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EP 21 - WHY IS SEX SO IMPORTANT ? · Relatables

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Speaker 1: Coming up onles.
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Speaker 2: Okay, here's a question. You're looking after my dogs. I
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Speaker 2: have a camera set up. I do the wrong thing
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Speaker 2: without telling you, right, so here I am in the wrong, right, I.
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Speaker 1: Don't tell you about it. I forget to tell you whatever.
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Speaker 2: And then for some and then you guys, see, I
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Speaker 2: think it's a good idea to start like fuck on
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Speaker 2: my kitchen counter, and I catch it on camera, and
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Speaker 2: I'm thinking, first of all, what the fuck are you
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Speaker 2: doing fucking on my kitchen counter?
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Speaker 1: But then you guys are like, what are you doing
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Speaker 1: with the camera? Yeah, you're on the wrong. That's such
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Speaker 1: an easy clean up on.
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Speaker 3: That surface stone bench. You gotta leave the couch too.
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Speaker 3: I'd be more worried about my sweat mat.
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Speaker 1: To be fair, I'd prefer you funk out of the
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Speaker 1: room than in the room, like out of the.
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Speaker 2: Like if you're if you staying at my house, I
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Speaker 2: prefer you have sex out of the room, then in
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Speaker 2: the room, then in the bedroom.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, probably I probably still would.
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Speaker 4: At Okay, I had a week thought the other day.
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Speaker 2: I thought, you know, when you're a kid and you
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Speaker 2: get your first girlfriend and like you kind of I
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Speaker 2: don't know, just are a.
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Speaker 1: Little bit lovey dovey and like you.
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Speaker 2: Hang up first, No, you hang up first, or even
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Speaker 2: now with our girlfriends on the phone, like oh I
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Speaker 2: love you by or maybe they're getting all sweet in
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Speaker 2: the bedroom and you're kind of like, what are your
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Speaker 2: parents doing that? I was like thinking about my dad.
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Speaker 1: No, I didn't do that.
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Speaker 2: I was thinking about my dad like on the phone
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Speaker 2: when he was a kid to his first girlfriend, like no,
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Speaker 2: you hang up and like looking for his parents and shit,
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Speaker 2: like what the fuck?
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Speaker 1: That's so weird.
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Speaker 3: Way did you before you had your first kiss with
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Speaker 3: your first girlfriend or whatever?
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Speaker 1: Like kiss mirroring? Never a mirror? Now, what did you do?
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Speaker 1: Never a mirror, never a mirror? What was it? I
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Speaker 1: think I did overthink it a lot. Are you a
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Speaker 1: hand guy?
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Speaker 2: I think I remember someone saying and like you, but
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Speaker 2: like I was always just thinking I kind of would.
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Speaker 2: I never did it on the mirror, but I think
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Speaker 2: I might have done it maybe in front of the mirror.
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Speaker 3: I did in front of the mirror, and check how
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Speaker 3: I looked. I kept the eyes open, and I remember
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Speaker 3: I was so nervous. I wasn't that nervous for a kiss.
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Speaker 3: I was nervous for a hookup, because what do you
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Speaker 3: do with.
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Speaker 1: Your with a peck? It's easy? Yeah.
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Speaker 3: I always I remember like making tool, like, oh, that's
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Speaker 3: what I would feel.
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Speaker 1: Like if I'm doing it in my hand. I always
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Speaker 1: used to think, yeah, what do you do with your tongue?
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Speaker 2: Yes, Like it didn't make any sense. I assume you
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Speaker 2: don't stab? Yeah, yeah, I hope like you don't go.
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Speaker 3: But it's so funny because obviously it comes to natural now,
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Speaker 3: but like it seemed like it didn't make any sense,
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Speaker 3: Like what do you mean I'm gonna put my tongue
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Speaker 3: down a.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, like throat legitimate bro okay, also like okay, fucking hell,
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Speaker 2: my first kiss like set the bar quite high. Maybe
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Speaker 2: you telling me like I ever I I didn't have
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Speaker 2: Like it didn't get I went like kind of good,
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Speaker 2: a little bit worse up to good. Let me and
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Speaker 2: Beth have perfect chemistry. It's about the chemistry. It is
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Speaker 2: about the chemistry. It's about the chemistry and poor Beth
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Speaker 2: knowing that out there I've got good chemistry. Else Oh
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Speaker 2: just kidding, No, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I was just joke.
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Speaker 3: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie Clark ak
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Speaker 3: Mummy and my partner in crime is the Jake Craig
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Speaker 3: aka Daddy, and Jake is daddy because why you're daddy?
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Speaker 5: Uh?
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Speaker 1: Oh, Jake is daddy because Jake's daddy. Oh daddy, I'm daddy.
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. You haven't proved or
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Speaker 1: did you tell a quick story?
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Speaker 3: Sure it will be on the Patreon vlog Plug eight
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Speaker 3: nine nine a month early plug. But so I'm staying
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Speaker 3: at Jake's house at the moment, and you know the
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Speaker 3: Jake and I are vanilla boys. Yeah right, and we'll
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Speaker 3: also drink perfect ted vanilla much a light da funk.
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Speaker 3: I'm on fire with plugs recently? A what do you mean?
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Speaker 1: What? How good was that? We're vanilla boys? Plug? Vanilla
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Speaker 1: perfect ted vnila. But but you said I'm on fire
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Speaker 1: with plugs.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, remember the other day how I did a good
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Speaker 3: one and then I sucked it up? Plug Patrens.
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Speaker 1: That's not being on fire with plugs anyway. Okay, here
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Speaker 1: we go. So storytime.
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Speaker 3: I'm at Jake's house and we're vanilla boys, not that kinky.
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Speaker 3: I go to have a shower and then I'm button
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Speaker 3: naked in the shower. I'm looking at the basin sink
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Speaker 3: in the bathroom and there's a little camera there and
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Speaker 3: I'm like, this fucking dirty dog's been watching his naked
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Speaker 3: girlfriend in the shower on his fucking baby monitor camera
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Speaker 3: he's got in here.
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Speaker 1: I was like, this, kinky motherfucker. Little do I know
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Speaker 1: I'm being recorded the whole time I get out of
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Speaker 1: the shower. Jake come over here. It's on the blog.
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Speaker 1: What's this?
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Speaker 3: And he takes me on some rigamarole about it's about
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Speaker 3: his dog, making sure that it's safe for the proof.
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Speaker 1: And then I go. Beth goes on her phone and
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Speaker 1: there's a saved video of me naked. It saves photos.
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Speaker 1: It does look because Darcy, look for my friend. It's
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Speaker 1: not a good look at all. Look, Darcy's just in
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Speaker 1: her crate right now. Yeah, it's color too. Why was
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Speaker 1: I black and white? You weren't your color? It's because Darcy,
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Speaker 1: You know people.
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Speaker 3: It also wasn't angled down. It was bloody angled straight
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Speaker 3: ap my cock.
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Speaker 1: It actually was, wasn't it. And then Beth goes, oh, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I could notify it.
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Speaker 2: She was getting the notifications of something moving in the camera,
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Speaker 2: something big.
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Speaker 1: She was saving that ship for later.
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Speaker 2: And it was funny because Beth goes on her phone
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Speaker 2: and I was saying, like, I don't worry, it doesn't
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Speaker 2: save anything.
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Speaker 1: And then she goes on her phone and she's like,
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Speaker 1: oh wait, no it does. It saves it doesn't say,
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Speaker 1: and then she got on to delete the images. Funny, funny. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that was a full accidental lucky we're close.
