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When Life Gets Real ( Autism Barbie + Mary J Blige Vegas Residency) · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: I'm a homegrow that knows a little bit about everything
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  Speaker 1: and everybody. You know, if you don't lie about that, right,
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  Speaker 1: Lauren came in, Hey, y'all, what's up. It's Laura Lo
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  Speaker 1: Rosa and this is the latest with Laura Lo Rosa
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  Speaker 1: this year that we did on all things pop culture, entertainment,
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  Speaker 1: news and all of the conversations that shake the room.
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  Speaker 1: Baby now today checking in behind the scenes of the Grind.
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  Speaker 1: I am exhausted. I got zero to no sleep last night.
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  Speaker 1: I think I got about maybe an hour and a
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  Speaker 1: half two hours of sleep. My aunt Phyllis and my
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  Speaker 1: grandmom came up. My aunt Phyllis is my grandmother's younger sister,
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  Speaker 1: and also my god mom came up to stay with
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  Speaker 1: me because my aunt really wanted to go, like they
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  Speaker 1: wanted to come and go to the Breakfast club and
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  Speaker 1: you know, see the ins and out to the show
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  Speaker 1: in person and you know all that stuff. They came
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  Speaker 1: up and it was, you know, it was a rough night.
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  Speaker 1: My grandmother is dang near ninety years old, but you
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  Speaker 1: would not be able to tell. She is very independent,
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  Speaker 1: does her own thing all that stuff, right, But last
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  Speaker 1: night she so she has like a weak heart. She's
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  Speaker 1: had two stint surgeries already just within my lifetime. And
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  Speaker 1: for those of you us who don't know what the
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  Speaker 1: stint surgery is, a stint surgery is when they go
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  Speaker 1: into your heart and they put something in there to
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  Speaker 1: help the blood flow, to make it where like you're
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  Speaker 1: able to breathe and your heart is operating or functioning
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  Speaker 1: the way that it should be functioning. So my Grandmoma's
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  Speaker 1: had that surgery twice. The last time she had it,
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  Speaker 1: I talk a lot about about it here on the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Was that was, you know, the kind of like the
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  Speaker 1: final thing that brought me back to the East coast. So,
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  Speaker 1: you know, when Diller with my mom's stuff and trying
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  Speaker 1: to figure all that out, I was like, Okay, my
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  Speaker 1: time left in la is winding down. It just was
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  Speaker 1: getting to a point where I couldn't be across the
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  Speaker 1: country while caring for my mom. And then my grandma
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  Speaker 1: was you know, she's older, but she's they're both still
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  Speaker 1: very independent. And then you know, her heart stuff. You know,
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  Speaker 1: she went back through all that again and we found
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  Speaker 1: out that it was a many heart attacks. So I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: all right, Beck coming back. So to see her last
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  Speaker 1: night because the difference between last night in the time
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  Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three, it's like in the twenty twenty two,
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty three I think it was, Yeah, it was
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  Speaker 1: more twenty twenty three, so it might have been like
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  Speaker 1: the first couple months of twenty twenty three. I've never
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  Speaker 1: been with her when any of these episodes are happening.
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  Speaker 1: So I got my grandmom and my mom. But my
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  Speaker 1: mom just refuses to wear her. She just doesn't want to.
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  Speaker 1: She's still going through that phase of like, no, this
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  Speaker 1: is not happening to me. I'm good, I'm good, I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: But my grandmother wears her ADYT Life Alert. She wears
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  Speaker 1: it in a risk like almost like a watch, and
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  Speaker 1: then she also has it on a necklace and also
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  Speaker 1: on a key chain on her phone. So last time
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  Speaker 1: this happened, I was alerted by ADYT. I'm her contacts
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  Speaker 1: like in kids of any you know, emergency, and they
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  Speaker 1: called him, was like, hey, she's having issues breathing. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't hang up, and they send ambulance right to the house.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't hang up call her. She could barely talk,
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  Speaker 1: so I get her off the phone. But I just
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  Speaker 1: had my mom, you know, get to the house, and
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  Speaker 1: we got into the hospital. My drum in La. We
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  Speaker 1: got to the hospital. They get to the hospital and
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  Speaker 1: they do some checkups on her and they see that
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  Speaker 1: it was like, you know, they see the signs of
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  Speaker 1: a small heart attack. Last night, she got up to
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  Speaker 1: use the bathroom. And it's not even a big distance
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  Speaker 1: between my living room and my bathroom, but she got
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  Speaker 1: up to use the bathroom. And it was like late.
