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Season 3 - Episode 89 - Do you have internal goals? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So do you happen to have goals for your character?
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  I know, weird question to start off the day.
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  However, we don't have goals for everything else that we're
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  working on. I know most of you, if you're
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  listening to this, you probably have goals that you've set forth
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  for the year. You know, if you want to make
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  $100,000, buy a house, get a new car, you know, start a real
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  estate team, go ahead and create a new business.
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  You know, build out whatever your your current ideal world
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  is. You want to grow it because
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  that's what we're taught to do. We're taught to have goals so we
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  can achieve them and that's an excellent foundation and and
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  thing to work towards. In fact, a big chunk of my
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  business is built around that for people, helping them figure
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  all that stuff out and how to get there.
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  But I'm talking about goals for your character.
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  Things that you want to build into yourself as a as a person.
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  Things that you want to cultivate as a as a better human
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  being, as more of what you've always thought you wanted to be
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  like. Do you want to be more generous?
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  Do you want to be philanthropic? Do you want to be more creative?
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  Do you want to write or paint? Do you want to have parts of
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  yourself that you're just like, OK, I know that I'm not patient.
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  I want to build patience into myself.
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  Do I want to be more creative in the sense that, you know,
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  there's a part of me that's always wanted to write a book,
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  but I don't feel creative, so I'm going to work on being
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  creative. I'm talking about those little
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  pieces of just personality that have probably been
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  underdeveloped. Because you're so busy working
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  on the external world, you forget to work on the internal
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  world. Now why is this so important?
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  Well, it's very hard to create the external world if you are
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  not working on the internal world.
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  And the internal world is by far one of the most difficult places
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  to work on. So we will sit there and say,
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  OK, I'm going to work on the external world because that
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  seems a little bit easier. Well, I have news for you.
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  If you don't work on the internal world, you can't get
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  what you want on the external world.
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  It's like foundational pieces. It's like building a house on
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  sand. You would never sit and build a
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  house on sand, although hundreds of years ago they did because
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  they didn't understand the foundation process and that sand
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  shifts. So if you don't always work on
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  your character, you will find that it shifts.
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  You will find that you become cynical.
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  You will find that you, the world will wear you down and
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  that you have to really cultivate the identity and the
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  personality that you desire. And that's what this is about,
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  making that a purposeful point in your life instead of just
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  saying, hey, you know what? I am who I am.
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  Because that's not true. Sure, we have certain aspects of
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  our personality that are there, but we don't have to keep any of
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  those if we don't want them. We can change everything about
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  ourselves if we choose to. That's the beautiful thing about
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  being a human being and having the ability to choose.
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  It's one of the greatest gifts that we have been given.
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  Choice, we can figure it out. We can sit there and listen to
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  ourselves. We can dig in and say, you know,
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  I, I need to work on this now. I will tell you, when I first
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  got introduced to this, I recognized that one of my
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  biggest challenges was that I was very impatient.
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  I did not have patience. I still, I won't say that I have
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  zero patience now, but I will say that I am always challenged
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  with being impatient and I have to pull myself back.
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  And I think now it's the biggest gift that I've been given.
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  Where I used to think it was the biggest pain in the ass, quite
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  honestly that when I was presented to me that I'm not
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  patient. I'm like, what do you mean I'm
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  not patient? Well, now I realize I was
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  totally not patient. And having to slow down and be
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  patient has taught me more than anything that I ever learned in
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  school. It it really truly has been one
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  of the biggest gifts. Yeah, it was.
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  It is the hardest thing that I deal with because I do have this
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  desire to just boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
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  It's like rapid fire making things happen and I have to slow
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  down with those around me. I have to listen.
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  I have to develop the skills of really listening, especially in
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  my field of coaching. That one thing that seemed to be
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  such a character flaw has brought me so many gifts.
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  When I recognized it and I decided I wanted to change it
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  Now, if I hadn't done that, it would have just continued to
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  bring me pain. But instead I made the decision
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  that I wanted to work on this. I wanted to be able to shift it,
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  and once I did, I was able to really hone in and focus on it.
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  So I'm going to ask you to look and see and really kind of make
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  that list of things. What are your character goals?
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  What are the things that you want to add into yourself?
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  What are the things that you know, you want to cultivate, you
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  want to work on, You want to bring to light and put them on a
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  piece of paper, Make a plan for how you're going to do it as far
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  as every day, every day saying, OK, you know, here's how I'm
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  going to show up and be patient today.
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  Here are the little things that I can do.
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  You know, I have a little recipe for myself where I'm like, OK,
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  the moment I feel myself becoming impatient, I say Nope,
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  that's the moment I have to sit and pause.
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  I have to go by myself. Even if I have to take myself
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  out and just walk in the bathroom and shut the door, I'll
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  say, got to take a deep breath, bring myself back to center.
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  OK, now I can walk out and deal with it because I can feel the
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  impatience. Steal the wheel of that bus and
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  off we go. So figure out where you're going
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  with it, start working on it. And remember, this is a
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  practice. This is not a destination.
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  You'll be doing it forever. So get good at that practice and
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  I will see you soon. Have a great day my friends.
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  Bye.