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Speaker 3: Imagine it was like, I don't know if someone else
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Speaker 3: use your bar from just to take a picture of ship.
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Speaker 2: I better Actually Beth has a friend coming over, her
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Speaker 2: friends flying up from Sydney tomorrow.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we better unplug that thing.
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Speaker 2: You know, so, oh yeah, we better unflog that. Oh
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Speaker 2: your question, I am. I'm getting my friends justin Alana.
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Speaker 2: They're looking after Darcy when I go to Canada. And
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Speaker 2: someone asked me the other day like are you gonna
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Speaker 2: set up a camera but whoever's looking after it? And
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Speaker 2: I was like, definitely not at their house, right, Like,
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Speaker 2: definitely not going to set up camera at their house.
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Speaker 1: I just asked for proof of life updates.
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Speaker 2: Know about you these days, but would it be weird
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Speaker 2: to have someone come and look after your dog and
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Speaker 2: you have a camera set up in the house, Because
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Speaker 2: like I have a camera set up just to check
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Speaker 2: on Darcy when I'm not there because your friends.
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Speaker 3: No, But if it'd have to be like viewpoint only
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Speaker 3: at Darcy's bed, I reckon or the create yeah, because.
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Speaker 2: Like because like if let's just say I was going away,
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Speaker 2: you don't trust them. Let's let you You and Cassie
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Speaker 2: just came up to Queensland for like chicky little like
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Speaker 2: week holiday and Beth and I go away and you're
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Speaker 2: just like looking after Darcy and Henry or whatever, and
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Speaker 2: we just have a camera set up for the dogs.
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Speaker 1: You have them for the dogs. Yeah, we have to
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Speaker 1: let him know.
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Speaker 2: Well, we definitely know, but like you'd have your right
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Speaker 2: to be like you sorry, you'd have every right to
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Speaker 2: be like yeah, like if I was going to look
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Speaker 2: after someone, I'd be like, I don't know if I
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Speaker 2: want the camera.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: And the reason I ask is, okay, justin Elana, the
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Speaker 2: people that are looking after Darcy, they had someone look
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Speaker 2: after their dog once and then this person was working
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Speaker 2: full time, like ten hour days. So I went over
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Speaker 2: a couple of times in the middle of the day
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Speaker 2: to check on him, and they have a camera, and
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Speaker 2: then when they got home they were telling me that
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Speaker 2: they just had the camera and they were just like
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Speaker 2: checking on their dog.
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Speaker 1: Well, I guess it's just a conversation at the end
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Speaker 1: of the day.
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Speaker 2: And like, so she was this girl was just like
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Speaker 2: living at the house. I don't know if she was
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Speaker 2: if she knew the cameras she had to.
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Speaker 3: Because also if it's like a young if she's single,
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Speaker 3: maybe it's fine. But like young couples are fucking everywhere.
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Speaker 2: Exactly right, you have to just be like, do you
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Speaker 2: mind if I have the camera set up.
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Speaker 1: And then I'll know not to fuck that. Imagine if
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Speaker 1: you guys had sex in front of a camera at
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Speaker 1: my house.
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Speaker 2: Imagine and we were like, you didn't tell me, Yeah, exactly,
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Speaker 2: Like the camera's kind of heat.
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Speaker 1: I have every right to fuck wherever I want in
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Speaker 1: your house.
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Speaker 2: Okay, here's a question. You're looking after my dogs. I
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Speaker 2: have a camera set up. I do the wrong thing
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Speaker 2: without telling you, right, So here I am in the wrong, right,
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Speaker 2: I don't tell you about it.
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Speaker 1: I forget to tell you whatever, and.
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Speaker 2: Then for some and then you guys, see, I think
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Speaker 2: it's a good idea to start, like fuck on my
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Speaker 2: kitchen counter and I catch it on camera, and I'm
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Speaker 2: thinking first of all, what the fuck are you doing
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Speaker 2: fucking on my kitchen counter?
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Speaker 1: But then you guys are like, what are you doing
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Speaker 1: with the camera? Yeah, you're on the wrong.
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Speaker 3: You that's such an easy clean up on that surface
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Speaker 3: stone bench.
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Speaker 1: You gotta leave the couch too. I'd be more worried
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Speaker 1: about my sweat and mat.
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Speaker 2: To be fair, I'd prefer you funk out of the room,
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Speaker 2: then in the room, like out of the like if
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Speaker 2: you were if you were staying at my house, I
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Speaker 2: prefer you have sex out of the room, then in
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Speaker 2: the room, then in the bedroom.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, probably, I probably still would wait a week. One time,
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Speaker 1: you're in the moon.
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Speaker 2: Before before me Beth moved in together, I lived with
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Speaker 2: my sister, and me and my sister bought a lounge
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Speaker 2: together when she first moved in. And one time she
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Speaker 2: was away and Beth was staying at the just came
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Speaker 2: over for the weekend and Beth and I had sex
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Speaker 2: on the lounge and like, you know, when you have sex,
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Speaker 2: it's like juices involved or whatever, and so well, I
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Speaker 2: just like kind of flipped a cush and then you
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Speaker 2: want to clear in the one day and flip it
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Speaker 2: back over. And she in front of me and she's like, Jake,
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Speaker 2: that better, I'll be what I think it did.
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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know what it is. I
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Speaker 1: don't want to reach it. Doesn't know. She definitely does.
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Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know what. That's a boy way.
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Speaker 3: To fix it, just flipping it over a Jake. I
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Speaker 3: wanted the top end of the episode with a brand
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Speaker 3: new segment. And for this, Jake, we need to enter
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Speaker 3: a room and the room is going to be called
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Speaker 3: the Why am I like this room?
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Speaker 1: We're now in the room. Why am I like this room?
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Speaker 4: Jake?
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Speaker 1: How does it feel? It feels good? Judgment free zone,
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Speaker 1: judgment free zone, solution free zone. I feel safe. I
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Speaker 1: feel like I'm in a good environment to vent. Why
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Speaker 1: am I like this? Jake? Can I start? Yeah? You start?
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Speaker 3: Why am I always super excited to watch my show?
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Speaker 3: And then as soon as I turn it on, I
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Speaker 3: go on my phone and a scroll Marketplace the whole time?
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Speaker 1: Don't even watch my show? Okay? Adding Marketplace in there
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Speaker 1: is what do you mean? No fucking judgment? That was
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Speaker 1: complete judgment? Sorry? Sorry, no, no, no, we can judge
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Speaker 1: each other. It makes me feel better, not worse. Market
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Speaker 1: Place is crazy? Why you like that.
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Speaker 6: I don't know that because you have an addiction to Marketplace, but.
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Speaker 2: You will go in and other things. What are you
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Speaker 2: watching Yellowstone still?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yellowstay, great show.
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Speaker 3: I'm looking forward to it every single night, right, And
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Speaker 3: then I get to it and I'm like after an hour, like,
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Speaker 3: I'm like, what happened in the show?
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Speaker 1: You go back? Like on the show? No, no, no,
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Speaker 1: I just pick things up. I can't.
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Speaker 2: I know the show is bad if I'm on my phone.
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Speaker 2: Oh but yours is a great shot.
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Speaker 1: It's a good show. That's what I mean. Your strange
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Speaker 1: addiction is a strong addiction. Here's a strong addiction. How
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Speaker 1: many days back again? Have you ever had it? Have
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Speaker 1: you had a day off Marketplace? Yeah? Yesterday? What'd you do?
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Speaker 1: I look at my MicroPlace. I looked at motorbikes.
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Speaker 2: You showed me one today. Actually, so you've been on
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Speaker 2: MicroPlace today too?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, gone there all the time. It's my strange addiction.
