109 | Not fair! Do women who cheat get shame while men get a pass?

Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery · Mar 31, 2026 · 20m

Healing can feel unexpectedly lonely once the crisis passes and life returns to “normal.” Today, I talk honestly about a deeper layer many women experience but rarely say out loud: the double standard in affair recovery, and why it often feels like women carry the weight of shame while men are given more space to “struggle.”

I share my own experience of searching for resources and finding none, the internal shame that filled that silence, and why so many women feel unseen in this journey.

We explore:

- Why women often carry more visible shame after an affair

- The gap in resources for women…