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#325 Teen Movie Night · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: I didn't thank you. You didn't when I listen. I
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  Speaker 2: the end of everybody else. So I'm thinking, thank you
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  Speaker 2: mom and dad before you thanked me? Well, I was
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  Speaker 2: you thanked our children before you thanked me.
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  Speaker 1: I was just following a script. I should have thought
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  Speaker 1: about it more. I'm so sorry, but I'm thanking you.
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  Speaker 2: Just haven't even dedicated a book to me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh gosh, we should. We should just get on the
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  Speaker 1: podcast before this degenerates in there's something really bad. My
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  Speaker 1: name's Justin Colson. I'm a doctor of psychology and I
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  Speaker 1: written six books about how to make your family happy.
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  Speaker 2: And you're spending the night in the doghouse, Kylie.
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  Speaker 1: So long as I'm watching a movie in the doghouse
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  Speaker 1: with you, that'll be fine. Kylie is my wife.
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  Speaker 2: The problem is we don't actually like the same movies.
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  Speaker 2: We're in big trouble.
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  Speaker 1: We don't even have a doghouse. We've got six daughters
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  Speaker 1: and we just we did a podcast last week about
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  Speaker 1: the movies that you must watch with your little kids.
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  Speaker 1: It was kind of like a primary school aged and
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  Speaker 1: younger movie list, and oh ge, it was fun and
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  Speaker 1: the podcast was amazing. We'll link to it in the
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  Speaker 1: show notes. Please go back and listen to it. It
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  Speaker 1: was just great to listen to. Today. We've decided to
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  Speaker 1: extend the movie watching list because, i mean, let's face it,
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  Speaker 1: it's a really great shortcut to spending quality time with
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  Speaker 1: the kids. And sometimes when you can't get quality time,
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  Speaker 1: it's good to just sit down with the kids and
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  Speaker 1: watch a movie and it brings you closer. Now, we
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  Speaker 1: need to make a disclaimer before we be in fact,
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  Speaker 1: probably two disclaimers. Number one, a lot of the movies
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  Speaker 1: that we're going to share with you, and we're going
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  Speaker 1: to share all the best bits that we can remember,
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  Speaker 1: but we haven't actually watched a few of these movies
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  Speaker 1: for a while, so our memories might be a little
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  Speaker 1: bit shabby. Number two, we just want to put an acknowledgement.
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  Speaker 2: You suggesting that we may have memories of these watching
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  Speaker 2: them as teenagers as opposed to watching them as parents.
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  Speaker 2: Is that what you mean?
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  Speaker 1: What I mean is that some movies seemed really good
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  Speaker 1: when we watched them, but when we go back and
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  Speaker 1: watch them later, they're not nearly as good as we
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  Speaker 1: thought they were. Like the Gooni's they with the bottles
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  Speaker 1: face you get home? No, No, what di movie dinner?
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  Speaker 1: I may like this, The Genies, I remember thinking this
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  Speaker 1: is a movie for kids. Or Greece Grease, Grease, Gotchee,
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  Speaker 1: They're multiplying.
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  Speaker 2: We took my sister to the was it the twenty
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  Speaker 2: years anniversary?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was twelve.
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  Speaker 2: We just gotten married and she was staying with us,
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  Speaker 2: and we took her to Greece and my mom was mortified.
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  Speaker 1: It's not as innocent as it seems.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 2: I was sitting in there and as a now married woman,
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  Speaker 2: knowing every innuendo and where it was leading, and I
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  Speaker 2: was thinking, my goodness.
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  Speaker 1: Me, my sister's only twelve. Yeah, well, what have my
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  Speaker 1: daughter's posed to friend?
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  Speaker 4: You can use my virgin pit.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's nice to know it's good for something.
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  Speaker 2: As a kid, all I remembered was the music. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't know any of that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: So the disclaimers are a number one. Some of the
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  Speaker 1: movies we know that we loved at some point and
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  Speaker 1: we think that we would love to watch them with
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  Speaker 1: our teens, or we have watched them with the teens
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  Speaker 1: and they did love them. But disclaim a number two.