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  Speaker 1: It was probably like one o'clock. So I'm sleep, my
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  Speaker 1: aunt's sleep, We're all sleep aber in the house asleep.
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  Speaker 1: She wakes up to go to the bathroom, and I
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  Speaker 1: don't even know if she made it to the bathroom,
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  Speaker 1: to be honest with you, I can't even remember that.
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  Speaker 1: But she was calling my name, but she could barely
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  Speaker 1: call my name, and I like, I woke up and
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  Speaker 1: I hear her, and I'm like, what's happening? But I
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  Speaker 1: thought she had just woke up and the TV wasn't on,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, she's in dark. She's in my house,
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  Speaker 1: and she wanted the TV on. So I'm getting up
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  Speaker 1: and then I hear her breathing and I hear how
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  Speaker 1: she can barely say my name. So I start freaking out.
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  Speaker 1: I wake my eye up calling like I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: call nine one one, but my Grandma's like begging me
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  Speaker 1: not to. She's just like, no, I just need ask her.
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  Speaker 1: So she's begged me to get to ask for. So
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  Speaker 1: I get asked for. She takes two of them. She's like,
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  Speaker 1: I just need to sit and calm down, but she's
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  Speaker 1: like holding her chest, and I'm like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: what's happening right now? So even after she calmed down
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  Speaker 1: and like all the things that you know came after that,
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  Speaker 1: I still was like, what the heck is happening right now?
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  Speaker 1: So I couldn't sleep, and so I think I got
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  Speaker 1: about like a twenty minute nap after I left the
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  Speaker 1: breakfast club this morning and I came here to the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: But one of the things that I realized last night too,
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  Speaker 1: is just physically, like her mobility is just not I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, I feel like it's almost different than when
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  Speaker 1: I just saw her at Christmas and at Thanksgiving, Like
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm back and forth home a lot more
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  Speaker 1: now because I'm closer, and I feel like things have
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  Speaker 1: like drastically changed just over like weeks Spain, right, So
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  Speaker 1: that's scared. So I'm thinking about, you know, all these things.
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  Speaker 1: There's stairs in her house, there's this, there's that she
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  Speaker 1: can barely make it to my bedroom or my bathroom,
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  Speaker 1: how she climbed stairs. And I'm just like, oh my God,
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  Speaker 1: Like I feel like I'm back in that space again
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  Speaker 1: of where I was some years ago, where I was
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  Speaker 1: trying to figure out because my first thought is like,
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  Speaker 1: I wish she could just live with me, but I
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  Speaker 1: know she doesn't want to just live with me because
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  Speaker 1: her biggest thing is you work too much, You always move,
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  Speaker 1: you always going. So just trying to figure that out. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: shouts of doctor Puma. He is a big heart, heart
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  Speaker 1: doctor in New York. We talked about him a lot,
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  Speaker 1: you know, on the Breakfast Club because he does run
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  Speaker 1: you know, he does like different partnerships with Power one
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  Speaker 1: of five one. But when I talked about, you know,
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  Speaker 1: what I was going through my mom's insurance situation, which
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  Speaker 1: we were able to figure out, he had reached out
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  Speaker 1: and said, hey, I'll do whatever you know, free of coss.
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  Speaker 1: My mom's doctors were also saying the same thing, so
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  Speaker 1: we figured it out luckily. But I called him today
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  Speaker 1: and was trying to get my grandma to go to him.
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  Speaker 1: She would not go. But you know, all these thoughts
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  Speaker 1: in my head are just like compounding right now, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, what is life like? The circle of life
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  Speaker 1: is so insane. It's like you're young, you're a kid.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is great, everything's amazing, you don't know anything, you're
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  Speaker 1: super optimistic. You start growing up, you start realizing stuff.
