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Howard Falco – Invincible · Vox Novus with Victor Fuhrman

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Speaker 1: Vox Novus, the New Voice, Vox Novus, the New Dimension,
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Speaker 1: Vox Novus thought and movement leaders who will share from
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Speaker 1: their experience and offer tools to help us navigate our
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Speaker 1: rapidly changing world. My name is Victor Furman. Welcome to
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Speaker 1: Vox Novus, the New Voice. Is it possible to transmute
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Speaker 1: our consciousness to infinite potential? Using consciousness first instead of
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Speaker 1: mindset first? My guest this week on Box Novus. Howard
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Speaker 1: Falco is a renowned mindset and empowerment expert turned consciousness
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Speaker 1: expert whose work has impacted thousands. Author of three books,
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Speaker 1: His most recent book Invincible, The Mindset of Infinite Potential
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Speaker 1: and the Secret to Inevitable Success is changing the game
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Speaker 1: on how we can all reach our infinite potential by
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Speaker 1: connecting to our higher consciousness first. What was a moment
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Speaker 1: in time when he questioned his very existence? He incidentally
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Speaker 1: connected to his own higher consciousness himself, and he spelled
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Speaker 1: out his steps of mastering the state so that you
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Speaker 1: can overcome anything and have the life you love. He
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Speaker 1: has worked as a mental strength coach and performance specialist
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Speaker 1: with college and professional athletes, teams and coaches to help
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Speaker 1: them achieve breakthroughs and championships, CEOs and people from all
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Speaker 1: walks of life. His website is Howardfalco dot com and
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Speaker 1: he joins me this week to share his amazing path.
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Speaker 1: Please join me in welcoming to Vox Novis Howard Falco.
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Speaker 2: Welcome, Howard, Thank you for having me. Nice to meet you, Victor.
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Speaker 1: Nice to meet you too, Sir Howard, Please share with
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Speaker 1: us your upbringing and what happened when you were fourteen
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Speaker 1: that planted the seeds for your later discoveries.
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Speaker 2: Well, I was brought up in the suburbs of Chicago
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Speaker 2: to two wonderful parents who were great people, but couldn't
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Speaker 2: get along, couldn't stay married, so they ultimately ended up divorcing,
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Speaker 2: which kind of had an impact on me as far
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Speaker 2: as what I wanted for my life and started the
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Speaker 2: questioning I had about existence and happiness and the things
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Speaker 2: we asked when we experienced things that we don't like
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Speaker 2: in the world. And then I had a profound moment
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Speaker 2: at fourteen, the first time I was taken on a
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Speaker 2: camping trip away from the Chicago city lights. My aunt
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Speaker 2: and uncle and cousin took me on a trip up
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Speaker 2: to northern Minnesota. We were less than one hundred miles
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Speaker 2: from the Canadian border. It was about a ten hour
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Speaker 2: car ride. And when we got there, we had this
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Speaker 2: beautiful wooden cabin on a lake with a creaky old dock,
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Speaker 2: a boat dock with a small boat, and it was
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Speaker 2: something like almost out of a novel that you would imagine.
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Speaker 2: And everybody went into the cabin kind of put their
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Speaker 2: clothes away for the night and unpacked and kind of
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Speaker 2: settled in. And at fourteen, I wanted to explore, and
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Speaker 2: so I went out the cabin door and went down
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Speaker 2: to the dock and just peered into the darkness, and
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Speaker 2: that's when it started. The first thing that hit me
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Speaker 2: was the oxymoron of the sound of silence. I had
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Speaker 2: never in my life experienced any lack of sound like
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Speaker 2: that in nature that far away. And the second thing
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Speaker 2: that happened was, as I'm looking out at this very
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Speaker 2: still and placid lake, I saw what looked like light
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Speaker 2: shining up from one area of the lake. And then
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Speaker 2: I looked and they were in another area. And as
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Speaker 2: I scanned the entire lake, I noticed that these lights
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Speaker 2: were shining up from every single part of it. And
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Speaker 2: for a split second, I did not know what was
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Speaker 2: going on. And then I tilted my chin and my
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Speaker 2: eyes to the sky, and in that moment everything changed
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Speaker 2: for me. It was a breath taking moment. The breath
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Speaker 2: left my lungs. I was awe struck. Actually I was starstruck,
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Speaker 2: excuse the pun. And I looked up and couldn't believe
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Speaker 2: what I was seeing. And I just laid down on
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Speaker 2: the dock for what seemed like hours and just put
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Speaker 2: my hands behind my head and simply marveled. And in
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Speaker 2: that moment, hundreds of existential questions filled my mind about
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Speaker 2: the nature of life, existence, meaning, and purpose. And it
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Speaker 2: set me on this path at that age to discover
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Speaker 2: these answers to these deeper questions I had about what
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Speaker 2: we're doing here, what the purpose of life is, what
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Speaker 2: where meaning comes from, where happiness comes from, etc. Etc.
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Speaker 2: And that started me on the journey.
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Speaker 1: And from that point forward, did you find yourself start
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Speaker 1: gazing all the time.
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Speaker 2: I never passed up a moment to look up at
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Speaker 2: the night sky, so I would often look up and wonder,
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Speaker 2: and it would sort of reignite those questions that I
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Speaker 2: had about existence. But it was more I was on
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Speaker 2: this incredible path to find out or to achieve this
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Speaker 2: state of happiness. The divorce of my parents sort of
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Speaker 2: shook me where I was like, I don't want to
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Speaker 2: I want to experience something better than that sort of chaos.
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Speaker 2: Not that they weren't great parents, It's just I wanted
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Speaker 2: to experience love. I wanted to experience life, and I
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Speaker 2: had a list in mind of what it would take
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Speaker 2: that I thought to achieve happiness, and so I started
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Speaker 2: to check things off the list. The problem was I
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Speaker 2: wasn't getting any closer to that sense of peace, and
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Speaker 2: that's what really scared me as I went forward.
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Speaker 1: Now we jump ahead to when you were thirty five,
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Speaker 1: living what most would see as the American dream. What
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Speaker 1: happened that changed your life?
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Speaker 2: I guess I thought, Okay, I fell in love, I
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Speaker 2: got married, I had two kids. I'm in I grad
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Speaker 2: to put myself through college, I got a degree, I
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Speaker 2: got in the business I wanted to. I started to
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Speaker 2: make money. I bought a home that was keeping me going.
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Speaker 2: And then as I started to look at the list,
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Speaker 2: there were less things to check off, and yet there
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Speaker 2: was this still un there was this unease that was
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Speaker 2: still there. And one of the last things on the
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Speaker 2: list was millions of dollars, because that's what the American
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Speaker 2: dream says will make you happy. And then one day
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Speaker 2: what happened Victor was I was walking through my home
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Speaker 2: and all of a sudden it hit me. I'm working
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Speaker 2: with people that have more money than they're going to
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Speaker 2: know what to do with for the rest of their life.
