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Dr. Richelle McMillan|Season 1 Da Crew Podcast|Visionary Queen Angela| THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT · DA CREW Podcast

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  Out. I don't quit. I don't throw in the tower. I don't
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  give up. So I kept on, I kept on going. I don't
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  know what it is that it is coming fourth on tonight, that the enemy
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  don't want to come forward. I'm here and I bind that spirit. It's
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  got this, it's gotta go, it gotta go, gotta go, gotta
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  go, gotta go. But I thank you for hanging around. And yes,
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  I was going to say to the end, doctor Richelle, can you
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  hear me, I tell you, let me be busy, but I press
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  and and I sometimes people have to see stuff like this. It is a
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  process and sometimes we have to go through some things so that we can see
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  something. But yeah, mm hmm, thank you for hanging around. Please
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  introduce yourself. Okay, I'm doctor Rochelle McMillan. And again this goes along
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  with what I was going to talk about tonight. I did not know that
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  we were going to you would see it live. But I was gonna talk
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  about don't give up, and this happened. And so I am doctor Rochelle
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  McMillan. I'm excited to be here. I love God. I'm a lover
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  of God's word. A little bit about myself is that I do a lot
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  of apostolic things in the Lord's Church. I love doing seminars. I work
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  in higher education, so I love education being in education over almost twenty years
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  now. I work as a in higher education as a dean. So I've
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  been doing that for about seven years at this university. And so I'm an
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  author. I'm a mom to a girl, mom to my daughters, and
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  I just really love doing what God told me to do. I love traveling.
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  Seafood is my favorite thing. I always try to, you know,
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  make sure that I throw that in there as well. But the most important
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  thing is that I operate as a servant leader and I do believe in serving
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  others and serving the community, serving God and working in my capacity, and
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  so that's what I love to do. I love to teach, I love
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  doing seminars. I love helping people. And that's what it's all about,
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  is operating outside the four walls of the church, because that's where the real
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  ministry is and getting the word out there. And I don't allow others to
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  box me in. If you will, because as if you're a person that
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  has many talents and gifts, sometimes you can lose your identity by allowing people
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  to box you in. When God has called us to liberty. God has
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  called us to freedom, and God has called us to do different things.
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  And it's so much work that we can do that we don't have time from
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  comparison, competition or jealousy. We don't have time for that because it's so
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  much work for us to do in the community and our families, amongst our
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  friends. So I believe in working in my assignment. Wow wow ooh,
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  you do a lot. And I tell you I, I too believe in
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  being a servant, a servant leader. I tell people all the time,
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  in order to be a leader, you have to be a servant first.
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  And I truly education. I love education too. I'm in school right now,
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  trying to work on my masters, and everything I do, I want
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  to be able to to drop a little noghe knowledge, empower somebody, encourage
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  somebody to to stay on this journey and let them know that no, it's
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  not gonna always be either. Because you look at me here thirty years later,
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  sun cum Lati, you know who thought so. I I'm just excited
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  about life because God gave me a second chance. You know, you're looking
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  at a suicide attempt survivor, vialent survivor, And he gave me an outlet
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  of books and outlet of being a motivational speaker and doing these podcasts and allowing
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  individuals to come on and share their gifts and their talents and to try to
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  lead the next person on this journey. So I'm grateful. I'm grateful to
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  just be a vessel that that's that can be used, that's willing to be
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  used. Use me up, Lord, That's what I say. Yeah.
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  And you know the thing too, is that, like a poem was saying,
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  the k out of this world? There's so much going on in this
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  world. As a leader, what are some things that you could say to
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  someone that's tuned in tonight to encourage them. I also do prison ministry and
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  on this journey, working with those individuals that's incarcerated, some females, some
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  males. There are a lot of individuals taking their own lives because they can't
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  handle the stresses of depending gentry and what goes on behind those those four walls
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  that a lot of people don't understand. But what would you say to someone
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  to silence some of the chaos that may be going on around them. I
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  think the most important thing to silence, I call it silence their inner cry
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  or silence or screams that's going on on the inside, is that you must
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  be have peace with God and the peace of God and peace with yourself.
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  They're called silent screams. That's what I like to call them. Sometimes we
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  have silent screams that's going on on the inside of us. And the most
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  important thing that I can really encourage someone to do is deal with those solid
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  screams. Deal with where you are in your life. You know, if
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  you're dealing with rejection, hatred, anger, resentment, don't allow those things
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  to rule your mind and rule your life, if that makes sense. Don't
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  allow you know those things and connect yourself around people that won't tolerate you.
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  But celebrate your milestones, cry with you, encourage you, hold you accountable.
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  And I think that is the most important thing. It's a process.
