
  lot
• 22:29
  of
• 22:29
  this
• 22:29
  is
• 22:30
  happening
• 22:30
  sometimes
• 22:31
  in
• 22:31
  broken
• 22:31
  home
• 22:31
  structures
• 22:32
  and
• 22:32
  then
• 22:32
  they
• 22:32
  go
• 22:32
  online
• 22:33
  and
• 22:33
  this
• 22:33
  is
• 22:33
  amplified,
• 22:34
  by
• 22:34
  negative
• 22:35
  kind
• 22:35
  of
• 22:36
  bullying
• 22:36
  or,
• 22:36
  negative
• 22:37
  messages.
• 22:37
  And
• 22:38
  so
• 22:38
  it's,
• 22:38
  where
• 22:38
  is
• 22:38
  their
• 22:39
  safe
• 22:39
  space?
• 22:40
  How
• 22:40
  do
• 22:40
  we
• 22:40
  create
• 22:40
  this
• 22:41
  for
• 22:41
  them?
• 22:41
  Where
• 22:41
  do
• 22:41
  they
• 22:42
  go?
• 22:43
  Right.
• 22:43
  I
• 22:43
  think
• 22:43
  that's
• 22:44
  the
• 22:44
  question
• 22:44
  everyone
• 22:45
  is
• 22:45
  trying
• 22:45
  to
• 22:45
  find
• 22:45
  but
• 22:47
  I
• 22:47
  know,
• 22:47
  it's
• 22:47
  funny
• 22:47
  and
• 22:48
  I
• 22:48
  was
• 22:48
  like,
• 22:48
  my
• 22:48
  whole
• 22:48
  life
• 22:49
  I've
• 22:49
  been
• 22:49
  kind
• 22:49
  of
• 22:49
  trying
• 22:49
  to
• 22:49
  figure
• 22:50
  out
• 22:50
  how
• 22:50
  do
• 22:50
  I
• 22:50
  reach
• 22:51
  these
• 22:51
  kids?
• 22:51
  And
• 22:51
  when
• 22:52
  I
• 22:52
  started
• 22:52
  my
• 22:52
  coaching
• 22:53
  and
• 22:53
  everything,
• 22:53
  I
• 22:53
  was
• 22:53
  like,
• 22:54
  I'll
• 22:55
  write
• 22:55
  a
• 22:55
  book.
• 22:56
  So
• 22:56
  I
• 22:56
  wrote
• 22:56
  a
• 22:56
  book,
• 22:57
  specifically
• 22:58
  a
• 22:59
  guide
• 23:00
  for
• 23:00
  younger,
• 23:00
  like
• 23:00
  sixth,
• 23:01
  seventh,
• 23:01
  eighth,
• 23:01
  very
• 23:02
  simply
• 23:02
  written.
• 23:03
  And
• 23:03
  it
• 23:04
  was
• 23:04
  called
• 23:04
  Surviving
• 23:04
  Alcoholic
• 23:05
  Parents.
• 23:06
  Hmm.
• 23:07
  And
• 23:07
  so
• 23:07
  I
• 23:08
  was
• 23:08
  like,
• 23:08
  I
• 23:08
  don't
• 23:08
  have
• 23:08
  to
• 23:09
  talk
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  children
• 23:09
  about
• 23:10
  having
• 23:10
  alcoholic
• 23:11
  parents.
• 23:11
  I
• 23:11
  can
• 23:11
  just
• 23:12
  talk
• 23:12
  to
• 23:12
  children
• 23:13
  about
• 23:14
  when
• 23:15
  you
• 23:15
  need
• 23:15
  someone
• 23:15
  to
• 23:15
  talk
• 23:16
  to
• 23:16
  or
• 23:16
  teach
• 23:17
  them
• 23:17
  resilience,
• 23:17
  teach
• 23:18
  them
• 23:18
  emotional
• 23:18
  coping
• 23:19
  skills,
• 23:20
  that
• 23:20
  kind
• 23:20
  of
• 23:20
  thing.
• 23:21
  But
• 23:21
  then
• 23:21
  I
• 23:21
  kind
• 23:21
  of
• 23:21
  laughed
• 23:22
  to
• 23:22
  myself.
• 23:22
  I'm
• 23:22
  like,
• 23:22
  oh
• 23:23
  my
• 23:23
  God,
• 23:23
  can
• 23:23
  I,
• 23:23
  I
• 23:24
  can't
• 23:24
  even
• 23:24
  imagine
• 23:25
  being
• 23:25
  like
• 23:25
  coming
• 23:25
  home
• 23:26
  and
• 23:26
  being
• 23:26
  like,
• 23:26
  Hey
• 23:26
  mom,
• 23:27
  there's
• 23:27
  this
• 23:27
  girl
• 23:27
  coming
• 23:28
  to
• 23:28
  school
• 23:28
  to
• 23:28
  talk,
• 23:29
  and
• 23:29
  she's
• 23:29
  talking
• 23:29
  about
• 23:29
  alcoholic
• 23:30
  parents.
• 23:30
  You
• 23:31
  know,
• 23:31
  so
• 23:31
  it's
• 23:31
  like,
• 23:32
  how
• 23:32
  do
• 23:32
  you
• 23:32
  get
• 23:32
  this
• 23:33
  message
• 23:33
  to
• 23:33
  the
• 23:33
  kids
• 23:34
  that
• 23:34
  need
• 23:34
  it?
• 23:36
  It's
• 23:36
  difficult,
• 23:37
  but,
• 23:37
  you
• 23:37
  know,
• 23:37
  I
• 23:37
  think
• 23:38
  to
• 23:38
  your
• 23:38
  point,
• 23:38
  I
• 23:38
  think
• 23:39
  that
• 23:39
  kids
• 23:39
  need
• 23:40
  that
• 23:40
  authenticity.
• 23:41
  I
• 23:41
  think
• 23:41
  that
• 23:41
  kids
• 23:42
  sense
• 23:42
  it,
• 23:42
  you
• 23:42
  know,
• 23:43
  they,
• 23:43
  they,
• 23:44
  five
• 23:44
  or
• 23:44
  six
• 23:44
  kids
• 23:44
  in
• 23:44
  the
• 23:45
  classroom
• 23:45
  that
• 23:45
  were
• 23:45
  like,
• 23:45
  wow,
• 23:46
  I'm
• 23:46
  going
• 23:46
  through
• 23:46
  this
• 23:46
  exact
• 23:47
  same
• 23:47
  thing.
• 23:47
  And
• 23:47
  so
• 23:48
  I
• 23:48
  think,
• 23:48
  you
• 23:48
  know,
• 23:49
  it's
• 23:49
  a
• 23:49
  balance
• 23:49
  of
• 23:49
  figuring
• 23:50
  out
• 23:50
  how
• 23:50
  do
• 23:50
  we
• 23:50
  reach
• 23:50
  kids?
• 23:51
  How
• 23:51
  do
• 23:51
  we
• 23:51
  bring
• 23:51
  our
• 23:52
  authentic
• 23:52
  experiences,
• 23:54
  and
• 23:54
  how
• 23:54
  do
• 23:54
  we
• 23:54
  do
• 23:54
  it
• 23:54
  in
• 23:55
  a
• 23:55
  way,
• 23:55
  I
• 23:55
  guess
• 23:55
  that's
• 23:55
  appropriate,
• 23:56
  right?