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Speaker 2: And many of these people are not happy at all.
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Speaker 2: They're miserable. And I realized that the last thing I
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Speaker 2: had on my list as far as happiness goes, was
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Speaker 2: not an answer. And when that happened, I was out
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Speaker 2: of answers, and that shook me to my core because
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Speaker 2: I did for the first time in my life, I didn't,
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Speaker 2: And so I got on my knees and I reached
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Speaker 2: up to this guy and I just said, Universe, God, Life, Source,
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Speaker 2: whatever it is that is part of all this creation,
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Speaker 2: I need to understand more. I need to have answers.
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Speaker 2: At this point, I don't know how I'm going to
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Speaker 2: go on, and I can see where this all leads.
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Speaker 2: This wheel leads to It's a never ending wheel that
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Speaker 2: leads to pain and suffering. So I need to know
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Speaker 2: the answer to these bigger questions. And I asked it
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Speaker 2: with a deep and guttural yearning, and then I let
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Speaker 2: it go. And two weeks later I was in this
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Speaker 2: seminar for I'd read a book on the psychology at
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Speaker 2: trading markets thought it was interesting angle and the instructor
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Speaker 2: there was about twenty people in the class, and he
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Speaker 2: was talking about the nature of making a trade in
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Speaker 2: the financial markets, and how you decide when you get in,
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Speaker 2: when you get out, how much, what vehicle you get into,
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Speaker 2: what vehicle you get out of. You're creating the whole experience,
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Speaker 2: and something upon those words hit me where I realized
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Speaker 2: that I wasn't doing this just in the financial markets,
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Speaker 2: but this is the way that I was creating my
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Speaker 2: entire life. And in that moment, for the first time,
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Speaker 2: I realized that the control on the experience that I
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Speaker 2: was looking for was on the inside, not on things
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Speaker 2: on the outside. And that gave me this great sense
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Speaker 2: of relief. I felt like I had found a door
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Speaker 2: or a window in what was formerly a doorless or
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Speaker 2: windowless room, and it allowed me to take a collective breath.
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Speaker 2: I didn't know how I was going to do it yet,
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Speaker 2: but I knew I could. And the second thing that
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Speaker 2: hit me that really accelerated the process was I had
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Speaker 2: realized that I had asked these deep questions a couple
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Speaker 2: weeks ago, and I connected the dots and I thought, Wow,
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Speaker 2: this is in a coincidence. This is life bringing me
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Speaker 2: the right information at the right time to begin the
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Speaker 2: process of these answers. And I saw that this was happening.
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Speaker 2: This is what existence is here for. It's here to
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Speaker 2: help us expand our awareness. And that sent me into
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Speaker 2: a state of joy and awe again and mindfulness that
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Speaker 2: I went into each day with like a little child,
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Speaker 2: almost like where's my insight going to come from today?
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Speaker 2: Where's my information? My understanding? And I was wide eyed
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Speaker 2: every day until six months later when I had the
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Speaker 2: grand experience when time sort of collapsed. But that's that's
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Speaker 2: what kicked it off at thirty five.
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Speaker 1: From my personal experience, I look back at my mid
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Speaker 1: to late thirties and call that time Chapter two. Is
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Speaker 1: there something about that time in life that opens us
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Speaker 1: us to new discoveries?
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Speaker 2: Oh? Absolutely, I think. You know, when we're before we
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Speaker 2: turn sixteen seventeen, we're still under the sort of control
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Speaker 2: and guidance of our parents' belief systems, our personal experiences.
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Speaker 2: Maybe some genetic implications of how we think and feel,
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Speaker 2: and we start to around seventeen eighteen, we start to
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Speaker 2: have our own thoughts and our own ideas and open
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Speaker 2: our mind up questions and start to find our own
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Speaker 2: individual identity. That's why college is such an exploratory time,
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Speaker 2: or post high school is such an exploratory time. And
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Speaker 2: then when it gets to thirty five, I think that's
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Speaker 2: a tipping point where your beliefs either settle in or
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Speaker 2: your mind stays open. And so it's a very ripe
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Speaker 2: period right before either you go into sort of accepting
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Speaker 2: what you've believed, or you hit the questioning reaches a crescendo.
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Speaker 2: And that's why I think the thirties are a very
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Speaker 2: ripe time for a greater spiritual experience. Or before that,
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Speaker 2: somewhere between seventeen and mid to late thirties.
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Speaker 1: Tell us about that made you opening, that took place
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Speaker 1: for you.
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Speaker 2: I for six months I had been asking questions, and
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Speaker 2: then like a few days later, a song would come
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Speaker 2: on the radio that I'd heard hundreds of times before,
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Speaker 2: and for the first time I heard a new layer
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Speaker 2: and a new message in the same song that's been
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Speaker 2: played to me, or a conversation, a random conversation with
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Speaker 2: a stranger at a grocery store would bring up this
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Speaker 2: beautiful synchronicity and create an insight and understanding. So the
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Speaker 2: window between question and answer was starting to close. In
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Speaker 2: December of two thousand and two, I was sitting in
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Speaker 2: my office and all of a sudden, it was like
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Speaker 2: I got tapped on the very center of the top
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Speaker 2: of my forehead with a great insight, and I wrote
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Speaker 2: it down and I just knew it to be true.
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Speaker 2: And before I could even get the pen to the
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Speaker 2: end of the sentence, another one hit. And the way
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Speaker 2: I explained it in the book is like when it
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Speaker 2: rains and you had the first rain drop hitch your head.
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Speaker 2: You don't know whether what's going on. You think it's
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Speaker 2: maybe a bird. You know, you're not sure what's happening yet,
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Speaker 2: And before you know it, you're like, oh, it's raining,
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Speaker 2: And another drop hits, and another drop. So I'm writing
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Speaker 2: these notes down and they started coming in faster and faster,
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Speaker 2: and finally I just put the pen down. I couldn't
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Speaker 2: write that fast. I had no idea what was going on.
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Speaker 2: I just got up until my partner I have to leave.
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Speaker 2: I got in my car. I ended up at the
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Speaker 2: public library where I lived in Scottsdale, Arizona, and go
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Speaker 2: out and just followed my feet victor to the spirituality, philosophy, psychology,
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Speaker 2: and religious sections of the library and just started to
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Speaker 2: pull whatever book looked like it was sticking out to me.
