Latest / Authentic Living / Stop working Hard and Start Working Smart

Transcript

Stop working Hard and Start Working Smart · Authentic Living

0:01
Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a place where we have conscious conversations
0:08
about things that really matter in our lives.
0:12
And now here's your host, Roxanne Derhodge.
0:39
So I was born and raised in Guyana, South America.
0:42
It's a Caribbean country.
0:44
It's a South American country, and I am of Easternian descent, which means, I have
0:50
heritage in India.
0:52
And, Guyana is one of the only English speaking country in South America.
0:57
And, and so I grew up in in a community where everybody's my relatives.
1:02
It's, you're brought up in a community by all family.
1:06
And, and, and so I've learned several things from that.
1:09
And I think today, it helps me, that's I think I've been searching back living now in North
1:14
America where everybody is pulling their own direction and and everybody's to themself.
1:20
I think I have a my natural tendency is to find that community or created and without realizing
1:28
I have created that community.
1:30
And and now I do collaborative, books.
1:33
I'm the publisher of the handbook to holistic health, and, I'm doing several other books
1:39
collaborating with people like, owner Brown, the daughter of Les Brown, who's who did the
1:43
foward for my last book, actually.
1:45
And, I'm also co throwing with a guy named Brian Tracy, you might know him.
1:50
He's written 80 books to date, and he's just exceptional.
1:55
And but it wasn't all it wasn't all good for me growing up.
2:02
I I had to learn the hard way to my parents or on Christian.
2:06
They won't I I grew up in church, and, I grew up in politics.
2:11
And then I moved to Canada, and I wanted to figure stuff on my own because of my politics,
2:16
some half of the population think they're right, half think they're wrong.
2:20
Religion you have segregation also.
2:22
I'm like, this is so not cool.
2:25
They must be something bigger.
2:27
So I start charging for ants and figure out how can we live together in peace harmony and
2:33
unity.
2:34
And, I, I, attended school to be become a civil engineer that didn't quite work because, I
2:42
can't seem to focus on something or do I don't like doing a subject in school that I know once
2:49
I come out the door.
2:50
This this is basically useless.
2:51
So I kind of became an entrepreneur very early, by figuring out my own path, but, of course,
2:58
it's not hard.
2:59
Everybody wants to be an entrepreneur, but the beginning, the beginning stages are quite
3:04
difficult.
3:05
So I I did whatever job I could have done.
3:09
I started working as a laborer in a warehouse, emptying containers, 4000 boxes a day.
3:15
I did night shift.
3:16
I do 2 job, 3 jobs.
3:18
I deliver a newspaper, whatever I had to do to to to just keep revenue coming in, although you
3:24
don't make any money delivering newspapers and people complain.
3:29
So I I keep I did whatever job pays the bill and then on on weekends or evening, I take
3:35
courses to develop self?
3:37
How can I be better?
3:38
And so in the warehouse, and this is where my claim to fame is from my YouTube videos, every
3:44
time I was gonna leave a job, I did videos of it to remind myself of, hey, I did this, and
3:50
I'm gone now, right, and just to be able to, a, I used to do that.
3:52
People wouldn't understand.
3:54
Actually, I have videos of it.
3:55
Google my name.
3:56
You'll see the videos.
3:58
And I didn't I I post the videos up on YouTube just because I didn't have enough memory in my
4:05
phone distorted video.
4:07
I didn't I didn't realize what I was doing.
4:09
And one day at the warehouse, a guy came in and was like, Hey, I know you.
4:12
I'm like, okay.
4:14
Tall guy, he has this fancy hairstyle.
4:16
He's Jamaican.
4:17
I'm like, no.
4:18
I'd I'd remember you.
4:19
And he's like, The next day he came back in the world is like, hey, man.
4:23
I watch your YouTube video.
4:25
That's how I learn how to operate a forklift.
4:27
I watch your video online, went to the school, passed my exam, and boom, he walks into the
4:32
warehouse I was still working at, and he met me.
4:35
And he's like, yeah.
4:36
Check out.
4:37
He made me check out my own video on YouTube, and that's when I realize there's so many
4:44
views.
4:44
And that's when I keep I start posting more and take it taking it seriously.
4:49
And and then I left the warehousing job.
4:51
Well, I moved from a laborer to a forklift operator, a forklift operator to a truck
4:56
driver, and then I became a a certified instructor and now I coach.
5:01
I go into warehouse and and do coaching and and see if I can help in the supply chain solution
5:08
because it's a chain.
5:09
One bad system or department could ruin the entire profitability of the company.
5:15
So I do that too.
5:16
And and then when I moved to trucking, because there's more freedom out there, and it was more
5:21
money for for hours, the the hourly rate was higher.
5:26
And then I created my own trucking company.
5:29
I started in construction, then I did long haul trucking all across the US and up pulling for,
5:35
for pulling freights for the, big, auto, automaker and Amazon.
5:42
And one night, I was driving 2, 3 in the morning, and I fell asleep at the wheel.
5:45
And that's what that I almost died.
