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BONUS: Homies On The Payroll · Untraditionally Lala

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Speaker 1: Hi, my love. It is La La Kent. Welcome back
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Speaker 1: to the bonus episode of Give Them La La, I
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Speaker 1: Have my Brain and Have My Heart. Easton Birmingham and
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Speaker 1: Jessica Walter. Hell, I'm excited about today's podcast. But before
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Speaker 1: we jump into it, I just got word from producer
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Speaker 1: John that Lamar Odom and Caitlin Jenner have started a
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Speaker 1: podcast together about sports. What an odd pairing, but a
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Speaker 1: little bit here for it.
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Speaker 2: Didn't they get along pretty well when he was with Chloe? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: Did they? I don't know because I didn't really watch
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Speaker 1: keeping coming up.
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Speaker 2: I think they did it. Immediately I gasped. I was like, WHOA,
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Speaker 2: that's wild. But now that I think about it, I'm like, oh, yeah,
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Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure they were closer.
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Speaker 3: I think it's just weird that they're both talking about sports.
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Speaker 1: I think I find it weird why Caitlyn Jenner is
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Speaker 1: a Olympic list.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, gold medal winner.
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Speaker 1: Be like, I feel like it's the perfect pairing. Oh,
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Speaker 1: you can talk about Laura.
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Speaker 3: Odam talking about sports.
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Speaker 4: It's just crazy that the only thing that I've ever
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Speaker 4: seen of keeping up with the Kardashians is Kaitlin flying RC.
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Speaker 3: Cars and planes.
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Speaker 1: I feel like Caitlyn Jenner just was running around like
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Speaker 1: doing dad stuff. Yeah, you know, yeah, like she was
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Speaker 1: a very hands on dat. Yeah. So now it's I
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Speaker 1: think it makes sense.
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Speaker 3: It makes sense.
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Speaker 1: You're like the ultimate athlete if you've won Olympic gold medals.
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Speaker 2: Yes, I wonder the sports they're going Are they to
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Speaker 2: do all the sports? Obviously basketball, obviously.
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Speaker 1: Covering the Olympics that are coming up soon? Right, aren't
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Speaker 1: they coming up soon? Summer Olympics?
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Speaker 4: Probably the reason why they maybe started it. That's a
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Speaker 4: pretty good kick right here.
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Speaker 1: That's a great kick off.
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Speaker 2: I wonder how the Kardashian family feels about it.
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Speaker 3: I don't think they give a shit.
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Speaker 1: They're never gonna tell us. No, they're so buttoned up, we'll.
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Speaker 2: Never know or you know what. More importantly, and is
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Speaker 2: Kendall and Kylie, because that is still Caitlin's still their dad.
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Speaker 2: So I'm interested, I guess am I I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I don't know that I'm interested in.
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Speaker 3: Listen now, when we leave here, I won't be there.
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Speaker 1: I'm interested in the fact that it's happening. Will I
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Speaker 1: be tuning in? I only listen to the Give Them
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Speaker 1: La La podcast. Same and dateline. Okay, Jessica, Yes, what
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Speaker 1: is our topic for today? And I hope we got
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Speaker 1: lots of writing.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a very interesting writing. So our prompt for
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Speaker 2: today you guys, which you can find on the Give
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Speaker 2: Them Lalla podcast Instagram and well let's give them all
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Speaker 2: a pod, but we post them a lot you guys
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Speaker 2: write in and then we read this as part of
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Speaker 2: the bonus episode. It is how will you know when
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Speaker 2: you have quote made it?
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Speaker 1: Oh? This is such a good question, also so hard
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Speaker 1: because I feel like there's so many different points of
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Speaker 1: like when you know you've made it? Right?
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Speaker 2: I have a specific list. How do you guys? You
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Speaker 2: sound like you have like do you feel like you've
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Speaker 2: made it?
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Speaker 1: Okay? So Stossey has this app My Human Design, and
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Speaker 1: she basically she it's like the first thing she asks
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Speaker 1: people is like, what's your human design? You can be
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Speaker 1: a manifestor a projector there's like a bunch of others
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Speaker 1: and so she said, I am a projector you or
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Speaker 1: her me.
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Speaker 3: Okay, I was gonna say you were what you manifest.
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Speaker 1: So it's deeper than that. It's deeper when you look
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Speaker 1: into like I manifest, but my human design is projector
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Speaker 1: so and I also project after my trauma, I projected
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Speaker 1: a lot, I manifest project, I do all the things.
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Speaker 1: But as far as human design, I'm a projector in
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Speaker 1: the sense that there's a piece of that design that
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Speaker 1: I feel at peace and know I'm on the right
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Speaker 1: path when I have success. So what does success mean?
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Speaker 1: When I look at something and I say that was
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Speaker 1: successful for me. I like knowing that my income is
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Speaker 1: a coming. We all do. It takes a lot of
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Speaker 1: stress off. But like my mother, for example, when she
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Speaker 1: thought about what she wanted to do with her life,
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Speaker 1: she worked at the dental office as a receptionist because
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Speaker 1: they only worked four days a week. That's okay, goal,
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Speaker 1: that was her goal. And she's very into like numbers
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Speaker 1: and saving and like she's very smart with money. But
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Speaker 1: to talk to her, she's not like I I want
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Speaker 1: millions of dollars in the bank and I want to
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Speaker 1: fly on private jets and have the nicest of nicest cars.