• 23:56
  It's
• 23:57
  like,
• 23:57
  what
• 23:57
  can
• 23:57
  we
• 23:57
  say
• 23:58
  in
• 23:58
  the
• 23:58
  classroom
• 23:58
  or
• 23:58
  like,
• 23:59
  what
• 23:59
  can
• 23:59
  we
• 23:59
  say
• 23:59
  in
• 23:59
  the
• 23:59
  workspace?
• 24:00
  Because
• 24:00
  sometimes
• 24:01
  those
• 24:01
  things
• 24:01
  are
• 24:01
  very
• 24:01
  competing
• 24:02
  when
• 24:02
  they,
• 24:03
  they
• 24:03
  shouldn't
• 24:03
  be.
• 24:03
  Right?
• 24:04
  'cause
• 24:04
  we're
• 24:04
  all,
• 24:04
  we're
• 24:04
  all
• 24:04
  working
• 24:05
  towards
• 24:05
  the
• 24:05
  same
• 24:05
  goal
• 24:06
  and
• 24:06
  I
• 24:06
  think
• 24:06
  we
• 24:06
  lose
• 24:06
  that
• 24:06
  sometimes.
• 24:07
  Right?
• 24:08
  And
• 24:09
  so
• 24:09
  all
• 24:09
  you
• 24:09
  can
• 24:09
  do,
• 24:09
  like
• 24:10
  as
• 24:10
  a
• 24:10
  teacher,
• 24:10
  I
• 24:10
  just
• 24:10
  tried
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  build
• 24:11
  community.
• 24:12
  I
• 24:12
  just
• 24:12
  tried
• 24:12
  to
• 24:13
  teach
• 24:14
  empathy
• 24:14
  and
• 24:14
  compassion
• 24:15
  and
• 24:15
  you
• 24:16
  know,
• 24:16
  right
• 24:16
  from
• 24:16
  first
• 24:17
  grade,
• 24:17
  I
• 24:17
  always
• 24:17
  said,
• 24:18
  if
• 24:18
  you
• 24:19
  see
• 24:19
  someone
• 24:19
  and
• 24:19
  they're
• 24:19
  sad.
• 24:21
  They
• 24:21
  didn't
• 24:21
  wanna
• 24:21
  be
• 24:21
  sad,
• 24:22
  they
• 24:22
  didn't
• 24:22
  wanna
• 24:22
  wake
• 24:23
  up
• 24:23
  sad.
• 24:23
  So
• 24:23
  if
• 24:23
  you
• 24:24
  see
• 24:24
  someone
• 24:24
  and
• 24:24
  they're
• 24:24
  sad,
• 24:25
  something
• 24:25
  happens.
• 24:25
  So
• 24:25
  instead
• 24:26
  of
• 24:26
  saying
• 24:26
  what's
• 24:27
  wrong
• 24:27
  with
• 24:27
  you,
• 24:28
  say,
• 24:29
  can
• 24:29
  I
• 24:29
  help
• 24:30
  you?
• 24:30
  Or
• 24:30
  find
• 24:31
  a
• 24:31
  way
• 24:31
  to
• 24:31
  make
• 24:31
  'em
• 24:31
  smile?
• 24:32
  And
• 24:32
  I
• 24:32
  started
• 24:32
  that
• 24:33
  right
• 24:33
  in
• 24:33
  first
• 24:33
  grade
• 24:33
  because
• 24:35
  you
• 24:35
  could
• 24:36
  see
• 24:36
  like,
• 24:36
  I
• 24:37
  truly
• 24:37
  believe
• 24:38
  children
• 24:38
  wanna
• 24:38
  be
• 24:38
  joyous.
• 24:39
  They
• 24:39
  wanna
• 24:39
  learn,
• 24:40
  they
• 24:40
  wanna
• 24:40
  do
• 24:40
  all
• 24:40
  this.
• 24:41
  They
• 24:41
  don't
• 24:41
  wanna
• 24:41
  be
• 24:43
  unhappy.
• 24:44
  So.
• 24:45
  Yeah,
• 24:45
  it's,
• 24:46
  it's,
• 24:46
  it's
• 24:46
  a,
• 24:46
  it's
• 24:47
  a
• 24:47
  struggle.
• 24:48
  I
• 24:48
  mean,
• 24:48
  I
• 24:48
  know
• 24:49
  pretty
• 24:49
  much
• 24:50
  they
• 24:50
  say
• 24:50
  one
• 24:51
  in
• 24:51
  four
• 24:51
  children
• 24:52
  in,
• 24:52
  in
• 24:53
  the
• 24:53
  school
• 24:53
  has
• 24:53
  at
• 24:53
  least
• 24:54
  one
• 24:54
  parent
• 24:55
  that
• 24:55
  that
• 24:56
  is
• 24:56
  addicted
• 24:56
  to
• 24:56
  some
• 24:57
  substance.
• 24:58
  That's
• 24:58
  so,
• 24:58
  and
• 24:59
  that's,
• 24:59
  I
• 24:59
  mean,
• 24:59
  we're
• 25:00
  on
• 25:00
  a,
• 25:00
  on
• 25:01
  a
• 25:01
  podcast
• 25:01
  called
• 25:01
  Adult
• 25:02
  Child
• 25:02
  of
• 25:02
  Dysfunction,
• 25:03
  so
• 25:04
  that's
• 25:04
  one
• 25:04
  dysfunction
• 25:06
  that's
• 25:06
  not
• 25:07
  even
• 25:07
  all
• 25:07
  the
• 25:07
  other
• 25:07
  stuff.
• 25:08
  Like
• 25:09
  we
• 25:09
  said,
• 25:09
  I
• 25:09
  didn't,
• 25:09
  when
• 25:10
  I
• 25:10
  was
• 25:10
  a
• 25:10
  kid,
• 25:10
  I
• 25:10
  didn't
• 25:11
  have
• 25:11
  to
• 25:12
  worry
• 25:12
  about
• 25:12
  school
• 25:12
  shootings.
• 25:13
  But
• 25:13
  now
• 25:14
  there's
• 25:14
  so,
• 25:15
  like,
• 25:16
  I'm
• 25:16
  sure
• 25:16
  there's
• 25:16
  people
• 25:17
  that
• 25:17
  are
• 25:17
  very
• 25:18
  traumatized
• 25:18
  and
• 25:18
  scared
• 25:19
  and
• 25:19
  they
• 25:19
  can't,
• 25:20
  if
• 25:20
  they
• 25:20
  can't
• 25:20
  talk
• 25:20
  to
• 25:20
  anybody,
• 25:21
  that's
• 25:21
  the
• 25:21
  big
• 25:22
  picture.
• 25:23
  They
• 25:23
  have
• 25:23
  to
• 25:23
  be
• 25:23
  able
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  trust
• 25:24
  someone.
• 25:25
  And
• 25:25
  I
• 25:25
  think
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  your
• 25:26
  point,
• 25:26
  it
• 25:26
  seems
• 25:27
  like
• 25:27
  present
• 25:28
  day,
• 25:28
  those
• 25:28
  dysfunctions
• 25:29
  are
• 25:29
  almost
• 25:29
  amplified,
• 25:30
  right?
• 25:30
  It's
• 25:30
  like
• 25:31
  you
• 25:31
  can't
• 25:32
  find
• 25:32
  reprieve,
• 25:33
  you
• 25:33
  know,
• 25:33
  if
• 25:34
  there's
• 25:34
  dysfunction
• 25:34
  in
• 25:35
  the
• 25:35
  home.
