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Eye Opener Society: Staying Authentic · Eye Opener Society

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Hey, everyone, and welcome back to the Eye Opener Society. We really want to
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thank you for coming here.
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You have me, Gary. You have me, Hannah. What's up?
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We are trying to get a lot of stuff out here for this month,
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and I want to get right into the show.
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But really, before we do that, I just want to let everybody know.
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I know we've done a couple episodes already, but this is Suicide Awareness Month. month.
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And I don't really like that because we should be aware of this stuff all the
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time. And I don't think we should have just a month of it. Yeah.
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I mean, definitely. I think it's a cool, not necessarily a cool thing.
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I don't want to word it that way, but I think it's nice that,
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you know, there's a month where, you know, there's activities and,
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you know, things that people can do to bring awareness.
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But I definitely think it's something that we should be aware of every day.
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Yeah, definitely. But since it is suicide awareness month, let's all take a moment right now.
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And remember the number is 988.
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If you're feeling overwhelmed, if you need somebody to talk to,
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to get you through something, dial 988.
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They can help you. And if you don't feel like talking, if it bothers you to
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talk, you may text as well, 988.
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I'm so glad they came out with a very simple, easy number.
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Don't forget, you can always dial 911 too. If you really find yourself in a
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crisis, He says, don't be afraid. Take the steps.
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You are important. You are remembered. You are loved.
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Everybody needs to remember this. All right.
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So if you are, you know, having any kind of a crisis, don't feel afraid to reach out.
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Dial 988 for help.
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All right. So everybody, again, Suicide Awareness Monthbook.
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You know, Hannah and I, we always make people aware of this anyway,
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regardless of the month, regardless of the day. Because sometimes I think you wait too long.
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You know, if you wait until September to, you know, help somebody out, it could be too late.
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So, you know, keep an eye on your friends, your family, people,
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you know, make sure everybody's doing okay.
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So I wanted to get that out of the way. We have a lot going on.
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I am releasing this show very early on Monday.
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And the reason I'm doing that is because we have a contest going on. What?
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Yeah, this is a first that we've ever done. And I really do apologize if you're
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not following us on social media, Facebook, on our group page,
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you're going to miss out.
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So that's why I wanted to get this episode released nice and early because it's exactly 5 p.m.
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On monday which is now what what's monday's date that this is.
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That's a very it's the 19th so
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20 21 22 23rd the 23rd yeah i'm i have no timeline so i do apologize but the
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23rd monday the 23rd that's the date that this podcast is released and so if
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you're listening to this podcast as it gets released we're doing a contest on
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facebook um elaine from Arcane Oracle,
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we decided to try this little giveaway.
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Basically, she's going to do a free 20-minute tarot reading.
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It's a prize worth 25 bucks, man.
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But it's really cool because Elaine gives you the full 20 minutes.
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Ask as many questions as you want during that 20 minutes.
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So you got to be on our Facebook page, our group page, actually, at exactly 5 p.m.
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Eastern Standard time today we're going
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to release the question it's going to be one question and it's going
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to be as a post and the first
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person who answers it correctly will win
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the prize it's that simple that's it's as simple as that so i wanted everybody
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to get a chance to do it that's why this episode is going to be released as
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early as possible this way people have a little bit of time to find us on social
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media on facebook eye opener society and on our group page so that's it um Let's
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jump into the show, Hannah. Yeah. Come on.
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So this is something I know we are going to probably bring up again,
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and we've brought it up in the past, and we're probably going to bring it up
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with Monica Susanna, who,
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by the way, I want to give a big shout out to her because I know she wasn't
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feeling well. She was in the hospital.
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Monica Susanna, many, many blessings to you. I hope that you're feeling well.
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I hope you're coming back strong.
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Don't like to hear the bad news. So get yourself healthy. Get yourself well.
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Well so monica suzanna is from tik radio and
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we're going to be doing some collaborations with her come
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november which is going to be coming up really soon so i just wanted to bring
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this up to on her show as well but i'm going to bring it up real quick now so
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what got me started on this um following some musicians and all right and comments
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on theirs and the ratings and people You're like,
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oh, rate this album, rate this song, rate this.
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And I wanted to kind of put this into perspective on a, you know,
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a mental and a metaphysical plane.
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Subjective things are music podcasts. You know, why are we reading that?
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Why do we care what somebody else thinks or feels about it, their opinion on it?
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Yeah. four stars five stars on this
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song you know or this podcast or whatever it's getting
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to the point because what happens the bands you know want you to rate this here
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stuff and then it starts arguments oh we can't believe you listen to this crap
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and all i had to step back and take a moment i said because even in our own
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podcast community you know we're always looking for ratings it helps better our shows.
