Latest / Walking Manifestator Podcast- Aligning Mindset with Spirituality / 128: You're Praying for a Different Life, But Are You Preparing for It?
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- Alexa: So we all want a better life. I mean, anybody that is listening to this type of material, whether it's self-improvement, actually living in alignment with the word of God, anybody that really just wants to live a better life, I think we can all agree that we typically tend to believe that we're ready for the prayer that we're asking for. But are we truly ready for that? And this is where in this conversation, I want to share some deeper lessons that are going to help you have an audit in your own life to see if the things that you say you value that you truly want in life are actually the things that you're spending the most of your time, your energy, and your money. So, what are we truly doing to prepare for the life that you're asking God to bless you with? So I want you to jot down these questions and just at your own leisure, take the time to go deep with yourself and see how accurate you're living in alignment with the things that you're saying you want. So, how many times have we actually prayed for something to change in our life, right? Maybe we're praying for financial freedom, a healthier relationship, a successful business, or simply more peace. We talk a lot about this, you know, in manifestation that we need to visualize, that we need to have faith, that we need to surrender, and that we need to trust God's timing. But sometimes we forget one of the most important things, which is the most important ingredient, if you ask me, and that's yes, faith with inspired action. Now, what are you actually doing to prepare for the things that God is asking for you to show up with? So I recently, I shared this in one of my previous episodes. I moved into one of my dream properties. and when I moved into this house, there was a flower bed that looked pretty sad. There was just dirt and this like tree in the middle of the flower bed. And I was like, I, you know, it's probably just dead, like there's nothing there. But El Paso. Turned into Seattle for a while. So for those of you that don't know, I'm based out of Texas and it is like, you know, high temperatures out here, hundreds, hundred and tens, a hundred and twenty sometimes, crazy temperatures. So we turned into Seattle, meaning it was raining like every single day for about a week. And that actually had a ripple effect because not only did you know vegetation start appearing from crazy places. But that flower bed actually came back to life. And it made me realize how it's so true what they say that we are a product of our environment, right? You can be in a place where you think it's the right time, it's the right place. But if you don't have one of the ingredients that's necessary for you to bloom, it's simply not going to happen. Now that these nice little pieces of grass, it's not grass, it's like a different type of plant, looks kind of like a three-leaf clover. And now that it's there, I'm like, okay, I need to take care of it. I need to keep watering it if I wanted to stay here because clearly it was there. It was just underneath all that soil. Right? So after we experienced all that rain, there it was. What previously looked dead is now alive. So the deeper lesson that we want to understand there is that we cannot control when the rain comes. But we can prepare the soil. We can remove the weeds, we can provide nourishment and create an environment that actually supports the growth. This same principle is actually going to apply to your business, to your relationships, to your health, personal development. You cannot expect a beautiful garden if you're unwilling to tend to it. So, what part of your life have you been praying that would change? But you haven't truly been nurturing it. Now, the second point here is that faith without action is dead. And it even talks about this in the Bible, right? Faith without works is dead. So are we actually trusting God or are we just deflecting and avoiding responsibility? So, yes, faith is essential for any part of spiritual journey, but faith does not eliminate. personal responsibility. Sometimes we're saying things such as, yes, you know, when it's God's timing, everything's gonna work out, and the next step is going to appear, we wait for the perfect opportunity, we wait for the perfect moment, or we just continue to say, well, I just need to learn more. I need to, you know, keep working on myself more. But clarity doesn't come before the action. Sometimes actually clarity isn't going to show up until after You've taken the action. So, what we can actually extract from here is that praying for more financial freedom while refusing to actually sit down and understand your finances is a form of deflecting, is a form of avoiding, praying for your successful business while avoiding to learn more about marketing and connecting with your personal customers and giving a better experience. Is a form of avoidance. Praying for that healthy relationship while refusing to develop community, you know, relationships where you love yourself, communication skills, boundaries that is going to translate to the relationship you end up having because again, you didn't learn to love yourself. So this is where we need to understand that faith, yes, it gives us. The courage to move forward because we don't know what is there. We don't know what's going to happen. We know we don't know how things are going to turn out. However, the actions are part of what actually creates that change. So we can't just have faith. We need to also have alignment. And the alignment comes from the action steps that you're taking. So I want you to ask yourself: are you actually waiting for God to actually do something? And show a miracle in your life that maybe you actually already have the ability to make happen. And I I've shared this with you guys before. Like, this is something that I personally still work through. I've been telling myself, like, I want to have like a live event here in El Paso. I wanna have a live event here in El Paso, and I just wanna have like a mastermind where I share some of the things that have helped me and get other people connected. And every time I get in my head about it. So, what I'm doing to get myself to the point where I feel a thousand percent certain of doing that is I come here and deliver free value. And I do my very best to share all the things that are helping me that have allowed me to continue to grow. So, what is it in your life right now that you're doing that is actually deflecting from the goal that you really want to achieve? And again, there's nothing wrong with maybe you being afraid and maybe thinking like I need to be better prepared. I'm not saying don't prepare. I'm not saying don't do the work that's going to allow you to, you know, lift the 100 pounds that you want to lift, but it also starts by starting. Now, I learned this new term that is the axiology. So this basically