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3 Ways to Invest In Yourself to Level Up Femininity · Mindful Success Path

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  I've been getting asked about how to level up femininity to get what you want in life, and also how to get out of wounded feminine energy.
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  And in this video I'm gonna be sharing some ways.
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  That you can do that.
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  Level up your femininity and start attracting what it is that you want in life.
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  So if that's something that you're interested in, make sure to stick around until the end, because some of what I say.
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  Might surprise you and may sound different than what a lot of other people on social media are saying.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda Avea.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to get what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  Lately we're talking a lot about femininity.
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  We're talking a lot about.
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  Embodying feminine energy.
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  We're talking a lot about relationships, just'cause that's what you guys have been asking me for in the comments and you guys are absolutely loving it.
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  So if that's something that you're interested in, make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell so you don't miss a single video that we have coming out.
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  On this channel because we don't just talk about that.
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  We also talk about how to attract money.
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  We talk about, uh, business success.
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  We talk about health.
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  We talk about all kinds of things from a far more holistic perspective.
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  Uh, I've been in coaching for 15 years.
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  I'm trained in all kinds of different modalities and capacities, both in the United States and in Mexico.
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  And on this channel.
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  I share those things with you, and if you're interested in working with me, checking out our courses, programs, what we have available.
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  And you can find all of that in the description below.
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  Okay, so let's get into the ways that you can invest in yourself to level up your femininity.
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  Now, why on earth would women want to level up their femininity?
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  Well, if you learn how to do that, then you're actually gonna get what you want in life without struggling as much.
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  Part of the issue that we have going on in Western culture, for example, is that a lot of women.
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  Act like men, they're way too masculine, so what ends up happening is they end up in bad relationships.
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  Like for example, when an able-bodied man, uh, you're married to is not working and doesn't have a job and isn't providing, therefore all the pressure falls on you, they end up in situations where they're doing that plus taking care of kids, plus working, plus managing the house.
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  Plus taking care of their husbands, which no woman really wants that.
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  No embodied feminine woman wants that at all.
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  If you're on this channel, you definitely don't want that.
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  So if you level up your femininity, your relationships improve'cause there'll be more polarity in your relationships and everything else starts to improve as well.
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  Because ultimately, leveling up your femininity is really about self-esteem at the end of the day for a woman is what I've come to realize.
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  After 15 years of coaching women in different parts of their lives, particularly business.
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  And that femininity aspect is very tied to their self-esteem because most women don't realize just how powerful they actually are.
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  Most women don't realize just how valuable they are, and because they don't realize that they end up in a wounded feminine energy space and that can look like either.
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  Uh, being the doormat, the people pleaser, the one that everybody walks all over.
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  And it can also look like, uh, being the masculinized woman who has to control everything and no woman really feels good in either space, I.
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  No woman feels good when she's constantly being taken advantage of by men or people around her or people in business, and no woman really feels that good at the end of the day if she's overcompensating, with masculinity because she does not attract masculine men.
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  Into her life.
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  Neither scenario feels good to a woman at the end of the day, and if she does feel good there, it ain't gonna last long.
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  Eventually, a woman will get fed up.
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  So for example, if a woman is in a dynamic in her relationship where she's holding the masculine pole, eventually she's gonna get fed up and probably ask for divorce.
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  And walk out eventually, that's what's going to happen because, uh, women cannot sustain that over long periods of time.
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  And I'm hearing more and more and more stories coming in.
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  My husband and I were literally shocked at how much of these are coming in on email, in the comments in dms, in conversations where many women are in situations where their husbands are either making them pay half the bills or worst case scenarios.
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  All the bills and it's just kind of insane when you think about it because ultimately at the end of the day, uh, that woman continuously puts herself last.
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  And because she's continuously putting herself last, um, and holding the masculine pole because she's the one responsible for bringing in money, plus she's responsible for kids, plus she's responsible for managing the household.
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  Um, eventually that's not gonna end well.
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  Up at all.
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  And a lot of women are in those kinds of situations, or I've heard situations where women basically get used by men where it's like, oh yeah, honey, you take care of everything.
