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Mini Glow Ups That Improve Your Week · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on Gaddigle Land, Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hey chicks, I'm out and this
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Speaker 1: is Two Boat Chicks, the show that shares life lessons
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Speaker 1: and tips to help make you rich in love? And
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Speaker 1: how's everyone's long weekend? You are? We do from the
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Speaker 1: post long weekend? I know, does everyone have the scaries?
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Speaker 1: Does everyone feel renewed? Did everyone need lots of chocolate?
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Speaker 1: I hope so? I know yield did? Oh? Absolutely? On
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Speaker 1: that note, we are going to be talking about the
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Speaker 1: mini glow ups that improve your week. You chicks know
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Speaker 1: we love cheeky little glow up, cheeky little refresh and
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Speaker 1: so do you chicks. Before we get into that, of course,
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Speaker 1: we have to discuss our obsessions of the week. We're
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Speaker 1: recording this on a Wednesday because of your long weekend vibes.
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Speaker 1: So I'm like, we hasn't even happened. I'm like, what
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Speaker 1: am I obsessed with? But I'm gonna throw a tea
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Speaker 1: fifth You're like, so on that though, on the sinking
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Speaker 1: sand of the ship that we are on the sinking
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Speaker 1: sand of the ship, I love it. I feel like
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Speaker 1: the coffee table book is just growing and growing. But
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Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is some very good news
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Speaker 1: I think for everyone in Australia, and it's that the
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Speaker 1: succulent Chinese meal man has been memorialized forever because that
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Speaker 1: speech has been added to Australia's national film and sound archives.
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Speaker 1: Shut up. Yeah, I love him, I know, and he
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Speaker 1: did pass away, but so yeah, what a great opportunity
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Speaker 1: way to remember an Australian icon. For all those who
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Speaker 1: don't recall, there was a very very viral YouTube video
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Speaker 1: that had a man who was wrongly arrested in a bar.
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Speaker 1: They thought he was like the head of some mob, yeah,
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Speaker 1: or like a drug cartel in Australia. And so he's
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Speaker 1: in this like Chinese restaurant. Absolutely peace. I was gonna
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Speaker 1: say that I indulged. Yeah, he absolutely sloshed, as the
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Speaker 1: king he is. And they go in and this like
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Speaker 1: FBI swat team go and get this man and drag
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Speaker 1: him out. And then these cameras are there because they
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Speaker 1: think it's this big operation, but they've got the wrong guy. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: And so they pull out this older gentleman and he's going,
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Speaker 1: what is the charge? Eating a meal? Eating a succular
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Speaker 1: Chinese meal? And then and then he's just he did
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Speaker 1: say an interview later on, like sixty minutes he was like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I started just like being a dickhead. Yes, and he goes, oh,
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Speaker 1: look at the headlock on this one because like the
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Speaker 1: police have him, and then he's going, get your hands
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Speaker 1: off my pinis. It is just so unhinged and so chaotic,
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Speaker 1: and in the interferiors no one had their hand not
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Speaker 1: my penis, no one, no one. No. Yeah, he was
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Speaker 1: just fucking with them because he knew that he had
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Speaker 1: been wrongly arrested. So it was like, what is going on?
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Speaker 1: And I don't know why it was filmed, but I'm
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Speaker 1: so glad it was. Oh and now it's a piece
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Speaker 1: of Australian history, truly an Australian history. I would put
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Speaker 1: that like above the bin chicken. Oh yeah, yeah, wow,
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Speaker 1: We've got so many good iconic like moments out of
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Speaker 1: Australia like that. Yeah, they came bounding out over those
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Speaker 1: twins who are essentially nice. It'll be next seriously like
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Speaker 1: Australian culture so like cooked, it's not even funny like
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Speaker 1: drop bears. I know, like we're so unserious. That's why
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Speaker 1: I'm almany part reak high because I feel like that
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Speaker 1: was one of the only shows I've seen recently actually
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Speaker 1: like tapped into it. Encapture the Esha gabbering, the guy
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Speaker 1: with the sign, the Newtown guy with the sign, like
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Speaker 1: the Rage music video so good. Ten out of ten yea.
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Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is, as you know, I
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Speaker 1: have my peaks and valleys of like at home beauty,
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Speaker 1: and I'll be like, yeah, I'll do that, or yeah
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Speaker 1: I'll do that because I just can't be bothered to
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Speaker 1: It comes from wan a cost efficient point of view,
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Speaker 1: and then also the fact that I'm like, I can't
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Speaker 1: be fuck to leave my house and go sit somewhere
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Speaker 1: for two hours, can be bothered to go sit and
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Speaker 1: do my ails for two hours and a sour on
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Speaker 1: cart be bothered to go get my eyebrows one for
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Speaker 1: two hours? Fit in has sound like I just want
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Speaker 1: to be at home watching Kelly. Yeah, totally. Anyway, I
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Speaker 1: bought these lash extensions off Amazon and they're ten out
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Speaker 1: of ten. I'm not saying they're good for my lashes,
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Speaker 1: because I'm sure they're probably not, Like I don't think
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Speaker 1: lash extensions are good for your lashes, but I'm like,
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Speaker 1: what's up? Piece a town pick your battles exactly. But
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Speaker 1: they were literally fifteen dollars for these like cluster lash
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Speaker 1: extensions that you put on like a little bond misca
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Speaker 1: thing on your lashes and then you just stick them
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Speaker 1: on as if you were putting on fake lashes, and
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Speaker 1: then use a ceilant and but being butta boom, you've
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Speaker 1: got lash extensions. It took me fifteen minutes. Yeah, they
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Speaker 1: look so good, Like it literally was so quick to
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Speaker 1: do it, and you get such a huge pack, and
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Speaker 1: especially with like you know, the price that I have
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Speaker 1: paid in the past for lash extensions, and I feel
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Speaker 1: like I was really able to customize it to like
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Speaker 1: how I like them. I was like, what's your uncle?
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Speaker 1: It is such an individual thing because sometimes I feel
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Speaker 1: like I did come out looking like Cindilu, who which
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Speaker 1: I always loved that I know you love that there's
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Speaker 1: a time and a place for Cindy Lou. It's true.
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Speaker 1: On that note, let's get into our mini glow ups.
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Speaker 1: So before we get into the episode, I wanted to
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Speaker 1: talk about this really interesting theory that I came across
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Speaker 1: in my research in the resuit, and it's kind of
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Speaker 1: why mini glow ups are really good to put into
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Speaker 1: your week because they restructure your perception and your feeling
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Speaker 1: of the week that you had. And it's called the
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Speaker 1: peak end rule. You're gonna love this. So the peak
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Speaker 1: and rule is a hack to basically have a good
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Speaker 1: week every week, or a good day every day, or
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Speaker 1: a good month, like a certain period of time that
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Speaker 1: when you look back, you go, yeah, that was that
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Speaker 1: was a good vibe. So the peak end rule states
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Speaker 1: that when we look back at an event or an experience,
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Speaker 1: our recollections and opinions are heavily influenced by what happened
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Speaker 1: at its peak intensity and at the end right right.
