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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just- The Path of Pure Motives 8.11.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  The ideas are up to yeah through 14.
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  The idea is pushing about this concept of pure mind and I we
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  said it seems like it's a high concept and very difficult to
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  fully accomplish with Costa Archaeas today and all these
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  examples. The reality is you want to
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  retain this at some level to some degree because it makes you
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  a much more genuine person and a much, in his words, pure person.
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  That's with 3:15 first venenial mesh in my shoes.
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  I'm not saying he's cleanse. It's qualifying this point.
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  I'm not saying it's someone who's, you know, not totally.
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  The schma is completely off. I shouldn't give the person
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  reward for what he did, regardless of him having the
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  most perfect intention or not. He deserves your work, which is
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  an indication that he did something good.
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  Omnam, but I'm still telling you I'm talking about being a whole
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  person. Hallelujah, the whole of Hashem
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  be met spoke about about Hashem. Any person who wants to be
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  probably love, who really loves Hashem should be targeting this
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  goal, which means to be doing it for the right reason.
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  Loving Hashem means you feel good and you feel proper by
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  catching the Hashem. If that's your goal, Him, it's
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  what should be performed with that in mind.
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  Shali created by Isaiah Hashem ella al Buddha toda al the
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  gamre. It's considered for him real
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  service of Hashem and he's doing it with the right reason.
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  Shalutiya penyaba ella hashemi parakh vilola zlato.
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  His service should be told Hashem and that service for
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  other people. He shouldn't be using his track
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  of being good Jew as a way of doing things for others or a way
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  of creating relationship with others or a way of getting
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  credit as you mentioned yesterday.
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  In other words, if I'm serving Hashem and in the process I'm
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  getting honor, I'm missing the track.
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  My track should be for its goal. Its goal is to do something for
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  Hashem. And now as a fringe benefit, I'm
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  getting honor. As a byproduct, I'm getting
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  honor. So now I'm really not only
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  serving Hashem, I'm trying to build two things at the same
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  time. So now we're back to the same to
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  that. Guy same to that guy I was
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  yesterday 100%, but he says I'm just trying to tell you.
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  He says I'm not telling you anything wrong.
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  The guy is doing the right thing.
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  He's serving Hashem, he's giving to that car, he's learning, he's
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  praying, he's doing, he's doing the right thing, he's on the
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  right track. But being focused on that by
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  product will in a sense, diminish or drop his level of
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  doing the right thing. If you're doing something great,
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  you don't focus on this on the fringe benefits that come from
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  you're not thinking about that. The small, the guy makes a major
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  business deal. He's thinking about something
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  small that comes out of that. He's thinking about the big
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  money he's making. I was just thinking about the
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  big, you know. But he's not thinking about the
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  notoriety. Exactly.
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  It's not. Making the money.
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  He makes something big and you you ignore the small.
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  When a person focuses on the small and automatically it
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  diminishes how much he's focused on the main point.
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  Why is it diminish? Because that exact example when
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  a person is doing something major and in the process
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  something minor happens and your focus is the minor point and
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  it's an indication you don't really recognize properly the
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  appreciation of the major point. The major point is I'm serving
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  Hashem. The minor point is someone
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  notices they did the panel in comparison.
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  And if I recognize the minor point and it plays a role and my
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  major, that's what it really is. And someone gets to that car and
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  they're thinking about the convoy, it's a common slot is so
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  great. There's no limit to the reward,
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  actual reward for this in the common slot.
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  And he's thinking about something minor as it didn't,
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  it's indicating he doesn't probably understand or
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  appreciate and now probably focused on his real performance
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  of himself. The Cole Mashitra heck manometer
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  Gazzot Kefi had bought the Hokor Kenya bear Hakisa Rumba.
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  The more person distances himself and keep himself away
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  from the singular focus. He involves too many other
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  thought processes, too many other motives.
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  He's taking away from his full performance of this mitzvah.
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  Who else do I have in heaven by you and with who I wish nothing
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  else on earth. In other words, all I'm focused
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  on is Usha, the Mark McCain's refinement, Tehran Old Val de
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  Hava. David says your word is very
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  refined and your servant loves it.
