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• LayTheDon: What's up, world? It's your girl later dawn with another episode on the For the Exchange podcast. We got my boy Gofredo, big Kevin Kobe too code on this thing. How y'all doing? How y'all how y'all feeling this evening? GoFredo: Good, good, good, good, good, good. Kobi: I ain't got no complaints GoFredo: He said he said alive and well. Kev: Yeah, I'm good. LayTheDon: Well we are you alive. That's all we need, brother. That's all we need. All right, so on today's episode, there's a lot of things in the world that annoys the hell out of me. And I know it annoys the hell out of y'all. And it's the smallest things possible that would make this world a much better place. And I just GoFredo: Okay. LayTheDon: feel like I need to get some things off my chest. Like I I need to get it off my chest and save with my chest today. I GoFredo: The floor is yours. Go here. Go here. Go here. LayTheDon: So, one thing that really annoys my soul, and yes, boyfriend, I'm talking to you. Stop GoFredo: hold on. LayTheDon: waiting till the last minute to tell me something when you know you need it urgently. Because your forgiveness is not my sense of emergency. That annoys my soul for people waiting on the last, and men do it a lot. Y'all wait till the last minute. Y'all wait till y'all almost out of stuff before y'all tell, hey, babe, I need some new body wash. I want my last little sprinkle, sprinkle. Why do y'all wait as men wait till the last minute to do anything in y'all life as it we I understand we the we hold it down and we hold it down in the household as women, but like the last minute be killing us. If y'all just a week in advance, quick text in the morning, something, last minute, telling me when you almost out of breath. Shit to wash your ass. It's not time to tell me, hey babe, I need you to go get me some more stuff since you know you go to the grocery store for me. They ain't that that ain't what it is. But I know there's some other things, and I know it's just I'm talking about the men, but I know y'all know some women y'all life that you know got some things that y'all absolutely freaking hate. So Fredo, what's some things in your life that you wish would change that would make life into a little bit easier, a little bit better? GoFredo: You want me to be honest with you? One thing that I that I feel that way. Hey, LayTheDon: One thousand, keep it one thousand. GoFredo: hey, first of all, hey, you went in guns blazing. You went in guns blazing. You know, you know. Hey, you did. You know he gonna watch this episode, right? LayTheDon: I had to say it with my chest, bro. I had to say it with my chest. I had to sit on my chest. GoFredo: You opening the show like that. Like he might not even watch the rest of the show now. Hey, bro, locked in, bro. LayTheDon: he he watching first he watching the whole show at this point. Y'all getting engaged, bruh. He gonna watch this. GoFredo: Locked in. but I don't know about waiting to the last minute and whatnot. That that I'm not really that type of person. I like to get stuff done immediately before I kinda move around. That's kinda be me. But for me, one of the things that I can't share since we're talking about opening up the floor to the opposite would be the non directness. Like I may may not may not I may have not said that correctly. But LayTheDon: Elaborate. GoFredo: I will. I will I will gladly. my thing is when you in these situations, when you talking to a woman, it's that it's that little play aroundness, it's that that nonsense. Like, can we just be direct about what we want? Like, I be telling like we talked about in the last episode for like man, hey, if I'm trying to go in and if I'm trying to just smash, let me just smash. Like you as women, you want the same thing. Let's be up front about what we're talking about here. Because I do. LayTheDon: No, playing hard to get it. GoFredo: Like, come on now. Like we grown now. Like at least for like for us, I think. We grown now. Like that chaser running running after you nonsense, nah. Like if I text you, like, it be women that want to do the double, triple text and whatnot. Nah, I ain't got time for that. Like if I text you once, I expect you to text me back. And then if I don't, we just don't never speak again. Now I'm cool with that. But you might tell your friends, he wasn't really on it. He wasn't trying to pursue and this, that, and the third. But at the same time, Shorty, I'm him. What are we talking about? Like, I'm him too. Just like you heard, I'm him. So both energies should be reciprocated at all times. That's kind of my one of my biggest pet peeves, is just this, and not even just women, just people in general, not at at the end of the day, not standing on their business when it comes to that. Like if you like me, why we playing around? Why we gotta play this n this game of cat and mouse? Can we just get down to the can we get down to the nitty-gritty and get the conversation going? Like I'm in my era of, hey, let's catch, let's catch a flight. We'll get to know each other on a plane. You hear me? That's what I'm in my I'm in that era. Like I'm in that, I'm in that era. Yeah, I I'm not lying to you. I'm in that era. Kev: man. Yo yeah. Y'all funny, first of all. Lay Lay opened this jaw funny, man. She she she talking about a man. I wish she GoFredo: Ha ha ha LayTheDon: Hey look, I'm getting it off McCain. Kev: I I I wanted him to pop in so bad. I wanted him to pop in so bad. What I need you to do right now is take this trash out and just walk out. I that's what I really want to do. GoFredo: Hey, hey, pop it. Kev: That's what I wanted to have. LayTheDon: Wow. GoFredo: Hey, hey, hey, Kell, pop it to the show. So you ain't cooking dinner? So you ain't cooking dinner. Kev: Yep. She just said, I'll be I'll be right back, y'all GoFredo: Ha ha ha. LayTheDon: Right. Kobi: Take it out the trash, it's crazy. Kev: yeah. LayTheDon: Wow. GoFredo: What LayTheDon: The gentleman and I are all one. GoFredo: Hey yo Kev: man, we stop. But nah man, it's if I could really get into something that just would just make things easy, just in general, it could be your your girl, your homies. I don't like when people overlap their role with yours. Like GoFredo: yeah. Kev: you can't overlap your role with people. It just causes it LayTheDon: Two me by it. Kev: overlap your role. It could be something like, okay, I'm a right now, right? Fredo the g he he he's the boy that be planning the trips. I don't like to