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Bish...This Is A Warning · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, a production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically Black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 2: talk back.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. What's up, y'all boy? How y'all doing? What's up, Tammy?
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  Speaker 1: What up, y'all boy? I love y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Thank y'all for coming back again this week. What's up, AJ?
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  Speaker 1: Not a damn thing, man. Already got my practice voice
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  Speaker 1: on for Jamaica.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, my goodness, girl. Bye.
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  Speaker 2: Just make sure you bring me back some of the
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  Speaker 2: parasite shit and some Hennessy.
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  Speaker 1: I got you.
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  Speaker 3: I ain't never had no good weed in Jamaica.
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  Speaker 1: No shade.
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  Speaker 3: I just never had no.
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  Speaker 1: Good weed in Jamaica. Why you said no shade? Like,
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  Speaker 1: they'd be mad when you talk about it?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Jamaica's, you know, they don't play about it.
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  Speaker 1: They be kind of vicious, right?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Nigga like freak, I did weak. Vicious, nigga vicious. Nigga
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  Speaker 1: like freak, I did weak. Nigga like freak. Oh, she ready, y'all. Girl,
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  Speaker 1: nothing in my mind told me I couldn't have vicious
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  Speaker 1: when I was a kid. Like, you ever thought you
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  Speaker 1: can actually have an artist that you liked? First of all,
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  Speaker 1: you liked Vicious? Just because he was little and cute.
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  Speaker 1: I always liked short niggas. So there's that. How old
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  Speaker 1: were you? The same age as him. How old were
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  Speaker 1: we when Vicious came out? We was in, what, middle school?
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  Speaker 1: Sixth grade? Fifth grade or something like that? How long
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  Speaker 1: ago was that? I feel like he was older than us.
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  Speaker 1: He might have been. And just was midget then? I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Midget.
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  Speaker 3: Small person. Vertically challenged.
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  Speaker 1: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: Let me see. I would like to know that. Is
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  Speaker 1: he even still alive? Who the fuck? A reggae artist?
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  Speaker 1: Elephant Man got 38 kids? Girl, where you at right now?
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  Speaker 1: All over the place. He was born in.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get in the scenes, bitch. What you talking about?
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  Speaker 2: We ain't talking about our weekend. Well, we ain't got
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  Speaker 2: no weekend. Because we're recording this early. AJ's about to
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  Speaker 2: go on a vacation, so we're recording. We had no weekend.
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  Speaker 2: You can talk about your day today. Them days be
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  Speaker 2: too fucking long, man.
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  Speaker 1: I had a long day today.
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  Speaker 3: Today, too.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even want to talk about that shit. I
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  Speaker 2: can't wait to watch The Drop. I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: y'all are watching Snowfall. The Drop is the spinoff with
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  Speaker 2: Gayle Bean, who I love so much, and I want
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  Speaker 2: her to be a guest on our show.
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  Speaker 3: I'm working on that. Yeah, fingers crossed. If y'all know her,
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  Speaker 3: tell her. Shit. I want her on the show.
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  Speaker 1: Is that the main character? Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: We might can do that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. We can get her. I want to get her.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm ready to watch that as soon as we finish.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm going to do today.
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  Speaker 1: And, you know. Yeah, man. Let's get in the scene.
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  Speaker 1: All right, girl, let's go.
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  Speaker 2: So a Florida woman was arrested after her husband discovered
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  Speaker 2: disturbing home surveillance footage.
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  Speaker 3: And, you know, it had to be Florida.
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  Speaker 2: Malia Elizabeth Numador, 38, came under investigation after her estranged husband,
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  Speaker 2: contacted the Charlotte County Sheriff's Office about recordings involving her
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  Speaker 2: and the dog. So I'm not going to read all
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  Speaker 2: this shit, but apparently the video, the woman.
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  Speaker 3: Was having sexual intercourse with her dog.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all, okay, just hear me out for a second. And
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  Speaker 1: it was an elderly dog, too. Hear me out for
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  Speaker 1: a second, all right? I don't know what. It's not
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  Speaker 1: about to be no bestiality shit, but I just feel
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  Speaker 1: like all white women be fucking the dogs. No, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: that's not true. Back in the day when the internet
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  Speaker 1: was like, I mean, you could still see a lot
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  Speaker 1: of things on the internet, right? But, you know, with
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  Speaker 1: access to certain things comes restriction over time. But you
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  Speaker 1: used to be able to see people having sex with animals.
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  Speaker 1: It was a genre on the porn sites. Yes. That's wild.
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  Speaker 1: I've seen horses. I've seen dogs. Yes. That's disgusting. Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Why would you want to fuck a dog?
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  Speaker 1: In multiple states in America, it is illegal to own
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  Speaker 1: sheep unless you're married. Men. It's illegal for a man
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  Speaker 1: to own a sheep unless they're married. Because you're going
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  Speaker 1: to fuck the sheep? Yes, because they say the vagina
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  Speaker 1: of a female sheep Feels like a human woman.
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  Speaker 3: That's gross.
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  Speaker 1: And how do you know that? You know, like, why
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  Speaker 1: would you know that? Because they obviously be penetrating animals.
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  Speaker 1: So they have to have laws against it because people
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  Speaker 1: actually do this type of shit. Poor dog. It's fucking crazy.
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  Speaker 1: But that leads me to.
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  Speaker 2: All these men out here, why you want to have
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  Speaker 2: sex with a dog, though? That's just why I don't understand, like,
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  Speaker 2: If you're that horny, it's a man. You can, I
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  Speaker 2: promise you, you can walk out.
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  Speaker 1: The door and find a man. She's married and rather
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  Speaker 1: have sex with a dog. That's a mental, like maybe
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  Speaker 1: she thinks she's a dog somewhere deep down inside. More
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  Speaker 1: like you want it. Bitch. These people fucking crazy. Well,
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  Speaker 1: after she finished her sentence, she can always go get
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  Speaker 1: a job with the FBI. Somebody said that. What does
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  Speaker 1: that mean? Kash Patel, the director of the FBI, was
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  Speaker 1: just under scrutiny recently because they changed the background check
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  Speaker 1: requirements for FBI applicants. Basically to not disqualify people because
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  Speaker 1: of bestiality. Why would bestiality in particular be mentioned? And
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  Speaker 1: they kept asking him, and he was in front of Congress,
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  Speaker 1: and he's like, you know, maybe somebody was forced into
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  Speaker 1: a situation, in a trafficking situation. It sounds like that
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  Speaker 1: might have happened to him. Right. And he's trying to
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  Speaker 1: cover his ass, and whoever else might have been involved
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  Speaker 1: in some shit that could possibly come up. Because listen,
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  Speaker 1: our country is already hijacked. And the people that have
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  Speaker 1: hijacked it, their main thing is blackmail. They will get
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  Speaker 1: you in compromising positions so they can control you. Right.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all got to be like Kanye and put all y'all
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  Speaker 1: shit out there. Remember Kanye went on social media and
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  Speaker 1: said how him and his, when he was a teenager,
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  Speaker 1: him and his cousin was doing stuff as a boy.