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Speaker 1: So for example, like let's say if we were going
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Speaker 1: to do a day and that day at work, you
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Speaker 1: had to have a meeting with like a colleague that's
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Speaker 1: really rude and you don't like them, and then on
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Speaker 1: the way home you miss the train or your bus
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Speaker 1: right right, So then you're out home and you're like,
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Speaker 1: I just had the worst day. I had this confrontation
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Speaker 1: with the colleague that I don't like, and I missed
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Speaker 1: the bus on the way home. You would then chalk
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Speaker 1: the rest of that day up to not being a
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Speaker 1: good day. When ninety percent of the rest of the
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Speaker 1: day was actually fine or even good, because our memories
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Speaker 1: also form like a large part of our behavior, and
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Speaker 1: of course negative experiences are a part of that because
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Speaker 1: that's also what like teaches our brain to be like no,
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Speaker 1: we don't like that, let's not do that again, or
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Speaker 1: like when that happens again, this is how I'm going
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Speaker 1: to do that differently. So I'm not saying like that's
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Speaker 1: just a racal negative experiences I have to miss the
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Speaker 1: bus and be like yeah, yeah, or being like okay,
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Speaker 1: like maybe I will organize myself a little bit earlier,
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Speaker 1: whatever it is, right, But we can also reframe this
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Speaker 1: theory to use it in a positive lens and kind
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Speaker 1: of like hack our weeks essentially, so by strategically placing
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Speaker 1: peaks aka micro glow ups or mini glow ups with
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Speaker 1: intention during and at the end of our weeks, we
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Speaker 1: can basically look back comfortably and consciously and be like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I had a good week. So you don't need to
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Speaker 1: have the perfect day every day. You just need to
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Speaker 1: have a positive peak and a good ending. And that's
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Speaker 1: like I thought, that was just so interesting. And I
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Speaker 1: was talking to your friend yesterday who had like a
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Speaker 1: really rough day, like she just had a shit day,
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Speaker 1: And I was like, look, sometimes you just have to
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Speaker 1: blame it on the moon and be like that one
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Speaker 1: was not good. Ye have a foul mood. What twas that? Right?
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Speaker 1: But then I'm like then I say to her, But
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Speaker 1: I was like, but tomorrow or the next day, like
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Speaker 1: maybe go out with her boyfriend and go get ice
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Speaker 1: cream at that place that you really wanted to go to,
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Speaker 1: and then on Sunday do something really fun. So that way,
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Speaker 1: it's like you can kind of try to make a
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Speaker 1: different peak than she had. Yeah, exactly, Like the biggest
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Speaker 1: thing of the week wasn't wasn't the bad thing that happened.
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Speaker 1: It was a purposeful positive thing that you were like,
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Speaker 1: all right, this bad thing happened. So I need to
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Speaker 1: actually make a different peak. I need to reset something
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Speaker 1: or make something else happen and ensure I end my
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Speaker 1: Sunday with like a positive thing. So that way, when
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Speaker 1: I do my rule of thumb theory and I look
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Speaker 1: at the week in general, I'm looking at my peak
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Speaker 1: and my end in a positive lens. And again that's
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Speaker 1: not always going to be the case. Sometimes the moon's
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Speaker 1: just moaning. It's the moon is mooning, You'll be like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: chucking up, Yeah right, stack have fu with that one, motherfucker.
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. So Moon's like I'm an ethereal creature. I
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Speaker 1: never did that, do you know? I say good night
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Speaker 1: to the moon cute. When I get into bed, I
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Speaker 1: go night moon and give it a little kiss. I
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Speaker 1: don't know if that started from like the bear and
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Speaker 1: the Big Blue house. So that's who I was imagining.
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Speaker 1: But I wouldn't be mooning us because she was so sweet. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I love saying good night to the moon. That's like
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Speaker 1: a little whimsy thing that I do. Oh, I love
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Speaker 1: every day And like sometimes I don't do it out loud,
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Speaker 1: Like if Rob's in the bed, I just like look
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Speaker 1: at them and give it a little Okay, So sau
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Speaker 1: hit me, what's your first mini glow up to improve
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Speaker 1: your week? Become a good conversationalist? Oh my god, don't
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Speaker 1: you reckon that? A lot of the time when we're
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Speaker 1: having convos during the week, whether it's like with our
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Speaker 1: work friends or even with our partners. When you get
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Speaker 1: home or the barista, it's just the same chat over
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Speaker 1: and over, and you sometimes get stuck in a loop
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Speaker 1: of asking the same questions. I have like a rolodex
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Speaker 1: of the same questions in adulthood, and we also have
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Speaker 1: a rolodex of the same answers. Like being busy is
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Speaker 1: basically a personality trait, which I do that all the time.
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Speaker 1: I always go, fuck, no, I shouldn't say that. I know.
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Speaker 1: I had that realization the other day that I'm like,
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Speaker 1: that's always my go to Yeah, busy, busy with work,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, that's so bored, so worrying, like or
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Speaker 1: at least elaborate, like say what you've been busy with,
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Speaker 1: Like we're working on this and this is happening, yeah,
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Speaker 1: Like reframe it to be something a bit more interesting
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Speaker 1: and also something that someone can engage with, which is
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Speaker 1: one of the miniglow ups. Well, that is part of
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Speaker 1: the mini glow up and how to be a good
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Speaker 1: conversationalist and get out of that habit that I think
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Speaker 1: a lot of us are stuck in, which I don't
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Speaker 1: know if it's because that's just something that happens as
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Speaker 1: you grow up and you're like tired effort to put
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Speaker 1: into combo or if because we spend so much more
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Speaker 1: time now like chatting online and by digital mediums. But
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Speaker 1: there was this really interesting sub stack published by Bella Dane,
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Speaker 1: and the article was titled The Art of Conversation, and
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Speaker 1: she talked about how to make great conversation in the
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Speaker 1: modern era. So some of the I'll link the whole
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Speaker 1: article in the show notes so you can your chicks
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Speaker 1: can have a read. But some of the key takeaways
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Speaker 1: was letting go of the idea that you need to
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Speaker 1: say a lot in a conversation with people. The more
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Speaker 1: that you're speaking and taking on the conversation, the less
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Speaker 1: you're retaining. So it's like you're sort of just focused
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Speaker 1: on the things that you're saying and what you're going
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Speaker 1: to say next, rather than actually listening to what the
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Speaker 1: other person is saying. And because do you ever feel
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Speaker 1: the pressure to like fill in the silence, Yes, yeah, right,
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Speaker 1: and like that you always have to have like a
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Speaker 1: response or a question or something. But it's like you're
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Speaker 1: not actually giving yourself the space to think of something
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Speaker 1: that you actually want to ask or say. It's more
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Speaker 1: like an expectation that you put on yourself rather than
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Speaker 1: letting the conversation flow. And then so part of that
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Speaker 1: is letting people talk about themselves a lot. Of us,
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Speaker 1: I think, in a conversation will talk and then we
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Speaker 1: feel like we need to be like, oh, that happened
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Speaker 1: to me, and like jump in. When it is like
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Speaker 1: a relatability thing, a lot of us jump in and
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Speaker 1: will be like, oh my god, I know that happened
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Speaker 1: to me, or that reminds me of this because we're
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Speaker 1: trying to relate to the person. But then it it
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Speaker 1: means that you're not actually paying attention to what they're saying.
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Speaker 1: I think, of course you can still jump in, but
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Speaker 1: wait until they finish their story, because people do love
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Speaker 1: to talk about themselves, but you have to give them
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Speaker 1: the chance. So if you know that like that is
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Speaker 1: your tendency and that maybe you'll get excited and jump
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Speaker 1: in in those moments, maybe try and be a little
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Speaker 1: bit more present and be like, oh, hold on to
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Speaker 1: that thought, and once they finish, then I can jump
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Speaker 1: in and be like oh my god, Sam, and like
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Speaker 1: actually engage in that conversation with them, asking more interesting
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Speaker 1: and intentional questions, see how do we do that? Well,
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Speaker 1: what do you genuinely want to know? So, like if
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Speaker 1: somebody is if you're asking, like what are you doing
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Speaker 1: this weekend? And somebody tells you like, oh, I'm going
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Speaker 1: to see my cousin, and so I be like, oh,
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Speaker 1: where do they live, what do they do? Like blah blah.