plan trips. I want to know what the days are and how much it is. I don't want to plan a trip. LayTheDon: Most men. Kev: I don't wanna do that. But my man, he likes GoFredo: I love planning them. LayTheDon: So what you said is Kev: he likes to play he likes to play in the trips. He likes to know that hey, yo, this is the spot, this this the this the spot we can stay at, these the days, all all that. And I'm cool with that. I don't need to overstep and go, All right, y'all, I know he said we wanna go here this day, but I wanna go here this day. So I don't you know what I'm saying? Like You know what I'm saying? GoFredo: Hey, we done had homies like that before. Kev: Listen, man, I'm being funny. I'm being funny with that one, but nah, like when you and your relationship especially overlapping your role, and I feel like that's like a lot of the time with that, that comes down to to who who feels like they in charge or something. You know what I mean? That's that's how that's how it is. LayTheDon: Adding on to your overlap and your role, I don't mean to cut you off, but relationships a good example. But sibling rivalry is also another great example. When the big sister, Kev: Yeah, yeah, okay. LayTheDon: big little brother, want to try to be the big sister, little brother. And then you, sir, you ain't nobody mama. You I got a mama. Kev: Listen, man. LayTheDon: You're not finna tell me what I can't. You ain't my mama. You just the older or younger sibling, brother. Stay in your role, stay in your lane. I I kiss you. Kev: Listen, listen, you it it's why you get that on the nose. GoFredo: You have you have a Yaga selling checky. You LayTheDon: Yeah. Try to check me like that, like have the younger siblings I I have nothing but younger siblings and all of them think they my father, as if I ain't got a father. GoFredo: But you got brothers though, so that kinda makes sense. This is more of protective thing. LayTheDon: No, no, no. The same law brothers that asked me for money or asked me for help wanna tell me what I can and can't do, what I can and can't wear, what I'm first GoFredo: Yeah. LayTheDon: of all. First of all, what what bill you pay of mine, sir? GoFredo: That's different. LayTheDon: My dad don't even pay my bills. Who are we talking about here? You're not staying your line. Stay stay in your line. GoFredo: That's different though. Kev: You you won one with that though. You won one with that, man. My my sister sometimes she'll text me something, right? And I'll be sitting here, I'll be sitting like texting her back, I'd be like, stop the text, and I'd be like, I don't report to you, I ain't answering that. What you talking about? GoFredo: Ha ha. LayTheDon: What we talking about here? What what are we talking about here? GoFredo: Hey, hey, hey, you found yourself texting a paragraph back. You hold on, wait a minute. Backspace, backspace, backspace. Kev: You done got caught up. You done got caught up. LayTheDon: Doing the whole motherfucking message. Kev: You you fell for the trap. No, fell for the trap and I'll GoFredo: Egg you know. Kev: report to you. GoFredo: I don't gotta report to you. LayTheDon: Right. GoFredo: Hey man, hey. Kev: But I mean LayTheDon: Kelby Well look little quiet over there. Kev: I'll say, yeah, Kobe, what's your thoughts, man? GoFredo: He probably finna say something poetic. LayTheDon: What grinds your gears? GoFredo: Even say something poetic. LayTheDon: Hold on yeah, he's gonna have to yeah, play the the the piano music. It's about to get real real soft in here real quick. Kobi: Where did he warn you? Where? You said what? LayTheDon: I said stop playing the piano GoFredo: He said LayTheDon: you better get real soft and he better start doing some flowers for you on your story. Kobi: It ain't gonna get soft at all. Kev: I told you how Kobe do. He'd be like, I used to pray for times like this, the rhyme like this. GoFredo: with the red fish, bluefish. LayTheDon: Kobe, actually answer the question this time. GoFredo: Yeah. LayTheDon: That'd be great. Kobi: that you're trying to clock me like that is crazy. GoFredo: He say that right there irritate me, that right. Kobi: you GoFredo: He said, you just did it right there on the show, man. Kobi: Yeah, they stay in lane. But, LayTheDon: I do. You're a war. I got you fool. I got you fool. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it. GoFredo: Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about it. LayTheDon: yeah. Kobi: So what really gets up out of my skin about the human race and the general GoFredo: yeah. Kobi: population itself in all its totality is when you say you're gonna do something and you don't do it. Even if it's something of the smallest caliber. You go see if you say you're going to do it. I'm not going to worry about it. I'm I'm expecting for you to stand up on what you said and do what you need to do. But when you don't, then I have to go behind you and do it. That that that's irritating that that messed up the whole my whole week messed up just off that. I'm irritated. It's after world. I'm ready GoFredo: Yeah. Kobi: to flip over a table in this month. But, you know. Kev: Yeah. GoFredo: Somebody irritated you today? Kobi: That's all. LayTheDon: I 100% 100% agree with you on that, my boy. That's that's I think I said it last episode how I I keep them walls up because I've been let down so many times because everybody keeps telling me, yeah, I'ma do this, that, and the third, and they don't ever do it. So I don't ask for nothing because it's I ain't got time to listen to you not do what you said you was gonna do. Kobi: Exactly. Don't tell me you're gonna do something and not do it. GoFredo: True. I'm with you on now. LayTheDon: That's exactly where I'm right then. GoFredo: What would you on that one? I don't like LayTheDon: just recently found out that's a trauma mechanism but we ain't gonna talk about that that's a conversation for another day. GoFredo: What what is? LayTheDon: that not asking for help is a trauma mechanism to a defense mess defense GoFredo: Defense mechanism. LayTheDon: mechanism for the trauma. I said, I I I this that's some more trauma I had. I didn't even know that. But you know. But yeah, I don't GoFredo: Well yeah. LayTheDon: ask for not but I don't ask for nothing 'cause people would tell me they gonna do something and I didn't be like I don't wanna feel that feeling of been let down. So stop telling me you're gonna do something. I'm not just not gonna Kev: It's two sides of that though. GoFredo: think that's a if it is a