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  Speaker 1: Like him, two boys. And he put it out there
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  Speaker 1: and walked away. Like, he dropped the bomb and walked away. Now,
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  Speaker 1: nobody can use that against you because I think the cousin, like,
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  Speaker 1: is in prison. So maybe he got wind that this
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  Speaker 1: person was going to speak on it. Who knows?
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  Speaker 2: Or maybe he was trying to extort him for money.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so let me tell you.
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  Speaker 1: Kanye the realest nigga y'all niggas know.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I ain't never fucked no dog or nobody kid
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  Speaker 3: or none of that shit.
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  Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm glad. Girl, the people is fool, okay?
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  Speaker 1: I'm cutting people hands off. Somebody touch my kid, touch
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  Speaker 1: my pet. I'm going to do something to you.
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  Speaker 3: Why would you want to? I just don't get it.
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  Speaker 3: What's the sexual attraction to a dog?
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  Speaker 1: They're dogs. She's a dog-ass bitch. wow all right so
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: a new statue went up in is it trifogler trifogler
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  Speaker 1: squares fourth plymouth today officials call it every woman the
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  Speaker 1: work is lady in blue by new york artists yeah
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  Speaker 1: tash bahala tash bahala self sounds like that's a created
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  Speaker 1: name like the last name is self okay It will
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  Speaker 1: stand there for two years. Yep. It is a big,
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  Speaker 1: beautiful statue of an African, a woman with African aesthetic.
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  Speaker 1: Blue dress, blue shoes with a high bun on her
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  Speaker 1: head with some blue pearl necklaces. That's clearly great. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. And,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, she's very voluptuous also.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's a full-figured woman. And I love it, but
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  Speaker 2: the people are mad. The British are mad. And the
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  Speaker 2: white people mad, honestly.
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  Speaker 1: Let's read some of these comments. The first one says,
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  Speaker 1: not every woman. I don't resemble that thing at all.
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  Speaker 1: Next one says, we really went from this to that.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like a statue of a white woman. Just,
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  Speaker 1: you know, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Where is vandals when you need them? Why are people
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  Speaker 2: so mad? You know, and this is the thing. When
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  Speaker 2: you are, when you feel like you are supreme, anything
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  Speaker 2: that's equal feels like an oppression to you. And that's
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  Speaker 2: what is going on. Anytime equality happens in any way,
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  Speaker 2: it feels like oppression to white people.
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  Speaker 3: Damn, we can't have a statue.
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  Speaker 1: That's a thing. But do y'all remember, this was like during,
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't really during COVID, like maybe 2024, where they
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  Speaker 1: had like that big, slack-ass looking statue of a black
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  Speaker 1: woman in Times Square? I wonder if it's the same woman,
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  Speaker 1: the same person who did that statue. Let's see.
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  Speaker 3: No, I think this was like a new artist that
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  Speaker 3: was chosen.
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  Speaker 1: Well, the one that's in Europe, that was done by
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  Speaker 1: a New York City artist.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, was it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, I know this one is done by.
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  Speaker 2: a new york city artist yeah was it the same
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  Speaker 2: artist i don't know so the one in times square
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  Speaker 2: is called the black woman statue which i didn't like
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  Speaker 2: that statue no i didn't like that one either she
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  Speaker 2: looked like she had just walked out of mcdonald's it
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  Speaker 2: was making a scene she actually.
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  Speaker 1: Looked like somebody i fucking know who is this Because
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  Speaker 1: remember that conspiracy how they had like this black model
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  Speaker 1: who was missing and there was a whole statue of
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  Speaker 1: him in a European store look exactly like him? No,
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  Speaker 1: I don't. You never seen that? Because I will send
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  Speaker 1: it to you.
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  Speaker 3: You have to send me that.
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  Speaker 1: This looks like somebody.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that looks exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Like this one right here doesn't necessarily have a face, right?
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  Speaker 3: But that one definitely had.
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  Speaker 1: This looks like somebody underneath this stone. Yeah, that's how
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  Speaker 1: deep the features were on that one. Yeah, that's nuts.
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  Speaker 2: But I wasn't a big fan. But wasn't nothing worse
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  Speaker 2: than that. Wasn't it a statue of Chadwick Boseman?
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  Speaker 1: Where?
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  Speaker 3: No, it was the get out, nigga. He was falling.
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  Speaker 1: He was up against the ground. I was like, that
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  Speaker 1: is the worst statue.
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  Speaker 3: Like, they hate him.
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  Speaker 1: Just the fallen man? The fallen black man?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. He almost back up against the ground.
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  Speaker 1: Was that real?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a real statue. I know he looked
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  Speaker 2: at that shit like, I know y'all fucking lying. I
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  Speaker 2: was throwing it at you. But I'm not mad at
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  Speaker 2: this one.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. That look like anybody black auntie. It looks fun.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Because it doesn't have actual
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  Speaker 1: human-like features. I think it's fun. I don't know, man.
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  Speaker 1: The world... I don't give a damn about racism and
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  Speaker 1: stuff like that. I really don't care. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: everybody should be entitled to feel however the fuck they
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  Speaker 1: feel about it. Everybody don't have to like everything. And
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  Speaker 1: everything is not for everybody. And it's okay. You just
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  Speaker 1: move on. You know what I'm saying? Like, what the fuck?
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  Speaker 1: I just... I don't find myself.
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  Speaker 2: I'd rather you let me know that you don't fuck
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  Speaker 2: with me because of my skin than pretend to.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I prefer... overt racism versus covert. Yeah. Tell me
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  Speaker 1: exactly who you are. So I know how to deal
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  Speaker 1: with you. Right. But I mean, I don't, I don't
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  Speaker 1: feel like people should just go out their way not
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  Speaker 1: to be racist. Like it is, we going, no, I
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  Speaker 1: won't say racist prejudice. Right. Cause I think everybody has
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of prejudice in them. Racist is, becomes
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  Speaker 1: like a systemic thing. Like they are, they have power
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  Speaker 1: to do something to another group of people systemically. That's
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  Speaker 1: a different thing. Racism is never. Okay. Then I'm thinking
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  Speaker 1: about being prejudiced a little bit. And preferential treatment for
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  Speaker 1: your people. I like that. I wish we had more
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  Speaker 1: of that amongst black people. I agree. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying? Get into position and put other people in position,
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  Speaker 1: but we become like a little crab in a barrel situation. Yeah, because.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes when black people get in good neighborhoods and other
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  Speaker 2: black people start moving in, they be like, well, there
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  Speaker 2: goes the neighborhood.
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  Speaker 1: Like, how you acting like that, nigga? You here too.