5:48
I exited the highway.
5:49
I'm like, what?
5:50
There's a green light on the highway and I I swore.
5:54
I I just had to yell and say something to wake my off up to, like, real I I don't know.
5:59
I was in and out of consciousness and I drift off the highway and to to tell you the truth,
6:05
this would happen a lot.
6:06
And if you're driving on on the interstates on the highway, you will see the trucks wobbling
6:10
at night, 2, 3 in the morning.
6:12
The drivers are asleep thing and the rumble strip on the side of the lane, that's what
6:17
wakes us up.
6:18
Like, you will sleep drive and and because if if I don't deliver the load on time, I'll be
6:25
penalized.
6:26
And so I'll have to, and then there's rule If you pull over, you have to pull over for 10
6:30
hours of the time to sleep.
6:32
And and so If
6:33
you pull over, you have to pull over for 10.
6:35
You can't just pull over for 25, 35 minutes and redirect to get back on.
6:40
So so the situation is, there's a thing called, logbooks.
6:45
So you have, in a 13 hour period of a day, you can only physically drive for 11 of that 13
6:53
hours.
6:54
But from the time you say you're starting to drive, that's your time.
6:59
You can't change it.
7:00
If and if you're 13 hours, elapse.
7:03
Even if you have an hour more to go, you're you're not driving that hour.
7:07
You have to stop right where you are.
7:09
Sleep 10 hours.
7:10
Call a reset and then go again.
7:12
So at 2 AM in the morning, I have to deliver at 8 AM, and I only have my set hours if I pull
7:20
over an hour nap would be good, and I can go again, but I can't.
7:25
If I pull over, I'm stuck.
7:26
I'm not gonna be deliver I'm gonna be delivering 10, 12 15 hours later.
7:30
And Right.
7:31
And so you gotta keep going.
7:33
And it was a lot of money over $10,000 a week in revenue.
7:37
I own the company.
7:38
I own the up, but I'm and then I'm like, hey, is this worth my life?
7:43
I I could have been dead so many times over, and, even running off when a car, if you run
7:48
off the highway, you should be fine with the airbags, the seat belt, whatever, but with a
7:53
truck pulling £40,000 of load.
7:57
That will crush you.
7:59
That will crush you no matter what.
8:01
So I sold the trucking company, and I got in to what I love.
8:05
And in the in the transition stage, I met my health and wellness coach, doctor George Grant,
8:10
and He's just amazing.
8:12
When I met him first and he did a scan for me, being a truck driver eating junk food for
8:17
breakfast.
8:17
Long, dinner, not sleeping properly, and and and and being fatigued and living on the road,
8:24
it it had a it had a very big toll on my life so I was stressed without knowing even my wife
8:31
said, like, she we we wouldn't have a conversation.
8:33
We'll be fighting all the time.
8:36
And so it's just a blessing.
8:37
It affects everything when the stress level goes up and being obese and overweight and and
8:42
and cholesterol level was so high And my doctor said, uh-uh, 27, I I looked like a a fifty year
8:50
old internally, and that's what scared me.
8:52
I could basically die from a heart attack.
8:54
And, like, what what what's what's then I ask myself, what good is a $1,000,000 in the bank,
9:02
and I'm dead.
9:03
Like, why am I working for this?
9:05
So then I step back a bit and be like, Hey, you know what?
9:07
I need to do, relax.
9:09
I need to stay at home, not live on the road.
9:12
Bring my I lost £30 over the 1st 3 months, working with my health and wellness coach, and,
9:18
he he wrote 10 books already, and I always wanna write a book.
9:22
So I'm like, hey.
9:23
I have a great story.
9:25
And you're pro at writing, let's let's do a book together.
9:28
And he's like, 8 and we invited some of his colleagues who are professors and and and and
9:34
and some of the students that are PhD students and we we started this, book together as called
9:39
the handbook to holistic health, and, and it'll be launching, 6 months later this, this
9:45
weekend, this Saturday, October 7th here in Toronto.
9:49
And and the
9:51
So in the book itself, because I, obviously, I don't have a copy the book, and I haven't read
9:58
it, what what is it that, so it's all health care practitioners.
10:02
They is the focused stress?
10:04
So what is the focus of
10:05
the book?
10:05
Okay.
10:06
So it's it's it's open.
10:07
It's handled to holistic help.
10:09
So there's 21 at different areas.
10:12
People would speak thinking about different aspects.
10:16
So Doctor.
10:16
George Grant, he's a pro, so he kind of did a 8 to z principles to living your best life and
10:22
just tips on health finances.
10:24
He touched all across everything because he's so well studied, and, a few other quarters
10:30
shared on how I'll I'll just read the overview of the book for for your audience, for our
10:35
audience today.
10:36
The handbook to holistic health features a lineup of 21 award winning authors from various
10:43
health and wellness backgrounds.
10:45
Yet all of them has one common message to share with you.
10:50
That is there is an alternative natural holistic solution to your health issues.