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But we create so much stress within ourselves and so much self-judgment,
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I don't care about ratings. I really don't. I don't care if nobody ever rates
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the show. All we care is that people listen, that enjoy listening.
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That's all I want. So if somebody doesn't like the show, I don't want them listening
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either unless they want to.
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When we set ratings, it's basically just somebody else's opinion.
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If 5 million people enjoyed a piece of artwork, a piece of music,
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or a podcast, but one person said, oh, I hate it.
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Why does anybody care what that person thinks or vice versa?
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Yeah. You get what I'm saying? I understand 100%.
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I mean, I think that as far as, you know, with me, how I look at it is,
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is that like, it could be like a restaurant and like seven people could be like one star, don't go here.
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But what if I want to give that restaurant like a try and I go and I'm like,
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holy shit, this is five stars to me.
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So why are we allowing our opinions or, you know, why are we not taking our
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own chances based off of other people's opinions and feedback?
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Because, I mean, I understand that you value other people's opinions,
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but at the same time, at the end of the day, your opinion should be the one that you value the most.
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Yeah, that's perfectly said. And I haven't even thought about like,
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you know, restaurants, but yeah, there are a lot of restaurants.
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Now it's one thing if 9,000 people say that the service absolutely sucked,
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you know, I mean, you kind of play into that.
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But I did have that discussion too, where.
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If we're talking about businesses, it's a little bit different because,
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yeah, you want to make sure businesses are following customer service and all that.
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So I can understand that, but I'm talking subjective stuff.
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And yeah, restaurants, as far as food is concerned, that's taste buds and everybody's
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taste buds are individual.
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And it just goes the same for music and podcasts for me as well. all.
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I just think that I'm not going to sit there and, you know, well,
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I've always just been like an artist, not even an artistic like person,
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but music has always been a thing for me. So there's not something that I won't give a shot.
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I've never been closed minded with it, but it goes the same for me as far as music.
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7,000 people could be like, this sucks, but I'm not going to value your opinion.
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I'm going to take the time and form my own opinion because at the end of the day,
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it's my opinion and i might like it i don't care if 7 000 people
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ate it you know yeah for sure
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i it's like pieces of artwork sculptures
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and stuff you know you could look at
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it this is a pile of crap but there
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are some people that are going to look at it and see the meaning behind it especially
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if the artist put so much into it it's again
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these ratings that we are doing it's pretty
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intense i think and we do we
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start to criticize ourselves and i
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think that's where the problem comes in with
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our own mental health and you know we sit there and start worrying now oh i
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have you know if you're a first-time musician you're putting your music out
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there you're sitting there waiting for the feedback now it's good you really
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want to know what people are you know hey okay maybe not that many people like
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the song but again that's subjective it's your Your artwork,
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you wish and you hope that people enjoy it, but sometimes people just don't.
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But you're going to find, too, that there's so many people that do enjoy it. Yeah.
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And that's what you really need to worry about. You don't need to worry about all the negativity.
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It brings me just like instead of the ratings, the comments.
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Why do people got to comment on everything in a negative way and then start?
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Bites in the comments sections. These are the things I know we,
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you and I, we spoke about this plenty of times, but it's coming to that point.
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Now, the reason I really got into this discussion, um, is a certain package
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delivery company out there. Um, it rhymes with Amazon.
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Uh, the, uh, the, um, lately what they do now is after they delivered a package,
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you get the text saying, Hey, your package delivered is delivered. Delivered.
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Tell us how we did. Rate us. Well, you have one job.
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Why am I going to get four stars? Oh, my God, they left a package at my door.
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That's what you're supposed to do. Why am I going to rate somebody four stars?
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Because then they're going to show up tomorrow and they're not going to deliver
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the package. They're going to deliver it down to the neighbor's house.
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That's when I'm going to say something and it's not going to be in ratings.
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I'm going to call the company directly, bitch them out for doing the wrong thing.
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I'm not so concerned with everybody else's and their ratings.
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If I have to utilize a service, they had just better provide what they're providing.
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That's all. I don't sit there and listen to ratings all the time.
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I don't, you know, if you're a roofer, that's your one job.
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I don't need to rate you doing your roofing. But if you do a messed up job,
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I'm going to deal with the company directly.
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I don't need the whole world to know about it because, again,
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it may be just my roof they screwed up and everybody else's was fine.
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You know, I'm going to counter that real quick.
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Go for it. Hell yeah. I 110% agree with you.
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But me as a person, if I try and exhaust all options with a company to make something right,
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and I'm like ghosted or they're just not willing to work with me,
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I'm putting your ass on blast.
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110%. I just recently seen this poor girl that I went to school with.
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I have her on my Facebook still.
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And she got a pool installed.
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Highly recommended company. All this like whole nine or whatever.
