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Taking Chances · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friend, Welcome to my new podcast, Have a
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  Speaker 1: Little Faith with Delilah. I call it my new podcast
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  Speaker 1: even though this is our ninth episode, because it feels
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  Speaker 1: so new and I'm so energized and excited because I
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  Speaker 1: get to share my faith with you. Do you know
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  Speaker 1: what a big deal that is to me. I have
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  Speaker 1: been fired from radio stations simply for saying things like
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  Speaker 1: God bless you or I'll pray for you on the air.
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  Speaker 1: I have been told to keep my faith to myself.
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  Speaker 1: I have been told that nobody wants to hear Jesus jabber,
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  Speaker 1: a term coined by one of my old program directors
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  Speaker 1: who despise the fact that I love God, that I
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  Speaker 1: love Jesus, and I love to share that love with
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  Speaker 1: other people. And so the fact that I get to
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  Speaker 1: do a podcast where I get to talk about my faith,
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  Speaker 1: explore my faith, share my faith, pray for people, pray
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  Speaker 1: with people, you don't understand what a huge thing this is.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm able to be completely and totally
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  Speaker 1: myself and I get to share that excitement with you
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  Speaker 1: via this podcast. So I am so happy that you
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  Speaker 1: found me, and I hope you tell your friends, anybody
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  Speaker 1: you know who needs a little more faith or needs
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  Speaker 1: to have their faith strength, and I hope they find
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  Speaker 1: us here. Today's podcast is about taking chances. Taking chances
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  Speaker 1: is where growth begins. Have you ever heard the saying
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  Speaker 1: that boats are only safe when they're in the harbor.
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  Speaker 1: But boats weren't built to stay in the harbor. It's
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  Speaker 1: a safe place to rest, but it's not where a
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  Speaker 1: boat belongs. A boat belongs out at sea. It belongs
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  Speaker 1: in the water. It's what it's meant to do. It's
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  Speaker 1: the reason a boat was built is to sail, is
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  Speaker 1: to go out into the unknown, and the same is
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  Speaker 1: true for you and I. Taking chances is where growth begins.
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  Speaker 1: It's where our faith grows. It's stepping out into the
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  Speaker 1: unknown without a guarantee. Trusting can be so difficult. I
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  Speaker 1: know people who have lived let's say, more than one
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  Speaker 1: or two or three or four decades, and yet they
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  Speaker 1: still find trusting an impossible thing to do. They want
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  Speaker 1: to stay in their safe harbor, they want to be
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  Speaker 1: a boat in their safe harbor. But it is required
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  Speaker 1: no matter where you find yourself in life. And what
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about is not throwing caution into the wind
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  Speaker 1: like I do and charge downhill on a sled without
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  Speaker 1: a crash helmet. I'm talking about being brave and trusting
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  Speaker 1: in the Lord. Taking chances often does not pay off
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  Speaker 1: right away. But here's the thing. If you are taking
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  Speaker 1: a chance, believing that God is leading you and asking
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  Speaker 1: you to do it, even if things fall apart, you
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  Speaker 1: are still where you're supposed to be because see, God's
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  Speaker 1: perspective is different than our perspective. For sure. Think about Mary.
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  Speaker 1: She was a teenager. She was engaged to be married.
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  Speaker 1: She was betrothed, which is kind of like what we
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  Speaker 1: view engagement, but different you're preparing. It was like a
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  Speaker 1: year long period of time where the women learn from
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  Speaker 1: their mothers and their grandmothers and the elder women in
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  Speaker 1: their community. Is going to be required of her in
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  Speaker 1: the role of maintaining a house, of managing her home,
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  Speaker 1: of being a wife and a mother. And the men
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  Speaker 1: were off building the home that would be theirs, oftentimes
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  Speaker 1: close to his father's homestead. A betrothal was a marriage
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  Speaker 1: kind of where you were apart, but you couldn't get
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  Speaker 1: out of it easily. You had to go through a divorce.