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  Speaker 1: In terms of content. You're on your own, do your
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  Speaker 1: own research. Your values might be different to ours, and
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  Speaker 1: you might sort of think, hang on, you didn't talk
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  Speaker 1: about X, Y and Z. Well they are because our
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  Speaker 1: values are different to yours. And there are some like
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  Speaker 1: I don't like watching movies with a whole lot of
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  Speaker 1: course language full stop in a story, just I don't
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  Speaker 1: like it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, one of the things that we've done with our kids,
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  Speaker 2: and I think that it's been really, really helpful because
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  Speaker 2: even as a young married couple, I remember us going
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  Speaker 2: and watching a movie that was rated PG and we
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  Speaker 2: looked at each other and went.
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  Speaker 1: WHOA, how did that make a PG?
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  Speaker 2: And so as parents, we've just decided that those ratings
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  Speaker 2: are really just a guide, and just because it says
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  Speaker 2: it's PG does not mean, by any circumstances that we
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  Speaker 2: let our children watch it unless we feel like it's right.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, disclaimers are out of the way. Let's go through
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  Speaker 1: the list now. Last week you did five in a row.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, you did about fifty three because you just
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  Speaker 1: couldn't help yourself. Take turns.
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  Speaker 2: We'll take turns.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let's take turns. You go first, ladies before gentlemen.
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  Speaker 1: Are you okay, I'll go first. That's fine, I'll go first.
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  Speaker 1: My number one movie was also in last week's list,
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  Speaker 1: but I love it so much, and I think that
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  Speaker 1: every teenager should watch it if they missed it in
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  Speaker 1: their childhood, and they should watch it multiple times anyway, even.
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  Speaker 2: If they I love you.
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  Speaker 1: No, it's as you wish, oh, as you wish, she.
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  Speaker 3: Didn't fall inconceivable you came here sent the Horde.
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  Speaker 1: I do not think I miss what you're thinking, missed
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  Speaker 1: the Princess Briane. It's the top of my list for everybody,
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  Speaker 1: no matter who, no matter where you are. Princess Bride,
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  Speaker 1: I love the Pit of Despair.
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  Speaker 3: Don't even think about.
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  Speaker 4: Trying to escape.
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  Speaker 3: Then I'm here to I die.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. Should I share my two teenage favorites,
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  Speaker 2: like as a teenager?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well, if you're doing that, so Princess Bride was
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  Speaker 1: one of mine, I'm gonna share my other one. It
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  Speaker 1: was called north Shore and it was a surfing movie.
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  Speaker 4: For okay, bra restarts just about here, and it stretches
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  Speaker 4: all the way down there. So when a wave breaks here,
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  Speaker 4: don't be there.
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  Speaker 1: Are you going to get drilled? Even to this day,
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  Speaker 1: I can still recite almost the entire.
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  Speaker 2: Watched that once. Yeah, he very unmemorable.
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  Speaker 1: Hi, how do you two? He's so hardly here? Doesn't
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  Speaker 1: even know he's Harley.
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  Speaker 2: Now, yeah, you don't belong over here.
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  Speaker 1: Beat it, Harley, buddy, this is our waves. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: well I don't see your name. I could just keep
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  Speaker 1: on going at what are your two favorites?
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  Speaker 2: I hope my mum's not listening.
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  Speaker 1: Oh really, what are we going to hear? Missus Colson?
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  Speaker 2: So my big girls had to be very big before
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  Speaker 2: I let them watch them. But my absolute favorites as
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  Speaker 2: a teenager was Pretty Woman with Julia Roberts. I tried
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  Speaker 2: to go get a dress on Dale drive to day
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  Speaker 2: and the women wouldn't help me.
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  Speaker 1: And I have all this money now and no dress.
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  Speaker 1: I can I expect you to help me, but I
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  Speaker 1: had to buy a dress for dinner tonight. Nobody will
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  Speaker 1: help me.
