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The Indestructible Soldier: Wesley Grant’s Unbreakable Royal Marine Mindset · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: If gos do or die, don't come up with excuses
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  Speaker 1: and just get shipped done. Well, everyone's got the same
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  Speaker 1: twenty four hours in the day. You can't sleep whilst,
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  Speaker 1: I'd say sleep less, So stop making the excuses and
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  Speaker 1: start making solutions, regardless ofthing like can you're doing. Never
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  Speaker 1: give up. There's one thing worse than carrying on, and
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  Speaker 1: that's giving up life. Life is just worth living. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: don't look too deeply into the word fear, or rather
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  Speaker 1: just look at it head on, give it that mord
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  Speaker 1: and go for it. People come up with the excuses
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  Speaker 1: all the time. I don't have time for gym. You know,
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  Speaker 1: if only I had the time to prep my meals,
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  Speaker 1: if only I had the time, how could look like you? Well,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's got the same twenty four hours in the day,
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  Speaker 1: and it's just how you utilize them. If you only
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  Speaker 1: sleep for six hours, sleep faster. But you can't sleep faster,
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  Speaker 1: I'd say sleep less. If you need to have that done,
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  Speaker 1: you will get it done. You'll wake up earlier. You
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  Speaker 1: would go to the gym for you know, that one
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  Speaker 1: hour instead of sitting in bed. Managing that time and
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  Speaker 1: utilizing it. I try and at least dedicate to three
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  Speaker 1: hours for sleep, rest, and recovery. A lot of people
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  Speaker 1: say that's absolutely madness. You can't functional for that. I'm
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  Speaker 1: living proof you can. Don't come up with excuses. Just
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  Speaker 1: get shit done, you know, be stronger than your weakest
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  Speaker 1: excuse and get ship done. The more excuses you make,
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  Speaker 1: the less probability of getting that task done. So stop
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  Speaker 1: making the excuses and start making solutions. Stop finding an
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  Speaker 1: exit strategy and find a solution to find an entrance
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  Speaker 1: strategy into solving that problem that puzzle put in front
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  Speaker 1: of you. Anything in life worth doing is worth overdoing
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  Speaker 1: because moderation is from cowards. Don't be mediocre. Always be
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  Speaker 1: that extreme the elite. Push yourself, keep moving forward. Impossible
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  Speaker 1: is a word that I choose to ignore because nothing
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  Speaker 1: is impossible. So you just set those goals out in
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  Speaker 1: front of you and just go and smash them. Success
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  Speaker 1: is what you make of it of your own life.
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  Speaker 1: You create your own success. You have to be the
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  Speaker 1: master of your own destiny, you know, the captain of
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  Speaker 1: your own ship. Without pushing yourself, creating the time, overcoming
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  Speaker 1: those backlones, all the words that you've thrown in are
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  Speaker 1: never going to be successful. Because you keep making excuses.
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  Speaker 1: So stop making excuses and get ship done. My biggest
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  Speaker 1: fear is being the same as everyone else, and you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be governed by your fears. My name
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  Speaker 1: is Wesley grant people call me Big Grantee. Originally from
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  Speaker 1: South Africa, born and bred there, spent most of my
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  Speaker 1: time there as a teenager, growing up into my mid twenties,
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  Speaker 1: and I moved over to the UK with the ambitions
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  Speaker 1: of becoming a Royal Marine. Opportunity was presented to me
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  Speaker 1: by a recruiting team that came over to South Africa.
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  Speaker 1: I took that as another challenge and I thought that
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  Speaker 1: would be a great, you know, sort of string to
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  Speaker 1: my bow, to add to my life, sort of accomplishments
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  Speaker 1: and goals. And I've always wanted to be a military man,
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  Speaker 1: So knowing that coming over to England to join the
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  Speaker 1: Royal Marines, the best fighting force in the world and
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  Speaker 1: the longest and hardest NATO training in the world, was
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  Speaker 1: that challenge that I decided to accept and embark upon.
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  Speaker 1: In the process of doing that, I made a promise
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  Speaker 1: to myself, as you say, it's coming over, had I
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  Speaker 1: sold everything off, one bag on my back put some
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  Speaker 1: clothing items in and one hundred pounds in my pocket,
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  Speaker 1: came over to the UK knowing that my goal and
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  Speaker 1: my only goal, was to join the Royal Marines, and
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  Speaker 1: I came over with the intention on doing it, and
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  Speaker 1: there was no point of return for me. I had
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  Speaker 1: no exit strategy, no return ticket, no get out of
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  Speaker 1: jail free card. It was do or die, and that,
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  Speaker 1: I think is what led me to pursue the career
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  Speaker 1: that I did, and to adapt that state of mind
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  Speaker 1: that I did, and the mental attitude which was then doubled,
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  Speaker 1: if not tripled along the way, was in my military career.
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  Speaker 1: So embarking along that journey I think was the best
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  Speaker 1: thing that I could have ever done. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: people ask me why I always choose the most difficult route,
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  Speaker 1: and I tend to ask them the question, why do
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  Speaker 1: you always assume I see two routes. There's only one
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  Speaker 1: route for me, and that's the hard the route that
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  Speaker 1: I choose, the route that I am going to succeed in.
