61 - Should is Damaging

Stop Sabotaging Your Success · May 11, 2023 · 15m

Cindy Esliger talks about ‘should have’, ‘could have’, and ‘would have’ phrases to highlight how they can lead to negative self-talk, self-blame, and feelings of regret. She guides us through how they impact our mindset and how to turn them around into possibilities instead of statements of disappointment.

‘Should have’ and ‘could have’ root us in regret over past actions. Focusing solely on what we didn’t do or could have done better can impact our confidence going forward. It leads us to procrastination and doubt in our abilities. ‘Would have’, on the other hand, keeps us open to…