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Rob’s new book “The 4 Word Answer” is being called “The Best Self-Help Book EVER” – Garrett Vogel has question! · Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

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  Speaker 1: Advice shoot well. Hello, hello, hello, Yes, this is a
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  Speaker 1: bonus episode of the Naughty Button Nice Show. Normally Rob
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  Speaker 1: Shooter is here to introduce and welcome you into this
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  Speaker 1: lovely podcast that we have here each and every day.
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  Speaker 1: Today we figured, you know what, Rob does so much work,
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  Speaker 1: let him sit back, sleep in for a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: and I will take over the show. So as we know,
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  Speaker 1: our friend Rob Shooter has a new book called The
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  Speaker 1: Foreword Answer, And you know what, as opposed to me
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  Speaker 1: just doing a deep dive into this book, I figured
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  Speaker 1: I bring on a guest onto this lovely podcast, the
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  Speaker 1: one the only author of The Foreword Answer one, Rob Shooter.
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  Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, Hello, hello, Hello, thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 1: What a lovely introduction. I was frightened then for a
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  Speaker 1: minute that you books Andy comin on the show. I
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  Speaker 1: know it's such a build up. I was like, why
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  Speaker 1: do you interviewed Andy? Hello, Garrett, I love this. I
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  Speaker 1: love turning the tables and having you interview me. You
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  Speaker 1: can ask any question. We've been doing these names for
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  Speaker 1: a couple of weeks bonus episodes basically to promote the book.
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  Speaker 1: Let's be honest about it. But I hope you get
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  Speaker 1: a little insight into the show and who we are too.
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  Speaker 1: Sir Garrett, ask anything you and there is nothing off
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  Speaker 1: the record now, Rob shuret or don't you give me
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  Speaker 1: leverage like that? I mean, there's no whole bars. I mean, seriously,
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  Speaker 1: I could drive this thing right off the cliff. I
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  Speaker 1: mean we've talked about this many of times. You've worked
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  Speaker 1: with some of the biggest names ever pretty much like
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  Speaker 1: I could. I could honestly say you have worked with
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  Speaker 1: someone everyone knows down the list of names. Let's just
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  Speaker 1: go over them a real quick Jennifer Lopez, p did he?
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  Speaker 1: Did he? Sean Combs, however you want to call him,
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  Speaker 1: Alicia Keys, Jessica Simpson, John bon Jovi or bon Jovi
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  Speaker 1: depending on how you want to look at it, British Royalty.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, so you literally have worked with someone in
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  Speaker 1: the world of quote unquote entertainment that at least someone
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  Speaker 1: out there is aware of or knows of. Now for
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  Speaker 1: you to write a book, let's explain this. The foreword
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  Speaker 1: answer isn't exactly like a scandalous type book, right right,
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  Speaker 1: It's not a tell all. I mean, there's lots and
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  Speaker 1: lots of stories in the books of these extraordinary people
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  Speaker 1: that I worked with for many, many years. But it's
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  Speaker 1: not a tell all. I don't sit down and take
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  Speaker 1: them apart. In fact, I build them up in the
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  Speaker 1: hopes that I build you up to So the foreward
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  Speaker 1: answer really comes from a very very basic premise, which
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  Speaker 1: is every successful person I've ever worked with, they can
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  Speaker 1: describe themselves. They know themselves in just a few simple words.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, it's probably the most important question, Garrett. You're
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  Speaker 1: ever gonna ask who am I? Who are you? And
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  Speaker 1: only those are comfortable enough in their own skin no
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  Speaker 1: the answer, and only those that know the answer will
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  Speaker 1: be successful. So I'm gonna help you discover who you are.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, it's funny just forwards exactly. And and
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  Speaker 1: the funny thing is when you started asking that question,
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  Speaker 1: it is kind of awkward at first, do you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean? Like when you when you say who
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  Speaker 1: are you? I don't think a lot of people think
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  Speaker 1: about that, you know, they just they go out throughout
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  Speaker 1: their day, just you know, doing waking up, having breakfast,
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  Speaker 1: going to work, having lunch, and you know, having a meeting.