10:57
Most importantly, the authors are all against taking routine prescription medication, both
11:03
for the obvious side effects and the potential significant financial burden to your entire
11:09
family.
11:11
So that's the overview of it, and each of the co author spoke, from their heart of their
11:16
personal experience, what they have done to overcome that and, and what are their tips for
11:23
you and point form easy to follow, do this, and you'll achieve.
11:27
If I did it, you can do it kind of thing.
11:29
And and and so
11:31
So you learn a lot when you worked with Doctor Grant's.
11:35
Right?
11:35
Like, I mean, here, you're twenty seven years old.
11:37
I mean, that's on your you're you're prime there.
11:39
Right?
11:40
Yes.
11:40
And in a shark, how many how many years had you been trucking at that point?
11:45
Oh, act sorry.
11:46
2 28 28?
11:49
Well, between 27, 28.
11:50
So I meant yes.
11:52
Yes.
11:52
Right?
11:53
Yeah.
11:53
At that point, you're your health should be optimal, I would
11:58
say, at
11:58
that point.
11:59
Yeah.
12:01
What's what kind of what kind of steps did you start?
12:05
Did you work with Doctor Grant on your health?
12:06
Is that why you Yes.
12:08
Worked with him at that point?
12:09
So he he pointed out trouble areas.
12:12
He does this called a bio feedback scan is it's non evasive.
12:17
It basically just it sends an electromagnetic calls throughout your body with less than a
12:22
minute.
12:23
It reads he put, he he he reads his computer program, and he tells you each aspect is I
12:29
think it's 37 different part of your body from your eye to your heart, to your kidney, your
12:35
lungs, your every part of your body, it re it gives you a reading, and it's very precise.
12:40
And, it'll tell you where the issues are if something is very bad or and then he will
12:46
recommend he recommend that I start exercising.
12:50
There's 3 ways to lose weight and use most people try 1 or 2, and they don't do all 3 if
12:55
you want the best result.
12:57
And that is one is exercise, which everybody do but you don't see the result because you have
13:02
to back it up by eating healthy, cut just reducing the fatty the the salts, the sugar,
13:09
the crap, the the soda, the junk food, drink more water and and eat green vegetable raw is
13:16
good.
13:16
And, something that I found that worked for me.
13:19
I was eating the same lunch every day.
13:21
If you your body, if your body know what to expect, it it doesn't excite it's the body or
13:27
or you don't get craving and you keep because every time you eat something different, I was
13:31
like, wow, this is so good.
13:33
I'm gonna go crazy on it.
13:35
So what worked for me is 5 days in a row, I would stick to a routine.
13:39
I will eat, oatmeal for breakfast, I'll eat, steamed vegetable and, baked chicken and or
13:47
fish for lunch and dinner.
13:49
I'll I'll probably eat the same or or I'll I'll I'll mix up the dinner a bit, but not anything
13:55
too fatty or or carbohydrates.
13:57
Stay away from rice and I'm Caribbean.
14:00
You're Caribbean.
14:00
You know, that's
14:01
hard to stay with a roti.
14:03
Yeah.
14:03
It's it's tough.
14:04
So now I do the whole wheat roti without any oil or anything of that sort.
14:09
So it's it's really healthy.
14:11
And then on weekends, I let the rip.
14:14
I'm like, go and eat the most unhealthy thing, treat yourself, and you will see, I realized
14:20
because of the contrast, and I I wanna tell you, try this.
14:26
Do do the 5 days of of discipline and and following through, and we can go wild because
14:33
what?
14:33
The 1st 2, 3 days of the week when you'll you would have reversed the weekend effects, and
14:39
then you still have 2, 3 days of positive effects and and and your mental mind knows
14:44
that, hey, on the weekend, I can do and before you know it, you don't you don't want the fatty
14:49
food and more.
14:50
You eat it and you just feel bloated and and can't move.
14:53
And the third thing, which is one of the main thing that, I got from George Grant is is is
15:00
recommending great vitamins.
15:02
There's so many things out there and and and the pharmacies and some of things like Centrum,
15:09
it's it's used.
15:10
You you think, oh, I get my multivibrin.
15:12
Great, but the studies with Centrum is the way you put it in is the way it comes out.
15:16
You body doesn't use it up, but I don't wanna, sorry, I shouldn't even mention any brands,
15:21
but, I shouldn't do that.
15:24
And, so what I phoned the products, he recommended it to me.
15:29
I used it for 3 months and start and I saw our results.
15:33
It's 6 months.
15:34
It's 5 6, 7 months now.
15:36
I'm still using the products, and it's keeping me.
15:39
And not only does it help me maintain my weight, it my energy level, I can eat now and
15:45
not feel sleepy later.
15:46
I have a sustained energy level, and that's something that he helps to it.
15:50
And I'm very honored, to have him as a health and wellness coach, and I do mention him in the
15:57
book.
15:57
He also contribute there, of course, along with 20 other amazing co author, inclusive of, the
16:04
daughter of Les Brown, the Doctor.