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  Speaker 1: And here's Mary, a teenager who wakes up to an
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  Speaker 1: angel telling her, by the bye, you're going to carry
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  Speaker 1: the Son of God in your womb, even though you've
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  Speaker 1: never been with a man. You're going to be pregnant,
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  Speaker 1: and you're gonna raise God. How many people in their
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  Speaker 1: right mind would say yes to that, knowing it could
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  Speaker 1: cost you your life, knowing it would definitely probably cost
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  Speaker 1: her her engagement, her betrothal, her marriage to Joseph, Knowing
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  Speaker 1: she would be ridiculed, knowing she would be put out
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  Speaker 1: of the community. She's like, Okay, God, if this is
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  Speaker 1: what you think is best, yes, I'm all yours. I
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  Speaker 1: will follow where you lead. And when things fell apart,
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  Speaker 1: when Joseph's like, how can this be? Can you imagine
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  Speaker 1: saying yes to that? But she did? She said yes.
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  Speaker 1: She said yes. She said yes to God. I will
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  Speaker 1: accept this challenge and I will do what you ask me,
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  Speaker 1: and I will be the best mama I can possibly
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  Speaker 1: be for this baby. Taking chances doesn't always pay off
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  Speaker 1: right away. Things don't always turn out as planned, that's
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  Speaker 1: for sure. I cannot tell you how many times I've
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  Speaker 1: taken a chance on love on children. I've adopted children
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  Speaker 1: that I believed God was leading me to. Taking chances
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  Speaker 1: doesn't all always, In fact, it rarely in the way
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  Speaker 1: you think that it might. But taking a chance might
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  Speaker 1: lead to the success or the lesson or the growth
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  Speaker 1: that you really needed, maybe the healing that you really needed.
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  Speaker 1: I can tell you I was in a failed relationship,
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  Speaker 1: a relationship that I thought was going to lead to
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  Speaker 1: marriage and forever, and it didn't. But do you know
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  Speaker 1: what it did do? It healed parts of my heart
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  Speaker 1: that were so broken. I didn't believe I was worthy
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  Speaker 1: of love by a kind and compassionate and competent and
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  Speaker 1: hard working and gentle man. And in that relationship, I
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  Speaker 1: learned that I was so worthy of that kind of
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  Speaker 1: gentle and kind and nurturing love, and it made me
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  Speaker 1: such a much better person. Sometimes there are parts of
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  Speaker 1: your heart that need to be healed. Sometimes there are
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  Speaker 1: things you need to learn or places you need to go,
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  Speaker 1: and you can't do that from the safety of the harbor.
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  Speaker 1: You got to leave the harbor and go explore and
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  Speaker 1: take those chances for your confidence to build, for your
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  Speaker 1: wisdom to build. Truly, the biggest risk of all is
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  Speaker 1: not taking a risk, staying stuck in the same place,
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  Speaker 1: staying safe, never daring to see what could have been.
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  Speaker 1: I know people that live in the same town they
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  Speaker 1: were born in. I know people that live in the
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  Speaker 1: same house that they were born in, unable to leave
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  Speaker 1: the safe harbor and go explore. I know other people
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  Speaker 1: that have the same house they were born in, but
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  Speaker 1: they have explored the world. They have gone and seen
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  Speaker 1: and done, but they have a safe harbor to come
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  Speaker 1: home to. I think that's the best plan of all.
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  Speaker 1: I want to encourage you in this podcast to trust
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  Speaker 1: in the Lord with all your heart and lean not
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  Speaker 1: on your own understanding, but in always acknowledge him. If
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  Speaker 1: you trust in God and God is telling you, I
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  Speaker 1: want you to move. I want you to go. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to preach. I want you to go to college.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to give this person a chance. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to adopt. I want you to be a
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  Speaker 1: foster parent. I want you to go to a developing nation.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to go and try something new. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to switch careers. I want you to be
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  Speaker 1: able to trust that voice within when the Lord is
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  Speaker 1: guiding you and leading you. And I'm going to share
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  Speaker 1: some phone calls today in this podcast from folks who
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  Speaker 1: are struggling to take a chance up first is a
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  Speaker 1: young man named Casey. He is struggling with taking a
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  Speaker 1: chance on putting his career over the love of his life.
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  Speaker 1: Let's listen to Casey right now.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, this is Casey. I am just calling. Had kind
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  Speaker 2: of a rough week last week. I just had a
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  Speaker 2: girl that I'm in love with and she decided that
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  Speaker 2: the distance was too much. We live a cross country
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  Speaker 2: and things are great. I think we still love each
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  Speaker 2: other and the first girl I've met that honestly takes
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  Speaker 2: my breath away. So I just want to give a
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  Speaker 2: shout out to her, and hopefully the distance won't always
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  Speaker 2: see an issue for us.