defense mechanism that's crazy as ever because like you said if you in these situations LayTheDon: A therapist said that, bro. GoFredo: if you if you in these situations that I know I'm just saying I'm not saying the therapist right or wrong. I'm just saying that's interesting because like I'm this way because of life. Like I had and I didn't didn't want none of us born this way. You know like life didn't formed us into the person that we are today no matter what. And a lot of you know a lot of us in kept our character and our moral v and our values and others, you know, we we had homies that grew up similar or homies of siblings and whatnot to grow up siblings and took a different route. And whatnot or family I shouldn't say simblers, but family members that you grew up in similar ways and took a different route. So for that to be a defense mechanism is interesting because to me it's almost like that's in that's a form of insanity though, for me to keep relying on people and then e expect that like LayTheDon: yeah, yeah. GoFredo: And expected people to just keep, especially if you done already had it done multiple times, enough for you to be like, Yeah, I'm cool off of it. Cause anyway, we all out here just this our first or second time that somebody done told us something and we believed it. Like, nah, we talking about years. You know, we'd all been in relationships that we done seen it. Kobi: That's how trust and concern. LayTheDon: That's what I said. That I was I was just about to say that's that I think there's something called trust issues or something like that, but GoFredo: See, I Kobi: Yeah. GoFredo: I don't I I don't I don't know. I don't think it I don't know, I'm a little different. I don't think it's trust issues because I I don't put that put that pressure or put that those issues on the next person. For me it's like I let you I let you grow and show me, but at the same time I'm not finna go in here dumb. Like I'm not finna go in here just banking on the fact that you finna keep your word on everything. Like life didn't taught me other like life didn't taught me otherwise. That's what I'm saying. I don't wanna say it's trust issues, but life then taught me that I think everybody got trust issues to a certain extent, if that's the case. Like it's a person show you what's really up. And my I that's I mean in my opinion. LayTheDon: And sometimes it could take somebody not doing something what the fuck they said they was gonna do twice before the trust issue is really like like it takes us a a second time. Like somebody don't do something the first time, you're like, I maybe it's just a fluke. But by that second time, if now it's a trust issue. Now now GoFredo: Yeah. I it to LayTheDon: that's where it GoFredo: To me it depends on what it is. Like I'm patient with a person. Like if a person if I know what they got going on, or well communication to me is be it. Like you let me know what's going on. Regardless, like if you say, All right, I'm like if I'm talking to or I'm with I'm with a shorty and she says she cooking dinner today. I'm like, all right, okay, I done worked me a twelve hour shift or whatever the case like that. Maybe I'm waiting on dinner to come home, but also know like She's going to school, she taking care of the kids, she doing all this other stuff and whatnot. I understand that she ain't cooking dinner today. So I'm sorry, I understand that if I come in and dinner not made, I get it. Like she's studying, she's doing X, Y, and Z, da da da woo, this, that, and the third. I know a lot of men gonna get upset at that, get irritated with that, but to it's more along the lines like how they say pick your own battles. To me, it's just like, well, I can go in here and cook something up, or I can go around the corner and cook something. Or I'd rather like my significant other just be like, hey babe, I didn't get a chance to cook today. I was studying, do-do-do. Would you mind picking up something on your way to the crib? Cool. It's it's like it's stuff like that that can help the that can help LayTheDon: There's fantastic. GoFredo: out the situation. That's why I think communication is kind of key and how you communicate is very, very important. LayTheDon: Mm, that's different. But we're gonna save that conversation for another day. GoFredo: But you don't agree? LayTheDon: No. Cause it's different. Like, for example, if you're in a relationship and we both working and like that happens, okay, cool. Y'all in a relationship probably live together, it happens. But if you starting out dating a girl, right? GoFredo: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: And you know she does all this, first time she wanna cook dinner for you, that happens. The second time she tried to cook dinner for you, it happens again. There's only two times that she's offered this. Are you are you gonna go for a third time and her cooking again? Like. Mind you, you're in a dated stage. This is freshly dated stage. We're talking about freshly dating. Y'all still new to the game versus y'all been together for two, three years and that's going on. After the second time, you know, mind you, I know she got what's going on, but after the second time you say you're gonna cook for me and I've been let down the second, I'm not coming to your house to cook a third time. And this point I'm just gonna offer to cook in my own house. Well, I'm GoFredo: See LayTheDon: gonna offer to bring free full home. Like I'm not finna that's a GoFredo: Nah, I I see I'm not saying that. I don't know about the homies or how Kevin and Kobe feel, but to me, that's why I say like the communication part is key. Because if you so like to me, after the first time, first of all, I get everybody one pass. You got it. Like I chuck it up to the game. Now that that's it that's us without communicating. That's like if I cut through, LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: you didn't cook, boom, that's cool, I understand. Da da da. Regardless, whether it was intentional or unintentional, regardless of what it was. Whether you was just being lazy, whether you forgot, whether you were studying, whether you was doing X, Y, and Z, no matter what, everybody get a pass. Now that second time, we're having a different conversation. But I'm going, but I'm it. I'm sorry. Me and Kev had this conversation a while back last month. And Kev said something to me that was very enlightening. Where he was just like, sometimes you gotta tell people because they just don't know. And you may