16:06
Ohne Brown and she's not a medical doctor, but she's a PhD, and she got an honorary PhD for
16:12
her work.
16:13
And, So she contributed on her dad overcoming overcoming cancer, actually living with cancer
16:22
20 years on what they had to do, what they did use traditional medicine and holistic medicine
16:29
on a combination to keep him going and He's in his best shape ever.
16:33
He's not best shape ever, but he's traveling the world speaking.
16:36
And I
16:36
wanna read quickly his, her, own a brung, Les Brung did a forward for us, and I wanna read
16:42
that out quickly for you so you have an idea what's coming from him.
16:46
Here is some of what Les Brown rolls, the world's number 1 motivational speaker has to
16:51
say about this book in his forward.
16:54
I am so happy for the collaboration between my daughter, Ohna Brung and Raymond Harlow.
17:02
You are going to learn many strategies in this book to heal your body, stay healthy
17:08
holistically, and how to keep your mind and spirit strong in the process.
17:14
And that's just one paragraph Well, of course, he mentioned my name, so I put that on the
17:19
back.
17:20
That's one paragraph of two or three pages that Les wrote, and he said, read my doctor's
17:26
chapter, which is chapter 1, and you will hear more about his struggle.
17:31
So it's it's it's just an honor.
17:33
It's it's from the heart.
17:34
Everybody here has personal, things that they have overcome in the book, and I wanna really
17:41
encourage your, audience, Roxanne to to come out or even if they're in the Toronto area.
17:47
We have.
17:47
So so let's one thing I I you didn't really mention, but maybe I'm sure it's in the book.
17:53
You talked a lot about your your stress path.
17:56
And we know that today and today's day and age, you know, the stress is on it's it's ever
18:01
mounting.
18:02
We know that you know, depression is a number one concern in the with the World Health
18:08
Organization, anxiety and depression.
18:11
We see a lot more suicidality on the, on on the rise with, young people.
18:16
So there's so many, you know, the pressures I often say, you know, it's not like, like, when
18:21
my ancestors and, you know, they were in cane fields and they were using their physical, you
18:26
know, were out of that stage where it's, it's not that people aren't doing as much physical,
18:31
but we're we're obviously using our brain.
18:34
Like, think of what your day is like or what my day is like, Raymond we're constantly over
18:39
taxing our brain and emotions and our thoughts because that's where that's that's that's our
18:44
tools today.
18:45
Yeah.
18:46
Especially with, with social media, technology, living in a big city like Toronto, there are so
18:51
much going on, and I know I don't like big city.
18:54
Because when I go to New York City, I I just lose it.
18:58
I I love the countryside.
18:59
I grew up as a kid in the countryside, and I enjoyed seeing the tree.
19:04
When I see green trees, that's when I'm the most creative.
19:08
And, and, and to answer your on stress and how our audience can basically get over that.
19:15
I just did a live in Facebook interview.
19:18
I want you to come over to my Facebook channel.
19:21
Raymond Harlow.
19:22
Just it's open.
19:23
You'll go there and of all the 21 co author.
19:26
I have been, for the last 2, 3 weeks, I have been interviewing everyone live on Facebook.
19:32
And just today, just before I came on to this this, podcast here with Roxanne.
19:38
I was on with Haley Patrick, and and she's a young lady.
19:42
She's a coach.
19:43
She's a mentor, and she just give out those strategies.
19:46
So I'm not taking the credit for this, but the first thing she says, we need to get our
19:50
priorities right.
19:52
That is you need to 1st make a list of what you're doing for yourself.
19:56
Like today in entrepreneurs, we forget about us.
20:00
And we work 20, 40 hours a day, maybe, if possible, doing multitasking, doing a hundred
20:06
things at the same time.
20:07
If you're driving and you're talking on the phone, you're you're multitasking, but as
20:12
entrepreneurs, we do that.
20:13
We have to do 3, 4 things at the same time, to make the ends mean and her, I think her first
20:19
thing that she said to do is first put your put yourself first second is is your loved one,
20:26
your husband or your wife, or or your partner, whatever it is, that person that that that if
20:31
you're in a bit, business together, the 2 of you need to have time yourself and she spoke
20:36
about something so interesting.
20:37
She had three little boys.
20:39
She says she may individual time for each of the 3 of them every week.
20:45
She literally said she went to Starbucks three times that day because he she took one she and
20:52
her husband, Jeremy, they took 1 of the sun to Starbucks, bring him back.
20:57
The so they that was like, so powerful.
21:00
Almost no one do this.
21:02
We just throw all the kids in the bus and say, okay, here we go.
21:06
And when they fight, you stop at your older kind of thing, and and that was so powerful.
21:13
So she authorize herself, then her husband, then her her kids, then she said she look after
21:20
money and and her her income and her business.
21:23
And I think that's that's that's the secret to to having a good life because we have we have
21:29
to step back and ask ourselves, why is it that we're doing all of this?
21:32
Because we want we wanna have a happy family life And and that's that's the whole goal.
21:37
We all get up every morning and to go work, and that's what make us happy.