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  Speaker 1: How old are you, Casey?
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  Speaker 2: I am twenty nine, actually, so.
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  Speaker 1: What are the ties that are binding you to where
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  Speaker 1: you are right now instead of letting you go be
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  Speaker 1: with the one you love?
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, not much. I think that that's a possibility for us,
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  Speaker 2: and hopefully you know. The way that we communicated actually
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  Speaker 2: through music, So it's kind of cool that you know,
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  Speaker 2: we actually listen to your show quite a bit and
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  Speaker 2: talk about it, and yeah, I think that I think
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  Speaker 2: that eventually we will come back around. But right now
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  Speaker 2: we both have some pretty good careers, so we're we're
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  Speaker 2: focused on that for the time being.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, do you want my response to that or do
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  Speaker 1: you just want me to play a song?
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  Speaker 2: You know what? I think. I'd love you to respond.
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  Speaker 1: Are you sure because you might not like what I
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  Speaker 1: have to say?
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  Speaker 2: That's okay, you say it, let me have it.
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  Speaker 1: I heard you say fifty seven seconds ago that she's
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  Speaker 1: the only woman that's ever made you feel this way.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, that's true, that's true.
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  Speaker 1: Those were your words.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe she doesn't feel the same. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: It's scary, and that's that's a big scary if she doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: But if she does, that kind of love is a
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  Speaker 1: gift and it doesn't come around very very often. And
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  Speaker 1: if you've been blessed by God to enjoy that kind
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  Speaker 1: of gift, A career means nothing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 1: I love my career. I stink and love my career.
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  Speaker 1: I love my career. I love being on the air.
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  Speaker 1: I used to love modeling when I was young, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, thirty pounds thinner. I love my career. But
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  Speaker 1: if I couldn't have my husband, who does live in
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  Speaker 1: another state, we have a commuter relationship. But if he
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  Speaker 1: said I can't do it, anymore. You got to come
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  Speaker 1: and be with me, I'd say, I'd hang up these
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  Speaker 1: headphones so dang fast and make care your head spin.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I'm with you. I'm with you a lot.
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  Speaker 2: I'm totally with you.
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  Speaker 1: If she's using the distance as an excuse to distance herself,
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  Speaker 1: if she's not on the same page as you, if
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't see her future in your eyes, then that's
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  Speaker 1: a sad thing. But if she does go be with your.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, I will, Delilah, I definitely will. I don't believe
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  Speaker 2: it's an excuse. And like I said, we communicate through music,
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  Speaker 2: so like to play a song for her?
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  Speaker 1: And what's her name?
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  Speaker 2: Her name is Laura.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I need to speak with Laura some night. Tell
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  Speaker 1: her to call me because I gotta. I gotta get
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  Speaker 1: to the bottom of this, I really do. I got
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  Speaker 1: to pry into her business and find out what's keeping
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  Speaker 1: her from you. Because you sound like a are you
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  Speaker 1: as cute as your voices?
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  Speaker 2: Thanks? Thank you. I give me feel better. And I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if I'm blushy.
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  Speaker 1: If you're as good looking as your voice sounds and
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  Speaker 1: as nice as you are, she could being the knucklehead
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  Speaker 1: here not moving having on earth to be with you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know which one of y'all is being a knucklehead.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I can't. I mean, yeah, maybe I
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  Speaker 2: should get into radio and love my job and focus
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  Speaker 2: on that.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you do? What's this career that's keeping you?
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  Speaker 2: So I work in the technology field. It's just a
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  Speaker 2: lucrative career for me. I kind of came from a
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  Speaker 2: small town, middle of nowhere, and so now I live
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  Speaker 2: the big city and it's just a lucrative career for me.
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  Speaker 2: And same with her, both kind of similar backgrounds.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what money means nothing except the good that you
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  Speaker 1: can do with it. Money means absolutely nothing except the
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  Speaker 1: good that you can do with it to make life
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  Speaker 1: better for others.
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  Speaker 2: I know you're so right. I totally would. I would
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  Speaker 2: give it. I would give it up. I think I
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  Speaker 2: just needed somebody to say it in the right words.