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  Speaker 1: They don't think like, who am I. It's an interesting thing.
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  Speaker 1: I asked my mommy this before the book came out.
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  Speaker 1: My mommy is eighty five years old. Hello, Betty low Low.
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  Speaker 1: She didn't know the answer, and it really sort of
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  Speaker 1: upset me, upset her too, that she could get to
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  Speaker 1: eighty five without ever thinking about that. Nobody had ever
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  Speaker 1: asked her that before. It took her about a week
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  Speaker 1: and we speak every Sunday and she called me back
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  Speaker 1: the following Sunday and before I could say a lower,
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  Speaker 1: lower low, she gave me her four words and she
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  Speaker 1: said she'd been really thinking of at it. And it's
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  Speaker 1: such a great exercise for us all to do, not
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  Speaker 1: just celebrities. Who are you think about that? We all
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  Speaker 1: deserve an answer, we really do. We know so much
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  Speaker 1: about celebrities, about other people in our lives, about friends
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  Speaker 1: and family members. This book will make you stop for
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  Speaker 1: a minute or maybe even four minutes and figure out
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  Speaker 1: who are you? Who are you when you look in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror in the morning, look really look and say
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  Speaker 1: who am I? Answer that question and life gets better now.
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  Speaker 1: The other thing, I mean again, you said I could
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  Speaker 1: ask anything. When you do talk to people, do you
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  Speaker 1: always go with the three hellos? The hello hellol level
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  Speaker 1: level low? It sort of became a way that we
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  Speaker 1: started this show. So I actually do I mean the
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  Speaker 1: nice think about this show, and I think the reason
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  Speaker 1: it's become so successful is we are who we are.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I don't put on that many airs and
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  Speaker 1: Greece is in my real life, I probably mispronounced even
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  Speaker 1: more words than I do on this show. But ultimately, Era,
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  Speaker 1: if you see me, I say, I wallower lower this
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  Speaker 1: very it's never four before, so it's consistent with my
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  Speaker 1: whole brand, Dad, But it's a lower lower lower. It's
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  Speaker 1: no h, it's e l l o e l l
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  Speaker 1: o e l l ower. We're working on the trademarking
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  Speaker 1: as we speak, all right, So I mean for your
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  Speaker 1: book already to be called one of the best self
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  Speaker 1: help books ever by Okay magazine, I mean, how how
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  Speaker 1: cool of a feelings. As you and I have talked about,
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  Speaker 1: you could never imagine the fact that you would be
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  Speaker 1: an author in any part of your life. No, people
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  Speaker 1: like me don't write books. People like me don't read books.
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  Speaker 1: Like when I went to school, I don't think I
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  Speaker 1: ever went to the library. I couldn't tell you where
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  Speaker 1: the library was in my school. And so to do
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  Speaker 1: this is just extraordinary and I couldn't have done it
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  Speaker 1: if I hadn't worked, had who am I in forwards?
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  Speaker 1: This book changed my life, It really has, Garrett. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: better physical shape I've I've ever been. I'm in better
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  Speaker 1: mental shape I've ever been. I'm living a really good
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  Speaker 1: life now and it's because I'm honest about who I am.