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Speaker 1: That is so funny.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, that didn't make me feel better at all.
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Speaker 1: Hey, you said judgement free and solution free.
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Speaker 7: I'm not even make you feel better. I'm here to
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Speaker 7: listen you feel worse. You go, okay, Well I am
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Speaker 7: why am Why am I like this?
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Speaker 2: So the other day, Oddie and I are trying to
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Speaker 2: figure out how to record a virtual episode, right, and
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Speaker 2: we do it, and I have an SD card for
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Speaker 2: the audio and an SD card for the camera for
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Speaker 2: the video. And then I get home and I realized
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Speaker 2: that I have forgotten my adapter at the studio because
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Speaker 2: I went back home to see the dogs.
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Speaker 1: Right, I've forgotten my adapter at the studio.
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Speaker 2: That makes it so my computer can read said SD cards,
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Speaker 2: And I'm like, first of all, in that moment, why
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Speaker 2: am I like this? Second of all, Luckily enough I
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Speaker 2: go into see my dad. He has an adapter, and
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Speaker 2: I'm like, cool, can you transfer this file to this
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Speaker 2: hard drive?
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Speaker 1: I don't know where my dad got this adapter. That
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Speaker 1: motherfucker took two hours. All right, I'm going in. It
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Speaker 1: would have been quicker for me to drive back to
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Speaker 1: the studio and get my adapter.
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Speaker 3: So I'm going in and he's like, fair, the SD
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Speaker 3: card was sixty four gigs.
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Speaker 2: I know, but it's trust me, trust me, but it's
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Speaker 2: usually like fucking twenty minutes. And so I go Finally
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Speaker 2: it's done, and now I would have to do is
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Speaker 2: I have to proxy the fucking the thing. And then
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Speaker 2: and so I procised.
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Speaker 1: The first attempt, Yes well, I took for files.
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Speaker 2: Yes bro, And then I proxy. I proxy a file
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Speaker 2: to make a video file smaller, to send it to Oddie.
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Speaker 1: Approxy it. It's doing well. And then I go to
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Speaker 1: upload it a drop box.
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Speaker 2: Four hours to upload, and then Audious messages me when
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Speaker 2: he finally gets it, He's like, this is gonna take
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Speaker 2: four hours two now download?
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Speaker 1: Why is that? And I was like, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I proxied it, bro.
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Speaker 2: Okay, And then Audio messages me and Go messages me,
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Speaker 2: and he goes, oh, the audio is a bit clapped,
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Speaker 2: and so I'm like cool, cool, Like I'll make sure
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Speaker 2: I keep my micro SD card and then he's like
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Speaker 2: yes sweet. And then I'm looking for my micro SD card,
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Speaker 2: thinking add he needs this thing.
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Speaker 1: Can't find it anywhere.
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Speaker 2: Left it on a table somewhere and I must have
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Speaker 2: chucked it out or threw it into fucking space or
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Speaker 2: tiny And I was like, where could I still gone?
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Speaker 1: Still gone? Still gone? Can't find it? That's wh why?
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Speaker 2: I like, why would I fucking not just drive back
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Speaker 2: to the studio and get my thing?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're the problem. I mean, mate, how is the best?
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Speaker 1: It's like such a normal thing. It really is. It
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Speaker 1: really is. Alright, you're next, then, all right? Why am
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Speaker 1: I like this?
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Speaker 3: I start so many good ideas and then I forget
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Speaker 3: about them because they're all only in my head and
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Speaker 3: I don't write them down.
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Speaker 1: I could be a millionaire. I do that too. Where
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Speaker 1: I could be a millionaire, I do that too.
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Speaker 2: All What about all the business ideas we have where
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Speaker 2: we think that's a great business idea, but neither one
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Speaker 2: of us, like decide to pursue it, and then like
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Speaker 2: six months to a year later, someone starts that business
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Speaker 2: idea and it's successful.
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Speaker 1: I know it's successful.
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Speaker 2: And all we had to do was started at the
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Speaker 2: time that we thought of it, and we're more successful,
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Speaker 2: and we would.
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Speaker 1: Have been successful.
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Speaker 2: I want to know how many successful business ideas I've
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Speaker 2: had that I've just gone too much work?
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Speaker 1: Why am I like why it?
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Speaker 3: I'm always like I'll remember it, and a day goes
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Speaker 3: by and I forget it and I can't even remember anything.
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Speaker 1: Why am I like this? Okay, I've got to remember
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Speaker 1: hi one? Okay? Why am I like this? This one?
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Speaker 4: This?
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Speaker 2: Unluckily I had a good outcome okay, Audie and I.
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Speaker 2: Once again, this is on the topic of virtual episodes.
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Speaker 2: Addie and I planned to record a virtual episode on
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Speaker 2: the Sunday just gone at the time of recording this, yeah,
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Speaker 2: and we had recorded one and thought, yeah, let's do
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Speaker 2: another one on Sunday.
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Speaker 1: Why not. Yeah, we'll get it and get ahead, get
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Speaker 1: nice and good. And then Addie voice messages me on Sunday.
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Speaker 2: Morning being like, good morning, sir, if you have a
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Speaker 2: lovely weekend. Just wanted to ask if you were keen
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Speaker 2: to just maybe not do that recording, like we're ahead anyway,
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Speaker 2: it's all good, like I gotta do.
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Speaker 1: And as you said that, I was like, Laddie said
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Speaker 1: that because I forgot.
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Speaker 2: Fuck And I remember messaging back being like, yeah, now,
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Speaker 2: old good man, don't worry about it, Like.
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Speaker 1: Fully forgot about that, and I was like, fucking thank god.
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Speaker 1: Why am I like this? Imagine I'm at the.
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Speaker 3: Studio set up with all my cameras, I'm ready for
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Speaker 3: the call, and you're fucking mate at home.
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Speaker 1: Mate.
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Speaker 2: You would have been saying to me like, oh, what
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Speaker 2: time do you want to start and would have been
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Speaker 2: like six pms sounds good, so I can get my shit.
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Speaker 8: Together, fucking voice member, it was this is my last one?
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Speaker 1: Why am I like this?
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Speaker 3: Why am I always so obsessed with making sure I
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Speaker 3: get the best deal?
17:29
Speaker 1: You do?
17:29
Speaker 3: Not even kidding, but like it goes past buying the thing,
17:32
Speaker 3: like post buying something. Oh, continually look like another two
17:36
Speaker 3: or three weeks you fully do do that and then
17:39
Speaker 3: check and make sure, like I've got a good deal.
17:41
Speaker 1: You do do that. You send me stuff sometimes after
17:45
Speaker 1: we buy it.
17:46
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like and like it's doing no benefit
17:49
Speaker 3: other than make me feel bad if there's a cheaper
17:51
Speaker 3: one out there.
17:52
Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm like it.
17:54
Speaker 2: I well, I'm the opposite, Like I'll buy something that
17:59
Speaker 2: wasn't a good deal and then be like and then
18:05
Speaker 2: I'll find out like, Okay, this is a classic why
18:09
Speaker 2: am I like this moment? I don't know if I've
18:11
Speaker 2: told you this. In Queensland on the Gold Coast at least,
18:16
Speaker 2: sorry we know. Beth and I noticed that all these
18:17
Speaker 2: dogs had these yellow tags hanging off collars or harnesses,
18:22
Speaker 2: and so I remember asking someone one time, like what's
18:24
Speaker 2: that thing, and they go, oh, that's when you register
18:26
Speaker 2: your dog. They send it to you like you need
18:28
Speaker 2: to have your dog wearing it, and so we thought
18:31
Speaker 2: we better go register our dogs to the Gold Coast.
