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466: The Gene Keys - Vocation Sphere · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Nicole Laino: Hello, and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Nicole Laino: And today it's just us.
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  Nicole Laino: We are going to be doing a little bit of a human design business connection episode here.
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  Nicole Laino: And human design, I think one of the things that I love about it so much and how it's changed my life and changed the lives of literally thousands of people that I've worked with and the various ways that I connect with people, it's the fact that it gives you this opportunity to rewrite your story, to see your life, your luck, your lessons all through this new lens.
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  Nicole Laino: It gives you a really interesting and powerful perspective on your life.
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  Nicole Laino: And as you know, perspective is everything.
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  Nicole Laino: This is.
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  Nicole Laino: Perspective is what allows somebody.
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  Nicole Laino: When I worked for Goldman Sachs, one of the things that I thought was pretty amazing was that the CEO at the time that I worked there, his father was like a sanitation worker.
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  Nicole Laino: And he grew up just feeling capable and very smart and very much that lift yourself up by your bootstraps kind of story.
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  Nicole Laino: But he went on to go to Harvard and then to run one of the biggest banks in the entire world.
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  Nicole Laino: And that comes from.
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  Nicole Laino: It starts from a perspective.
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  Nicole Laino: It starts from a, I can.
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  Nicole Laino: I will.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm capable.
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  Nicole Laino: I'll figure it out.
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  Nicole Laino: Just something in you that says that you're worthy, that you can possibly do it.
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  Nicole Laino: And the stories that don't go the way that we want them to go usually start with maybe they have a little bit of hope, but then they lose it.
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  Nicole Laino: Maybe they start to look at life through the lens of saying, like, I can't, because.
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  Nicole Laino: So that man didn't look at his life and say, I can't succeed because my dad is a sanitation worker and isn't a Wall street executive.
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  Nicole Laino: I absolutely have had moments where I've done both of these things where I have been a victim of circumstance, where I have looked at life and looked at my opportunities and looked at where I am through the lens of why I don't have them.
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  Nicole Laino: What could I blame for my lot in life?
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  Nicole Laino: This is very gate 55 sort of lesson, right?
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  Nicole Laino: Gate 55, the shadow is victimhood.
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  Nicole Laino: Victimhood is that feeling of, like, things happen to me, not for me.
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  Nicole Laino: And human design.
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  Nicole Laino: I think Is one of the.
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  Nicole Laino: There are many tools that do this, but I think it's one of the most powerful to give you a new perspective on yourself.
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  Nicole Laino: Why did that happen?
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  Nicole Laino: Maybe it wasn't an accident.
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  Nicole Laino: Maybe I'm here to learn from it.
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  Nicole Laino: Maybe this is my lesson.
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  Nicole Laino: Maybe this is my thing.
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  Nicole Laino: And in today's episode, I want to talk about one of those key pieces in human design.
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  Nicole Laino: There are obviously human design has a million aspects to it that can help you do this, but I'm going to speak to you about one of the most powerful, in my opinion, for giving you that perspective.
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  Nicole Laino: So there is something in human design called.
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  Nicole Laino: Well, and we're actually talking about this from more of a gene keys perspective because this comes from.
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  Nicole Laino: This is very tied to astrology.
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  Nicole Laino: It is not so much in the traditional human design language or universe.
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  Nicole Laino: It's more of like that sister arm of the gene keys, where we get this from.
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  Nicole Laino: And in gene keys, Richard Rudd calls this your vocation sphere.
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  Nicole Laino: It is also known as your core wound.
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  Nicole Laino: This is one of those things that when you first have a connection to it.
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  Nicole Laino: And I remember when I first got into the gene keys and like everything with human design, when we started from that place of like, I need to know, I need to know.
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  Nicole Laino: And we're looking for answer.
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  Nicole Laino: We often don't find the answer because we're looking so hard for it.
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  Nicole Laino: We're in, like, the wrong energy to receive what it is.
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  Nicole Laino: That is the real wisdom here.
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  Nicole Laino: Because we're looking for something finite.
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  Nicole Laino: We're looking for something that can fix a problem.
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  Nicole Laino: We're looking for something that will change things versus allowing the relationship to our design to change us, to show us and work from the inside out versus looking for this outward result from it.
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  Nicole Laino: What's going to make me money?
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  Nicole Laino: What's going to make me magnet?
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  Nicole Laino: What's going to make my life easier Now?
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  Nicole Laino: Yes, all of these things, they can do these things.
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  Nicole Laino: Human design can open up doors within you that seem permanently locked or like you would never find them.
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  Nicole Laino: But if you've listened to this show for a long time, you know that I always say that human design is not the treasure, you're the treasure.
