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Ep 70. Flip Your Language, Transform Your Life: The 'I Get To' Manifestation Reset · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Manifestation Station.
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We are here, we have made it yes
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you may have noticed the podcast is out a
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little teeny weeny weeny weeny little bit late again but
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it is a bank holiday if you'd seen the week I had oh
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my goodness I actually can't tell you everything about
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it because it's top secret I have been
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filming on a top secret project why
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am I telling you this because I am allowed to give you no information
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I have no idea and it's been a bank holiday
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here in the UK so I hope you've
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all had the most wonderful bank holiday weekends
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whether you were out and about barbecuing eating
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drinking family time nap time
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or working whatever you were doing I hope
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you're here and I'm very very very grateful you are
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here now because we're talking everything
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manifesting so whether you're walking driving doing
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your makeup doing the housework or simply
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just having a moment to yourself maybe it's your maybe it's your podcast hour
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is it your podcast hour are you like having a coffee you're having a walk and
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a podcast well then I'm very happy that you chose to listen to me in your ears
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and I think it's going to be a good one today.
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This episode is going to be.
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It's going to gently but powerfully lift the way that you see your entire life.
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And today we are talking about one tiny change, one teeny tiny small change
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that will completely transform your energy.
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And honestly, this is something that I started doing a couple of years ago.
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And I have to remind myself of this every now
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and again and go Holly remember what
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we spoke about and when I do this shift
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when I practice this myself things happen
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things change and the reason that I am going to tell you what this podcast is
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about in a second but before I do I'm going to tell you how it came about today
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so I was chatting to a lovely guy who's part of our family and part of our extended family.
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And he has recently turned 80. And he is lovely.
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He is, you wouldn't believe he's 80. He still has like such a thirst for life. And he...
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He's so sociable and he enjoys
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life and he actually to be
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fair he it's fair to him to say he just totally lives
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life whether he's pottering around or planning
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his next adventure he just lives life and he's
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been you know he's really healthy but he has had a few
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kind of ailments and kind of things that have tested his health recently and
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it's so funny because I was chatting to him on the phone the other day and he
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went oh do you know what he's got a few aches and pains he's he's having a few
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appointments and stuff at the moment he's had a problem with his vision.
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And he said what are you up to today and I said oh well I've got
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a day off and I'm doing this and he went you know
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what you should do I said what's that and he said put
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your trainers on and go for a run go for a
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walk and he said if I could do that now
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if I was your age that is exactly
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what I would do and he said it with you
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know when you kind of something takes your breath away
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and you think there was something in this moment and
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I realized that what he meant is that he is not in a position at the moment
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where he can put his trainers on and he's not in a position at the moment where
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his body is able to take him for a walk or a run he's not sprightly at the moment
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he's not particularly healthy at the moment.
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And I thought, what a simple thing he has just suggested to do.
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And I actually love walking. I love running. But it still doesn't mean that
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there are times, especially when I'm having a bit of a health kick moment,
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there are still times where I go, oh, I've got to go for a run.
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I've got to go for a run today. I know it will make me feel good,
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but it still sometimes feels like a bit of a slog. And.
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That is why this episode, we are talking about changing, I have to,
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to, I get to, I get to go for a run.
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Just, can we just take a moment for that small tweak there?
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One small tweak, one small word, swapping, I have to, to, I get to.
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Now we can utilize this and we can use this
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in so many areas of our lives
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that it is unreal honestly this is going to
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blow your mind it's going to change the way that
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you view everything that you do the chores
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the not so fun bits that we think are the not so
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fun bits and the reason that
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we're doing this everything about manifesting
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when we can just reframe when we can
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do small little tweaks that improve our lives
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but also improve our mindsets and our outlook on life then they're the things
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that actually on a day-to-day basis really improve our lives and improve and
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kind of help us to feel more content and live happier lives.
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So what is the life you're currently complaining about is actually the life
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that a past version of you once dreamed of.
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Think of that just for a moment. So, so many of us, like, we move through our
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days, don't we, on autopilot.
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We move through our days and we go, oh, I have to go to work.