18:33
Speaker 2: So we get it all done, and then you get
18:35
Speaker 2: to a page where it like gives you all these
18:37
Speaker 2: options and then the price, and so I ended up
18:41
Speaker 2: so what I chose was just like adult Dog one year,
18:44
Speaker 2: Like I paid for Darcy's best paid for reason. I
18:47
Speaker 2: just chose like adult dog one year registration and then
18:50
Speaker 2: I'll pay for it again next year. It was thirty bucks,
18:53
Speaker 2: and I go and I fully finish paying and everything
18:55
Speaker 2: like that, and then I would There was like twenty options, right,
19:00
Speaker 2: I literally first option that made sense to me, I
19:03
Speaker 2: clicked on it paid for done, done, done. I was
19:05
Speaker 2: just sick of doing the adminal. I was like, just
19:06
Speaker 2: take my fucking money. And then Beth goes, oh, look
19:10
Speaker 2: like did you choose this one? And it was like
19:12
Speaker 2: dog under twelve months one year free.
19:17
Speaker 1: Darcy could have been registered for free.
19:22
Speaker 2: Was like, you idiot, you are he just lost thirty bucks,
19:24
Speaker 2: and I was like, I don't give a fuck whatever
19:26
Speaker 2: she's registered.
19:28
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you are an idiot. Honestly, I was like
19:32
Speaker 1: fuck me.
19:35
Speaker 2: All right, right, I got one more, but this was
19:36
Speaker 2: one that actually I had written down I one time
19:41
Speaker 2: was coming in to try and get an Ethernet cable
19:43
Speaker 2: to connect to my computer. Right related, This is all
19:46
Speaker 2: tech related. This is just like where my mind went
19:48
Speaker 2: when I started thinking of this. And so I have
19:53
Speaker 2: this thing that has an Ethernet connector on it and
19:56
Speaker 2: it was like one hundred and twenty bucks and I've
19:57
Speaker 2: had it for a long time and I've never used it,
19:59
Speaker 2: and I was like so excited use it. I was
20:00
Speaker 2: like a couple ieve I get to use Ethernet on
20:01
Speaker 2: this thing. And then I go to connect it and
20:04
Speaker 2: the Ethernet thing doesn't fit, like the Ethernet port doesn't fit,
20:07
Speaker 2: and I was like weird. I go to office works
20:09
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, I've got this Ethernet port, but like,
20:11
Speaker 2: isn't an Ethernet cable is different to like the cable
20:15
Speaker 2: I've got And he goes, no, no, that should that
20:16
Speaker 2: should fit. Like, I don't know what cable you've got.
20:18
Speaker 2: That's weird. He goes, here, you probably just need a
20:20
Speaker 2: new adapter. I spend sixty bucks on a new adapter.
20:23
Speaker 1: Right.
20:23
Speaker 2: I come in fits and all that cool, cool cool,
20:26
Speaker 2: And then I'm looking at my one that I had existing,
20:29
Speaker 2: and I'm looking at it and then I'm.
20:31
Speaker 1: Looking and I'm like this, why didn't this work? Why
20:33
Speaker 1: didn't this work?
20:34
Speaker 2: And there's like a little plastic piece connected to metal
20:38
Speaker 2: and I went like, I put my finger in the
20:41
Speaker 2: port and it flicked up and it gets bigger so
20:45
Speaker 2: it can actually fit normally.
20:50
Speaker 3: And here's where you and I differ. I had to
20:52
Speaker 3: buy an Ethernet adapter too. Here's me on Amazon scrolling
20:56
Speaker 3: to find the cheapest.
20:57
Speaker 1: Best you're possible. I was like, dude, and I'm the
21:00
Speaker 1: thing I need. I've bore like some massive beast one
21:03
Speaker 1: flight twenty eight dollars a night. It's like, just give
21:06
Speaker 1: me the thing I need.
21:07
Speaker 9: Whatever, Oh my money.
21:19
Speaker 2: Oddie, I have an announcement to make.
21:23
Speaker 1: What is it?
21:24
Speaker 2: I am officially pause for silence, dramatic effect.
21:31
Speaker 3: A Marcher, Babe, man, I am so glad you said that,
21:34
Speaker 3: because I am too.
21:37
Speaker 1: I absolutely love Marcher. It's like a reward. Couldn't agree more.
21:42
Speaker 1: My friend could not agree more.
21:44
Speaker 2: Throughout the day, I do little tasks and I'm like,
21:48
Speaker 2: you know what, I deserve a Marcher.
21:50
Speaker 3: Same and I go to at the moment, Jake, are
21:53
Speaker 3: these perfect tad vanilla march La te cans cans. Not
21:58
Speaker 3: only do they taste amazing, but it's also a different
22:01
Speaker 3: source of caffeine to coffee.
22:02
Speaker 1: Mate, that's true.
22:03
Speaker 2: And they're so handy, like it's just a cafe quality
22:08
Speaker 2: marcher in the can in your hitt mate.
22:12
Speaker 3: I am obsessed, and I know the baddies listening are
22:15
Speaker 3: going to be looking for a sign to get a
22:16
Speaker 3: marcher today.
22:18
Speaker 1: Here it is, so hey, you've heard it here.
22:21
Speaker 2: First, don't walk, but run to Cole's.
22:25
Speaker 1: Time for dilemmas.
22:26
Speaker 3: If you want to submit a dilemma, the link will
22:28
Speaker 3: be in the description and they are completely anonymous.
22:32
Speaker 1: All right, Jake.
22:34
Speaker 3: If you had a dilemma and we hadn't read it yet, though,
22:36
Speaker 3: where would you go?
22:38
Speaker 1: Oh this little chiggy little place called Patreon. Oh what
22:40
Speaker 1: I would get there? Because it's only eight nine to
22:42
Speaker 1: nine a month.
22:42
Speaker 2: You get an extra episode every week, and you get
22:44
Speaker 2: all the episodes with video and without ads.
22:46
Speaker 1: Plus they have their own dilemmas.
22:49
Speaker 3: And a lot of baddies are utilizing that because they're
22:51
Speaker 3: getting better value for money.
22:52
Speaker 1: Anyway, here we go, no title on this one. Hi.
22:55
Speaker 3: I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now.
22:58
Speaker 3: We're both twenty and live separately. About a year ago,
23:01
Speaker 3: we randomly had a discussion about porn. It had never
23:04
Speaker 3: crossed my mind that it was something he was watching
23:06
Speaker 3: or doing. When I found out he was, I was honestly.
23:09
Speaker 1: A bit shocked.
23:11
Speaker 3: It took me a while to process because I personally
23:13
Speaker 3: don't understand the need for it when we're in a relationship.
23:17
Speaker 3: He told me he wasn't watching it anymore, but I
23:19
Speaker 3: had a weird feeling that that wasn't true. I ended
23:23
Speaker 3: up going through his search history, which I'm not proud of,
23:26
Speaker 3: but I knew he was getting embarrassed really easily and
23:29
Speaker 3: wasn't being fully honest. I didn't find porn, but I
23:32
Speaker 3: did find links to only fans. I completely lost it.
23:37
Speaker 3: I woke him up and asked him about it, and
23:39
Speaker 3: he said he accidentally clicked the link.
23:42
Speaker 1: In that moment, I believed him, Okay, pause there, yeah,
23:48
Speaker 1: dot dot dot.
23:50
Speaker 3: A few weeks later, I checked again through his Instagram
23:53
Speaker 3: link history and saw multiple only Fans links he had clicked.
23:58
Speaker 1: I was heartbroken. I started to looking.