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  Speaker 1: There's only one end goal and outcome for me, and
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  Speaker 1: that's all the way or nothing at all. Everyone is
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  Speaker 1: naturally programmed to fear the loss of their own life
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  Speaker 1: the loss of experience in a traumatic experience like being shot,
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  Speaker 1: being blown up, being set on fire, for example, dealing
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  Speaker 1: with fear is done to the individual. I tackle them
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  Speaker 1: straight on and almost use it to my advantage at first,
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  Speaker 1: suppressing it, hiding it. That's pretty much the go to
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  Speaker 1: answer for for everyone. You know. You don't want to
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  Speaker 1: be seen as the weak character, as the person that's
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  Speaker 1: suffering from PTSD or is fearful of anything, afraid of heights,
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  Speaker 1: or whatever it may be. After I'd been caught in
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  Speaker 1: the fire, I was pretty fearful wildfire, in fact, to
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  Speaker 1: the degree that I couldn't even stand near a barbecue.
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't be around on Guy Fox Night. It's just
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  Speaker 1: one of those things that I sort of stepped back
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  Speaker 1: and away from, my shide away from, and that was
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  Speaker 1: my fear. Dealing with it was the next stage questioning anymore,
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  Speaker 1: why is he not standing around the barbecue or why
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  Speaker 1: is he over there when everyone was facing the fire
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  Speaker 1: works that side. So it's the way that you deal
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  Speaker 1: with it, You confront that fear, And the way I've
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  Speaker 1: confronted it is by hitting it head on, by utilizing
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  Speaker 1: whatever it was I was fearful of and turning it
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  Speaker 1: totally around and just taking full advantage of the situation
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  Speaker 1: by putting myself in that situation again. It's not like
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to go and run into a fire and
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  Speaker 1: set myself alight again. But what it was was becoming
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  Speaker 1: a firefighter where I'd have to now take on the dangers,
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  Speaker 1: putting myself, exposing myself to dangers to help other people
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  Speaker 1: out that may be in danger themselves. And it's that
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  Speaker 1: fear that's led me to now use it as a
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  Speaker 1: positive to help other people that could be fearing fire themselves.
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  Speaker 1: The biggest thing I could have learned from the military
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  Speaker 1: was controlling your mind and the state of mind that
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  Speaker 1: you're in. So every situation that anyone goes through will
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  Speaker 1: have a negative impact on you. So whether it be
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  Speaker 1: from loss of a family member to a car accident,
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  Speaker 1: being diagnosed with a disease or incurable element, the way
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  Speaker 1: you deal with that is obviously dictated by your state
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  Speaker 1: of mind. So you can either, you know, just accept
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  Speaker 1: it and take it for what it is, let it
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  Speaker 1: get the better of you and pretty much eat your way,
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  Speaker 1: and you know you're not going to experience life to
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  Speaker 1: the fullest, and you're obviously just going to let it
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  Speaker 1: get the better of you, Whereas I think it's instilled
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  Speaker 1: in me to take that and turn it into a positive,
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  Speaker 1: find a solution, find a way of overcoming it. I'll
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  Speaker 1: almost take it as a challenge. I'm very competitive, so
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  Speaker 1: any challenge presented in front of me, I would hit
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  Speaker 1: full on from the front and let's go for it.
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  Speaker 1: So I'll take everything, use the state of mind that
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  Speaker 1: I've learned to adapt over the years, within the monetary
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  Speaker 1: as a positive state of wine, and push myself to
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  Speaker 1: overcome in whatever it is. Those demons. That is what
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  Speaker 1: you have to overcome. Now everyone's got demons and it's
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  Speaker 1: how we deal with them, which you know is the
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  Speaker 1: ultimate result. At first, people said why was I drinking?
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  Speaker 1: And that was to drown my demons. Eventually, my demons
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  Speaker 1: learned to have a swim and the drink wasn't carrying that,
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  Speaker 1: so I had to find something else, and I've used
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  Speaker 1: gym as my release and I find that's my therapy too, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: to chase out the demons. And again it's that mindset
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  Speaker 1: to take any negative and turn it into a positive.
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  Speaker 1: If somebody wanted to be a Royal Marine's commander in
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  Speaker 1: terms of their character or their mindset, what were some
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  Speaker 1: of the attributes they would need to have. I'd say
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  Speaker 1: the strongest attribute that you would need is the mindset
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  Speaker 1: of a warrior, of an absolute lion, the toughest of
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  Speaker 1: the tough, and it's only because your mind is what
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  Speaker 1: is going to carry you through. It is the strongest
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  Speaker 1: muscle in your body. You could take marines put them
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  Speaker 1: side by side. Not all of them looked like me.