21:41
And we need to prioritize in in a plane when when the air host or the pilot set in case of,
21:47
of turbulence, make sure you put the mask on yourself first because you're gonna, you're
21:52
gonna die.
21:53
You can't help anyone without it.
21:55
So same principle, put the mask on yourself first, put attention on yourself first, start
22:02
loving yourself, whatever that means to you, but whatever of it, it's it's personal hygiene,
22:07
get a haircut, shave a spa day, whatever it is.
22:11
You need, we all need this.
22:13
I do this.
22:14
You need this.
22:15
And and I think all successful people do that, Roxanne.
22:19
Absolutely.
22:20
And, you know, with burnout and, and, are mental, like you said, if we're constantly on
22:26
when we're away and we are not maximizing, the benefit of our potential first, then what's
22:33
left at the you're right.
22:37
Most entrepreneurs, work a lot more, sometimes in having a, you know, a job, sometimes you
22:43
start, you know, you started a you get home by 6:30 and you're done.
22:47
And oftentimes, like yourself and myself, there may be other things that you're doing past that
22:52
time.
22:53
You may not be in the office, but you're you're you're in the office at home when you're doing
22:58
lots of different things.
22:59
So I think you're so right, and that's why I think there's been a depletion now because we
23:03
don't have that start and stop, to our days and our days and our homes.
23:08
Days of work and days at home are blending into in to each other.
23:12
We're consistently connected.
23:15
A lot of times with the coaching that I do, a lot of people are not disconnecting, and
23:19
they're not They're forgetting why they're doing what you they're doing.
23:22
Absolutely.
23:23
Right?
23:23
You know, because, you know, initially, we think entrepreneurs wanna make more money
23:27
really, like you said, you could have a $1,000,000 and you could be, you know, have run
23:32
off that road that day and be disabled.
23:34
And what would that be worth to you and your family
23:37
right on.
23:38
Yeah.
23:38
It's it's it's very important that we have our priorities right and have a master plan as as
23:45
to what we wanna achieve in life and how on the roadmap to get to it, we have to make sure we
23:50
get to it the right way.
23:52
So, you know, I'm curious about.
23:54
Right?
23:55
With younger people, right, and you're younger, you know, you'll hear a lot of people being
24:01
very disillusioned of people coming out of universities and stuff like that.
24:05
The younger generation are feeling like, you know, gone are the days in my generation.
24:10
Obviously, you're a different generation than me, where you'd get out and people would e
24:14
whether they went to university or not, they would get out.
24:17
They would have that job that would be secure for 30 years.
24:20
With myself.
24:21
It was kinda go out, get educated, and you'll have a career.
24:24
And now in this day and age, there's a lot of, lot of really young people that are coming out
24:30
say, university, or and not being able to get a job that could kind of sustain a lifestyle to
24:36
even help them start out.
24:38
So you're a younger guy.
24:39
You're out there in the world.
24:40
What would you say to young people that are just getting started?
24:44
That's an amazing question, Roxanne, because that's my true passion.
24:49
To go into high school.
24:50
So the book, the fine I'm writing.
24:53
I'm still working on this book called the handbook to find freedom by 30.
24:58
So in this book, I wanna share in your twenties you can have basically, I wanna share this to
25:06
kids that are not twenty years old yet so they can just have an a head start that decade that
25:14
I had to invest in seeking out the answer, starting doing any kind of jobs, finding out
25:20
the secret signing up for network marketing, figure out which works, what doesn't work, how
25:26
I can use it, tailor it to the best of my abilities.
25:30
And, what I've learned well, of course, time has changed.
25:33
It's not it's not about that secure.
25:36
There's no more job secured and which is why it's worth your time and effort as a young
25:42
person to start building if you're in high school, you're living with your parents.
25:50
They're paying all the bills.
25:51
They're probably paying a phone bill.
25:52
You have no rent.
25:53
You have no car insurance.
25:55
You have no child to board.
25:56
You have no mortgage.
25:58
And that age in high school, I believe, every young child, every high schooler in in their
26:04
senior year, should actually get a job.
26:06
Even if you take an extra year to get out of high school, get a job that gets you to to
26:12
kinda integrate with real real world because in high school, all they teach you is like, do the
26:18
university course if you're gonna go to university.
26:21
It's it has a UN in the letter, if you're going to college, do the do the college level, and
26:26
and and and that's it.
26:29
But I believe, people needs young people need to know what's going on in the world in the
26:34
real life, and that's the time.
26:36
And and at grade 12, I had 12, $13,000 in my bank account.
26:41
I remember a couple of my, my classmates, got into trouble because they kinda went in my
26:46
backpack and like, oh my god.
26:48
You have all this money and the trip kicked them out of the class or something.
26:53
And and so I think that's one of the time I was most wealthy because in terms of cash flow, no,
27:02
I was not paying anything out.
27:04
I was just whatever.
27:05
I was working minimum wage, but I was saving all of it.
27:08
And as an adult, and most of Canada now, we're actually spending more than we're making.