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  Nicole Laino: Human design is the map leading you to those spots within yourself that hold all the glory, all the secrets, all the keys to every door you want to unlock after it.
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  Nicole Laino: That's the power of understanding yourself and exploring yourself through this lens.
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  Nicole Laino: But when we put expectations on top of the system, on top of that exploration, what we often find is that we are in the mind game.
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  Nicole Laino: So that, like, deeper work that this is really meant to do on you doesn't get deep enough.
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  Nicole Laino: It doesn't penetrate that mental place that we're in.
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  Nicole Laino: So my job as a human design coach and somebody who works with people on this is to get you past that mental stage.
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  Nicole Laino: That's my first job, is like, can I get you past you needing this to work yesterday?
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  Nicole Laino: Of course we would love it to work yesterday, but that's a tall order.
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  Nicole Laino: That's a lot of pressure.
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  Nicole Laino: Can I get you to release that pressure and can I get you out of that mental place where you're looking for this to do something and to recognize that?
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  Nicole Laino: Because I'm telling you, don't make it need to do something.
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  Nicole Laino: Releasing that need to make it do something does not mean that it won't do anything.
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  Nicole Laino: Do you see what I'm saying there?
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  Nicole Laino: That releasing that pressure on it of what you need it to be doesn't mean it won't do all the things that you want it to.
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  Nicole Laino: You just aren't approaching it from, I need this from you.
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  Nicole Laino: I need this from you.
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  Nicole Laino: I need this from you.
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  Nicole Laino: It's a relationship like anything else.
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  Nicole Laino: When we come at a relationship, any kind of relationship, from a place of, like, true neediness, that energetic, like, give me what I need.
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  Nicole Laino: And if you don't, then I don't trust you.
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  Nicole Laino: That's not a relationship that is going to go very far.
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  Nicole Laino: That's a relationship that's going to break apart or just develop into, like, serious codependency.
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  Nicole Laino: But what I want to talk about today is this vocation sphere.
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  Nicole Laino: It's also known as your unconscious.
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  Nicole Laino: Mars is the placement.
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  Nicole Laino: And it's so powerful because this is one of those keys.
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  Nicole Laino: There are so many in human design.
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  Nicole Laino: There's obviously your incarnation cross, but that's a bigger theme, right?
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  Nicole Laino: The incarnation cross.
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  Nicole Laino: Everybody is so enchanted with it and I understand why.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like the purpose in our life, right?
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  Nicole Laino: Who's not seduced by that?
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  Nicole Laino: A little bit to know, like, we all want to know what we're here for.
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  Nicole Laino: We all want to know why was I put on this earth.
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  Nicole Laino: And the incarnation cross absolutely tells us what that path kind of is.
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  Nicole Laino: It does let us know a little bit.
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  Nicole Laino: And like I've said, some of them, they hit you over the head.
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  Nicole Laino: And your incarnation cross is like, oh, my God.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like, it's so true to who I am.
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  Nicole Laino: Usually it's far more nuanced than that.
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  Nicole Laino: Usually it's a little trickier than that you need to embody it a bit more.
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  Nicole Laino: You need to again, not be looking for that answer from it in order to receive it, in order to really know that you're in it.
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  Nicole Laino: The minute I get into a mental place with this stuff, even after all this time that I've been doing it, but don't think that I don't get scared, don't think that I don't have pressure, don't think that things don't work out and I wonder if they'll ever work out again.
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  Nicole Laino: All of that stuff happens to me and when it does, I end up in that mental place and I might be looking for something to do, something for me.
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  Nicole Laino: Strategies to work tomorrow.
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  Nicole Laino: What am I going to do?
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  Nicole Laino: How am I going to do it?
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  Nicole Laino: And I go into that mental place which is where that quote unquote not self takes over and I become not me and I'm not the best of myself.
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  Nicole Laino: And then those results that I want, that I'm pushing for get further and further away.
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  Nicole Laino: So luckily, I'm telling you, it's not.
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  Nicole Laino: That never happens to me.
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  Nicole Laino: I just don't stay there very long.
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  Nicole Laino: I can see it quickly and I recognize I'm like, I'm in that mental place.
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  Nicole Laino: I have to release it, I have to expand into this.
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  Nicole Laino: I can't contract into it.
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  Nicole Laino: And that's one of those, like, kind of mastery of this stuff that we're all trying to achieve is like this ability to be in flow.
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  Nicole Laino: Flow isn't just getting more shit done.
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  Nicole Laino: I know that we think it is.
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  Nicole Laino: Oh, I'm in flow.
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  Nicole Laino: So I'm getting so much stuff done.
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  Nicole Laino: It's wonderful when it happens.
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  Nicole Laino: But that's not really what flow is.