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Speaker 1: It's just like she doesn't care. She is very grounded.
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Speaker 1: So I don't really know. I sound really shitty when
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Speaker 1: I say how I know I've made it?
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Speaker 2: Well, why don't we just be honest? And then because
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Speaker 2: authenticity is going to be great.
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Speaker 1: Okay.
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Speaker 3: I found out that a lot of people like it
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Speaker 3: when you're more authentic.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, that's why people really have a strong opinion
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Speaker 1: about me. They either love me or really don't like me.
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Speaker 1: Because I don't have time to be a calculated motherfucker,
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Speaker 1: because I just I find that I have made it.
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Speaker 1: I do not feel like I have made it yet,
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Speaker 1: you don't know. I feel very proud of where I am,
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Speaker 1: and there's a lot of things that I've done in
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Speaker 1: my life that I'm proud of. I don't know that
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Speaker 1: I'll ever feel that I have made it. I want big,
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Speaker 1: extravagant things. That's just who I am. Ultimately, I want
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Speaker 1: to be happy, but I feel like we're there. I'm happy,
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Speaker 1: we're healthy. So the overall, what do you want out
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Speaker 1: of life? I want to be happy and I want
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Speaker 1: to be healthy, and I want people around me to
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Speaker 1: be happy and healthy. But as far as when have
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Speaker 1: you made it? When I can say I'm flying to
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Speaker 1: Italy private and staying in a villa and I don't
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Speaker 1: give a fuck how much it costs, and I'm taking
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Speaker 1: all my fronts.
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Speaker 2: That's an answer. Okay, Okay, yes, that's your honest answer.
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Speaker 1: That's great when I don't have to think about.
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Speaker 2: It, Okay, finances, when you don't have to think about
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Speaker 2: your finances.
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Speaker 1: But you always have to do. Everyone is always on
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Speaker 1: a budget, no matter what. But when I can say,
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Speaker 1: we're going here at this time because I need to
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Speaker 1: get away, book the hotel that I want, someone fuel
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Speaker 1: the jet and charter it and call the company this
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Speaker 1: is what I want on the jet. Let's invite Tom
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Speaker 1: Dick and Harry and Harry Dick and tell them not
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Speaker 1: to worry about it because I'm fronting the bill. That's
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Speaker 1: I know I've made it. We're not there yet.
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Speaker 2: There's that's a lot of answers, by the way, that's
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Speaker 2: so many people's answers that makes sense.
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Speaker 1: I feel like it took a giant shit again. Well
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Speaker 1: there you go. I'm just pure, just.
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Speaker 2: As you should.
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Speaker 1: When do you think you've made it?
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Speaker 3: T T I don't know.
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Speaker 5: I mean I said that the fun answer, like you said,
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Speaker 5: like there's things like I yes, I do want to
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Speaker 5: pay for the jet, the villain, all of those things,
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Speaker 5: But I don't know if I because to me, you've
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Speaker 5: made it, you want more, But like you've made it,
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Speaker 5: so like that's for me, like in a happy standpoint,
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Speaker 5: like for me right now, like I don't feel like
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Speaker 5: I've made it.
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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm on a good path thanks to.
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Speaker 4: The people around me and putting me in in the
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Speaker 4: position to succeed.
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Speaker 1: But you also have to take credit at some point
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Speaker 1: for where you are and what you do it.
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Speaker 4: And that's and that's where I'm getting is I am
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Speaker 4: starting to take credit for little things that I've done
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Speaker 4: because what I've done is kept me here and it's
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Speaker 4: not just I'm here.
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Speaker 1: So that makes sense.
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Speaker 4: And so now I'm to the point of I'm getting
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Speaker 4: close to where I'm I feel like I will make it.
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Speaker 3: I'm happy, I'm very happy.
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Speaker 4: But I want more, but I feel like i've made it,
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Speaker 4: Like I'm I have amazing friends, family, There's nothing that
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Speaker 4: I can look at where I'm like, Damn, I haven't
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Speaker 4: made it. You know, obviously we all want to pay
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Speaker 4: for the things, but like that to me, like, isn't
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Speaker 4: you made it?
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Speaker 3: That actually made it?
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Speaker 1: That actually I do understand what you're saying. So I
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Speaker 1: don't know that I'll ever feel like I've made it,
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Speaker 1: because Okay, once you can charter the jets. Well then
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Speaker 1: you're like, I'm the type of person where I'm like,
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Speaker 1: all right, we've accomplished it, let's move on to the next. Well,
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Speaker 1: now I want to own my own jets. So now
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Speaker 1: I got to get to a point where we're making
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Speaker 1: so much money that you can afford one hundred and
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Speaker 1: fifty million dollars on an aircraft. So that's that's But
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Speaker 1: I don't want people to take that as nothing is
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Speaker 1: ever enough, because I feel happy. I just really enjoy
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Speaker 1: setting goals and accomplishing them.