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Speaker 1: Like actually ask follow up questions to have more of
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Speaker 1: a conversation rather than just leaving it there. Yeah, Or
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Speaker 1: if somebody is like, you know, just chilling at home,
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Speaker 1: you can be like, oh, well, what are you watching?
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Speaker 1: Are you reading anything at the moment? Or I need
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Speaker 1: a new podcast to listen to? Do you have any
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Speaker 1: REX for me? And like, actually have some of those
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Speaker 1: follow up questions kind of prepared in your mind, because
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Speaker 1: I think a lot of people as well they also
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Speaker 1: have those go to responses being like nothing, yeah, but
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Speaker 1: it's like you can't really go anywhere off of them.
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Speaker 1: But if you're genuinely interested in what they're doing, having
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Speaker 1: some of those follow up questions ready to go can
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Speaker 1: extend the conversation. Yeah, don't go on autopilot. So you
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Speaker 1: know when people ask how are you and you're always
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Speaker 1: just like fine, like actually say how you're feeling. I
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Speaker 1: also think it's okay to like also sometimes like the
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Speaker 1: best conversations are the ones you don't have, like it's
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Speaker 1: sitting in silence and like spending time with people because
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Speaker 1: I think part of the reason why conversations and maybe
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Speaker 1: we're not as good conversationalists is the fact that we
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Speaker 1: always feel like we have to have a conversation. So
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Speaker 1: when you're always talking to someone, and I think it's
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Speaker 1: a lot of the catch up conversation. Like one of
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Speaker 1: my long distance friends that it's now so easy to
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Speaker 1: talk to is because we just don't actually even talk
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Speaker 1: about our lives, Like we don't go how's work, how's
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Speaker 1: your partner, how's this going on? We're talking about like
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Speaker 1: the most random things that we've seen online. And there's
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Speaker 1: this thing that you can have in relationships called anchors. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and so it's about like common interests that you can
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Speaker 1: use to fuel your conversations rather than relying on someone's
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Speaker 1: life or anything to be going on to be the
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Speaker 1: source of conversation. Because a lot of the time people
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Speaker 1: are really tired and they're like, what is going on
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Speaker 1: in my life? Like what I don't really know because
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Speaker 1: they've been on an autopilot, they've been in their head
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Speaker 1: work is crazy, and so they're like, oh, busy, or
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Speaker 1: I know I feel this that sometimes like I don't
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Speaker 1: want to talk about my life because I'm like, ah,
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Speaker 1: I just lived that day and I'm like, I can't
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Speaker 1: be bothered to like talk about that marketing meeting or
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Speaker 1: whatever that data thing I need to work on is
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Speaker 1: I'm like boring. So having anchors in friendship actually a
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Speaker 1: conversation fuelers that you can rely on to stimulate conversation
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Speaker 1: that actually has nothing to do with anyone. So that
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Speaker 1: way you don't fall into that trap of being like, oh, yeah,
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Speaker 1: that thing happened to me and then you're going, oh,
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Speaker 1: I actually wasn't. Okay, that's my story. So for example,
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Speaker 1: like we love RuPaul's Drag Race, so we'll talk about
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Speaker 1: like what happened that week on RuPaul's Drag Race, or
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Speaker 1: you know, one of the cheeks that works with us
16:38
Speaker 1: on the pod, we both love Secret Lives of Mormon
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Speaker 1: Wives and we've been really diving into that every week,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, that is just the easiest thing to
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Speaker 1: and have such a fun, engaging conversation with someone. Or
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Speaker 1: if you both love the same type of books, like
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Speaker 1: you can talk about that, like find anchors within your
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Speaker 1: friendships to help center and fuel conversations beyond being like
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Speaker 1: how was your week? I'm not saying, don't ask how
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Speaker 1: was your week, because that's also important to know. But
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Speaker 1: I can't be asked to like go on and backtrack
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Speaker 1: like what I did did the last seven days, because
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Speaker 1: I'm like I already did that. I'm moving on. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: exactly past there. I didn't even know. I can't tell
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Speaker 1: you what I have a dinner last night. I can
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Speaker 1: it was pasta. But it's always a safe bet. Yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: And it also then gives you the motivation to if
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Speaker 1: it is tied to a show or a book or
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Speaker 1: whatever it is, like every week, you know, on like
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Speaker 1: a Sunday morning, you would have watched through Paul's drag.
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Speaker 1: You said, that's the time that you'll be like A, right,
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Speaker 1: what did you think? Yeah, because especially with friends like
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Speaker 1: that that you don't get to see in person all
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Speaker 1: the time. And then exactly like you said, those questions
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Speaker 1: about how is your week or how is this thing?
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Speaker 1: Like I know you had this interview, those will come
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Speaker 1: in naturally as well. But then you also have a
17:52
Speaker 1: mutual interest that you can talk about. I saw on
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Speaker 1: TikTok this chick was saying that she does this thing
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Speaker 1: with her friends called waffle Wednesdays. Oh, I think we've
18:01
Speaker 1: tatted about this on the pore and they send each
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Speaker 1: other just like voice notes, Yeah, or like Wednesday is
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Speaker 1: that anchor day for them, and they'll just like use
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Speaker 1: it to talk about whatever they want, but they know
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Speaker 1: it's basically when they're exchanging their weekly podcasts with each other. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: which I think is a really cute idea too. But
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Speaker 1: on that note, about like the pressure to have conversation
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Speaker 1: when you are having a conversation with someone, also remember
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Speaker 1: that you can take a breath before you respond, and
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Speaker 1: that there's allowed to be dead air in a conversation.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to like jump in with the first
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Speaker 1: thing that springs to your mind because you feel like
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Speaker 1: it's going to be awkward or Yeah, the pressure to
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Speaker 1: keep it flowing, Like take a breath and remember that
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Speaker 1: you can take a moment to actually collect your thoughts
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Speaker 1: so that you can ask those intentional questions or whatever
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Speaker 1: is going to propel a more meaningful conversation. Yeah, And
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Speaker 1: I do think that's helpful reminders because like, as someone
18:54
Speaker 1: with like a bit of a sparkly brain, a lot
18:57
Speaker 1: of those things are not necessarily things that you know
19:01
Speaker 1: everyone notes or thinks of and control. Yeah, like a
19:05
Speaker 1: lot of people that are neurodivergent, their way of having
19:09
Speaker 1: conversations and relating to people is telling a story about themselves,
19:12
Speaker 1: or when they get excited, they do interrupt people when
19:14
Speaker 1: they're talking, and I don't think that makes them, you know,
19:17
Speaker 1: a bad conversational list. And I know that's not what
19:19
Speaker 1: you're saying either. Yeah, but it's just also finding the
19:21
Speaker 1: ways to kind of make conversations more fun and less
19:24
Speaker 1: routine in terms of integrating this into your weekly rituals,
19:29
Speaker 1: also bookending your day with check ins. In a relationship,
19:33
Speaker 1: so if it is with your partner or your roommate,
19:36
Speaker 1: or even like your sister if you guys don't live together,
19:40
Speaker 1: ask questions at the end of every day, even if
19:43
Speaker 1: it is the same one, like what was your peek
19:45
Speaker 1: and pit of today or your childlight of the day? Yeah,
19:48
Speaker 1: or like what are you grateful for today? Whatever you
19:51
Speaker 1: want to do, or even just like my sister and
19:54
Speaker 1: I say good night and good morning to each other
19:56
Speaker 1: every single day, and sometimes we'll talk to each other
19:59
Speaker 1: throughout the day and ask each other questions or give
20:01
Speaker 1: each other updates, but at the bare minimum, we always
20:04
Speaker 1: say yeah, good morning and good night. That's so cute.