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I have to cook the dinner. We're running around.
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We're doing all of our chores. I have to go to the gym. Oh, I've got to reply to my emails.
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And all of these lines, these simple lines that we might churn out on a regular basis,
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whether they're in our heads and we leave them just to be
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thoughts or they leave our mouths and we say them out loud it
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actually can feel quite heavy and it feels quite draining
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we might not realize that we're actually doing any damage
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and it feels like life is just
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happening to us but if we
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flip that just for a moment maybe we
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flip that to I get to go to work
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I get to cook the dinner I get
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to go to the gym I get to connect with people
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can you see the difference already even
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if we just change our terminology and we
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change how we deliver those sentences one the
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first one feels like pressure the other one
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the other one feels like a privilege isn't that an absolute shift in your energy
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and this is why it's really important to talk about why this shift actually
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works because it's not about being positive for the sake of it this is about
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energy and how you show up.
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On your day to day in your life. And when you say I have to,
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even if I just want you to take a minute as you're listening to this,
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just take a second and just think of yourself saying, I have to do this.
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I have to take the children to school.
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I have to drive to work. Oh, I have to go to work. I have to book on that course.
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When you say I have to, your brain registers it like it's an obligation,
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like it's a chore, it's forced as something being taken from you.
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So it can make it feel like you want to resist or you want to procrastinate,
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you feel drained before you've even started.
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But when you say, I get to,
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your brain, even subconsciously, shifts
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into one of gratitude into choice into
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empowerment and your energy suddenly
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expands so you move from resistance to willingness you you shift from lack to
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abundance and you shift from pressure to appreciation and that is your manifestation
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sweet spot because you don't attract more from a place of,
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oh, I have to, you actually attract more from a place of, wow, I get to.
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And the universe is always listening. If you're constantly going,
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oh, I have to, the universe is going, oh, okay, that's the energy you're on, no problem.
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We'll match that to give you more things to go, I have to do that.
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If you change that and shift that from, wow, I get to do it,
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the universe wakes up and goes, wow, what a great frequency this person is,
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you know, running from or running off of, I should say.
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And the universe goes, okay, I'm going to deliver more things that match that amazing frequency.
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So if we're looking at this in real life, instead of saying, oh, I have to go for a run,
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think of my lovely friend, my 80-year-old friend who would love nothing more
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than to go for a walk or a run, to be waking up in a fit, healthy body that
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could carry them around for a run.
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So if you're thinking, oh, I have to go for a run today, try to reframe and
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say, I get to go for my run.
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My body works. My legs carry me. My lungs breathe deeply.
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That is not something everybody gets to experience.
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Or instead of saying, I have to do the dishes, I get to do the dishes.
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I know this is a hard reframe. You're thinking, really?
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Do we really get to do the dishes? I know, I hear you. But the more that you
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do this, have fun with it.
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Play with it. Just give it a try. Instead of saying I have to do the dishes,
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say I get to do the dishes.
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I have food. I have a home. I deserve a clean, calm space to wake up in tomorrow.
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I'm so lucky that I get to clean my dishes and put them away in my beautiful home.
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Do you see where I'm going with this? Instead of saying I have to go to work.
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Shift that and tell yourself I get to go
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to work I get to earn money
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I get to build something I
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get to support myself my family and my
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future and also maybe while you're there just think maybe you're thinking I'm
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so grateful that I'm earning money in a job that I once dreamt of at one point
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you might have dreamt to just get that job the dream job or to get a well-paying
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job so even as something as simple as,
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and I like this one, this is something relevant to me.
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So when I'm working, when I'm filming, because if you don't know this about
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me, I also work in film and TV as a hair and makeup designer.
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I always have to get up really, really early for work. So this week I told you
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about the top secret project that I'm working on, which I cannot say anything about.
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Boring Holly, why even tease us with this? I hear you ask. And I,
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Now, my alarm clock, one of these filming days, but actually most of them, went off at 2.30 a.m.
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2.30 a.m. And can I just remind you, this isn't an early shift.