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  In other words, refined is this term of purity.
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  Refined means singular focus, Kibe MIT havoda MIT.
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  Our service of Hashem has to be fine.
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  Fine means cleaned, cleansed of any other things, mixed inside.
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  Fine gold means nothing else. Pure gold, fine server, same
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  idea. Fine flour, same concept.
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  There's nothing mixed in, and the reality is we don't realize
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  it's a funny thing. I'm serving Hashem and I'm mixed
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  inside of that is Oteria motive A Oteria motive B third more 4th
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  motive one second. The rest of your life should be
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  those motives. The service of Hashem should be
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  what it is. We don't realize how much it's
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  not just Torah. Many things we do in our lives
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  are side things, getting involved in what we're doing.
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  Right. Is that because yet said Hada
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  doesn't want us to do those things?
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  Absolutely. Absolutely.
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  Yet said is both focus on those other things and at the same
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  time taking away from the beauty of our performance of the
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  mitzvah. Everything we do in life is
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  supposed to be singular focus and everything you do, it's
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  stronger when you focus on it. Not just tuda mitzvah.
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  Everything should be clear. Focus on what you're doing.
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  You're dealing with a buyer, Talk to the buyer.
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  You're doing the deal, do the deal.
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  Don't be heavily focused on the fringe benefits to come from it
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  'cause that'll take away from what you're doing.
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  All right, a random example that plays into this point is, you
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  know, they have certain items. You know, you buy a basketball
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  court, one of those arcades, or you could buy a four in one.
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  It's basketball, it's air hockey, it's ping pong, it's
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  something else. Which one exactly?
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  Which one is a better basketball court?
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  The playing basketball is always way better than the four in one
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  because that's just the way it is.
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  So you say it's like, I'm just gonna get some more in, you
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  know, we get another thing in there.
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  Why not get my kids something else as well?
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  Why not get 2 in 1/3 in 1/4 in one?
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  Cuz end up having you lose out in the one-on-one, losing the
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  thing itself. And the same thing is true in
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  anything we do without singular focus.
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  It's a reality in life across the board as we are.
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  And Tsurama is forth tenfold because Tsurama is forth.
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  I'm doing something that's pure and holy.
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  I'm throwing into it in the into the water, something that is
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  completely mundane and physical and ego.
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  They don't, they don't even mix. They they, they didn't even meet
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  each other. And somehow I'm blending these
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  two things that combined, it's a major knock on what I'm doing as
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  it take it takes away from the success of what I'm doing.
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  And it's a shame when you think about it.
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  Here's the guy, he's learning to learn and he's thinking about
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  cahoot a person who's giving me this in a car.
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  When I say a shame, I mean it takes away from the the endless
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  level of reward and beauty and development that a person who
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  can have when they do things with grand focus.
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  There's nothing wild. I I noticed in life people are
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  meant to develop from every matter that they do.
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  Which means you're to our learning one way or another
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  develops you. Your halacha, learning gamalan,
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  whatever it may be, develops you.
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  Your khesat is meant to develop who you are.
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  Sonaka, your kindness. You give me a person, a kind
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  word. Paying a sugar coal, paying a
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  visit, someone is sick. All these things, actually all
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  of them are meant to develop you.
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  Same is true with your prayer. Your prayer is not just simply
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  asking for things. Your prayer ultimately, at its
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  core, is supposed to develop who you are.
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  That's how it works. And it goes beyond just the
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  basic clear mitzvot. Even the mitzvot that involve
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  physical your relationship with your wife is supposed to develop
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  you, how you raise your children.
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  All these things are meant to develop who you are.
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  And the wild concept I notice in life is true, and that the more
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  you involve the fringe benefits, the more you evolve the alteria
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  motives and you focus on them, the less development a person
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  can have. You can have a person who learns
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  all day, but because he's thinking about cavort, he
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  doesn't move an inch in his growth and it doesn't make
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  sense. The guy is learning.