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  Speaker 1: If you came to my house, Casey, and you saw
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  Speaker 1: the way I live, you would have no clue that
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  Speaker 1: I ever made any money.
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  Speaker 2: Now, I'm a bigger fan.
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  Speaker 1: Because I learned long ago. First Off, I was blessed
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  Speaker 1: that I didn't make a lot of money until I
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  Speaker 1: was older, But The only value money has is how
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  Speaker 1: it can improve the life of yourself and others around you.
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  Speaker 1: And if you have your basic needs met, if you've
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  Speaker 1: got food, water, shelter, that's it. That's all you need.
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  Speaker 1: Everything else is just stuff, and stuff means nothing. It
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  Speaker 1: means nothing. What kind of couch you set on means nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I work in Africa. I go twice a year, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: three times a year. They don't have couches, they don't
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  Speaker 1: have houses, they don't have cars, they don't have food
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  Speaker 1: or water. So the money that I make means everything
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  Speaker 1: to me because it can provide food and water and
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  Speaker 1: shelter for kids. But once my basic needs are met,
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  Speaker 1: I need nothing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. And the most basic need also complicated need, but
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  Speaker 2: most basic need is love.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And if you've got that, figure out how the
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  Speaker 1: heck to be with your.
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  Speaker 2: Woman, babe. If need the right push, I appreciate that. Delilah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to play your song for you, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to say a prayer for you. Lord, God, Heavenly Father,
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  Speaker 1: Precious Jesus, guide Casey into the right direction. Guide him, Lord,
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  Speaker 1: open the doors that need to be open, and close
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  Speaker 1: the doors that you want closed. Show him that he
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  Speaker 1: can get a job in another state. He's hesitant because
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  Speaker 1: he's not entirely sure that his partner feels the same.
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  Speaker 1: Show him your plan, God, make it so clear, so obvious.
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  Speaker 1: There will be no questions no matter what happens in life. Casey,
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  Speaker 1: when you seek the Lord, when you ask for him
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  Speaker 1: to direct you, you will have peace. When he does that.
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  Speaker 1: When God directs you and he moves mountains for you,
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  Speaker 1: you will have peace. Amen. Up next, we have Brittany
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  Speaker 1: who's dealing with a long distance marriage. Her husband needs
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  Speaker 1: to take a job out of state to support their family,
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  Speaker 1: and we're going to talk about that. Because I have
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  Speaker 1: a little experience with that. I think there's some things
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  Speaker 1: Brittany can do to be with him. I think she
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  Speaker 1: needs to be creative. I think Brittany needs to take
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  Speaker 1: some chances. I'm going to share that conversation now. Hi, Brittany,
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  Speaker 1: welcome aboard. What can I do for you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm not sure, Like I'll just have you pick something
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  Speaker 3: for me. My husband just started a new job and
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  Speaker 3: he's pretty much permanently going to be working out of
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  Speaker 3: town and only coming back home every now and then.
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  Speaker 4: And my youngest daughter is starting preschool.
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  Speaker 3: This year, and I'm just not ready to come home
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  Speaker 3: to a completely empty, silent house.
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  Speaker 1: Why can't you move with him?
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  Speaker 4: Because he's going to be in different places.
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  Speaker 3: So he'll be in Central Florida right now, and then
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  Speaker 3: in a couple months he'll be in North Carolina, and
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  Speaker 3: so he's kind of just going to be all over
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  Speaker 3: the place. So it's best for me to just stay
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  Speaker 3: here with the kids. And while they're going the school,
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  Speaker 3: he's all around the place working.
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  Speaker 1: What does he do that he moves so much.
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  Speaker 3: He is a solar contractor and he just got a
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  Speaker 3: job doing commercial solar installation, so it's going to be
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  Speaker 3: a lot of big projects all over the southeast part
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  Speaker 3: of the United States.
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  Speaker 1: Well as somebody who is living with my husband for
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  Speaker 1: the first time. In our nineteen years together, we enjoyed
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  Speaker 1: long distance marriage. It worked for us, but we're at
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  Speaker 1: different places in our life. You know, his kids were
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  Speaker 1: grown and gone, and I was still adopting kids, and
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  Speaker 1: he wasn't really interested in going to cub Scout meetings.