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  Speaker 1: Because we know how these niggas get down. It's black
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  Speaker 1: people and then there's niggas. There's crackers and then there's
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  Speaker 1: white people. Right, I agree. Okay? We ain't the same.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I saw a lot of things online after
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  Speaker 1: Lil Durk was basically not found guilty of murder for hire,
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  Speaker 1: but he still has to go to trial regarding racketeering
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  Speaker 1: charges they got against him, right? Mm-hmm. So, like, people
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  Speaker 1: were cheering. You know, the people, his fans, were cheering
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  Speaker 1: about that. But then the grown black adults, we tired
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  Speaker 1: of that shit, man.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, I posted that. I am so tired of it.
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  Speaker 2: I am sick of it. Y'all are ruining the black community.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sick of y'all. Everything. Yes.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sick of y'all.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. You know what I'm saying? I'm not comfortable. Nobody
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  Speaker 1: can walk behind me. White, black, Asian, Puerto Rican, nobody. Mexican,
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  Speaker 1: nobody can walk behind me. but black men carry weapons
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  Speaker 1: for other black men let's be honest they don't carry
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  Speaker 1: weapons because they're afraid of a white man killing them
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  Speaker 1: that does happen i'm not saying it doesn't but a
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  Speaker 1: black man is more than likely to be victimized by
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  Speaker 1: another black man it's just true yeah okay y'all don't
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  Speaker 1: buy pistols with brad in mind yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But i think that's the case for every community like
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  Speaker 2: Spanish people are more likely to be killed by Spanish,
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  Speaker 2: white people.
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  Speaker 1: Not at the rate in which it's happening in the
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  Speaker 1: black community.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 1: That's why it's such a problem. And then you got
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  Speaker 1: children that fuck around and get killed. Because y'all stupid. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever heard, and maybe it just
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  Speaker 1: doesn't hit the news, I don't think I've ever heard
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  Speaker 1: of a Hispanic child or a white child being shot
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  Speaker 1: in the crossfire of a shootout. Never heard it. Y'all
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  Speaker 1: can't even shoot these fucking guns y'all got.
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  Speaker 3: No. No.
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  Speaker 2: I've never heard of that, but I have heard of
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  Speaker 2: white kids getting killed in mass shootings in schools. So
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: we just got all kinds of problems across the board
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  Speaker 2: in this country.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I just, you know, I just had this conversation.
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  Speaker 1: This is going in. We're talking about the statue. So
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  Speaker 1: how we end up here, I don't know, but just
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: right quick. I was just having a conversation with a
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  Speaker 1: friend because I asked him about the Lindsay Clancy. Was
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: it Lindsay Clancy? No, we were actually talking about Dirk.
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  Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, I'm kind of glad he
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  Speaker 1: got off because white people. What the fuck? What? We
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: got to clean in front of our door first. We
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: can't keep comparing our atrocities to other groups of people.
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  Speaker 1: We need to fix our shit first.
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  Speaker 3: I agree.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of comparing our evil to somebody else's evil to
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  Speaker 1: justify evil. All this shit is fucking bad.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I used to be one of them people
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  Speaker 3: who used to be like, oh, free my homie. No,
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  Speaker 3: fuck that nigga. Let him stay in jail because he
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: need to get his shit together.
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  Speaker 2: I'm tired of all of y'all motherfuckers.
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  Speaker 1: What homies you had to get free, bitch? Tell me.
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  Speaker 1: Not for real, but you know, like... Oh, you would
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  Speaker 1: have been, when somebody posted, you'd be like, yeah, free
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  Speaker 1: the homies. Yeah, that would be my energy. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know nobody like that. Not you rooting on the homies.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but, you know, like, just, like, collective, like, black
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  Speaker 2: love for the homie, right?
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  Speaker 1: That was the energy.
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  Speaker 2: But now it's like, fuck them niggas. They keep committing
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  Speaker 2: crimes and killing children and ruining them. You can't even
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: go to a football game and you can't do nothing
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  Speaker 2: because these fucking little niggas just unruly.
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  Speaker 3: Where are your parents? Go to jail. That's where I'm at.
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  Speaker 1: It's just kids being raised by the unraised. Like, grandma's
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: is fucking 30 years old, 35 years old now.
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  Speaker 2: If Harriet Tubman was shooting niggas on the Underground Railroad
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  Speaker 2: because they wouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: Comply, I'm on that level now. Like, y'all niggas need
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: to go to jail.
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  Speaker 3: We sick of y'all.
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  Speaker 1: No, some people got to die for change, for sure.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's where I'm at. Like,
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  Speaker 3: don't free none of y'all ass. Y'all need to stay. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So there's that.
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  Speaker 1: Stay them niggas. Stay. All right.
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  Speaker 2: So another, this is, I guess the whole weekend, all
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  Speaker 2: our sins are based on racism right now because this
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  Speaker 2: Kansas man.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, smashing a sheep is not racism, but go ahead.
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  Speaker 1: But I mean, we got into like, we got, it
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: went there.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: Kansas man finds, thank you.
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: Come again, nigga. On oil change sticker from Ford dealership.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: When I sent this, I was laughing. I was laughing
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: at the thing. I'm like, yo, I am so fucked
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: up for laughing. Go, go, go. Read it again. Read
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: it with a straight face. All right.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: A Kansas man finds. Thank you. Come again, nigga.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: On oil change sticker from Ford dealership. I just want
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: to know why. Like, why? Why? Why did y'all do that? Boy,
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: that man was crying on the news. He trying to
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: get him a new Ford truck. He ain't even about
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: to not drive a Ford no more. He just want
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: a new one.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he going to get it.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: Could you imagine? But it was an A.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: It wasn't an N-I-G-G-E-R. It might have been a black
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: man that put that on there.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Like, my nigga. Come again, my nigga. No. Ain't no way, bruh.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Come again, nigga. Thank you. Come again, nigga. It might
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: have been a nigga last day. Yeah. And he did
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: that dumb shit.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: Like, I want to get a nigga a new truck,
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: so I'm going to put this on now.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: That's a good nigga. Yeah, I agree. Please do me, Nick.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: A Wichita man says he found the word nigga printed
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: on his oil chain sticker after getting his truck service
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: at Rusty Eck Ford.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Um.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: Larry Martin Jr. said he initially assumed everything was fine
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: after picking up his truck, but weeks later, the dealership
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: contacted him and told him an employee had put something
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: derogatory on his sticker. Martin said the message was humiliating.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: It's humiliating. It carries a lot of weight, and every
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: time I get in my truck, this is what I'm thinking.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: It doesn't go away. I feel belittled, and I just
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: want to know why. The dealership said it does not
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: tolerate racial, hateful, discriminatory, or otherwise inappropriate conduct and launched
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: an internal investigation that led to an employee being terminated.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: The dealership also said the investigation remains ongoing for Martin's
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: family raised additional questions. Yeah, why? Why?
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: Why?
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: I want to know who it was. I want to
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: know if it was a black person or a white person.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: The fact that it said it had an A instead
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: of ER on the end makes me assume it might
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: have been another black person.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: But either way, give that man a new truck.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: I just seen two white boys fighting and they was like,
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: come on, nigga. Come on. It's like they use the
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: word nigga to disrespect each other. They don't use it otherwise.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: These is like two khaki wearing. If a white.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Person call me a nigga, I'm going to call them
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: a nigga back. We just going to be like, you're
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: a nigga.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Exactly. Verse on his ass real quick.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: Like how you've had all the privileges in the world
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: and you're still poor.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: You really are the new nigga. For real. What the
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: fuck are you talking about?