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Speaker 2: And I took a stack of about ten of them
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Speaker 2: to a backcubby. I'll never forget this, and I put
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Speaker 2: them down. I opened the first book was the complete
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Speaker 2: works of Freud, something I'd never read before, or maybe
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Speaker 2: in my freshman year psychology class did a little reading
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Speaker 2: on Freud, opened it up, put my finger down, and
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Speaker 2: it was as if I had read this for years,
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Speaker 2: understood it, could teach it. It was crazy. I shut
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Speaker 2: the book. I opened another book on Confucius Top ten
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Speaker 2: things like two or three, was the one that i'd
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Speaker 2: written out earlier in my office. And then I'm really
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Speaker 2: starting to wonder what's going on. And then there was
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Speaker 2: a new Testament. I opened it to a parable. I
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Speaker 2: saw the parable, I saw how it's been taught for years,
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Speaker 2: and then I saw a little bit of a deeper
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Speaker 2: meaning in it. And at that point I hit the
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Speaker 2: ground in a complaint of a state of complete and
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Speaker 2: utter humility that still brings up emotion to this day
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Speaker 2: and thought to myself, well, my life has changed. Well first, actually,
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Speaker 2: that first question was who the heck am I some
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Speaker 2: guy in the middle of you know, a suburban phoenix
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Speaker 2: with this type of insight, and was like going crazy? Anyway,
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Speaker 2: I finally realized that I was going to just be
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Speaker 2: a good servant of this for the rest of my life.
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Speaker 2: It took me about a year to get my arms
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Speaker 2: around the magnitude and to put it out into something
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Speaker 2: that was structured, that could be taught or people could
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Speaker 2: read in a way that would be digestible in terms
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Speaker 2: of an understanding of how of these insights for the
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Speaker 2: you know hopefully help them answer some of their questions
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Speaker 2: in life. And that's how my first book I Am
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Speaker 2: was born. I left my work in the financial business,
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Speaker 2: and I've been teaching and speaking and writing since May.
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Speaker 1: I ask what was the song that you heard that
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Speaker 1: you heard in a different way that opened you.
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Speaker 2: There were several songs, but the biggest one, the one
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Speaker 2: that still shakes me to my core in the best
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Speaker 2: of ways, was Stairway to Heaven by led Zeppelin. Ah
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Speaker 2: because it's a song about awakening, it's a song about enlightenment,
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Speaker 2: and even down to a verse where the exact thing
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Speaker 2: happened to me. I mean to a t. If there's
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Speaker 2: a bustle in your hedgerow, don't be alarmed now, it's
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Speaker 2: just a spring clean for the May Queen. And a
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Speaker 2: bustle in the hedgerow is a funny feeling in the head.
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Speaker 2: And I had this feeling in my forehead that I
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Speaker 2: couldn't I'd never experienced before this happened, and it was
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Speaker 2: very strange. Don't be alarmed now, it's a spring clean
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Speaker 2: for the May Queen. The May Queen is a day
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Speaker 2: of rebirth in England and it was certainly the precursor
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Speaker 2: to my rebirth.
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Speaker 1: Beautiful, I had a similar experience. I am a bit
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Speaker 1: older than you. I had a similar experience with the
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Speaker 1: song Questioned by the Moody Blues, which I first heard
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Speaker 1: when I was seventeen years old in nineteen seventy, and
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Speaker 1: the lyrics to that were life changing for me and
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Speaker 1: perhaps planted my seeds on my future path. Where it says,
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Speaker 1: and when you stop and think about it, you won't
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Speaker 1: believe it's true that all the love you've been giving,
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Speaker 1: has all been meant for you. I'm looking for someone
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Speaker 1: to change my life. I'm looking for a miracle in
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Speaker 1: my life. And if you could see what it's done
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Speaker 1: to me to lose the love I knew could safely
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Speaker 1: lead me to a land that I once knew to
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Speaker 1: learn as we grow old the secrets of our soul.
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Speaker 1: It was engraved in my heart when I heard it.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely beautiful. Yeah, identical, identical experience. Wow, beautiful, Thank you.
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Speaker 1: Many of the events and changes that we mutually experienced
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Speaker 1: are called synchronicity, which is meaningful coincidences without causal connection.
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Speaker 1: What do you attribute this to?
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Speaker 2: Intention? Timing? Divine timing with intention readiness. The universe is
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Speaker 2: very exact, and so when you intend something and you're
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Speaker 2: willing to move closer and closer and keep putting the
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Speaker 2: conditions together and keep demonstrating that intent, eventually you cross
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Speaker 2: path with enough of the conditions. And that's what I believe.
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Speaker 2: A coincidence is too, angles that are coinciding in an
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Speaker 2: exact form at an exact time.
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Speaker 1: And in my experience, every time a coincidence a synchronicity
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Speaker 1: presented itself to me, I had three choices I could
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Speaker 1: dismiss it out of hand. I could say yes, but
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Speaker 1: perhaps later, Or I could say yes with the capital why.
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Speaker 1: And every time I use that capital why, the next
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Speaker 1: one would come and the next one would come, and
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Speaker 1: it set the pattern for my life.
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Speaker 2: Beautiful.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I think when we open to and we're ready to receive,
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Speaker 2: when we have that space, when we say I don't
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Speaker 2: know and humble ourselves, the universe acts like a vacuum,
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Speaker 2: and you know it hates a vacuum and immediately seeks
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Speaker 2: to fill that space. Bind acts like a vacuum, I
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Speaker 2: should say, absorbing wisdom that's been here or is waiting
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Speaker 2: for us.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely. How did this experience open you to working with
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Speaker 1: professional athletes and teams?
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Speaker 2: Well that's a great question. So when this happened to me,
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Speaker 2: the first thought was, Okay, is this it? Do I
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Speaker 2: just shave my head? But a robot disappear on the mountain,
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Speaker 2: disconnect from everything. And while I had a thought of that,
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Speaker 2: I thought, you know, I love my family, I'm my marriage,
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Speaker 2: et cetera. I'm enjoying, I'm coaching club baseball. Why can't
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Speaker 2: this be brought into mainstream? So when I wrote I am,
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Speaker 2: I wrote it as openly as I could. I tried
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Speaker 2: to be careful with a lot of deeply esoteric language
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Speaker 2: so that it couldn't be boxed or categorized. It would
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Speaker 2: just simply approach the ego in the most powerful way
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Speaker 2: possible for the person reading it. And I thought, I'd
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Speaker 2: love to be able to expand mainstreams appetite and interest
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Speaker 2: in this works in summer, everyday sort of guy and
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Speaker 2: the wave life responded, which kind of surprised me because
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Speaker 2: I was already working with people in relationships, spiritual quest, depression,
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Speaker 2: anxiety was I started getting calls from professional athletes who said,
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Speaker 2: I read your book, I am, and this is what
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Speaker 2: happened in my performance. Do you work with athletes? And
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Speaker 2: growing up I had played every sport I was. I
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Speaker 2: have intimate knowledge of the sports. I know how to
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Speaker 2: speak to athletes, and so it was a very easy transition,
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Speaker 2: and I started working with them in almost every collegiate
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Speaker 2: sport and several professional sports. So it was it was
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Speaker 2: interesting to take this work into those areas.
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Speaker 1: Before we discuss your latest book, Invincible, The Mindset of
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Speaker 1: Infinite Potential and the Secret to Inevitable Success, let's talk
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Speaker 1: about that first book, I Am, the power of discovering
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Speaker 1: who you really are. What inspired that book and what
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Speaker 1: did you share with readers?