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And, you know, they had, I don't know how they happened this,
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but like any like negative review that they did have was like hidden.
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So I don't know how that went about. But, I mean, I wish, I hope now that they're
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still available. but had a pool installed.
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Her and her husband and they brought their two kids in the pool and what do
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you know? They get in the pool and you know, you're,
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Like, you know, the water's going up and down and up and down.
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The pool collapsed with all four of them inside.
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And then they refused to make it right.
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So they went on Facebook, blast, and then everyone just blast.
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And then you know what happened? It got the company to respond back and make
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it right. And sometimes that needs to happen.
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And you know what's weird, too? That shouldn't be the way to get a company to respond.
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And that's where we're relying so much now on social media that businesses will
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refuse to make things right unless you blast them on social media.
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I mean, listen, I've done the same thing. Sometimes it really does get to the
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point where you've been so wronged and you've been patient and you tried everything.
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That's your last resort. And there's nothing wrong with that.
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But these, again, these are companies. companies but when
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we go back to what i was talking about when it comes to subjective material
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we should not be worried about ratings we shouldn't be putting that sort of
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stress on everything because everybody's ears are different everybody's taste
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buds are different everybody's you know all processes are different yeah absolutely
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you know i don't like my fellow podcast is i love you
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all and if there's a podcast i do not like i
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just don't listen to it and that's all i don't understand why
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you have to put your two cents because now your ego
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comes into play yeah and that's only your ego you want the whole world to know
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that your opinion is better than everybody else's opinion that's what happens
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with these ratings and these comments and you know rate us four stars raise
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five i don't want to read anybody if i like you i want to listen to you i want to
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listen to the song i want to listen to the music i don't want to create arguments
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with strangers because you don't like the same type of music that i do or whatever
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that's where i come into this whole thing that's why i wanted to mention it
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we are failing again as people.
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Um if hannah and i here you know had
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two totally different ideas on music and we
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just sat here arguing over which we do like you know
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like we we do like we like some similar stuff but like i like a lot of different
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things that gary's like i can't get down with this and i'm like all right that's
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okay but we don't sit here and argue like if we literally let's say we had a
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podcast where you're gonna say this is my type of music this is my and then
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we sit here and argue i think that'll It'll be the worst type of conversation.
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Yeah. It'll be so egotistical because they'll be like saying,
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oh, my music means more because my opinion means more and yours means more.
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That's why I don't take that kind of ratings for subjective stuff.
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I just don't. I appreciate what I listen to and I appreciate what anybody else listens to.
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If I don't like it, I just simply don't listen to it. I think it honestly goes
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back to say like, you know, and I've said this hundreds of times,
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I feel like on the podcast, but it's if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all.
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I understand you have an opinion and you have free speech, but if it's not your
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cup of tea, it's not your cup of tea. You don't have to release that negativity
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in the world because someone might be an easily influenced person where they
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value others' opinions too much.
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So they might not be giving a podcast or a song or anything a chance just because
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they're too not confident enough to make their own decision about something.
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So just allow people the courtesy of forming their own opinions on things that they listen to or try.
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Yeah, that's a really good point. And I think people kind of miss that.
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And I think that's really where I wanted to hit home with. Yeah.
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There are people, yeah, that are struggling in life. One song may be the only
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thing keeping them holding on.
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And then if people keep telling them, how horrible that song is, how can you listen to it?
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You lose all of your own faith again, all of your own confidence again.
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And then you start to question, well, why am I listening to this?
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That is completely wrong.
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Keep listening to what you listen to. to keep appreciating whatever it is you appreciate.
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Other people's opinions are just that. Their opinions, they're attached to the ego.
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They don't belong in everybody else's heads.
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Yeah. They don't. We need to step back again, realize that we're all part of the world together.
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And that's the only way we're going to get along together. It's simple as that.
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We don't have to listen to the same songs. We don't. We really don't.
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But we do need to just learn to keep our mouths shut when we need to keep them shut.
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Same thing with the ratings, same thing with the comments. You know,
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hey, it's great to say, hey, listen, you're doing a great job. It's perfect.
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But if you really hate the show, if you really hate a song, if you really hate
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food, that's fine. But the whole world don't want to hear it.
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Stop dragging the rest of the world down with you.
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Let's start picking things up. That's all I ask. So that's what I wanted to
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touch on. We didn't want to bring a very long, boring show.
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Like I said, we're trying to keep things upbeat from here on in.
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I want to mention a few things. I believe September 22nd and 23rd,
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Urban Lady Prepper, I'm sure you heard us mention her. She was on our show.
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We had a great time with her. Hannah and I- We were on her show.
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That was really exciting, really fun.
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We did just ramble on on our show so much. We had such a good time.
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We didn't even realize how long we were going. So that's why she's releasing
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too. She had to do a two-part episode.