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: You just wasted your white privilege, nigga. Right. I mean, okay,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: United States created race. Prior to, what I want to say,
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: like 19, I don't know. I mean, excuse me, 18, 1860,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: something like that. 1865 race reclassification is what they called it.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: If you were an indentured servant or a slave, you
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: were in the census as Negro, right? It was a
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: social status. It wasn't necessarily about skin color. And if
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: you were black, black skinned, free, own land, own slaves yourself,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: they had you as Caucasian. So niggas ain't always been
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: just black people.
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: That's why I never understand the way in which the
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: poor white trash in America, the way they do things.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: Y'all really niggas. Sorry.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: It's more y'all niggas too than anything.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: Like, they don't give a fuck about you either.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: Broke ass. It's a lot of y'all niggas across America.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Anyway, what are.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: We talking about today, Chad? I still need some of
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: them Appalachian niggas. And they was like fighting in the backyard.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: I was like, them niggas is crazy. And they was
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: all white people. That's what I'm talking about. Not the
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Appalachian niggas. What are we talking about today?
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: I'm scared of them.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: Me too.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I'm scared of them people in the mountains. They was
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: punching themselves.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: In their face trying to show how strong they were.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: That's animal shit.
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: Y'all are retarded.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: That's Texas Chainsaw Massacre type shit. Yeah. Remember that part
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: on one of the series? Like, stay out, grandma. The
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: little boy said, grandma, let me in. And she said, no,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: stay outside with the dogs till you learn how to act.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: You never see that? Okay. No, I've never seen that.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: All right, y'all. So this week we are talking about time. Essentially. Right.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: And why women look at time different when it comes
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: to the resolve of a relationship. Like men and women
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: have a totally different perspective oftentimes after the end of
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: a relationship about what transpired in that relationship and how
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: good or bad it was. Like it's usually different. And
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: most women leave feeling like they wasted time. Yeah. So
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I want to talk about time.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Let's talk about it. We'll be right back.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I want my pussy back. That's all I know. That's
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: how I'm gonna start this off. I want my pussy
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: back right now. Give me my pussy, my pussy, my pussy,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: my pussy. Like baby back rim? Yes. Have you ever
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: felt that way though? Have you ever felt that way? Absolutely.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: You know, I do try to keep my regrets to
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: a minimum, but gosh, my darn it. Yes. I want
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: my pussy back from a few people. Like I just
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: want those people to just forget they ever knew me.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: That hasn't, it's nobody recent. You know what I'm saying?
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: I'm just thinking back like. Mm-hmm. I hate to run
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: into somebody you know you had no business fucking with.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: It's new niggas that I feel that way. Listen, every nigga,
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: I want it back.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: So relationship-wise, people you were in a relationship with, but
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: I want my time back more than anything. The pussy
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: come with it, but I do need some of my
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: time back in my 30s. You know, Tammy and I are,
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: you know, the same age. And my 30s, I had,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: you know, two years to me, that's a long-term relationship
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: to me. Two years plus, right? So I had two
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: long-term relationships in my 30s. And then some spurts of
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: singleness and, you know, outsideness, you know? But for most
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: of your 30s, you were single, right?
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: So I spent... Most of my life in a relationship.
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: I had a.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: Boyfriend from 16 to 28. One boyfriend. You know I
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: kind of cheated on him sometime in college. Then I
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: had one boyfriend. Tell the truth and shame the devil today.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Go ahead. Fuck it.
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: And then I had another boyfriend from like almost 30
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: to like 34.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: Okay. Okay.
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: So that's when I moved back to Charlotte. And then
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I was like, I don't want to be with a nigga.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: Because I had been always attached to somebody.
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: Who am I without a man, right?
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: And then I decided I no longer wanted to be outside,
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: but outside wanted me to be there.
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: It just decided. And I wish if I could go back,
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: because now.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: I'm in my 40s, and if I could go back
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: and talk to my younger self I definitely would tell
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: her that nobody said that having boundaries for yourself was
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: going to be fun or easy or without pain. Because
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: when you stand in your boundaries and set those boundaries
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: and live within them, it's fucking hard.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: It hurts. It's lonely.
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: And it can be very painful. And it's so easy.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: To go back to some shit that don't fulfill you
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: because it's the easiest thing to do.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: It's just familiarity. Right.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: And I think I spent a lot of my mid
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: to late 30s just doing what felt good at a time,
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: knowing that it wasn't in alignment with what I needed
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: or what I wanted for myself.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: So now I'm looking back like, why was I even
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: letting you play with me that long?
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: You know? Yeah. So. Yeah. So what I was going
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: to say is, like, we both had different, similar but different,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: you know, situations in our 30s, but yielded the same
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: fucking result. Right. The result is singleness. Right. Okay, I'm
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: in a relationship now because I'm just... To my core,
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: I'm a relationship person. But I do like to be
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: single in the relationship. And not that I'm going to
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: be fucking somebody else. I just don't. Like, I just
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: was watching Kiki Palmer. Sorry, I'm joking. Don't play on
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: my nigga like that.
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Honestly. I was watching Kiki Palmer and Whoopi Goldberg talking. And,
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: you know, because Kiki Palmer has this thing she always
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: quotes Whoopi Goldberg on. saying that she doesn't want anybody
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: in her house. So Whoopi Goldberg was like, no, I said,
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: I don't want to live with anybody. And, you know,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: Kiki went into this whole thing like, yeah, like, I
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: don't feel like having to ask a question. Like both
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: of them pretty much say the same thing, answering questions
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: and having to consider somebody else all the time. They likes,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: they wants, they needs, their love languages, all this shit.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: It does begin to be a bit much. And I
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: think our generation might be a little bit more selfish
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: that way. especially the longer you are single right.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Now because now I'm starting to feel like could I
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: even live with a man you know at this point
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: I haven't I've only really lived with one man in
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: my entire life and there was a lot of things
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: about it I did love I loved the I felt
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: safer like I slept more peacefully knowing that there was
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: a man in there that would protect me if something
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: was to happen I do miss that but I don't
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: miss seeing hairy shit in the toilet I don't remember.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: I don't miss having to clean up after somebody all
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: the time.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: I don't miss the smell of gym shorts. I don't know.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: Niggas' balls be stank. Like, why do they balls stink?
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: I still think that's based on your partner selection, right?