• 25:35
  You
• 25:35
  go
• 25:35
  to
• 25:35
  school,
• 25:36
  like
• 25:36
  you
• 25:36
  said,
• 25:36
  there's
• 25:36
  shootings
• 25:37
  or
• 25:37
  you
• 25:38
  go
• 25:38
  online
• 25:38
  and
• 25:38
  you're
• 25:39
  hearing,
• 25:39
  you
• 25:39
  know,
• 25:39
  heavily
• 25:39
  political
• 25:40
  things
• 25:40
  or
• 25:41
  another
• 25:41
  tragedy
• 25:42
  that's
• 25:42
  happened
• 25:42
  in
• 25:42
  the
• 25:42
  world.
• 25:43
  And
• 25:43
  so
• 25:43
  it's
• 25:43
  heavy.
• 25:44
  I
• 25:44
  mean,
• 25:44
  as
• 25:44
  an
• 25:44
  adult,
• 25:45
  sometimes
• 25:45
  I
• 25:45
  don't
• 25:45
  even
• 25:46
  like
• 25:46
  to
• 25:46
  read
• 25:46
  the
• 25:46
  news
• 25:46
  because,
• 25:47
  you
• 25:47
  know,
• 25:47
  it
• 25:47
  may
• 25:47
  impact
• 25:48
  how
• 25:48
  my
• 25:48
  day
• 25:48
  is
• 25:49
  for
• 25:49
  you,
• 25:49
  right?
• 25:49
  So
• 25:50
  imagine
• 25:50
  it
• 25:50
  as
• 25:50
  a
• 25:50
  child
• 25:51
  going
• 25:51
  through
• 25:51
  this.
• 25:52
  With
• 25:53
  not
• 25:53
  as
• 25:53
  much
• 25:54
  support
• 25:54
  as
• 25:55
  they
• 25:55
  need.
• 25:55
  Right.
• 25:56
  Yeah.
• 25:56
  It's
• 25:57
  hard.
• 25:58
  It
• 25:58
  is.
• 25:58
  And
• 25:59
  for
• 25:59
  the
• 25:59
  parents
• 25:59
  out
• 26:00
  there
• 26:00
  listening
• 26:00
  that
• 26:01
  are
• 26:01
  like,
• 26:01
  oh
• 26:01
  gosh,
• 26:02
  you
• 26:02
  know,
• 26:02
  I
• 26:02
  haven't
• 26:03
  had
• 26:03
  those
• 26:03
  conversations.
• 26:05
  Start
• 26:05
  having
• 26:06
  'em
• 26:06
  Now.
• 26:07
  Don't
• 26:07
  start
• 26:07
  with
• 26:08
  the
• 26:08
  big,
• 26:08
  big
• 26:08
  heavy
• 26:09
  ones.
• 26:09
  If
• 26:09
  you've
• 26:09
  never
• 26:10
  had
• 26:10
  a
• 26:10
  conversation
• 26:10
  or
• 26:10
  you've
• 26:11
  never
• 26:11
  really,
• 26:11
  truly.
• 26:13
  Had
• 26:13
  those
• 26:14
  small
• 26:14
  conversations
• 26:15
  with
• 26:15
  your
• 26:15
  children,
• 26:15
  just
• 26:16
  about
• 26:16
  how
• 26:16
  was
• 26:16
  your
• 26:16
  day?
• 26:17
  And
• 26:17
  then
• 26:17
  don't
• 26:17
  leave
• 26:18
  it.
• 26:18
  How
• 26:18
  was
• 26:18
  your
• 26:18
  day?
• 26:19
  Good.
• 26:19
  Well,
• 26:20
  tell
• 26:20
  me
• 26:20
  something
• 26:20
  good
• 26:21
  that
• 26:21
  happened.
• 26:21
  Just
• 26:22
  keep
• 26:22
  those
• 26:22
  conversations
• 26:23
  going
• 26:23
  because
• 26:24
  eventually
• 26:25
  they
• 26:25
  will
• 26:25
  trust
• 26:26
  you
• 26:26
  to
• 26:26
  be
• 26:26
  like,
• 26:27
  not
• 26:27
  so
• 26:27
  good.
• 26:28
  Okay.
• 26:28
  Well,
• 26:28
  when
• 26:28
  you're
• 26:29
  ready,
• 26:29
  come
• 26:29
  to
• 26:29
  me.
• 26:30
  You
• 26:30
  can
• 26:30
  come
• 26:30
  to
• 26:31
  me.
• 26:31
  Like
• 26:31
  even
• 26:32
  opening,
• 26:32
  just
• 26:33
  opening
• 26:33
  that
• 26:33
  door
• 26:33
  a
• 26:34
  little
• 26:34
  more
• 26:34
  and
• 26:34
  if
• 26:34
  it
• 26:34
  wasn't
• 26:35
  open
• 26:35
  for
• 26:35
  the
• 26:35
  first
• 26:36
  10
• 26:36
  or
• 26:36
  12
• 26:36
  years
• 26:36
  of
• 26:37
  their
• 26:37
  lives,
• 26:38
  start
• 26:38
  to
• 26:38
  open
• 26:39
  it
• 26:39
  now.
• 26:39
  It's
• 26:40
  never
• 26:40
  too
• 26:40
  late.
• 26:41
  Never
• 26:41
  too
• 26:41
  late.
• 26:43
  So
• 26:43
  I
• 26:43
  love
• 26:43
  that,
• 26:44
  right?
• 26:44
  It's
• 26:44
  not
• 26:44
  a
• 26:44
  race,
• 26:45
  you
• 26:45
  know,
• 26:45
  even
• 26:46
  if
• 26:47
  you
• 26:47
  know
• 26:47
  things
• 26:48
  haven't,
• 26:48
  been
• 26:48
  great
• 26:49
  at
• 26:49
  home
• 26:49
  life,
• 26:49
  there's
• 26:50
  dysfunction,
• 26:50
  all
• 26:50
  that
• 26:50
  stuff,
• 26:51
  you
• 26:51
  know,
• 26:51
  today
• 26:51
  can
• 26:51
  be
• 26:52
  the
• 26:52
  start
• 26:52
  of
• 26:52
  something
• 26:53
  different.
• 26:53
  You
• 26:54
  know,
• 26:54
  I
• 26:54
  think
• 26:54
  it's
• 26:54
  also
• 26:54
  really
• 26:54
  important
• 26:55
  too,
• 26:56
  the
• 26:56
  goal.
• 26:58
  Isn't
• 26:58
  to
• 26:59
  raise
• 27:00
  kids
• 27:00
  who,
• 27:01
  completely
• 27:01
  avoid
• 27:02
  the
• 27:02
  digital
• 27:02
  world,
• 27:03
  who
• 27:03
  are
• 27:03
  scared
• 27:03
  of
• 27:03
  the
• 27:03
  digital
• 27:04
  world.
• 27:05
  The
• 27:05
  goal
• 27:05
  is
• 27:05
  to
• 27:05
  raise
• 27:05
  kids
• 27:06
  who
• 27:06
  can
• 27:06
  move
• 27:06
  through
• 27:07
  both
• 27:07
  the
• 27:07
  digital
• 27:07
  and
• 27:08
  the
• 27:08
  physical
• 27:08
  with
• 27:08
  confidence
• 27:09
  and
• 27:09
  awareness,
• 27:10
  and
• 27:10
  that
• 27:10
  trust.
• 27:11
  And
• 27:11
  so
• 27:12
  again,
• 27:12
  it's
• 27:12
  not
• 27:12
  the
• 27:12
  destination,
• 27:13
  it's
• 27:13
  the
• 27:13
  journey.