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Speaker 4: And the one thing that I've I got from all
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Speaker 4: of that was you wanting to do it for people.
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Speaker 3: That's what I got.
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Speaker 4: When you're bringing Tom's Harry Dick and shit, Yeah, that's
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Speaker 4: where it's just like you don't care for it for you.
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Speaker 3: It's the giving back that's huge too. That I caught.
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Speaker 1: If I could afford to make it so that all
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Speaker 1: my friends didn't have to work and they could all
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Speaker 1: payroll and ye put them on payroll and they could
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Speaker 1: just like we could all create and do all that
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Speaker 1: shit together.
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Speaker 3: That's what they made. It have to be with me
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Speaker 3: all the time, Okay, that's when I made it.
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Speaker 4: That's when I'll say I made it when I'm with
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Speaker 4: everybody that I'm I love my friends, my family, and
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Speaker 4: we're just doing we're just creating in a room and
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Speaker 4: nothing else matters.
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Speaker 3: That's when I can look and me all right, I
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Speaker 3: made like.
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Speaker 1: We're all eating good bills are Yeah, we're.
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Speaker 4: Not worried about money. We may I don't care where
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Speaker 4: I'm living, what it is. I'm not saying I need
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Speaker 4: a home that's ten thousand square feet and X amount.
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Speaker 4: Like I can live in a one bedroom apartment and
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Speaker 4: I can still look and go I made it, Yeah,
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Speaker 4: because I feel very happy and things like that. But
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Speaker 4: that is one thing that I do when I will
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Speaker 4: make it. Yeah, homies on Payroll, that's amaking.
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Speaker 1: That is a make it homies on. I made a
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Speaker 1: new friend.
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Speaker 3: Adam did the parable, So that's make it.
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Speaker 2: I mean, you both sound like you're saying the same thing.
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Speaker 2: We're at the end of the day. The overall is
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Speaker 2: you've made it when you can enjoy life with the
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Speaker 2: people you love.
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Speaker 3: And not have to worry about any anything else.
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Speaker 1: Money.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, money, I mean money, that's when you made it.
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Speaker 3: It sounds fucking money.
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Speaker 2: Why it's not shitty though, That's the truth. I'm like
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Speaker 2: when people say you say it all the time, people
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Speaker 2: are like, money can't buy you happiness. We'll tell that
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Speaker 2: to someone with no money who's stressed all the time
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Speaker 2: and can't pay their.
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Speaker 1: Bills, and like, no, it's so true.
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Speaker 2: I'm sure they'd be a lot happier.
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Speaker 1: If they had some money. Yes, yeah, like if minimum
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Speaker 1: wage was up to bit because I'm out on these
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Speaker 1: streets working my ass.
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Speaker 2: Off, yes, and no time for people.
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Speaker 1: No exactly. But if you're a rich person and miserable,
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Speaker 1: then like something's on you. But we're happy over here, Yes,
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Speaker 1: we're so happy. What's what about you?
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Speaker 3: Jess?
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Speaker 2: I had a specific list for a while and then
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Speaker 2: literally two weeks ago in therapy, my therapist pressed me
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Speaker 2: on the list and she was like because I was like,
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Speaker 2: I'm someone who I know when I've made it, and
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Speaker 2: this was my list. I said, when I feel comfortable financially,
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Speaker 2: like in my bank account, where if my family or
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Speaker 2: friends needed help, I'd say, what do you need? I
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Speaker 2: got you always, I know, Yes, I said, when I
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Speaker 2: can have a couple, or when I can have a
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Speaker 2: house that I'm comfortable in with my family, Kyle, a child,
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Speaker 2: don't have to worry about paying for schools, and then
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Speaker 2: some investment properties some money.
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Speaker 1: Again, yes it's money.
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Speaker 2: And then I said my third was always when I
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Speaker 2: can every day do something that fulfills me to make
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Speaker 2: the money, but that I think is going to change
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Speaker 2: the warld world, change people like it's the purpose thing
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Speaker 2: that we talked about, saying that.
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Speaker 4: If I'm on my deathbed and things like that, it's
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Speaker 4: like the creed. Did I leave something for that?
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Speaker 1: Yeah?
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Speaker 2: Right, yes, so I'm still there. But I think my
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Speaker 2: therapist was she just pressed me on specifics and she
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Speaker 2: was like, like an amount, give me an amount about
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Speaker 2: like your bank account and give me a okay, investment properties?
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Speaker 2: How many? And she was like, okay, so you think
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Speaker 2: you're gonna have one house and you're not gonna want
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Speaker 2: another one eventually. And I was like, no, You're like
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Speaker 2: you're pressing me on these things. She's like, what about
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Speaker 2: for your parents when they're old? And I'm like, you're
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Speaker 2: so right. So it's hard when I'm saying I made
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Speaker 2: it with things, because that's true. I don't think. I
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Speaker 2: think you get to a certain point, but then, like
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Speaker 2: you said, you can say, oh, I've made it, but
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Speaker 2: then it's like what's next.
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Speaker 1: So I don't know, it's weird, but I think making
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Speaker 1: it and accomplishing happiness are very different things.
