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Breaking Down the Habit of Complaints - PT1 #147 · Encore Living

• 0:21
  Thor Challgren: What you're supposed to do when you don't like a thing is change it.
• 0:25
  Thor Challgren: If you can't change it, change the way you think about it, don't complain.
• 0:30
  Thor Challgren: Those are the words of Maya Angelou and named Notre Dame football coach.
• 0:37
  Thor Challgren: Lou Holtz said never tell your problems to anyone.
• 0:40
  Thor Challgren: 20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.
• 0:45
  Thor Challgren: I'm not sure if other people are glad that you have them, but it is worth considering.
• 0:52
  Thor Challgren: Do we complain too much?
• 0:53
  Thor Challgren: This week I start a new series on complaining.
• 0:57
  Thor Challgren: Hi, I'm Thor Challgren.
• 0:59
  Thor Challgren: Welcome to every day and you thought where I share a new thought, a new perspective.
• 1:04
  Thor Challgren: And this week I'm talking all about complaining Because I just finished the second week of a 16 week program.
• 1:14
  Thor Challgren: This comes from mental muscle.
• 1:15
  Thor Challgren: This is a program 16 weeks of spiritual boot camp.
• 1:19
  Thor Challgren: I'm doing it live with Dr James Mellon, but his book is available on Amazon.
• 1:23
  Thor Challgren: Put the link in the show description below.
• 1:25
  Thor Challgren: And I have to tell you this is such a great lesson for me because this is actually the second take of me recording this episode, because I did the entire first take and I want to edit it and discovered hey, where's the sound?
• 1:45
  Thor Challgren: Apparently, for some reason, I had no sound on that take.
• 1:49
  Thor Challgren: So in that moment I had a choice Was I can gonna complain about it or was I going to do something about it and in this case I could change it.
• 2:00
  Thor Challgren: I can go back and record it again.
• 2:02
  Thor Challgren: So I'm going to trust that there is a reason why I am now re recording this episode again, but that's not why I'm here.
• 2:12
  Thor Challgren: But I just think it was super interesting and funny to me that that actually happened on the episode where I was introducing the idea of no complaining.
• 2:20
  Thor Challgren: I'm sharing this because I've done this journey.
• 2:24
  Thor Challgren: Now I've done mental muscle, the live program.
• 2:27
  Thor Challgren: Probably this is at least my fifth time, and each time I do it I learn a new distinction.
• 2:33
  Thor Challgren: So I'm gonna share this week my thoughts on this idea of complaining.
• 2:38
  Thor Challgren: It is also interesting that doctor James has put complaining and no complaining as sort of the very beginning foundation of a sixteen week program, because it is foundational in the way that we decide to use our mind.
• 2:56
  Thor Challgren: When we are complaining, often we're unconscious, we're not thinking about things or we're playing the role of a victim, and so this idea of spending an entire week of looking at do you complain about things and if so, what is that say what are the belief systems behind that?
• 3:16
  Thor Challgren: So that's really why you're doing this.
• 3:18
  Thor Challgren: Again, I highly recommend looking at the book.
• 3:21
  Thor Challgren: There's a lot more where he talks about it.
• 3:23
  Thor Challgren: But what I'm gonna do is share my own experiences and apparently my podcast episode experiences in complaining and, for the record, I did not complain, I didn't even swear I did, I was just like okay, I don't have any audio, what am I gonna do about it?
• 3:37
  Thor Challgren: And that's the place that I hope that you get you.
• 3:39
  Thor Challgren: But for right now, the first thing you can do between now and 24 hours from now is look at your own life and examine, be mindful of the times when you may be complained.
• 3:53
  Thor Challgren: What you're looking for are the circumstances.
• 3:56
  Thor Challgren: Why do you complain?
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  Thor Challgren: When are you most likely to complain, and about what Is it about?
• 4:03
  Thor Challgren: Situations?
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  Thor Challgren: Is it about relationships?
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  Thor Challgren: Is it about your schedule, your time?
• 4:08
  Thor Challgren: Whatever it is?
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  Thor Challgren: Notice, pay attention to why you are complaining.
• 4:13
  Thor Challgren: And then tomorrow we're going to get into definitions of what complaining is and I'm going to share my own personal definition in one way that I think about how to avoid complaining, how to change it, how to fix it.
• 4:28
  Thor Challgren: I want to close this episode with a quote from Randy Pausch.
• 4:31
  Thor Challgren: You may know him from the last lecture.
• 4:35
  Thor Challgren: He was a university professor who knew that he had a limited amount of time left in his life and he wanted to pass down his knowledge, his wisdom, to his family.
• 4:44
  Thor Challgren: So he gave this lecture called the last lecture.
• 4:47
  Thor Challgren: You can look it up and here's what he said.
• 4:49
  Thor Challgren: I think this is just beautiful, brilliant thoughts, he said, "If you took one-tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you'd be surprised at how well things can work out.
• 5:04
  Thor Challgren: Complaining does not work as a strategy.
• 5:08
  Thor Challgren: We all have finite time and energy.
• 5:11
  Thor Challgren: Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals and it won't make us any happier.
• 5:21
  Thor Challgren: That's the show for today.
• 5:22
  Thor Challgren: I hope you enjoy this.
• 5:23
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• 5:27
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• 5:33
  Thor Challgren: As always, thanks for watching.
• 5:35
  Thor Challgren: As always, thanks for listening.