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  Well, I go back to school and I go get my law degree, or I go get my doctorate degree and she basically holds the guy down only for the guy to end up divorcing her.
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  Marrying somebody else later and then paying for the second woman's bills all the time.
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  Or you're in business situations where you keep attracting people who do not respect you, or you keep attracting people who are pain in your butt, or you just have a hard time attracting money without grinding for it and without it being difficult.
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  So it's really important that we learn how to level up this femininity because once women realize.
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  The power that they do hold then all, and they start holding themselves in a higher regard and embodying that all those issues that I just talked about tend to go away, right?
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  Or um, so for example, they'll attract more masculine men if they're already in a marriage than most men want to be the masculine provider protector.
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  Otherwise they're just siphoning your energy.
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  But most men want to be providers and protectors.
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  So that'll start churning around the dynamic.
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  Uh, money will become a lot easier.
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  Abundance in general will become a lot easier.
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  You are going to feel better, you're gonna feel more rested.
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  If you're more rested, you're more creative.
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  If you get more creative, you get better ideas.
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  That then supports the entire household.
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  So that's what we're moving toward when we level up femininity.
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  And when you hold yourself in much higher esteem, people just don't play with you as much.
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  And a lot of you are in situations where people just straight up play with you.
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  They play with your emotions.
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  They play with your niceness, they play with your good girlness, they play with all those things, and then you feel like you're getting taken advantage of.
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  So when you level up your femininity, there is no taking advantage of you.
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  It's not a thing because you can read people like a book when you start holding yourself in higher esteem, and it's not even just reading people like a book.
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  It's also that because you hold yourself in much higher esteem, then you no longer participate in situations that don't benefit you.
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  And a lot of women are finding themselves in relationships careers.
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  Situations where it just doesn't benefit them.
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  I mean, I've heard situations out here where some of y'all are straight up raising kids for med and they haven't married you.
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  Right?
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  So obviously that's not a situation, uh, that benefits you.
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  Like they tell you they're gonna marry you, but they don't actually marry you, which doesn't benefit you because you're like, wait a minute, I practically just raised your kids.
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  Where's my ring?
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  It's'cause they don't actually see you as a wife.
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  They probably see you as a placeholder.
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  Otherwise they would've taken you to the courthouse already, even if it was something that simple men know very quickly when they wanna marry somebody.
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  So if they are kicking the can down the road, you are not the one, sorry.
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  And a lot of you are in situations like that as well.
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  So let's get into how we start this level of journey.
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  Now that I've given a lot of examples of what's going on out here, and again, I'm gobsmacked when these stories come to me.
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  Let's talk about how to change it, because if you're seeing it in your relationships, I promise you, you're also seeing it in business and you're seeing it in other parts.
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  Of your life, because how we do one thing is typically how we do all things.
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  So number one is that you have to get clear on an inner journey.
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  So a lot of people like to start this conversation off with hair and makeup and what you're wearing, and we're gonna get there in a second.
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  Um, a lot of people like to start there or like they like to start with fitness or what you're eating.
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  Also, very important, we're gonna get there.
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  However, if you do all of those things without having done internal work on yourself, it's like putting lipstick on a pig, right?
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  So here's what we're trying to do.
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  First and foremost, we're actually trying to embody self-esteem.
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  We're trying to embody.
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  Femininity.
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  We're trying to embody the powerful feminine beings.
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  That we are, that's an inside job.
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  Are there things you could do on the outside to enhance those things and you feel better and you feel more confident?
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  Yes.
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  And I'm gonna talk about it in a second, but ultimately it's an inside job more than anything.
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  So what does that look like?
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  Well, that looks like getting clear on what triggers you, what makes you fly off the handle about men, or the opposite sex.
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  It's also so that you don't get triggered anymore.
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  It's about understanding, it's really about not getting triggered anymore, period.
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  And my husband's reeling this, reading this very interesting book because this part actually applies to both men and women called Reality Trans Surfing.
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  It's originally like in Russian.
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  My husband's like Ukrainian, Russian.
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  Um, and basically it's about, you know, it's about energetics in the world.