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This is just a whole day's worth of filming. So this isn't getting up at 2.30
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and coming back at midday or 2 p.m.
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This is 2.30. So I set my alarm, got up, left the house at quarter past three.
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Started work at about 4 o'clock a.m., I may add.
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Am and I didn't get home that night until about half past seven quarter to eight
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now that's a quite a normal filming day for me so this one for me this next
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one that I'm about to deliver to you,
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I have to wake up early I quite often do that oh I have to wake up early gotta
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go home tonight I have to wake up early I'm forced to set my alarm if I turn
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that around and say I get to wake up early,
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I get to wake up to another day of my life.
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Oh, doesn't that just sound so wonderful?
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And if you've been following me for a while, you'll know that a while back,
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about a year ago, I joined the 5am club.
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So I started getting up 5am, taking myself off for a walk in the morning and it changed my life.
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And I have to say, I probably embodied what I'm telling you now.
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I embodied the I get to wake up early. It became exciting and exhilarating.
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That's slightly different because I provided an action to kind of make me say
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I get to go, I get to wake up early.
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But for you guys, just to say, instead of having to wake up early,
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I get to wake up to another day of my life.
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Suddenly, I'm not kidding you, your life will feel different.
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Not because anything external has changed. And I think that's what's amazing about today's episode.
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You don't have to go and change anything externally.
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I'm not asking really much action from you at all.
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All I'm asking is a simple inner shift. And that's it.
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Because nothing has changed externally that you have. It's your mindset. It's your reframe.
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And that is what is going to create such a big shift. And that is going to have
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major repercussions when you're manifesting.
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So there will still be things that you don't feel like doing.
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And I want to remind you, it's not a case of you're suddenly going to be skipping
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around going, yay, I get to do all of these things that I hate and I'm going
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to do it with a spring in my step.
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Of course, there are always going to be things that you still don't want to do.
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This isn't about pretending that everything is amazing 24-7.
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It's about remembering that you have a choice in how you experience life.
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It is up to you. Are you choosing the positivity or are you going to sink into
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a place that drains you, that you feel forced or obligated to do these chores
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or do you have to choose the more positive path?
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It's about remembering you have this choice because in every mundane moment,
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even in the repetitive moments, even, even, even in the slightly annoying tasks,
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there's always something to be grateful for.
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And consider it again, like I said, play with it. If you go,
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oh, well, do you know what? That is still boring. Okay, give it a shot.
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Say, I get to do this. see what answers you can
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come up with by transforming one of those
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mundane tasks into I get to do this and see what comes up for you because when
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you train your brain to look for that your entire reality softens and this is
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where it gets really powerful because honestly it's not just about words,
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ask yourself this.
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Who is this version of me who says, I get to, I get to do this?
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Because that is future you. That is future you who values their life.
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That is future you who puts out gratitude instead of negativity, instead of lack.
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This is you, future grounded, grateful, present you who doesn't rush their life,
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who's not wishing their life away.
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This is future you who chooses their perspective.
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And when you start speaking like this future version of you,
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you start becoming like them.
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So this is so much bigger than just a simple tool of shifting your language.
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It's way bigger than this. The more you do this, you start to live your life
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through a different lens.
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You start to appreciate life through a different lens.
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And also as a result, the law of attraction, the universe will start bringing
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more amazing things into your life.
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So this is about becoming that future version of you.
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And your brain is constantly filtering your reality. So it looks for evidence
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to match what you believe.
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Now, this is actual science.
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This is we're talking neuralistic science here, guys. If you keep saying, I have to do everything.
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Life is hard. Everything is a chore.
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I have to go and do this miserable thing now.
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If you keep kind of spurting out all of these thoughts and words.
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Your brain, this is the neuroscience that backs this up, your brain goes,
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okay, got it. Let me show you more of that.
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Let me show you more of life is hard. Let me show you more of everything is a chore.
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Let me show you more of I have to do everything.
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The universe isn't punishing you. is not trying to teach you a lesson.
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It is simply matching your energy and matching your frequency.
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So it goes, okay, Holly, what do you want to tell me today? Oh, I have to do everything.