20:08
Speaker 1: Good that moon. Okay, my next miniglow up to improve
20:14
Speaker 1: your week is they leave the house better rule. So
20:18
Speaker 1: this is the one rule to make your life feel
20:20
Speaker 1: like ten times more together. And it literally takes two minutes,
20:24
Speaker 1: and it's less about productivity and more about momentum and
20:28
Speaker 1: like fabulous, Yeah, someone who's running on all cylinders basically
20:32
Speaker 1: ninety nine percent of the day. Yeah, And it's essentially
20:36
Speaker 1: before you leave the house, do one thing that future
20:39
Speaker 1: you will benefit from. So empty the dishwasherup, put on
20:43
Speaker 1: a load of washing, wiping down the bench, cleaning the
20:45
Speaker 1: bathroom after getting ready, still working on that one, taking
20:49
Speaker 1: something out to like defrost from the freezer. And it's
20:52
Speaker 1: like you don't have to do all of those things,
20:54
Speaker 1: it's just doing one of them. Yeah, so before you
20:57
Speaker 1: leave that when you come in the door, oh so
21:01
Speaker 1: glad I did that. That's done. Or like even just
21:03
Speaker 1: making your bed in the morning, Like it's the smallest
21:06
Speaker 1: shift from being reactive to proactive. So that way you
21:09
Speaker 1: don't come in and you go, I've got to do that.
21:11
Speaker 1: I've got to do that. I've got to do that. I've
21:12
Speaker 1: got to do that, and you'll get to the end
21:14
Speaker 1: of the week and you kind of come home to
21:16
Speaker 1: a life that's slightly handled and you're like, good job
21:20
Speaker 1: whoever was on that shift. Yeah, yeah, literally, and it's
21:25
Speaker 1: like you don't need a full reset, but it's just
21:28
Speaker 1: a little thing because one you're also gonna get the
21:30
Speaker 1: fabulous little sexy dope for me in head of like
21:33
Speaker 1: doing that one task before you leave. But it's like
21:37
Speaker 1: putting a pretty little note on the door being like
21:40
Speaker 1: leave the house better, as like a reminder me, like
21:43
Speaker 1: do you know what did I'll go chuck the dishwasher
21:45
Speaker 1: on quickly like whatever it is that takes five minutes.
21:48
Speaker 1: If that you go, oh, I'm glad I did that,
21:51
Speaker 1: because it's nice to come in and walk into when
21:54
Speaker 1: you get home. And I saw this like rule or
22:01
Speaker 1: hack if you will, and it's called the five five
22:05
Speaker 1: five decluttering Rule. Ooh, like you're going to enjoy this
22:10
Speaker 1: and it's basically a twenty five minute life hack that
22:12
Speaker 1: will change your life. And you set a timer for
22:15
Speaker 1: five minutes, focus on five different zones or areas like kitchen, counter, entryway,
22:23
Speaker 1: junk draw, bathroom, cabinet, bedside, table, bookshelf, whatever you want,
22:29
Speaker 1: and then remove five items or clean five things from
22:33
Speaker 1: each zone. But you've got a total of twenty five
22:36
Speaker 1: minutes to just do a little declutter, and over time
22:41
Speaker 1: the compound interest of that task, you'll end up being like, ah,
22:46
Speaker 1: my house clean. Yeah. I like that. That reminds me
22:50
Speaker 1: of something that I've seen online called chore snacking, which
22:52
Speaker 1: is essentially the same concept of breaking up your chores
22:56
Speaker 1: into those micro manageable bites so that you're not leaving
23:01
Speaker 1: an entire deep clean for the weekend every single weekend.
23:05
Speaker 1: It just makes it so much easier to stay on
23:08
Speaker 1: top of it. And I actually saw this article that
23:10
Speaker 1: was published in Stylists and they were talking about chork
23:14
Speaker 1: snacking with a psychologist and she was saying that because
23:18
Speaker 1: you're using short bursts of energy when you're doing chor
23:22
Speaker 1: snacking or like the is it the five five five yes? Five? No,
23:27
Speaker 1: five five five five yeah? Yeah, whether you're doing chork
23:32
Speaker 1: snacking or the five five five method, you're using those
23:36
Speaker 1: short bursts of energy and you're not relying on like
23:40
Speaker 1: long term momentum to get stuff done, which is what
23:43
Speaker 1: happens when, like you know, on a Sunday wordrobe cleaner,
23:48
Speaker 1: you literally have like one cowboy boot on a sparkly fedora.
23:53
Speaker 1: You're reading a letter from a journal that you wrote
23:55
Speaker 1: in your password locked diary from when you're eleven, going
23:58
Speaker 1: this is good stuff. Yeah exactly, i'maublish this and like
24:01
Speaker 1: surrounded by coat hangers and like clothes that you're like,
24:03
Speaker 1: fuck and you like have pulled everything out and you're like, well,
24:06
Speaker 1: I have fun looking at everything. Then you gotta put
24:08
Speaker 1: it all away and you're like, what have I done? Yeah,
24:10
Speaker 1: and you're like, I have no motivation to do that.
24:12
Speaker 1: It's actually is study. I can't remember what it is,
24:16
Speaker 1: but we'll have to put in the show netes for something,
24:17
Speaker 1: and it's it is actually the amount of time you
24:20
Speaker 1: have before you lose interest in a deer clutter. Oh
24:24
Speaker 1: and fuck me, have I not hit that a billion
24:26
Speaker 1: times in my life? No, I'm surprised we don't recognize
24:29
Speaker 1: the patten. I like, I feel like the five five
24:31
Speaker 1: five for me since I'm not a morning person. That's
24:33
Speaker 1: like when I get home, like that twenty five minute.
24:36
Speaker 1: I have a reminder set at seven pm every day
24:41
Speaker 1: to like do my mini apartment clean, and I just
24:44
Speaker 1: like put things away because when I walk in the
24:45
Speaker 1: door I'm really like a full shed shoes off, jack
24:49
Speaker 1: it off, lay on the couch two minutes. Yeah, you've
24:51
Speaker 1: got to do it. Yeah. And then I have like
24:53
Speaker 1: the little thing being like do you twenty five minute clean?
24:55
Speaker 1: And I'm like easy done, Thanks Maleka, thanks Schmelexa. I
25:01
Speaker 1: real queen that one. Yeah she is. We owe her
25:03
Speaker 1: so much. She's pa. Okay. One of my go to
25:08
Speaker 1: mini glow ups to make my week better is to
25:11
Speaker 1: pay off my sleep debt. Ooh yeah. So I just
25:17
Speaker 1: think that like whenever I'm having a bad week or
25:19
Speaker 1: feeling a bit met like a good night's sleep is
25:22
Speaker 1: honestly the absolute cure. And I know that seems really
25:26
Speaker 1: really obvious. So I'd heard about sleep debt before, right,
25:30
Speaker 1: or like the concepts of sleep debt, but I didn't
25:31
Speaker 1: really know what it was or how to calculate her
25:34
Speaker 1: or what it really meant. And then recently, because I
25:37
Speaker 1: wear an or a ring, they've introduced a new feature
25:40
Speaker 1: in there as part of your sleep analytics that is
25:43
Speaker 1: your sleep debt, and it calculates like what your sleep
25:48
Speaker 1: debt is and puts it in like a I guess,
25:51
Speaker 1: a chart of like low, moderate and bad danger danger zone.