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  Speaker 1: You go through bad times, you go through good times.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just you know, I'm at a
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  Speaker 1: point now in life where like I'm literally living my dream.
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  Speaker 1: I'm able to enjoy things a lot differently. I'm able
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  Speaker 1: to like, you know, help out like my family again,
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  Speaker 1: and like just all this stuff since quitting a job,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and like financially like things stopping and not
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  Speaker 1: knowing where I would go career wise. After that, things
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  Speaker 1: are really in a good space. Like I'm really like,
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  Speaker 1: I've really been blessed, but I started wondering today, Like
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  Speaker 1: those blessings are amazing, But man, when I tell you,
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  Speaker 1: they don't mean nothing when you sitting there watching your
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  Speaker 1: grandmam trying to figure out if she can breathe or not,
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  Speaker 1: and I just normally I can solve the problem with
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  Speaker 1: this situation. I'm just like, even if she goes to doctors,
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  Speaker 1: which I have to push her to do. I found
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  Speaker 1: a really great black woman doctor in Delaware who's a
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  Speaker 1: heart surgeon. She's like one of the best in the state.
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  Speaker 1: Begging her to go there. I'll actually call her when
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  Speaker 1: she leaves here. I'm like, I want her to go
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  Speaker 1: today to the er, and then that doctor will go
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  Speaker 1: and see her in the er. But even if that happens,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, I mean, you just don't know, Like things
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  Speaker 1: just happen so fast, and I just I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what to do. It's like do you, like do you
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  Speaker 1: stop living life? And like what I want to do
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  Speaker 1: is is just like sit up under and watch her
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  Speaker 1: all long and just make sure she's okay. But then
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I gotta go to work. I got bills
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  Speaker 1: to pay, Like what is the equal lip? Like what
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  Speaker 1: is the middle point here? Like at this point in
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  Speaker 1: life when your parents and your grandparents are getting older
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  Speaker 1: and that circle of life is like like it's like
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  Speaker 1: reverse now, like what do you do while you're balancing
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  Speaker 1: everything else in life? So behind the scenes of the grind,
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  Speaker 1: I'm having a very real conversation with myself just about
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't even think you can answer that question.
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  Speaker 1: To be honest with you, I think you do everything
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  Speaker 1: you can do until you can't do anymore. But you
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  Speaker 1: want to solve a problem like that, Like if I
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  Speaker 1: can solve any problem in my life today, answer any question,
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  Speaker 1: get any details, you know, reach out on anything. Is that?
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  Speaker 1: And you know, I was making calls on my way
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  Speaker 1: here before I started working on what we're gonna talk
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  Speaker 1: about today on the podcast, and I talked to doctor Puma,
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  Speaker 1: I talked to here in New York, the heart doctor
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  Speaker 1: here in New York, I call my girls, you know,
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  Speaker 1: heart doctor, And I don't know, it still just feels
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  Speaker 1: like you're not doing enough because it also she is
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  Speaker 1: still an adult who makes her own decisions and she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want to go to the hospital. So I'm like
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  Speaker 1: in the midst of like work but like also like life,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel like I haven't felt like this since
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  Speaker 1: it's probably been since my mom's cancer situation happened, where
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  Speaker 1: I was like trying to figure out, like what is
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  Speaker 1: that middle point and trying to get to that so
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  Speaker 1: I can still work and be cool and like enjoy
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  Speaker 1: my life. But also I feel guilty for not because
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  Speaker 1: I started thinking, like dang, like what is it like
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  Speaker 1: when she's home and she doesn't live by herself, but
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  Speaker 1: like people aren't attentive to her as I would be,
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  Speaker 1: or you know, and my brother is you know, not
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  Speaker 1: too far from her, so you know, there's a conversation
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to have with him as well too, like
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  Speaker 1: I gotta figure something out. I don't know, So anybody
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  Speaker 1: out there that has dealt with this, I think being
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  Speaker 1: a caretaker for the people that you love is just
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  Speaker 1: it's such a it's such a mental battle because you
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  Speaker 1: even your solutions don't feel like solutions because you really
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  Speaker 1: just don't know. It's like this is like some it's
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  Speaker 1: literally like a nightmare. Sometimes it's like you just there's
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  Speaker 1: nothing you can do but just like wake up and
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  Speaker 1: get out of it, and then evening you might slip
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  Speaker 1: back into it depending on what happens the next day.