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No worries. Got it. Let me show you more of those things the law of attraction says.
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But when you shift to,
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I get to do this. There's something good here. I'm lucky to experience this.
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Your brain, just like before, starts scanning for evidence for that instead.
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So suddenly what happens? You notice more good moments. You feel lighter when
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you're doing your chores.
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You show up differently.
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You feel different. Just think again about my 80-year-old friend and how he
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would absolutely love to take himself for a walk, to take himself for a run,
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to have no worries about his body and his health because he has a healthy body that can carry him.
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And I think that's one way to also look at things.
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I always remember, do you remember lovely Balbabe who raised Deborah,
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who raised so much for bowel cancer when she was.
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Diagnosed a few years back and she sadly passed
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away didn't she you probably remember her and I
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always remember one thing that she said and she
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just said look whatever worries you have whatever
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like life is going on for you she said
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what I would love to do it
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makes me really sad thinking about it she said what I would love
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is to go outside and just
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walk and dance in the rain that is
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all I want to do today and it makes you
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realize it's all about perspective isn't it and yes life
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is real and you know hopefully you're fit and
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healthy and you're not struggling with disease or
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health problems but think of the simple things where some people won't be able
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to do the things that you are doing today whether you think they're chores whether
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you think they are just mundane tasks some people won't get to experience those
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whether that's cleaning the house because it's filthy,
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clearing out the washing basket.
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Some people probably maybe don't have a home yet, a house that they can call their own.
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Maybe children, maybe they're longing to have children. They wish their washing baskets were full.
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I know, trust me, it's a thing.
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But you will show up differently with this simple shift. so I want to give you
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something simple to try today for the next 24 hours.
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Just notice and catch yourself every time you say, I have to,
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just generally replace it with, I get to.
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It's all I need you to do. So catch yourself every time you say,
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I have to, because mark my words, you will be saying it more than you even think possible.
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I've given you some examples today, but you'll be surprised.
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Even the most positive people, myself included, as I'm reading and as I was
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researching this episode, I was thinking, I'm sure I've said things recently,
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definitely about my alarm. Oh, I have to get up early today.
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I'm going to change this. I'm going to do this for the next 24 hours myself.
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Catch yourself every time you
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say I have to and then do me a favor and gently replace it with I get to.
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That is it. There is no pressure. There is no perfection.
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This is just about noticing and simply shifting your terminology.
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It's just awareness. It's that simple.
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And even if it feels a little bit unnatural at first, you may have to kind of
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stop yourself, give yourself a little talking to because you are literally rewiring your brain.
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And that is what I love that I'm bringing you today.
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I hope that you manage to take this on because you have the ability to rewire
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your brain. and that is the science, the neuroscience behind this amazing reset.
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So this is what that might look like in your day.
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So whether you're doing this today or you're going to start tomorrow,
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I say start right now. Why not?
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You might say you wake up in the morning and you could say, I get to start again
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today. How lovely is that?
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I get to start again today.
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Maybe you check your phone and you can say, I get to connect with people.
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Can you see all of these small little moments that you have throughout your day?
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You can use this technique. I get to connect with people.
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Maybe you make your coffee and you can say, I get to enjoy this moment.
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If you're cleaning your space, cleaning your house, cleaning your kitchen,
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say, I get to create calm around me.
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These are micro moments. They are so simple, but yet the impact of them are absolutely huge.
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So when you can change the micro, you can actually change the macro.
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Oh my God, I should get that on a t-shirt. Isn't that great?
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If you can change the micro, you can change the macro.
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Now, if you've listened to any other of my episodes on this podcast,
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The Manifestation Station,
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you will know that one of my biggest things that I try to get across is that
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most of the time when we're manifesting and manifesting well,
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most of the time they are simple,
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small shifts.
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I don't think I ever give you any big, huge tasks to complete because I don't
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believe that that is what you need.
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This is about, I think, manifesting, raising your vibrations and jumping onto
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your right frequency, I believe everything is in the micro moments of your life.
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It's not the huge shifts. This is the everydays. It's not the massive milestones
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that you reach in your life. It's about making the everydays.