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Speaker 2: So what inspired the book was that moment back in
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Speaker 2: two thousand and two where not all the answers, because
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Speaker 2: I'll never say I have them all. I am constantly
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Speaker 2: a student and open to more insight and understanding. But
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Speaker 2: that moment answered many, many of ninety nine percent of
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Speaker 2: the deep questions I had about life in the universe,
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Speaker 2: and so I wanted to put it in a structure
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Speaker 2: that could be absorbed in a way that would help
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Speaker 2: people transform and expand their consciousness. And that's how I
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Speaker 2: wrote I Am What you are, how you are, why
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Speaker 2: you are, and who you can be. So that's what
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Speaker 2: inspired me to write the book. The understanding of energy
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Speaker 2: and matter, how it comes together, the understanding of our
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Speaker 2: psychology and how we develop an identity, and how identity
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Speaker 2: is so important to what we attract into our life,
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Speaker 2: to how we respond to how we perceive the world,
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Speaker 2: and really all the main ingredients that shape our reality.
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Speaker 2: For the effort of people to gain control over that
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Speaker 2: narrative of I Am. So that's what really prompted me
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Speaker 2: to write the book. And you know, I just put
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Speaker 2: my head down and just started writing and didn't stop
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Speaker 2: for about a year and a half.
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Speaker 1: And the concept of i am obviously comes from the
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Speaker 1: the burning bush and he asks the name of who
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Speaker 1: we are speaking to, and he's told I am, that
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Speaker 1: I am is that the reference.
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Speaker 2: Here from a universal perspective or from what your definition
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Speaker 2: of of divinity or good is? Yes, what is not God?
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Speaker 2: You know, the good, the bad, the ugly. It's all
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Speaker 2: part of the contrast that we need to create reality
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Speaker 2: and to help us on our journey and our evolution
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Speaker 2: of understanding and consciousness on an individual basis. That I
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Speaker 2: am is for each piece of matter and existence to
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Speaker 2: decide what we or it wants to be right. So
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Speaker 2: a rock has a certain molecules and atoms that are
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Speaker 2: spinning at a certain frequency and rate that keeps it
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Speaker 2: a will or an i amness to it is because
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Speaker 2: when you try and pick up the rock and break
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Speaker 2: it in half, it will have a certain amount of
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Speaker 2: resistance to stay as it is an animal another level
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Speaker 2: of it, and as certainly a human as us as
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Speaker 2: human beings with the ability to self reflect and change
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Speaker 2: that narrative at any time, as we continue to evolve
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Speaker 2: and develop in who we want to be in the
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Speaker 2: own I am neus to it, and I would say
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Speaker 2: a human being is the pinnacle in terms of the
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Speaker 2: ability to self reflect and take control of that narrative,
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Speaker 2: because the world is always putting its narrative out, or
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Speaker 2: other people are always putting their narrative out, and I
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Speaker 2: think that's what creates a lot of suffering, is that
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Speaker 2: people get affected and drawn into other people's energy, other
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Speaker 2: people's identities of who they are want to be. But
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Speaker 2: realizing that you have control of your own experience is
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Speaker 2: so incredibly liberating, and so to know that you have
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Speaker 2: control over how you're going to define, declare, and demonstrate
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Speaker 2: who you want to be is an incredible point of awakening.
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Speaker 1: On the journey, my guest is Howard Falco. We're going
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Speaker 2: Sure, all the books can be found. You can go
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Speaker 2: eight Wisdom dot org. You can see what I'm doing
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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Vox Novis. My guest this week is
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Speaker 1: Howard Falco. We're talking about his new book Invincible, The
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Speaker 1: Mindset of Infinite Potential and the Secret to Inevitable Success.
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Speaker 1: Congratulations on your new book. What inspired this and how
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Speaker 1: does it differ from your previous books?
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Speaker 2: Well, thank you very much for that. So after putting
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Speaker 2: out my first book, I Am, and then the publisher
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Speaker 2: asked me to write a second book, which I wrote
24:37
Speaker 2: on the nature of how time works in our life
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Speaker 2: a few years later. I'd been in the field working
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Speaker 2: for about the last ten to twelve years since those
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Speaker 2: books were published, and had some amazing experiences, some incredible
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Speaker 2: experiences with athletes having career seasons, miracle plays, winning championships,
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Speaker 2: and some incredible work with individuals that I'm very blessed
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Speaker 2: to have done to help them transcend and transform their
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Speaker 2: life into a better place. And so I thought, if
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Speaker 2: this is happening with the formula and a step by
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Speaker 2: step process of how they gain a greater sense of
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Speaker 2: awareness and empowerment over their mind, why not put it
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Speaker 2: in a step by step process in a new book.
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Speaker 2: Put all the examples in there, and put it out
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Speaker 2: so people can go step by step how the world
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Speaker 2: loves to do it today to understand how to embrace
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Speaker 2: each part of this process of self awareness, self empowerment,
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Speaker 2: and self understanding. And so that's how Invincible was born.
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Speaker 1: We both share a poet's soul, and I love how
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Speaker 1: you open each part Invincible with a poem. Part one
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Speaker 1: begins with the light. Would you share that with us?
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Speaker 1: I'd be honored to thank you.
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Speaker 2: The light. I want the light, the light that liberates
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Speaker 2: my soul. I don't care what it reveals, as long
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Speaker 2: as it makes me whole. I want the light, the
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Speaker 2: light that sets me free from the pain I've long carried,
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Speaker 2: finally relieved to be me. I want the light, the
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Speaker 2: light that dissolves my fear, leading me into every moment
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Speaker 2: open to more love than I can bear. I want
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Speaker 2: the light, the light that unveils my power. I'm ready
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Speaker 2: for a new destiny, for this is my true hour.
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Speaker 1: Beautiful, thank you so much for sharing that.
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Speaker 2: My pleasure.
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Speaker 1: Part one is about the realization that we are connected
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Speaker 1: to the universe or source and have infinite potential. How
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Speaker 1: do we recognize this connection and is this dependent on
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Speaker 1: a faith foundation?
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Speaker 2: I think it leads to a faith and it leads
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Speaker 2: to a foundation of faith. But how we recognize it
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Speaker 2: is I give the very straightforward and powerful example of
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Speaker 2: looking up at the stars at night and even going
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Speaker 2: a step further and looking at some of these images
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Speaker 2: that the Hubble, which launched in the late nineties and
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Speaker 2: the James T Web telescope have brought back to us
27:21
Speaker 2: after going deeper and deeper into mind boggling distances to
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Speaker 2: bring back these unbelievable images of creation and expansion in
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Speaker 2: a universe that doesn't end. And so the idea is,
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Speaker 2: if we can't find an end to the universe, then
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Speaker 2: there is no beginning. And that's one where the mind
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Speaker 2: has a big problem with Because the mind is geared
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Speaker 2: towards boundary, it wants to know where there's a beginning
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Speaker 2: and an end. But I see a universe without beginning
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Speaker 2: and without end, and if we're part of this universe,
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Speaker 2: this infinitely creative universe, then that means we're endowed with
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Speaker 2: that same infinite creative ability. And that's what I'm offering
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Speaker 2: the reader in step one is to realize that you
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Speaker 2: have infinite potential within you to create what you want.