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  Speaker 1: So of course I cracked about it already, and I
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm like big and believing that like God,
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  Speaker 1: God got things under control. But I have had a
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  Speaker 1: very human day and a very human a lot of
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  Speaker 1: human moments today where I'm like, oh, but like what
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  Speaker 1: if he doesn't, So we're gonna get on into the
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  Speaker 1: latest I wanted to talk about.
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  Speaker 2: Uh.
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  Speaker 1: I just saw the story and I just thought, because
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  Speaker 1: like I said, I've been having these caretaker conversations with
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  Speaker 1: myself and in my head all day long, and I
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  Speaker 1: saw that Mattel had just dropped A autistic barbie is
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  Speaker 1: one of the first ever autistic barbies in this new doubt.
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  Speaker 1: It's a part of their Fashionista collection. So this collection
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  Speaker 1: is where they do dolls that have you know, different
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  Speaker 1: thing like different hair texture, different skin color, body types,
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  Speaker 1: health conditions. We talked about the diabetes the type one
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  Speaker 1: diabetes barbie as well too here on the podcast as well.
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  Speaker 1: They also have a down syndrome Barbie, a blindness barbie.
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  Speaker 1: So it's a diverse and wide range of things that
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  Speaker 1: these Fashionista barbies are representing in their existence. And now
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  Speaker 1: there is an autism barbie. So Mattel worked with a
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  Speaker 1: nonprofit called Autistic Self Advocacy. It's a network that is
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  Speaker 1: designed to represent roughly one and thirty one children who
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  Speaker 1: are diagnosed with autism by the age of eight in
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  Speaker 1: the United States. In the United States, and Mattel worked
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  Speaker 1: with this network. This organization to design the Barbie, And
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  Speaker 1: when I first saw the headline, my first question was
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  Speaker 1: how because everything with the Barbie is physical. The Barbie's on,
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  Speaker 1: press the button and they make noises. It's all like
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  Speaker 1: a physical representation of something. So my first thought was,
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  Speaker 1: how do you physically represent in like autism, Like for me,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I know that there are you know, various
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  Speaker 1: features just in like physical features of a person, but
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  Speaker 1: Barbie also comes with like you know, there's various clothing
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  Speaker 1: and there's there's just so much that Barbie comes with. So,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because we did the story in the type
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  Speaker 1: one diabetes Barbie, I was wondering, like, what are they
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  Speaker 1: going to like how do they do that? So this
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  Speaker 1: Barbie carries a pink fidget spinner that actually spends, whereas
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  Speaker 1: pink noise cancelation have phones to reduce sensory overload, which
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  Speaker 1: is these are very common things amongst autistic people and children.
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  Speaker 1: The barbie holds a pink tablet that represents an augmentative
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  Speaker 1: alternative communication device. This is called the AAC, So the
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  Speaker 1: AAC device, And you know what's so crazy? Every time
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  Speaker 1: one of these new Barbies drop that represents something so
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  Speaker 1: niche like you know, like this like autism Barbie or
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  Speaker 1: a type one diabetes Barbie. Just in the research of
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  Speaker 1: the reporting, I learned so much about what people's journeys
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  Speaker 1: are like walking through the world differently in that way.
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  Speaker 1: So I know people are I said it to say,
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  Speaker 1: I know people are are so learning just from reading
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  Speaker 1: the reports and hearing the reports on the news. So
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  Speaker 1: the AAC device helps people with speech language problems communicate.
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  Speaker 1: So the barbie also does have eyes that shift slightly
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  Speaker 1: to the side, reflecting how some people autism avoid direct
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  Speaker 1: eye contact. Now, as far as the barbie's close, the
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  Speaker 1: barbie has a purple pinstriped dress that is purposely flowy.
