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DLHS Hour 2 | Studies show children behave better with fathers than mothers · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: So a new study is saying that children behave eight
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  Speaker 1: hundred percent better when they're with their fathers and then
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  Speaker 1: with their mothers. And skip, you were saying something at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the break, and I wanted you to
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  Speaker 1: get a chance to say it again what we were saying.
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  Speaker 2: You know, Jasmine brought up that you know, kids feel
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  Speaker 2: comfortable around their mother, But I said, if if that's
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  Speaker 2: the same comfortable feeling you'll feel, you know, when you
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  Speaker 2: get older, that usually ends up getting you arrested or shot,
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  Speaker 2: or if you're tantrum and acting up and you know, hey, come.
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  Speaker 1: On, man, you know, just like I think that's an
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  Speaker 1: old Like our neighbor, our situations were any better because
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  Speaker 1: we got beat I don't think you can beat behavior
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  Speaker 1: into somebody.
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  Speaker 3: I really don't.
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  Speaker 1: Ring No, I got I got plenty of weapons.
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  Speaker 3: It didn't stop me from getting in trouble.
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  Speaker 2: Well just think how many how much more trouble you
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  Speaker 2: would have been in. So you always got to put
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  Speaker 2: thing on the scale, like, Okay, this is why I
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  Speaker 2: ended up. It's hard to are you a negative, but
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  Speaker 2: you could have ended up a whole lot worse.
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  Speaker 1: Well, well, I couldn't have got much worse people to
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  Speaker 1: work with that I actually am doing right now.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe one more asked would have prevented this.
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  Speaker 1: But I will say a new study saying that children
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  Speaker 1: behave eight hundred percent better when they're with their fathers
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  Speaker 1: than with their mothers.
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  Speaker 3: No Jazzmine, her reading of.
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  Speaker 1: The report says that it's because they feel safer around
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  Speaker 1: their mother and Skip aptly said, well that maybe those
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  Speaker 1: little crump snatchers.
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  Speaker 4: Shouldn't drive, shouldn't feel so safe.
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  Speaker 1: And here is the thing that I have never had
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  Speaker 1: in all of my life. You know what, it depends
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  Speaker 1: on what you're raising. Really, honestly, I've never seen a
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  Speaker 1: black man talk about safety under any other condition that
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  Speaker 1: he was talking about giving it to someone never receiving it.
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  Speaker 1: I've never heard of black man say I want to
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  Speaker 1: be safe, because I think it's such an abstract concept.
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  Speaker 1: But I have heard them say they want their families,
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  Speaker 1: say they want their neighbor hoods safe, they want, you know, safety,
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  Speaker 1: But I've never heard so. I think even the even
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  Speaker 1: the worst safety, even even in the context of this
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  Speaker 1: particular the the the synopsis, the analysis of this study
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  Speaker 1: is a weird thing for me because it's saying, intimating
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  Speaker 1: basically that if you feel safer, you are acting ass suppose,
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  Speaker 1: and I think that there should be some level of
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  Speaker 1: I think danger.
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  Speaker 3: Keeps you you you didn't you didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Touch that stop touching fire because you feel safe doing it?
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  Speaker 3: You felt like it was dangerous. You know, you didn't.
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  Speaker 1: You don't wear your seatbelt because it's safe, were because
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  Speaker 1: it could be dangerous not.
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  Speaker 5: To Well, I think you think you see you know,
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  Speaker 5: I I would I would disagree and say I don't
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  Speaker 5: think that you touched the cuss.
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  Speaker 3: Disagree.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I think you do it because you just it's
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  Speaker 5: the unknown, and you just want to know, you know
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  Speaker 5: what I mean. I think it's curiosity. Most kids are curious.
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  Speaker 5: They don't look at things as dangerous or not. They
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  Speaker 5: look at it as I just want to see going
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  Speaker 5: to happen. I don't believe you. I want to see
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  Speaker 5: for myself. And even looking at further into the study,
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  Speaker 5: you know which, by the way, there are a lot
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  Speaker 5: of studies that disagree with this and say this was
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  Speaker 5: actually a false study.
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  Speaker 4: It's not true.
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  Speaker 5: There is no such things eight hundred percent number one,
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  Speaker 5: And they basically go on to say, you know the
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  Speaker 5: reason behind this study, which there is some truth to
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  Speaker 5: does come down to, you know, the basic human needs
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  Speaker 5: and emotions of children, meaning that they need to feel safe.
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  Speaker 5: And when they're in the presence of their mother, they say,
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  Speaker 5: because of the pheromones and all of that, they feel
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  Speaker 5: they can be completely themselves and their mother is never
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  Speaker 5: going to I know you don't understand this part for sure.
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  Speaker 4: Their mothers never going to stop loving them.
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  Speaker 5: Their mother's always going to protect them no matter what,
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  Speaker 5: whether they act up, whether they act right.
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  Speaker 4: And so I.