• 27:13
  So
• 27:14
  if
• 27:14
  you
• 27:14
  had
• 27:14
  to
• 27:14
  give
• 27:15
  parents
• 27:15
  some
• 27:15
  tips,
• 27:16
  you
• 27:16
  can
• 27:16
  kind
• 27:16
  of
• 27:17
  do
• 27:17
  it
• 27:17
  broadly
• 27:18
  or
• 27:18
  in
• 27:19
  certain
• 27:20
  age
• 27:20
  groups.
• 27:21
  What
• 27:21
  are
• 27:21
  some
• 27:21
  tips,
• 27:22
  strategies,
• 27:24
  tools
• 27:25
  that
• 27:25
  you
• 27:25
  can
• 27:25
  recommend?
• 27:26
  Absolutely.
• 27:27
  I
• 27:27
  would
• 27:27
  say
• 27:27
  the
• 27:27
  first
• 27:28
  is
• 27:28
  just
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  be
• 27:28
  curious.
• 27:29
  Curiosity
• 27:30
  always
• 27:30
  builds
• 27:31
  that
• 27:31
  openness.
• 27:32
  And
• 27:32
  if
• 27:32
  kids
• 27:32
  see
• 27:33
  that
• 27:33
  you're
• 27:33
  curious,
• 27:34
  they
• 27:34
  respond
• 27:34
  well
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  that.
• 27:35
  I
• 27:35
  would
• 27:35
  say
• 27:36
  secondly,
• 27:37
  don't
• 27:37
  make.
• 27:38
  Talking
• 27:39
  about
• 27:39
  their
• 27:39
  online
• 27:40
  experiences,
• 27:41
  kind
• 27:41
  of
• 27:41
  like
• 27:41
  one
• 27:41
  big
• 27:42
  tech
• 27:42
  talk,
• 27:42
  something
• 27:43
  that's
• 27:43
  very
• 27:43
  daunting
• 27:44
  and
• 27:44
  heavy.
• 27:45
  It
• 27:45
  should
• 27:45
  be
• 27:45
  continuous,
• 27:46
  it
• 27:46
  should
• 27:46
  be
• 27:46
  something
• 27:47
  life,
• 27:47
  you
• 27:47
  know,
• 27:47
  as
• 27:47
  you
• 27:48
  said
• 27:48
  when
• 27:48
  you
• 27:48
  spoke
• 27:48
  to
• 27:49
  your
• 27:49
  son,
• 27:49
  oh,
• 27:49
  you
• 27:50
  know,
• 27:50
  how
• 27:50
  was
• 27:50
  your
• 27:50
  day?
• 27:51
  Oh,
• 27:51
  you
• 27:51
  know,
• 27:51
  did
• 27:51
  you
• 27:51
  talk
• 27:51
  to,
• 27:51
  it
• 27:52
  can
• 27:52
  be
• 27:52
  something
• 27:52
  that's,
• 27:53
  you
• 27:53
  know,
• 27:53
  piecemeal.
• 27:53
  It
• 27:53
  doesn't
• 27:54
  have
• 27:54
  to
• 27:54
  be
• 27:54
  something
• 27:54
  that
• 27:55
  you
• 27:55
  build
• 27:55
  up
• 27:55
  to
• 27:55
  and
• 27:56
  that
• 27:56
  lasts
• 27:56
  hours.
• 27:57
  'Cause
• 27:57
  that's
• 27:57
  not
• 27:57
  good
• 27:57
  for
• 27:57
  anyone.
• 27:58
  No.
• 27:59
  I
• 28:00
  would
• 28:00
  say,
• 28:00
  also
• 28:01
  kind
• 28:01
  of
• 28:01
  as
• 28:01
  we
• 28:01
  noted
• 28:02
  in
• 28:02
  our
• 28:02
  conversation
• 28:02
  earlier,
• 28:03
  just
• 28:03
  check
• 28:04
  out
• 28:04
  parental
• 28:04
  controls.
• 28:05
  You
• 28:05
  know,
• 28:05
  I
• 28:05
  know
• 28:05
  that
• 28:06
  there's
• 28:06
  a
• 28:06
  lot,
• 28:07
  they're
• 28:07
  on
• 28:07
  devices,
• 28:07
  they're
• 28:08
  on
• 28:08
  apps,
• 28:08
  but
• 28:08
  just,
• 28:09
  you
• 28:09
  know,
• 28:09
  kind
• 28:09
  of
• 28:09
  get
• 28:10
  your
• 28:10
  feet
• 28:10
  wet
• 28:10
  and,
• 28:10
  and
• 28:11
  figure
• 28:11
  out,
• 28:11
  okay,
• 28:12
  which
• 28:12
  ones
• 28:12
  would
• 28:12
  work
• 28:13
  for
• 28:13
  my
• 28:13
  family,
• 28:13
  for
• 28:14
  my
• 28:14
  kids?
• 28:15
  Just
• 28:15
  make
• 28:15
  sure
• 28:15
  that
• 28:16
  you're
• 28:16
  modeling
• 28:16
  the
• 28:16
  correct
• 28:17
  behavior.
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  think
• 28:18
  we
• 28:18
  sometimes
• 28:19
  underestimate
• 28:19
  how
• 28:20
  much
• 28:20
  our
• 28:20
  kids
• 28:20
  are
• 28:20
  watching
• 28:21
  us
• 28:21
  and
• 28:21
  so
• 28:22
  if
• 28:22
  you're
• 28:22
  on
• 28:23
  your
• 28:23
  phone,
• 28:23
  you
• 28:23
  know,
• 28:24
  during
• 28:24
  dinner,
• 28:24
  it's
• 28:25
  hard
• 28:25
  to
• 28:25
  ask
• 28:25
  your
• 28:25
  kid
• 28:26
  to
• 28:26
  get
• 28:26
  off
• 28:26
  their
• 28:26
  phone
• 28:27
  during
• 28:27
  dinner.
• 28:27
  So
• 28:27
  just
• 28:28
  make
• 28:28
  sure
• 28:28
  that
• 28:28
  you're
• 28:29
  modeling
• 28:29
  some
• 28:29
  of
• 28:30
  those
• 28:30
  positive
• 28:30
  behaviors
• 28:31
  as
• 28:31
  well.
• 28:32
  Yes,
• 28:32
  human
• 28:32
  connection.
• 28:33
  I
• 28:33
  work
• 28:34
  in
• 28:34
  a
• 28:34
  restaurant
• 28:34
  at
• 28:35
  night
• 28:35
  and.
• 28:36
  Literally
• 28:37
  a
• 28:37
  family
• 28:37
  of
• 28:37
  five,
• 28:38
  three
• 28:38
  kids,
• 28:38
  all
• 28:39
  five
• 28:39
  of
• 28:39
  them
• 28:39
  will
• 28:39
  be
• 28:39
  on
• 28:40
  their
• 28:40
  phone.
• 28:40
  Yes.
• 28:41
  Or
• 28:41
  kids
• 28:41
  on
• 28:42
  the
• 28:42
  iPads,
• 28:42
  mom
• 28:42
  and
• 28:43
  dad
• 28:43
  on
• 28:43
  their
• 28:43
  phone.
• 28:44
  And
• 28:44
  you're
• 28:44
  unavailable
• 28:45
  at
• 28:45
  that
• 28:45
  point.
• 28:45
  You're
• 28:45
  unavailable
• 28:46
  for
• 28:46
  conversation
• 28:47
  even
• 28:48
  if
• 28:48
  your
• 28:48
  kids
• 28:48
  wanted
• 28:49
  to
• 28:49
  have
• 28:49
  a
• 28:49
  conversation.