talks about are we actually living in accordance with the values that we say we have? So this is a philosophical study, and basically it's talking more about what we consider to be good. Important and worthwhile. So it actually helps us explore the difference between what we say that matters and what we actually prioritize and show what really matters. So sometimes our stated values and our daily habits aren't actually aligned, right? Like we might say, yes, yes, being healthy is like super important for me, but then we're neglecting our sleep, we're neglecting our nutrition, we're neglecting going to the gym. We say that we value our family, but we never really spend time with them intentionally together. We claim that we want more financial freedom, right? But we're constantly spending money without having a plan. So saying that you want something, meanwhile, doing the complete opposite, that actually shows what you truly value in life. Now, here's what I want you to draw down so that you can do a quick little audit in your life, which is. Where are you spending the most of your money in? And where are you spending the most of your time in? And what do you consistently make room for even when you're busy? And what are five things that you actually value most? And how do your daily activities support those values? So a quick little way for you to like analyze this is okay. You say you want to have more financial freedom, right? Okay, so where are you spending the most of your money coming in? Is it just paying bills? Because if it's just paying bills, trust me, you're always gonna have more of those because you're not actually working toward eliminating maybe some of the debts that could allow you to have more freedom. Or I could also argue that those bills actually could be In a situation where you didn't have them, if you weren't always focusing on the next Chinese syndrome, right? I I've had that. Like right now, some person was telling me about my iPhone. they're like, are you gonna get the new iPhone? And I was like, No, like it does the same thing as the last one until this one breaks or whatever. Like, I'm just gonna wait. I have no purpose of getting it. About maybe a month ago, I was like shopping for a new car. I got to the point where I was going to place my order, and then I was like, I don't need the new car. I don't need it. And it was just because I was like, well, my brand new car, I bought it two years ago. Like, it's so outdated now. When it's a beautiful car that most people would love to have, myself included. But we get this shiny object syndrome that the media is always pushing because remember, they want you to buy more things the more you buy, the more that the agendas that they're trying to fulfill, which is more overall markets that are giving them more overall income. Are going to continue to increase. So therefore, our net worth is decreasing while theirs is increasing, right? Now, this is really where your values shouldn't only exist in your intentions, they actually need to constantly reflect the decisions that we're making every day. Now, the next point that we're gonna get into is theology. And this is going to talk about: are we moving toward a meaningful purpose? Now, this is going to be a philosophical study that actually talks about the relationship to the end, the goals, and the purposes that we have. So, in personal development, we can use this perspective to examine whether our actions are taking us toward the future that we want or actually moving us away from that. So, if you say you want to build a meaningful business and you want to have a loving relationship with your family and you want to You know, work on being the best version of yourself, but every single weekend you're out spending your money and maybe not really growing your business because you're actually spending the money that you're making, and therefore you're also not spending time with your family, and therefore you're really not growing and contributing to your legacy. That actually starts becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy where you're telling yourself, Yes, I want this one thing. But your life and the choices that you're making are actually giving you a completely different outcome. And on Victor Frankel's work of logotherapy, this is actually where they talk about the importance of finding a meaning for life. So we need to find a compelling purpose that can help us navigate the adversity that is going to happen in life. So this is where we need to have a bigger why, in other words, right? Does that Why truly carry you when you want to quit? Does that why really help you get up when you feel like nothing is working out? And this is something that I've personally learned, and steal this if you want, but I learned that yes, although it's great to make money for me and my family, there's such a beautiful blessing that comes from being out there and actually contributing and seeing Frontline what your money is doing for those in need. The other day I was leaving El Paso. I was going over to Juarez, and there was this kid. I had seen him the last time. I didn't get a chance to give him money, but I said if I see him again next time, I'm gonna give him money. And he's like dressed up in his little like shorts. It was cold outside, and he's like practicing his left, right hook, left, right hook, and then there's this guy. That's there holding a sign. Basically, they're trying to get money to go to this like final, but they needed money in order for them to be able to participate in the final. And I rolled out my window and I was like, When's your fight? And then he's like, it's gonna be this Friday. And I was like, Okay. I was like, Well, good luck, okay. God bless you. And I gave him a bill of a hundred. And you know what? That felt so beautiful. And I don't share this from a perspective of give me a pat in my back. I say this from a perspective of two things. Number one, I used to believe that we shouldn't share the good things that we're doing in the world because then it's like you just want to pat on your back. But I actually realized that we should share more of those good things that we're doing in the world because it inspires someone else to also do it, be the change that you want to see in the world. And number two, because even though for us $100 might not be nothing, for that person, I know that that made his freaking week. And I'm so happy to be able to do that. And that is part of my bigger why. Whenever even I me talking about it right now, it just like brought me energy. So find a bigger why. Because if your whys are too small, you're never really going to push yourself. If your why is just I want to get a better car, it's just not gonna do the trick. I want to have a better house, it's just not gonna do the trick. It has to be a bigger why to the point where it's really emotionally challenging you because it actually allows you to see that. There's no way you're not going to make it happen because the cost of you not having it happen is far