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More calm, happier, peaceful, content and attracting day to day,
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you know, macro mini moments. That's it.
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So when you change the macro, you know, I've got the t-shirt wrong.
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When you change the micro, you change the macro.
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God, I love that, don't you? So I'm going to give you a little bit more magic to leave on.
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But in the meantime, thank you for everyone who's DM'd me recently.
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I've had quite a few actually this last week I've got
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some lovely lovely listeners honestly I value
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each and every one of you and I value every time every single time you send
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me a DM whether you've messaged to say you've enjoyed the podcast this week
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I can't tell you how much it means honestly I read every single DM and I just
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sometimes I go I can't believe it like someone messaged me this week and said,
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you know, your podcast is my ritual when I'm walking.
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Another one messaged me saying your podcast is my Friday ritual.
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And I think I stop and I go, wow, that's incredible.
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People really are listening and they're enjoying and they're getting something
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from the podcast. And I really, really value that.
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So please slide into my DMs. I always love to hear from you.
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So here's where today, now we've spoken about the I get to, I just want to talk
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about before we finish the episode,
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the link between the manifestation connection with this kind of little reset.
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And this is where the magic really is. Because when you start living from I
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get to, you raise your baseline energy.
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So you suddenly become someone who appreciates more, who appreciates more in
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the everyday day-to-day.
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You are someone who enjoys more, receives more, and that is what the universe responds to.
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So yes, you know, this small, very micro change will impact your day massively,
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but even more so, the universe will respond.
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So not only are you putting a little spring into your step,
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not only are you noticing more gratitude in
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these moments but the universe is responding to
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your energy and that that is where
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the magic happens that is where the manifesting magic
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happens because you're no longer chasing a
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better life you are recognizing that beauty the beauty in life that you already
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have that exists every day even in the mundane moments and that is where more
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good things will start to flow in so instead of asking,
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why do I have to do all this?
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What is this giving me? Instead of, why is this happening to me?
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Ask yourself, what is this teaching me?
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What is it teaching me? What is this giving me?
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So just have that gentle reframe. Instead of saying, why do I have to do all this?
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And why is this happening to me? We're asking, what is this teaching me?
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What is it giving me? And this is how to take your power back.
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There will be days, I'll be really honest with you, I love to be honest with
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you, there will be days when this feels harder.
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There will be days when you're tired and you're busy and you're burnt out and
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you're overwhelmed and you're emotional and on those days you don't need to
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force a perfect mindset.
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You just need to soften the narrative. It's that simple.
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So maybe it's not I get to with every single thing but maybe it's just I'm allowed
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to take this one step at a time.
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Or I'm doing my best today. Can you see how we're just gently reframing?
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So there's some days where you're going to absolutely attack it and kill it.
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And you're going to be going, I get to do this.
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And you're going to shout it from the rooftops. And you're going to be in your
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spin class shouting, I get to do this.
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And there's going to be other days when you say, I'm doing the best I can today.
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This is not about perfection. It's about intention. And it's about noticing.
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And gratitude, gratitude isn't something
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that you just always write in a journal it's something
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you live by and that's why today's episode may
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be the most important one I've ever delivered because this is
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something that you can live by and I guarantee you this
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will change your life I get to is gratitude in motion it's choosing to see the
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blessing in your body the privilege in your life and the magic in the ordinary
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and when you live like that honestly I promise you this life feels different.
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So today I want you to ask yourself where in life am I saying I have to and
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where could I be saying I get to and what would shift if I choose that perspective instead?
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It is that simple. So your little challenge for this episode for the next 24
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hours, live in the I get to mindset.
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Notice how you feel, notice how you show up and notice what changes for you.
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And if you catch yourself slipping back, that's okay.
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Just gently, gently bring it back and say, I get to.
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So remember guys, your life isn't
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just what happens to you it's how you
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choose to see it life is a choice and
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sometimes the smallest shift in language creates the biggest shift in your reality
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I love you so much for being here thank you so much I'll speak to you in the
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next episode and remember you're exactly where you're meant to be goodbye.