25:56
Speaker 1: But you're even a girl, you're a bad girl. But
25:59
Speaker 1: even if you don't have of like a health ring
26:01
Speaker 1: or some sort of tech that tracks your sleep debt
26:04
Speaker 1: for you, there is a way that you can do
26:06
Speaker 1: it yourself. Essentially, you just calculate how much sleep that
26:08
Speaker 1: you need. So usually for most people that would be
26:11
Speaker 1: between like seven to nine hours a night. Then multiply
26:16
Speaker 1: that by the period if you're doing it over like
26:19
Speaker 1: seven days or two weeks, if you want to get
26:22
Speaker 1: like an idea of how much sleep you're actually getting,
26:25
Speaker 1: then at the end of the week or the fortnight,
26:28
Speaker 1: look back on how much you actually slept. So maybe
26:31
Speaker 1: every morning, like write down in a notepad or in
26:33
Speaker 1: your notesapp how much sleep you actually got that night.
26:36
Speaker 1: Then you would minus how much sleep you actually got
26:41
Speaker 1: from your goal sleep and then that's your sleep debt.
26:44
Speaker 1: So for example, like if you want to sleep nine
26:48
Speaker 1: hours a night, but then you only slept six your
26:50
Speaker 1: sleepday is three hours. Yeah, so then you know that
26:54
Speaker 1: in the coming days you need to factor in three
26:57
Speaker 1: additional hours of sleep to get on top of it.
27:00
Speaker 1: And so that's what I've been trying to do. Even
27:02
Speaker 1: just on the weekends, if I can. So if I
27:05
Speaker 1: can see my sleep debt is an hour, then I'll
27:09
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, I'm going to make sure I go
27:10
Speaker 1: to bed an hour earlier, or I'm going to set
27:12
Speaker 1: my alarm an hour later to factor that in and
27:16
Speaker 1: actually being more conscious of that. So yeah, like don't
27:20
Speaker 1: set an alarm sleep in on weekends, like actually make
27:23
Speaker 1: the time to go to bed early, because around forty
27:26
Speaker 1: percent of Australians don't get the adequate amount of sleep
27:29
Speaker 1: that they actually need, which is a lot, and they
27:33
Speaker 1: Obviously sleep is like such an individual thing and there's
27:36
Speaker 1: so many different rituals that can help you with your
27:39
Speaker 1: sleep hygiene. But some of the things I feel like
27:42
Speaker 1: has helped me because that's been like a focus for
27:44
Speaker 1: me this year. And you said, just sleepy Gil now
27:48
Speaker 1: the mornings is like a real princess p that's like,
27:56
Speaker 1: I really hate waking up. It doesn't matter how much
27:58
Speaker 1: sleep I get, it's just it's the cute as saying
28:01
Speaker 1: in the world, it's just how I am. But we
28:03
Speaker 1: need to prioritize our sleep in the same way that
28:06
Speaker 1: we do anything else else routine. Once you start prioritizing
28:11
Speaker 1: it and feeling the benefits of it. I think that
28:13
Speaker 1: makes it easier and easier to get into more instead
28:16
Speaker 1: of prioritizing it more. Because like, for example, this year,
28:20
Speaker 1: like we've been sleeping, like I've been sleeping without my
28:22
Speaker 1: phone in my room, yeah, and been like oh and
28:24
Speaker 1: I put it on charge and I've like fallen in
28:27
Speaker 1: and out of it, But oh my god, like the
28:30
Speaker 1: difference it makes actually then keeps it going and keeps
28:35
Speaker 1: that momentum. It's like when the fit people and they go, oh,
28:39
Speaker 1: I didn't Actually when someone who like never used to
28:42
Speaker 1: work out and they like get really into working out,
28:43
Speaker 1: they go, oh, I realized how good it made me feel.
28:46
Speaker 1: And you would get addicted to actually the result of
28:48
Speaker 1: the feeling rather than the action itself. And like that's
28:53
Speaker 1: how you prioritize things that are good for you, such
28:56
Speaker 1: as sleep is like actually focusing on the fact that
29:00
Speaker 1: you know, you do feel better during the day, you
29:02
Speaker 1: do feel more alert, you do actually feel happier and
29:06
Speaker 1: less like irritable when you have and prioritize your sleep,
29:10
Speaker 1: and so identifying those things that kind of get you
29:12
Speaker 1: to that result, I do think helps prioritize it a
29:15
Speaker 1: little bit more. Yeah, exactly, And because the quality and
29:19
Speaker 1: quantity of your sleep is just as important as the consistency,
29:23
Speaker 1: so aiming to have the same routine every single day. Obviously,
29:28
Speaker 1: the sleep debt thing is helpful for those nights when
29:30
Speaker 1: you have had a shit sleep or you haven't gotten enough,
29:33
Speaker 1: and knowing where you need to maybe step it up
29:36
Speaker 1: a little bit to get more, or how you can
29:37
Speaker 1: factor that in. But the goal is to go to
29:40
Speaker 1: bed and wake up at the same time every single
29:43
Speaker 1: day and to get like an adequate amount in that time. Yeah,
29:47
Speaker 1: and you don't need to buy a bunch of things
29:49
Speaker 1: for it. We have an episode that we can link
29:51
Speaker 1: in the show notes about like how to have a
29:53
Speaker 1: good sleep and you don't need to like buy a
29:56
Speaker 1: bunch of things, And honestly, like you probably don't even
29:58
Speaker 1: need to go and buy a health track to get
30:00
Speaker 1: a good sleep, Like listen to your body and exactly
30:03
Speaker 1: if you feel tired, you go to bed earlier. Yeah, yeah,
30:08
Speaker 1: stop reading your smarty little book on your kindle to bed.
30:12
Speaker 1: That one's for me. I'm like, but the enemies just
30:14
Speaker 1: became lover of sleeps. Just been three hundred pages and
30:18
Speaker 1: they just dished. Okay, My next one is a ritual
30:25
Speaker 1: a beautiful moment that I think every girl listening to
30:30
Speaker 1: this can recognize. And it's the midweek lower Ooh, it's
30:35
Speaker 1: the midweek glob aka the fresh start effect, because your
30:39
Speaker 1: nervous system has been reacting to emails, switching between tasks,
30:45
Speaker 1: processing social interactions, sitting inside on screens under pressure, and like,
30:51
Speaker 1: I will easily get to like midweek and I'll be like,
30:54
Speaker 1: I feel like a frog. Yeah, you know. But in
30:59
Speaker 1: my little tappy tappy on my keyboard. For the research
31:02
Speaker 1: of this episode, I've discovered the midweek glop is actually
31:07
Speaker 1: good for your nervous system. Oh, it's good for your health.
31:10
Speaker 1: And so I'm locked in. My motivation is there because
31:13
Speaker 1: I'm with you, and I'm like, I can't be fucked
31:16
Speaker 1: to have the everything share and I don't want to
31:19
Speaker 1: shave and do my bakedan and wash my hair. I
31:21
Speaker 1: think I wringe about that seventy two times a week
31:24
Speaker 1: at least. But the midwek lop is good for your
31:28
Speaker 1: nervous system because it activates your and bear with me here,
31:32
Speaker 1: parasympathetic nervous system, which is a division of the autonomic
31:37
Speaker 1: nervous system that acts as the body's rest and digest
31:40
Speaker 1: system take a shot every time. I just said system,
31:44
Speaker 1: which is like calming it down after stress. So it's
31:48
Speaker 1: like the yeah, pat your bot bot snuggle you in kita. Yes,
31:53
Speaker 1: that system. So it's activated through certain types of steps
31:58
Speaker 1: in the glow up ritual like long showers, warm water,
32:03
Speaker 1: slow skin care and body care. So you're literally activating
32:08
Speaker 1: like calm mode to your body through your midweek lower Yeah,
32:14
Speaker 1: it's like a physical reset, yes, being like okay, brain, yes,
32:19
Speaker 1: this is the sign It's not about your brain. Yeah,
32:22
Speaker 1: it's not about your brain, but yet literally it's signaling
32:24
Speaker 1: to your brain that we're in calm mode through like
32:26
Speaker 1: warm water, repetitive and gentle actions like shaving, moisturizing, doing
32:33
Speaker 1: your ten, except for when you have to like dislocate
32:36
Speaker 1: your shoulder to get the top backbit, don't worry about that.