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  And one of the, the things that it says is that people.
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  People make too many decisions based on their emotions, and they give way too much energy to stuff that they should not be giving energy to.
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  That's one of the reasons why they end up in wonky situations.
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  That's why they end up in toxic situations.
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  That's why they end up in, uh, toxic, uh, jobs.
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  That's why they end up in a bunch of problems because they're giving way too much energy to think that quite frankly.
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  Don't need that much of your energy, but because we're making decisions from a very emotional place that we're kind of easily manipulated by the stuff that's going on around us rather than holding our own center.
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  So I'll give you an idea.
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  My husband and I, it's been AEC clips season and uh, all kinds of crazy chaos has broken out around us.
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  But my husband and I are great.
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  Like business is good.
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  Uh, on the expat side.
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  We've started doing tours here in this part of Mexico.
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  For people who are interested in moving here, my husband's got a lot of deals.
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  On the table to become partner of a company.
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  Uh, you know, we're selling workshops and classes like, like work is good, business is good, relationship is very good.
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  Uh, our health is good because we've been taking advantage of that.
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  Everything else around us, like, like people around us and situations around us have been very chaotic.
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  So what I mean by not getting triggered is.
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  You know, in the past, before we both did a lot of, uh, inner work, we might have looked at a particular situation with, let's say, a family member acting out of pocket and being manipulative and being like, oh my God, is that our fault?
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  Did we like make them act that way?
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  Did we like, oh, let me go change my behavior.
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  Oh, I must have done something.
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  Now it's basically like, no, you're acting crazy.
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  Uh, which is fine.
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  I forgive you and I love you from a distance, but I have no obligation to participate in the crazy.
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  That's what I mean and what's going on a lot out here is because of the way that we were raised, because of the way that we were conditioned, a lot of us were conditioned to be people pleasers, for example, or good girls.
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  Uh, we've been conditioned to participate in the crazy, not realizing that you have no obligation to participate in crazy whatsoever.
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  The other thing is paying attention to what it is that you're attracted to.
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  So one of the things that's really interesting about women is you've probably heard of this dynamic, uh, that men complain about quite a bit, which is that, you know, if they're the good guy, they don't get the girls.
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  But if they're like the bad boy, they get the girls.
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  And a lot of women are attracted to men who are totally unavailable.
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  And treat them like crap.
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  Um, and my husband, I actually told my husband this, I'm like, there's, there are women out there who are attracted to married men simply because they're unavailable.
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  And he was like, what?
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  That's a thing.
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  And I'm like, oh, it's a thing.
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  Uh, there are some women who actually get.
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  Like turned on by that kind of stuff.
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  Like it's a thing because a lot of women, um, are not con, have not learned to be attracted to what is good for them and to them.
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  A lot of women have been conditioned whether because of what they saw growing up or TV or movies or sex in the city or whatever, to be attracted to men that treat them like crap.
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  So we have to look at that.
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  If you're finding yourself in situations where you keep attracting men or people who don't treat you well, you're the common denominator.
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  You have to look at why you keep attracting that into your life.
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  'cause chances are it's on some level, you are attracted to it, or you think that stuff is normal.
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  For whatever reason, I've coached a lot of people who've been in some pretty dysfunctional relationships where they just think that's normal because they saw the dysfunction growing up as children, not realizing that what they saw as children was neither normal nor healthy.
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  So that's one of the things, uh, to consider as well.
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  Um, so it's about emotional mastery, which is what I was talking about in the beginning.
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  It's also about understanding, you know, if we keep attracting, particularly in relationship or in business partnership situations that don't serve us or where we end up being treated like crap.
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  Then we have to look at why we're attracted to that because there's something in us that thinks that's normal.
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  And in the extreme cases, there's something in you that is attracted to it.
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  So, and you have to take extreme amounts of personal responsibility when you start going on a.
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  You know, leveling up your femininity journey or just a spiritual journey at all, you have to take extreme amounts of personal responsibility.
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  Not to say that everything is your fault, because it's not, but you know, everything is your responsibility, right?