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Speaker 2: Many people, when you ask them what do you believe
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Speaker 2: is possible in the world, that will say well, anything.
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Speaker 2: But the minute you say, well, what do you think
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Speaker 2: is possible for you, that's where the boundary comes in.
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Speaker 2: That's where the limitation comes in. And so the offering
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Speaker 2: in step one is to see the expanse of that
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Speaker 2: that you are no different from the universe that you're
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Speaker 2: in in terms of your potential and the possibility that's
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Speaker 2: here for you. And that's where we start this book
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Speaker 2: on invincibility.
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Speaker 1: So this manifests in our self awareness and change of
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Speaker 1: our understanding of who we truly are.
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Speaker 2: Correct, that's exactly right, and that's why step two goes
28:49
Speaker 2: into understanding your identity. You know, how genetics and environment
28:54
Speaker 2: formed who you were, but not who you are. So
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Speaker 2: the idea is to be able to look back and
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Speaker 2: see how the construction of your life came together, and
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Speaker 2: to do this without any guilt or shame or regret,
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Speaker 2: but just as an observer looking at how your personal experiences,
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Speaker 2: the way that you are nurtured and conditioned as a
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Speaker 2: young child, or when you were born, how long you
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Speaker 2: cried in the crib when you got fed, and just
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Speaker 2: how it's created a set point for the way that
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Speaker 2: you look at the world. The sneaky part of identity
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Speaker 2: is genetics, because I don't believe that it's just hair
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Speaker 2: color and eye color that gets passed on, but the
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Speaker 2: way that we associate, perceive, and react to our world
29:32
Speaker 2: is also a part of our genetics, and it's important
29:34
Speaker 2: to understand that so that when you have behaviors that
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Speaker 2: sort of surprise your instincts and you wonder where that
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Speaker 2: came from, you can know that it's something that's been
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Speaker 2: passed on. But the first step to changing the genetic
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Speaker 2: expression is the field of epigenetics, is awareness. You have
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Speaker 2: to know what the instinct is in order to catch
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Speaker 2: it and reroute it until it becomes the new normal,
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Speaker 2: until you've changed that expression. So understanding your eye identity
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Speaker 2: is a huge part of step two. And then that
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Speaker 2: leads you into step three, which is how you direct
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Speaker 2: your moment by moment reality your ego which is designed
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Speaker 2: to do that so that you can begin to send
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Speaker 2: out a different frequency of energy, different responses, and you
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Speaker 2: can see the ground in front of you with a
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Speaker 2: different intention or different actions that help to germinate a
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Speaker 2: new reality, or push that needle of probability, as I say,
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Speaker 2: towards the germination and the creation of what you intend.
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Speaker 1: You know, it's interesting my childhood relationship with my father
30:37
Speaker 1: engendered the sense that if you take care of others,
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Speaker 1: you will be loved. I never really felt loved by
30:43
Speaker 1: my father until I started becoming part of his caretaking
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Speaker 1: team when he turned ill when I was eight years old.
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Speaker 1: I became a people pleaser. Following this ultimately resulting in
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Speaker 1: my own health issues being neglected, and this led to
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Speaker 1: an awakening in my fifties and the creation of healthy
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Speaker 1: bound I understood that it was okay to say no
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Speaker 1: when my energy was being usurped, and to only say
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Speaker 1: yes when appropriate and if you'll allow me, this inspired
31:10
Speaker 1: a poem I'd like to share it with you. It's
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Speaker 1: called the Healing Power of No. A time comes for
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Speaker 1: choosing rather than losing the essence that makes us so,
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Speaker 1: and in the bestowing. There's power in knowing the freedom
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Speaker 1: that comes with no. When said with compassion, not angry
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Speaker 1: in fashion, and letting the self love flow, there's a
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Speaker 1: sense of renewing and deep soul imbuing the awareness that
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Speaker 1: comes with no. So with gentle voice and the power
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Speaker 1: of choice and the courage to make it so. I'm
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Speaker 1: still here, my friends. There's no means in this end,
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Speaker 1: just the healing that comes with no.
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Speaker 2: Wonderful, very very nice. Thank you for sharing that.
31:57
Speaker 1: Thank you.
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Speaker 2: It's awesome. Yeah, it's beautiful. That's the idea, is to
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Speaker 2: get to a place of self honor and self respect
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Speaker 2: and self love where you realize that you've given yourself
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Speaker 2: enough of your own love that you don't need to
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Speaker 2: fear that you won't get it in the world unless
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Speaker 2: you submit yourself to simple service. You know, in lieu
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Speaker 2: of your own health, in lieu of your own state
32:22
Speaker 2: of mind.
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Speaker 1: Is it possible for anyone to break away from limiting
32:28
Speaker 1: thought and make the transition moving from I can't to
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Speaker 1: who I am?
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, that's the whole point, and millions have done it,
32:38
Speaker 2: Millions that didn't believe they could do something change their
32:41
Speaker 2: attitude persisted, you know, kept going and kept putting the
32:45
Speaker 2: conditions together until there was a final breakthrough. I think
32:48
Speaker 2: a lot of times in science we see this. I
32:50
Speaker 2: think it was Jonah Salk who said that, who found
32:53
Speaker 2: the vaccine for polio and said, you know, this was
32:56
Speaker 2: simply a matter of continuing to try different formulas, a
32:59
Speaker 2: matter of person distance and the accretion of insight and
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Speaker 2: understanding until there was a breakthrough. So any breakthrough in
33:06
Speaker 2: science or medicine or sports business comes from that process
33:14
Speaker 2: of turning I can't into I can. Reminds me of
33:19
Speaker 2: the childhood book by Wattie Piper, The Little Engine that Could,
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Speaker 2: where you know, I think I can, I think I can.
33:26
Speaker 1: I know.
33:28
Speaker 2: I actually use that example and I am of that
33:32
Speaker 2: beautiful book. So yeah, that's the power of it. But
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Speaker 2: that's the faith, right, That's where faith comes from in
33:38
Speaker 2: an infinitely creative universe. But it has to be combined
33:41
Speaker 2: with the awareness and most importantly, the worth. The individual
33:45
Speaker 2: has to feel the worth to overcome the fear of change,
33:49
Speaker 2: to feel worthy of putting the conditions together and all
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Speaker 2: the joy it's going to bring and that's been an
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Speaker 2: interesting one as I've been out on the journey for
33:56
Speaker 2: the last twenty five years, is how many have not
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Speaker 2: felt worthy.