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  Speaker 1: Once you know who you are, you know who you're not,
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  Speaker 1: and it really guides you towards the life you're meant
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  Speaker 1: to have. So this book is not gonna turn you
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  Speaker 1: into j Low, it's not gonna make you diddy. But
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  Speaker 1: what it will do, it's gonna make you a star
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  Speaker 1: in your own life. It really will. You can roll
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  Speaker 1: out your own red carpet and be a star in
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  Speaker 1: your own life. It's almost like a push off the cliff.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it sounds very like grotesque in the sense
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  Speaker 1: of your pushing us off the cliff. But but but
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  Speaker 1: really it is. I mean, because how many people just
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  Speaker 1: stand on that edge of life and going, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know should I It's not from me, or I'm not
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  Speaker 1: I'm not good enough to do it? And you know,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes you just need that that encouraging push you do
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  Speaker 1: as Lady Gaga sang, You're on the edge of glory
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  Speaker 1: and now you can make a choice. You can choose
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  Speaker 1: comfort or you can choose courage. I get it. I've
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  Speaker 1: I've picked comfort for many years of my life where
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  Speaker 1: I sat on the couch and I didn't do it,
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  Speaker 1: and I thought I was lazy and I wasn't garrit scared,
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  Speaker 1: and so always pick, always pick courage, and the results
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  Speaker 1: will bi extraordinary. You know, many people told me I
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  Speaker 1: can't write a book. I told myself that, who am I?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not JK Rawling, And I realized you don't have
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  Speaker 1: to be jk Rawling because I'm not writing Harry Potter.
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  Speaker 1: I'm writing the forward Answer and I can do it.
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  Speaker 1: And you can do it too. You can do it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And you know, it's just it just stinks that because
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  Speaker 1: you have the British Acts and everyone just assumes that
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  Speaker 1: you have you have Harry Potter, you know, in your blood,
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  Speaker 1: and you could write nine thousand books, all right. So
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  Speaker 1: one of the words which I find interesting that you
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  Speaker 1: you have a connection with all kind of like you know,
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  Speaker 1: a bridge to all your clients that connect them all
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  Speaker 1: is kind That's one of the common words you you
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  Speaker 1: see throughout your your entire career. Explain the word kind
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  Speaker 1: and how celebrities have used that to help themselves. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's a word that you don't often put together with celebrities.
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  Speaker 1: You don't think of them as kind, do you? But
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  Speaker 1: I can promise you that they are but a slightly
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  Speaker 1: different definition of kindness. So acceptance is the cornerstone of kindness,
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  Speaker 1: it really is. And nobody accepts themselves more than celebrities.
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  Speaker 1: In fact one, in particular, Jenny for Lopez taught me
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  Speaker 1: how to be comfortable in my own skin, because nothing
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  Speaker 1: is kinder than accepting yourself. J Lo. She doesn't call
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  Speaker 1: herself cruel names. It doesn't happen. Those voices we have
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  Speaker 1: in ahead telling us we're not good enough, we're not
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  Speaker 1: smart enough, we shouldn't do it. Jlo has managed to
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  Speaker 1: turn those voices down. I don't know you ever get
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  Speaker 1: rid of them, but you have to turn the volume
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  Speaker 1: down on those voices. And the way you do that, Garrett,
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  Speaker 1: is by being kind. Be kind to yourself. I say
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  Speaker 1: things to myself where I used to before the foreword answer,
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  Speaker 1: But I'd never say to a friend, I'm a good guy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a kind guy. I'd never call people names, I'd
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  Speaker 1: never try and hurt a friend. Yet I was saying
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  Speaker 1: things to myself that were just so cruel, and I
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  Speaker 1: started to believe them. In fact, I didn't believe them.
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  Speaker 1: I have cut out all those cruel, negative, nasty comments
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  Speaker 1: that I used to say to myself, and now I
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  Speaker 1: start the day, I live the day, I end the
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  Speaker 1: day by being kind to myself. And it's hard, it's
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  Speaker 1: it's not easy to do to to make those noises
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  Speaker 1: in your head, those voices, suppressed them in a sense,
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  Speaker 1: it's and and it's easy for us to go, hey,
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  Speaker 1: just do it. It's it's it's not easy, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and person has their own journey of trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: it out themselves. I think. I think one of the
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  Speaker 1: things I'm most proud about the book is we don't
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  Speaker 1: just tell you what you should and shouldn't do. We
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  Speaker 1: give you actual hard facts, evidence, advice, techniques, methods to
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  Speaker 1: do this. And so in each chapter, the chapter on kindness,
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  Speaker 1: we talk about how you can do this, how you
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  Speaker 1: can be kinder to yourself, how you can turn down
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  Speaker 1: that negative, nasty voice, which, let's be honest, it's a lie,
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  Speaker 1: it's not true. You are good enough. And I give
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  Speaker 1: you examples of people who you might not think of
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  Speaker 1: that talented, but they're really really successful. Don't make the
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  Speaker 1: mistake of thinking everybody that is super successful is super talented.