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  Speaker 1: They didn't go into detail of why the barbie's dress
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  Speaker 1: was flowing, so of course it made me ask more questions,
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  Speaker 1: and what I found out was that the dress is
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  Speaker 1: loose fitting, it short sleeved, and a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: that have sensory you know challenges, like autistic people prefer
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  Speaker 1: flowy things, prefer you know a lot of like fabric
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  Speaker 1: and things not touching their skin just because of the sensitivity.
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  Speaker 1: So there's sensory processing differences and sometimes they even have
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  Speaker 1: like their hyper sensitive to like tactile and various like
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  Speaker 1: fabrics and textures and things of that nature. So everything
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  Speaker 1: down from the Barbie's heads to the Barbie's tolls represents
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  Speaker 1: what it is like to walk through life as a
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  Speaker 1: person with autism, which goes beyond barbies as well too.
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  Speaker 1: Like I saw CNN as in an interview with a
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  Speaker 1: young girl who also has autism, and you know, but
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  Speaker 1: they were talking a bit about like how seen she
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  Speaker 1: felt just because of the Barbie successories, like the headphones
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  Speaker 1: are things that she wears often, the tablet she walks
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  Speaker 1: around with as well too. But then in the scene
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  Speaker 1: in article there was also mentioned of a thirty two
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  Speaker 1: year old who also you know, found this barbie superher
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  Speaker 1: helpful and encouraging. So the Barbie not just being for
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  Speaker 1: younger children, but for you know, people who are grown
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  Speaker 1: adults who also are caring for themselves through their autism journey.
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  Speaker 1: Now picking it up in some lighter news, Mary J.
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  Speaker 1: Blige just celebrated her fifty fifth birthday. Okay, Mary looks amazing.
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  Speaker 1: She just celebrated her fifty fifth birthday, and she said
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  Speaker 1: that she had a surprise for the people on her birthday.
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  Speaker 1: And the surprise is that Mary j Blige is headed
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  Speaker 1: to Vegas. Oh, I can't like today? Has it like?
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  Speaker 3: This?
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  Speaker 1: Was such She's good announcement to see today. I took
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  Speaker 1: my mom to the Marriage Oblige concert. It was a
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  Speaker 1: few years ago when Mary j Oblige. I believed that
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  Speaker 1: was twenty twenty two. Mary j Oblige was being honored
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  Speaker 1: by BT. She was receiving like one of the icon
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  Speaker 1: or like Lifetime achieved a word type of things. So
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  Speaker 1: she had like her own concert within the BT Awards
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  Speaker 1: weekend in La. And my mom and my aunt flew
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  Speaker 1: in and we went to the concert, and that was
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  Speaker 1: one of the best concerts I've ever been to. It
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  Speaker 1: was we all knew the music from start to finish.
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  Speaker 1: We had such a great time. Mary j Blige is
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  Speaker 1: the type of performer that leaves nothing on the stage. Now,
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  Speaker 1: she might get tired, y'all might see her tired just
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  Speaker 1: holding the microphone to the crowd. But let me tell
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  Speaker 1: you something before she gets to that point, sings down.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, when I saw Mary j Oblige in LA
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  Speaker 1: for the BT Awards, she was down on her knees
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  Speaker 1: like I thought she was gonna break down crying. At
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  Speaker 1: one point, and this was not too far after when
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  Speaker 1: I had seen her in concert. Anyway, this wasn't too
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  Speaker 1: far after. You know, shit went through that really big
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  Speaker 1: public divorce and talked about how she had to work
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  Speaker 1: to pay off certain things when they came to the
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  Speaker 1: divorce and what her ex husband was awarded. So she
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  Speaker 1: was going through a lot, but married je Oblige and
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  Speaker 1: announcing this Marria je Oblige, My life, my story towards
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  Speaker 1: says Vegas. Are you ready? I'm so excited to announce
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  Speaker 1: my first ever Lost Vegas residency. The dates that this
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  Speaker 1: will take place or May first to the ninth and
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  Speaker 1: July tenth through the sixteenth at the Adobe Live at
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  Speaker 1: Park MGM. Get your tickets, so tickets go and sell
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  Speaker 1: this Friday, Friday's Day's January sixteenth. So tickets for the
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  Speaker 1: Mary ja Oblige Residency in Vegas, the first ever residency,
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  Speaker 1: go on sale January sixteenth. Your girl, I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: tell you guys, I'm going and if I'm going, low riders,
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  Speaker 1: y'all are going right with me. But marriage Oblige. Align
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  Speaker 1: this announcement with an appearance on the Sherry Shepherd's Show.
