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Fat? Maybe you need to hear this now - I remember when I broke through and it was because of something I heard that made all the difference · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you just have to hear the right thing.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Those right words, that's why we watch content, that's why we watch motivational videos.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of the things that we watch end up telling us that we're not prepared to do things ourselves, that we need help.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, when you watch videos, I guess maybe you're soliciting help in some way, shape, or form, or reading books or whatever it may be, but you're actually making yourself better.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: I guess the help I'm talking about is needing to check in and join a group.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: And for some people, that is really something that they need to do to get through the process.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_00: But I think a lot of these people that are telling us we need this extra help, well, a lot of it are in it for themselves.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: They're really not helping that process by offering that strategy and saying, you know, you can't quit this without this kind of a help that you need to get a prescription for, maybe seek medical profession, and whatever it may be.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: One of the biggest things that helped me main drop and then maintain all of that fat that I was able to do or get rid of was watching things.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: And it seemed that uh a lot of the things that I watched that really made the biggest differences were the ones that just happened to hit at that right time.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: That time I needed that motivation the most.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: The time when I was at a point where I was about to break my own rule.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_00: I was about to sabotage my success.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: And then some of the other things that I saw online really helped lift me up where I realized people were saying, you know, moderation is the key.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: For me, it doesn't work that way.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: Moderation isn't a key to anything.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: Moderation is a key to my demise because I really don't have an ability to moderate, especially when it comes to the things that uh I'm weakest with.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: That would be alcohol and of course food.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: So I don't partake in the alcohol.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: And as far as food goes, well, I have to eat, but I try to control what I'm eating types of food because I know certain types of food, especially the processed food, really kicks me out and makes me really want more of it.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: But it's hard to eat a dozen hard-boiled eggs one right after another.
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: You kind of get tired of it.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: Same thing with fruits.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: If they have the fiber within and you're eating them, again, it's not easy to put a whole lot of those away.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I've watched a lot of people talking about they haven't seen many obese people, if any, that are just obese because of all the fruit consumption.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, not just juice, not juices, because juices, they get rid of all the fiber.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: So it's basically like drinking, you know, a ton of fruit sugar, which again, they say that's healthier, but in actuality, it causes uh well, it does its own demise to the body.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I try to stay away from all of those sweet things.
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_00: But one of the biggest things that I believe made the biggest difference is once I started the process, what had been different from all of those years, those 40-something years that I battled up and down, the difference was the forgiveness.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I know a lot of the uh police officers that watch my channel, they're probably shaking their head.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: But when you start to actually, if you screw something up, which we all eventually do, and you're able to forgive yourself and then move on to that next step, that's huge.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: Also, the habits, paying attention to what your habits are.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people say that sweat is fat crying.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: If you're gonna go work your butt off in a physical sense, working out, lifting weights, cardio, and you're going to be doing this in hopes to actually peel off a lot of body fat, you're gonna be uh you're misleading yourself.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's very important to exercise.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: It carries with it so many more benefits that are much larger and way beyond caloric burn.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_00: In fact, going for a run for a long time, if you could sustain it, you might burn at most a few hundred calories.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_00: Lifting weights all day long, if you could sustain it again, about the same.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: There's not a lot of caloric burn.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: The abs, as they say, are made in the kitchen.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: And it's what you are eating that's going to make those abs.
• 4:06
  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you've failed many, many times, I don't look at that as failure, that's practice.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: You've just been practicing, and it hasn't been your gain day.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: There comes a point in everybody's existence, and we're three-quarters of the population obese here in America.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure some of you that are are watching this.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: As if you look at my scale, I'm still in my process as well.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: But knowing this, understanding that this uh moderation is the key, so they say, which doesn't work for all of us, and understanding that as you move through the process, forgiveness is really critical.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: We do a very good job of sabotaging ourselves.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_00: Our body doesn't really like to drop fat.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: Our body likes that homeostasis or steady state.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: And when you gain the fat, you just did do it overnight.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: It takes a while, and your body kind of gets used to these set points and sticks at those levels, and it's difficult to break away from.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: There's two different ways to do it.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_00: Both involve caloric restriction, and realistically, at the end of the day, it is calories in and what you're burning out.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of doctors might say, well, if you change the type of food, you're gonna settle your insulin response to the food, insulin being the storage hormone.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: So that's going to help.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: So my recommendation would be, as they're saying, to eat very low carbohydrates and in the form of, of course, starches and sugar.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: So that would be your fruits and honey and even the natural stuff, and also the regular sugar, the processed food, flour, wheat, pasta, these sorts of things.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_00: And just stick with the basics meat and um eggs and fish, and then maybe some vegetables.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: But that's really where they say to be.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: And for a lot of people that works.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_00: But if you're going to be eating reduced calories, there's a way to do that where you're totally abstaining from calories.
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_00: That would be your fasting.
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_00: And there's a few different ways to do that.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_00: But realistically, there's a lot of books that have been written, a lot of videos that have been done about it, and they talk about all these different time frames for intermittent fasting.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if those intermittent fasting schedules are enough to really torch off a lot of body fat.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: I know uh there was a kid that I had on the show a while back that did a 40-day fast, all in jumping in.