• 28:51
  That's
• 28:51
  what
• 28:51
  I
• 28:51
  think
• 28:51
  people
• 28:52
  miss.
• 28:55
  I've
• 28:55
  heard
• 28:56
  people
• 28:56
  say,
• 28:56
  oh,
• 28:56
  well
• 28:57
  we
• 28:57
  don't
• 28:57
  even
• 28:57
  go
• 28:57
  out
• 28:57
  to
• 28:57
  dinner
• 28:57
  anymore
• 28:58
  because
• 28:58
  we
• 28:58
  don't
• 28:58
  even
• 28:58
  talk.
• 28:59
  We
• 28:59
  just
• 28:59
  sit
• 28:59
  on
• 28:59
  our
• 28:59
  phones.
• 29:00
  Well
• 29:00
  put
• 29:00
  your
• 29:00
  phone
• 29:01
  down.
• 29:01
  Yeah.
• 29:02
  Make
• 29:02
  the
• 29:02
  change.
• 29:03
  Make
• 29:03
  the
• 29:03
  change.
• 29:04
  Like
• 29:04
  nobody
• 29:04
  can
• 29:04
  change
• 29:05
  that.
• 29:09
  Yeah,
• 29:09
  it's,
• 29:09
  it's
• 29:09
  okay
• 29:10
  if,
• 29:10
  if,
• 29:10
  you
• 29:10
  know,
• 29:10
  sometimes
• 29:11
  that
• 29:11
  happens,
• 29:12
  but
• 29:12
  you
• 29:12
  know,
• 29:13
  if
• 29:13
  that
• 29:13
  happens
• 29:13
  six
• 29:14
  days
• 29:14
  a
• 29:14
  week,
• 29:15
  maybe
• 29:15
  one
• 29:15
  day,
• 29:15
  right?
• 29:16
  That
• 29:16
  can
• 29:16
  be
• 29:16
  the
• 29:16
  starting
• 29:17
  point
• 29:17
  where
• 29:17
  everyone
• 29:17
  puts
• 29:18
  their
• 29:18
  phone
• 29:18
  away
• 29:18
  and
• 29:18
  has
• 29:18
  a
• 29:18
  conversation.
• 29:19
  It's
• 29:19
  just
• 29:20
  small
• 29:21
  baby
• 29:21
  steps.
• 29:21
  Or
• 29:22
  we
• 29:22
  don't
• 29:22
  bring
• 29:22
  it
• 29:22
  to
• 29:22
  dinner.
• 29:23
  We
• 29:23
  just
• 29:23
  don't
• 29:24
  pull
• 29:24
  it
• 29:24
  out
• 29:24
  while
• 29:24
  we're
• 29:24
  eating
• 29:25
  or
• 29:25
  we
• 29:25
  don't
• 29:25
  pull
• 29:25
  it
• 29:25
  out
• 29:26
  while
• 29:26
  we're
• 29:26
  in
• 29:26
  church.
• 29:27
  Exactly.
• 29:27
  I
• 29:28
  mean,
• 29:28
  to
• 29:28
  be
• 29:28
  in
• 29:28
  church
• 29:28
  and
• 29:29
  watching
• 29:29
  everybody,
• 29:30
  I'm
• 29:30
  like,
• 29:31
  seriously,
• 29:32
  we're
• 29:32
  on,
• 29:32
  isn't
• 29:32
  it?
• 29:33
  I'm
• 29:33
  like,
• 29:33
  you
• 29:33
  know,
• 29:33
  God's
• 29:34
  watching.
• 29:34
  Right.
• 29:36
  He
• 29:36
  sees
• 29:36
  that
• 29:36
  you're
• 29:37
  not
• 29:37
  giving
• 29:37
  him
• 29:38
  your
• 29:38
  undivided
• 29:38
  attention.
• 29:40
  Yeah,
• 29:40
  but
• 29:40
  I
• 29:41
  mean,
• 29:41
  there's
• 29:41
  no
• 29:41
  easy
• 29:42
  answer.
• 29:42
  The
• 29:42
  best
• 29:42
  we
• 29:42
  can
• 29:43
  do
• 29:43
  is
• 29:43
  the
• 29:43
  best
• 29:43
  we
• 29:43
  can
• 29:44
  do,
• 29:44
  but
• 29:45
  it's
• 29:45
  a
• 29:45
  different
• 29:45
  world
• 29:46
  we
• 29:46
  live
• 29:46
  in
• 29:47
  and.
• 29:48
  We
• 29:48
  need
• 29:48
  to
• 29:48
  kind
• 29:48
  of
• 29:48
  embrace
• 29:49
  it
• 29:49
  and
• 29:49
  look
• 29:50
  at
• 29:50
  it
• 29:50
  from
• 29:50
  a
• 29:50
  safety
• 29:51
  aspect,
• 29:51
  from
• 29:51
  an
• 29:51
  educational
• 29:52
  aspect,
• 29:52
  from
• 29:53
  all
• 29:53
  different
• 29:54
  things.
• 29:54
  Because
• 29:54
  there
• 29:54
  are
• 29:54
  blessings
• 29:55
  and
• 29:55
  there
• 29:55
  are
• 29:55
  curses
• 29:56
  to
• 29:56
  every
• 29:56
  single
• 29:57
  new
• 29:57
  thing
• 29:57
  that
• 29:57
  comes
• 29:58
  into
• 29:58
  the
• 29:58
  world.
• 29:59
  And
• 29:59
  I
• 29:59
  think
• 29:59
  part
• 30:00
  of
• 30:00
  that
• 30:00
  is
• 30:00
  also
• 30:00
  giving
• 30:01
  young
• 30:01
  people
• 30:01
  credit.
• 30:02
  You
• 30:02
  know,
• 30:02
  sometimes
• 30:03
  I
• 30:03
  think
• 30:03
  that
• 30:03
  we
• 30:03
  don't
• 30:03
  understand
• 30:04
  how
• 30:04
  brilliant
• 30:05
  young
• 30:05
  people
• 30:05
  are,
• 30:05
  how
• 30:06
  deeply
• 30:06
  they
• 30:06
  think
• 30:06
  about
• 30:07
  things,
• 30:07
  how
• 30:07
  deeply
• 30:07
  they
• 30:08
  understand
• 30:08
  things.
• 30:09
  You
• 30:09
  know,
• 30:09
  they're
• 30:09
  creative,
• 30:10
  they're
• 30:10
  deep
• 30:10
  thinkers.
• 30:12
  Making
• 30:12
  those
• 30:13
  conversations
• 30:14
  in
• 30:14
  these
• 30:14
  kind
• 30:14
  of
• 30:15
  boundary
• 30:15
  setting
• 30:15
  more
• 30:16
  of
• 30:16
  a
• 30:16
  collaborative
• 30:17
  effort
• 30:17
  through
• 30:17
  discussions
• 30:18
  instead
• 30:18
  of,
• 30:19
  this
• 30:19
  is
• 30:19
  what
• 30:19
  I
• 30:19
  think
• 30:19
  is
• 30:19
  best
• 30:20
  for
• 30:20
  you,
• 30:20
  and
• 30:20
  so
• 30:20
  this
• 30:20
  is
• 30:20
  what
• 30:21
  we're
• 30:21
  gonna
• 30:21
  go
• 30:21
  with,
• 30:21
  allow
• 30:22
  them
• 30:22
  the
• 30:22
  chance
• 30:22
  to
• 30:23
  express
• 30:23
  themselves.
• 30:24
  Yep.