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  Speaker 1: It's not true. Everybody that's super successful is super kind
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  Speaker 1: to themselves. They believe in themselves, and I'm gonna make
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  Speaker 1: you believe in you two. So, another interesting thing that
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  Speaker 1: we've all fallen victim too because of tabloids and headlines
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  Speaker 1: and just the way that we see things via the
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  Speaker 1: internet is the word smart. And you know, we all
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  Speaker 1: have that one or two celebrities in our life that
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  Speaker 1: we have seen and be like, they are so smart.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, for for for example, and you know, I'm
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna call myself out on it. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: always assumed Jessica Simpson wasn't the smartest of people out there,
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  Speaker 1: you know, based off of Chicken of the Sea and
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  Speaker 1: all the all the things on the reality show and
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  Speaker 1: playing up to the quote unquote quintessential stereotype of dumb
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  Speaker 1: blonde you know, things like that. But you say that
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  Speaker 1: is so not true, though, Jessica Simpson is the smartest
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  Speaker 1: person I have ever met. There, I said it. Jessica
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  Speaker 1: Simpson is a genius and genius. Now, before I met Jesse,
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  Speaker 1: I thought the same. I don't think should be that smart.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, I thought that Dixie Blonde she plays on
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  Speaker 1: TV was who she is. However, it took within maybe
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  Speaker 1: five or ten minutes of meeting Jesse. I met her
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  Speaker 1: at a fancy hotel at the Rich Carlton here in
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  Speaker 1: New York, and within five minutes of sitting in her
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  Speaker 1: I think it was a three thousand dollar aus suite
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  Speaker 1: room she was staying in, I figured out, you know,
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  Speaker 1: she's really really smart. But I gotta say, the thing
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  Speaker 1: that makes Jessica so smart is her definition of being
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  Speaker 1: smart is revolutionary. Jess argues, the only thing that makes
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  Speaker 1: your smart really smart is the willingness to try. So
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  Speaker 1: it's not where you went to school, it's not which
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  Speaker 1: books you read. Jessica thinks, the only thing that makes
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  Speaker 1: any on smart, including herself, is the willingness to try.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you a secret. Smart people fail all
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  Speaker 1: the time, Garrett, all the time they fail. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: I think it was Michael Jordan's doing research for the book,
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  Speaker 1: I found out that Michael Jordan's had missed nine thousand shots,
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  Speaker 1: yet he kept ongoing and is considered one of the greats.
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  Speaker 1: So smart people lose. They fail all the time. Jessica
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  Speaker 1: once said to me, and I love this quote. The
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  Speaker 1: road to success is paved with failure. Jesse has failed
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  Speaker 1: so many times, but she gets back up and she
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  Speaker 1: gives it another try, and when she gets back up,
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  Speaker 1: she starts all over again with a positive mindset. She
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  Speaker 1: thinks about winning, not losing. And I'm going to teach
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  Speaker 1: you how to do that in the forward answer, which
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  Speaker 1: is so interesting too, because like you said, the first
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  Speaker 1: five minutes that that stereotype that you had of Jessica
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  Speaker 1: sentence went away. And and not to say that that
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  Speaker 1: all it takes is we need to meet these clebrities
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  Speaker 1: for five minutes. But you just gotta understand that there's
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  Speaker 1: more to it than just the facade that we see.
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  Speaker 1: So we scroll on the internet. Right. She's so smart.