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  And we have to take extreme amounts of personal responsibility for the decisions that we're making, for the thoughts that we're having, for the beliefs that we have, for the things that we're attracted to.
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  For how we're behaving, we have to take total responsibility for that.
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  And when you start taking total responsibility for that, that's when your journey really begins.
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  And the first piece that I mentioned about emotional mastery, that's actually the first part of taking personal responsibility, is taking responsibility for how you feel and not blaming other people for how you feel.
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  Taking responsibility for your own triggers, um, not taking responsibility.
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  For, um, everybody else's triggers, right?
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  Were you taking responsibility for you and not being overly responsible for everybody around you?
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  Because that's another thing that women do and anybody who is conditioned into being a people pleaser, which most women have, is that they are conditioned to being overly responsible for everyone and everything around them.
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  So then what happens?
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  You end up becoming the one responsible for everything and complaining about it, and that's not actually femininity at all.
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  Uh, femininity is meant to rest, not be responsible for literally everyone and everything around them that is hyper masculine.
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  Of a woman to do, and eventually it does burn her out and it doesn't end well.
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  Um, so those are really important.
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  It's kind of like the inner journey.
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  Maybe that means you need coaching, maybe it means you need therapy.
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  Uh, maybe it means you need, um, you know, spiritual guidance, whatever it is, right?
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  It's about getting that inner world sorted out and understanding what's going on in there.
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  And it's about learning to master that inner world.
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  If you learn how to do that, like you don't even have to do the rest of what I'm gonna talk about in this video.
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  The rest of what I'm gonna talk about is just common sense and or for fun if you learn how to do that.
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  So the next thing that I'm gonna put on here, right, is health and fitness, obviously now is the last portion.
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  I'm basically talking about mental health in a lot of ways.
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  Now I'm talking about physical health.
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  I'm probably gonna get crap for this, but there's been tons and tons of studies done on this that people who look better.
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  Tend to succeed more in life.
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  I will give examples.
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  Um, if I wear dresses ouch.
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  When I'm running errands and things like that, people are much nicer to me.
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  They wanna open doors for me.
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  Um, you know, they're generally just more open to me and I become more magnetic versus if I'm wearing sweats, right?
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  Um, you know, so what does that mean?
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  It means that I start taking care of, um, what I look like.
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  I start taking care of my health and fitness.
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  Earlier this year, both my husband and I were like, we need to get back in the gym after two years of like a lot of travel moving to another country, stuff like that.
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  Primarily it was for our health, but I also wanna look good if I'm being real.
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  And while we were having a very chaotic couple weeks, I have this saying where it's like.
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  As long as I went to the gym and I look good, right, and I feel good and I'm healthy.
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  As long as I went to the gym, it doesn't matter what else happened around me.
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  I won that day.
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  I have a win to put on the board if I went to the gym.
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  But ultimately it is about feeling better and you do start to look better.
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  And now we've been going to the gym training.
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  Regularly for about two months, and I'm looking real good in that mirror, which then boosts my confidence, which then boosts my magnetism.
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  And then the final thing, because this is totally the realm of the feminine, every, everything I set up until now, like men could do too.
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  Um, in their own way.
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  But this last one really is, uh, considered, uh, feminine.
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  If we were to look at masculine and feminine qualities and traits, and that is beauty.
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  So you might notice my face is dolled up, um, because I've started to take.
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  Makeup classes here in Mexico.
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  Uh, it was actually a birthday gift from my husband because it's my birthday month.
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  He's been giving me presents all month, and one of the presents that he got me, he's like, Hey, I saw that you got interested in like learning how to do hair and makeup and all that kind of stuff.
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  Uh, they opened up a beauty school.
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  By the house.
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  I got you some private classes for your birthday so you can learn how to do stuff.
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  You know, you're on camera a lot and you know, that requires a certain level of makeup.
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  Um, but mostly I saw you really interested in this and I bought you some classes.
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  So the reason I started getting interested in it is because beauty is the realm of the feminine, right?
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  Do you have to do this?
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  No.
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  Like I said, the inner work is the most important thing, but we would be lying.