24:00
Speaker 3: Deeper to see if he had an account or was
24:02
Speaker 3: paying for anything. I went through emails, bank statements everything,
24:06
Speaker 3: because I felt like that was the only way to
24:09
Speaker 3: get the truth since he wasn't being honest. I didn't
24:12
Speaker 3: find anything to suggest he had an account or was subscribing,
24:15
Speaker 3: So now I'm stuck. He's not paying for it or
24:18
Speaker 3: messaging anyone. He's just seeing random women on Instagram and
24:22
Speaker 3: clicking their links. But he knows how much it upsets
24:25
Speaker 3: me and continues to do it. We had a really
24:28
Speaker 3: rough time last year because it affected me a lot.
24:31
Speaker 3: The only reason it didn't affect me as badly now
24:33
Speaker 3: is because I've stopped going through his phone. I told
24:36
Speaker 3: myself that if I'm not going to break up with him,
24:39
Speaker 3: then there's no point of constantly checking. But I'm starting
24:42
Speaker 3: to worry he might still have some sort of porn
24:44
Speaker 3: habit or dependency. I've tried talking to him calmly and
24:49
Speaker 3: trying to understand, but he usually avoids the conversation. I
24:52
Speaker 3: also later found out he was using Reddit to watch porn.
24:56
Speaker 3: It wasn't specific women or messaging, just regular horn, but
25:00
Speaker 3: it still bothers me. I'll wait, there's a little bit more.
25:05
Speaker 3: No matter how much I try to get it out
25:07
Speaker 3: of my head or accept it, I just can't. I'd
25:10
Speaker 3: really appreciate a mouse perspective. Do you think this is
25:13
Speaker 3: normal or is there something wrong with me for feeling
25:15
Speaker 3: this way? Or is it just something most guys do? Well,
25:23
Speaker 3: I would say in this situation, you can't.
25:25
Speaker 1: Get it out of her head.
25:26
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if you were fine with him watching porn,
25:31
Speaker 2: then him watching porn wouldn't be an issue. But you're
25:34
Speaker 2: not fine with it, and you voice it, you're not
25:36
Speaker 2: fine with it, and he said, okay, I'll stop, but.
25:37
Speaker 1: He kept doing it and like clicking on these links
25:39
Speaker 1: and stuff.
25:39
Speaker 2: Like he's just it's like kind of harsh to say,
25:45
Speaker 2: but he does not care how you feel because I think,
25:52
Speaker 2: like I would believe that he thinks he cares how
25:55
Speaker 2: you feel, but he only cares how you feel when
25:57
Speaker 2: he gets caught.
25:59
Speaker 1: He doesn't care how you.
26:00
Speaker 2: Feel when he's doing it, you know what I mean.
26:03
Speaker 2: So they're therefore he doesn't care how you feel. And
26:06
Speaker 2: it's also like he got he just cares that he.
26:09
Speaker 1: Got caught, yeah, which is the harsh reality.
26:11
Speaker 2: Yeah, So like anytime you catch him and he apologizes
26:14
Speaker 2: and says he's going to stop, and then you're like okay,
26:17
Speaker 2: and you're trying to say how, like when you say
26:19
Speaker 2: how it makes you feelsume.
26:21
Speaker 1: I can only assume in this situation.
26:23
Speaker 2: But like, what I'm assuming is that he's just thinking,
26:26
Speaker 2: like like he doesn't feel I don't I want to say,
26:29
Speaker 2: like remorse for it, because to him, he clearly loves porn,
26:34
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And I'm sorry to say, like,
26:36
Speaker 2: could you argue he loves porn or and he loves you?
26:38
Speaker 1: I have no idea. That's a great question. That's a
26:41
Speaker 1: great question. I can't answer that.
26:42
Speaker 2: But it's like he also is definitely still watching porn porn,
26:49
Speaker 2: and he's just deleting the history. Yeah, Like I like,
26:52
Speaker 2: I'm very confident assuming that.
26:54
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say too, Like any point in a
26:56
Speaker 3: relationship where you feel the need to go on your
26:59
Speaker 3: partner's far behind their back, the relationship's over.
27:03
Speaker 1: It's a hard one. A.
27:04
Speaker 3: It's kind of like because if you're looking for something,
27:07
Speaker 3: it's over. If you find something, it's over. If you
27:09
Speaker 3: don't find something, I would argue it's over.
27:12
Speaker 2: Like if you look for something and find something, I
27:15
Speaker 2: just think like, yeah, you had a good reason to look,
27:16
Speaker 2: you found something, and that it's unfortunate. But like you're
27:19
Speaker 2: not crazy for looking because you found something. But I
27:22
Speaker 2: guess at the same time, when you look for something
27:24
Speaker 2: and nothing's there, it's like, what's going on?
27:27
Speaker 1: Where the trust? You know? That's why I think it's over.
27:31
Speaker 1: There's no trust there, and I wonder if you could
27:34
Speaker 1: come back from that like who? Okay, actually questions.
27:37
Speaker 2: So let's just say you, for some reason are like
27:39
Speaker 2: needing to look at your girlfriend's phone and you find nothing.
27:44
Speaker 1: Are you the problem for looking at the phone and
27:45
Speaker 1: finding nothing?
27:47
Speaker 3: No, I would argue it depends. It's hard because it's
27:50
Speaker 3: situational in a sense, what he or she has done
27:53
Speaker 3: has led me to this. Yes, it's my actions. But
27:57
Speaker 3: that's why I think the relationship is over because it's
28:00
Speaker 3: two to tango. I'm just looking willy nilly because they're
28:02
Speaker 3: the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend. I'm looking because they've done
28:05
Speaker 3: something wrong and.
28:07
Speaker 1: He's or you think they have.
28:08
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then there comes a debate in a sense
28:11
Speaker 3: of am I crazy because some people are just crazy?
28:14
Speaker 2: And but yeah, you could genuinely just be this person
28:16
Speaker 2: that just needs to know every single little nitty gritty
28:18
Speaker 2: thing and you just maybe have mega trust issues and like, yeah,
28:23
Speaker 2: you're just maybe it's a control thing.
28:24
Speaker 3: Or he or she is hiding their phone. Yeah, you
28:27
Speaker 3: see them doing stuff behind their back. Yeah, and those seasons. Yeah,
28:31
Speaker 3: there's a reason I'm looking when I would argue it's
28:34
Speaker 3: both people.
28:34
Speaker 2: So it's very in this situation, the baddie is clearly
28:37
Speaker 2: not the crazy one.
28:38
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't know I hold up in this situation.
28:41
Speaker 2: You know what I find in this situation, what's happening
28:45
Speaker 2: before our eyeballs is your boyfriend, right? Think about this
28:51
Speaker 2: when we talk about like, so he's going to go
28:55
Speaker 2: on a right, let's say you break up. Okay, you've
28:58
Speaker 2: gone through his phone and you've stuff every time. He's
29:01
Speaker 2: never going to tell a new girlfriend that you went
29:05
Speaker 2: through his phone and found stuff. But he is going
29:07
Speaker 2: to tell a new girlfriend that you went through his
29:09
Speaker 2: phone all the time and like you were crazy. But
29:12
Speaker 2: little did does she know that what was happening was
29:15
Speaker 2: he was driving you crazy. Right, He's going to be
29:19
Speaker 2: that guy that's like I got a toxic X. But
29:20
Speaker 2: it's like he's the one that drives because like, what
29:22
Speaker 2: we're watching in real life is a man or should
29:25
Speaker 2: I say boy, but we're watching in real life is
29:31
Speaker 2: a toxic man. Forming because he values porn. I don't
29:40
Speaker 2: know what I'm doing with my fists anyway over your feelings.
