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Lessons - Overcoming Self Sabotage | David Meltzer - Co-Founder of Sports 1 Marketing · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, discover how simple habits like practicing gratitude can transform
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  your mindset. Why persistence and faith are crucial for success and how to break free from
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  self-sabotaging behaviors. Learn to embrace abundance, overcome setbacks, and pursue
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  limitless growth with practical strategies for lasting change.
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  So when you when you shifted this mindset, I'm also curious because now you teach. So your
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  vision is to help a billion people and that's a thousand times a thousand times a thousand.
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  And that makes sense. And that's what your vision is right now. But for somebody who hasn't
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  ever consumed your content or listened to you, or even where your head was at when you were
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  doing well, how do you break yourself out of the rat race so you can shift your mindset
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  to be more in line with where you're at right now because I think that's the biggest issue.
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  Once you're going down the rabbit hole, it's easy to pick up speed. It's easy to learn more,
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  but it's hard to get paycheck to paycheck, trying to cover rent. You have kids, you have mortgage.
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  I just need the what I need the better job. I need the I need the raise. I need the promotion.
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  So how do you get out of that mindset? With gratitude, most people take for granted what other
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  people are wishing for. And so I use gratitude. The simple place to start is to say thank you
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  before you wake up. Say thank you before you go to bed. Most people think that they can do that.
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  In fact, I tell you anyone, if you want to change your life, the fastest, most proven way from the
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  greatest thought leaders that I'm blessed to be around from Deepak Chopra to Oprah Winfrey to
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  Sadguru to Jack Canfield and Bob Procker, Brian Tracy, all teach gratitude. If you could say
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  thank you for 30 straight days, it'll change your life. You will not have a different mindset.
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  You won't have obstructions, voice shorties and obsses. You'll start to implement the ability
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  to find the light, the love and the lessons and everything. You'll start manifesting what you want
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  rapidly and accurately. You'll start increasing the momentum of faith in your life that the pain that
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  you have, the setbacks, failures, the bills, all the different challenges that you have are simply
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  pushing you to a better place instead of stopping you or punishing you, but it all starts with gratitude.
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  But here's the saddest thing about gratitude, Scott, is that it sounds so easy to say thank you
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  for 30 straight days before you go to bed when you wake up. It took me, me who teaches this
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  nine months. And so I always tell people who here thinks they can do that. Everyone raises their
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  hand by tomorrow morning, half of the people will do it by the next three days from now, nobody will
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  be doing it. It's so difficult. And so you have to start practicing gratitude. You have to start
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  shifting the mindset, the mindset and what you consciously are doing to find the light, the love
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  and the lessons. You have to start realizing the law, gravity applies to you, even though the world
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  spinning, hurling and rotating at such a speed, you should be thrown off of it. You're at the right
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  place at the perfect time. You are happy, healthy, wealthy and worthy. You need to shift your paradigm
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  and perspective to what you're doing to interfere with it. So utilizing the law of Goya, G-O-Y-A, you
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  got to get off your ass. And instead of trying to make it happen, attaching your emotions to an
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  outcome, you have to attach all of that energy to clearing the interference by recognizing the needs
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  of the ego, the need to be right, offended, separate, inferior, superior, anxious, frustrated,
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  angry, guilty, resentful, worried, worrying is wishing for what you don't want. You have much
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  time, emotion, value and money is wasted on worrying. ISIS in law schools, they got, I hope,
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  wing rules of perpetuity aren't on this test. I would say to get it again and guess what
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  would show up first. We're actually wishing for what we don't want. So when I can have people
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  institute the law of gravity, institute the law of Goya, now they start to realize with that momentum,
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  with the awareness that the law of attraction works, the law of allowance works. And so when we
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  start with gratitude, we move to forgiveness, which leaves us to accountability, which leads us to
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  effective communicating, effectively communicating with the greatest source of light, love and lessons,
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  appreciating what we receive, acknowledging it by giving it away. In other words, allowing us to
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  be inspired in spirit, gratitude, forgiveness, accountability and inspiration will allow things to
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  come more rapidly and accurately, which creates that momentum, which then makes things easier and
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  easier and easier, allowing it to aggregate and accelerate on itself. You mentioned a really
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  interesting point, how it's so simple to just take that first step and just be gracious and
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  have gratitude for everything that's in our lives. But most people don't take that step. So
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  follow a question of that is, why do you think we're so keen on self sabotage? What's the reason?
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  Well, number one, it's understanding time and how things aggregate upon themselves, how they
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  compound an interest. Let me give you an example. When we do positive things, we expect an immediate
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  result. When we do negative things, we never think they'll be any impact on us. So in the reason is
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  it because of time. So if I was going to start a business, for example, and I said to myself,
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  this is going to take 20 months in order to break even on my business to get profitable.
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  Well, the hardest part to understand is if I do all the right things, it'll take about 90% of the
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  time just to get to a point where we can be aware that we've even made progress. So what happens
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  in 18 months of the 20 months? People tell you're wasting your time. You have doubts, self sabotage
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  because we don't see the result. So 99% of the people get in their own way, create interference
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  between them and what's actually going to happen. And they quit. Here's even sadder part.