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  Speaker 1: She plays into that role like I've been with her
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  Speaker 1: in Limos, where she deliberately puts a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: lipstick on her teeth, so when she gets out the
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  Speaker 1: press are like, oh, Jazz, oh, it's that what Her
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  Speaker 1: hair might not be perfect, or she might trip in
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  Speaker 1: those high heels, and I'm like, did you do that
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  Speaker 1: a purpose? And she gives me a wink. I asked
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  Speaker 1: her to about the Chicken of the s moment, a
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  Speaker 1: famous moment from from her reality show. She knew what
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  Speaker 1: she was doing. She exactly what she was doing, and
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  Speaker 1: so playing ditzy does not make you ditzy. She's the
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  Speaker 1: smartest person I've ever met. I grew up not feeling
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  Speaker 1: very smart, Garrett. I really did, because I didn't get
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  Speaker 1: very good grades in school. Either didn't treat me like
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  Speaker 1: I was that smart, and I actually made the mistake
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  Speaker 1: of thinking smart was in your DNA. You were either
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  Speaker 1: born smart or you weren't, and I wasn't. And then
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  Speaker 1: I did the worst last thing you can ever possibly do.
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  Speaker 1: I just stopped trying. Now that's the definition of making
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  Speaker 1: a stupid move. Keep trying. It's only later on in
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  Speaker 1: life that I realized, looking around the room at some
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  Speaker 1: of the most successful people in the world, they didn't
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  Speaker 1: have a great education. They didn't go to a good school.
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  Speaker 1: Ellen dropped out of school, Steve Jobs dropped out of school.
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  Speaker 1: We have tons and tons of people in the book
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  Speaker 1: that I detailed never even graduated, but they went on
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  Speaker 1: to change the world, and what made them smart was
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  Speaker 1: their willingness to try. Let's let's face it, one of
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  Speaker 1: the richest men in the world, Jeff Bezos, decided to
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  Speaker 1: set up a little company in his garage. It turned
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  Speaker 1: into Amazon. The smart choice there was believing in himself
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  Speaker 1: and trying this book. Garrett has become so successful. I'm
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  Speaker 1: so thrilled. I didn't expect this, but the reason it
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  Speaker 1: has is I tried. You won't believe the amount of
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  Speaker 1: people that told me not to do it wasted my time.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't listen to them. I did the j Lo technique.
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  Speaker 1: I turned down that nasty voice of those nasty comments.
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  Speaker 1: I was kind to myself and then I was smart
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  Speaker 1: enough to do the work. And now a number eleven
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  Speaker 1: on the charts and growing and growing. It doesn't stop
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  Speaker 1: at eleven. I mean, I'm not done. I Am not
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  Speaker 1: going to shut my mouth and end this podcast until
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  Speaker 1: we get to number one. Now it might take a
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: little while from from the time we posted this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: but we're gonna get there. Rob Shuter, Let's talk about
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  Speaker 1: another client of your former client of yours who, when
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  Speaker 1: talking about being smart, I would have assumed that you
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  Speaker 1: were talking about this person first, But this person has
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  Speaker 1: taught you something else about being important, and that would
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  Speaker 1: be one did he a KA Shawn Combs a K.
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  Speaker 1: Puffy a K A whatever he's at right now, but
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  Speaker 1: tell us about how did he taught you how to
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  Speaker 1: be important? It's amazing. It's a word that I would
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  Speaker 1: never ever pick for myself, helf, but you have to
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  Speaker 1: believe you are important, and Puffy taught me that. Puffy
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  Speaker 1: taught me the most important person in your life is you,
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  Speaker 1: and when people don't treat you like you're important, you
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  Speaker 1: have to leave. Puffy was an amazing client to have.
