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Season 4 - Episode 180 - Blame · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Let's talk about blame today. Boy, do we as human beings love
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  to assign blame to things because, you know, it can be
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  used as a noun or a verb. And, you know, I take the blame
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  or I can say I'm going to blame this, blame it on the weather,
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  blame it on this. I mean, I could sit here and
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  give you 1,000,000 reasons why I have tomato plants that are
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  acting the way that they are acting.
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  And I could whine about it. I could keep complaining about
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  it and I can keep blaming. But the reality is that
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  sometimes they're just facts and their conditions and you can't
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  just blame it away. You just have to sit there and
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  sit, sit there with it and say, OK, rather than assigning blame,
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  which is so important to us for some reason.
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  And this isn't about, you know, denying that something is
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  happening. It's about the assignment of it
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  and then saying, well, you know, whatever.
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  It's about looking at it and saying, OK, I have to find the
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  lesson in this. I have to find the good in this.
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  I have to find what I can do with this so that I am not going
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  to be in this position of disempowerment because of
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  something. So I'm sitting here at, at the
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  coop, I'm looking at the garden because I can see it right from
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  where I am. It's like diagonally across from
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  the coop and I'm looking at it and I'm saying to myself, okay,
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  you know, I, I have not had, I mean, it's July 1st.
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  I have not had a bad season. I've had a pretty good season.
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  Did I have the abundance of tomatoes that I wanted all at
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  once? No, I did not.
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  I would be lying if I said I did.
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  I did not. I had a good amount of tomatoes,
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  but I haven't had the abundance to make some of the stuff that I
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  really wanted to have and some of that.
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  We could blame it on the weather.
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  We could blame it on the fact that we had soil that went into
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  the bags that apparently had some of that weird funk in it.
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  We could blame it on many, many little things.
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  But the truth is, it's not going to help me get out of it.
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  Assigning the blame isn't going to help me get out of it.
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  Instead, I have to change my approach.
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  So I've set up a shade station and I'm putting some of the
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  tomatoes out of the bright sun. I had created a trellis.
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  My son had built me this trellis in the garden that could kind of
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  grow up. And I was growing these little
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  tomatoes that I, I mean, these little cucumbers that I thought
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  were just going to be a silly little thing.
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  Turns out they're delicious. And I can't wait to grow more of
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  them because I, I probably didn't, I thought they were
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  going to get bigger, so I didn't pick them and then they went
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  bad. But they're like, literally like
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  the size of the tip of your pinky finger.
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  They're small, but they're delicious Mexican gherkins, for
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  those who are curious. And what actually ended up
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  happening was they created the shade area for some of the
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  tomatoes so that throughout the day they got some shade, which
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  is what they need in this blazing heat and humidity.
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  So I'm sitting here and I'm looking at it and I'm saying,
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  OK, I'm not going to just sit here and be helpless or
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  hopeless. I'm going to not assign blame.
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  I'm just going to talk about what I can focus on.
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  So right now I can focus on the abundance of Peppers.
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  I can harvest a tremendous pepper crop.
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  I replanted zucchini. I can replant cucumbers this
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  weekend coming up. I have carrots that are growing,
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  which I never successfully get carrots to grow, and I've got
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  carrots that are successfully growing.
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  I've got watermelons, two different kinds of watermelons.
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  I've got these little, they're not like a cantaloupe, but
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  they're like a tiny, tiny type of melon that has a light flavor
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  of a cantaloupe. But they're, I think they're a
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  Japanese melon. And I've got huckleberries that
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  are in abundance and all kinds of other things.
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  And I've got Zinnia that are growing and plenty of mint.
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  And I can sit there and talk about all those other good
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  things rather than a signing blame and getting out of that
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  blame head and going to OK, I'm going to be curious about what
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  are ways to cure these things instead of just hunkering down
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  and just saying throwing my hands up in the air because I'm
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  not going to give up. Part of my personality is being
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  tenacious. I don't give up.
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  Like unless somebody tells me they're throwing in the towel,
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  like if I've got a client that says, listen, I'm just not going
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  to work on this anymore. I don't want into it anymore.
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  And I'm sure that they're at that point.
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  That's their choice. But me personally, I don't like
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  to give up. I just feel like, and it's not
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  about giving up for me ever. I don't even like have that even
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  hard to say those words because for me, it's always a curiosity.
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  If the universe and God drop something in my head and it's
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  there and it feels exciting and scary and I have to be creative
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  and I have to do all those things to make it happen, then I
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  know I'm supposed to make it happen.
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  I know I'm supposed to work on it.
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  And I know for sure without question that my curiosity will
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  drive me and I will get somewhere with it.
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  And that is part of that tenacious piece.
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  It's just I have to be creative and I have to be curious to get
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  past it. So blame, it doesn't feel right.
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  It feels awkward. So take that into consideration.
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  The next time you decide to blame somebody for something or
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  a situation or anything, just stop and pause and be like,
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  look, I'm not going to assign that word.
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  I'm going to take a different approach because it rarely
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  works. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.