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  Speaker 1: So these clips this interview was breaking currently. I literally
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  Speaker 1: just sa as I was sitting down preparing that, just
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  Speaker 1: posted it to the Serry Shepherd TV Instagram. She went
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  Speaker 1: on Serff Shepherd and she announced the residency and gave
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  Speaker 1: some details about how it came about. Because and I
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  Speaker 1: reached out to Mary jy Oblige's team because I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to know. I'm like, Mary J. Blige is not like
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  Speaker 1: this just doesn't like randomly happen, you know. I think
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  Speaker 1: Mary j Oblige some years ago could have She has
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  Speaker 1: a catalog big enough for a residency and has had
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  Speaker 1: that for years now. So this couldn't have been the
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  Speaker 1: first time she was off with this. This could have
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  Speaker 1: been the first conversation. I wanted to know how it
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  Speaker 1: all came about. So she talked to Sheriffy Shepherd about it.
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  Speaker 1: Shout out to Sheriff got got my exclusive. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: shout out to Serry Shepherd. Let's take a listen to
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  Speaker 1: marriagy Oblige.
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  Speaker 3: We're back with the legendary Mary J.
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  Speaker 1: Blige.
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  Speaker 2: She just.
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  Speaker 3: She just announced her residency. My life, My story in
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  Speaker 3: Las Vegas. Her, So this is your first Vegas residency,
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  Speaker 3: Like you travel all over the world.
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  Speaker 1: Why did you decide to do in las Vaga?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, well they can't. They came to me. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: I think it's time. You know, it's finally timed. This
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  Speaker 2: has been something that has been offered to me like
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  Speaker 2: a couple of times, right and I just don't think
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  Speaker 2: it was the right time. But right now it was
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  Speaker 2: the right time.
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  Speaker 1: I believe so, oh absolutely.
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  Speaker 3: When they said that, I was like, girls, trip were going,
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  Speaker 3: I'm getting out my girls. Let me tell you, I
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  Speaker 3: don't know if y'all ever have been to Mary's concert
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  Speaker 3: with your girlfriends. After Mary get done singing maybe two
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  Speaker 3: three songs, we ready to tear up everything.
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  Speaker 1: But Mary J. Blige also talked about because she's hint
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  Speaker 1: to that there being a new man in her life
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  Speaker 1: and a day end and all of that. She also
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  Speaker 1: talked a bit about that as well too and what
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  Speaker 1: that looks for looks like for her. Right now, let's
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  Speaker 1: take a listen to Mary J. Blige tell us about
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  Speaker 1: her new man and what her birthday gets from him.
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  Speaker 1: We're getting you had.
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  Speaker 3: Your turn up birthday party, you had your good dinner.
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  Speaker 3: Did your booth an get you anything special for your birthday?
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  Speaker 2: You know? He said you know, babe, what exactly do
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  Speaker 2: you want? You know, because you have everything. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I was just I kind of just really want you, right,
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  Speaker 2: you know, all right, and you can give me whatever
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  Speaker 2: it is you want to get me, but you know
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  Speaker 2: I'll take you over any kind of.
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  Speaker 1: Look at that. What literally you in a relationship? I
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  Speaker 1: love this? What are your relationship must have?
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  Speaker 2: Just consistency, consistency, time, honesty, yes, and laughter like laughter
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  Speaker 2: and friendship first is key for me, right, the friendship
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  Speaker 2: in the relationship is key for me.
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  Speaker 3: And you go through so much Jesus, I mean, you're
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  Speaker 3: so busy. Laughter is just the way you just be.
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  Speaker 1: You let go. If a man can make you laugh, well.