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, seek your doctor and professional advice before you jump into that, especially, well, in all cases.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um, some of the folks that are taking medicine, if they go into this longer fast, they're gonna find out that they're gonna cause some damage because that medicine sometimes requires food to be able to get it digested properly.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: So it goes into an empty gut and does all sorts of wonderful, well, horrible things.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: So make sure you always seek your medical professional's advice before embarking and not eating.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: But what's interesting about you know caloric restriction, where you say, okay, I'm either going to restrict in type of food and that way uh impact my calories, or I'm just gonna overall attack my calories versus not eating at all, which is gonna be fasting, and not for you know 16 hours and then have an eight-hour window.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: I was never good with that.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: 16-hour thing.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_00: If I have eight hours to eat and almost gives an appearance that you can eat whatever you want during that eight hours because you're taking 16 hours off, I would take full advantage of that.
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm not good at that either.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: But not eating, I actually found after at time, after I got used to it, I was much better at that.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: And from what I've read in the studies, and again, do your own research, speak with your medical professional, but when you restrict calories, your body does a very good job at reducing your metabolic rate, the rate at which you're burning calories.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_00: And most people, depending on how much muscle mass you have and your activity level, but let's just say you're sitting on the couch most of the day, you know, you're probably 2,000, 2,500, 3,000 calories, depending on your body weight and you know, activity level, like I said.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_00: That's your just regular metabolic rate.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: So let's just say for uh argument's sake, you're at 2,500 calories a day, and you reduce your caloric intake to 2,000 calories a day.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: So you peel off 500 calories every day, less in food and energy that caloric consumption that you're taking in.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_00: After a week, you're burnt about a pound of body fat.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: To me, burning a pound of body fat a week was um was horribly slow.
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: But for some people, it works out very good.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: But that's what ends up happening.
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: The issue that I've seen, at least, and I've experienced myself, is your metabolism also starts to reduce.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: So after a while, after you've shaved off those 500 calories through caloric restriction per day, your metabolism now, instead of burning 2,500, has readjusted itself to 2,000 and this continues to a certain point, to a certain point where your body believes it's fasting or not eating.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, uh a water fast indicates or would mean that you're not eating any food of any type.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: There are some studies out there that say, well, you can have this amount of calories and so on.
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_00: Your body's still going to consider it fasting.
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_00: There's probably arguments out there to be said regarding whether your body goes into autophagy, which is basically a cellular cleansing.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's a cannibalism of sorts, of malignant cells, bad cells, and these sorts of things that really in our body we never get to unless we go without eating for a longer period of time.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: I've heard some doctors say that's 24, 36, 48, 72 hours, and that's when autophagy kicks in.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: If you've never gone a date without eating, it's going to be quite unpleasant for the most part.
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: But two or three days later, you know, not bad.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: And what ends up happening is a lot of people are for concern, oh my God, if I miss one meal, I go crazy.
• 9:59
  SPEAKER_00: With regard to fasting, if you miss one meal, of course.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: And for the next few days, if you're going to do a longer fast, you will start to feel the hunger pains around the times you normally eat.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe day one, you kind of get through it, you muscle through it, willpower through it.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: Day two, when it comes the time for your breakfast or your breakfast meal, the first day that you would normally eat, at that time you're going to be quite hungry.
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_00: What's cool though is ghrelin, the hunger hormone, that's what's making you hungry at the normal times you eat.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: It is cyclic.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_00: So it will come up and it will peak and it's going to drive you nuts.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_00: About an hour and a half, two hours later, it'll calm down, basically giving up but being finished trying to get you to eat.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: But then when it comes to lunchtime, ghrelin's gonna climb again to the top of the peak and it'll be the same thing.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: Over time, from experience, two, three, four days in, the ghrelin seems to subside quite a bit.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_00: It's in fact not that much of an issue.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: After that point, it comes a habitual thing where you're bored or you're usually doing something, or maybe you're eating with somebody else, and that's part of your fun.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: You guys do it together.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's a problem, especially if they're not on the same page and they're standing or cooking or dangling things in front of you that could actually make you want to break your deal that you've had with yourself to continue for a certain period of time.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: The nice thing about water fasting is if you get to a point where you feel like you have some kind of a major medical issue and you believe eating again or refeeding at a particular time would fix it, you can, of course, break it.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: You're not locked into a prison starving yourself.
• 11:40
  SPEAKER_00: In addition, what's kind of cool about fasting is it does give you access to your stored body fat.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: The same thing happens in a ketogenic type diet.
• 11:49
  SPEAKER_00: When you're eating uh just basically fat and protein, you've cut out all the sugar uh in any form, whether it's from fruits or starches from any of those other sources of carbohydrates.