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  Speaker 1: We had some, you know, of my best friends, half
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  Speaker 1: my size, half my weight, half my height, and the
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  Speaker 1: exact same capabilities. At the end of it, we passed
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  Speaker 1: the exact same testing, so the standards never dropped. There
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  Speaker 1: was always a set criteria that you had to meet,
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  Speaker 1: and regardless of who they were or their physical look
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  Speaker 1: or shape, it was their mind that got them to
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  Speaker 1: that end goal. You've all just got to get through it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's your mindset that takes you to that next level
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  Speaker 1: or that criteria that you have to meet. I think
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  Speaker 1: the body is what you make it. You can always
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  Speaker 1: train to become an ultramarathon runner. You could train to
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  Speaker 1: become a strong man competitor and lifter or powerlifter. You
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  Speaker 1: could train to become the fastest swimmer. But your mind
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  Speaker 1: is the strongest part of your body because it's something
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  Speaker 1: that is forever developing, and if you don't take control
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  Speaker 1: of it, it could make or break you within an instant.
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  Speaker 1: It's got the ability to bring the strongest men to
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  Speaker 1: their knees, and it's got the ability to lift the
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  Speaker 1: weakest person to the heights of the highest towers. So
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  Speaker 1: it's something that you've really got to use to your
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  Speaker 1: advantage being the strongest muscle. Utilize it, make it your friend,
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  Speaker 1: use it to the best of your to what you
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  Speaker 1: can for whatever goals are set out in front of you,
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  Speaker 1: to whatever obstacles are set out in front of you.
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  Speaker 1: And like I've always said, overcoming things, it's just down
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  Speaker 1: to the state of mind that you've you've got and
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  Speaker 1: that you persevere and push through, whether it be a
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  Speaker 1: sticky situation or you know, a great one. Everything that
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  Speaker 1: you do in life, make time for, whether it be
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  Speaker 1: for your kids, for your passion, for progression studies, for
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is. You need to just make that time.
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  Speaker 1: Stop making excuses, make the time for it. I love
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  Speaker 1: by saying that I'm always the hardest worker in the
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  Speaker 1: room the harder work you put in, the bigger the rewards.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's again further up the tree climb suite
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  Speaker 1: to the fruits that bear. Going through tours of Afghanistan,
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  Speaker 1: you know, seeing things that we did experience in things
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  Speaker 1: that normal people shouldn't have to experience, creative demons and
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  Speaker 1: everyone has a certain level of acceptance of those demons.
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  Speaker 1: And it doesn't necessarily have to be you know, the
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  Speaker 1: military side of things. That could be any situation, as
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  Speaker 1: I've previously mentioned again, from illnesses to losses to any situation.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone has their own story and within that story there's
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  Speaker 1: positives and negatives, goods and bads. And from the bads
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  Speaker 1: they are those demons, and I like to obviously refer
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  Speaker 1: to them as demons. It's those negative setbacks, the stuff
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  Speaker 1: which is holding your back, the stuff which is cramping
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  Speaker 1: your style, which is preventing you from progressing or moving forward.
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  Speaker 1: Those demons are dealt with in different and manners, and
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  Speaker 1: there's different ways and mechanisms that we used, you know,
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  Speaker 1: to overcome them. Like I had said, I drank, they
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  Speaker 1: learned how to swim, and I have to find an alternative.
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  Speaker 1: Some people turn to drugs, Some people turn to footness.
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  Speaker 1: Some people just talk about it, some people go the
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  Speaker 1: other way and don't talk about it, and everyone's got
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  Speaker 1: their own way of dealing with it. Now, if you
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  Speaker 1: don't progress, that's when the issues start happening and the
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  Speaker 1: mental illness side of things come into effect. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: big advocate on that. I lost my sister to mental
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  Speaker 1: illness and it's something that I support and I rarely
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  Speaker 1: don't turn the blind eye to people suffer from PTSD,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a blase, a taboo subject initially until you
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  Speaker 1: know someone that is actually suffering from these things. And
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  Speaker 1: PTSD doesn't necessarily have to be from military experience. It
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  Speaker 1: could be from any traumatic experience that you exposed to.
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  Speaker 1: And if you don't talk about it, those demons build
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  Speaker 1: up and eventually they could consume your life and consume you.
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  Speaker 1: Stand by those people to let them know that they're
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  Speaker 1: not alone. It's something that hit home for me, and
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  Speaker 1: somethings got hold close to my heart to I've always
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  Speaker 1: been a bog applcate of saying, never give up. Regardless
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  Speaker 1: of what you're doing, never give up. So there's one
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  Speaker 1: thing worse than carrying on, and that's giving up so
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  Speaker 1: if you do give up, that's it. You've got no
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  Speaker 1: no comebacks to that. I always say keep moving. If
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  Speaker 1: I stop moving, I think that's when I'll fade away
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  Speaker 1: and break for by the way side. That absolutely humble.
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  Speaker 1: I'll have to have purpose for my day. And whatever
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  Speaker 1: the purpose is, whether it's be to be a better,
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  Speaker 1: better father, whether it's to walk taller, walk the extra bit, further,
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  Speaker 1: be prouder, dress smarter, train harder, lift heavier, it's keep moving,
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  Speaker 1: keep doing that, keep pushing yourself forward the whole time. Life.
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  Speaker 1: Life is just worth living. It's it's worth being there,
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  Speaker 1: it's experiencing things, pushing yourself, just being, just being