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  Speaker 1: So it worked for us all those years, and now
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  Speaker 1: it's very hard getting used to being in the same house.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, my husband and I we've been together for
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  Speaker 3: fifteen years. We're about to celebrate our ten year wedding anniversary.
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  Speaker 3: And we met when I was sixteen and he was seventeen,
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  Speaker 3: and we haven't left each other ever since. So this
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  Speaker 3: is like a huge change for us because we're each
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  Speaker 3: other's best friend and alone time for us means alone
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  Speaker 3: time with each other because like we are like attached
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  Speaker 3: to each other. So this is a very big deal
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  Speaker 3: for us to be separated like this.
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  Speaker 1: I think you need to get a motor home and
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  Speaker 1: make it an adventure.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's kind of that's the long term goal. And
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  Speaker 3: we were going to try out homeschooling and just kind
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  Speaker 3: of ride around together. And eventually when he becomes an
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  Speaker 3: electrician and all of that, we're hoping that we can
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  Speaker 3: just come back to the house and be stable again
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  Speaker 3: and he can just get a good job back in town.
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  Speaker 4: But for now, it's going to be him.
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  Speaker 1: If I were young and I was that connected to
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  Speaker 1: a hobby, I would get a motor home.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's part of our plan.
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  Speaker 1: Well, whatever you end up doing, if you're a part
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  Speaker 1: and commuting on weekends or whatever, I will be here
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  Speaker 1: for you.
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  Speaker 4: Well, thank you, you have a great night.
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  Speaker 1: Are you struggling because a situation is not playing out
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  Speaker 1: the way you had hoped. A relationship or I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: an application to a college or a job. Things are
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  Speaker 1: not going according to your script. You had it written
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  Speaker 1: out in your head, you had it scripted out, you
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  Speaker 1: had it planned out, and now it's just not working out.
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  Speaker 1: H I hate it when other people don't follow my script.
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  Speaker 1: In just a moment, I'm going to talk with a
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  Speaker 1: young woman who hast to say goodbye to someone who
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  Speaker 1: unfortunately is planning to be a doctor, and he's practicing
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  Speaker 1: by carving her heart out of her chest with his leaving.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna try to find some words of hope for her.
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  Speaker 1: Coming up next, Hi, beca, what can I do for
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  Speaker 1: you tonight?
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  Speaker 5: I am Oh.
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  Speaker 4: I'm thinking about a boy.
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  Speaker 5: He's we've known each other since high school, but he's
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: going off to his residency to be a doctor. He
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: doesn't want a long distance relationship, and I get it,
• 20:33
  Speaker 5: but also I'm sad.
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  Speaker 4: Because it's finally linking up for us. But yeah, he's
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: going after his three So if you could play a.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: Song, a song that says fine, pursue your dreams, just
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: don't even think about me. Here with a broken heart,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: missing you, mister doctor to be literally like oh go,
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: like go him, but I'm gonna miss him?
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Oh him?
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  Speaker 1: But did you have to take my heart out of
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: my chest before you laughed?
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: How old are you and how old is he?
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: I'm twenty three and he's twenty five, so.
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  Speaker 1: That's plenty old enough to navigate a long distance relationship.
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  Speaker 1: You know, if you were seventeen eighteen, I would say, yeah,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: go live, go have fun, don't try to stay tied down.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: But you guys are young adults. But I guess it's
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: really not up to you. Huh. If he said don't
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: want to do the long distance thing, too bad for him.
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm trying to tell myself is too bad.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: So said, too bad for him. He's missing out on
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: the sweet lady, thank you Doilah. As much as you
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: care for him, and he's not the right one, imagine
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: how happy you'll be when God sends the right one
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: your way.
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: I got to keep his plan and check because my
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: plans don't matter when it comes to his.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Well, they matter, but they're not going to work out
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: if they're not in line with his will. Even if
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: you get your way, there have been times God and said, Okay,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: have it your way to me, and he says, just
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: let me know how that works out. And guess what,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: it never works out. Well, no it doesn't. So trust him,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: trust him, trust him.