too big. And neuroscience talks about this, right? This is where neurons that fire together wire together. So our brains have the ability to adapt to the change through the process called neuroplasticity, right? So the experiences and the behaviors that we constantly repeat influence how our neural connections develop. Many of our daily Decisions are influenced by patterns that we have practiced for years. And this is where the work of the psychologist Donald Hebb comes into play. this is also Dr. Joe Dispenso's work. He frequently discusses the relationship between your thought patterns and your behaviors. But overall, I want you to understand that your old pattern can be something geared around you believe you're not good at sales, you become uncomfortable when you approach certain customers. Or you want to avoid conversations, you want to avoid eye contact, you miss opportunities to develop any type of skill. And then the new pattern can be you recognize a limiting belief. You begin practicing uncomfortable conversations. You develop communication and sales skills by actually investing in some time on YouTube on how to get better in sales, right? You learn from rejection rather than interpreting it as Failure and saying I just can't do anything, you actually see it as like, this is just a redirection. It's gonna help me be better on the next one. And that allows you to build more confidence. So this is really where the more you practice new behaviors, the more opportunities you create, and the more habits that you create that are in alignment with the outcome that you want. So, what patterns are you repeatedly reinforcing that you could actually change to align with the woman you're trying to become? So here's the walking manifestator audit that I want to give you. So question number one, what are you spending the most of your time and money in? Okay. And I want you to review it for the last 30 days. Identify where the most of your money is going. Look at your typical week schedule and notice which activities support your goals and which are actually distractions. Number two, what do you genuinely value? Identify your five most important values. Examples could be faith, right? Health, financial freedom, peace, growth, service, meaningful relationships, whatever it is for you. And I want you to understand these questions. Are these values reflected in your day-to-day activities? Which values are unintentionally being neglected? And what responsibilities or circumstances make certain values difficult to prioritize? Number three, what future are you intentionally creating? So here is something that has honestly really helped for myself and students that I've trained, which is what does your ideal life look like in the next 12 months? What do you like in this ideal outcome? Like what will your ideal outcome look like? Finances, health, overall, how would you wake up? What would you be doing differently? What kind of woman? Would you need to become to support that life? We talked about this in one of the past episodes. Be, do, have, right? Who do you need to be in order for you to do, in order for you to have? Number four, what would that woman you're trying to become do differently? Would they spend their mornings scrolling? Or would they be actually reading a book that's going to stimulate their mind, or maybe wake up a little bit earlier so they can actually have some alone time before the chaos of life happens? What boundaries are you establishing? Are you allowing people that don't deserve to be in your life into your life? Or are you actually being more vigilant with that? You see, the other day I was actually laughing because there was this person, and I know he didn't mean anything negative by it, so I wasn't offended. But I found it very fascinating because he was saying something about how redheads basically it implies that we're drama. Like people with red hair, really bright red hair, he said that's just like a red flag because it shows that like you would get like down to a fight. And I started laughing because it just shows how sometimes our preconceived beliefs can actually stop us from some of the biggest blessings. And this is why internal work is so important because maybe he had an experience with someone where there was a redhead, and that was the outcome that he had with this person, right? And I could sit here and say the same thing. I had this one person that had tattoos that was horrible. Meanwhile, I could be the person that has tattoos right now doing things that are paying it forward, right? I could sit here and say, that person with blue hair is like completely dysfunctional because they paint their hair. Meanwhile, the girl Actually has done a bunch of internal work and the person with like brown normal hair is actually in a crisis and doesn't know how to express themselves because they feel trapped. And I share this to you because it's important. I need you to set clear boundaries about like how do you carry yourself? Because the woman that you're trying to become, the person that you're trying to become, if you're a guy listening to this, like just remember that. How you perceive yourself is what matters. Like honestly, I wasn't offended by what this guy said. I wasn't. Like, I was laughing so hard because in my mind I was just like, I remember there was a time that I would have judged someone like that. But it just says more about where that person is at, right? Because of maybe what they've experienced. And there's no shame on that. But if you don't recognize these patterns, the next time someone says something like that to you, it's going to send you in a spiral. And you want to be able to stand in a firm foundation. versus allowing anybody to come here. And that comes from the habits that you're repeating, the people that you're surrounded with, what decisions are you taking differently? How are you nurturing your relationship with God and your self-worth? And number five is what action can you take today? Identify just one area that you know your goals are not in alignment. And I want you to choose a specific behavior that you can change and decide how you're going to take action. And just repeat it consistently for the next several days. And evaluate where you fell off rails and where you can go back. Awareness is the number one thing that can help you change because when you're on autopilot, it doesn't allow you to get past that block. Intentional action allows you to begin to change it. So remember, get clear on your values, connect your goals to a meaningful purpose, create new behavior patterns. And practice faith alongside inspired action. So remember, if nobody has told you this, remember that you are worthy. You can absolutely manifest anything you want. And yes, we can pray for the beautiful garden, we can visualize the garden, we can believe with our whole heart that the garden is going to bloom. But we need to be willing to tend to the soil. So if nobody has told you this, remember you're loved, you're worthy, and I'll talk to you on the next one.