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  Speaker 2: If a man can make you laugh, you know that's
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  Speaker 2: your friend. You know so, And you want to have
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  Speaker 2: a friend first. You want to be able to when
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  Speaker 2: you have a hard time, to be able to converse
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  Speaker 2: about what you're we're not yelling and screaming because we
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  Speaker 2: don't get nowhere with that. I learned a lot in
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  Speaker 2: my years, y'alls, and now I'm just if we're not,
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  Speaker 2: if we can't discuss it, if I would love doesn't
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  Speaker 2: bring us back to our friendship, then we don't have
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  Speaker 2: a relationship, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm glad we could end on a lighter note, lowriders,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know like I love being super transparent with
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  Speaker 1: you guys. It's actually like it helps me because all
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  Speaker 1: day to day I've just been feeling not like a failure,
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  Speaker 1: but I just been feeling like I wish I could.
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  Speaker 1: I just hope that I'm present as present as I
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  Speaker 1: need to be for the people that I love, especially
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  Speaker 1: in their older ages, so that they're not suffering or
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  Speaker 1: going through anything alone. Because last night was so scary.
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  Speaker 1: I can't imagine my grandmother being in her house more
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  Speaker 1: immediately by herself, even there there's people in her house, She's
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  Speaker 1: waking up in a room by herself, going through that. So,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I'm glad we can't on a lighter note
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  Speaker 1: Mary J. Blige, which you know Mary's music gets you
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  Speaker 1: in your bag, but just to see her out there
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  Speaker 1: doing her thing with the Vegas residency and how iconic
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  Speaker 1: and amazing that it's going to be great news to hear.
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  Speaker 1: This has been another episode of the Latest with Laura
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  Speaker 1: La Rosa. I tell you, guys, every episode, you guys
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  Speaker 1: could be anywhere with anybody, but you choose to be
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  Speaker 1: right here with me, and I will tell y'all one
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  Speaker 1: thing as we close out. Mary J. Blige is like,
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  Speaker 1: there's always a list of people in my head that
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, if they never make another song again, if
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  Speaker 1: they never step on another stage again, If Mary J.
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  Speaker 1: Blige decided to go with her new men and we
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  Speaker 1: barely ever see her pinky, her toe, her eyelash ever again,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't even be upset at her. I think you work,
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  Speaker 1: and this is what I've been battling with all day
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  Speaker 1: in my mind, like with a with a career that
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  Speaker 1: is so demanding, there's so much that I'm just I'm
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  Speaker 1: praying that I'm just not missing and that I'm not
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  Speaker 1: you know, being unaware of or just leaving people to
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  Speaker 1: figure out on their own who shouldn't have to figure
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  Speaker 1: it out on their own when it comes to the
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  Speaker 1: people I love. When do you get to that, like,
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  Speaker 1: how do you know when you get to that point
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  Speaker 1: where you're like, you know what, I could take a
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  Speaker 1: step back a bit and just focus on my people.
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  Speaker 1: Mary j. Oblige is definitely one of those people, in
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  Speaker 1: my opinion, who has put in so much work where
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  Speaker 1: she is there, and I don't even think it's about
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  Speaker 1: her people. I think right now it's about her after
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  Speaker 1: everything she's been through in the career, that the long
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  Speaker 1: career that she's had. It's about ordering her. So I
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  Speaker 1: hope after this this you know, Vegas residency, she gets
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  Speaker 1: a little time to like, you know, sit still and
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  Speaker 1: just enjoy the things that you know, Marria je Oblige
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  Speaker 1: deserves enjoy a lot of times artists do Vegas residencies
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  Speaker 1: as well because they get to sit still a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: which is way less of a even though it's still
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  Speaker 1: work and she Mary puts on the show, there's not
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  Speaker 1: all a traveling that people are traveling to you, So
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  Speaker 1: I hope that she gets a reprieve there. It's not
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  Speaker 1: as many dates as we would typically see on like
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  Speaker 1: a crazy tour as well too, So yeah, all right, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: so for real this time we were heading out. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: guys for tuning in. This has been another episode of
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  Speaker 1: the Latest with Laur on the Roads in the podcast
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  Speaker 1: every single episode where you guys joined me again to
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  Speaker 1: talk about all the things. I appreciate you guys, my
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  Speaker 1: low riders. I will see you in my next episode