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: Get the same and thank you, Becca.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: Becca, Becca, Becca, This man is not willing to take
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: a chance on you or to invest in you for
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: the long haul. Let me tell you something about that.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: It's a gift. It doesn't feel like it or look
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: like it right now, but it is a gift. When
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: someone doesn't value you enough to plan a future with you,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: let them go, Let them walk out the door. Thank
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: the Lord for that. Do not ever beg somebody to stay.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: If they want to go, let them go, Let them
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: go with a blessing, and make room in your life
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: for the person who sees your value and will do
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: anything to make that work. That's my best best words
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: of advice for you, Becca, God bless you.
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: You know.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: I hear from a lot of folks who have reconciled
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: with someone from their past, those wonderful sweetheart stories. We
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: dated in junior high, we dated in high school, and
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: then folks go their separate ways. Life happens, and sometimes
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: they find their way back to each other, and just
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: a moment, we are going to hear from a listener
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: who found her way back to somebody that she might
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: have had love crush on back in the day, but
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: daddy wasn't having any part of it given their age difference.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: We're going to find out how that is going today.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: Stick around for that and so much more. Hi, Megan, Welcome.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: What can I do for you tonight?
• 24:14
  Speaker 6: I was wondering if you could dedicate a song to
• 24:18
  Speaker 6: my better half for me?
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: Who is your better half and what makes them better?
• 24:24
  Speaker 6: He and his name is Brandon, and we've been together
• 24:27
  Speaker 6: for about fourteen months now, but we were old high
• 24:30
  Speaker 6: school streethearts and ended up separating over time, and twenty five.
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: Years later we got back together.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: How did you find your way back to each other
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: after a quarter of a century.
• 24:44
  Speaker 6: I think it was God's plan, a little bit of
• 24:46
  Speaker 6: his mama and my daddy knowing what they need to.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: Do to put us back together.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Okay, well that's very romantical and very sweet, but practically
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: what happened.
• 24:55
  Speaker 6: I went through a divorce after twenty years and he
• 24:59
  Speaker 6: just asked hit me.
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: Up on Facebook one day.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: Ah ah, so social media, and he's like, hey, hey,
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: I remember you. Do you remember me, yes, ra'am? And
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: you said, as a matter of fact, I do, yes, ma'am.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: So what grade were you in when you were dating.
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: We were in our teens. He was seventeen and I
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: was fourteen. So of course back then that's like a
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: ten year gap.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: That's a big no no with the mom and dad. Yes, ma'am.
• 25:29
  Speaker 6: Mom said no, and we went our separate ways and
• 25:32
  Speaker 6: twenty five years later made our way back to each other.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: What was your mascot when you were in high school?
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: The Greyhounds?
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: The Greyhounds. Did Brandon run fast back then from you?
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: Or he's running fast to you?
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: If he ran to me really fast, you probably.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Ran fast away from you when your father found out
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: he was seventeen, Yes, ma'am. My daddy did not appreciate
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: when I would be talking to somebody and he would
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: he found out one guy was a fireman. He's like,
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: how can he be a fireman when he's in high school?
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, uh about that? That did not go
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: over well with dad.
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: No, my dad books a fireman too.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: I will play a song for you, and the one
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: that you have reconciled with Call me back in a
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: few months and let me know how it's going. Yes,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: ma'am Meghan, I am so glad you were willing to
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: take this chance at another try with your guy, with
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: your man. Listening to your story only reaffirms for me
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: that God doesn't make mistakes. You are always meant to
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: be with him. The fact that both of your parents
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: confirmed that from heaven is so sweet. What a great confirmation. Megan.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing your story. You have a wonderful night.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: Thank you for calling You're true do Islah?
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: In just a moment, we're going to talk with a
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: listener who thought she was calling a locksmith to change
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: the keys to sell her house. Little did she realize
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: he would end up unlocking her heart. He had the key,
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: and now she's missing him. We're going to play a
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: song to keep their hearts locked together across the miles
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: coming up next.
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: Hi, Delailah, this is Lisa.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Are you in your car? Are you driving and listening
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: to the radio? Now?
• 27:32
  Speaker 7: I'm homes in my bedroom listening to the radio and
• 27:35
  Speaker 7: miss my.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: Boyfriend, missing your honey. What's his name?
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: Eric?
• 27:40
  Speaker 7: And when I first met him? I'm born on seven
• 27:44
  Speaker 7: months ago. It's like thought, send him to me, and
• 27:48
  Speaker 7: we see each other and talk to each other every
• 27:51
  Speaker 7: day on the phone. But I haven't seen him in
• 27:53
  Speaker 7: two months, so I miss him right now and I'm
• 27:54
  Speaker 7: hoping to see him soon.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: So seven months long distance relationship, And how's it going?