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  Speaker 2: And Dirty Dancing with Patrick Swayzey.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody puts people in the corner, no.
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  Speaker 3: Time of.
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  Speaker 1: The truth. Pretty risky for a teenager to be watching those.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you know, no one has had permission to watch those.
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  Speaker 1: Some people right now are listening to this and thinking,
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  Speaker 1: oh my goodness, were you even allowed to watch Home
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  Speaker 1: and Away in your house? I was, what do we
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  Speaker 1: get on?
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  Speaker 3: So?
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  Speaker 1: Well? All right, so they were our favorite teenage movies.
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  Speaker 1: Princess Bride is still at the top of my movie list.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone should watch that. Do you want to do another one?
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  Speaker 1: Or should I dive in with my second one? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: my second one maybe one of the greatest movies oft time.
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  Speaker 1: Captain Like Catain, Set Gown, Mister Anderson, Dead Poet Society,
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  Speaker 1: Robert Willison.
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  Speaker 2: It was literally at the top of my list, just
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  Speaker 2: hands down, such a thought provoking and deeply meaningful movie.
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  Speaker 3: Gather you rosebuds while you may. The Latin term for
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  Speaker 3: that sentiment is Carpe diem, who knows what that means?
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  Speaker 3: Carpe dim that sees the day so much impact.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Robin Williams, I just hands down, such an amazing
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  Speaker 2: actor and devastated when he died.
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  Speaker 3: A medicine, law, business engineering. These are nobel pursuits and
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  Speaker 3: necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, roman love because
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  Speaker 3: of what we stay alive for.
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  Speaker 1: What a great movie. In just a sec We're going
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  Speaker 1: to come back and share another handful of movies that
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  Speaker 1: we reckon. Every parent should watch with their team. It's
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  Speaker 2: It's the Happy Families Podcast, the podcast for the time
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  Speaker 2: poor parent who just wants answers now. And today we
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  Speaker 2: are sharing some of our favorite movies for teenagers.
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  Speaker 1: My next one are going to sing it You tell
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  Speaker 1: me if you know what it is. Everywhere week ago,
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  Speaker 1: people want to know who we are, where we come from,
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  Speaker 1: so we tell them.
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  Speaker 2: This is a football movie and I I can see it.
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  Speaker 1: Denzel Washington. No, it's not Forever Strong. That was good,
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  Speaker 1: but it's remember the title.
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  Speaker 2: Oh I remember the Titans. Yes, brilliant.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody has to watch that movie with their teenagers.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so I've got a couple that I reckon are
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  Speaker 2: up there hidden figures?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? Yes? And I work at dog day and night,
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  Speaker 1: living off a coffee from a put none of you
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  Speaker 1: want to touch.
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  Speaker 2: So we watched this a few years ago with the girls,
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  Speaker 2: and number one, I love the empowerment of girl power
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  Speaker 2: all the way, and I just I love that this
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  Speaker 2: movie celebrates a black woman and her amazing gifts.
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  Speaker 1: And talents accomplishment.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, it was just insane, and it was such a
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  Speaker 2: great movie to watch with our girls and talk to
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  Speaker 2: them about all of the things that they can do
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  Speaker 2: with their potential.
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  Speaker 3: And more colored reshrooms, no more white restrooms.
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  Speaker 2: Pilot a few really funny ones that our girls have
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  Speaker 2: just loved. She's the Man was just literally at the
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  Speaker 2: top of the list for our girls.
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  Speaker 5: I can I am a job?
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  Speaker 1: How did you when we asked them movies to watch
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  Speaker 1: with parents and teens. She's the Man, She's the Man.
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  Speaker 2: Just such a fun movie. But again, it really touches
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  Speaker 2: on this idea that here's this girl and she's amazingly talented,
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  Speaker 2: but he's not recognized because she's a girl.
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  Speaker 1: Gender issues.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, great conversations, a really really good conversation.
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  Speaker 1: And while we're on great soccer movies about teenagers, Benda
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  Speaker 1: like Becka.
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  Speaker 4: Why don't just get off a flame?