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Speaker 2: They are, yeah, or or are they supposed to be
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Speaker 2: the same, Like are people like us supposed to be?
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Speaker 1: Like?
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Speaker 3: I really want to see what other people are saying
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Speaker 3: to Yeah.
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Speaker 2: It's literally the first one I'm seeing when I'm as
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Speaker 2: rich as the Kardashian's crying, laughing face.
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Speaker 1: They men fish, These are really sweet.
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Speaker 2: Though, when I'm able to not panic that I've got
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Speaker 2: enough money for rent, smiley face, I get you, there.
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Speaker 1: Is We've all been there. We have all been there.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, this too shall pass.
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Speaker 2: Remember that though, and I'll just so you guys have
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Speaker 2: an idea. I'll go on to the other ones. But
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Speaker 2: when I don't have to save money from savings, take
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Speaker 2: money firm savings to pay bills, So it's all when
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Speaker 2: I can live comfortably without worrying about paying bills, when
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Speaker 2: I'm not living check to check like it's all money.
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Speaker 2: It's just like, but it's money, it's so much deeper.
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Speaker 2: We just want time and we don't have time when
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Speaker 2: we have to work our asses off to afford living.
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Speaker 2: And it's a.
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Speaker 3: Very financial freedom.
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Speaker 2: Yes, it's a very weird thing, but let me move
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Speaker 2: on to the other ones. Because it's all money, money, money,
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Speaker 2: well and.
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Speaker 1: This, but it's it's just a fact of life. If
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Speaker 1: I want to go and enjoy my friends and I
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Speaker 1: want to do something fun, how can I do that.
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Speaker 1: I can go miniature golfing, I could go to a movie.
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Speaker 1: But like my mom said, all these things cost money.
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Speaker 1: Let's say we don't go out. Well, guess what. Now,
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Speaker 1: I'm sitting home and I'm turning the lights on and
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Speaker 1: I'm using my gas and all of that still contributes
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Speaker 1: to somewhere someone's billing me. Someone's billing me for something,
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Speaker 1: whether it's the takeout, whether it's the lights being on
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Speaker 1: longer than they would be, stove being on. So really,
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Speaker 1: what people are saying is when I when I get
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Speaker 1: to go enjoy my life and Uncle Sam or whoever
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Speaker 1: the fuck isn't banging, you need to pay me for
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Speaker 1: those twelve breaths you tuck yesterday. Also because you only
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Speaker 1: paid for one hundred and seventy five thousand, but you
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Speaker 1: took twelve extra. Literally, and living in la is a
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Speaker 1: real bitch because it's like, oh, you need to go
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Speaker 1: get groceries, or you need to run into the well,
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Speaker 1: you need to pay for parking, and you need to
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Speaker 1: do X, Y and z. It's a lot of fucking
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Speaker 1: shit that they are charging us for.
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Speaker 3: Yes, I'll be hoofing it. Yes, I'll be hoofing it.
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Speaker 2: Like of course most of us want to travel with
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Speaker 2: the ones we love and see the world and like
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Speaker 2: live these of course we want to do that. Well,
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Speaker 2: of course we want to buy houses and own land
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Speaker 2: and like, but we've got to work. It's a weird country,
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Speaker 2: it's a weird world.
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Speaker 4: And just to like hear them and they're like taking
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Speaker 4: money from savings to pay bills and all of that.
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Speaker 4: Like I can put myself in there because I've woke
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Speaker 4: You wake up and you can't have a good day.
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Speaker 3: That's the first thing you think about.
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Speaker 4: And now the human that you are is buried under
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Speaker 4: the problems that you have. Yeah, so now you're not
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Speaker 4: even seeing the authentic person because of these bills that
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Speaker 4: are going on. So no money is really you see
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Speaker 4: a lot of people and who they truly are When
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Speaker 4: they have money too, you can see if they're a
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Speaker 4: piece of shit or if they are a good human being.
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Speaker 3: Yes, real quick.
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Speaker 1: That's so true.
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Speaker 2: Okay, this one is when you're truly happy to wake
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Speaker 2: up every day. I think that works into a lot
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Speaker 2: of like purpose and.
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Speaker 1: That's just sheer fulfillment. I love that person. Yeah, it again, when.
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Speaker 2: When you're truly happy to wake up every day, So
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Speaker 2: that could be who knows is this person struggling with
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Speaker 2: depression anxiety? There are those things too where it's like
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Speaker 2: I don't want to struggle with depression or anxiety anymore.
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Speaker 1: I think it's important that we point out that there
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Speaker 1: have been a lot of people in the world who
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Speaker 1: are worth a ton of money and they've taken their
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Speaker 1: own lives exactly. They're struggling with addiction. Like money is
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Speaker 1: not the cure all. Let's make that very very clear.
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Speaker 1: Like life still happens, and you could be the richest
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Speaker 1: person on the planet and your mind can still get
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Speaker 1: to you. So I love that person saying when you
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Speaker 1: wake up and you feel complete in all areas of
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Speaker 1: your life, that's a good feeling, and that is a
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Speaker 1: feeling of I've made it. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, let me ask you guys a question. You wake
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Speaker 2: up to my no, social media. Social media is gone.