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  Everything doubles upon itself under the theory of 72 Einstein compound interest theory. So
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  at 18 months, you finally see a minimum result. Now you're really doubting it because you're like,
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  I've worked 18 months. I'm never going to get there in 20 months. Well, in month 19, you get to
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  50% of the way there. You've doubled the percentage. But yet in the human aspect, the perception and
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  mental disability of self sabotage, this is when we grab on to what's missing, what we don't want
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  and what other people think. And another 99% of the 1% quit at 19 months, even though if they
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  conceive reverse, they'd realize they're almost there. And of course, those who have the enjoyment
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  of the consistent persistent pursuit of their potential, that they've instituted faith as their
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  currency, that know that they're happy, healthy, wealthy and worthy. They get there in 20 months,
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  they get to profitability. Here's the best part. In month 21, you get 200% in month 22, 400%.
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  So the key to self sabotage is to understand that I'm enjoying the pursuit. I am not attaching the
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  pursuit to an end, which may or may not make me happy. And when we learn to be happy by finding
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  the light, the love and the lessons, by being consistent and persistent in the pursuit of our
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  potential, not allowing time to aggregate and compel or to resist ourselves, instead realizing
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  that sooner or later at the right place of the perfect time, if I utilize the law of Goya,
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  the law of attraction and allowance will bring exactly what I want or even better at the right
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  place at the perfect time. One thing that you also speak about often is, actually, no, I want to,
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  I want to first touch on one thing in terms of faith. You mentioned faith a lot. And I actually
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  thought this was an interesting question because I hear a lot of people speak about the most
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  the most successful habits of, you know, high performers, entrepreneurs, individuals.
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  But you mentioned faith as one of the things that is sort of like that north star metric for success
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  is faith, faith, the most important mindset habit thing that you have to, if you're too,
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  if you want to be successful, or are there more tangible things like grit, perseverance,
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  tenacity, what is your take on those habits that will actually get you to the finish line and
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  then some? Yeah, I think there's a reconciliation about 50-50 between patience and persistence.
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  And so faith will give you patience, persistence will make it happen. The problem is when you're
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  persistent, you're going to make mistakes, failures, and setbacks are going to occur.
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  Pain is going to be the indicator that you're learning and growing and expanding and propelling
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  yourself to a better place. Faith is what allows you to see that pain, setbacks, failures as progress,
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  not punishment. And therefore, pain and persistence and patience are so closely tied together that
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  without the law of Goya, without persistence, you'll never get there. And without faith, you'll never
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  get there because if you stick into the learning curve or the learning zone and without faith,
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  you'll quickly enter the anxiety zone, which you'll feel like you're being punished and you'll
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  go back down to your comfort zone. And if you do have faith when you're persistent and you're out in
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  the learning zone and you get to the anxiety zone, you'll continue to tread forward and just
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  get better at what you do. And things get easier and easier. They accelerate, they grow and compound
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  on themselves. So keep doing the right things. Being kind is one of them. So faith and persistence
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  are the 50-50 combination necessary to make it. And in one other concept that you speak about,
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  which I thought was interesting, which I've never heard of before, is the world of infinity plus
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  one. So explain to me what that is because I've this, you know, you get enough interviews,
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  you start to hear threads of similarities between, you know, different people and how they teach over
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  success. But I've never heard this before. So explain what this is, how you came to the conclusion,
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  this was something that should be practiced and how to actually practice it. Well, you know, as I
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  moved into the world of abundance, I realized what infinity was and what unlimited, unlimited,
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  like more than enough of everything for everyone. And I started challenging my own perspectives,
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  the world that I lived in. If I truly was in an abundant world that had no limits, it reminded me
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  when I was five years old and I got into arguments with my siblings and they would, you know, you know,
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  ten or really twelve, oh, twenty, a hundred thousand. Oh, infinity. Oh, yeah, infinity plus one.
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  Whoa, infinity plus two. And so I started realizing I was asking for crumbs that is big as my
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  dream and my mission of empowering over a billion people to be happy. I meet Saad Guru, who,
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  by the way, is going to be on the first episode with Cameron Diaz of office hours, you know,
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  on Bloomberg television and Amazon, but he's an infinite. He truly gets it because he almost mock
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  me for thinking too small. When I said, I'm going to empower over a billion people to be happy. He's
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  like, well, I'm empowering the whole world. It may take me multiple lifetimes, but I'm glad you're
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  going to take at least a billion people for me, Dave. I only got six point four billion others.
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  Well, I started thinking Saad Guru is an infinity plus one. He lives in limitlessness and infinity.
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  And I had to do that with respect of all man-made constructs, time, money, all the things that we
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  have built to be a reality in the man-made construct of light, meaning the time that it takes
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  a particle of light to get from the sun to the earth, 186,000 miles per second. This cannot create
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  the construct of what? My imagination. It can create a construct for my reality, but I like my
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  reality to surpass other people's imagination. I see it as a key indicator that I'm thinking
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  infinity plus one. When people laugh at me, scoff at me, make fun of me, tell me that that's
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  crazy or impossible. The same way I would have if Jeff Basel's 25 years ago would have told me
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  selling books out of his garage that he was going to be the richest man on earth and make a trillion
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  bucks. I would have thought crazy, but no, he's living in infinity plus one. He understands
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  abundance, limitlessness. And that's what I try to teach people to look at what you think is big
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  right now and tell yourself plus one. I'm asking for crumbs.