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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just - Balancing the Material and Divine 6.4.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Yeah, about a person becoming adopting this, with this.
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  Yesterday there was this thing, the chapter of Kisha of Holiness
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  and we spoke about how it's a very elevated level, not easily
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  attainable, but it's significant in our lives.
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  We're the holiness. It sounds like a a Sheamus
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  spiritual concept, which it is. But for ours sake, it's a little
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  bit of a disconnect in the world that we live in.
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  And we find out the the need for all of us to disconnect because
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  we become very dependent, connected, reliant, needy, all
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  these different words on all material aspects if we don't
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  adapt some degree of kedusha. Now he explained that Kedusha is
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  not something that can happen overnight.
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  We're not pro, you know, kedusha means separating.
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  We're not pro celibacy and all these different ideas.
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  It's not our way. We're very much pro a person
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  being a part of this world and enjoying this world and living
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  this world. That's all true.
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  The goal is to avoid more than anything else, dependency
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  reliance, which therefore triggers getting upset and being
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  frustrated and being unhappy when things don't work out.
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  We're trying to avoid that through the form and the means
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  of becoming a little bit more Angel like through this concert
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  because they shot now explain it doesn't happen overnight.
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  We are all very physical existence and we are therefore
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  very much wired to be dependent on this world.
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  We like food, we like drink, we like other physical things.
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  It's our makeup. Because of that, it's not really
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  that easy to just separate yourself and it's not the goal.
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  The goal is to work into the system that although I eat and
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  although I eat, drink, and although I sleep, I do so in a
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  manner that I'm not so dependent and tied down to it.
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  Of course I need to eat and drink and sleep, but I'm not so
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  upset if things don't work out perfectly and such.
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  Now let's see I came I'm reading from five O 6.
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  So I'm from the home now the fishy of Shala Adam.
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  She has seen more that's more of Matsavazzi.
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  It's impossible to for a person to push himself into the
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  position through his own efforts.
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  He got a baby when we men and it's harder than just me.
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  He's so so I'm a human being. I'm flesh and blood.
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  I can't, I'm just so I want to tell you that to attain this
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  level you need the gift of God. Kima shuhala damla sot.
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  All you can do is hitch salute. All you can do is pursue this
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  concept, pursue the realization, true knowledge of God, proper
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  direction of your deeds and separate yourself from this
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  world. Ah, next page ha sofu.
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  Reality is the way it develops, but there has a God needs to
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  guide you on this way to Hafez al Qaeda guide me on the path
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  that Hashem wants me to go via Hashem has to give me kedusha.
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  I cannot attain this level alone.
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  I cannot make myself into a person that's disconnected from
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  this world. I am wired against this mindset.
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  I am physically fighting this mentality at all times.
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  I need Hashem self Vaz, you slap your doors out there and only
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  then will I succeed. Only then will I be able to be
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  connected to Hashem and successful in my connection to
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  God. Which means now why is he
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  bringing in the topic of connection to God in this topic
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  of holiness? Where?
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  That's not the point. The point is you separate from
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  the mundane. The reality is, as we mentioned
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  yesterday, you cannot separate from you cannot be connected to
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  Hashem properly without being disconnected from the world
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  somewhat. It's literally one thing is 1 is
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  pulling and other one's pulling. It's a magnet both ways and the
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  only way I can connect to God is by figuring out a way to become
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  a little bit less connected and plugged into this world.
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  It's just the way the world works and the more I am
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  dependent. If you have a guy that needs to
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  live in a lap of luxury in every sense of the word, and he needs
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  to have in his mind luxuries and needs to be perfectly happy at
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  all times based on the materials that he has, it's impossible for
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  that person to deem himself fully connected to God.
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  Because if you're connected here, you're not connected
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  there. And if you're less connected
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  here, you're more connected there.
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  And your job is, of course, you're not going to try to do
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  all up, but your job is to find that balance.
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  Go. Ahead.
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  Yes, yes. So Saddam bombs was middle of
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  the road, but his son Abraham took this approach.
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  Good. The average person supposed to
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  take the middle of the road in this area we're not supposed to
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  take like we said, celibacy approach with the I don't eat
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  anything, I don't drink anything.
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  No extremes, no nothing too extremes.
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  But your goal is to be very connected to God.
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  If you have this point, if you have this in a balanced degree,
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  if all you need to do is some degree of self-control in any of
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  these areas self-control when I eat what I do, where I sleep and
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  how dependent I am one is some degree of self-control.