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  Speaker 1: Impact she's more interested in playing football, right man? And
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  Speaker 1: Chasing Boys were quite frankly, I'm over the moment about that.
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  Speaker 1: How good it's a good movie.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, totally. Jimunji has to get a special mention.
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  Speaker 1: Any last words, it's ju Munji. I got a couple more. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to give an honorable mention to Cinderella man
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  Speaker 1: Russell Crowe.
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  Speaker 3: Then it's not working and go back and cheap.
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  Speaker 1: I thought it was just the one fake.
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  Speaker 5: In front of us one hundred and Sony found dollars.
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  Speaker 3: It's I can train our Dada's right there. That's a
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  Speaker 3: second chance.
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  Speaker 1: I just reckon. Sitting down and watching amazing sport movies
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  Speaker 1: with teenagers is fantastic. And when they've got an incredible,
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  Speaker 1: incredible story of persistence and doing something amazing Russell Crowe.
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  Speaker 1: He's a it's the nineteen twenties.
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  Speaker 2: If you're going to talk about Russell Crowe, we can't
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  Speaker 2: go past laymen.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, musicals are awesome. We love musicals. Okay, I'll give
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  Speaker 1: you that. There is nothing on our love we share.
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  Speaker 1: It is either a bush or shove. So my last couple,
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  Speaker 1: I love Matt Damon and we bought a zoop. Thanks.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know anything about animals and zeus.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's a it is, it is what it is.
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  Speaker 1: It is what it is.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I don't know what it is it is.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't write that one down, but I was actually
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  Speaker 2: thinking about that one. So it was a really good movie.
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  Speaker 1: It's such a great movie, this one you might not remember.
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  Speaker 1: How could I possibly be expected to handle school in
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  Speaker 1: a day like this? Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
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  Speaker 2: I've never seen it.
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  Speaker 1: So much fun and such a great movie for kids
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  Speaker 1: to watch, like it's such a great teenage movie, skipping
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  Speaker 1: school for the day, stealing a Ferrari or borrowing a Ferrari?
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  Speaker 4: What it is?
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  Speaker 3: My father spent three years restoring this car.
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  Speaker 1: It is his love, it is his passion, is his fault.
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  Speaker 1: He didn't lack the garage. It's just such a fun
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  Speaker 1: and funny movie. I asked for a car, I got
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  Speaker 1: a computer. How was that for being born on a
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  Speaker 1: bad saying? The Last of the Mohicans? If English Locke
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  Speaker 1: and I'll be trusted. Maybe these people do better making
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  Speaker 1: their own peace with the French. That is sedestion, That
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  Speaker 1: is the truth. Teens love big emotions and this is
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  Speaker 1: a heavy and kind of bloodthirsty movie. And my goodness,
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  Speaker 1: it's tragic at every level. And yet when I was
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  Speaker 1: a teenager, I loved The Last of the Mohicans Daniel
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  Speaker 1: day Lewis. The soundtrack just takes you away.
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  Speaker 2: Oh those soundtracks amazing.
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  Speaker 1: So that's our list. Have we missed anything? Do you
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  Speaker 1: want to make any more honorable mention as missus Happy Families?
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm done?
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  Speaker 1: Okay Jr. Thank you again for an extraordinary job putting
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  Speaker 1: together a podcast for the ages. We really hope that
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  Speaker 1: you've enjoyed it, and we'd love for you to join
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  Speaker 1: us in the Facebook chat. What movies do you reckon
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  Speaker 1: teenagers should be which shouldn't be watching? What are your
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  Speaker 1: favorite ones to watch with the teenagers? What are the
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  Speaker 1: teenagers like the most let us know on Facebook. We've
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  Speaker 1: in and join the conversation. As always, we do appreciate
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  Speaker 1: not just JR And his great work Justin Rulan from
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  Speaker 1: Bridge Media, but also Craig Bruce, our executive producer, for
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  Speaker 1: his ideas and his massaging of what we do on
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  Speaker 1: it's watching movies, having outings, we're just having good old
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