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Enduring Relationship? - Life is Meant To Be Enjoyed Not Endured · DidiLawren

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  Hello, and welcome back to another episode of gone to
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  So for today's episode, we're going to be talking about the
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  tweet. I came across on Twitter.
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  And so let me just get into it. Let me read the Tweet before I
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  talk. About it.
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  So, dr. Tighe.
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  Oh, oh, yeah. DG he treated life and
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  relationship. Are meant to be enjoyed, not
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  endured. Yeah, so this street has
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  generated a lot of comments on Twitter, for me personally, I
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  think in life, you have to endure certain things.
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  Before you can enjoy certain benefits, that comes with that.
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  Let's say you're going to school.
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  You have to enjoy the process of Learning being educated before.
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  You can enjoy the benefit of getting a job.
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  High-paying job, getting your accounts of finances together
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  and enjoy life because you actually need money to enjoy
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  life. This is the chicken and egg kind
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  of situation where we encourage the youth to end your certain
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  things. The youths just want to enjoy
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  life. I mean we do use.
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  We just want to enjoy life. We don't want to stress
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  ourselves. We want soft water.
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  We don't want any hard work and it's a generation of enjoyment
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  is a generation of showing of its generation of trying to show
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  people that you're actually enjoying life.
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  But at the same time, you have to enjoy a certain process to be
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  able to enjoy the benefits that you see, most people enjoy
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  online. Although we have situations,
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  whereby people fake enjoyment. You don't know who especially on
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  Instagram. You don't know who is that?
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  Actually enjoying life because everybody is living large,
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  everybody's living loud and you're sitting down thinking
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  asking yourself. I might be the only person who
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  is suffering or who is enduring life or who is going through
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  challenges or hardship or, you know, just trying to get by the
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  reality is everybody is actually in during one thing or the other
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  in life, in life. In general.
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  You have to enjoy certain things before.
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  You can enjoy a certain thing. Let's take for instance, during
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  our formative years. We had a lot of people who don't
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  want to endure anything. They don't want to challenge
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  themselves to do certain things because they just want to enjoy
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  the moments. They just want to live in that
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  moment, which there's nothing wrong with that.
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  You can live in the moment and enjoy the moment, but also try
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  to Envision the future. Are you going to be having as
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  much enjoyment that you have in currently in the future?
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  If I'm not going to be having that enjoyment then sit down and
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  do certain things that will enable you enjoy in the future.
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  And then the next one. Do we enjoy relationship or do
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  we end your relationship? I mean, for me, this is the one
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  that I draw the line. Like I cannot endure.
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  What are we doing? Marriages were talking about
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  relationship. Now, before I won't get into
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  marriage, let's talk about relationships.
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  So in terms of enduring relationship, there are certain
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  things that I am happy to enjoy. Let's see if my love language,
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  is words of affirmation and your love language is buying of
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  gifts. I think they're, we can find a
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  middle ground because at the end of the day, if I tell you
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  instead of buying me a Chanel bag, just tell me how beautiful?
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  I yeah, or how intelligence how gorgeous I listen.
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  Just tell me something sweet. If you tell me that you you have
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  to forego the Chanel bag anybody know?
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  All right, senses, who would adjust to that and love me the
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  way that I want to be loved. But if you're in a relationship
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  and you enjoying the fact that this guy is cheating on you,
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  when you get into that marriage, he's going to cheat.
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  So if you're enjoying that, in a relationship, be rest assured
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  that you're going to enjoy that in your marriage, if you're
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  enduring being abused in a relationship, be rest assured
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  that you will to enjoy that in your marriage.
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  If you're enduring like any form.
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  Of abuser me. We think abuse is all about
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  physical abuse. There are so many people who
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  enjoy Financial abuse in relationship when you're dating
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  somebody, and they don't even, I'm not saying if you're dating
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  somebody, they should provide for you, but I think one thing
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  that we ignore, one thing that we don't realize is if you're
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  dating somebody and you're in that process of getting married,
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  I've seen that a lot. The man would not contribute
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  regardless of how little it is. In fact, the person is not
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  contributing then be rest assured that you're going to be
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  financially abused in that relationship.
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  So do I believe that you have to endure a relationship?
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  No, I don't think I want to enjoy a relationship.
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  I want to enjoy your relationship.
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  I mean, if you're in do, you're in a relationship.
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  Just imagine just eat. Sit down now, close your eyes
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  and imagine with our marriage is going to be like we see a lot of
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  marriages today. We're by the say, oh we started,
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  we build together. And today the person is leaving
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  me to get married to somebody else.
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  This is as a result of always the woman in during one or two
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  things. So for me personally and your
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  relationship is a red flag. I don't want to do especially
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  when you're doing that knowingly, as far as I'm
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  concerned. There are certain things.
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  I am happy to endure in a relationship that you do the.
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  Both of. You don't have any control over.
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  Maybe we met, when we were going to school and we in Britain
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  during the financial hardship, lies involving that, there's no
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  problem. I am happy to enjoy that.
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  But once we become financially free or financially buoyance to
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  do certain things and then you're not doing those things.
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  I will never send you that like Doc seasonal, that's endurance.
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  Stop they. And then because at the end of
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  the day, you have to enjoy your life.
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  The truth is, at some point in everybody's life.
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  You have to go through certain things that you enjoy.
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  You have to go through certain things that you're going to
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  enjoy. Life is not just black and
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  white. You have to endure even in a
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  very good relationship. There are certain things that
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  you are meant to endure for that relationship to progress over.
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  That relationship to remain healthy.
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  It's just about finding a balance knowing what's to endure
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  and what to enjoy, don't end your red flags.
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  Don't think. Oh, because I'm enjoying his
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  money. I have to enjoy the abuse.
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  That comes with it. No, you don't have to do that
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  because one day, you're going to wake up and you're going to get
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  tired of enduring. This is why a lot of churches
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  are filled with women praying for their husbands or women.
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  For the our partners because you really see a man going to try to
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  go and pray for his wife. Like nah, he's praying for
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  prosperity is great for prosperity and, you know, more
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  money for the woman. On the other hand is praying for
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  her husband because he's enduring certain things.
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  And now she's thinking, God, take away this, this this
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  bondage from me, but you don't have to endure, like, life is
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  supposed to be enjoy. You have to enjoy your.
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  There are certain things you You can't do but no, the balance, no
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  water NGO and what not to NGO know that you have to enjoy
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  everything, regardless of the situation you're in.
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  Even if you're in during certain things, make sure you are
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  enjoying those things. That you have, that you're
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  enduring. So, let me hear your opinion.
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  Let me hear your views. Are you currently in during your
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  relationship or your current hindering your life?
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  Or are you currently enjoying both your life and your
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  relationship? Or are you enduring life and
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  enjoy a relationship or you enjoy during relationship and
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  enjoying life? Lets me know the category you
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  belong to and then thank you very much.
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  See you sometime, bye-bye.