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: Scale of one to ten? How is the How much
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: joy is Eric bringing and how much sadness? And missing him?
• 28:11
  Speaker 7: He brings me a lot of joy and I miss
• 28:13
  Speaker 7: him a lot.
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: And do you have anchors in your life keeping you
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: tied to wherever you are right now?
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: Yes?
• 28:21
  Speaker 7: I had to take care of some situations where I
• 28:24
  Speaker 7: am now. Yes, but I have got it all finished
• 28:28
  Speaker 7: pretty much.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: So you don't have children in school, you don't have
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: a job, you can't leave.
• 28:34
  Speaker 7: No, it's just I had to sell a house, so
• 28:36
  Speaker 7: I got that taken care of now and now I
• 28:39
  Speaker 7: can leave again. I just miss him and I want
• 28:42
  Speaker 7: to go up there.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: So, Lisa, you realize you're talking to a woman who
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: had a long distance marriage for the last fifteen years. No,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: my husband and I lived in different states until September.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: The only time we've lived together was during COVID, So
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: I have empathy for you, and I know how hard
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: it is when you're missing someone, but I also know
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: you're going to be just fine.
• 29:07
  Speaker 4: Thank you, Dahliah.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: So where did you meet?
• 29:09
  Speaker 7: He used my locksmith.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: How did you need a locksmith? What circumstances brought him
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: into your life?
• 29:16
  Speaker 7: Well, I had to change the locks at the house
• 29:19
  Speaker 7: that I sold. I had to change the locks, so
• 29:21
  Speaker 7: I had to call a locksmith, and I thought I
• 29:23
  Speaker 7: was I called his brother and ended up being Eric him. Oh,
• 29:29
  Speaker 7: I met Eric instead, and Eric has been the love
• 29:32
  Speaker 7: of my life since then.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: So he not only changed the locks, he unlocked your heart.
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: Yes, he did.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Well wherever you end up, I pray that it is soon,
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: because I hear the longing in your voices driving you crazy.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: And I will play a song to keep those hearts,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: that heart that he opened, that he had the key
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: to that, I'll play a song to keep your hearts connected.
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much, Dahliah.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: Lisa, I am so excited that you're taking a chance
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: to be with the man that literally and figuratively unlocked
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: your heart. You are brave, and I am praying for
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: both of you. I opened this podcast and talked about
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: taking chances, having the willingness to leave your safe harbor.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: What is your safe harbor? What is the place that
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: you don't want to leave, You don't want to take
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: a risk? Is it on on love? Is it you're
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: unwilling to have your heart broken again? I think for
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: most adults, most people over the age of twenty five,
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: we are unwilling to invest so much energy into a
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: relationship only to have it crumble, only to be left
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: broken and aching and wondering what went wrong? I gave
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: my all. I trusted, I believed, I gave my all.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: How how did I end up giving my all to
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: somebody who can walk away like that? Maybe you're unwilling
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: to leave your safe harbor and take a new job.
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: Maybe you're miserable in your job and you so want out,
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: but you think I need this payjack, and you can't
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: see that there's a million other jobs out there. Maybe
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: it's on a direction that the Lord is encouraging in
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: your life. Maybe God is calling you to sing, to preach,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: to lead worship, to go to another country. I don't
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: know what your safe harbor is that you're unwilling to leave.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know what that safe harbor is, but I
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: promise you. If God is leading you, it's going to
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: be okay. Might be rough, might be uncomfortable. God's not
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: really concerned with our comfort. It's not I've learned that
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: over the years. He isn't concerned with my comfort. He's
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: concerned with my eternal salvation and the quality of my character.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: God is concerned with my eternal salvation that I will
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: spend eternity with Him in heaven. And he's concerned with
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: the quality of my character. Am I developing as a
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: human being and being the best person I can possibly
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: be and shining His light and his love in a
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: dark and dying world. In order to do that, I
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: gotta be a little uncomfortable. I got to go outside
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: of my comfort zone and shine that light. And so
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: do you something to think about. I encourage you to
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: have a little faith and I will see you next time.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: Lord bless you.