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Speaker 2: Money doesn't work. We're all in the same boat. Do
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Speaker 2: you think this is like.
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Speaker 1: We're all in the same boat and everyone's on equal
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Speaker 1: playing fields.
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Speaker 2: We're all in the wild?
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Speaker 1: Now, oh the wild? Am I having a hunt for
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Speaker 1: my own food?
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Speaker 2: We're not in the same boat? If it's like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: we you know, like we can't use money anymore, but
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Speaker 2: like I still have my house and my problem, you
17:26
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying.
17:26
Speaker 3: But I'm in a little apartment.
17:28
Speaker 2: We're in the wild. Oh, it's kind of like Triangle
17:31
Speaker 2: of Sadness. Did you guys ever see that movie?
17:33
Speaker 1: Oh? Okay, why an't it be like everyone's everyone lives
17:36
Speaker 1: in the same house, the same kind of house. Perfect,
17:39
Speaker 1: everyone gets If if Susan wants a steak for dinner,
17:43
Speaker 1: she can have a steak for dinner. If Jim wants caviar,
17:46
Speaker 1: you can have caviar, and Susan, if you want caviar after,
17:49
Speaker 1: you can just have caviar after. We're all on equal
17:51
Speaker 1: playing field living a good life.
17:53
Speaker 2: Yes, how are we so imagine that? Are we still
17:57
Speaker 2: all going to find problems or are we? Do you
17:59
Speaker 2: think majority more of us are going to be happy?
18:02
Speaker 1: I think we're all going to be I mean, you
18:05
Speaker 1: go first.
18:06
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be happy.
18:07
Speaker 4: I'm going to fall in a lot of faults with
18:09
Speaker 4: the motherfuckers in the in the woods though, I'm gonna
18:11
Speaker 4: be like this guy.
18:11
Speaker 3: I don't like him anymore in the woods in the woods.
18:16
Speaker 4: Sorry, I'm going to be looking across at my exact
18:18
Speaker 4: same house and going that guy in there, I don't
18:20
Speaker 4: like him.
18:21
Speaker 1: Energy energy.
18:22
Speaker 2: It's just going to be different problems, I think.
18:24
Speaker 4: Very different problems waking up like this fucking guy, not
18:28
Speaker 4: my fucking bank account.
18:29
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's interesting.
18:31
Speaker 4: No, I think then those are the problems that you'll find, like, Uh,
18:35
Speaker 4: we're human beings.
18:37
Speaker 1: We thrive off of finding an issue.
18:39
Speaker 2: And guess what. Then when it's not with us, it's
18:40
Speaker 2: going to be someone something else, it's gonna be Oh
18:43
Speaker 2: my god, is my kid happy? Is my mom happy?
18:45
Speaker 2: Is my dad happy? This person said, when you don't
18:48
Speaker 2: have to second guess your child's happiness, do you feel
18:50
Speaker 2: that because I don't have a child, that's a good one.
18:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not there yet. I I have a toddler
18:57
Speaker 1: who's just thrilled to like when I tell her, when
19:01
Speaker 1: I give her a vitamin, when she sees the Mary
19:07
Speaker 1: Ruth's vitamin thing come out and she thinks because they
19:10
Speaker 1: taste good. But kids are all about the name. You know,
19:14
Speaker 1: it's like it's a vitamin. I don't like vitamins. But if
19:17
Speaker 1: I tell her it's candy, like she thinks she just
19:20
Speaker 1: hit the lottery, you know, twist in it, like she
19:25
Speaker 1: wants a snack and I bring her veggie straws and
19:28
Speaker 1: she wasn't expecting them. Or he's so cute, you know.
19:36
Speaker 2: Yes, so she's yes, she's like there.
19:38
Speaker 4: We go into school and things like that where you're
19:42
Speaker 4: not with them in the morning and then they could
19:44
Speaker 4: be bullying or getting bullied at school. That's when you're like,
19:47
Speaker 4: all right, I really hope my kid is happy today.
19:49
Speaker 1: Well by the way that, yeah, that would that would
19:52
Speaker 1: take me out. But it's weird because when you think
19:55
Speaker 1: about like I've made it, you usually hear it when
19:58
Speaker 1: like someone's reached like the promotion that they wanted, or
20:02
Speaker 1: they they entered the level of fame that they wanted,
20:06
Speaker 1: Like I made it, So that to me already puts
20:11
Speaker 1: like the level of money into the equation. But my
20:16
Speaker 1: mom always said, you're only as happy as your most
20:20
Speaker 1: unhappy child. You're only as happy as your most unhappy child.
20:25
Speaker 1: I've heard that, so like, if you have all the
20:27
Speaker 1: kids thriving and you've got one who's not, like, that's
20:30
Speaker 1: the level that you're at. And I don't know what
20:32
Speaker 1: Ocean is going to be. Like, Ocean seems very resilient.
