Why Can’t I Switch Off? When Being the Good Girl Keeps You on Duty (with Samantha Grider)

Aligned & Turned On with Nedjma · Oct 1, 2026 · 27m

Why is it so hard to switch off when nobody is actually asking anything of you?

For Samantha Grider, being “the good girl” started as a way of navigating childhood. Take up less space. Be easy. Be mature for your age. Pay attention to what everyone else needs.

Eventually, that way of moving through the world became automatic.

In this conversation, Samantha and I explore what happened when she began questioning the life she thought she was supposed to live and learning to listen to herself again.

We talk about the difference between being alone and actually knowing yourself, why rest can feel…