27:14
And then there's no job security, we're competing against the computers and and AI
27:21
artificial intelligence is even getting worse.
27:24
And and then large cooperation or outsourcing also going to 3rd world countries.
27:30
So we have to be creative.
27:31
We have to be creative and and create something as entrepreneurs you just have to find a
27:38
solution to a problem that will help people and and add a put a value to it and and and hey,
27:45
you have this problem.
27:46
I can help you fix it.
27:48
You're losing 10,000.
27:51
You pay me 5000.
27:52
I'll fix the problem.
27:54
It's like you're a solution person.
27:56
You you're basically finding a solution to a problem and and not only are you finding a
28:03
solution?
28:03
It's most cost it's more cost effective, and and that's what it's all about.
28:08
But you have to do, three things of the same time, actually.
28:12
You have to have a regular job to pay your bills.
28:15
You have to also invest in yourself because that job you can have get fired any day or the
28:20
job can be outsourced any day or replaced by computers any day.
28:24
And most importantly, you have to do self development.
28:28
The best investments you can do or or give yours or do in the world is yourself, the more
28:35
you know, the more powerful you are.
28:38
We don't know what we don't know.
28:40
So we need to keep a learning, moving up the ladder, and then go after your passion.
28:46
I see people.
28:47
Their parents force them to be doctors or a lawyer.
28:51
Or an accountant.
28:52
And when they're 40 or 50 or they have retired, that's when they're like, they went back to the
28:58
thing of their childhood dreams, because when we're in grade school, when we're in
29:02
kindergarten or, or of grade 1 or 2, when her teacher's like, what do you wanna be?
29:06
All the little boys wanna fireman.
29:08
The little girls wanna be teachers, nurses, and that's a passion.
29:12
And sometimes it's suppressed by expectation.
29:16
And what what we learned from subliminal messages, and that's something I wrote in this
29:21
book how how we're being affected by television, billboards and all of that.
29:25
So it's more very deep stuff that we take in subliminally and that's messing us up, to
29:31
confirm, to society and and loss or identity kind of thing.
29:36
So, I went a little bit deep there, but So the one thing you wanna do is get a regular job to
29:43
survive in the real world.
29:44
Any job, it pays money.
29:46
Cash flows just do it.
29:47
2, you wanna invest in yourself, so you can create your own passion, whatever.
29:53
There's always money, and that's something I learned from being a YouTuber.
29:57
On YouTube, you can find everybody could be a star.
30:00
You can teach people how to clean the toilet and you have millions of you.
30:04
Somebody needs to learn to do everything or change a light bulb change a a doorknob and and
30:08
you'll have a million view over time.
30:10
If you're the doorknob guy, the people will come to you.
30:13
And the forklift guy, people come to me and the warehouse guy and how to drive a truck and
30:18
operate a excavator.
30:20
So I have young guys my age all around the world to say, hey, man, Thank you.
30:25
Just like the story I started with, the per the guy that came in person by every day I get
30:30
random messages from Africa, India, wherever not from China because I don't think they have
30:35
YouTube or allowed to use YouTube there, but that's a blessing.
30:39
That keeps me going because realize what I'm doing is not for me or my gain is the fact that
30:44
I can help somebody change their life.
30:46
A total stranger.
30:47
I just add value in the world.
30:49
That's my gift back.
30:50
It's life.
30:51
And then I I donate, I I now get paid by Google between 3.50 to 500 every month.
30:58
And I I I I set aside a fraction of that to sponsor a child in Africa, and his name is, his
31:07
name.
31:08
How can I forget his name right now?
31:10
But he he's eleven years old.
31:12
The reason I choose him is because I search by birthday and I search my birthday and his
31:17
birthday was the same.
31:18
And I'm like, you know what?
31:19
There's no difference.
31:21
Like, that could have been me.
31:23
So that keeps me garunged it.
31:24
No.
31:24
Matter what I do, the 40 or 50 bucks has to come out of my my account and go there.
31:31
And even if I don't, I don't know, I'll never op it because it keeps me grounded and I know
31:38
it's it's me helping somebody else and there's no difference in a soul we've we've all came on
31:44
the org, and and we can make a difference.
31:46
We need to first help herself so we can help others.
31:49
And and one more thing I wanna share in financial freedom is is you wanna create
31:54
something that that actually that's not that doesn't depreciate.
32:02
Most young kids wanna get a cool gadget or buy a car.
32:06
Everybody think when I save my money.
32:08
I wanna buy a car.
32:09
Stop buying cars with your money as soon as I'm a car salesman.
32:13
I, I have my I'm actually opening, dealership, to do more wholesale work and train sales
32:21
people.
32:22
So but a car, everybody wants it.
32:24
They're nice and shining as soon as you drive out the lot, you just paid 13% tax on that, and
32:31
it's a consumption tax.
32:33
That this is peers.
32:34
The 13% on top of it.
32:37
Oh, pay 200 bucks a a week, whatever, or 2 weeks.