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  Um, if we looked at how the world operates, we would be lying if we said that looking a certain way and looking beautiful and learning how to enhance things, uh, doesn't make a difference in whether or not you get results.
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  It absolutely does.
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  And on top of that, it's just fun.
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  And those of you who are perhaps more in the dating scene rather than, you know, married or in long-term relationships, you probably have to work a little bit harder at this.
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  Then perhaps someone who's been married for a long time.
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  Although if you've been married for a long time, don't let things go just because you're married, because a lot of people do that.
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  They get comfortable and they're like, oh yeah, I've been married 10 years.
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  I'm super comfortable.
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  I'm just gonna let myself go.
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  No, number one, it's not about trying to impress them.
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  It's about you feeling good and in you feeling good and feeling confident.
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  Um, guess what happens?
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  You become more magnetic.
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  I more attractive, uh, to your partner.
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  So in our case, you know.
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  We're not gonna let ourselves go like, you know what I mean?
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  In my case, part of that which does not apply to a man, is the beauty stuff is, okay, well, can I learn how to do my hair, uh, in a certain way?
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  Or can I learn how to do my makeup in a certain way?
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  This is something I just learned how to do.
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  At my makeup class, and then I just came running back home to film this video for you guys because I was thinking about how to put all this stuff together based on the comments that have been coming in.
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  And beauty is something that is considered the realm of the feminine.
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  Um, if you look at, for example, astrology, if you're into it, you look at the planet.
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  Venus.
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  Uh, Venus, who's the Roman name for the Greek goddess, Aphrodite.
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  What was Aphrodite all about?
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  Aphrodite was about love and beauty and the higher ideals of beauty.
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  It's always been attributed to being feminine.
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  Uh, what do women do?
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  Women are really good at beautifying places around them.
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  Women are really good at beautifying the energy around them once they actually understand these things.
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  Now, it's not about being unika, as they say here, uh, in Mexico.
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  It's not about being like plastic or, um, you know, not being okay with how you are or anything like that.
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  It's just more about.
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  Actually it's the opposite.
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  It's learning how to be okay with you and your body and what you look like, and then just learning how to enhance those things because beauty is fun.
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  Um, obviously, you know, if you, and again, many studies have been done on this, people who dress a certain way, people who look a certain way, people who know how to enhance their features, they just get better results in life than people who just don't try it all.
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  That's why, one of the reasons why as soon as I did this makeup class today, I came running home and started filming videos and taking advantage of the situation because I knew somebody would notice and I knew that the results would probably go further, uh, because of that and because I'm learning how to do that.
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  And again, tons of studies have been done on this and they might make you mad and I don't really care.
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  It is what it is.
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  Learn to take care of yourself and if you are a woman, learning how to take care of yourself does include beauty.
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  It is a part of it.
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  Uh, don't try and reject it and don't think that because you have kids or whatever that, or because you've been married for 10 years, that suddenly none of that stuff matters.
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  It still matters at the end of the day.
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  And plus, like I said, it's super fun and super creative.
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  Which is all in that realm of the femin.
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  Okay?
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  So those are three tips, probably more than that, on how you can, um, start increasing and level up the femininity in your life.
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  These are ways to invest in yourself so that you can level up the femininity in your life, because I promise you.
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  Once you do the inner work and then you add the other stuff on top of it, your confidence goes through the roof, your self-esteem goes through the roof.
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  People don't play with you as much anymore'cause they know not to play with you and you know not to participate in things that don't benefit you, um, or at least are mutually beneficial.
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  You learn not to participate.
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  In those things and you know, life just gets easier and gets better.
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  So I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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  For those of you who've been asking how do we start getting out of the wounded feminine, how do we become more feminine?
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  Start here.
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  Right?
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  But if you only take one thing out of this, know that the most important thing is the inner work, more than anything.
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  The other stuff.
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  Is a great bonus, right?
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  But if you do those things without having done the inner work, it's not gonna mean anything.
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  If you learn how to put on a face of makeup and you learn how to do hair, but you're still a masculine woman, literally means nothing.
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  No one is gonna notice your vibe is still giving off.
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  Man and address, so that's why the inner work part is so important.
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