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  Hashem will fill in the rest. Yes, middle of the road balance.
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  God will help you become way more than balance in your
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  connection to Hashem. Your process should be get
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  balanced. Your outcome should be way
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  better than balance. That's the idea.
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  Whatever your nature fights against you trying to apply this
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  medal, Hashem will help you. Whatever your nature says, you
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  got to remain balanced. God will help you to be above
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  balance. That's the idea.
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  Hashem will give you help. Kenya chunima alayhi na tov
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  alkhim Tamid has shall not hold back from the good.
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  For those who are trying, I cannot move.
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  A person sanctifies himself a little bit.
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  Hashem will make him very holy. That's what he tells you.
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  This is the help of Hashem is our point.
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  Now here's the theme. You need this.
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  The reason you need this is because the world we live in
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  today is pulling very hard. You talk about any form of
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  material pull. Food and drink are nothing.
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  That's not a major deal, right? You talk about all forms of
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  smoking. You talk about all forms of
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  gambling. You talk about all forms of
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  temptation. They're all a pull, and they're
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  all stronger than a regular person.
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  Naturally, if a person. Why is it that every single
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  topic of addiction has he opened up the door and next thing you
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  know, boom, right, he had a drink.
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  That's all it was. I just had a drink.
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  And then before you know it, the addict, he had some some friend
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  said, why don't you put some money on the game and before you
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  know it thing, all these examples have the exact same
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  opening. They all have the concept of
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  Segway, all the concept of gateway.
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  Why? Because we are wired toward the
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  physical and addictions on these topics, whether a president is a
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  legitimate addict or not, these topics of physical indulgence,
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  they all are playing on that mentality of human nature, which
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  is they're playing on the mental state of a person enjoying
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  physic physical elements. So I enjoy the rush of gambling.
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  I enjoy the the nicotine of smoking.
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  I enjoy the high of drinking or even worse, the high of drugs.
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  Person is literally enjoying the physical all playing on one
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  thing physical. Now, by the way, easy to enjoy
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  by and that's and that and that pulls the person even more.
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  And that's why the fight is not a simple fight.
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  And the same thing happens to be true not only with these
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  physical things, eating and drinking, sure, people have
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  addictions to those areas as well, but those addictions are
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  not the same. They don't they don't carry the
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  same rush. And then it also applies to the
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  other mental disorders that people have, which is not
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  eating. And now it's playing into a need
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  to be extremely skin. Like they wake up in the
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  morning, you know, next we can eat hair we can eat.
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  They're crazy. Right.
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  There's no way. There's no way to fight this
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  fight by just saying you guys are nuts.
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  What are you doing right? The same way there's addictions
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  in every area. People have addictions to cell
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  phones, right? People have that nowadays and
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  now you say to yourself that's ridiculous.
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  But the reality is for them, as long as this item, whatever it
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  may be, it's physical creates a rush, you can go further
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  addictions to covert. I'm not joking.
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  Addictions to feeling good about themselves, addictions to have
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  living in a lot of luxury. All these things, they may not
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  play into the actual addiction, which means they build and they
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  pull and pull and pull. But there are things that people
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  want, need and pile on. And that's why the fight is not
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  a simple fight. Your goal is not to say it's me
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  against physical, I'll win, you won't win.
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  Your goal is to say all I need to do is pull a little bit.
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  I'll show them up and you need God's help.
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  Because if a person's in the thick of things and he's 17
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  years old or 19 years old and everyone's doing boxes or
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  everyone's doing fantasy and everyone's doing.
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  You did all the Knick tickets for charity and all that.
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  It's exactly against what you're saying.
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  I don't want on recording, you know this power organization,
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  but I I understand your point 1000%.
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  And yes, I'll tell you the truth.
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  If I were allowed to go to a Knick camp, OK.
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  If I'm allowed to go to Knick camp and you know, I'm a Knick
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  fan for 30 years, 31 years, I'm not a long time talking 1997
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  easy. If I were allowed to go to the
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  game, I would have played every single one of those games.
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  Every single show of those I think would have had a donation
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  from Moshe Heaver flat out right.
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  And the reason I would have done so is, is because I would
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  imagine I'm waiting 30 years to go to the finals and finally
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  we're going and we and they're probably going to win.
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  You know what I'm sure with my game.
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  Absolutely. So yeah, it's a fairpoint.
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  I might get not disparaging, but it's a fairpoint.