32:40
You don't know what you're getting into especially if you're paying you're you're
32:44
you're paying interest on this loan, then it depreciates, then the car wear and tear like,
32:51
it's you're gonna lose in battle.
32:53
Like, your $20,000 car is worth 5005,06 years.
32:58
However, if you can buy a property, which which is what rich wealthy people do, which is what
33:04
the banks do.
33:05
The bank invests in property.
33:07
It's called real estate for a reason.
33:09
It's real estate.
33:11
Like, it basically, goes up in value.
33:14
It's an an asset that no matter what, there's population.
33:19
The world is growing.
33:20
There's less place to live.
33:21
So land is of value.
33:23
And no matter what, if the banks are invested in it, and the banks are to be making money.
33:28
Some people say, who is the illuminati?
33:30
And these guys are so powerful, and the bankers take Forget about that stuff.
33:35
Stop reading all these things on in the internet.
33:38
First, take care of yourself.
33:40
What's going on in your life?
33:42
Can you pay your bill as you get bigger and bigger, then go look for that answer.
33:46
You can't fight those guys.
33:48
The bankers, the I'll the guys in the aisle industry.
33:52
It's not your business.
33:53
Stay out of it.
33:53
First, fix your problem of of of being of staying of sustaining yourself and your family,
34:01
and then actually, that should never be your problem unless you're you're you're looking
34:06
open a bank or or having an oil well, that's then those guys are your issue, but you wanna
34:12
have a job.
34:13
Being an employee is good, serve you, Lauren, chain if you're young, change your job every
34:18
year or 2, you stay in longer for than 2 year on your job.
34:21
You're not gonna get erased, but inflation goes up.
34:24
So you're get getting poorer and poorer every day if you understand inflation.
34:29
If you don't, just Google it, look it up.
34:31
It's on YouTube.
34:32
You can find that.
34:34
And and create something.
34:36
Goo YouTube learn talk is something else too.
34:39
I did the work.
34:40
I accidentally got to become a YouTuber and with all these views because I told you I just
34:45
upload it and let let it stay there.
34:48
But now the check never stop coming every month.
34:51
I got money into my bank account.
34:53
Do I deserve it?
34:56
I don't know.
34:57
I guess so.
34:58
They're paying me.
34:59
So I take it, but I I I do I do charity work.
35:02
And in my book, I can't be $1 for every book that I publish, and I'm a publisher to go
35:08
toward charity also.
35:10
And, and just on the Friday before our event.
35:12
We're going downtown Toronto, giving out socks to the homeless people because it's wintertime
35:17
and and and sharing a meal with them.
35:19
It's not the brag about but we're doing it from our heart.
35:23
That's that's amazing story, Raymond.
35:26
You know?
35:27
And I think the whole concept about, you know, taking care of yourself first, you know, we
35:32
teach academics, but do we de ready teach people to, to go internally.
35:38
And I think that's the gift that, you know, in your message I'm hearing is that do that first
35:44
Yes, you, you're like everybody else.
35:45
We all had to get jobs and figure it out at first.
35:49
And, if you're in a career track, good for and you love something.
35:52
Find your passion.
35:54
Mhmm.
35:54
And and that's the important thing.
35:55
Because you never run out of energy when you're doing what you're passionate about.
35:58
Like Oh,
35:58
no way.
35:59
For a while, you're like, okay.
36:01
But when it's something for someone else, eventually catches up with you and then find
36:06
that path.
36:07
There is, like, you're right.
36:08
Yes.
36:08
The world is changing, but we are in the best point in the world because anything is
36:12
possible.
36:12
Wow.
36:12
You know, that we can create whatever we want.
36:18
You know, here you are from, you know, South America and from just above the equator, you
36:24
know, you know, in Little Islands with, you know, immigrant parents, myself, they were
36:29
from, mostly India, like yours as indenture laborers go to the Caribbean.
36:33
My grandparents on the one side were King Farmers, illiterate.
36:38
And on the other side, they were merchants.
36:40
They were more from the Middle Eastern element.
36:44
But, like, at the end of the day, they worked hard then eventually, you know, wanted better.
36:50
So, you know, the generations kind of got educated, and then eventually, you know, I was
36:54
privileged to be able to kind of I was a foreign student that got sent away to come to
37:00
school.
37:00
So you're,
37:01
you're so right.
37:01
It's the belief, right, to go from that path when I wrote my book and I talk about my
37:07
background, you know, that's 2 generations ago that, that was occurring and what's possible
37:13
today.
37:14
So I that breeding that whole concept of anything is possible.
37:18
It really, the biggest asset that we all have is our our mindset or our brain, and the the
37:23
more that we work on that, what a gift that we give ourselves, and in turn, we give the gift
37:28
to of everybody around us, to be able to benefit from the things that we do daily.
37:34
So tell them about how they could get tickets for your your the power of collaboration.
37:38
That's gonna be this Saturday.
37:41
It's going to be, in Markham.
37:43
So is there a website, Raymond that they could go to if people are, I'm gonna be there.