• 30:24
  Because
• 30:24
  they
• 30:24
  are
• 30:25
  full
• 30:25
  of
• 30:25
  thoughts
• 30:25
  and
• 30:25
  opinions
• 30:26
  and
• 30:26
  those
• 30:27
  are
• 30:27
  valid.
• 30:27
  Well,
• 30:27
  we
• 30:28
  had
• 30:28
  that
• 30:28
  conversation
• 30:29
  one
• 30:29
  time
• 30:29
  at
• 30:29
  a
• 30:29
  school
• 30:30
  and
• 30:30
  a
• 30:30
  teacher
• 30:30
  said,
• 30:30
  well,
• 30:31
  how
• 30:31
  long
• 30:31
  do
• 30:31
  you
• 30:31
  think
• 30:32
  you
• 30:32
  should
• 30:32
  let
• 30:32
  your
• 30:32
  kid
• 30:33
  on?
• 30:33
  And
• 30:33
  she
• 30:33
  goes,
• 30:33
  well,
• 30:34
  I
• 30:34
  don't
• 30:34
  know.
• 30:34
  I
• 30:34
  just
• 30:34
  told
• 30:34
  her
• 30:34
  an
• 30:35
  hour
• 30:35
  a
• 30:35
  day
• 30:35
  and
• 30:35
  that's
• 30:35
  it.
• 30:35
  And
• 30:36
  I'm
• 30:36
  like,
• 30:36
  well,
• 30:36
  again,
• 30:37
  have
• 30:37
  that
• 30:37
  conversation,
• 30:39
  with
• 30:39
  your
• 30:39
  child
• 30:40
  and
• 30:40
  let
• 30:40
  them
• 30:40
  have
• 30:40
  some
• 30:40
  input,
• 30:41
  because
• 30:41
  when
• 30:41
  they
• 30:42
  own
• 30:42
  it,
• 30:43
  then
• 30:43
  all
• 30:43
  of
• 30:43
  a
• 30:43
  sudden,
• 30:43
  believe
• 30:44
  it
• 30:44
  or
• 30:44
  not,
• 30:44
  kids
• 30:44
  will
• 30:45
  own
• 30:46
  closer
• 30:46
  to
• 30:46
  your
• 30:46
  boundaries
• 30:47
  for
• 30:47
  them
• 30:47
  than
• 30:48
  you
• 30:48
  think
• 30:48
  they'll
• 30:49
  Yes.
• 30:49
  They
• 30:50
  know
• 30:50
  right
• 30:50
  and
• 30:50
  wrong
• 30:51
  in
• 30:51
  their,
• 30:52
  in
• 30:52
  their
• 30:52
  brains.
• 30:54
  And
• 30:54
  they
• 30:54
  wanna
• 30:55
  do
• 30:55
  the
• 30:55
  right
• 30:55
  thing.
• 30:55
  They
• 30:56
  do,
• 30:56
  they
• 30:56
  want
• 30:56
  mm-hmm.
• 30:56
  They
• 30:57
  do
• 30:57
  the
• 30:57
  right
• 30:57
  thing.
• 30:57
  And
• 30:58
  sometimes,
• 30:58
  you
• 30:58
  know,
• 30:58
  even
• 30:59
  jobs
• 30:59
  and
• 30:59
  rule,
• 31:00
  you
• 31:00
  know,
• 31:00
  things
• 31:00
  that
• 31:00
  we
• 31:01
  set
• 31:01
  for
• 31:01
  our
• 31:01
  children,
• 31:02
  we
• 31:02
  don't
• 31:02
  give
• 31:02
  them
• 31:02
  enough
• 31:03
  credit
• 31:03
  and
• 31:04
  they
• 31:04
  will
• 31:04
  come
• 31:05
  up
• 31:05
  with
• 31:05
  some
• 31:05
  of
• 31:05
  the
• 31:05
  good
• 31:05
  answers,
• 31:06
  but
• 31:06
  you
• 31:06
  have
• 31:06
  to
• 31:06
  give
• 31:06
  them
• 31:07
  a
• 31:07
  chance
• 31:07
  to
• 31:07
  explore
• 31:08
  that.
• 31:08
  so
• 31:09
  if
• 31:09
  anyone
• 31:09
  is
• 31:10
  interested
• 31:10
  in
• 31:10
  learning
• 31:10
  more,
• 31:11
  if
• 31:11
  you
• 31:11
  go
• 31:12
  to
• 31:12
  which
• 31:13
  stands
• 31:13
  for
• 31:13
  the
• 31:13
  Family
• 31:13
  Online
• 31:14
  Safety
• 31:14
  Institute.
• 31:15
  We
• 31:15
  have,
• 31:16
  a
• 31:16
  gamut
• 31:17
  of
• 31:17
  parent
• 31:17
  resources,
• 31:19
  resources
• 31:19
  for
• 31:19
  teens,
• 31:20
  resources
• 31:21
  for
• 31:21
  younger
• 31:21
  children.
• 31:22
  That
• 31:22
  parents
• 31:23
  can
• 31:23
  use
• 31:23
  as
• 31:23
  a
• 31:23
  starting
• 31:23
  point,
• 31:24
  right?
• 31:24
  So
• 31:24
  if
• 31:24
  you
• 31:24
  wanna
• 31:24
  make
• 31:25
  today,
• 31:25
  the
• 31:25
  day
• 31:25
  that
• 31:25
  you
• 31:25
  start
• 31:26
  these
• 31:26
  digital
• 31:26
  conversations,
• 31:27
  foci.org
• 31:28
  has
• 31:28
  all
• 31:28
  of
• 31:28
  those
• 31:28
  resources
• 31:29
  necessary.
• 31:30
  We
• 31:30
  also
• 31:31
  do
• 31:31
  some
• 31:31
  in-person
• 31:32
  things
• 31:32
  with
• 31:32
  community
• 31:33
  centers
• 31:33
  as
• 31:33
  well
• 31:33
  as
• 31:34
  events
• 31:34
  in
• 31:34
  schools.
• 31:35
  So
• 31:35
  if
• 31:35
  you're
• 31:35
  interested
• 31:36
  in
• 31:36
  those,
• 31:36
  you
• 31:36
  can
• 31:36
  reach
• 31:37
  out
• 31:37
  to
• 31:37
  me
• 31:37
  directly.
• 31:38
  At
• 31:38
  our
• 31:39
  press,
• 31:39
  at
• 31:39
  foci.org
• 31:40
  email.
• 31:41
  Okay.
• 31:42
  And
• 31:42
  I
• 31:42
  will
• 31:42
  put
• 31:43
  that
• 31:43
  in
• 31:43
  the
• 31:43
  show
• 31:43
  notes
• 31:43
  so
• 31:44
  that
• 31:44
  people,
• 31:44
  if
• 31:44
  they're
• 31:44
  driving,
• 31:45
  they
• 31:45
  don't
• 31:45
  have
• 31:45
  to
• 31:45
  think
• 31:45
  about
• 31:46
  it.
• 31:46
  They
• 31:46
  don't
• 31:46
  have
• 31:46
  to
• 31:47
  be
• 31:47
  like,
• 31:47
  what
• 31:47
  did
• 31:47
  that
• 31:47
  stand
• 31:48
  for?
• 31:48
  Family
• 31:48
  speak?
• 31:49
  Yeah,
• 31:49
  yeah,
• 31:49
  yeah.
• 31:50
  It's
• 31:50
  confusing.
• 31:51
  It's,
• 31:51
  it's,
• 31:51
  and
• 31:52
  I
• 31:52
  know
• 31:52
  people
• 31:52
  listen
• 31:53
  to
• 31:53
  podcasts.