32:38
Speaker 1: Won't focus on that bit too much. That's fine. Ah,
32:41
Speaker 1: But those things in that process, or like washing your
32:44
Speaker 1: hair and putting your fingers in your hair are all
32:46
Speaker 1: very like calming rituals, And because it uses rhythmic and
32:52
Speaker 1: repetitive actions, that's what calms your brain. Because glow ups
32:56
Speaker 1: often also follow a sequence. Oh, it's all coming to
33:01
Speaker 1: get it out. I've got like the red string being
33:04
Speaker 1: like and the start is like you was a frog
33:07
Speaker 1: and yeah, your majesty is exhausted. Yeah, took this and
33:12
Speaker 1: this and he gave you axisen yes, because they follow
33:15
Speaker 1: a sequence and off is like often it's like you know, shampoo, condition, exfoliate, shade, tan,
33:21
Speaker 1: whatever it is, and repetitiveness and predictability. Those actions are
33:27
Speaker 1: also known to be calming because they reduce uncertainty, give
33:31
Speaker 1: your brain something steady to focus on, and they also
33:34
Speaker 1: interrupt racing thoughts, which is the final piece of this
33:38
Speaker 1: entire puzzle. I'm really taking all the day. I was
33:40
Speaker 1: having so much hum when I was ready for all
33:42
Speaker 1: They're like wow. I literally was like, everything shower isn't
33:46
Speaker 1: it vanity. It's fixing my brain chemistry. Everything shower isn't vanity.
33:51
Speaker 1: It's literally fixing your brain and telling your brain like you.
33:54
Speaker 2: Are safe, Yeah you are beautiful, but yeah, so it
34:01
Speaker 2: interrupts racing thoughts, similar to things like knitting, walking, or
34:04
Speaker 2: even cleaning.
34:05
Speaker 1: It's because your brain and your you yourself, remove yourself
34:10
Speaker 1: from your head and put yourself in your body. And
34:14
Speaker 1: so like Grace was saying yes, so it's actually this
34:17
Speaker 1: thing called interroception, and it's basically your awareness of your body,
34:23
Speaker 1: and it's strongly linked to emotional regulation because when you
34:26
Speaker 1: shift attention back into your body, your thoughts tend to
34:29
Speaker 1: quiet down naturally. So that's why they do often recommend,
34:34
Speaker 1: like even in therapy and things like that, that if you,
34:37
Speaker 1: you know, are spiraling, if you're having a lot of
34:40
Speaker 1: anxious thoughts, if you're like that, like that kind of life,
34:44
Speaker 1: to have a shower or go for a walk or
34:48
Speaker 1: have a midweight glower. Yeah, because also not only you're
34:53
Speaker 1: not sad, but you're hot too. And with that, I'm
34:57
Speaker 1: signed up for happy and hot. M oh fabulous, give
35:03
Speaker 1: me twenty four of them. I want all of that.
35:05
Speaker 1: And also then it just was reminding me of that
35:08
Speaker 1: fact that we love that you are twenty percent hotter
35:12
Speaker 1: to everyone else, Like everyone else sees you twenty percent
35:14
Speaker 1: hotter than you think you are, which I was like,
35:18
Speaker 1: so imagine you do your midwig lab and you're like,
35:21
Speaker 1: that's good work for me. Add twenty percent hot GST
35:24
Speaker 1: to that. And then even on the days that you're
35:27
Speaker 1: like fuck, bit rough, you're still twenty percent hotter than
35:33
Speaker 1: how rough you think you are the hot tax. Yeah,
35:36
Speaker 1: the hot tax, but like you don't pay it. Yeah,
35:39
Speaker 1: you're just hot, You're just reaping the dividends. Yes, And
35:43
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear any she about hair life.
35:45
Speaker 1: It's not about being hot. When you look good, you
35:47
Speaker 1: feel good, and that's all that is exactly. That's why
35:50
Speaker 1: this episode is that it's not all about that. But
35:54
Speaker 1: come on, don't lie to me, you know, and you
35:57
Speaker 1: feel good, you're walking out kicking a door off its hinges.
36:01
Speaker 1: Because even know if that was English then but how
36:04
Speaker 1: like are you like, I'm gonna go home, I'm gonna
36:07
Speaker 1: wash my hair, do my tin, and I'm gonna wear
36:09
Speaker 1: something that I really like tomorrow. Yeah, because the midweek,
36:13
Speaker 1: like everything, shower form, it feels like a chore. But
36:17
Speaker 1: we need to reframe it as a ritual. Yes, because
36:21
Speaker 1: when I do it, I'm like, okay, I've got the
36:22
Speaker 1: shampoo in, and then I'm shaving my legs really quickly,
36:25
Speaker 1: and then I'm like doing my cleans at the same
36:27
Speaker 1: time I'm washing my conditioner out, and it's like, bitch,
36:30
Speaker 1: slow down, like put on an audio book, put on
36:33
Speaker 1: Harry Potter. Actually you don't do that, You'll fall asleep
36:35
Speaker 1: in the show. Yeah exactly, but like put on a
36:39
Speaker 1: TV show or something like, really lean into the ritual
36:43
Speaker 1: of it and the relaxing nature of it. Yeah, sometimes
36:47
Speaker 1: they're gonna be like, oh, I can't be bothered, don't worry,
36:49
Speaker 1: No one's standing there going no, no, go get hot
36:52
Speaker 1: right now. You don't have to do it if you
36:53
Speaker 1: don't want to. Yeah, but I was just like, wow,
36:57
Speaker 1: this makes sense and you never regret it. You never
37:01
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning going oh no, I washed
37:05
Speaker 1: my hair and fake tan and exactly moisturized and boohoo. Yeah,
37:12
Speaker 1: you wake up and you're like, good job, bitch, good job.
37:16
Speaker 1: That's why they pee you the big bucked. Yeah. It's
37:18
Speaker 1: another example of things that future thank you for. Obviously. God,
37:22
Speaker 1: I'm glad I did that. Yes, sa, Yeah, I like that.
37:25
Speaker 1: It kind of relates to my next mini glow up.
37:28
Speaker 1: They're like beauty glowers for instant results. Oh so cheek code. Obviously,
37:35
Speaker 1: there's a lot of skincare products and things out there
37:38
Speaker 1: that truly will work their magic over weeks and months.
37:41
Speaker 1: But when you're feeling a bit on a Wednesday morning,
37:44
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear that. I want makeover moment. Yeah,
37:48
Speaker 1: makeover montage two thousands, rom com MEA's for the Princess
37:56
Speaker 1: of Genovia. Blow up that I can do on a
37:59
Speaker 1: wheen day morning that isn't going to take me forever. Yeah,
38:02
Speaker 1: this is going to look different for everybody. But some
38:05
Speaker 1: easy go tos that I will do when I'm feeling
38:08
Speaker 1: a bit in the morning is depuffing the eye area.
38:12
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so like eye patches that I put in
38:16
Speaker 1: the fridge, or the like globes that you can run
38:19
Speaker 1: over your eyes, or even just using spoons, Like that's
38:22
Speaker 1: what I used to do early times, Like if I
38:25
Speaker 1: knew that I'd had like a late night or something,
38:27
Speaker 1: I just like chuck a couple of spoons in the
38:28
Speaker 1: freezer and feeling the feeling of it. In my auths.