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Because I know it's based on partner selection because I
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: had one that was extremely clean, like me. We took
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: the same amount of showers, all that shit. And then
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: I had one that could possibly get in a bed
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: without showering that day. You know what I'm saying? He
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: may not be stink, but you got outside on you,
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: on your skin. That's how my mind works. Like, so
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: you're not going to wash? So it is about, you know,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: that's on my list of things too, right? So you
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: got to go through these relationships to learn what you
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: like and don't like. I just think that we end
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: up staying in the wrong relationship too long while we're learning.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: Because it's easier.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: Right? Yeah, and then we end up with these regrets.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: And it's also harder to start over sometimes, right? You
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: got to learn somebody else's likes and dislikes and all
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: these little idiosyncrasies and shit like that. You just don't
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: feel like it. so or you be.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Broke that's another thing codependency yeah codependency obligation y'all got
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: bills together things like that children will i'm about to
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: say you don't want the kids to grow up without
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: their daddy yeah children will definitely i mean we don't
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: have that but yeah children will definitely keep people in
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: situations that they should have been left they the children
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: should have never ever been conceived in this particular situation but.
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: Here they are.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: Looking just like that nigga staring you in the face. Right?
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: I got a homeboy who just had a baby this week.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Don't get mad at me for talking about it, nigga.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: The girl got induced on September, on Sunday, September 13th.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: And he sent me a picture of that baby. I said, boy,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: quit playing with that girl. That is your kid. Right.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: It's a little girl, too, looking like her daddy. You know, daddy's...
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: You know, it's a cute baby. And it's actually a
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: cute baby for a newborn. You know, newborns be looking
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: like aliens. Yeah. I'm like, yeah. I'm like, man, that's
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: your whole kid. But he's like kind of distraught about
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: it because he's not in a relationship with this person.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: He didn't really want to have a child with this person.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: One thing I thought about today and when I was
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: in the shower and my homegirl called me as soon
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: as I got out of the shower. But I'm in
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: the shower thinking like, it is bullshit when people say
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: the condom broke. That's bullshit. Yes, condoms can break. But
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: to say a condom broke the minute you came, that's
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: a fucking anomaly. That condom was already broke, and you
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: kept fucking, and then you came. But sometimes they may
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: not know, though. Girl... Does Coochie know raw dick from
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: condom dick? That man know raw pussy from condom pussy. Like,
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: it start getting real, like, lovemaking-ish when that condom break,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: when it's skin to skin.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: Everybody knows. But a condom can break and it not
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: be skin to skin, though. It could be just, like, busted.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: Like, it's busted and your dick is.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I ain't got no dick. Let me stop.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: What, like a little hole, tiny hole somewhere? Mm-hmm. I just,
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: I don't want to hear that shit from no 50-year-old nigga.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. You smashed Raw and you got this person pregnant.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: That's all I know. You ain't no condom broke. That's
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: the oldest lie of all time. That is the oldest lie.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: Think about that now that you big and grown.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: I feel like a condom can break. I still feel
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: like a condom can break. And then they pull it
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: together like... Hard penetration... And like.
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: The tip bust, and you don't know it until it's over.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: You came because that shit started feeling good. You came
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: because it started feeling good. I think that's a lie
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: men have always been saying to not take accountability when
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: they get a woman pregnant. They knew that condom had broke.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: It's stealthing. Oh, yeah. I really believe that. They know
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: that condom broke. They're going to know it break. It's
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: on their penis, right? So they're going to know that
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: feeling that difference. When that happens. We'll have to ask
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: a nigga. Do you know? I want to know because
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: I feel like y'all full of shit.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: Do you feel like the years feel harder for a
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: woman versus a man?
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: In the relationship?
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: Let's say you break up and yeah.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: Why is it always like a woman feels like she
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: lost something where a man is like I learned something?
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Because I think that It takes a little bit longer
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: for us to get a new relationship. You know, I
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: feel like men be having quality women lined up waiting.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: Whereas the pickings can be kind of slim for women.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? You might not be able
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: to get anybody, whatever the characteristics are in this person
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: that you liked. Right. You may not be able to
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: at least find somebody with those things. And then like
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: the good other new good things.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: It might take time. So we just feel, you know,
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: time was wasted because I'm not where I want to be.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? I thought we would be married.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: I thought we would have a child. You know what
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: I'm saying? Like, if you're in a relationship with somebody
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: and you know you want to be married and this
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: person is dragging their feet, you got to get out
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: of there. Right. Because you won't look up in five,
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: ten years. We'll have went by.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: And you're still a girlfriend.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: And there's you know then we have our biological clock
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: obviously I think that's a thing and then absolutely I
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: know this might sound crazy to y'all but culturally women
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: get less desirable as they get older and men get
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: more desirable as they age like women be like looking
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: at old ass niggas like the nigga off of um
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: somebody told me to stop saying niggas so much old
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: ass men older men not old ass like on um
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: Tyler Perry's Beauty in Black chorus.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: And they be like, oh, I'll fuck him. I'll fuck him.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: And he's older.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: But nobody is really saying they trying to fuck the mama.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: I don't hear no men like, oh, yeah, I'm going
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: to fuck the mama. And she's still beautiful. But when
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: a woman gets older, she's just respected. She becomes a
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: figure of somebody you should respect and not as much desire.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: Whereas a man still can get it.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, but just because those women would smash that
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: man doesn't mean they don't respect him.
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: No, not saying that, but I'm just saying, like, when
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: a woman gets older, men aren't just like.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: They'd be like, ma'am. Hi, ma'am.
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: I got a perfect example, child. My daddy and his wife.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: My mom would be like, girl, how is she saying yes,
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: ma'am to me? You're with my ex-husband. And you're saying yes,
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: ma'am to his ex-wife. She's trying to show respect, but
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: that's disrespect. That's what I'm saying. It's the example right there, right? Right. Exactly.
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: She thinks she's showing respect, but it's actually disrespect. Disrespect. Right. Exactly. Because.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: Bitch, you're my peer. No shade.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: Right. So, I mean, I don't know. There are some
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: MILFs out there that men want to have sex with
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: are still appealing and people still think they're fine and sexy.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, we see the older women online and they
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: are fine.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because, like, when I was in my 20s, I'd
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: be like 50-year-old women in my head looked a certain way.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: But the 50-year-old women that exist today do not look
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: like the 50-year-old women from my childhood.
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: Zero percent.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: The 30-year-old, like, people was looking hella old at 25
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: when we was kids. Like, my mama always seemed like
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: an older woman to me. Right. She was literally my
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: age right now when she had me down there. No,
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: she was actually 31. I'm tripping. When she had me.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: But I'm wondering, do younger women look at us and
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: be like, They look like old.
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: People to me.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: Impossible. Bitch, are you okay? I'm taking your nigga, young lady. Period.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: Because we be cooking over here. I be cooking and
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: cleaning and washing the pussy. Yeah, they think it's like
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: a shot at us when they call. A girl just
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: literally just called me an old bitch recently on Instagram.
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: But you got several kids, girl. Have a seat. We
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: already said if you got kids, you older than us.
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: Right. You way growner than me.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: And if you push that baby out, your pussy is
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: definitely older than mine.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: Yes, period.
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: But no shade to it. I'm sure, listen, all the
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: girls with babies, I'm sure y'all got good pussy.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: Relax. Don't get mad. Obviously. He ain't pull out. Right.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: But we do, too. We had an abortion. If you
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: ain't never had an abortion, bitch, your pussy whack. Nope.