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  Torah has the power to change a person, and there's no way to
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  stop it. The only way to stop it is if
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  he's not learning for Torah's sake.
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  If he's doing something else, then the idea is he may be doing
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  Torah, but he's not focusing on it.
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  He's not getting it and therefore does not change him.
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  A key was there not one iota. It's a wild thing.
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  And the same thing is true is someone's involved in the Resed.
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  A guy could be involved in the Resed.
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  He's giving so much time to other people, but his ego
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  constantly wakes up and he's always thinking about he didn't
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  get enough credit. He didn't get enough credit.
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  He got insulted, he got hurt. They didn't treat him properly.
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  It's all about that all day. You know, the people that get
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  you nervous, those people, they could be involved in Resed,
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  which is meant to hone your skills, to develop your
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  character, to make you more appreciative in life.
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  It does a lot to you, but not if you're not focused on it.
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  That's a reality that I've seen. It's unbelievable and it doesn't
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  make any sense, but it does because all other person is
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  doing the right thing. He's not really doing that right
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  thing. He's doing something else while
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  he's doing the right thing. Because we think that's only I'm
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  also focused on my arterial motors tell you the FYI, it's
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  not also focused. It's only focus on, I'll tell
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  you motives. When people do things and they
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  have on the motives involved. Often times that is their pole.
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  That is their energy and that's really where they focus on.
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  It's a wild thing to see. And it's just, like I said, a
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  shame because it takes away. So it's good to have the focus.
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  Or not. It's good to have the focus on
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  the right thing. It's all about focusing on the
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  main thing you're doing. Yes, there's always elements of
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  Shalalalala Schmutt involved, absolutely.
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  So why always everyone all right, stop.
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  So I it was started off from all the schma, ends up the schma.
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  We have that, Michelle, we have that concept.
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  We talk schwa specifically. But the truth is even even all
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  schwa de schmaas that you ought to have, they cannot be a
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  singular focus. It can't be.
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  If that is, and like we said many times that they're ulterior
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  motive, they become your only motive.
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  Learning is unique in that area. And even that he told us the
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  Schlolars Schmaas shouldn't be honor or in extremes.
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  So I shouldn't be OK. I think I'm going to have a
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  better family because of it. I think I'm going to succeed
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  more in business. OK, I got it.
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  So it's all the good. Stuff, other stuff, right?
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  Some more good stuff, exactly. But ultimately, in general,
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  what's? Your focus.
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  Because so he says so that we have that guy specifically by
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  learning. And that is that a person might
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  be pulled in for that reason. Eventually they'll shift to the
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  right reason. That's specific for learning in
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  general. If you're doing Hassid same
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  approach and you're thinking about the honor, good luck.
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  Not going to become a better person at all.
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  And naturally, it's supposed to become, naturally it's supposed
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  to develop. And it won't happen because our
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  focus isn't on what we're doing. It's on the side thing.
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  Yeah, you knew you got it, guys. I know Guy goes to shot at Zion
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  because he gets to see fancy people of a yeah.
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  And that's he's, he's been doing this for 30 years.
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  Good. Has he developed?
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  No, because he's still going for.
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  The same reason OK, so that's that disorders MA didn't work to
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  make English MA. Many people do have that.
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  They come to the social scene when it comes to learning.
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  They do things because everyone else does it.
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  Even the fact that today there's more coil and never was is
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  possibly because it got easier, partially because you are more
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  inspired and also because people think it's normal.
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  They came normal. He said he went to yeshiva who
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  and you go to the shiver structure exactly.
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  We have schools, right? So all this is good.
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  It's meant to transfer over to right to the right mind.
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  And if it doesn't, the guy eventually should drop out and
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  will drop out. That's usually the thinking
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  that's learning specifically, but in general, everything else.
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  And by the way, again, the learning is unique and the
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  shalal ishma of the learning is unique.
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  He's doing some other thing. He's doing make money, whatever
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  it is, but in general, everything else, if there is a
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  shalal Ishmael mindset as you're doing it and again, Alteria
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  motive and the ego involved and you keep that strong.