think they know. So you got to just say it. And Kev know what conversation I'm talking about. And we had it last month. Well, some people just think they know, and then Kobe probably knows too. And they actually, you know. We all know what conversation I'm talking about. And so it's just like people may think they know, but so you gotta actually tell them. You here? So now you got you got that. So once I tell you and we had this conversation, now we we basically starting fresh. I'm the type of person that I don't like to repeat myself more than once. When it comes to certain things, but I don't want my significant other to repeat themselves either. So, if we had this conversation you said what? Go ahead. Nah, go ahead, go ahead. You good? Kobi: Can I ask a question? I ask you a question? Sorry to cut your thoughts for it. So if your significant other on a consistent basis tell you that she's going to cook for you, but she communicates. that every time she cooks, she says she's gonna cook for you, she doesn't cook for you, but she communicates that she's not gonna be able to cook for you. Is that okay with you? LayTheDon: How many times you won't let that fly is the question. GoFredo: No. Yeah, no. No. No. Kobi: It's... But she's communicating with you. GoFredo: No, but it's but at LayTheDon: Well can yeah, you just said you said as long as she communicates. GoFredo: But no, but but but but then you but the the thing is y'all missing the first step because she also communicated that she would do it. So so LayTheDon: No. Kobi: and tell me that you can't. GoFredo: No, no, no, no, no. See, it's, it's, it's, it's levels to things. You can't just, you just, it's almost like the person, first of all, it's like this. If me and you arguing, and you me and you LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: arguing, and let's say, say Kobe, me and Kobe arguing, say me and you arguing, bro, and me and you going back and forth, and you end up in the argument, you swing off me. Now, you swing off me in an argument, now I go get blick. And now all of a sudden we have a different conversation. No, I this this is this is a little extreme, but just listen to me. You can't control, but the thing is, the one thing you can never do, every action, every action has a reaction. So you can't you can only control your standpoint. You can control what you did, but you can't control my reaction to whatever you did. So when I I'm saying that to say, if we communicating and you telling me, I know it may sound crazy, but listen to me. If I know it may sound crazy, but I'm using that analogy. I'm using I'm using that analogy to say, like, if you're telling me that you're gonna cook for me, but then later on you say, I'm not gonna be able to cook. Okay, boom. We got that out the way. Now I'm gonna tell you, hey, if you're not gonna cook, just say you're not gonna cook. Don't tell me you're gonna cook. The communication has now been set. Now, if we go again and you say you're gonna cook, and then you gonna end up not cooking, now we've got to have another conversation because now what's your reasoning? For not cooking. LayTheDon: So here's the question is, how many times are you gonna let that slide with this communication? That's what you not understand, my boy. Like she Kobi: Yeah, Mr. Payton. GoFredo: I see it, d I see it. LayTheDon: communicating, how many times you gonna let her not cook communicating before you aim stop trusting this house? GoFredo: I said Kobi: Yeah, Mr. Pace did. GoFredo: I said I said once. LayTheDon: Now I'm getting red. GoFredo: I said one time. Kobi: Thank LayTheDon: You just said if she could you you tell her the second time, like hey, da da da she communicated the second time. And you said if she do it a third time and she communicate with you, now we gotta have another conversation. That's now three conversations. GoFredo: No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I said, no, no, no. I said, if I come to the crib and dinner's not made, we're gonna have a conversation. That's what I said. Then LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: Kobe said, if I don't can remember correctly, then Kobe said, hey, so what if y'all commute what if she communicated she gonna cook for you, but then she don't cook for you? LayTheDon: Right. How many times you gonna let it slide if she communicate is my question. If she communicates to you every single time. GoFredo: We only well technically it's well technically it's two times. Technically it's two because it's gonna be the first time that we that's gonna be the first time it happened, we having a conversation. The second time, LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: the second time, I'm the type of person where I'm nipping it in the butt the first time. Then the second LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: time you do it, the conversation gonna be completely different because now it's just don't promise me you're gonna cook it all. I don't wanna I don't say not I don't wanna hear you spell or say cook. Don't say no words, but start with the letter C. And this at this point, don't you touch a frying pan in this house. Because I don't even want to see it. Don't even get my hopes up. Matter of fact, don't even go in the kitchen. Don't even go in the kitchen. Cause what you doing in there? You only gonna lie. You only gonna lie to me. That's my thing. That's what I'm saying. LayTheDon: Well we are hold on, okay. We the next the next goddamn GoFredo: That's what I'm saying. LayTheDon: subject. Kobi: Ha ha ha ha GoFredo: Go ahead. Kobi: ha ha. LayTheDon: Okay. Bruh, if we keep talking about this, this call this conversation is going at least another hour. Trying GoFredo: No, no, no, what you gotta say? Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead. LayTheDon: You not hearing what you say and is pissing me off. GoFredo: I'm hearing it. I'm hearing it. I said two times. Kobi: He said two conversations. I don't know GoFredo: What is it? Kobi: what you're hearing, but he said two conversations. I hear two conversations. LayTheDon: Okay, we hear it. Right on here. It's okay, don't worry about it. We gon we're gonna have a best friend conversation about this, 'cause best friend, I don't think you understand what we're talking about. I don't think you I love you dearly, but fool. Anyway, fool, fool. You not understanding what you're saying. GoFredo: No, I said, I said, no, no. I no, listen, listen, gang. What I'm saying, what y'all not understand, what I'm saying, I get what y'all saying. I'm saying, no, no, I'm saying, Kev: Yeah. GoFredo: if you promise it, I'm gonna tell you one time, hey, you ain't gotta promise me you're gonna cook something. Excuse me, you ain't gotta promise you you're gonna cook something if you're not gonna do it. That's the first conversation we haven't. I'm nipping in the butt. The second time we talk. And you do it, I'm saying don't promise it at all. That's not necessarily a conversation. I'm just saying, hey, scrap it. Throw the whole thing away. I don't wanna hear you say it. I don't want to hear you say a word to start with the letter C. That's what I'm saying. The first conversation we had is us communicating that I'm telling you, and go back to what you said, because we technically we're on topic, because it's going where we said, one of the pet peeves. Don't promise me something and then don't deliver. So if you promise me something and then say you're not gonna do it, I'm gonna say A. Don't do that. I don't like that. I don't like being promised something that can't. I don't like people not hope being a man of their word or being a woman of their word and holding their business to stand on their business. Now the second time, it's not a conversation. The second time is me just saying, don't promise that no more. Don't promise it no more. I'm not saying I don't trust her because there's so many other different things that she could be doing to other boxes that she could be checking. I'm just saying for that particular thing, don't promise it. At that point, you have to surprise me. At that point, when I get off of work, steak and lobster better be on the table for about at least a week and a half straight. Like that's what I'm saying, because I don't want to expect it. I don't want to get my hopes up. Because if you do, and then all of a sudden I come into the house if dinner not made, now we got a problem. It's almost like, now, now, late, this may not be for you, not made, but this is not for you, but it's for the guys. Guys, how many times have y'all been in the session with your significant other side? She's gonna promise you some head. And then all of a sudden you get home, and all of a sudden ain't no head there. LayTheDon: Yeah, yeah, we're not gonna shoot out. GoFredo: Mm- LayTheDon: You right, it's not for me because Kev: Hey, listen, listen. Hey, listen, listen, GoFredo: What happened? Kobi: He may take a sip, man. Kev: listen, listen. Listen, listen. I'ma say that. Well, listen, this is why this listen. This is why at the beginning of the year you give LayTheDon: This night me conversation. Kev: your girl five days of PTO. When she uses five days of PTO, now we now now I want to LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. Kev: smoke because listen, you used all your days. I need I need to I need to know what's going on here now, man, because you're about you're about to get fired. GoFredo: Yeah, say I'm lost here. Kev: You know what I'm LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. Kev: saying? No, I mean stop nah nah nah nah I get what you I get what you say. GoFredo: They not understand what I'm saying, Kev. Kev: I get I get what you're saying. I get what you saying, bro. LayTheDon: Well we get we we we we understand it perfectly. Gotcha, Kobi: I you, I got you 100%. LayTheDon: yeah. Yeah, we sure do. GoFredo: Y'all got it. Y'all got it. Kobi: But what if she stopped promising you say she just say, Fredo, I'm a cook for you today. That's not necessarily a promise. She's not promising you anything. She said she's GoFredo: That is because you Kobi: going to do it. GoFredo: you gave your word. That's a promise. All because you don't say promise don't mean nothing. You gave your word. LayTheDon: Okay, so what if she took what if what if she took your talk as all right, I'm just not gonna ever cook for you ever and you just don't ever come home to food. GoFredo: I'd rather you stand on that. I r I'm a man of principle. I'd rather you stand on Kobi: Thank GoFredo: your word than anything. Now, that don't mean a LayTheDon: You okay well a shorty you dating that you trying to make a future with not cooking? GoFredo: Wait, wait, hold on. See, you getting you getting it twisted. I didn't say the relationship No no no I LayTheDon: Yeah, right, right. You see what our GoFredo: didn't no I didn't say the relationship was gonna last. I'm just saying if that's the if that's the direction I just said every action got a reaction. Kobi: Thank you. LayTheDon: If you're I GoFredo: So LayTheDon: said if you're dating a woman, usually when you date somebody, you're dating to build to eventually build a future. GoFredo: Yeah. LayTheDon: Yeah. So if it's a person you're actually dating, you're actually wanting to build a future with, GoFredo: Uh-huh. LayTheDon: and she decided to take that second conversation you had is all right, I'm just not gonna cook for you at all. Would you be okay with her not cooking for you if you're trying to build a future with Shawnee? I'm not saying that. GoFredo: No, but I don't know that. No, I wouldn't. But at the same time, I don't know that in the beginning. You still gotta give it time. If we had a conversation, she'd be all right, okay, bet. She could just be irritated and just be upset and she'd just be talking because she's mad. Or she think I'm talking because I'm mad. Not knowing because, like you said, we dating. We don't really know each other yet. Not knowing that I'm dead serious. I don't want to hear you say it no more. Y'all know this because y'all know me. With her now, if we going, if we on week three and ain't no denimate. Okay, look, hey, I might hit one of y'all up. Hey, yeah, shorty about to hit the curve. Now we three kind of far. I don't think it's gonna take that long for me. LayTheDon: We we cooking dinner week three? Kobi: Bye. GoFredo: I s no, I'm saying from the com from the time of the conversation. LayTheDon: Was that supposed to cook Kobi: Lay, LayTheDon: during week three? Kobi: Lay, he also said if she cooks dinner for a week and a half straight, he basically gonna go back to step one. LayTheDon: Okay. I had a no I had. GoFredo: You get a reset. No, I said, no, no, you said week three. I said week three from the time we had the conversation. If we had this conversation and you said, LayTheDon: okay. GoFredo: I'm not cooking for you, okay, bet. Now I LayTheDon: Right. GoFredo: could now like I said, I'm gonna get her the benefit of the doubt. She might be mad because like I said, we