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  And a person in our own world has to be extremely, extremely
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  careful to not every person, by the way, our our people.
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  It's a beautiful thing we have an addictive nature happens to
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  be it's a great thing in other areas.
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  Addictive nature makes a person become a great learner.
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  Addictive nature makes a person become a hustler machine and
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  makes a person run a shul. We all have to think the natures
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  and makes them build a company from from ground up.
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  But at the same time, if you allow it to run wild, it could
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  also make a person an addict in every area.
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  Be wary of the addictive nature in our way, in our style and
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  recognize that and you have to fight it and a person has to be
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  ready to pull. Just pull the other way somewhat
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  and let God do the rest. And that is when it comes to the
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  meda of Kadusha. You think Kadusha is holiness,
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  it's elevation it is, but really what it is, it's separation from
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  the physical pull and you need to be down for that fight.
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  If you're not down for that fight, be aware a person will
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  easily become in a dangerous particulate in any of these
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  areas. And there's a million areas that
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  a person coming out, there's a million, you know, it's only
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  talk about the ones that are famous, drinking, drugs and
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  other things like that. There are 1,000,000 areas that a
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  person has a door open to an addict and a person's got to be
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  aware. And that is why in my humble
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  opinion, this should be so much part of our system.
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  This fight, you know, it's at the end of the book of of
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  Messiah Shaheen. So don't fight the fight in the
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  kid you shot off one way, maybe that's a little bit elevated.
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  But the fight itself, you see, you have to be down for the
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  struggle. I have to be ready to realize I
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  am in a state of natural inclination of addiction unless
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  I am ready for the other way across the board.
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  And don't just be, you know, naive and say I feel like.
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  When I feel like you trained yourself already and now he's
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  going back to the basics over here.
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  Yeah. So the reason is putting at the
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  end is because the end game and goal over here is to become
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  Kadosh. That part is extremely holy.
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  But he taught you ways to be Kadosh in a normal life.
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  Right, correct. Correct.
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  So now he's going back. I'm saying to you know what,
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  even all everything I said, just stay away from this world,
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  right? That's what it sounds like.
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  You're right. It's true, it's why is it coming
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  at the end of the book to your your point, and I would say
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  because back to that point, because the elevation aspect,
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  even though he told you like saying he told you how to
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  separate and how to make a hush born and how to be aware and how
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  to be wary and how to recognize do all the pitfalls on that
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  stuff. Now he's trying to end with a
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  positive and the positive will be you can become like an Angel.
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  The element of becoming like an Angel is is based on more than
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  just like I was trying to say fighting addiction.
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  It's based on the person saying I want to be like that.
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  How do I do So you're right through the means that we
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  already had and a little bit more help.
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  But my goal will be Angel like and that's the beauty of this
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  process. A person he has to be down for
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  the fight and then his outcome will be far greater than just a
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  tug of war. His outcome will be the most
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  elevated Jew around. You look around and you find
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  great people and you wonder what they are.
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  What they are are people who are aware that I cannot allow myself
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  to be pulled into this world and they realize that every aspect
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  of our life has a pull to it ever.
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  You name the aspect. I don't care if it's the cavort
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  and shoe or it's where you smoke.
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  I mean, they're all out of the same thing.
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  There's a pole there that's dangerous.
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  If it's where you go for the summer or where you send your
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  kids to camp, where you eat your bad meals, where these are very
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  light things, these are beautiful things.
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  All these things carry poles and every single one that needs you
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  to be down for the fight, to avoid that pull to something
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  that's not good for you. The pull of cavort, the pull of
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  feeling good, the pull of needing respect, the pull of
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  what you smoke. It's the same thing in a very
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  broad stroke. It's a pull, and you better be
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  ready to fight that pull. That's the overall theme.
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  Yes, some of them are human nature and some of them only
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  happen with the gateway. But regardless the old polls,
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  unless a person is down for that fight of Mossad, and that's
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  really what you're saying, David, these are all the basic
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  concepts of Mossad. Unless a person is down for that
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  fight, beware, the person will have a pitfall in the area that
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  they at least realize that's what he's telling you.
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  And if they are down for the fight, be ready because the
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  person will have an elevation to the degree like angels.
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  That's how beautiful can go right you here.
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  It's still. What's the issue?
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  I feel like he's saying the whole book doesn't work.
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  Just stay away from everything. No, I'm don't you.
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  We'll see. We'll see.