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Speaker 1: And how may we navigate past setbacks with peace of
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Speaker 1: mind and trust in the process.
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Speaker 2: The trust is that nothing in the universe happens without
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Speaker 2: a reason, and that can be difficult for people that
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Speaker 2: have gone through suffering and grief, myself included. But when
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Speaker 2: you have a kind of the faith in the universe
34:24
Speaker 2: that has birthed you into existence through the cosmos, how
34:30
Speaker 2: do you not trust in the process and each moment,
34:34
Speaker 2: in each experience. And so it helps to reduce resistance
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Speaker 2: and suffering and open up the mind to see what
34:42
Speaker 2: can be learned from these experiences. Let's say there's a
34:45
Speaker 2: terrible breakup in a relationship. There's insight and understanding about connection, intimacy,
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Speaker 2: the ability to nurture a relationship so that it can
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Speaker 2: be everything you want it to be, that is in
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Speaker 2: that breakup that is there, or maybe it was the
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Speaker 2: wrong person that you tried to force into a situation
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Speaker 2: that just wasn't going to serve your needs but maybe
35:08
Speaker 2: served loneliness at the time, but not what you really needed.
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Speaker 2: And so there's this growth in this evolution. Just to
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Speaker 2: take relationships as one example, But I see this with
35:16
Speaker 2: my athletes all the time. When things don't happen, I
35:20
Speaker 2: know there's information in there that's going to make them
35:22
Speaker 2: better the next time they put themselves in that vulnerable
35:24
Speaker 2: situation on the field. So that's what I would say
35:27
Speaker 2: to when we have a setback, when things don't go
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Speaker 2: our way, is that we can look at it like
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Speaker 2: a scientist putting together an experiment or a formula trying
35:37
Speaker 2: to get it right. It can change the whole experience
35:39
Speaker 2: of life.
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Speaker 1: I had a wonderful spiritual teacher who used to share
35:44
Speaker 1: that everything is unfolding in divine order and that we
35:48
Speaker 1: may see this with what we call spiritual eyes. Is
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Speaker 1: this one Does this view one of the keys to
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Speaker 1: empowerment and invincibility?
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Speaker 2: Absolutely? Absolutely, because resistance creates pressure, and pressure creates time.
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Speaker 2: If you're resisting what is, you can't learn from what is.
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Speaker 2: You can't see the benefit to you on some level
36:15
Speaker 2: for what is happening. And that doesn't mean you accept
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Speaker 2: or you condone things that are happening that are not
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Speaker 2: aligned with your value system, but you're no longer resisting
36:23
Speaker 2: the truth that for the moment it exists, and that
36:27
Speaker 2: is what gives you the energy and the focus to
36:29
Speaker 2: be able to focus on the creation in the next moment.
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Speaker 2: That can lead to changing it. But when you're in denial,
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Speaker 2: you're stuck in time.
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Speaker 1: Your process unifies teachings from psychology, quantum physics, and spirituality.
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Speaker 1: Please tell us a little about each of these components
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Speaker 1: and how they relate.
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Speaker 2: Well. The quantum physics we can look at obviously, the
36:54
Speaker 2: famous double slit experiment is the one where it showed
36:57
Speaker 2: how and when the formless wave of infinite potential or
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Speaker 2: energy collapses into a particle, and it requires an observer.
37:08
Speaker 2: Why does it require an observer Because an observer represents consciousness, attention,
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Speaker 2: and intention, and it is intention that causes creativity in
37:22
Speaker 2: the world. Mind has to become matter. The thought of
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Speaker 2: the Great Pyramids turned it into the Great Pyramids over
37:29
Speaker 2: centuries of time, or the Great Wall of China, or
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Speaker 2: any medical breakthrough or heart transplant. It's consistent intention that
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Speaker 2: puts the conditions together that causes creation. So mind has
37:43
Speaker 2: to become matter. Thought has to turn into reality. Eye
37:47
Speaker 2: for identity has to become am. So that's the quantum
37:53
Speaker 2: physics sort of bridging over it into the spiritual aspect.
37:57
Speaker 2: And then there's psychological components in turn of our emotions
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Speaker 2: and the energy that flows through us and how it
38:04
Speaker 2: works in terms of our awareness, because when we're in
38:09
Speaker 2: an emotional state, we're not in a balanced state, and
38:13
Speaker 2: anytime we're out of balance, the window of perception, the
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Speaker 2: width of it closes in because the energy of emotion
38:22
Speaker 2: causes us to focus only on what we feel will
38:26
Speaker 2: validate what's causing the emotion. So if we feel angry,
38:31
Speaker 2: we're going to look at the world in a way
38:32
Speaker 2: that validates our anger. If we feel joyful and happy,
38:38
Speaker 2: we're going to look at the world only in a
38:40
Speaker 2: way that validates our joy. And so the widest perception
38:45
Speaker 2: comes at complete balance. That's why meditation, self reflection, anything
38:49
Speaker 2: to silence the mind opens up that window of perception
38:52
Speaker 2: and awareness. So that's how psychology plays a role in
38:56
Speaker 2: all this.
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Speaker 1: You say, and I quote, the intent of the energy
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Speaker 1: behind all matter is to persist and continue to express
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Speaker 1: itself for as long as possible. Please share how we
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Speaker 1: may embrace this concept and grow with it.
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Speaker 2: So the idea behind that statement is that if there
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Speaker 2: is no beginning at no end, then life is infinite.
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Speaker 2: If life is infinite, then we are trying to express
39:29
Speaker 2: that infinity for as long as we possibly can in
39:35
Speaker 2: a single identity. But ultimately entropy has to take over
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Speaker 2: and show us that we're not limited or finite in
39:44
Speaker 2: this form, but infinite as well. So it's the heartbeat
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Speaker 2: of going back to the infinite and then the finite,
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Speaker 2: The infinite and the finite, the ocean and the drop,
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Speaker 2: the ocean and the drop. The idea behind that statement
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Speaker 2: is that life is continually trying to persist for as
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Speaker 2: long as it possibly can until that ultimate truth takes
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Speaker 2: over for each individual and each piece of matter, and
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Speaker 2: then again and again and again, and it keeps evolving
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Speaker 2: and expanding on each rotation of this incredibly infinite spiral.
40:23
Speaker 2: That's my experience of it.
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Speaker 1: My guest is Howard Falco his book Invincible, The Mindset
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Speaker 1: Back on box Nobus. My guest this week is Howard
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Speaker 1: Falco his book Invincible, The Mindset of Infinite Potential and
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Speaker 1: the Secret to Inevitable Success. Can you share that in
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Speaker 1: the society bent on delivering bad news almost daily, we
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Speaker 1: must live with relentless optimism. What are some of the
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Speaker 1: ways in which we may achieve this well?