all been in these situations. You don't know how I communicate. I don't know how you communicate. We just not talking. So now if we get to the point I'm telling you, hey, woo woo, I like it, don't tell me nothing, da-da-da, this, that, and the third. Nah. You like, okay, bet, I ain't gonna cook for you then. Okay, bet. Now we mad because the conversation took a different direction. Now, if it gets to week one, two, three, and she ain't cooking and she's standing on business, I'm gonna applaud you for standing on business. I appreciate that. You stand at 10 toast your word. But you finna bounce too. I applaud you for standing on business. Kobi: Hehehehehe GoFredo: I appreciate you standing on business. But that don't mean you're not finna leave. Like that don't mean you ain't finna go. I still want a lady that likes to, I still want, I still want a woman that wanna cook. I still want a woman that on to X, Y, and Z. So if you're not gonna do that, that's cool. I appreciate you standing 10 toes on what you said. I got a hella respect for you. But that don't mean that we gonna stay together. That's what I'm saying. All because I got respect for you don't mean we gonna kick it. And I got respect for a handful of shoys and don't talk no more. Everything ain't everything that ends bad. I don't think every relationship needs to end toxic. That's also where I'm at. My last few conversions, my last few situationships or dating, whatever didn't end or it was one. But the before that one, it didn't end toxic it didn't end on a toxic level. Like that's just me. LayTheDon: We get toxicity. And to the list of pet peeves, you know, since we're gonna stay on top of toxicity. I hate when you get mad because I mad, but you're not even mad for real. You just mad because I'm mad, and now you wanna make it situation even bigger and you don't even know what I'm mad about. Or you're not even trying to fix what I'm mad about. Like or you ask me what's wrong a bunch of times and I tell you nothing's wrong. We could, we good. Now you got an attitude because you think I got an attitude. Now we just walk around with attitude for no fucking reason. GoFredo: Now y'all both mad. Kobi: Hey. LayTheDon: That's the most annoying shit. Like, don't get mad because I'm mad. Like, if I'm mad at you and I tell you why I'm mad at you and it's something you can fix, don't get mad now because I'm mad. GoFredo: You won't, so let me get this straight. LayTheDon: And then go fix afterwards what you did wrong. GoFredo: So let me get this straight, you want if you upset, you want you want the guy you dealing with to basically just fix the problem instead of starting an argument about the problem. LayTheDon: No. If I if I'm mad at you and I tell you what the issue is GoFredo: Okay. LayTheDon: and you don't like the issue that I'm having, so you decide to get mad. But it's probably something you can actually fix or something I'm probably mad at you about, but you you wasn't mad at all. There was no issue. You only mad because I'm mad. You're not mad about the situation. You're not mad about the issue. You just mad because I'm mad. You wanna start some shit. Cause you want to match energy. GoFredo: I see what you're saying. Talk about o I was just finna say that's basically what it is. LayTheDon: At this now we just be a penny for no reason. GoFredo: I was like basically what it is, it sounded like it's just a match of energy. You wanna be petty, I'll be petty too. LayTheDon: But but you've been petty like that's one thing with matching energy, but if you just been matching energy on the most like we could be living our best life, smoking the blood, having great sex, making up real quick. Make up the makeup could have been within five minutes. But you want to be petty and go get mad for no reason just because I'm mad. Now we'll we're mad for two days straight. You ain't had hair for two days. GoFredo: Right. LayTheDon: You wanna be petty. GoFredo: Right. Otherwise that's all it sounds like. LayTheDon: get you get mad because I'm mad. You're not even trying to fix the you're not even trying to understand the problem. You just mad because I'm mad. GoFredo: Actually I gotta ask you a question, but I'm gonna let I'm gonna let Kev go. Kev, what what you gotta say to the conversation so far, boss? LayTheDon: We'll grind your Kev: Hey, LayTheDon: gears. GoFredo: Yeah, what's another one? Kev: you know, you know, I just I just wanna I just wanna respond to that real quick of what you just said, like. Cause I you know I've been in situation like that. GoFredo: Okay, I I was gonna do that too, so go ahead. Kev: Cause I've been in a situation like that, right? Where you you you said what the problem was. You you you know, you admitted you were upset, you said what the problem was, and I come home and I hear the problem and I get mad because I'm going to my mind. You done blew my whole day with some nonsense. That's why I'm pissed off. Now LayTheDon: Okay. Kev: I'm pissed off. You done blew my day with some nonsense. I'm having a good old day. I walk in the door and you over here talking about some. I told you to take the shoes off when you walk in the house. You see them marks on the floor right there? You would just you know what I'm saying? It well, she laughing. She it's a it's an issue like that. LayTheDon: You could easily fix. You could have been like, my bad, babe. I didn't mean to do that. You right. You said you said that was a problem a couple of times. I probably should have listened. We could have ended the fucking argument. No, now you wanna be mad. And you did it. You did it. You did it. Kev: Yeah. GoFredo: Hey no Cap, that was gonna be my question, Cap. Kev: Listen, how serious was this problem? That's GoFredo: Hey, hey, hey, Kev, I'm glad I kicked it to you because that's exactly Kev: what I wanna know. How serious is this problem? GoFredo: what I was about to say. How serious is the problem at hand in the first place? Kev: I'm over here asleep on the couch because you just lost on the floor. LayTheDon: It's serious enough because most likely if I'm mad about it, most likely if she mad about it, she probably done said something to you about it beforehand. That's probably like her second or third time telling you some shit. So she got every goddamn right to be mad. GoFredo: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. LayTheDon: We don't get mad on the first we we don't get mad the first time we tell you something. We it ain't never the first time we tell you. We get mad GoFredo: No