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  It might take you, know you went to school, it might take you
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  six months to accomplish your goal. But every milestone have celebrate who you are,
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  you know, and don't lose your identity in the process. Sometimes I
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  know that a lot of people are dealing with solid screens because they don't know
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  who they are, They don't know that they belong to God, and you
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  have to develop a good prayer life. One thing that I found that was
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  very helpful is when the walls are craving in and you feel that you don't
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  have a voice, write in a journal. Don't allow anything to muzzle your
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  voice, to make you lose your dream, to make you lose your voice,
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  because when you begin to stop speaking, those thoughts become louder. And
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  so having a great prayer life helps. Having a great accountability partner help,
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  and most importantly, making sure that you understand that it's okay not to be
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  okay. Like you know, sometimes we have so many unexpected expectations on ourself.
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  They're not realistic. We feel like we have to please everyone. And
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  the Lord really dealt with me and said, but I'm pleased with you.
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  You know, let everything that you're doing be pleasing to God. I'm not
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  trying to please anyone else, you know, and stop placing unrealistic expectations on
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  yourself and deal and enjoy life. We can miss so many beautiful moments by
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  living up to others' expectations, and so I encourage even everyone you know to
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  stop, think praise and pray. Stop think praise and pray and you begin
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  to stop. That means you have mental breaks throughout the day and you begin
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  to think. Think about what you're doing right, think about what doesn't need
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  to be on your schedule for today, think about you know, the bullets
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  that you want to have done. Stop think praise, and I begin to
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  make sure every hour I have a praise break. It may not be loud,
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  it may not, but I am like God, thank you for letting
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  me meet these deadlines by twelve o'clock. That brings so much joy, and
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  that boosts your positive affirmations. Like having positive affirmations. Rachelle, you can
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  do it, you know, stay focused, being focused. And I said,
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  stop think praise, praise God, and praise yourself and praise others around
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  you, and then pray every hour of the day. I try to make
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  sure that I'm calling out someone's name in prayer. And it may be a
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  whisper, it may be you know, Lord, just touch this person,
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  to touch the people that work at Col's. You know, taking time to
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  pray and eny on life, you know, live love, laugh, find
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  time to live, love, laugh and enjoy life is what I encourage someone
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  to do and don't allow anything to make you lose your voice. Wow,
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  so I know you. You briefly mentioned that you were an author inspirational books.
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  What type of books do you write? Because I know just from listening
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  to you that they have to be overflowing with wisdom and knowledge. Thank you,
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  I really wrote you know, It's just like I just stumbled into this.
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  I was a dean at the DC campus and I had a lot of
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  different students. I really thought God was like setting me up right, and
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  I would cry because I did not know how to you my gifts with that
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  popular It was one of the hardest populations that I ever experienced. And God
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  really began to say, this is your ministry, this is this is real
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  ministry. And I wrote a book about your tears Have Purpose because I wanted
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  the students to know that your tears do have purpose. I don't care where
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  you come from, I don't care what you're being through. I need you
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  to show up the class. I need you to be intended to class,
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  and I need you to know that you're gonna make it. And so I
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  begin to write a book on your tears have Purpose for my students to help
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  them be successful. And then I wrote a book on destiny, All Eyes
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  on Me to Achieve My Destiny. It was a book for women to help
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  them be successful, to help them feel like that they could be accomplished in
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  life. And then I went on a journey and I wanted to write a
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  book about I went through a divorce and I really wanted taught write a book
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  about being married to the church, married to the church, my wife is
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  a mistress. And that book was the top seller because it was just filled
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  on you know, I was a first lady, and the book was not
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  necessarily about my life. But my father, who was a preacher, was
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  married to the church, and so I took a lot of what I learned
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  and seen in his ministry and I wrote a book about it. What does
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  it look like when the applaud stops and you know a pastor who is married
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  to the church and he treats his wife like she's a mistress. And so
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  I wrote that book, and my father and I did a podcast on it
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  and he was talking about he was that man that lost everything because he was
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  married to the church and he just didn't know any better. And so then
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  I wrote a book about Now I'm on this journey after four years of being
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  single. So I heard the cries of singles and how do you date successfully?
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  So I wrote a book on so you think you want to date me?
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  And I went on a journey taking inventory of different people and their single
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  experience, what they were coming up with on the dating apps. And I
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  just compile, compile that information and I put it in a book about being
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  single and how do you date successfully? But it all boils down to loving
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  yourself. And then I went my readers wanted a book on They wanted a
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  sequel to Married to the Church. So I spent a long time writing that
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  book. It's really ready, but I just haven't published a yet. I
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  don't know. Sometimes when you're an author, you're just like, ugh,
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  maybe i'll sit on a little bit. So I wrote a book on marriage
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  to the Pastor, and so that book's been ready for about six or seven
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  months. Now I just sit in on right now. And I wrote a
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  book on Victoria's Secrets, so that one is ready. And I'm writing a
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  book on rejection. So that's what I'm working on now, is writing a
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  book on reject rejection and knowing your worth. So that's kind of what I'm
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  really into now writing a book on that, and then I'm going to transition
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  to Broken Men Still Need Love. That is a book that I'm really gathering
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  information. I'm dating have no drama, but I'm you know, you meet
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  so many different men and they're broken. So I really want to write a
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  book on how do you love a broken man without being without getting broken?