29:44
Speaker 1: Men value porn over partners. So look, I would say
29:47
Speaker 1: break up with him, also, okay, she said.
29:51
Speaker 2: At one point, She's like, I just made a decision
29:53
Speaker 2: that if I'm not going to breakup with him, that
29:54
Speaker 2: I should stop looking at his phone, which is like, okay,
29:56
Speaker 2: valid decision, but why aren't you breaking up with him?
29:59
Speaker 1: Yeah?
29:59
Speaker 3: And also like if you avoid a problem, that doesn't
30:03
Speaker 3: mean the problem goes away band aid fix.
30:06
Speaker 2: Yeah, would you want your daughter to date a man
30:10
Speaker 2: like your boyfriend? Date who you would want your daughter
30:14
Speaker 2: to date, or date who you would want your youngest
30:16
Speaker 2: self to end up with.
30:17
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's same with like, what would your mum say
30:19
Speaker 3: if you told her this exact situation?
30:22
Speaker 1: Should be? Like?
30:29
Speaker 2: All right, title long term relationship issues, Hi, baddies. Me
30:35
Speaker 2: and my boyfriend have been together for eight years now.
30:37
Speaker 2: We were fourteen when we first got together and now
30:40
Speaker 2: we're twenty two, so young love. I used to feel
30:43
Speaker 2: head over heels in love with him and was so
30:46
Speaker 2: confumed by him. Obviously, as years have gone on and
30:49
Speaker 2: we've grown together and we now have our own separate
30:52
Speaker 2: lives and hobbies, which I love, but I don't know
30:54
Speaker 2: if we're growing apart.
30:56
Speaker 1: Two years ago, he went on a.
30:57
Speaker 2: Lad's holiday and crossed the boundary I wasn't comfortable with with.
31:01
Speaker 1: His excuse was that it was my boundary and not his.
31:06
Speaker 2: So we have different morals, and I feel like we
31:10
Speaker 2: tell us what that was and so so we have
31:13
Speaker 2: different morals and I feel like we butt heads a lot.
31:15
Speaker 2: Since then, I feel like our relationship has shifted and
31:18
Speaker 2: I don't talk to him about how I feel, and
31:19
Speaker 2: I don't think he really cares either. Please can you
31:23
Speaker 2: give me some advice on if it seems like he
31:24
Speaker 2: just doesn't care anymore, as I don't know if I
31:27
Speaker 2: have just become a habit to him now?
31:30
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Love you guys.
31:32
Speaker 2: Okay, I wish it sounds not too much information even
31:35
Speaker 2: if he didn't, even without like the breaking the morals
31:39
Speaker 2: thing or breaking the trust and crossing the boundary, it
31:42
Speaker 2: sounds like the relationship is just like starting to dwindle.
31:45
Speaker 3: Yeah, But also like I want to show empathy here
31:48
Speaker 3: because when you are in a young love relationship, it's
31:52
Speaker 3: hard to not get distracted when that's all you've ever known,
31:58
Speaker 3: because what you know becomes boring, and that's human nature.
32:00
Speaker 3: That's why I think people who can do that and
32:02
Speaker 3: make it work are very strong minded people because they
32:06
Speaker 3: don't let the temptation win.
32:09
Speaker 1: But you can also be wrong. And this shit, dude, the.
32:13
Speaker 3: Boundary thing that's that that makes zero sense to me.
32:15
Speaker 3: If I said a boundary with you and you say
32:17
Speaker 3: that's your boundary, not mine, Like, no, I fucking told
32:19
Speaker 3: you that's the boundary for me, and you broke it,
32:21
Speaker 3: You fucking idiot.
32:21
Speaker 1: But even if it's like that's so simple, it's also
32:24
Speaker 1: like there's a lot of gas lighting.
32:25
Speaker 2: There's a lot of bound that will get that first
32:27
Speaker 2: of all, manipulation, gas lighting, but also there's a lot
32:31
Speaker 2: of boundaries that like are just you don't have to
32:37
Speaker 2: talk about them.
32:38
Speaker 3: Yeah you don't kiss another girl. Yeah you don't get
32:42
Speaker 3: a lap dance. Yeah, lad's weekend. This is what I'm
32:44
Speaker 3: alluding to.
32:44
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's lots to go home with another girl.
32:46
Speaker 2: There's so many boundaries that don't need to be spoken about,
32:51
Speaker 2: or us you would talk forever about them.
32:53
Speaker 3: Yeah, like it comes down to respect. But yeah, you
32:57
Speaker 3: didn't give enough information. But if you feel like he
32:59
Speaker 3: doesn't care about how you feel. The answer is so simple.
33:01
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say, if you're like you don't talk
33:05
Speaker 2: about how you feel anymore because you feel like he
33:08
Speaker 2: doesn't care.
33:09
Speaker 1: Yah, Yeah, you're trapped. You feel you're probably feeling alone
33:13
Speaker 1: when you're with someone at hrs.
33:16
Speaker 3: Should we start phrasing it like, if I was being
33:18
Speaker 3: treated this way, I would break up with them.
33:20
Speaker 2: Okay, if I was being treated this way, I think
33:23
Speaker 2: that it would suck. I would be in pain, I
33:27
Speaker 2: would be probably anxious, I would feel alone, and I
33:32
Speaker 2: would be scared to bring anything up with them. I
33:35
Speaker 2: would understand that the best thing to do is tell
33:40
Speaker 2: them that the way they act makes me feel like
33:43
Speaker 2: they don't care about me, and I don't talk about
33:46
Speaker 2: how I feel anymore because I feel like they don't care.
33:49
Speaker 2: But also that would be scary to do, but it
33:56
Speaker 2: is the right thing to do. And if I was
33:59
Speaker 2: too scared to do that, I would break up with them.
34:02
Speaker 2: And also if I was strong enough to do it,
34:04
Speaker 2: then I would do it, and their reaction and the
34:06
Speaker 2: way they act afterwards would determine whether I break up
34:09
Speaker 2: with them or not.
34:09
Speaker 3: I think that is the only thing to do because
34:11
Speaker 3: how he reacts is what's important, because sometimes giving the
34:16
Speaker 3: man or the guy a bit of empathy as well.
34:20
Speaker 3: I don't like saying it, but sometimes like I don't
34:23
Speaker 3: really he might not know.
34:24
Speaker 1: What's going on. I don't know, and he might not
34:28
Speaker 1: know how he feels.
34:29
Speaker 3: And if you if he might just need I don't
34:31
Speaker 3: like to say it, but a little switch into gear.
34:32
Speaker 3: And if you say all these things and then he
34:34
Speaker 3: completely one eighty flips and like works on himself, I
34:37
Speaker 3: would argue that that's a good reason to stay.
34:39
Speaker 1: Look, yeah, some dudes do need that.
34:42
Speaker 2: If you want to say out as a relationship step
34:45
Speaker 2: one is that, Yeah, if you want to stay together,
34:46
Speaker 2: then I think like he needs to know how you feel,
34:49
Speaker 2: because then if you want to stay together, then he
34:51
Speaker 2: needs to be given the chance to change his behavior,
34:55
Speaker 2: his actions and and make you feel more loved and
34:59
Speaker 2: want to. But if you don't want to stay with them,
35:03
Speaker 2: and like you're kind of you know, slowly checking out,
35:06
Speaker 2: then it's also fine to just break up with him
35:07
Speaker 2: and not tell him why exactly. I wouldn't judge you exactly,
35:11
Speaker 2: No one would, all right, Jake, question for you, question
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Speaker 2: for us, why do you think men are so obsessed
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Speaker 2: with sex.