LayTheDon: the second or third time we told you something, bruh. GoFredo: The the the legitimacy of why you mad matters LayTheDon: No. GoFredo: to a man. Kev: It does matter. It does matter. It does matter. LayTheDon: Yes, it does. Because if I'm if GoFredo: They do because LayTheDon: I'm the one if if I'm the woman of the house and I clean that house regularly and you constantly bring your dirty ass shoes on my clean ass floor and I'd ask you a couple of times, hey, can you make sure your shoes are put away? And it's the third time I done came here and your sho we got every right to be mad, whether you had a good day or bad day, motherfucker, your shoes on my floor. Kev: You had to clean the house to get anyway. GoFredo: See, there you go. I knew you was gonna say that. Hey, hey, Kev, I knew she was gonna say that. So check this out. I was at work, right? They didn't had they didn't they didn't they didn't I didn't have to put up with disrespect. I didn't have to put up with nonsense. I didn't have to put up LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: with craziness. I didn't had to work 12 hours and been on my feet all day. I'm wearing boots. If you wear boots, you didn't have to put up with all this. And now I'm coming home and my woman mad at me about some shoes on the floor. You see how crazy that sounds? You see how you see how crazy that sounds? See that's that's crazy. That's crazy. LayTheDon: No. Nope. Nope. Because Kev: Yeah. LayTheDon: I can guarantee, I can guarantee, if she's bitching about some shit that sh like that, it's probably a designated spot for your shoes specifically because she knows you got dirty shoes. And you chose not to put your shoes where the hell they were supposed to go. And this is probably your second or third time doing it. Kobi: How about this? Just mop when I get home. GoFredo: What'd you say, Kobe? Kobi: Mop when I get home, how about that? LayTheDon: What? Kobi: get home. When I get home from my 12 hour shift and my boots sitting in the floor, you move my boots and watch them mop the floor. LayTheDon: That's why you are you I can tell you don't get hair regularly. GoFredo: Kobe said, hey, go God damn, LayTheDon: Exactly. Kobi: Wait, what? Kev: Yeah. GoFredo: Hey, my man said hey, my man Kobe said, Hey man, Kev: Kobe flipped the screw. GoFredo: hey, Kobe said, Hey stop, stop talking about it, just clean it up. You do all this. LayTheDon: be complaining and coming home that the house ain't clean when y'all came home and shit ain't taken care of. Kev: Yeah. LayTheDon: I just spent 12 hours cleaning your goddamn mess, cleaning your shitty ass house. And you want me clean when you can't. GoFredo: It don't not it don't take it don't take twelve hours to clean no house. Stop the cab. Kev: Listen, listen. Kobe, I like how you said that. You you put the script on. LayTheDon: Yes it do. You gotta you gotta take breaks, you gotta GoFredo: Were you at an amendor? LayTheDon: roll bunts, you gotta stop to cook dinner and then finish cleaning. If you GoFredo: This C look, no, see look, see. LayTheDon: got kids, you gotta stop to get the kids take the kids to school, keep Kev: You talking about cleaning the house, not all these other miscellaneous past. Kobi: Yeah. LayTheDon: the kids up for work. What you mean? It's a whole twelve hour practice. GoFredo: Hey, hey, hey, hey, Kev. She putting a whole nother different everything. She said the house it takes clean. All of a sudden it's the kids. LayTheDon: That It's included in cleaning the house. Keep it taking care of the house. Taking care of the house. That's the whole Kev: You know that's the that's that's that that's it right there. GoFredo: You can stay rolling the blunt. LayTheDon: process of taking care of the house. GoFredo: You stay rolling the blunt. Kev: You see how you did that? You gave it you gave a simple a simple solution. LayTheDon: Roll the butt is imp important to take care of the house. GoFredo: And you coming up with a lot of excuses about this. hey, matter of fact, Kev: Listen, man. Listen, man. GoFredo: hey. LayTheDon: You you you see that? That that that helps. That takes care of the house. GoFredo: Hey, I'm with at this point, I'm with Kobe now. Just to pick the boost up and mock the flow. LayTheDon: No way. GoFredo: with Kobe now at this point if you doing all that instead of like you playing you it's sound like Kev: Así que GoFredo: you playing Fortnite. It sounded like you took you a nap. It's sound like you Kobi: Okay. GoFredo: didn't you didn't roll you see look LayTheDon: Shit and did it and show the fuck did. Show the fuck did. Kev: What is it? I I GoFredo: I'm working a twelve hour shift and she and she mad about some boots. LayTheDon: Yeah. Kev: How you mad at me? How you mad at me cause you ain't do what you was supposed to do? How that's out. How that sound. LayTheDon: Cooked got there. So what? Kev: Apparently not, there's still some marks on the floor. Kobi: Thank you. GoFredo: Hey, hey Kill, hey Kill, she done probably took one hour in total to clean the house and been chilling all day and being mad about some boots. Kev: Hey, listen. LayTheDon: That's not that's the time is not the point. You're missing the point, okay? GoFredo: See L that's not the point. Kobi: Out of town, I da boy. LayTheDon: The point is, I done told your monkey ass two, three times. Kev: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: And in the time that I got mad, it's probably the third time I done told you. That's the point. That's why we mad. GoFredo: I'm tired. LayTheDon: You can't get mad and I done told you about it twice already. GoFredo: I'm tired, Lay. I didn't woke up at six o'clock I didn't woke up at five, four, almost four thirty in the morning to get to work, to LayTheDon: The schooler GoFredo: get up and get ready to work at work at six to six. LayTheDon: Okay. GoFredo: I'm up at four every day working twelve hour shifts, working six to six, waking up at four thirty, handling business, and you getting mad at me about some boots. And the boots ain't even that dirty. LayTheDon: What if she What if she been working also a 12 Kobi: Yeah. LayTheDon: hour shift? Y'all come home at the same time, her shoes put away and your stool is still out. GoFredo: What's she do work? LayTheDon: She a nurse, trauma nurse. GoFredo: Okay, now you just thaw us now you just you just picked up you just picked LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: it now you just thawing it. Now you just throw something out there. You just picked the