• 31:53
  I
• 31:53
  don't
• 31:54
  ever
• 31:54
  write
• 31:54
  anything
• 31:54
  down,
• 31:55
  but
• 31:55
  I'm
• 31:55
  always
• 31:55
  like,
• 31:55
  crap,
• 31:55
  what
• 31:55
  was
• 31:56
  that
• 31:56
  thing?
• 31:56
  So
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  just
• 31:57
  like
• 31:57
  to
• 31:57
  go
• 31:57
  back
• 31:57
  to
• 31:57
  the
• 31:58
  show
• 31:58
  notes.
• 31:58
  So
• 31:59
  I
• 31:59
  will
• 31:59
  have
• 31:59
  that
• 31:59
  all
• 32:00
  in
• 32:00
  there
• 32:00
  for
• 32:00
  them.
• 32:01
  But
• 32:01
  I
• 32:01
  appreciate
• 32:02
  you
• 32:02
  coming
• 32:02
  because
• 32:03
  I
• 32:03
  think
• 32:03
  it's
• 32:03
  a
• 32:03
  topic
• 32:05
  that.
• 32:06
  Many
• 32:07
  people
• 32:07
  kind
• 32:07
  of
• 32:08
  are
• 32:08
  like,
• 32:08
  I
• 32:08
  don't
• 32:08
  wanna
• 32:09
  get
• 32:09
  involved.
• 32:10
  Teachers
• 32:10
  say
• 32:10
  one
• 32:10
  thing.
• 32:11
  I'm
• 32:11
  saying
• 32:11
  another
• 32:11
  thing
• 32:12
  so
• 32:13
  have
• 32:13
  a
• 32:13
  resource.
• 32:14
  She's
• 32:14
  giving
• 32:14
  you
• 32:15
  a
• 32:15
  resource.
• 32:16
  So
• 32:17
  go
• 32:17
  there,
• 32:17
  find
• 32:18
  out,
• 32:18
  get
• 32:18
  the
• 32:18
  tools
• 32:19
  and
• 32:20
  yeah,
• 32:20
  I
• 32:20
  would
• 32:20
  love
• 32:21
  to
• 32:21
  continue
• 32:21
  this
• 32:22
  conversation
• 32:22
  in
• 32:22
  five
• 32:23
  years.
• 32:23
  I
• 32:24
  think
• 32:24
  having
• 32:24
  people
• 32:25
  indoors
• 32:26
  for
• 32:26
  24
• 32:26
  hours
• 32:27
  a
• 32:27
  day
• 32:27
  for
• 32:28
  even
• 32:28
  a
• 32:28
  short
• 32:28
  period
• 32:29
  of
• 32:29
  time,
• 32:31
  wreaked
• 32:31
  havoc
• 32:32
  on
• 32:33
  the
• 32:33
  amount
• 32:33
  of
• 32:33
  time
• 32:34
  that
• 32:34
  we
• 32:34
  spend
• 32:34
  with
• 32:34
  human
• 32:35
  connection.
• 32:35
  It's
• 32:35
  like
• 32:35
  that
• 32:36
  was
• 32:36
  taken
• 32:36
  away
• 32:36
  from
• 32:36
  us.
• 32:37
  Yeah.
• 32:37
  So
• 32:37
  we
• 32:38
  built
• 32:38
  these
• 32:38
  habits
• 32:39
  and
• 32:39
  it
• 32:39
  doesn't
• 32:39
  take
• 32:39
  long
• 32:40
  to
• 32:40
  build
• 32:40
  a
• 32:40
  habit
• 32:41
  of,
• 32:41
  if
• 32:42
  I
• 32:42
  wanna
• 32:42
  ask
• 32:42
  something,
• 32:43
  I
• 32:43
  go
• 32:43
  on
• 32:43
  Reddit,
• 32:43
  if
• 32:44
  I
• 32:44
  wanna
• 32:44
  do
• 32:44
  this,
• 32:44
  which,
• 32:46
  you
• 32:46
  know,
• 32:47
  some
• 32:47
  of
• 32:47
  these
• 32:47
  things,
• 32:48
  some
• 32:48
  of
• 32:48
  these
• 32:48
  places
• 32:48
  that
• 32:49
  kids
• 32:49
  and
• 32:49
  adults
• 32:49
  are
• 32:50
  going.
• 32:51
  There's
• 32:51
  a
• 32:51
  lot
• 32:51
  of
• 32:51
  information
• 32:52
  on
• 32:52
  the
• 32:53
  internet,
• 32:53
  but
• 32:53
  there's
• 32:53
  a
• 32:53
  lot
• 32:53
  of
• 32:53
  misinformation
• 32:54
  too.
• 32:55
  I
• 32:55
  think
• 32:55
  during
• 32:56
  that
• 32:56
  dark
• 32:56
  scary
• 32:57
  period,
• 32:57
  we
• 32:58
  established
• 32:59
  this
• 32:59
  relationship
• 33:00
  with
• 33:00
  technology
• 33:00
  where
• 33:01
  we
• 33:01
  became,
• 33:01
  a
• 33:01
  little
• 33:01
  bit
• 33:02
  too
• 33:02
  reliant
• 33:02
  and
• 33:02
  so
• 33:03
  we
• 33:03
  continued
• 33:04
  that.
• 33:04
  Now
• 33:04
  that
• 33:04
  we're
• 33:04
  all
• 33:05
  back
• 33:05
  out
• 33:05
  in
• 33:05
  the
• 33:05
  open
• 33:06
  and,
• 33:06
  I
• 33:06
  think
• 33:06
  our
• 33:06
  relationships
• 33:07
  have
• 33:07
  struggled
• 33:08
  so.
• 33:08
  You
• 33:08
  know,
• 33:09
  just
• 33:09
  have
• 33:10
  an
• 33:10
  in-person
• 33:10
  conversation
• 33:11
  today
• 33:11
  is
• 33:11
  what
• 33:12
  I
• 33:12
  would
• 33:12
  suggest,
• 33:13
  if
• 33:13
  anything.
• 33:13
  And
• 33:13
  don't
• 33:13
  be
• 33:13
  scared
• 33:14
  of
• 33:14
  technology.
• 33:14
  Because
• 33:14
  it
• 33:14
  is
• 33:15
  the
• 33:15
  wave
• 33:15
  of
• 33:15
  the
• 33:15
  future.
• 33:16
  I
• 33:16
  mean,
• 33:16
  we
• 33:16
  didn't
• 33:16
  used
• 33:17
  to
• 33:17
  have
• 33:17
  cell
• 33:17
  phones.
• 33:17
  We
• 33:17
  have
• 33:17
  cell
• 33:18
  phones
• 33:18
  now
• 33:18
  we
• 33:19
  have
• 33:19
  ai
• 33:19
  and
• 33:20
  whether
• 33:20
  we
• 33:20
  like
• 33:21
  it
• 33:21
  or
• 33:21
  not,
• 33:21
  it's
• 33:21
  here.
• 33:22
  So
• 33:22
  learn
• 33:23
  how
• 33:23
  to
• 33:23
  use
• 33:23
  it
• 33:23
  responsibly.
• 33:24
  You
• 33:24
  learn
• 33:25
  how
• 33:25
  to
• 33:25
  use
• 33:25
  it
• 33:25
  for
• 33:26
  good
• 33:26
  and
• 33:26
  not
• 33:26
  for
• 33:27
  bad,
• 33:27
  and
• 33:27
  just
• 33:27
  know
• 33:28
  it's
• 33:28
  another
• 33:28
  tool.