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: These are jokes, guys.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: So who becomes responsible for the lost time though whose
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: fault is it because accountability is a word that most women.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: Hate um if you're whoever feels like if you feel
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: like you wasted your time you're the one that have
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: to be account you have to hold yourself accountable for
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: wasting that time it's not that man's fault it's your
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: waste of time yeah it's your fault all day long Yeah,
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: you can't.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: Blame nobody but yourself. And you can't get it back.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: That's why I tell you, like, bitch, please take heed
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: of this and don't wait. Don't wait for nothing. Like,
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: don't wait for the perfect time to launch a business.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Don't wait for a perfect time to lead that man.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Don't wait for a perfect time to, what else? Start
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: getting in shape. Do all the things right now because
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: you're going to look up and all you'll have is
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: memories of what you could have done. And that applies
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: to me, too, you know, still today with things that
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: I want to do.
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: In my own life, you know? Mm-hmm. Yeah, you know,
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: my relationship, the relationships I was in in my 20s
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: and my 30s, they really, they shaped who I am, right? Mm-hmm.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: They made me move around the country.
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: I was literally moving away from niggas or moving to
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: niggas and making shit easy or hard for a nigga
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: to have access to me, right? Mm-hmm. I moved from
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: Columbia to Atlanta to St. Louis because of a man.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: Atlanta wasn't far enough because he would still drive up
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: there because I was still allowing him, like I still
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: wanted him, right? Even though I left him in Columbia,
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: like he then still had access to me because he
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: was driving to Georgia now. You know what I'm saying?
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: That wasn't far enough. So then I left and went
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: to St. Louis. And then it's just I should have
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: chose myself more.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: That part.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: In these situations, I just really neglected myself. And now
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: I might be I'm a lot more selfish with my time,
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: with my energy, with my funnies, with my everything nowadays
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: when it comes to relationships. You really have everything. And
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: not just with me, with everybody. Period. Everything has to
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: be reciprocated. And then that way you do not feel
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: like you lost anything. I don't think I lost time.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: It was an even exchange. You see what I'm saying? Never.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: I think that it takes time to learn that, though.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: Because you think you got all this time when you're
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: 20 years old. And it really happens so fast, y'all.
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: I swear it has. My last relationship before this one,
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: last year, right? The relationship I left, and this was
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: like my lifelong relationship. This person had been in my
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: life since I was 18. Since our freshman year at
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: Benedict Child. Like, this person had been a constant in
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: my life. Whether he was... Outside or inside, okay? He
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: had been a constant in my life, my entire adult life.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: But he was in prison sometime, y'all, okay? I had
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: never broken up with him in the real world before, right?
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: So I tried to see if that thing could work,
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: that last go-around. And I'm not the same person. I
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: am the same person, but there's aspects of him in me.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: And that's what attracts you to people, right? But when
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: you get rid of those things... That person is just
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: no longer suitable, right? So I just started getting annoyed. Like,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I couldn't even sleep some nights.
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: That applies to friendships, too.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: That applies to friendships, too.
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: But it's easier to get out of those than, you know,
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: love relationships, I feel like. Yeah, absolutely. It just takes
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: one good, bad argument. Bye, bitch.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: Right, because y'all not intimate. I think that intimacy, like, well,
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: physical intimacy changes. It adds another layer that makes it harder.
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: You know, you're tethered in a way that you ain't
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: with your homegirl.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: Right. I think even with that, you know, I feel
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: like when I was younger, my coochie was definitely tied
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: to my heart. Like, bow tied, real tight. Girl. Let
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: me tell you, you know, usually women, it's the mind
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: leaves first and then the physical. Nowadays, all this shit
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: leave at once.
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: I'm out of there. But I applaud these young girls.
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: These girls' pussies ain't attached to they heart.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: These young girls. That's what they be saying. They still
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: be getting pregnant.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they still fucking, but I don't know if they
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: heart be in it. And I think it's some of
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: the music got them. They hold grown men out here.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Child, these girls is fucking. flexing and finessing they are
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: still love of girls they are still wanting somebody to
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: just love on them and be chosen that is like
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: women we just want that I.
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: Think men want that too though yeah I think so
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: by a couple bitches yeah for sure Chosen all over.
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: All over titties. And it just takes men a little bit. Also,
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: it takes men a little bit longer to get to
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: that point. It takes them a little bit longer. The
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: phone calls I hate is the shoulda, woulda, couldas. Like,
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: get off my phone. Telling me what you wish and
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: all of this stuff. I don't give a fuck. That's
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: the part I hate about going to homecoming.
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: College homecoming. Is niggas that, first of all, I hate
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: that I ever fucked you.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Second.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: Can I just kill you at homecoming? Don't come over
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: here with that shit. Talking about what you wish could
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: have happened and what you... I always wanted.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: You, niggas. How about the always liked it? I always
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: liked you. I liked you. You still can't talk. I
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: wanted you. I wanted you. W-O-N. Who are you again?
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: I already control, delete that off my coochie a long
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: time ago.
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: Or then there's the guys that I like.
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: That you wouldn't give a chance in college and you
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: might give them a chance now, but they got resentment
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: and they just trying to get back at you for
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: not giving them a chance when they were young.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Like that, that's, all weirdo shit nobody got time for. Like,
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: what if I had a boyfriend at that time? It
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: just wasn't the right time for us.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: That doesn't mean, like, I didn't like you then. It
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: just wasn't the right time for it. You know? I
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: think some men, they want, you gotta like them in
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: the same capacity and at the same time and rate
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: that they like you.
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: Or else, it's revenge. You know?
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: I have had one of my good guy friends told
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: me he has done that on several occasions. Like, Hollered
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: at a girl, and then she didn't give him the number.
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: He hollered again and got the number smashed and never
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: talked to her again. Because he's trying to get back
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: at her. Like, that's just evil. That's just, they have very,
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: very fragile egos, for sure. And they don't like rejection,
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: you know?
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: And nobody likes to be rejected. I can't think of nobody,
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: a person who wakes up and like, yeah, I can't
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: wait for somebody to diss the fuck out of me today.
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: But just how you handle it, right? Right.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: Anytime, listen, if I feel rejected by a man, I
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: just be like, okay, well, he's gay.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: And I go on with my life. Obviously.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: And then just move on. I don't try to hurt him,
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: you know, later. Like, oh, I'm going to get back.
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: I'm going to make him fall for me.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: You ain't all that anyway. I'm going to rob him.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: You know, like. I'm not going to do that. Where'd
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: you get that from? Robbing? Why'd you slide that in
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: there like that?
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: I'm just saying, like, a way a woman could get
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: back at a man for making her feel rejected.
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: I've never robbed a soul.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: I never think about robbing somebody. But how could a
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: woman get back at a man?
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: Because a man would get back at a woman, like,
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: have sex with her and then ghost her. Like, oh,
• 45:12
  Speaker 2: you took my vagina. A woman, they're going to try
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: to take money.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: Something.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: Something.