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  Nicole Laino: Flow is the ability to feel contraction and relax into it and find openness and find pathways that you didn't know existed until that happened.
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  Nicole Laino: To allow when you're pushing, to allow something to happen, when you are relaxing too much to realize that it's time to take action and it requires some effort.
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  Nicole Laino: This is flow.
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  Nicole Laino: To never be too far one side of the spectrum and too far away from the other one.
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  Nicole Laino: That's the power of being in flow.
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  Nicole Laino: That's what it really means.
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  Nicole Laino: It's to flow with things.
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  Nicole Laino: Not for everything to work all the time.
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  Nicole Laino: No, but it's the ability to make anything work, no matter what, without force, without constant action, without grinding.
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  Nicole Laino: Can we allow?
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  Nicole Laino: Can we learn to let things in?
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  Nicole Laino: Can we be both masculine and feminine and balance that?
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  Nicole Laino: So before I continue we are doing a masterclass on the vocation sphere on your unconscious Mars.
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  Nicole Laino: And this is where I'm going to dig into all of this.
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  Nicole Laino: So if you are interested in this topic, please come.
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  Nicole Laino: You can show up to that.
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  Nicole Laino: Just DM me the word vocation on Instagram.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm icolenofficial on Instagram.
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  Nicole Laino: Or you can go to nicolelaino.com forward/vocation, and you can register right there.
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  Nicole Laino: If this is a topic that interests you and you want to really work with this part of your chart.
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  Nicole Laino: Because that's what we do in these workshops.
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  Nicole Laino: We are working with them.
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  Nicole Laino: And if you sign up for the VIP, you get even more and you get Q&As and all of that fun stuff.
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  Nicole Laino: So it's a really cool thing that we do.
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  Nicole Laino: Every month we do a different masterclass.
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  Nicole Laino: Let's talk about this.
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  Nicole Laino: The vocation sphere.
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  Nicole Laino: What's so powerful about this?
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  Nicole Laino: I always say that the vocation sphere.
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  Nicole Laino: When you start to learn about your unconscious Mars and you start to learn about this position, where you'll start is in a mental place.
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  Nicole Laino: You'll be like trying to figure it out.
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  Nicole Laino: And I always say, like, if you're trying to figure it out, you're going to miss it.
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  Nicole Laino: You're going to miss what it's really about.
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  Nicole Laino: You might think you know, but you don't, and that's okay.
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  Nicole Laino: Sometimes that's just a part of the journey is being in the figure it out phase.
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  Nicole Laino: But what the potential is to see this particular gate, this particular energy, as this is a big part of your life's journey.
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  Nicole Laino: This is a big part.
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  Nicole Laino: When I learned about my unconscious Mars, when I started to work with this, I immediately had some thoughts about it because this is one of my repeating gates.
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  Nicole Laino: I have this gate in two positions in my chart.
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  Nicole Laino: And it's a bigger energy for me.
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  Nicole Laino: So it's kind of.
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  Nicole Laino: It showed up a lot.
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  Nicole Laino: Some things are more in our face in our chart than other things.
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  Nicole Laino: Plus, Mars is kind of big energy as well.
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  Nicole Laino: So that's part of why this is so powerful.
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  Nicole Laino: Mars is our ability to take action.
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  Nicole Laino: Our it is the initiating force, it's power.
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  Nicole Laino: And so when we're talking about a wound, well, where is your power?
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  Nicole Laino: Maybe not coming through in the most aligned or easy way due to your own issues, your own blocks that are keeping you from moving forward.
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  Nicole Laino: So many people come to me and they say, you know, Nicole, I have such a hard time maintaining momentum.
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  Nicole Laino: I have such a hard time being consistent.
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  Nicole Laino: And these aren't people that don't get anything done.
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  Nicole Laino: These aren't people that haven't built anything, but they know that they're capable of so much more.
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  Nicole Laino: They know something inside them is holding them back from gaining things outside them.
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  Nicole Laino: They know that there's some part of them inside that is keeping them from taking action consistently and moving in the direction of their dreams.
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  Nicole Laino: It's a very frustrating thing, and I understand it deeply because I had the same problem.
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  Nicole Laino: Why can't I move in the direction of my hopes, my dreams, what I know to be my potential, what I could feel in my bones?
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  Nicole Laino: There is nothing more frustrating and heartbreaking than feeling like you have untapped potential, that you have this potential that is there for you, but you cannot touch it, you cannot reach it, or you cannot hold it.
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  Nicole Laino: And this particular gate holds the secrets to that.
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  Nicole Laino: I always say that this is the one that.