• 33:29
  Just
• 33:29
  like
• 33:29
  your
• 33:29
  voice
• 33:30
  is
• 33:30
  a
• 33:30
  tool
• 33:30
  to
• 33:31
  use
• 33:31
  with
• 33:31
  your
• 33:31
  children.
• 33:32
  So,
• 33:32
  okay.
• 33:33
  Look
• 33:34
  at
• 33:34
  it
• 33:34
  that
• 33:34
  way.
• 33:34
  But
• 33:35
  Calin,
• 33:35
  you
• 33:35
  are
• 33:36
  not
• 33:36
  off
• 33:36
  the
• 33:38
  off
• 33:38
  the,
• 33:38
  a
• 33:39
  hook
• 33:39
  here.
• 33:40
  I
• 33:40
  want
• 33:40
  you
• 33:40
  to
• 33:40
  give
• 33:40
  the
• 33:40
  listeners,
• 33:41
  if
• 33:41
  you
• 33:41
  had
• 33:42
  to
• 33:42
  give
• 33:42
  one
• 33:42
  piece
• 33:42
  of
• 33:42
  advice,
• 33:43
  some
• 33:43
  words
• 33:43
  of
• 33:43
  wisdom
• 33:44
  or
• 33:44
  a
• 33:44
  big
• 33:45
  picture
• 33:45
  idea
• 33:46
  that
• 33:46
  they
• 33:46
  can
• 33:46
  take
• 33:46
  with
• 33:46
  them
• 33:47
  today,
• 33:47
  what
• 33:47
  would
• 33:47
  it
• 33:48
  be?
• 33:49
  You
• 33:50
  know,
• 33:50
  I
• 33:50
  would
• 33:50
  say
• 33:50
  it
• 33:50
  goes
• 33:50
  back
• 33:51
  to
• 33:51
  what
• 33:51
  we
• 33:51
  were
• 33:51
  talking
• 33:51
  about
• 33:51
  earlier
• 33:52
  about
• 33:53
  some
• 33:53
  of
• 33:53
  those
• 33:53
  generational
• 33:54
  values.
• 33:55
  These
• 33:55
  conversations
• 33:56
  that
• 33:56
  they're
• 33:56
  having
• 33:57
  with
• 33:57
  their
• 33:57
  kids,
• 33:58
  can
• 33:58
  bring
• 33:58
  up,
• 33:58
  you
• 33:59
  know,
• 33:59
  memories,
• 33:59
  good
• 34:00
  and
• 34:00
  bad
• 34:00
  of
• 34:01
  them
• 34:01
  growing
• 34:02
  up,
• 34:02
  and
• 34:02
  those
• 34:02
  experiences
• 34:03
  and
• 34:03
  what
• 34:04
  boundaries
• 34:04
  looked
• 34:04
  like
• 34:05
  and
• 34:05
  how
• 34:05
  communication
• 34:06
  worked.
• 34:06
  And
• 34:07
  so
• 34:07
  just
• 34:07
  make
• 34:08
  sure
• 34:08
  you're
• 34:08
  reflecting
• 34:08
  on
• 34:08
  those
• 34:09
  appropriately
• 34:09
  and
• 34:09
  making
• 34:10
  the
• 34:10
  changes
• 34:10
  that
• 34:10
  need
• 34:11
  to
• 34:11
  be
• 34:11
  made,
• 34:11
  you
• 34:11
  know,
• 34:12
  for
• 34:12
  your
• 34:12
  kids,
• 34:13
  for
• 34:13
  your
• 34:13
  students,
• 34:14
  so
• 34:14
  that
• 34:14
  the
• 34:14
  same
• 34:14
  mistakes
• 34:15
  aren't
• 34:15
  repeated
• 34:15
  and
• 34:16
  that
• 34:16
  it's
• 34:16
  just
• 34:16
  going
• 34:17
  in
• 34:17
  a
• 34:17
  positive
• 34:17
  direction.
• 34:19
  Thank
• 34:19
  you
• 34:19
  so
• 34:19
  much,
• 34:20
  Tammy.
• 34:20
  This
• 34:20
  has,
• 34:20
  this
• 34:20
  has
• 34:20
  been
• 34:20
  great.
• 34:21
  Yes,
• 34:22
  you're
• 34:22
  very
• 34:22
  welcome.
• 34:22
  And
• 34:22
  for
• 34:22
  everybody
• 34:23
  else
• 34:23
  out
• 34:23
  there
• 34:23
  listening,
• 34:24
  you
• 34:24
  heard
• 34:24
  it,
• 34:24
  there's
• 34:25
  safe,
• 34:25
  responsible
• 34:26
  ways
• 34:26
  of
• 34:26
  using
• 34:27
  technology,
• 34:28
  of
• 34:28
  using
• 34:29
  your
• 34:29
  phones,
• 34:29
  of
• 34:30
  using
• 34:30
  ai.
• 34:30
  There's
• 34:31
  definitely
• 34:31
  ways
• 34:31
  that
• 34:32
  you
• 34:32
  can
• 34:32
  do
• 34:32
  it,
• 34:32
  but
• 34:32
  the
• 34:32
  big
• 34:33
  picture
• 34:33
  is
• 34:34
  maintain
• 34:34
  that
• 34:35
  human
• 34:35
  connection
• 34:36
  with
• 34:36
  the
• 34:36
  people
• 34:37
  that
• 34:37
  need
• 34:37
  you.
• 34:38
  That
• 34:38
  is
• 34:38
  the
• 34:38
  big
• 34:39
  picture.
• 34:40
  There's
• 34:40
  nothing
• 34:40
  more
• 34:41
  important
• 34:41
  and
• 34:41
  sacred
• 34:42
  and
• 34:42
  and
• 34:43
  vital
• 34:43
  than
• 34:43
  having
• 34:44
  human
• 34:44
  connection,
• 34:45
  human
• 34:45
  trust,
• 34:46
  human
• 34:47
  attachment,
• 34:48
  whatever
• 34:48
  you
• 34:48
  wanna
• 34:49
  call
• 34:49
  it.
• 34:50
  And
• 34:50
  you
• 34:50
  wanted
• 34:51
  it
• 34:51
  when
• 34:51
  you
• 34:51
  were
• 34:51
  younger.
• 34:52
  And
• 34:52
  these
• 34:52
  kids
• 34:53
  want
• 34:53
  it.
• 34:53
  They
• 34:54
  just
• 34:54
  don't
• 34:54
  know
• 34:54
  where
• 34:54
  to
• 34:54
  look
• 34:54
  for
• 34:55
  it.
• 34:55
  So
• 34:55
  be
• 34:55
  that
• 34:56
  person
• 34:56
  for
• 34:56
  them.
• 34:57
  Be
• 34:57
  that
• 34:57
  light,
• 34:58
  be
• 34:58
  that
• 34:58
  knight
• 34:58
  in
• 34:59
  shining
• 34:59
  armor,
• 34:59
  or
• 35:00
  light
• 35:00
  in
• 35:00
  the
• 35:00
  dark,
• 35:00
  or
• 35:01
  whatever
• 35:01
  you
• 35:01
  wanna
• 35:01
  call
• 35:01
  it.
• 35:02
  And
• 35:02
  until
• 35:03
  next
• 35:03
  week,
• 35:04
  you
• 35:04
  have
• 35:04
  a
• 35:04
  blessed
• 35:04
  one
• 35:05
  and
• 35:05
  we'll
• 35:05
  see
• 35:05
  you
• 35:05
  back.
• 35:07
  Bye.