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  And so I'm still collecting data on that, and then eventually I'm going to
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  write a book on you can love again once I fall in love. So
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  I want to write a book on love and what does that feel like.
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  So that's kind of where I am in the writing process. But I love
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  to write, I love to share. It's really the books that sell the
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  most is the ones that deals with drama and so but it's just kind of
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  what's the hot topics right now, and relationship is the hot topics. So
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  I'm trying to finish up rejections so I can get into writing a book about
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  broken men Still Need Love and how do you do that successfully and don't get
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  broken in the process. So that's kind of where I am at the moment
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  with writing. Wow. Wow, that's a lot but I tell you,
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  that's amazing that you can touch on those various different topics and share different perspectives.
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  You're touching on different angles and different groups of people. That that's amazing.
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  That's the gift of even being in ministry and having that that that ministry.
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  I tell you, it takes a special person to be able to do
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  a lot of the things that you're doing working with the kids at the school
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  and then going outside of the four whiles in ministry and and just sharing your
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  gifts. I tell you that poem that it was on point, it resonated,
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  and I'm on forward you a copy of that. It really blessed me
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  because you talked about intergety and compassion. You know that poem. Really it
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  really teared me up and touched my heart because you talked about in tear and
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  compassion, caring, kindness, you know how to soar, justice, fairness,
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  being a sister, being a voice, you know all those action words,
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  and it's all about it's not about these titles. It's about serving.
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  That's what it's about. It's about serving, right mm hmm. Right,
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  that's it. And you're definitely leading by example because you are definitely a servant.
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  I've watched you and followed you for years and you have not waivered in
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  your your dedication and your service. And I've watched you and you definitely lead
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  by example. You're not one of those people that tell you to do something
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  and then you do something else. You do exactly what you're telling us.
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  So I'm grateful that we were able to cross path and be connected like we
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  are. How can people support you? How can they get some of your
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  books? How can they support your ministry? Because you do have a ministry?
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  Share share that really cool? You can reach out to me. I
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  like to put together book bundles for my readers. You can purchase it on
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  Amazon, but I always say go through me first because I do like to
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  be a blessing and put a book bundle together with different things in there to
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  support the readers with being successful. On Tuesday, I have an inspirational call
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  called the Spiritual Sons and Daughter Movement and we pray at five am Eastern Standard
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  time and then at seven forty five pm we dive deep into different top We
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  just finished a topic on dealing with cycle of offenses. We dealt with unforgiveness
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  and rejection, and we share strategies on how you deal with these topics,
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  and so you can follow me there if you're in the Jacksonville, Florida area.
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  I'm putting on my first seminar in this area and it is December the
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  ninth. It's gonna be at the library. It's called No More Drama,
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  and so we're gonna be dealing with drama. We're gonna be saying goodbye to
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  drama, and we're gonna do a reset to make sure that the thing we
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  leave a lot of stuff in twenty twenty three and it's not we're not carrying
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  it over to twenty twenty four. So I'm super excited about that, you
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  know, And I'm just thankful for this opportunity. And I want to say
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  to you, visionary Ambassador, that God has great things in store for you,
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  and that everything that you went through, God is sitting sending help,
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  he's sending resources, and he's restoring all of your wounds, every wound that
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  you experience in the last eleven months. I just sense that God is going
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  to send sponsors to help you. And I decreate it and I declare it
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  no more sad days. Holy Glory to God, Happiness, is on the
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  horizon for you. And everything that you did for others, God is going
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  to do for you. And God is going to send a millionaire to sponsor
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  you with no hitting agendas. And I'm here to just encourage you on today
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  to keep soaring, keep doing what you're doing, keep seeing things not from
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  your natural eyes, but to see it from your spiritual eyes. And great
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  things on the horizon for you. So God, bless him, and thank
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  you for having us today. But I definitely thank you for that word.
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  I receive it. I definitely receive it in the name. Definitely thank you
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  for stopping by and sharing with us on tonight. The enemy tried, but
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  yeah, I always prevail. Yeah, and again, thank you, thank
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  you, thank you. And I want to thank those that tune in on
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  tonight, those that continue to press even in the midst of Thank you so
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  much for persevering and hanging around and sharing this. We're definitely gonna have to
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  have you back in twenty twenty four. I'm gonna start them You're off right,
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  and I'm gonna bring you in as we kick off our season too,
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  as we kick our season two. So look forward to me reaching out to
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  you for February and to me in, pencil me in for February. I'm
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  gonna invite it back and we're gonna talk up and hear about your conference and
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  here by all of the amazing things that you have going forth in twenty twenty
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  four. Again, thank you for stopping by and sharing with us on tonight,
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  and everyone, I want to thank you guys for stopping by. Y'all
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  have a blessed evening and we'll be right back here on tomorrow night. I
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  have a duo, a father and daughter I'm gonna be stopping by and sharing
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  with us, So y'all make sure you stop by.