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Speaker 2: I think to curate information sources and how they affect
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Speaker 2: your mind. Getting information or news or understanding without it
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Speaker 2: being produced to you through a certain intention of any
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Speaker 2: particular media source is one way to really take back control,
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Speaker 2: so you get the insight and the information, but you
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Speaker 2: get to decide more of the meaning, rather than having
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Speaker 2: the energy coming at you with a certain meaning and
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Speaker 2: intent already attached to it on what it means. It's
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Speaker 2: also people that are around you have certain narratives. They
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Speaker 2: want you to get drawn in, sometimes to their dramas
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Speaker 2: and to their side of the story and to what
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Speaker 2: makes sense to them, even though their intent may be
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Speaker 2: still on a subconscious level to be in drama, to
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Speaker 2: distracted with pain and suffering. So you really have to
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Speaker 2: be mindful of who you are and what you want
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Speaker 2: to achieve in life. That doesn't make you lack empathy,
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Speaker 2: but it helps guard your energy and your state of
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Speaker 2: mind from being pulled in to a negative narrative. And
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Speaker 2: when you stay in a more joyous and positive state
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Speaker 2: of mind, you can be more powerful as a creator
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Speaker 2: in helping shape life the way you want it to go.
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Speaker 2: You still know everything that's going on in life, but
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Speaker 2: you're not going to allow life to take your power
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Speaker 2: away and to take your energy away through putting you
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Speaker 2: in a negative state of mind. That's the idea behind.
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Speaker 1: That, and that leads us to an old expression. What
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Speaker 1: you think of me is none of my business. In
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Speaker 1: this new paradigm that you offer us, how should we
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Speaker 1: relate to the energy of others in terms of their
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Speaker 1: opinion of us?
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Speaker 2: Well, again, unless it is a close family member or
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Speaker 2: your partner in life who you've decided to take the
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Speaker 2: journey through, where you have to have communication and understanding
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Speaker 2: on how someone feels in order to keep that relationship
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Speaker 2: at its finest, at its highest level, Really, nobody else's
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Speaker 2: opinion should matter at all. And if you have trust
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Speaker 2: and faith in who you are, that you're being a
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Speaker 2: good person, you're putting out love every day, you're going
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Speaker 2: into the world with an open mind, then stand in
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Speaker 2: that power. Let them be who they're going to be.
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Speaker 2: And when negativity approaches you do not let yourself be
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Speaker 2: drawn in. Let the silence speak for itself, and they
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Speaker 2: will either tune to the new energy of you and
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Speaker 2: actually you'll transform them, or they will remove themselves from
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Speaker 2: your reality. Either way, you're shaping your experience in a
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Speaker 2: way that's more enriching for what you want to create
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Speaker 2: every day, and this takes a daily practice and work.
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Speaker 2: But the more loving, the more accepting you are of
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Speaker 2: yourself the more empowered you feel to direct life the
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Speaker 2: way you want it to go, which so many people have.
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Speaker 1: What is the imp importance of forgiveness both for self
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Speaker 1: and others and gratitude in this path?
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Speaker 2: Oh, those are two big ones. So let me take
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Speaker 2: the forgiveness one first. When you do not forgive yourself,
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Speaker 2: you feel shameful, guilty, or regretful, and those turn into
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Speaker 2: I am statements. I am shameful, I am guilty, I
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Speaker 2: am regretful. And when there I am statements, your ego
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Speaker 2: has no choice but define the conditions and the experiences
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Speaker 2: that will allow you to validate that truth. That's how
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Speaker 2: the tail whips you. So the idea is to see
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Speaker 2: that you are not who you were. You are who
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Speaker 2: you decide to be right now, and that version of
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Speaker 2: yourself in the past was the best you had at
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Speaker 2: the time. There is no other truth than that. And
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Speaker 2: if you believe you would have, could ever should have,
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Speaker 2: you're in denial and denial creates time, and time creates suffering.
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Speaker 2: So you see the form of verse, you decide who
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Speaker 2: you want to be today. You forgive yourself in this
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Speaker 2: moment and see the perfection of who you are by
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Speaker 2: doing the work, doing the self awareness work, reading good material,
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Speaker 2: whether it's mine or anybody else's in the space that's
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Speaker 2: created this type of work on deep self awareness, and
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Speaker 2: you let the love flow. And as the love flows
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Speaker 2: more now the bubble of possibility for you in this
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Speaker 2: infinite universe expands because life cannot give you anything you
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Speaker 2: do not believe you'reself worthy of. That's how key it
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Speaker 2: is for you to forgive yourself. Gratitude is helpful any
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Speaker 2: time you get into a state of mind that's not
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Speaker 2: conducive to creation. Let's say you don't realize it and
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Speaker 2: two days later from now, you're in a negative state
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Speaker 2: of mind. You don't know why. Maybe the world got
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Speaker 2: to you, maybe someone said something, and all of a
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Speaker 2: sudden you're feeling down. What gratitude does, It's the great reset.
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Speaker 2: It allows you to look at things that you're grateful
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Speaker 2: for in this moment and see the perspective of how
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Speaker 2: much worse it could be that it isn't, and start
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Speaker 2: to be thankful even it's for your own breath and
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Speaker 2: your own life. And once you start on that, you
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Speaker 2: can get yourself back to balance. Gratitude and the state
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Speaker 2: of mind that's going to turn things around for you
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Speaker 2: and start to create more positive things in your life.
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Speaker 2: It's when our perspective gets out of whack. That gratitude
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Speaker 2: is very important.
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Speaker 1: And you had talked about self forgiveness, what about forgiveness
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Speaker 1: for others.
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Speaker 2: Well, you can't forgive other people if you haven't forgiven
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Speaker 2: your own self. If you judge your own self, you're
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Speaker 2: going to judge others. That's the way you're going to
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Speaker 2: approach the world. So once you forgive your own self
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Speaker 2: and you see the perfection of your own actions up
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Speaker 2: to this point because you understand how your identity has
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Speaker 2: been constructed, then when you look at other people, you
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Speaker 2: don't judge them anymore. You just see that they're operating
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Speaker 2: out of their own narrative and story, and forgive them
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Speaker 2: for they know not what they do. They know they're
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Speaker 2: doing the best that they can. That doesn't mean you
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Speaker 2: have to be affected by them. You can set boundaries,
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Speaker 2: you can change the way you interact with them, you
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Speaker 2: can reroute in some way. But from a standpoint of
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Speaker 2: the way you set eyes upon them, you no longer
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Speaker 2: judge them as people that are not good enough. They're
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Speaker 2: just misunderstood. They've misunderstood their own selves. They've misunderstood the world,
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Speaker 2: they misunderstood their own power and their own love, and
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Speaker 2: they're acting out of the best of their survival instincts.
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Speaker 2: One of the keys I've given people that have come
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Speaker 2: to see me and counseling and helping them to look
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Speaker 2: at people with more forgivenesses, especially in couples counseling, is
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Speaker 2: I tell them look at your wife or look at
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Speaker 2: your husband, like looking into the eyes of a five
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Speaker 2: year of a scared five year old child. And when
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Speaker 2: you do that, it softens your judgment and you can
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Speaker 2: see that they're just looking to survive in some way,
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Speaker 2: or they're scared, or they need connection in some way,
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Speaker 2: and so it helps take that judgment off.
