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Fuck You: Complainers · Let's Get Naked

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey everyone, I'm Anne.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to an FU Mini episode of Let's Get Naked.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here with Casey today, and today we're going to be complaining about complainers.
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  SPEAKER_00: My favorite.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, this is as I was putting together which ones I wanted to do for the FU minis, it's kind of uh the series of four that I'm doing ends up being things that I think we all have control over and we just don't realize how um how not great for us it is to be to be the one that's complaining.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, uh in life I look back at different things that I found myself complaining about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if there's things that are on repeat, it's like that's a flashing neon light for you of something that needs attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're complaining about the exact same thing over and over, like what does that get for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it just feels gross.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but it's just a trigger to something needs to be worked on.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: Right, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um, but but I think there's those people that are out there that literally complain about anything.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's like I think we all know those people that are like, it doesn't matter what happens in their life, they're complaining about how hot it is outside, how cold it is outside, how fucking this is, how that is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just traffic.
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  SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like everything is a complete complaint.
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  SPEAKER_00: And and to me, it's that that's the perspective of coming from the negative, and you're gonna find exactly what you're looking for, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you wanted to maybe try the other way just to see if that might, you know, be a better way for you to go about stuff, yeah, highly recommend, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the traffic is gonna be what the traffic is gonna be.
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  SPEAKER_00: The weather is going to be what the weather is going to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you find yourself in, you know, your job and you're gonna complain about your job, fucking do something about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we just get this one life.
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  SPEAKER_00: People, people live like time is unlimited.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't understand that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like today's a gift.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're gonna fucking complain about something, either, either complain once and then move on, or uh, or do something about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you're if you're this person that just keeps complaining about the same job over and over and you've worked there for 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, fucking do something about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't do like, oh, I can't because I'm this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life is life is not meant to be miserable.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're living it in life in this from this perspective of um, you know, oh, this is gross and I don't want to do this, and you're trudging through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you doing that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, do you think you get an award at the end if you torture yourself the most?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, uh people choosing to be miserable.
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  SPEAKER_00: People that complain all the time are exhausting, they're exhausting to be around.
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  SPEAKER_00: Positive people uh will not tolerate shit like that very much, you know, because you just find that it's like I don't feel good after I'm done spending time with Bill because all Bill does is complain about shit that he has absolute control over or things that he doesn't have control over, in which case, why are you complaining about it?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's like if you're not happy with where you live because the weather isn't your vibe, fucking move somewhere else.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're complaining because it's a rainy day or whatever, grow up.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not children anymore.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, what the hell's going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: Energy is everything.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: And most of us are spending it like drunk gamblers at a Vegas blackjack table.
• 2:56
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're tired of running on empty, this book will show you how to fill back up and keep yourself in the game long enough to actually win.
• 3:16
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• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, also, you know, I I love the whole show me the receipts.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_00: What have you actually done to improve the things you won't shut up about?
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  SPEAKER_00: I just when people complain to me about it, it's like, okay, and then what happened?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I don't want to hear it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's funny because when when Belinda and I were doing stuff earlier in the day, uh, I left my first husband pretty abruptly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she's like, you didn't really complain about it until it was over.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, yeah, why would I?
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't ready to do anything about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what am what am I gonna do?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just bitch about how unhappy I am?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or or wait until I'm ready to do something about it and then say, I'm doing something about it now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just don't come from this place of all of that negative energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think every time you complain, it just feels like, it just feels like what it would look like as a if a teenager came and like sat down on the couch and was like, you know what I mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a complaint.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's exactly what it's like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Doesn't it feel like that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like that's what complaints feel like to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're the one that's at the office in the morning complaining about whatever it is, I don't even give a shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it doesn't matter what some of the things are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, some people are just they're addicted to the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't have any interest or intentions in making themselves better or doing anything that's different, but nobody else wants to be around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, if you want to be the victim and like complain about everything, that's great.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know, nobody agreed to carry your emotional trash.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep it moving.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep it moving.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a whole thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, what else do we have on here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your life follows your focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: If all you look for is what sucks, congratulations.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll find it everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a great, that's a really great point.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you're gonna find what you're looking for, regardless of if it's positive or if it's negative.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to be rooted in gratitude, you're gonna find things to be grateful for everywhere if that's what you're looking for.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're rooted in negativity and and complaining mentality, you're also gonna find that everywhere as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But know that you're sucking the life out of your friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you're a complainer, and also you should just ask your friends, let this let this be the PSA that it is, ask your friends, do you find me to be a negative complainer and then listen when they speak?
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't get defensive, um, because you're exhausting.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're if you're that complainer, it, you know, and and we all have those people in our lives, some of some of which we can't get rid of because they're family, and I totally get that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's exhausting to be around you if you're a complainer that wants to come from the negative all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So uh maybe think about doing something different with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then I have I'm gonna leave the the final thought as a a question.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, for chronic complainers, what exactly are you hoping happens after the 900th time that you tell us the same problem?
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  SPEAKER_00: Get curious about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's all we're gonna say about that.