20:35
Speaker 1: I watch her in dance class, and there are times
20:37
Speaker 1: where she tries to hug this little girl and she
20:39
Speaker 1: pushes her off. She doesn't want Ocean hugging her, and
20:42
Speaker 1: Ocean twirls still. You know, I want to take note
20:46
Speaker 1: from Ocean because I posted this video where she was
20:49
Speaker 1: spinning at dance class and then she ate ship. I
20:52
Speaker 1: saw that hard, like rolled like a potato, and I
20:57
Speaker 1: was such a bad mom. I felt such a bad
20:59
Speaker 1: mom for life, laughing my ass off.
21:01
Speaker 3: And by the way, by the way.
21:03
Speaker 1: The rest of the class it was raining, so it
21:07
Speaker 1: was just her that day. But I was watching the
21:09
Speaker 1: video over and over again, laughing so hard. I can
21:12
Speaker 1: only imagine what the woman who was working in the
21:14
Speaker 1: front desk thought of me cackling in this. But as
21:20
Speaker 1: I watched the video again, I'm like, wait, I didn't
21:23
Speaker 1: even give it a moment to watch my kid get
21:26
Speaker 1: back up and start spinning. Again. I mean she was
21:30
Speaker 1: a little bit service, but I'm like, wow, you just
21:35
Speaker 1: taught me like this literally is when you fall get
21:38
Speaker 1: back up again like this, you are a five star kid. Yes,
21:44
Speaker 1: but again, she's Pisces and Pisces so she knows who
21:47
Speaker 1: she is already. She ain't got nothing to figure out. Yeah,
21:50
Speaker 1: but we'll see what the next one. She's wild. But
21:53
Speaker 1: my kids, my kid's happy right now.
21:55
Speaker 2: Yeah, the next one is not. I mean, we know
21:58
Speaker 2: what it it might be, but it's not going to
22:00
Speaker 2: be a Pisces. We know that to be true.
22:03
Speaker 1: We know that to be true. But I've already said
22:04
Speaker 1: we're either going to have a Leo or a Virgo
22:06
Speaker 1: and people are like, well, that's such a big The
22:08
Speaker 1: thing is Ocean was supposed to be in Aries and
22:11
Speaker 1: they induced me three weeks early. So she's a Pisces. Yea,
22:14
Speaker 1: So I say that because I don't really know. They're
22:17
Speaker 1: clearly not going to let me go into Libra season. Yes, yes,
22:21
Speaker 1: but early happens all the time. Yeah.
22:24
Speaker 2: Okay, this person says, which we kind of touched on,
22:27
Speaker 2: when someone tells me if and how I've impacted their life,
22:31
Speaker 2: so that's when they know that they've made it. Do
22:34
Speaker 2: you feel that, Do you feel like you need before
22:38
Speaker 2: you die someone or you already know someone to tell you, like,
22:41
Speaker 2: this is how you've changed my life and for the better.
22:44
Speaker 1: I think that's one of the reasons why I love
22:48
Speaker 1: what I do in the position that I'm in is
22:50
Speaker 1: I get a lot of people. I'm sure there's a
22:52
Speaker 1: lot of people that send me hate mail. I don't
22:55
Speaker 1: ever see that shit, but I get a lot of
22:58
Speaker 1: people who send emails to like you or my ms, yeah,
23:03
Speaker 1: dms to the podcast or like my agent will send
23:07
Speaker 1: me really kind emails from people of how I've changed them,
23:11
Speaker 1: whether it's sobriety or taking on the role of a
23:15
Speaker 1: single mom, just having your life kind of go a
23:17
Speaker 1: different direction and choosing to handle it a certain way,
23:22
Speaker 1: and that always makes you feel amazing, right Yeah, yeah,
23:27
Speaker 1: So I can relate to this person saying like that's
23:31
Speaker 1: when they know they've made it, as they've made a
23:32
Speaker 1: positive impact on somebody.
23:34
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if you if that was your thing, you
23:37
Speaker 2: would have you would have made it a million times
23:40
Speaker 2: over because all of the a lot of sobriety people,
23:43
Speaker 2: which you know, but I mean with the dms and
23:45
Speaker 2: like La LA's changed my life, and yeah, I.
23:49
Speaker 1: Feel like that. But back to because I don't want
23:51
Speaker 1: everyone to think I'm this bit who just like is
23:54
Speaker 1: money hungry. I am very money hungry, and I crave
23:58
Speaker 1: success in that form, and luckily I get to do
24:01
Speaker 1: what I love while experiencing those successes. And I'm very
24:06
Speaker 1: goal oriented and nothing. You know, once we accomplish one thing,
24:10
Speaker 1: it's on to the next. But truly, I feel like
24:13
Speaker 1: I can talk this way because I have a tremendous
24:17
Speaker 1: amount of fulfillment now. And I always say that there
24:20
Speaker 1: are gonna be dark days that loom for all of us.
