108. The "If Only..." trap

Mothering Ourselves Mindfully · Oct 22, 2026 · 16m

If only my partner were more supportive. If only I had a mom or mother-in-law who could help. If only my kids were different. Then I’d finally feel the way I want to feel. In this episode, recorded on the trail the day before we closed the doors to REWIRE, I talk about the “if only” trap. It’s one of the biggest barriers I see to real change in mothers. I share why the problem you think you have is hardly ever the whole problem. I tell the story of two women with completely different partners who were carrying the exact same guilt. And I share the three words my dad wrote on a Post-it that…