37:49
I am come to, you know, check out the the launch and spend some time with Raymond and his
37:56
colleagues.
37:57
Where can they get tickets and where they can be bought by the book?
38:02
Yes.
38:02
So the book will be available at our book line event in Toronto.
38:08
Actually, Markham, if you're local and the address
38:14
is We actually have a caraway, but it's, it's 7095 Woodbine Avenue, Mark, And it's at the
38:23
court la Courtyard Marriott by Hotel Toronto Northeast.
38:28
Right.
38:28
It's
38:28
on the ticket here that I have.
38:30
Yes.
38:31
So we would I would welcome meeting anybody that's listening and, you know, come out.
38:37
You're gonna be Doctor Oona Brown.
38:39
I'm also, was able to speak, with Les Brown.
38:44
Yes.
38:45
York in December, Alka Sharma, who I personally know because I met her in New York, and, Jim
38:52
Heatherington is there.
38:54
Daniel Martini.
38:55
Mart Martin sorry.
38:57
James McNeal and Cora Cristobal.
39:01
And, of course, Rick will be there.
39:02
Of course.
39:03
Amongst lots of other, people that are in the book.
39:07
So you're in
39:07
a a place where you're surrounded by people that are into health and wellness.
39:11
What a gift after all the things that we talked about today.
39:15
So, Raymond, is there anything that you want to say before I let you go?
39:19
Yes.
39:19
So do the whole idea is we can't all do everything by ourselves, and everything is not
39:28
for everyone, but something is for someone.
39:31
And, see whatever your dream, vision, mission, ambition is, whatever you will know from deep
39:37
dung in your heart, and that's all.
39:40
You need to set a goal as to what the path that you want your life to take or and just keep
39:46
your eye on the end result.
39:48
Just have a a good enough reason why All you gotta know is your why and and set that
39:55
authentic, ambition and goal and it will come to you.
40:00
The universe will basically conspire and have it come to you.
40:04
You know why?
40:04
I'll give you a real life example.
40:06
Is if you buy a brand new car today or whatever car you buy today, you only see those cars on
40:12
the road forever.
40:14
Like, damn, there's another one.
40:16
Before you bought that car, you never saw those cars before.
40:19
They were there, but it's it's it's just just how it works is is now your senses are turned
40:25
up to that.
40:26
Similarly, and this is real.
40:28
I just prove it to you.
40:30
Similarly, put your eyes on a goal that you wanna achieve and those similar people and it
40:38
will be a they will be attracted to you.
40:40
It's it's it's just how it works.
40:42
You don't have to know about how every how you gotta know why your personal why and your
40:49
reason to get there, and you will achieve your goal.
40:53
Amazing stuff.
40:54
This has been you've been very inspiring young man.
40:58
And and I look forward to spending some time with you, on Saturday.
41:03
And, you know, when when we think about it, it it's not about age here.
41:06
It's about, passion.
41:08
And, you know, I think about you know, we all have something, and it's it doesn't all we
41:15
don't all have to be an entrepreneur, but we could be wanting to be the best parent or the
41:20
best neighbor or the best community person out there, whatever your why is to winds point.
41:27
Just go out there.
41:29
Remember why you're doing what you're doing.
41:31
Focus your time.
41:32
Take care of yourself.
41:34
That's the important thing when you go your goals and to recognize that if, you know, if
41:39
you take care of yourself, in a way that allows you the health, that actually, you take a step
41:45
daily, you know, one step in front of the other.
41:49
That's all it takes.
41:50
And some days, you're gonna go, oh, boy.
41:52
I think get very far.
41:53
And then sometimes one step kind of pulls you into a situation where you're like, wow.
41:58
How did I get here?
41:59
That's 3 65 days.
42:00
And then a year.
42:01
And before you know it, you're in a space where you're surrounded by what you want and always
42:07
keep dreaming, you know, to Raymond's point, kids dream all the time.
42:12
We lose it as we grow up, but stay connected to what you what's important to you.
42:16
So for anyone wanting more, in information on me and, be authentically connected to yourself
42:23
in relationships in reference to your goals or to achievements.
42:27
You can go to my web roxandorhodge.comforward/blueprint where you
42:31
can sign up for a free course.
42:34
So take care, everyone.
42:35
Bye, Raymond.
42:35
Thanks so much.
42:36
Thank you for your time, Roxanne.
42:39
Thank you
42:39
for listening, guys.
42:40
Hope to connecting with you soon.
43:00
All done, Roxanne.
43:03
All done.
43:04
Excellent.
43:04
That was amazing.
43:08
Well, it's so nice having you.
43:10
Thank you.
43:11
Thank you.
43:12
I I believe everything happened for a reason.
43:18
Oops.
43:19
Did I lose you?
43:36
Thanks for tuning in to authentic living with Roxanne, creating the space for positive,
43:42
healthy change.
43:43
Roxanne is a keynote speaker, psychotherapist, and coach to work with Roxanne, visit
43:49
rocksandurhaj.com/blueprint.
43:53
We'll see you next time on authentic living with Roxanne.