most moving job in the world to do it. LayTheDon: Yeah. Kev: She said a trauma, man. I should have GoFredo: That's all she did. Hey. LayTheDon: If she can come home, if she if she come home from getting blood and poop and pissed on and broken bones and dead babies and whatnot and come home to some boots on the floor, I'd be pissed. GoFredo: Hey look, okay, so this is what I will say. If both if both individuals working and we work long shifts, whatever the case like that may be, and everything whatever the case that may be, I think cleaning the house and everything like that is kind of a like a like a split up thing at that point. I don't think it needs to detake one or the other to be cleaning up the house because both of y'all working long hours anyway. So both of y'all I LayTheDon: Mm. GoFredo: mean cleaning up the house is only gonna be broken up piece by piece or person by person at that point. So I get it, I get what you said at that point. But if you ain't working no 12 hour LayTheDon: Mm-hmm. GoFredo: shift and you just at home and your task is what you say, rolling the blunt, taking a nap, playing fortnight, and you getting mad about some boots, we got a bigger problem than just the boots on the floor. I tell you that right now, I'm on I'm with Kobe at that point. I'm with Kobe at that Kev: Mm. GoFredo: point. At that point, sh it's better for it's easier for you to just pick the boots up. LayTheDon: If she is stay-at-home stay-at-home wife, work home, all right, maybe she could talk to you the way. Maybe you know you could talk to her the way Kobe was talking about. But if she got a goddamn job and she gonna have 50-50 on bills, you better pick the Kobi: you LayTheDon: motherfucking boots up. Fuck out of here. Kev: She she talking about a trauma nurse. GoFredo: Well Kev: She started talking about a trauma nurse. She she she a work taking care of her work husband for twelve hours, man, and she can't come home do what she needs to do. I wanna hear all that. I wanna hear all that. LayTheDon: What if she what if she's a CDL driver? What if she got a manly job? Kev: I don't change it up now. Don't don't change it up now. Change it up now. LayTheDon: Construction there we go, construction. There we go. I got I got a building. I got building same same level. Who she a construction worker? Aye, that's the construction motherfucker. GoFredo: Hey, hey, you know one of my jobs is working at a truck stop. I can tell you right now, she ain't doing all the work you think she doing. It's a maintenance dude at the gas station right now helping her out. Because it's a it's another trucker right now helping her change that tire. Not all. I ain't gonna say all. Tell now that LayTheDon: That's not the point. It's not it's not the point. It's not the point. GoFredo: ain't the point. Now they the point. LayTheDon: S his drugs and guy there. GoFredo: What she do, she the flag? She the flag she the flag lady or she LayTheDon: No, they just she build a fucking buildings. GoFredo: well then that's well that that's different then. That's different. LayTheDon: Yeah, you did pick yeah, you dare pick the motherfucking Kobi: It's it's boob dirty. LayTheDon: boots up. GoFredo: She probably threw her boots on the Kobi: It's a boob dirty. GoFredo: ground cause she know how to feel. She probably LayTheDon: Yeah. GoFredo: kicked her boots into the floor. Kev: I might have to clean up some stuff, Mark. LayTheDon: I promise you she did. She probably got it. She probably got a little basket next to the door specifically for where the shoes go. And you know where shoes GoFredo: Okay. LayTheDon: at? In the basket next to the door. GoFredo: Hey, all my construction ladies, let us know in the in the comment. Kev: Yeah, you know you know you know you know what the worst part about it is? LayTheDon: Yeah. What? Kev: Yo, y'all know what the worst part is about that? She does construction and I come home with some marks on the ground. I'ma come in, I'ma I'ma walk in, I'ma see and I'ma see the I'ma have the spray. I'm like, man, this is that dumb stuff I'm talking about right now. I'm just gonna spray it and wipe it up and be dumb with it and just sit there and go, this is that dumb stuff GoFredo: Yeah. Kev: I be talking about. I'm gonna call my bro and be you ain't gonna bleep this dumb. No, I'm gonna stay. GoFredo: Hey, my thing is my thing is Lei. My thing is Lei is that it go back to what you said is that like I said, I think it's better to just pick and choose your own battles. It's bigger things to fight about than boots on the floor. And and and in this little bit look LayTheDon: You right. You so right. GoFredo: look hold on. Boots on the floor in this house in this little bitty spot. In this little bitty spot, you crying about boots on the floor. LayTheDon: show is Kev: 'Cause that's the logic. That's that logic. We just gonna wipe it up and be done with it if we had to. Y'all wanna argue about it. Argue about no spot on the ground. GoFredo: She wanna argue. Hey look, hey, hey, Kev, hey Kev, she just miss you. That's all it is. She just missed you. She just toxic. She just toxic. She just miss you. LayTheDon: Okay, Anne Anne Anne GoFredo: She wanna make sure you still love her so she argued with you. LayTheDon: Yeah, they they say makeup says it's the best sex, isn't it? GoFredo: See, that's that toxic stuff. Hey, remember when you said LayTheDon: You go. GoFredo: you weren't toxic? Culture. Culture live. Contra if okay. Call it if okay, y'all. LayTheDon: I say I have toxic tendencies. That's what I say. GoFredo: I think that's LayTheDon: I said toxic tendencies, which I do. I did admit to having toxic tendencies. GoFredo: Hey boy, you a trip, I ain't gonna lie. I ain't gonna lie to LayTheDon: I'm just saying. GoFredo: you, Lei. LayTheDon: You know what? As much as I would like to continue this conversation, because it's I can go on for days. I can go on for months. I can go on for part two, three, four, five. But you know we can't do that here. But Good night to all of y'all what really grinds my gears. I got some more stuff to get off my chest, but I'm gonna go ahead and let y'all go. If y'all got anything GoFredo: Mm-hmm. LayTheDon: else, and you know, let me know. World, anything else that grinds y'all gears, message me. I would happily answer it next time we have next conversation. GoFredo: Hey. LayTheDon: cuz I know the girls got some more stuff to get off their chest, because you know, it is what it is, but this is for the exchange. We sign off. Good night, everybody.