24:23
Speaker 1: You know, I've had my dad die and the only
24:26
Speaker 1: thing I want, and in that moment, it's like I've
24:29
Speaker 1: made it and we'll be so happy when I have
24:32
Speaker 1: processed this and I can and I feel like I
24:36
Speaker 1: can go on with my life. When my life kind
24:39
Speaker 1: of went in a different direction, it was like I
24:43
Speaker 1: literally would have been happy living if someone said I'll
24:46
Speaker 1: make all of this go away. Here's your child, but
24:49
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you have to live in a box. You
24:51
Speaker 1: guys will be healthy. I would have taken that. I
24:56
Speaker 1: would have said, just make this go away. I don't
25:00
Speaker 1: want to deal with it anymore. So I think the
25:02
Speaker 1: reason I can talk and say I've made it in
25:04
Speaker 1: this way is because right now I'm feeling very happy
25:08
Speaker 1: in my life and fulfilled in many areas. So what
25:11
Speaker 1: do you fixate on. You're like, well, a lot of
25:13
Speaker 1: money would be very nice, right, But when you're in
25:16
Speaker 1: the shit, You're like, I just want this to be
25:19
Speaker 1: over right. I don't need money, I don't need any
25:22
Speaker 1: of it. I just want this gone.
25:24
Speaker 2: Yea, you know, one hundred percent, if we had if
25:26
Speaker 2: we were told today, knock on wood, there is something
25:30
Speaker 2: coming and human life will cease to exist in twenty
25:34
Speaker 2: four hours, if we all made it through that, I
25:36
Speaker 2: think we would all have a different perspective of what
25:40
Speaker 2: we've made it you've made it.
25:42
Speaker 1: It depends on where you are in your life, what
25:44
Speaker 1: you're dealing with.
25:45
Speaker 2: Yeah, this person said, when my toddler girl grows up
25:50
Speaker 2: and considers me her best.
25:52
Speaker 1: Friend, I gave me chills.
25:55
Speaker 2: All see. That makes me a little nervous though, because
25:57
Speaker 2: I'm a bitch and I'm a daughter, and no matter
26:01
Speaker 2: if my mom treated me like a queen or like
26:03
Speaker 2: the worst person on earth, there were times in my
26:06
Speaker 2: life where I wouldn't have considered my best friend. So
26:09
Speaker 2: it makes me a little nervous when people put their
26:11
Speaker 2: making it in someone else because you can't really control.
26:15
Speaker 2: You can only control people to a certain extent, you know.
26:17
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna I'm a daughter, and if my mom
26:20
Speaker 2: was like, are you my best friend? Yeah, at sixteen,
26:22
Speaker 2: I'd be like no, Like it'd be a little bitch, right.
26:24
Speaker 1: You have no control over that. Yeah, And you go
26:28
Speaker 1: through phases. One moment they're your best friend, the next
26:31
Speaker 1: moment they've discovered friends and pot. Yeah, the weed, they
26:39
Speaker 1: and you are not the best friend unless you're willing
26:41
Speaker 1: to smoke with them, which I am not willing to be.
26:47
Speaker 2: You're not willing to smoke even though weed is legal,
26:49
Speaker 2: all of it.
26:50
Speaker 1: No, I'm sober?
26:51
Speaker 2: Oh duh. I was like, Malla, why not?
26:55
Speaker 1: That would be considered a relapse for me and I
26:58
Speaker 1: am not giving up my five five years and some change.
27:04
Speaker 2: Would you smoke weed with your child's because we all
27:06
Speaker 2: knew the kids whose parents did it, right, guys.
27:09
Speaker 3: Like, I'd smoke with my kid?
27:11
Speaker 1: Is there an age though?
27:13
Speaker 3: That's why I would do it?
27:13
Speaker 4: Like I know, like if I were to smoke with
27:15
Speaker 4: my kid, it would be doing it at the best
27:16
Speaker 4: point in his.
27:17
Speaker 1: Life, which is what which is what would you.
27:19
Speaker 3: Say after graduation?
27:21
Speaker 1: Oh, eighteen?
27:23
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like eighteen is a good Like you
27:24
Speaker 4: can smoke at eighteen, but like I'm not, like, let's
27:27
Speaker 4: get through school then once you do that.
27:30
Speaker 3: If this is something, then yeah, I would.
27:32
Speaker 4: Obviously I know that they're going to smoke before that,
27:34
Speaker 4: but I would smoke with my kids, and that's the
27:36
Speaker 4: point I would do it.
27:36
Speaker 1: Okay.
27:37
Speaker 2: I like that my friends whose parents did it, they
27:39
Speaker 2: didn't really think it was that big of a deal.
27:42
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think with Ocean, I'm going to have to
27:44
Speaker 1: break it down for her, like, this is why mom
27:47
Speaker 1: doesn't drink, X, Y, and Z happened. I'm not saying
27:51
Speaker 1: that my experience will be yours. If you decide to
27:54
Speaker 1: go out and have a drink, I would really appreciate it.
27:59
Speaker 1: If you would not get in the car with anybody
28:02
Speaker 1: or drive yourself home, please just call me. I will
28:04
Speaker 1: not ask any fucking questions.
28:06
Speaker 3: Yep, I'll be there.
28:08
Speaker 1: Yeah.
28:09
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so important too, because that allowed me to
28:12
Speaker 2: be safe. I called my mom so many Yeah, you
28:15
Speaker 2: guys say that, Yeah, Oh, I.
28:17
Speaker 3: Called my mom.