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because, I mean, men hold this value in money.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: A woman values her body in a way that a
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: man doesn't.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's true. Yeah. I don't know. I just
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: think that, like you said, we have a literal clock. Women,
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: we're on a clock whether we like it or not, right?
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: I know they got a lot of posts and stuff
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: like that online now showing how all these great... late
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: birth pregnancies, these geriatric pregnancies, you know what I'm saying?
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: If Tammy and I, because we are both over 35,
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: geriatric pregnancy is what we're looking at, right? But it's
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: women upwards into their 50s right now still having children, right?
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: So that to me even shows like how healthy people
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: actually are, right? You have to be healthy to procreate, right?
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: So if you're able to, you know, produce a child,
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: get pregnant and carry and have a viable pregnancy that old,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: you're doing good. Right.
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: It's a blessing.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So I think that we probably, for me, I'll
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: just speak from my perspective. I have already come to
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: terms with the fact that I may or may not
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: have a kid, right? It's not going to make a break.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: I'm going to still get this bag.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: Because I really feel like if I had an M
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: for real, dude, whatever. Like, I don't even got time
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: for this baby. I'm going to have the baby just
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: to say I got one at that point.
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: And that's what a lot of women have done.
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: Right. It's like a purse. Like, girl, you see this fucking,
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: what's the little, the small little bag? Not Carrie. Is
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: it the Carrie? Not Carrie. The little small bag everybody
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: be having there. The Kelly. Like a Kelly. Like having
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: a baby like a fucking Kelly bag. Like, that'll be it.
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: I'm just playing. I would definitely be. If you had
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: a million. Girl, I definitely would be so in love
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: with you. Girl, please. Yeah, I would. But still, I
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: would have help.
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm definitely at the space where I don't think
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: I'm going to have a baby.
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: That's how I feel like I don't think it anymore.
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: Like, I think it might just be that ship has
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: probably sailed for me.
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: I'm not even, like, in a relationship or close.
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: But God decides, you know. He has the ultimate decision.
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: But I don't want to psych myself out into thinking
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: that I got a year before I'm like, I'm not
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: trying to have nobody's baby.
• 47:40
  Speaker 3: So.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: Don't nobody skeet up with me in this next year.
• 47:46
  Speaker 3: It's over.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: And then the fact that I don't, I'm using, I
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: use condoms just makes it very, that much, you know,
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: less likely. Right.
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And I mean, like, I'm back on my, I
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: need a Gemini. So this is around the time right
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: now that I need to be getting pregnant to get
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: you the Gemini or Virgo for next year. But you're
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: going to Jamaica. I mean, hey, I still got October
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: to make something pop. But, you know, I really, I
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: do want a Gemini kid. I don't know if that's
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: selfish or what. But, you know, I'm third generation Gemini.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: Is that a thing? No, for real. My mama and
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: then my grandma. So, like, I'm third generation. So that's
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: why I want, like, the fourth generation. Like, don't be
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: fucking up my bloodline.
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: You're going to fucking around and have a cancer because
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: you're waiting too long.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I know. And I'm going to hold it. I'm going
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: to cross my leg. But that baby going to be
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: so big by the time that baby going to be
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: one by the time he come out. I'll be damned
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: if I have a fucking cancer. Walking out. Mama. Yeah,
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: but I don't know. I think women have to change
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: their minds and their perspective. It's learning. It is learning.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: And that's how men feel about it, I believe. I
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: think they probably— the thing I do hear men complain about
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: the most after relationships end is how much money they
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: spend in the relationship. Mm-hmm.
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: That's their regret.
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: Yes. How much money they spend because— I'm going to
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: tell you, the way you keep a man is the
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: investment he makes in him.
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: Okay? And men will hang around for a return on
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: their investment. And that's why you have to require. Yeah,
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: require an investment in you. Don't just let him come
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: to your house all the time. Mm-hmm.
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: And now all he do is lay around your house
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: and fuck on you and watch TV?
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: No.
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: I mean, I enjoy that.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong, but.
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: Take you out, make him invest in you.
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: I mean, if that's what you want, right? You got
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: some people that's just for the dicking. Right? You really
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: don't want to be doing anything else with this person.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: Don't fuck around and fall in love with the dickin'.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: That's the problem. The dickin' is crazy. Because you can
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: get the generous man, right, that does the things that
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: you like and he's thinking about you and he's considering you.
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: You can get that. But women be falling in love
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: with the dickin'. The dickin' be good. The dickin' be dickin'.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: So I understand how that can happen, you know? Mm-hmm.
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: You look up and you have, like, I'm, you know,
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: you on your playing shit in your head. And then
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: the next thing you know, you crying.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: You know? It be like that. I've definitely been there. Yeah, man.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: Not just dicking, though. I always made a nigga do something. Like,
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: you just not coming over here with dick.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: Never. Yeah, because I got to feel good about giving
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: up my coochie. Like, I'm just, we just having sex.
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: I need you to give me, like, I need, I
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: just need something. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
• 50:51
  Speaker 3: I just need to be made to feel special. I
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: say that to every person. Make me feel special to you.
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: Period. I don't just want the dicking. Yeah.
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: If I don't feel special, ain't nothing happening.
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I know a lot of my good guy friends
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: who would be very great, you know, husbands, boyfriends and
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: stuff like that. They always end up in these terrible,
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: I say opposites attract. So they always end up in
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: these situations, and the main thing they always say is, man,
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: I just spent $ 20, 000 on Christmas, shit like that. We
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: just went on vacation, and then she broke up with me.
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: You know? So there are a lot of scorned men
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: out there, too. We know one. Right. I hate to
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: fuck with a.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: Nigga when he just got scorned. Like, don't come to
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: me after that. now you don't want to do shit.
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: I know now you ain't got no money for me
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: now you like got boundaries and shit you know why
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: you trying to put me on a budget.
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: Now you trying to make me I'm paying for what
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: she did no yeah go heal me but women do
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: that shit too so I ain't you know like they
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: be making the next nigga pay for what the last
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: man did but it's just like I mean I guess
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: you gotta create healthy boundaries but don't come over here
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: with no money cause you paying for somebody's titties and
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: they left after.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah you gotta learn at some point So y'all know
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: Ciara is pregnant again right now. With Cinco. Yeah. So
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: people just thought Ciara didn't deserve to move on and
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: be happy with a man who actually loves and cares
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: for her. And look what came out of it.
• 52:33
  Speaker 3: How beautiful is that?
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: All these other humans. You know what I'm saying? How
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: beautiful is that? And she probably felt like I wasted
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: my time. I gave this man a whole baby. Mm-hmm.
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: Right? Yeah.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: But he was just a part of the puzzle. That's
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: all it is. I feel like when things don't work
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: out for women in relationships, we really be depressed about shit.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: That's where it comes from. If you want to lose
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: 10 pounds, go through a nigga's cell phone. That's really
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: what that is. It's just real.
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: It depends on what kind of bitch you are because
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: I'm going to gain 10 pounds.