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Speaker 1: Fuck good questions. It feels good, true, it feels good.
35:31
Speaker 3: But why do you think like there's this sort of
35:35
Speaker 3: men psyche, in a sense of male psyche, where that's
35:39
Speaker 3: all they think about and they sort of only see
35:43
Speaker 3: women in the light of a sexual object or in
35:46
Speaker 3: a relationship. They get obsessed with how many times they
35:50
Speaker 3: should be having sex, and it's not reciprocated with women.
35:56
Speaker 3: And then also they don't really see a lot of
35:59
Speaker 3: the other beauties that come of a relationship.
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Speaker 1: God, I don't know.
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Speaker 2: Man, let me think about this because because I love Beth,
36:14
Speaker 2: but if today she goes, yeah, I'm just done having sex,
36:21
Speaker 2: like that would be that's like, that would be huge.
36:26
Speaker 2: It was crazy to say, because here's the thing I
36:29
Speaker 2: think that I think sex is just a huge part
36:35
Speaker 2: of a relationship. Are we talking about like relationships, like
36:38
Speaker 2: a relationship?
36:39
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I feel like, what's the difference between having
36:42
Speaker 3: a healthy relationship with sex and then having an obsession?
36:47
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know, I'm not obsessed with sex.
36:49
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think in your relationship, but I would
36:52
Speaker 3: say you have a healthy relationship with sex. But I
36:54
Speaker 3: think a lot of people in relationships feel like it's
36:57
Speaker 3: an obligation rather than a pleasure, like they have to
37:02
Speaker 3: do it right, and is it going back to the
37:06
Speaker 3: dilemma in a sense of like for some reason I
37:09
Speaker 3: talked about it in male friendship groups, porn becomes so normal.
37:12
Speaker 3: You get obsessed with looking at things, you get obsessed
37:16
Speaker 3: with having sex, wanking most days. It starts early, it's
37:20
Speaker 3: starting is starting earlier, earlier, earlier, earlier, earlier, And then
37:23
Speaker 3: by the time they get in a relationship when they're
37:25
Speaker 3: twenty twenty five, they have this sort of like chemical
37:28
Speaker 3: imbalance in their brain where they're obsessed and addicted to
37:31
Speaker 3: porn and sex and women and not seeing them as
37:34
Speaker 3: people but more is just sexual objects. Yeah, is that
37:38
Speaker 3: where it stems from. It's a huge part of it.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
37:41
Speaker 3: And I think that's the only one because why is
37:42
Speaker 3: it so normal? I remember in our friendship groups talking
37:45
Speaker 3: about porn was so normal and like everyone did it.
37:49
Speaker 3: But looking back at it now, like I don't have
37:51
Speaker 3: the maturity to say, but saying like porn isn't that healthy?
37:55
Speaker 1: No, But at the time I didn't think it was unhealthy?
37:57
Speaker 1: Ni did I is it? Because like, is it the same?
38:00
Speaker 3: Not give me an excuse you know how people smoked
38:02
Speaker 3: cigarettes for years and years and years and then we
38:05
Speaker 3: realize it caused cancer, and now the education for the
38:08
Speaker 3: past five ten years is this picked up?
38:10
Speaker 1: Is it a sense of that?
38:11
Speaker 3: Yeah, the same debate about social media, how like, obviously
38:14
Speaker 3: it's fucking terrible, but no one really knows the proper
38:17
Speaker 3: implications yet because studies take so long to come through.
38:20
Speaker 1: But I don't know.
38:20
Speaker 2: When it comes to like being obsessed with sex, I
38:25
Speaker 2: don't know, but I kind of know what you mean.
38:27
Speaker 2: Like I would say I am still maybe the words
38:33
Speaker 2: brainwashed the right word, maybe, or maybe manipulated or I've
38:37
Speaker 2: been led astray to think that, Like if Beth and
38:42
Speaker 2: I just stopped having sexy outright, I'd be like, oh,
38:43
Speaker 2: there's a major problem in our relationship. No, I agree,
38:46
Speaker 2: But also would there just be like like, is that
38:49
Speaker 2: a major problem because sex is a big part of
38:52
Speaker 2: a relationship, Like is that something that we just need
38:57
Speaker 2: to accept?
38:59
Speaker 1: Yeah?
38:59
Speaker 3: But also too, because I know you say, for some reason,
39:02
Speaker 3: Beth got some medical condition and she couldn't have sex anymore.
39:05
Speaker 2: And that was the reason. Oh yeah, that's fine exactly. Yeah,
39:09
Speaker 2: So why there? Well, because to actually that's a great question,
39:12
Speaker 2: like I say that's fine, because I would be crazy
39:15
Speaker 2: to say that's not fine. But then if she just
39:19
Speaker 2: wanted to stop having sex via her own choice, then
39:23
Speaker 2: I would be like, crap.
39:25
Speaker 1: That's huge, you know what I mean?
39:27
Speaker 2: So maybe both things would just be as big as
39:29
Speaker 2: the other, as big a deal as the other.
39:31
Speaker 3: Sorry, I actually thinking about it too. Comes down to maturity.
39:35
Speaker 3: I think, obviously men are really really dumb, but like
39:39
Speaker 3: I know a lot of people, especially adults who have
39:42
Speaker 3: been married for a long long time sex obviously you
39:47
Speaker 3: fucking testosterone and shit, everything happens.
39:51
Speaker 2: I feel like people probably like surely there's couples out
39:54
Speaker 2: there that have.
39:55
Speaker 5: Gone years about it, and I think your maturity goes
39:59
Speaker 5: up as the goes down and you start to realize
40:01
Speaker 5: that the person that's in front of you is beautiful
40:04
Speaker 5: rather than what they can offer you.
40:07
Speaker 3: But young dumb men who are a lot of baddies are
40:10
Speaker 3: dating who are eighteen to twenty four for the testosterone,
40:12
Speaker 3: the dumbest shit, and they have they've been brought up
40:16
Speaker 3: on normal normalization of porn.
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Speaker 1: It's a good point.
40:19
Speaker 2: Actually, I'm trying to think you like, could I like,
40:23
Speaker 2: could I go without sex for the rest of my life.
40:27
Speaker 1: It's a great debate because like I love Beth.
40:29
Speaker 10: And I'm and I'm definitely like I'm going to marry her,
40:32
Speaker 10: yeah one day, and I love her for many reasons,
40:38
Speaker 10: and part of that is like, yeah, I'd.
40:41
Speaker 1: Like to make love to her. Yeah, it's we love.
40:46
Speaker 2: And if that was to be taken, then like I
40:52
Speaker 2: get like, is it the same? Are we thinking too
40:56
Speaker 2: deeply into it? Is what I'm thinking here, Like is
40:59
Speaker 2: it is it shallow for it to be a big deal?
41:03
Speaker 1: Like it's a great question.
41:05
Speaker 2: Same way as let's say, like if Beth completely became
41:13
Speaker 2: a super mean person and super hateful and mean.
41:16
Speaker 1: To me, I break up with her. She make me
41:19
Speaker 1: feel bad?
41:20
Speaker 2: Yeah, same way it's like if she decides to never
41:26
Speaker 2: want to have sex again, Like, is it bad that
41:29
Speaker 2: I break up with her? Because like that is a
41:31
Speaker 2: part of the relationship that I loved, So like are
41:35
Speaker 2: we thinking too much into it? And it's like is
41:37
Speaker 2: sex just allowed to be a big thing?