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_00: So you're able to access that body fat.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: But fasting itself has that extra component.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_00: In addition, a couple other things that really kind of meant a lot to me is with the fasting, you actually have uh your growth growth hormone increase after a period of time.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: When you're not eating for a day or two or three, what ends up happening is your body secretes um a lot more growth hormone than it normally does, just to deal with to preserve muscle and so on.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: When you are cutting out all food, just like caloric restriction, well, just like any period in your life, you should be doing some kind of resistance training.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um should be lifting weights, whether it's just a couple dumbbells and you have a chair at your house, or you're gonna do standing movements, you should do something to challenge your muscle, you know, every day, every other day.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna be sore if you're just starting out, grabbing a couple dumbbells, doing some shoulder presses or some curls or tricep extensions or whatever it may be.
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_00: You can look all stuff on YouTube, but you can look it up and see different movements just with dumbbell exercises, but it will challenge you.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, some people say, Oh, you got to go to a gym, you need motivation there.
• 13:11
  SPEAKER_00: Frankly, I believe if you have to go to a gym to get motivated to work out, it's probably not the thing that's gonna stick.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: Same thing in business.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: If you need a coach, coaches are great, by the way, fat loss or in business, but if you need them for the sole purpose of motivating you, then that's not really, you're probably not cut out for that business.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: If you're hiring them to lead you and to show you the best ways to handle various aspects of building a business and putting a business into motion, then that's great.
• 13:47
  SPEAKER_00: If you're hiring a fat loss coach to guide you through that process and motivation isn't what you need, then that's great too.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: But if it comes down to motivation, frankly, if you need it, you're probably not ready.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: And how long is it going to take you to be ready?
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: That's definitely a personal conversation you have to have with yourself.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: If you're going through the process and you're constantly reflecting and wondering when you're going to be ready, sad to say, if you don't get ready pretty soon, you might continue and you might check out of this world being obese as a result of that extra body fat.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_00: There are so many people out there that are looking for the secret weapon.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_00: There's different medicines now that the FDA has approved that you can take, injecting right into your belly.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: They don't hurt at all, and they actually give your appetite, they suppress it quite well.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: There are side effects.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: Everything has a side effect.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, fasting, if you're taking medicine, could have a side effect.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're one of those people that shouldn't be fasting at all.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_00: But ultimately, when you're taking something into your body in the form of a drug, again, there's issues that could come up with that.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: You have to do your full research.
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember some of the things, some of the habits that people formed back in the day.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: The doctors didn't have any issue with it.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: Cigarettes being an example until after a time they figured out that these things were causing people to have all sorts of issues.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: Same thing with the food pyramid.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_00: That was viewed as being the way to eat, where you have that bottom layer of the food pyramid nice and wide, and it was grains and carbohydrates and starches and hoorah.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_00: That should be a base, and at the very top was the fat and meat, and you shouldn't have a lot of it, that sort of thing.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, you flip that on his head, as they did in a uh one of the cartoons here recently, saving they solved the issue.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: South Park, I guess it was.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's where people should be eating, but we were sold a different bill of goods.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: If you look at the way the monetization and the food conglomerates are, and you look at the way that they sell it, the way that they commercialize it, the way that they put it out there for all of us, it's really tragic because those foods are so easily, easy to become addicted to.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I remember many times, literally countless times, being in line at Jack in the Box to get 12 tacos, two large French fries, and a couple shakes.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: That was a habitual habit that I had.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: You have to break that cycle and break those habits.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: You have to start to embrace habits that are going to get you where you want to be.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: This is a journey.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't ever gotten to where I can say, okay, that's it.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: Now I can relax.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: It seems like it's something I needed to prepare for and just say, you know what?
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_00: This is going to be the way my lifestyle is going to be from here until the end.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_00: And if there are better portions in there, if I'm able to fight off the fat demon and fight off, you know, being addicted to food for longer periods of time, and then eventually it becomes a habit, and then I trim off quite a bit of fat, and then I'm able to continue the process, then good job.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_00: But it's still never always done.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: There's going to be times where you might give in, when you might break it, when you might sabotage it.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: The trick is continuing at that moment you've realized as you're stuffing that 12th taco into your mouth, chewing it, and your mouth is burning because they're hot, and you got to eat them before anybody else finds out that you're basically cheating on everyone.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um there comes that time when you say, Whoops, let's get back on it.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: Forgive yourself and move on.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: To be able to maintain after dropping a lot of fat, that happens.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: What you'll end up realizing is if you're poor and depressed, being fat doesn't help.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: If you're rich and wealthy, being being thin is good too.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: So you have to look at both ends of it.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if that made sense, but I would rather be leaner, you know, without work, without a job on the street, than obese in those same circumstances.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: So no matter where life is, at least for me, it feels better to be in better shape than it does worse shape.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: In addition, there's a lot of money to be made from folks such as us that uh have addiction with food and other things.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Don't give anybody the satisfaction of staying in your present state if you happen to be obese, and if you happen not to like it.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: I've met plenty of people that are very happy with themselves and their current state.
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_00: This video isn't for them.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: You go be you.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm very impressed with people that are that way.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_00: I was never comfortable in my own skin.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's a daily effort.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm still not comfortable there.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, maybe something in this video gave you some kind of motivation, maybe it helped you, maybe it answered a question, maybe it gave you some reason to move on and to forgive yourself and to start your process or continue your process or whatever your process.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with Honor.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for watching.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: We'll see you in the next one.