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: I'm going to eat. Me too. Bitch, where is the
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: ice cream? And I got actual cones in the house
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: with toppings. Right. I'm eating for sure. But I feel
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: like women, what was I about to say? Jesus Christ.
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: You lost your train of thought.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: Yes, I did. God damn it, I hate that. I
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: was talking about Ciara, and oh boy.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: Well, when you think of it, I'm just going to
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: say this. Sometimes you just have to, you are like.
• 53:33
  Speaker 3: Afraid because you think you might not get any better,
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: but sometimes you just got to let go of that thing.
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: I saw this picture of, this kid and they were
• 53:43
  Speaker 3: holding like a teddy bear and it was a picture
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: of Jesus.
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: And he was like, just, and Jesus was holding a
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: big ass teddy bear behind his back. And the baby
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: was like, but I love it. And sometimes you just
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: got to let go of that thing because that better
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: thing is waiting to happen for you when you just
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: fucking let go. And I know that's the hardest part,
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: but sometimes you just got to do it. I'm going
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: to use my sister as an example, and she don't
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: listen to the show, so she'll probably never hear this.
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: But she was in a terrible marriage where she was
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: just being very mistreated.
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: She was overweight.
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: Her money was not what it could be because her
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: partner was creating a lot of debt for them. But
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: she loved her partner, and she wanted to stay in
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: that relationship. But eventually, she had to choose herself and
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: let go. And when I say God has blessed her abundantly,
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: like right now, she's in the best shape of her life.
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: Skin look good. She got 100% disability from the military.
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: She was already making good money. So now she's making.
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: Balling. You're making at least $ 50, 000 off of.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: Disability.
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: And she getting more than that. So she's making well
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: into six figures. She just bought her a new home.
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: And I'm just so happy for her. And all it
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: took was letting go of that thing that she just
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: wanted to hold on to so bad. So I'm encouraging y'all,
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: because you know who you are listening to this, who's
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: holding on to something that is not serving you. Let
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: that shit go. And watch how God comes in and
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: shows out in your life.
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: Let it go. And, you know, I know we speaking
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: from women perspective because we are women. Right. So I
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: know people hate. I kind of hate to hear when
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: people say if something isn't serving you like serving you.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: But I really believe women are supposed to be worshipped.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: You are supposed to be worshipped. So for real, if
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: it is not serving you, well, I guess in that situation,
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: they both. I mean, well, one has the energy of,
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: you know. Right.
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: But the thing is, like, I used to say I
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: don't want people to use me. I do want people
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: to use me.
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: No, absolutely. Just don't misuse me, you know. Exactly. Exactly.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: So that's what I mean by serving you. If you
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: feel like you're being misused and you're just giving, giving, giving, giving,
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: and you're not receiving, let that shit go. And that
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: applies to work, family, friends, your man, your girl, whoever.
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: Your mama. All of them. Everybody. No, for real. Because
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: like I said, I think that is the only reason
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: when women say I wasted my time because they felt
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: like they put everything into that relationship, into that situation,
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: and they got nothing from it. And, you know, I
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: feel like most of my relationships I left with nothing.
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: I had to rebuild every time. And I know I
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: probably left these people in a better situation than when
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: I came into their life, right? Because I'm always a
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: real life helpmate. I will help somebody do some shit
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: before I even do the same thing for myself. Right?
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: Which I've learned not to do. Whatever you say you
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: want to do for yourself, do that shit the same
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: way you come through for other people come through for you. Right?
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: But I think that, yeah, women, I don't want to
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: have to lose myself in any other relationship to make
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: somebody else happy. I don't want to be miserable because
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: you want to be with me. No, I want to
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: be happy too, you know? I don't know.
• 57:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: And I started doing stuff like I would save my
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: good towels and washcloths for guests. No, I use them
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: for my fucking self. I would save, I would eat
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: on like paper plates and use my good dishes for
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: when guests come.
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: I never got no good rag at your house. You
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: done gave me one of those rags from the fucking salon.
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: I have never given you a salon rag. Don't you
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: tell that lie. No, I ain't much can lie. At
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: my house, I got all the good shit for me.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: I wash with white washcloth and they real thick and fluffy.
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: I wash them good. And I got colored rags for
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: everybody else. You ain't been over in a while, friend.
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: I went to Bloomingdale's and got me a bunch of
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: good shit.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: But yeah, but I would just save it for other
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: people or save, you know, just saving stuff for other
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: people or saving my cute outfits for something and then
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: don't ever wear it.
• 58:47
  Speaker 3: I'm just going to put it on. Put that shit on.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: Period.
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: So that's the energy, y'all. So stop saving shit for
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: somebody else and do it for yourself and let that
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: shit go. That's my last last.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, speaking of letting that shit go, I've been listening
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: to this meditation shit on YouTube I listen to sometimes
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: and I just gotta let all these clothes and stuff go.
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: I don't have a relationship or a man to let
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: go right now. I really very much like this one,
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: but I am a hoarder. I'll go ahead and say
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: it out loud. Now you walk into my house. It's like,
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: it feel good in here. But if you open a closet,
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: look underneath the cabinet, uh, I just cleaned my refrigerator
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: out yesterday. Like not because it's just, you know, food
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: and stuff gets on stuff.
• 59:33
  Speaker 3: I can't stand that.
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: But my second bedroom is hella shit in there. All
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: these old ass clothes I haven't worn in a long time.
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: I got clothes and my stepdaddy fucking house next door
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: to my mom's house. Like I just got stuff. And
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: I know that I'm not going to get my new
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: stuff until I get rid of this old shit. And
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: that's what you got to make space for the blessings. Mm-hmm.
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: Because your hand's full right now. How is God going
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: to give you anything else?
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 3: That part.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: And that's a word because my closet look like a fucking...
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 2: I really need to go through it and get rid
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: of it. There's so much stuff that... Why did I
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 2: even buy that?
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: Fashion Nova shit, like every Bogle, 25% off free shipping
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: within 24 hours. Man! Just a bunch of bullshit. Consumerism
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: is killing us.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: That's a whole new episode.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: For real, man. Yeah, I just want to let a
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: lot of shit go. I just want to live like
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: my little Russian lady on Instagram. I want to be
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: like her. Like, I'm already seeing it.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: I'm already seeing, like... Don't be.
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: No, just speak the most beautiful life for yourself.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about the house and the clean house, all
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: the white shit. That's what I mean.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: Because you don't know what happened when the cameras go off.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: You don't know. No, she actually did a post on
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: like making money for yourself that she doesn't offer that
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: to people outside her community. Right. But she has like
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: a membership for women to teach them like the lifestyle
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: posting and stuff like that. But she makes a lot
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: of like five, six million people following her on social media.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: She makes a lot of money, but that husband got
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: the bag for sure. But she is not a broke
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: bitch by any means.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: So, yes, always have your own. You could have his too.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: For sure. Let me get that. All right. Let me
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: get that. Let me get that, man. All right, y'all.
• 1:01:34
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• 1:02:29
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