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Speaker 1: You offer many wonderful and meaningful exchanges with clients in
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Speaker 1: your book. What may we learn from those exchanges.
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Speaker 2: Well, I think the idea of putting a conversation in
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Speaker 2: the book that flows through each step is so the reader,
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Speaker 2: the client, the so called client, which is an amalgamation
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Speaker 2: of hundreds of clients, can sort of ask the question
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Speaker 2: that the reader might have to challenge some of the
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Speaker 2: material that they just read, and then there's a response
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Speaker 2: to it. So they can see it in a conversational
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Speaker 2: format that can help them gain an even more enriched
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Speaker 2: understanding of the contents and the formula that was presented
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Speaker 2: to them for acceptance in advancement in the book. So,
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Speaker 2: I think the conversation. I loved writing that because it
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Speaker 2: really flowed from so many questions I've gotten over the
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Speaker 2: years from people in relationship to why they should let
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Speaker 2: go of something, or how they take control of the
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Speaker 2: power of I am, or how they feel better about
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Speaker 2: themselves or let love into their life. These are big
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Speaker 2: things for people in terms of change, and so it
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Speaker 2: helps to see it in a conversational format.
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Speaker 1: How may visualizing our goals as already achieved move us
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Speaker 1: forward on the path?
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Speaker 2: I think the more you can put a vision around
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Speaker 2: what you want and feel it as something you're comfortable with,
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Speaker 2: the more it slips into your identity as who you are.
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Speaker 2: There's no longer a foreign feeling when it comes to
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Speaker 2: holding up a trophy, like I can see myself reading
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Speaker 2: the trophy, holding it up and knowing that I'm worthy
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Speaker 2: of achieving this. I can see myself in the arms
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Speaker 2: of another being so connected and so in touch and
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Speaker 2: so trusting and loving with someone and I can feel
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Speaker 2: that coming. That sends out an energy of who you
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Speaker 2: are and what you want. And again, it's not just
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Speaker 2: what you put out that attracts what you want back.
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Speaker 2: But the universe knows what you believe is true, and
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Speaker 2: it's going to try and help you because it's all
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Speaker 2: about creation and it wants you to create, and so
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Speaker 2: it's going to send you back the truth of what
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Speaker 2: you believe. So the more you visualize, the more you
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Speaker 2: really harness that and absorb that truth into every fiber
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Speaker 2: of who you are, the more it helps you when
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Speaker 2: you go out in the world to bring in those
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Speaker 2: conditions that can give that a greater chance of happening.
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Speaker 2: And I've experienced this so many times in my own life.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely, what is the connection between our heart and this work?
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Speaker 1: And does the heart mind connection move us forward?
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Speaker 2: Oh, that's the biggest What the longest journey they say
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Speaker 2: is from the head to the heart, is right? I
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Speaker 2: think so? So that is such a great question and
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Speaker 2: one of the biggest points of transformation for an individual.
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Speaker 2: So many people read information from the head only. I
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Speaker 2: did everything I could in invincible to put love and
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Speaker 2: energy into the flow of this work that helps people
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Speaker 2: feel better about who they are. The more you feel better,
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Speaker 2: the more you let what may have been an uncomfortable
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Speaker 2: feeling of warmth and love flow into your mind. And
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Speaker 2: then as you read the material, it's like this beautiful
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Speaker 2: like like baking a beautiful cake. It's just all the
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Speaker 2: ingredients come together and you start to feel the truth
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Speaker 2: of this more in terms of not only your understanding
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Speaker 2: in your head, but your worthiness is a big part
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Speaker 2: of Invincible, And there's actually a section where you write
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Speaker 2: down what you feel worthy of or a number representing it,
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Speaker 2: and then you go through a process where you learn
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Speaker 2: more of the truth of your infinite worth. If you know,
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Speaker 2: there's a quote I have and I am that says,
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Speaker 2: if you're in matter, you matter. You're born into matter,
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Speaker 2: you matter like it's not a question of if you
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Speaker 2: matter in this world. It's only a question of how
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Speaker 2: you're going to choose to matter, not if you matter.
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Speaker 2: And when people realize that that everything they do has
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Speaker 2: an impact on this world and they're here for a reason,
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Speaker 2: they can help them find a greater purpose to continue
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Speaker 2: to go down in this path to shine a greater
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Speaker 2: light in the world. And going back to one point
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Speaker 2: you made earlier about this idea of infinity, which can
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Speaker 2: be a really heady topic. When we see the truth
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Speaker 2: of infinity, we're no longer bound by the pressure of time,
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Speaker 2: and time can create fear because we feel we need
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Speaker 2: to get somewhere, we need to do something, or we
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Speaker 2: need to know before time runs out. And when you
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Speaker 2: know that the only true thing about life is that
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Speaker 2: it's that it continues, that it doesn't end, you can
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Speaker 2: take a collective breath, be more present, and because of that,
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Speaker 2: be an even more powerful creator in the moment, because
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Speaker 2: you're coming from this place of faith and trust and
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Speaker 2: gratitude about your eternal existence. So it's a really big
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Speaker 2: point to make as it relates to understand infinity.
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Speaker 1: The wisdom of Howard Falco his book Invincible, The Mindset
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Speaker 1: of Infinite Potential and the Secret to Inevitable Success. Howard,
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Speaker 1: one more time, please share with our listeners where they
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Speaker 1: can get all of your books and find that more
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Speaker 1: about you and your wonderful work.
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Speaker 2: So Howardfalco dot com is where all my books can
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Speaker 2: be found Amazon, Barnes, and Noble, any independent bookstore. Total
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Speaker 2: Mind Sports is the website that I show where I've
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Speaker 2: done what I've done in the world of sports, and
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Speaker 2: then of course my Instagram and any other social media,
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Speaker 2: and then I have a foundation called the Eight Wisdom Foundation.
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Speaker 2: The eight represents not a number but a symbol for infinity,
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Speaker 2: so the Infinite Wisdom Foundation, which is Eightwisdom dot org.
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Speaker 2: And you can see what I'm working on to help
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Speaker 2: young people and educate them on self understanding and self discovery.
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Speaker 2: Before they truly go out in the world, they have
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Speaker 2: an understanding how powerful their mind is. So those are
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Speaker 2: really where all my work is.
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Speaker 1: Howard, thank you so much for joining us and sharing
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Speaker 1: this wonderful wisdom and this very positive outlook on life.
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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me, Victor, I truly
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Speaker 2: enjoyed this conversation and thanks for everything that you.
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Speaker 1: Do, and thank you for joining us on Box Novus.
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Speaker 1: I'm Victor the Voice Firman. Have a wonderful week.