38:32
Speaker 1: They also have these things called hangover masks. Yeah, but
38:35
Speaker 1: you can get on that amazon in the freezer and
38:39
Speaker 1: then they're like a sleeve and yeah, they're like a mask,
38:43
Speaker 1: but it doesn't freeze freeze. It just goes really cool.
38:46
Speaker 1: Then you put it over your face and it feels
38:48
Speaker 1: so good. Yeah, it feels so good, and it constricts
38:51
Speaker 1: the blood vessels around your eyes, which can help reduce
38:54
Speaker 1: the signs of like dark circles or puffiness. And it
38:57
Speaker 1: is just like a splash of cold water on your
38:59
Speaker 1: face and instantly wakes you up. So I like to
39:01
Speaker 1: put those on in the morning after I've done my
39:03
Speaker 1: skin care and like while I'm doing my hair, and
39:05
Speaker 1: it like slowly wakes me up. Using a body oil
39:09
Speaker 1: or shimmer, I love that we're getting the shimmers back
39:13
Speaker 1: because we should be moisturizing our bodies every single morning anyway.
39:18
Speaker 1: But I love that there're a moisturize your body this morning. Yeah.
39:21
Speaker 1: I didn't use the body shimmer though, because I was
39:24
Speaker 1: basically head to toe, but yeah I did. If I'm
39:28
Speaker 1: showing more of the depletage, then I'd be using an oil.
39:31
Speaker 1: I did a top half fakedin. That's all I did. Clever,
39:35
Speaker 1: I said, well, I'm wearing jeans. I'm not gonna worry
39:37
Speaker 1: about that. That's also another one, just doing the top
39:39
Speaker 1: half and like a chance fake off to the top half.
39:42
Speaker 1: We're good to go. No one needs to see. No
39:45
Speaker 1: one's gonna know. They can use their imagination exactly what
39:48
Speaker 1: don or done, or don't or don't. But I do
39:54
Speaker 1: really love using a body oil. Or one with a
39:56
Speaker 1: shimmer in it, and there are so many out there, Like,
39:59
Speaker 1: it's definitely a trending product at the moment. You know
40:01
Speaker 1: what I'm really getting into at the moment. Body milks.
40:04
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so we've seen, you know, the milky tonas
40:07
Speaker 1: that are trending and going all over Tiki taki, whether
40:12
Speaker 1: it's the road one, whether it's the Bubble one, there's heat.
40:16
Speaker 1: I am loving using the like a milky toner, but
40:20
Speaker 1: it's just a body milk, and you can get whatever
40:24
Speaker 1: brand you like. There's the one that I'm using at
40:26
Speaker 1: the moment is the one from Banging Body, but you
40:28
Speaker 1: can use it on your face and your body life hack,
40:32
Speaker 1: life heck, because it's formulated with your face in mind first.
40:36
Speaker 1: But I just use it everywhere. But i'd probably moving forward,
40:41
Speaker 1: get one that's your body that's maybe like a bigger tub,
40:43
Speaker 1: so it's a little bit more cost efficient, But I
40:47
Speaker 1: love it because it soaks in so quickly, whereas with moistures,
40:51
Speaker 1: I'm like, get in happy. Yeah, I've always love a
40:57
Speaker 1: body oil, especially in the shower. Yeah, totally. Also face
41:02
Speaker 1: masks that focus on hydration. So we spoke about the
41:05
Speaker 1: BioMA one, but I also love like the Loop hydration
41:08
Speaker 1: masks and the skin control one that went viral, Like
41:12
Speaker 1: if you do want something that you're gonna wear overnight
41:14
Speaker 1: or for like three hours in the evening, that one
41:17
Speaker 1: is really good because I do feel like all three
41:19
Speaker 1: of those products. I do see my skin looking visibly
41:22
Speaker 1: more hydrated, and I'm like, I want the dopamine hit
41:25
Speaker 1: of like it weren't. I'm beautiful, nobody will recognize me, yeah, exactly.
41:31
Speaker 1: And also tending to your eyebrows. Oh yeah, like whatever
41:34
Speaker 1: that is for you. If it's like lamination eyebrows at
41:38
Speaker 1: home now, I love it. Have a little pot I
41:41
Speaker 1: just put on the stove. Love, I just give them
41:43
Speaker 1: a good and the beast was done. It's the brows,
41:51
Speaker 1: brows or the beast, you know what I love? What
41:54
Speaker 1: like is not a weekly one but derma planing, and
41:58
Speaker 1: I might get into it because I know some people
42:01
Speaker 1: say you shouldn't do that to yourself, but I always
42:03
Speaker 1: use like a clean blade, yeah, and always also be
42:07
Speaker 1: careful because it's sharp, and have cut myself zones. But yeah,
42:13
Speaker 1: I love because I'm Italian, I have a fair amount
42:17
Speaker 1: more peach fuzz than you do, so you know, and
42:20
Speaker 1: it's also just a whatever you presser personal pres right,
42:23
Speaker 1: But my makeup sits so fucking good When I dermo
42:27
Speaker 1: plane my skin, it's insane, Like I can absolutely tell
42:31
Speaker 1: the difference. Yeah, every single time. Yeah, ten out of ten.
42:35
Speaker 1: And it also exfoliates your skin. So when you derm
42:38
Speaker 1: a plane, not only does it kind of get rid
42:40
Speaker 1: of the peach fuzz, but it you know, gets rid
42:44
Speaker 1: of the dead layer of skin cells as well. So
42:46
Speaker 1: that's also why your skin looks so glowy. But make
42:49
Speaker 1: sure you do research, watch you tutorial, and do not
42:52
Speaker 1: come for me if anything happens. Exactly disclaim this is
42:57
Speaker 1: not financial beauty advice. Yeah, but like I said, all
43:02
Speaker 1: of these things are really really personal, like derma plaining example,
43:08
Speaker 1: but like you love doing like a lip tint for example,
43:12
Speaker 1: or like your lashes, So like just knowing what those
43:14
Speaker 1: things are and making them like quick and easy so
43:18
Speaker 1: that you're like, Okay, I know that probably at some
43:21
Speaker 1: point in the middle of the week, I'm like, God,
43:22
Speaker 1: I can't be fucked. But even if I don't put
43:25
Speaker 1: any makeup on, I always brush up my eyebrows one
43:31
Speaker 1: and it instantly makes me feel better. Mine's mine's like
43:35
Speaker 1: a spritz of a face tand exactly, yeah, yeah, I
43:39
Speaker 1: put the Eco face hand in like a little spray
43:41
Speaker 1: bottle and I just sprits my face in that, and
43:43
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I don't look like a sick Victorian
43:46
Speaker 1: child anymore. We're back. We are so bad. We're so bad,
43:49
Speaker 1: so we need a quick fix, quick fit slot for
43:52
Speaker 1: a quick fix. And I've always said that put that
43:54
Speaker 1: shit on shirt, put that shit on shirt. I love
43:57
Speaker 1: a placebo. We do. I love a placebo. Okay, My
44:00
Speaker 1: final one is very quick, but and we did discuss
44:05
Speaker 1: this earlier in the year, but it's basically my friendly
44:07
Speaker 1: reminder to put into your miniglow up routine, and it's
44:11
Speaker 1: to source good news. So dedicate ten minutes, you know,
44:17
Speaker 1: per day if you can to just making sure you
44:21
Speaker 1: also focus on the good in the world. There is
44:24
Speaker 1: a lot going on, and it is very very easy
44:29
Speaker 1: to get news burnout and to think, oh my god,
44:33
Speaker 1: like what the fuck is going on? Yeah, I feel you,
44:37
Speaker 1: but have time put aside to help prevent you going
44:41
Speaker 1: down rabbit holes and getting caught in a doom skull trap.