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  Speaker 1: Like the imitation kid better. I like the one that
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  Speaker 1: pretends like they. I don't care.
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  Speaker 3: I don't even care. I don't even care. Whatever makes
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  Speaker 3: you not make acting ass, I don't care. I don't care.
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  Speaker 1: If it's fear, love, imitation, whatever gets you to sit
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  Speaker 1: your ass down and not embarrass me, that's called a
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  Speaker 1: sell taken.
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  Speaker 4: Ye, that's what difference is.
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  Speaker 6: I don't care.
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  Speaker 3: I don't give a damn about why it happens.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care nothing about the natural faeromones, and I
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  Speaker 1: don't care nothing about that.
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  Speaker 3: I care that you don't embarrass me in this place.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I care.
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  Speaker 4: I'm telling yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So, But but like when Nola was staying with us,
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  Speaker 1: everybody whooped her.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody whips at me, everybody. They ganged up on her
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  Speaker 3: one time like that seen from airplane man.
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  Speaker 1: And the only reason I and I probably didn't this
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  Speaker 1: because I wasn't there enough.
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  Speaker 3: But everybody jacked her up.
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  Speaker 4: Ryan, never put your hands on that.
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  Speaker 1: I'll show you. I'll show you a video right now.
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  Speaker 1: Be popping, Nola.
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  Speaker 4: Please, it ain't real.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, I bet you was crying more than she.
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  Speaker 4: I see no way she got you rapped. She could
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  Speaker 4: set the house on fire, you be, you could have.
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  Speaker 3: Listen. I don't think I.
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  Speaker 1: I think I didn't hit Tyler hard enough. And look
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  Speaker 1: what happened to her. You can't be aspergers out of kids.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you that I've tried.
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  Speaker 3: The question we're asking.
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  Speaker 1: A new study is saying that children behaved eight hundred
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  Speaker 1: percent better with their fathers than they do their mothers.
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  Speaker 3: Why he supposed that is we're going through the phones.
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  Speaker 8: Children are innocent and so and the way God created
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  Speaker 8: man in his image.
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  Speaker 4: A child innately.
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  Speaker 8: Responds to a man because God put it there and
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  Speaker 8: so bomb we are the natures, so we gain.
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  Speaker 6: Their respect by what we do.
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  Speaker 8: But with a man, it automatically calm because of how
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  Speaker 8: God built them.
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  Speaker 9: I believe that men are more intimidating than women or
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  Speaker 9: when it comes to kids, and I think the father
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  Speaker 9: a lot less likely to tolerate stuff the mothers are,
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  Speaker 9: so that's why they don't plan off. I've had my
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  Speaker 9: buts think by a man before and by my mother,
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  Speaker 9: and I can tell you that it heard a lot
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  Speaker 9: worse when that man did it. So I really think
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  Speaker 9: that's the reason why this intimidation.
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  Speaker 6: I'm a woman and mother, we kind of push over.
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  Speaker 6: We need to rest them to do what they want.
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  Speaker 6: The first time they get in trouble or they do
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  Speaker 6: something that they shouldn't do it, the first thing we
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  Speaker 6: say is wait till your daddy get home. Daddy ain't
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  Speaker 6: playing that stuff. He gonna whip your ass when you
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  Speaker 6: know that you need it. So I feel that dad
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  Speaker 6: are more sterner than than mother because mother with the
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  Speaker 6: kids just going to the store and fall out and
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  Speaker 6: cut up and cry at the store, Daddy ain't playing that.
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  Speaker 10: I feel like his gender based because my daughter, she
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  Speaker 10: would try me more more than she would try her mother.
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  Speaker 10: But now my son, he's as hard here. So he
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  Speaker 10: tried his mother to you. But but she tapped his legs,
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  Speaker 10: and I don't play with me like that because i'll,
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  Speaker 10: you know, because I'm a male has like that's the
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  Speaker 10: stern voice.
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  Speaker 4: Honestly for me, it's twofold.
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  Speaker 11: And some people might take this the wrong way, but
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  Speaker 11: a lot of mothers today are not really trying to
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  Speaker 11: be mothers.
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  Speaker 10: They rather be out on the street.
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  Speaker 6: So that's why a lot of these kids are acting out.
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  Speaker 11: Because they do not have that parent or a strong
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  Speaker 11: figure at home to look too and to discipline.
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  Speaker 12: Dad usually getting that ass f after a little bit
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  Speaker 12: more than moms do. Moms tend to be a little
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  Speaker 12: bit more lenient, and yet dadd's just don't play. That's
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  Speaker 12: send enough shill, I think.
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  Speaker 3: It because we cat that button nose hands.
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  Speaker 13: They don't do that. Now they are praying to get
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  Speaker 13: that kids.
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  Speaker 4: You don't have to hurt them to make them learn.
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  Speaker 14: Kids act up more with their mom because basically they
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  Speaker 14: know a dad gets m he gonna get that butt
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  Speaker 14: with them thunder, and he's a lot more stronger than mama.