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  Nicole Laino: If you've seen the movie the Sixth Sense, where the kid at the end, sorry, spoilers if you haven't seen it, but the movie's like, 20 years old, so if you haven't gotten to it yet, sorry, you could Fast forward for 10 seconds, but the movie, The Sixth Sense, at the end of the movie, you find out that there's, like, this big reveal at the end where you realize that one of the main characters was dead the whole time.
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  Nicole Laino: And they kind of take you through the whole movie.
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  Nicole Laino: You watched the whole movie not realizing it.
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  Nicole Laino: And then when you realize it at the end, they do a, like, flashback of the whole movie where they show you all these scenes where all of the clues and Easter eggs were there entire time, letting you know that he was, in fact, dead.
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  Nicole Laino: That's what the core wound is like to me.
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  Nicole Laino: The vocation sphere.
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  Nicole Laino: It is the.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like once you learn it, you flash back through your whole life and you realize that every challenge, every lesson, all of them were tied to this shadow.
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  Nicole Laino: And every win, every big milestone move in the right direction in your life was tied to the gift somehow.
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  Nicole Laino: So we are going to be breaking all of this down in the masterclass because this is one of those things.
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  Nicole Laino: We're going to go much deeper into what this all means, how you connect it with your chart, how you start to have a relationship to this and start to see it through.
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  Nicole Laino: Not a lens of understanding.
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  Nicole Laino: Like, you know, we use the word wound, and some people will think, like, oh, this is this thing that's wrong with me.
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  Nicole Laino: No, A wound can be healed, and even when it's healed, it's a shadow.
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  Nicole Laino: I like to Talk about it about as a shadow, because this is a tool you can use for your own mastery.
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  Nicole Laino: But even more importantly, when we're in business, that mastery is something that attracts the correct people to you for exactly what you are here for.
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  Nicole Laino: I know that everybody in my world, and I'll reveal kind of my connection with this and my attraction with my particular unconscious Mars, my vocation gate.
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  Nicole Laino: In the masterclass, I will be talking about more of my reflections with this and how I suppose I could use the word use it, but I would say it's something that I'm very conscious of as being something that people need from me.
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  Nicole Laino: And the more I master this in myself, the more I get people who need that and who I can actually help with it.
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  Nicole Laino: This is true with all of our gifts in if you've been listening for a long time, I talk about the authority matrix.
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  Nicole Laino: This is one of those gates in there, and this is a big player in that all of your gifts are things that once you transmute the shadow into the gift, you can start attracting people with it.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm saying, this one is so powerful.
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  Nicole Laino: This one is the one that's like, you will evolve with it for ages, through your whole lifetime.
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  Nicole Laino: You will never be done elevating yourself through this thing.
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  Nicole Laino: And there are so many questions that you can ask yourself that lead you deeper into yourself, into your magic, and will show you how you actually have something to offer people.
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  Nicole Laino: This can be your offers, this can be your message.
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  Nicole Laino: This is a very big attraction aspect for you of what people are going to be looking for from you.
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  Nicole Laino: Specifically.
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  Nicole Laino: I dig into this all the time when I'm doing my messaging, when I am talking to clients, when I'm talking to potential clients, I'm listening and I hear this gate come through all the time.
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  Nicole Laino: And I can answer from actual wisdom that I have from this, because it's my story.
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  Nicole Laino: So I started this episode off by saying that human design allows you to rewrite your story to see it through a different lens.
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  Nicole Laino: This particular gate might be an area where you are beating yourself up.
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  Nicole Laino: You are seeing this particular area as you being a failure in some way, as you maybe not being able to overcome something that you should, or maybe you feel like you were born with it and it's a flaw and you'll never be rid of it.
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  Nicole Laino: I certainly did.
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  Nicole Laino: That was my story.
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  Nicole Laino: And when you see this, you will see yourself differently.
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  Nicole Laino: When you see yourself differently, you'll start to work with this.
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  Nicole Laino: Instead of brow beating yourself or shaming yourself for not being different for not being better.
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  Nicole Laino: And when you can shift that, everything starts to change.
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  Nicole Laino: Okay, so I'm going to leave this one here.
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  Nicole Laino: I hope you come to the masterclass because that is where we're going to dig deep into how this is actually playing in your life with your unconscious Mars gate, your vocation.
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  Nicole Laino: And we're going to dig into that inside the masterclass.
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  Nicole Laino: So all you have to do DM me the word vocation on Instagram, I'm icoleno official.
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  Nicole Laino: Or go to nicolelaino.comvocation and you can register right there on the website.
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  Nicole Laino: We'll have it all linked up in the show notes for you so it's nice and easy.
• 17:13
  Nicole Laino: Thank you so much for being here.
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  Nicole Laino: I appreciate you.
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  Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
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  Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design.
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  Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
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  Nicole Laino: We'll see you there.