41:40
Speaker 1: Or is it? Specifically like why do men love it
41:43
Speaker 1: so much? I think the question is why do men
41:46
Speaker 1: love it so much?
41:47
Speaker 3: But you actually bring up a great debate in a
41:49
Speaker 3: sense of is it a chemistry imbalance as well as
41:55
Speaker 3: in like I do think there's a problem in men
41:58
Speaker 3: wanting sex too much, but also like do you guys
42:01
Speaker 3: have different sex?
42:03
Speaker 1: Right?
42:04
Speaker 2: Also, let's put like it's hard to imagine porn not
42:10
Speaker 2: existing because let's just say porn doesn't exist, Like, is
42:14
Speaker 2: this a.
42:15
Speaker 1: Like porn adds to the issue? He usually, But let's
42:18
Speaker 1: say porn doesn't exist.
42:20
Speaker 2: Like, and no one's ever watched porn in their life?
42:23
Speaker 1: Would men still be super obsessed with sex? Do you think?
42:26
Speaker 1: I think so?
42:27
Speaker 3: Because like why are they obsessed with like staring at women?
42:34
Speaker 3: Why they're obsessed with cat calling women? Why is something
42:37
Speaker 3: to do with I've.
42:38
Speaker 1: Never cat called a woman? Ah? No, never?
42:40
Speaker 3: VI does that happen? It happens all the time. Yeah,
42:44
Speaker 3: as your girlfriend when you guys who walks one hundred?
42:46
Speaker 3: She says she's been cat called? Really, Yeah, Cassie told
42:49
Speaker 3: me the other day, like she just sees people not
42:51
Speaker 3: getting cat called, but she's been cat called before just
42:54
Speaker 3: walking and see dude just stare Yeah because they know
42:59
Speaker 3: you can't see them because they're driving past. Oh and
43:01
Speaker 3: it's just like disrespectful and it's just like weir and
43:04
Speaker 3: creepy old men. So I don't know where it stems from,
43:06
Speaker 3: but I thought it was just like a nice little
43:08
Speaker 3: conversation to bring to the surface and start a conversation
43:12
Speaker 3: with other people too. And someone comment below as well,
43:14
Speaker 3: like we don't know this is coming from a place
43:16
Speaker 3: of like let us know where do you think it
43:19
Speaker 3: comes from?
43:26
Speaker 1: Bad? Is this time for comments? I'll tell you what
43:28
Speaker 1: I'd love to do.
43:28
Speaker 3: Just think about make it like a little jiggle if
43:30
Speaker 3: we could do it, jiggle, jingle.
43:34
Speaker 5: Your money, don't both no, no, no, no, let's go to
43:38
Speaker 5: the comments.
43:39
Speaker 3: I've got episode twelve Dilemmas Men. Bailey said, I would
43:44
Speaker 3: love to see you guys have your girlfriends on for
43:46
Speaker 3: an episode. I think it would be so much fun
43:50
Speaker 3: we can make that happen where we could do a
43:52
Speaker 3: Dilemmas episode with them, because like.
43:55
Speaker 2: It's a little bit nerve Like I think they would
43:57
Speaker 2: both obviously come on. But I'll find like best would
44:00
Speaker 2: even say this, it's a little bit nerve wracking going
44:01
Speaker 2: on the mic.
44:02
Speaker 1: I forgot about that. It's like, well, we used to
44:04
Speaker 1: get quite nervous and now we don't.
44:05
Speaker 2: And it's like we also kind of forget that people
44:07
Speaker 2: get nervous when they haven't done it. Yeah, so I
44:09
Speaker 2: think if we were to do like a Dilemma's episode,
44:11
Speaker 2: at least it would be a lot of there's a
44:14
Speaker 2: situation we're talking about, and then we can all put
44:16
Speaker 2: in where.
44:16
Speaker 3: Your new segment idea could work great with having them on. Yeah,
44:20
Speaker 3: it'd be funnyeah's too heavy, hilarious. But it's time for
44:23
Speaker 3: one of you to sign off the episode. All right, Jake,
44:27
Speaker 3: who are we gonna call?
44:29
Speaker 1: Jailer? Dude? Fucked it? Dude, dude.
44:36
Speaker 3: Hello, jail speaking Hello Jailer. It's Audi and Jake from
44:39
Speaker 3: the Relatables podcast.
44:40
Speaker 1: How are you going? I'm good? How are you going?
44:44
Speaker 1: Really really good?
44:45
Speaker 3: We've just finished up an episode and we were calling
44:47
Speaker 3: you to ask if you could please sign off our episode.
44:51
Speaker 3: Do you have some Oh yeah, by the way, Jake's here, Yes, Hello,
44:54
Speaker 3: I do the podcast with that guy, much deeper.
44:57
Speaker 1: Voice than fan. Oh my god, thank you so much
45:02
Speaker 1: saying that. Thank you very very much.
45:04
Speaker 3: Listening to you for like three four years.
45:08
Speaker 1: You're an og This is crazy.
45:12
Speaker 3: Oh my god, day thank you for signing up. Do
45:16
Speaker 3: you have something prepared or not?
45:18
Speaker 2: I can't say.
45:19
Speaker 1: I do my big thing is. Life's too short, so
45:24
Speaker 1: just just go for it. Don't worry about what everyone
45:27
Speaker 1: else thinks. I like that. I love that too. Definitely,
45:30
Speaker 1: don't worry about any one thing. I have a question.
45:32
Speaker 2: Okay, yes, I asked last on the last episode, and
45:36
Speaker 2: I accidentally stumped one of the bad It's pretty bad.
45:39
Speaker 1: I feel bad for him.
45:40
Speaker 2: But since you just got yours out and it was
45:41
Speaker 2: nice and cohesive, I wanted to ask you, do you
45:43
Speaker 2: have any riddles or anything?
45:46
Speaker 1: Oh, you've done it again.
45:51
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, I'll have a riddle for the for
45:54
Speaker 2: the group. All right, what has two arms, a face
45:58
Speaker 2: but it's not a human arms or an animal?
46:04
Speaker 1: And no heartbeat? I'll just said that. You can also
46:07
Speaker 1: answer the jailor.
46:10
Speaker 2: Said again, what has two arms and a face but
46:14
Speaker 2: it doesn't have a heartbeat?
46:16
Speaker 1: A tree?
46:17
Speaker 2: What?
46:18
Speaker 1: That's a stupid that's stupid? A clock? Oh? Yeah, what
46:23
Speaker 1: do you think of that one? Jayla?
46:25
Speaker 8: Yeah?
46:25
Speaker 2: That was pretty thank you so much?
46:30
Speaker 3: Thank you you are You are so fucking awkward.
46:37
Speaker 1: Trying to break the ice a bit.
46:39
Speaker 3: You made her unmort that's two weeks in a row
46:41
Speaker 3: you've made him uncomfortable.
46:42
Speaker 1: I was not making it uncomfortable. She likes that. She
46:44
Speaker 1: thought that.
46:45
Speaker 6: She said that was good. She was like talking about
46:47
Speaker 6: this is her, that was good. She's like, this is
46:51
Speaker 6: me gone to her head? What do you think of that?
46:54
Speaker 6: She's like, that was pretty good.
46:56
Speaker 7: That's all right if you're safe, say baddy, baddy, how
47:02
Speaker 7: about next week?
47:03
Speaker 1: Com with a fucking riddle?
47:05
Speaker 3: No, next week, I'm not fucking introducing you a you're
47:09
Speaker 3: not there.
47:11
Speaker 1: My as worry the riddle. You're not there, a baddie.
47:14
Speaker 1: They'll be calling you from now on. That's it so
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Speaker 1: bad