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So I really wanted to keep it you know
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for her sake for her show i wanted to keep but we just did we
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really connect and we had a great time yeah
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and you know it didn't help like this is my first time you
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know being acclimated with her um when we had her on our show it wasn't me so
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it was it just kind of went on and on and on you know and it was really interested
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in like you know i was interested in talking to her and you know she was interested
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in talking to me and of course gary again but it just went on and it was great. It was a good show.
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And we're hoping that you guys tune into that.
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Yeah. So that's urban lady prepper. Check her out. She's on pod bean as well.
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And besides the podcast, she
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also has a website with blogs and she does a lot of writing too, as well.
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Very, very multifaceted person. And she's really great. And I hope she continues
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on because she's doing really, really well.
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Um, I also want everybody to, if you are listening to us on Podbean, that's great.
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We're on all platforms. So it doesn't matter what you are listening to us on, but me,
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Beginning October 13th, every Sunday night at 7 p.m. Eastern time,
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I'm going to have a live radio show.
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It's going to be called the Eye Opener Society Relaxing Radio.
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And it's just going to be me sitting there talking to you. And we're just going
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to have a good time sharing stories, learning how to relax, learn a little bit
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about meditation, learn a little bit about mindfulness.
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It's really, I always pick Sunday night because we always hate Sunday night
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because we've got to go to work for the rest of the week. So join us.
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The only way you could join us, though, is on Podbean. You don't have to download
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the app unless you want to actually join in on the show.
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If you want to make comments to us and talk or actually get on the air with
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me, then you'll have to have Podbean. But if not, if you just go to eyeopenersociety.podbean.com,
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there is a link at the top of our page.
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And there's also next to our podcast, there's also a link for the live show.
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If you just want to get in there and follow us. And again, that's going to be
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October 13th, live relaxing radio with me.
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Hannah may join me. It all depends on her availability.
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And I may have some other guests come in and all. It's just going to be a good
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time. A really relaxing time.
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With all of you, the fans, if you should choose to join me.
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So I also wanted to mention again, Arcane Oracle today, the day this podcast
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is being released, I want you to jump on social media, Eye Opener Society, go to our group page,
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5 p.m. Eastern Standard Time.
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We're going to have a contest. Listen to her podcast.
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Definitely, Arcane Oracle podcast. She done so good.
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The month's almost over, so that means we're going to have the October one coming up really soon.
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So get ready for that. She does all the tarot readings for all of your birth
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signs, you know, alongside of your horoscopes, too, as well.
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And, you know, coming up, we're going to have October spooky and we're going
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to have Anne Lund's show. Yes. On Halloween.
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I'm so excited for that. Haunted and Waiting podcast. You know,
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she's a blogger. We love her. She's the best.
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So, yeah, we're looking forward to that. It's going to be a good month.
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Yeah, definitely. Yeah.
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Ann Lund, she's going to do the Ann Lund haunted and waiting blog podcast.
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And that's going to be Halloween, October 31st. Uh, I, she contacted me the
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other night and she said, she's getting started on it.
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So I can't wait for that. I know she's going to do something fantastic.
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And also our dear friend sunset child. Oh man.
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I listen sunset child. She's my new favorite. Uh, she does the out there podcast.
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If you haven't listened to that yet, um, please do. I know it's out there for sure.
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But the more you stick to it, she's going to keep going and there's going to
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be more explanations and all that.
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Yeah. I still love it. Yeah. We just have such a good thing going right now and it's going amazing.
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And we are just beyond blessed to have expanded and bring you guys more content.
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That we just personally like enjoy, you know, it's out there,
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it's unique, it's different and it keeps everything alive.
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It does. I really, I just appreciate it because these are very good people.
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They are. I know they have a voice and I feel they should have a platform and
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I don't want them to have all the stresses of doing it on their own.
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So all they got to do is bring me the audio and they've done so well.
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And I know Ann Lund is going to be fantastic.
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So yeah, definitely tune into us and all of that is found on any platform.
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Um although i will say this youtube because we are on youtube as well uh the
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one thing that's not getting pushed is sunset childs because she mentioned covid
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in there and i know youtube,
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uses to do anything that has anything to do with covid yeah and she only mentioned
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it i know very quickly in there yeah and it's not getting any airplay but she's
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doing very well on our platform so that's great you could listen to it on any
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platform um or just find us on iopenersociety.podcast.
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Being.com and don't forget suicide awareness month, but make it,
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um, an awareness every single day, every single month, check on your friends,
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uh, nine, eight, eight for the suicide hotline.
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If you are feeling, you know, that you need that sort of help nine, eight, eight.
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i thank everybody for tuning in uh we've been having a great time look for all
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the rest of our content that's out there and hannah and i we will see you really soon see ya.