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AI #1: My Husband Asked ChatGPT What It's Like To Marry Someone New | The 'NEW' Marriage | Ep488 · Morrow Marriage | Disrupting Divorce

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_01: He's granting to ChatGPT about the marriage.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_01: The impact that impacts trust.
• 0:05
  SPEAKER_01: Carrying the load.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_01: Manipulation, boundaries, and covert contracts.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_01: The emergency poop story.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_01: The erectile dysfunction.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_01: He's granting to ChatGPT about the marriage.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_01: Alright.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_01: This is gonna be welcome to Moral Marriage.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_01: This is going to be a three-part series on AI, okay?
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_01: And so we're gonna bang this out really quick because that's really important.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_01: So this woman um saw her husband's uh ChatGPT chat.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_01: She actually felt very bad.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_01: It's a pretty popular post going viral on Reddit right now, and and she was very hurt.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_01: First, she saw all the things that he complained to AI about his wife, and then she continued to read it and she saw all the things that he's questioning beyond his wife.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_01: For example, what would it look like if I married someone new?
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_01: The problem is twofold here when you're involving AI in your relationship.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_01: One, if you're the one asking AI, you're already escaping.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_01: Now you might argue, because you could say, well, I go to therapy, that's not escape.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_01: I'm trying to get tools.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_01: ChatGPT or any other AI cannot be your therapist.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_01: I prove it wrong every single time I ask it a question and I put it online.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_01: Okay?
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_01: I don't do it a ton, but I do it enough.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_01: Just like, like, but you're missing.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_01: Every single time I do that with with ChatGPT or Gemini, okay, the two that I demonstrate this with, I walk through deeper questions that I know the answers to because I save my marriages, my marriages, my marriage from the depth of hell.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_01: I have a wife who feels safe when I emotionally, uh physically, sexually abused her, okay?
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_01: ChatGPT has no fucking knowledge of this.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_01: None.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_01: And so when I say, yeah, yeah, yeah, but you're saying respect your boundaries, but what about the fact that I have a boundary around marriage?
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_01: It's like, oh yeah, you're right.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_01: And it by the time you're done, six to twelve minutes later, it's spitting back everything that I teach it.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_01: Which means you, as the person who are pouring everything into AI, you are not putting anything into your life.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_01: It's biased.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: Biased against, biased for what you're teaching it.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_01: Correct.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_01: Not only that, but if you know nothing, like you do, that's why you're listening to this podcast, okay?
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_01: So then you basically get your validation from AI.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_01: Think about the last question that broke this wife's heart.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_01: Her husband said, Would I be able to move forward with the next person?
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_01: However, he worded it, it doesn't matter.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_01: Essentially, thanks for all the validation.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_01: And now, can I start over fresh with someone else so it's easier on me?
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_01: Meaning, no accountability, no responsibility, a bunch of validation, and you fucking lose.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, perspective two, the wife going through his chat.
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_01: What are you doing going through his chat?
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_01: If he wrote a journal down, that's like invading his privacy.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_01: If you are insecure and you are scrolling through their phone, wondering if they're cheating on you, because that's kind of what this is, in my opinion, but not because this isn't a therapeutic relationship, okay?
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_01: This is an AI one, okay?
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_01: And we have something coming up on that, then you are literally trying to breathe death into your marriage, i.e., you're putting your mind in a path of asking a bunch of questions.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_01: A bunch of questions that that are really just gonna make him want to find validation somewhere else because he doesn't feel good about himself.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_01: He doesn't feel loved.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_01: If he feels worthless, how is guilting and shaming him for his chat going to work?
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_01: Now, this woman, important, she said it broke her heart.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_01: But the problem was this whole thing turns into, because now it's viral, okay?
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_01: So it turns into how she's hurting.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_01: So she went from loving and being empathetic and wow to breaking her own heart, realizing, oh my gosh, he's thinking about leaving.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_01: So we stop taking accountability on the other side now.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_01: Remember how it started?
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_01: Holy shit, he this is what I complained about.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_01: He's complaining about this, this, this, and this.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um, that I complain about all of these things.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_01: Starts positive, we're learning, we're reflecting, and it turns into a big validation hunt because he doesn't want to be with her anymore.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_01: What is wrong with you people?
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_01: AI cannot do the job of a real person with real experience.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_01: Number one.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_01: That's why therapy doesn't work.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_01: They got books to teach them.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_01: Books are not experience.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_01: Hands down, but now you guys are running to AI for this shit.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I I can't I can't wrap my head around it.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_01: I can't.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_01: AI, when Catherine's vehicle, I was trying to fix something in her inner, well, it's not an 89, we thought it was an 89 defender, apparently it's 85.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_01: Which is even cooler, but like, God, can the guy that builds vehicles ever do it right?
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_01: But anyway, so I'm I'm running, I was running through a problem with it, and I was trying to figure out why I couldn't start, and I was using AI, okay?
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_01: And it it didn't work.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not saying you can't learn from AI, but if it doesn't work for a freak freaking electrical schematic, a diagram for a recorded vehicle made years ago, which means we have lots of those diagrams.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_01: And there is no diagram in your marriage, there's patterns that we understand, and we have to question those patterns to find out which one is you or your spouse, then how could AI do that for you?
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully everyone is making sense of what you're saying.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_01: Are you not?
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_00: I am.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_01: Oh.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: AI can't do it for you.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, it can't.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: But you're but there's people that are need to be convinced of that.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_01: You just need to wake up.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_01: If it can't actually tell you the truth on things that are real, then you can't ever expect something that's artificial intelligence to understand emotional intelligence of a human.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: 100%.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: And AI, remember, it pulls from the internet.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know who put stuff on the internet?
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_01: Victims.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone.
• 5:57
  SPEAKER_01: Where were you gonna go?
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_01: Everyone?
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: So all of the stuff on the internet has not been fact-checked.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: It has not been proven to be right, nothing like that.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_00: And so AI will pull from all these resources to give you an answer, but it could be an answer from idiots.
• 6:10
  SPEAKER_01: Number one.
• 6:10
  SPEAKER_00: It might be right.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: AI is right a lot of the time.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_01: That's number one.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_01: Number two, to back that up, it is getting a lot of information from Reddit.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_01: That's why I'm going to Reddit to see what they're learning over there, see what they're they're teaching each other over there.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_01: And AI is like when like if heads up, if you have a business, try to get into Reddit because you want people to find you.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_01: But here's the thing: I'm not gonna go in there and coach in Reddit.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_01: Like, well, how does that make sense?
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_01: Who's got the time for that?
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_01: I'm busy helping people in our program.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_01: Okay?
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_01: So you're listening to a victim talk about it.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_01: Watch the journey that I just said.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_01: I feel bad for my husband, and now I I oh my gosh, I'm losing my husband.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_01: What, oh my gosh, poor me.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_01: That's what you're learning from AI in a lot of cases.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_01: It's not just all the internet, they're pulling from Reddit.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_01: It cites it.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_01: Google AI does it too.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_01: Google AI, if you Google now, AI has a thing, and you can ask another question, it'll go deeper.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_01: It cites Reddit, which is people, normal, everyday people, not professionals.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_01: So AI can't know everything if it's looking at people who are not professionals and giving you what you think you need.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_01: My God.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_01: This is part one of three.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_01: We'll see you next time.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.