28:18
Speaker 4: I mean I was sixteen even or even I was
28:21
Speaker 4: leaving the house like in ninth grade, walking to friend's houses,
28:23
Speaker 4: and it would be like three in the morning. No,
28:25
Speaker 4: just like I can't drink fifth grade but no, like
28:28
Speaker 4: fifth tall no, but like I could do whatever, Like
28:31
Speaker 4: even if I didn't want to walk, there were no rules.
28:33
Speaker 3: There was no rules.
28:34
Speaker 4: I could call my mom at three and be like, hey,
28:35
Speaker 4: I'm five minutes away, would you come get me?
28:36
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll be there. So there was just little things
28:39
Speaker 3: like that.
28:39
Speaker 4: But like even when I did get drunk, my dad
28:41
Speaker 4: picked me up a couple of times from three twenty
28:44
Speaker 4: two just like ubers cause.
28:45
Speaker 1: You're old enough.
28:46
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, you're old enough. Yeah. Here's the thing.
28:48
Speaker 4: I never really drank. The first time I ever drank
28:50
Speaker 4: was nineteen and then twenty one.
28:52
Speaker 1: Yeah I got it anyway.
28:53
Speaker 2: Yeah I drank under age and my mom picked me up,
28:55
Speaker 2: yelled at me, but she picked me up. Oka read
28:57
Speaker 2: one more, Okay, so I'm gonna read this one and
29:02
Speaker 2: that this one is just really good because it covers everything.
29:04
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, yeah, she said it. When I
29:07
Speaker 2: feel secure in my life financially, physically, mentally, and in
29:10
Speaker 2: my relationships. She covered it, so I wanted to read
29:12
Speaker 2: that because that was great. But this one is interesting
29:15
Speaker 2: because we've talked about this and we can end on this.
29:17
Speaker 2: When she said, when I don't feel the need to
29:20
Speaker 2: tell everyone about it, it's when she feels she's made.
29:22
Speaker 1: It, or he tell everything about what what?
29:27
Speaker 2: When I she said, when I don't feel the need
29:29
Speaker 2: to go I've made it everyone, like, when I can
29:31
Speaker 2: just keep it to myself and carry on with life.
29:34
Speaker 1: Does that mean she's telling people she's made it now?
29:37
Speaker 2: No, she's basically.
29:38
Speaker 4: Saying, Oh, I get what she's saying. It's like people
29:40
Speaker 4: see that, like, yeah, you don't even have to say
29:42
Speaker 4: I made it. They look at you and they're like, damn,
29:43
Speaker 4: she made it, Like she.
29:44
Speaker 2: Doesn't you know those people out there who are like
29:46
Speaker 2: big things coming everything God, And I'm like, oh, you
29:51
Speaker 2: guys have no idea what I just did. I killed it.
29:53
Speaker 2: It's like, okay, shut up, what are you talking about.
29:58
Speaker 2: It's like you've made it when you just can you
30:01
Speaker 2: do it? You don't like there are things happening behind
30:04
Speaker 2: the scenes where it's like you don't have to sit
30:06
Speaker 2: there and be like, guys, you have no idea what's
30:08
Speaker 2: going to come.
30:09
Speaker 3: Next, So like you're walking up going well, God said
30:11
Speaker 3: it to Daryld. That's so trashy. I'm on this. It's like, no,
30:14
Speaker 3: when you see you, you don't have to say it.
30:15
Speaker 3: You've made it. They know it, So I get where
30:17
Speaker 3: she's coming.
30:18
Speaker 1: But also, I don't like to count my chickens before
30:20
Speaker 1: they hatch. So it's like, let's not talk about it
30:22
Speaker 1: because it could not even happen, right.
30:25
Speaker 3: That's why we counted the chickens that hatch exactly.
30:28
Speaker 1: Okay, that makes sense now. I was like, she's screaming
30:31
Speaker 1: to everybody. Now that she's made it, she doesn't have
30:34
Speaker 1: to do that anymore.
30:36
Speaker 3: I'm sick of screaming this.
30:38
Speaker 2: I'm sick of telling everyone I've made it.
30:41
Speaker 1: That's funny. I love it. Well, you guys, I hope
30:44
Speaker 1: you enjoyed this bonus episode. I wish you all happy.
30:50
Speaker 1: I've made it.
30:50
Speaker 3: Moments, bigger paychecks for all of us.
30:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, inner peace, piece happiness, love and health. I like
30:59
Speaker 1: to say I wish for health, wealth and happiness, and
31:02
Speaker 1: my mum always goes, we are wealthy and the things
31:06
Speaker 1: that matter, and I'm like, I love it. He doesn't
31:13
Speaker 1: say it exactly don't worry anyway. I love you guys.
31:18
Speaker 1: Remember the regular episode airs on Wednesday. I hope you
31:22
Speaker 1: enjoy that as well. The video of this episode is
31:25
Speaker 1: up on YouTube. Now make sure you follow us at
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Speaker 1: Give Them La La Pod on the Gram. I love
31:31
Speaker 1: you guys. Happy Monday. Oh we got a full week
31:36
Speaker 1: ahead of us.
31:37
Speaker 2: We sure do.
31:39
Speaker 1: I hope you slay it. Bye guys,