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  Speaker 1: I should have been paying him. He was paying me
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  Speaker 1: a fortune to be his publicist. But I learned so
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  Speaker 1: much more from him. I I learned from Puffy the
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  Speaker 1: rejections a gift. He never got upset when he got
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  Speaker 1: rejected because he would argue, all rejection does is guide
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  Speaker 1: you to the path that is right for you. The
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  Speaker 1: next time somebody says no, don't don't feel sad, don't
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  Speaker 1: feel embarrassed. Realize you know what rejection is re direction.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what I learned from Puffy. He was an
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  Speaker 1: extraordinary character. I call him Puffy when I was cross
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  Speaker 1: with him. When he upset me, I called him Sean
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  Speaker 1: like his mother his mom, Sean, did you use the
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  Speaker 1: whole name like Sean Jean Combs? Like just sure? And
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  Speaker 1: that shoot him a look, we on paper have nothing
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  Speaker 1: in common. I like show tunes. I'm a silly, gay
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  Speaker 1: British boy and he's the coolest cat. How dare you
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  Speaker 1: He's the He's the coolest cat in New York City.
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  Speaker 1: But he taught me that I was important and I
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  Speaker 1: was important to him. I was important to his business.
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  Speaker 1: Treat people like they are important. I've got a really
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  Speaker 1: good example about this. So when my book was released,
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  Speaker 1: it was actually leaked to page six, a gossip page
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  Speaker 1: in New York that I was writing this book, and
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  Speaker 1: it could have gone either way. Page six are such
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  Speaker 1: good reporters that I was a bit scared. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh gosh, this is gonna be trouble. They wrote a
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  Speaker 1: really really lovely story about the book, and it's set
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  Speaker 1: up the sales beautifully, and I was very very grateful
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  Speaker 1: for it, and I tried to figure out how that happened.
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  Speaker 1: The guy that wrote it used to work for me
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  Speaker 1: about ten years ago, and he told me that I
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  Speaker 1: made him feel important when he really to most people
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  Speaker 1: wasn't always treat people like they're important because they are,
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  Speaker 1: they will be, they can be. I've been waiting a
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  Speaker 1: decade to do something nice to you because you made
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  Speaker 1: me feel important. Make everybody feel important. That's amazing, and
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  Speaker 1: you know what to you know, I've never really told
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  Speaker 1: you this, a rab shooter, but you know you have
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  Speaker 1: done the same for me in the sense of you
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  Speaker 1: are just a friend in general, and you are that.
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  Speaker 1: You know, hey, let's let's just talk or what's going on?
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  Speaker 1: You know you you always find a way to reach
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  Speaker 1: out and just be you know, work aside, just be normal,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Just be kind, smart, treat
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  Speaker 1: people like they're important. We've all got these magical phones
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  Speaker 1: in our hands, which has really become my superpower. It
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  Speaker 1: takes me thirty seconds to text people like text all
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  Speaker 1: my friends. I try to check in with people I
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  Speaker 1: love at least once a week, and just the nice
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  Speaker 1: text letting, letting somebody know that they're important, that you're
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  Speaker 1: thinking about them not only changes their day, it changes yours. Garrett.
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  Speaker 1: Because I was kind to you, because I made you
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  Speaker 1: feel smart and important. It's one of the reasons we
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  Speaker 1: have this podcast. Before my heart gave us a daily show,
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  Speaker 1: you and me were meeting once a week in the
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  Speaker 1: bowels of goodness nowhere, and we're doing our own little show.
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  Speaker 1: And that's how we all start. There is an important
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  Speaker 1: person just around the corner who is waiting to meet you.