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  Can't claim I'm doing it for two reasons.
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  No, no, you end up doing it totally for the wrong reason and
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  not developing is where it shows its flaw, which is the person
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  did not become whom he naturally would have developed into if he
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  did something Zahav, he did it Kesse.
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  If he did it pure, he didn't focus.
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  You can't really have in general 2 focuses if you're going to
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  focus on your ego and if it's going to be there and every
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  meeting you have to get your opinion and every situation is
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  going to be about you and ultimately it'll be that and it
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  remain that and we won't grow. That's his challenge at this
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  point, right? Omi Shu avett hashembeh EMET
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  loebus is the back bazembehuhat Loe, you know, gold that's mixed
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  with other stuff and not refined of any item.
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  I know Abu Dhabi service of Hashem mixed in combined with
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  bad mindsets. He'll be the performance of the
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  mitzvah the right way. So say at night, you're supposed
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  to think about what you did all day.
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  So you did a good thing. You're supposed to be proud of
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  it for yourself that you did it. Yes, pride to yourself, Yeah, is
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  wonderful. Absolutely.
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  There are many ways you have to push to the point.
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  There are many ways you have to get yourself to go forward.
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  To think that we are someone who can just do good and not have
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  any sort of push. It's a joke and I'll never have.
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  You do need to have motivation. I don't even know if that's
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  would be the goal. Well.
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  To be pure, that's. I mean, if not, let's.
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  Pull it. You didn't have a Zook, right?
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  In man's, man was not create. Man has some sense of
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  physicality, even if it's only 1% hundred.
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  Percent, but would. You go, as they say.
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  You sort of review your day every night, yeah.
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  And you're right, the mindset should be in a pure way,
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  motivation to go forward. And the pure way is exactly
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  that. I feel good about myself because
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  I did good things today. That's the best mindset.
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  And yes, there's nothing wrong. Hashem made us, she said,
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  physical people. I should have made that every
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  single nature that we have can be pure physical way to push us
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  forward. Everything.
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  So that's one of it. Ego if it's my own ego to my own
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  self is beautiful if I feel good about myself pushing myself
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  forward. It's a wonderful me to as I but
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  if you involve other people think we're going to be special.
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  There's a problem there. There's this challenge if you
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  involve having power because of it, as yesterday mentioned, two
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  out of three, the money power is a major item, having power.
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  And by the way, a person who's or a deaf power, while he's
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  doing this, what he thinks that there's a combination of Ashma,
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  Ashma and they say 10 percent, 20%, They give you the numbers.
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  There's I'm, I give it honestly, there's ulterior motive,
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  ulterior motive, utterior motive.
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  And there's no growth. And it's the biggest surprise
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  and shame to see that blend and not become a blend.
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  Ulterior motive becomes our thing.
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  We do not build on ourselves and we have pure motives and yes,
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  even physical mindset, pure motives.
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  I feel it's right. I feel good about it.
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  I feel like I'm making my father proud.
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  I feel like my kids are going to be impressed.
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  Those are all physical, but still within the realm of pure
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  motives. Those are beautiful and those
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  should power you forward. And by the way, even the guy
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  that gives charity and puts his name on something, yesterday's
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  conversation and he adds the common, the combined motive,
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  which is I like for my children to see it.
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  I like for my father's name to live on, right?
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  These types of things. Again, that's the only example
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  they have of a pure but physical motive, perfectly fine fuel to
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  go forward. It's when we get involved in the
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  other motives and we have to be careful and don't think I can
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  have two motives. I don't believe in the concept
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  that a person can have an arterial motive and also have a
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  good one. I think when is raising the
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  rising to the top is arterial motive.
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  Personally, that's how I think it is.
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  That becomes what makes him push further.
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  That becomes where his energy draws from, and that ultimately
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  becomes where his source of problems becomes from because he
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  makes wrong decisions based on that.
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  He gets in the fights based on that.
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  He gets insulted because of that, because the Alteria motive
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  usually becomes the driving force.
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  That's what I noticed. I'll stop at.
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  This server picked him out.