44:45
Speaker 1: Because social media platforms and algorithms prioritize negative and scare
44:52
Speaker 1: content like they prioritize that stuff. That's what goes viral,
44:56
Speaker 1: that's what is trending. And a lot of news outlets
44:59
Speaker 1: will even just write clickbaity articles like that because you're
45:03
Speaker 1: more likely to click on it if you're like, oh
45:06
Speaker 1: my god, is the world ending? I should probably know
45:10
Speaker 1: about that. So all of these articles have that tone
45:13
Speaker 1: to them when really that's not the case for that scenario,
45:18
Speaker 1: you know. And so by really intentionally trying to find
45:23
Speaker 1: good news in your day or in your week if
45:26
Speaker 1: you can, it really does help you kind of just
45:31
Speaker 1: keep moving, keep tracking. Not saying you need to bury
45:34
Speaker 1: your head in the sand at all, but you do
45:37
Speaker 1: need to have a balance of the news that you're
45:39
Speaker 1: getting and making sure that you get it from reputable
45:42
Speaker 1: sources and not just on social media. You can sign
45:45
Speaker 1: up to newsletters, you know, also buying some fun magazines
45:50
Speaker 1: like Love a Man, Love Slipping through a mag I
45:54
Speaker 1: love slipping through a mad I'm gonna buy a magazine.
45:57
Speaker 3: I'm going to buy a magazine.
45:59
Speaker 1: Should we go? Yeah, there's a new agency throat. I'm
46:02
Speaker 1: gonna get Zoo.
46:04
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, I'm gonna buy that like that's not
46:14
Speaker 3: everyone in Australia when that's basically Playboy, the Bogan version
46:18
Speaker 3: of Playboy magazine.
46:20
Speaker 1: We love a mag, bring back the Nudi mag, Bring
46:22
Speaker 1: back the nudy mag. But also I want like a
46:24
Speaker 1: total girl yeah as well, might pick up like a
46:27
Speaker 1: Frankie mag. Let's see, we'll have a browse. You're so indy.
46:32
Speaker 1: I'm a dolly girl. Yeah, I love dolly girlfriend, love
46:36
Speaker 1: it all, bring it back. No, I completely agree with that.
46:39
Speaker 1: We can put a link to some of our like
46:41
Speaker 1: go to sources of good news in the show notes,
46:44
Speaker 1: so your chicks can have some inspo on where to start. Yeah.
46:47
Speaker 1: ABC News has a section on their website for good news.
46:51
Speaker 1: There's a good News app, which is a nonprofit based
46:53
Speaker 1: app that shares stories about positive development. There's also on
46:57
Speaker 1: social media on Instagram, Good Good, Good co which and
47:00
Speaker 1: The Daily As has also started rolling out a good
47:03
Speaker 1: news that happened this week And it's got a little
47:05
Speaker 1: rhino on the front slide of it that I do enjoy.
47:08
Speaker 1: That might have just been that one. Maybe there was
47:10
Speaker 1: a rhino story. Yeah, but I did enjoy seeing you,
47:13
Speaker 1: Yeah I did, so you know, Yeah, I love that
47:17
Speaker 1: because we're also like three to four months into the year,
47:20
Speaker 1: we're getting into it. I think some of the sparkle
47:23
Speaker 1: of New Year, New me has, you know, worn off
47:26
Speaker 1: a little bit. Yeah, and we did ask you chicks,
47:29
Speaker 1: like how you were feeling, Like we're a quarter of
47:31
Speaker 1: the way into the year, how's everyone going, Yeah, hey,
47:33
Speaker 1: go mental health check, mental health check, And only fifteen
47:36
Speaker 1: percent of your chicks said you were thriving. And the
47:39
Speaker 1: majority of you chicks did say that you were getting by.
47:42
Speaker 1: So I think everybody's yeah, we're the majority of us
47:45
Speaker 1: are doing okay. But I do hope that this episode
47:49
Speaker 1: can help you introduce some of those rituals for having
47:54
Speaker 1: some more joy in your week and things that like,
47:56
Speaker 1: don't you don't have to completely rehaul your life because
48:00
Speaker 1: we're also we're not promoting like toxic positivity here, but
48:03
Speaker 1: it's like, whether you're going through a rough time or
48:06
Speaker 1: you're just feeling weighed down by what's going on in
48:08
Speaker 1: the world, that we need to make time for that,
48:10
Speaker 1: whether it is the new cycle or just the work
48:12
Speaker 1: week or something rough does happen in your life, Like
48:16
Speaker 1: we're all going to go through bad times, but it's
48:18
Speaker 1: so much easier to get through it if we've been
48:21
Speaker 1: prioritizing the good around some of those shitty times as well.
48:25
Speaker 1: So we wanted to wrap the episode by asking you, chicks,
48:29
Speaker 1: the things that you do for your own miniglow ups
48:32
Speaker 1: during the week. Quite a few of you said pilates, makeup,
48:36
Speaker 1: and skincare. Someone said once a month, I do the
48:42
Speaker 1: full body ritual, but the key is a full bottle
48:45
Speaker 1: of wine in the shower. Can I come? Wow? That inappropriate?
48:52
Speaker 1: Would you feel comfortable if I joined you? That is amazing?
48:55
Speaker 1: But also be safe? Yeah, exactly. Make sure you've got
48:58
Speaker 1: one of those grippy pads on the on a movie
49:00
Speaker 1: shower at your bars so you're like, okay. Next one
49:03
Speaker 1: is like having a coffee before the kids wake up,
49:06
Speaker 1: or asked our boyfriends and cats. Yeah, reading books instead
49:10
Speaker 1: of doom scrowling obviously, love that, beach walks and dancing
49:14
Speaker 1: in the kitchen, keep me sane, love that, Oh that's
49:18
Speaker 1: so cute. Deleting all social media off my phone for
49:21
Speaker 1: a week, cool slagh and eight hours of sleep. M yeah,
49:29
Speaker 1: ten out of ten. I think a lot of these.
49:31
Speaker 1: It's so like, you know, we have moving your body, journaling,
49:35
Speaker 1: touching grass, washing my hair. And it's so so key
49:42
Speaker 1: into me time and just prioritizing the time that you're
49:46
Speaker 1: spending with yourself. Every single one of these is a
49:51
Speaker 1: solo act that is your mini glow up of the week.
49:54
Speaker 1: That it's basically just prioritizing yourself and enjoying spending time
49:59
Speaker 1: with yourself, And like, how often are you actually doing that?
50:04
Speaker 1: Because when we told you, chicks, majority of women spend
50:07
Speaker 1: less than thirty minutes a day on me time, which
50:11
Speaker 1: call me selfish, but that is not enough. No, I
50:14
Speaker 1: need at least two hours about me, men and mem
50:18
Speaker 1: not including anyone else. Yeah, I he's feel like two
50:20
Speaker 1: hours by myself. Your life is your life, and you're
50:24
Speaker 1: not only spending thirty minutes or less of your day
50:27
Speaker 1: on you and I get people have kids, that's like
50:29
Speaker 1: a different story. That's a different story. Of course, put
50:33
Speaker 1: their bedtime earlier, hear me out, If they go to
50:36
Speaker 1: bed at like three pm, you've got the whole line
50:41
Speaker 1: to just enjoy yourself. Well, chicks, That is a wrap
50:44
Speaker 1: for today's episode of two rough Checks. Thank you so
50:47
Speaker 1: much for having us in your ear holes. We love
50:49
Speaker 1: to be here and we'll catch you on Thursday. See
50:52
Speaker 1: you on Thursday. Bane Give you
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Speaker 2: May say