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  Speaker 1: Be smart enough to recognize that, yes, exactly, And we're
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  Speaker 1: having some fun and we're learning a lot about the
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: foreword answer from you too as we break it down
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  Speaker 1: to But also Pole, you've worked at so many celebrities
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  Speaker 1: and and you've heard so many things, words of wisdom,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: stories that that some that you'll probably take to the
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  Speaker 1: grave and then releasing the book after the grave. What
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  Speaker 1: are some of your favorite celebrity quotes that that that
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  Speaker 1: that have stuck with you, that you know still put
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  Speaker 1: a smile on your fear. Yeah, they change every day.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: And one of the nicest things about the book is,
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  Speaker 1: as well as me rattling on and on and on,
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  Speaker 1: there's tons of celebrity quotes in the book to inspire
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  Speaker 1: you today. I think my favorite quote of the day
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  Speaker 1: interest every day is something did he told me? Did
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  Speaker 1: he said? Quote? If you're chasing your dreams. You're not
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  Speaker 1: running fast enough. Stop chasing them and catch them. I
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  Speaker 1: promise you your dreams are closer than you think, and
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  Speaker 1: you can move a lot faster than you ever thought.
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  Speaker 1: I always wanted to be a published author, that dream
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  Speaker 1: just felt too far away. So instead of focusing on
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  Speaker 1: writing a book, I wrote a page and at two pages,
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  Speaker 1: then it turned into a chapter. You can do it
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  Speaker 1: step by step. Don't think about the marathon. Think about
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  Speaker 1: step by step, and I promise you you will get there.
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  Speaker 1: So as much as I want to thank did He,
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  Speaker 1: I also want to thank you too for that quote,
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  Speaker 1: because you have told me that on several occasions, and
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  Speaker 1: I knew that it was one of your favorite quotes,
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  Speaker 1: and just recently too. And I don't know if it's
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: because you've been saying it more often because of the book,
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  Speaker 1: but it's stuck with me to the fact that it
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  Speaker 1: literally had pushed me to to an opportunity to get
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  Speaker 1: on television and do something with Extra based off of
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  Speaker 1: chasing after your dreams and not running fast enough. You
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  Speaker 1: were incredible. You Thank you. You were on Extra as
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  Speaker 1: a co host from New York and get this, because
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  Speaker 1: we're all kind to one another, and we're smart and
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  Speaker 1: we are important. A friend of mine is the executive
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  Speaker 1: producer of that show. I was on Extra last night
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  Speaker 1: plug in the book, and she called me to say
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  Speaker 1: good job and you were trific. And while we were talking,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, my friend Garrett was fantastic, and the
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: EP said, yes, he was all connected. You make your
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: own circle of friends. You're the spider in your own
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  Speaker 1: little web of connections. Help each other. Because when Garrett
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: is the host of Extra, he'll have me on once
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  Speaker 1: a week. Yes, you know, as they say as the
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: ride goes, it is a small world after all. All right, well,
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Rob Shooter, thank you for stopping by our podcast. You know,
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: I know you're very busy. I had a book you
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  Speaker 1: on your own podcast. That's how this works. I mean,
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: if I had said too busy, no, imagine you send
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  Speaker 1: me to yourself. You're like, oh, talk to my person,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: and then I call your person and it's you on
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: the other hand, and I have to argue topic. I
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: have to argue with. So good at it, Rob Shooter. No,
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  Speaker 1: congratulations on the book. Just because it's sitting at number
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  Speaker 1: eleven right now doesn't mean it has to stop at
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: number eleven. So do yourself a favor, even if you
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: have it. Holidays right around the corner. Now, this is
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: where we turn into QVC. The holidays right around the corner.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: Go out by the book, get the audio version. If
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: you want to fall asleep to Rob Shooter in your head,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: as I do from time to time, I call it.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: It's it's a good like your voice sing. You've said it.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: How dare you want to take all your words about
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  Speaker 1: your naughty, naughty, naughty doing? All right, well, the best
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: self help book ever, according to Okay magazine, I'm just
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: gonna put go out there and say, just the best
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: self help book period. And remember, everybody, let's say it together.
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  Speaker 1: If you're going to you've got to be take care
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  Speaker 1: of everybody. Pip, pap, Pip Pip. I get to say,
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  Speaker 1: Pip Pip. You feel like I'm in charge here, Pip
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  Speaker 1: fin it's not even nice, Pip bro