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  Speaker 15: So they rather get.
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  Speaker 14: That butt with them the mama than they will from daddy.
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  Speaker 14: For me, growing up, my mom didn't play, but I
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  Speaker 14: rather got my butt with the mom than dad, because
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  Speaker 14: I never got whooped by my dad, but when I
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  Speaker 14: seen him whooped one of my sisters, I didn't want
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  Speaker 14: no part of it.
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  Speaker 1: The question that we're asking a new study is saying
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  Speaker 1: that mens giving their children behave eight hundred percent better
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  Speaker 1: when they were with their fathers as opposed to their mother's.
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  Speaker 1: Why do you suppose that is? Well, are going to
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  Speaker 1: the phones.
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  Speaker 16: The percentage that d O gave is high, but it
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  Speaker 16: is factual that children that are raised by their father
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  Speaker 16: separate from their mother, or raised with a father in
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  Speaker 16: the house with the mother, tend to have more of
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  Speaker 16: a sense of discipline. They have they have regiment behavior,
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  Speaker 16: they have better followed through, and they tend to pick
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  Speaker 16: orderly mates when they go on to decide to make
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  Speaker 16: children in their own. The military has done studies of
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  Speaker 16: that and it's high, and it's the same thing with
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  Speaker 16: college graduates.
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  Speaker 4: It's the truth.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, I agree with the eight hundred percent.
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  Speaker 17: Eight hundred percent is when kids can feel that they
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  Speaker 17: can get away with what they're doing. The other two
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  Speaker 17: hundred percent is when dad goes to AI, which is
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  Speaker 17: an ass infliction. So I get the eight hundred percent.
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  Speaker 17: Kids just clowning around Mom waiting till they get home.
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  Speaker 17: But that two hundred percent they're not going to take that.
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  Speaker 17: So yeah, I can understand the two hundred percent on
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  Speaker 17: that footman that they're gonna give from day.
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  Speaker 15: Yet, I think the kids learned that a very very
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  Speaker 15: age between both parents what they can do and what
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  Speaker 15: they cannot do. They learn from their father what they
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  Speaker 15: can get away with, what they cannot get away with
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  Speaker 15: they learn from their mother. Mother tend to be a
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  Speaker 15: lot leaning when they come to their children. Father tend
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  Speaker 15: to be a more stern. You know, their mom will
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  Speaker 15: try I'll tell you three times not to do something,
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  Speaker 15: but your father will only tell you one time. The
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  Speaker 15: second time it's gonna be a slap on your butt.
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  Speaker 15: He's gonna discipline you. So I think kids learn at
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  Speaker 15: a very very age. My kids learned a very very age.
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  Speaker 16: They knew they.
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  Speaker 15: Couldn't get away with things with me, and with their
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  Speaker 15: mom they could. And that was the same way with
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  Speaker 15: my mom. I could get away with them my mom,
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  Speaker 15: but my dad I knew if he told me one time.
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  Speaker 18: That was it.
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  Speaker 13: I agree with the comment about the children feeling safe,
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  Speaker 13: but I'd like to add the Children Act up tend
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  Speaker 13: to act up more with their moms because they feel
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  Speaker 13: safe in expressing themselves more so with their moms than
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  Speaker 13: with their dads. I think dad's unless maybe patient or
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  Speaker 13: you know, open to them acting out and they you know,
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  Speaker 13: that discipline more so or before the mother was. So
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  Speaker 13: I think it's a safe in expressing themselves, and that
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  Speaker 13: could be in any variational ways, whether it's a tantrum
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  Speaker 13: or whatnot. But I think it's a safety in an
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  Speaker 13: expressmentseelf Well, I.
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  Speaker 18: Think that the question it seems kind of elusive, but
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  Speaker 18: I think the kids act out with the mother because
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  Speaker 18: they can get away with it, and they don't get
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  Speaker 18: away with all that behavior with the father. So as
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  Speaker 18: a dynamic of structure and parenting that the kids are
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  Speaker 18: going to do or behave where they can actually get
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  Speaker 18: away with it, and unfortunately a lot of father's not
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  Speaker 18: going like that.
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  Speaker 11: I understand where everyone is coming from and their perspectives
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  Speaker 11: of who their parents were in that household. And I
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  Speaker 11: also know and understand why the mother is going to
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  Speaker 11: be the one to get the tantrum because her perspective,
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  Speaker 11: she's the nurturer there with her for the most time,
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  Speaker 11: and when they're not with her, who's probably the provider.
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  Speaker 11: And as far as the father, and when he is
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  Speaker 11: around and he is active, no one, whether it's going
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  Speaker 11: to be the son or the daughter, he's not gonna want.
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  Speaker 4: To discipline them.
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  Speaker 11: It's gonna hurt him if he's a true father. And
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  Speaker 11: when he does, it's gonna hurt the children more because
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  Speaker 11: they're used to it being the mom.
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