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All the clues to your success and failure are hidden in your language. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken. Coupe.
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  So I want to talk to you today about your language and I'm not
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  talking about having a potty mouth because I have a potty
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  mouth. I try to really control it on
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  the podcast but let's just say I don't doesn't always work out.
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  Well I grew up in the Northeast and I just had a potty mouth.
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  Anyway today we're talking about your language patterns and what
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  they reveal about you and catching yourself is so
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  imperative. This is the key to figuring out
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  your mat. So if you're not working with
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  someone that can catch you, you have to do it yourself.
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  You have to be willing to hear yourself and say I'm going to be
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  super observant of how I'm speaking what I'm saying and in
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  my living in a state of disrepair so to speak and my
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  language is showing everything. So let me give you an example.
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  If you're talking, let's say this time of year, we're talking
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  about goals. So if we are Are thinking about
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  our goals and you are wondering what you want to make happen,
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  you sit down and you say you know what do I want to put on
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  the paper will right away? This is where you got to pay
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  attention to your language because you darn well know that
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  you want to have a solid belief. In whatever it is that you want
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  to make happen. You really want to focus on the
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  fact that it's already happened. You don't want to say, well,
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  maybe I can do this because if If you are putting something out
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  there in the way of maybe. Well, you know what?
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  That doesn't sound very convincing, does it.
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  Not at all. If you say, I mean, if you're
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  just in a place of contemplation, that's fine but
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  we will often stay in the maybes or the shoulds or the, I don't
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  knows. Oh my God, I cannot begin to
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  express to you. The number of I don't knows that
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  I can hear in my clients voices over and over and they're like,
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  Part of it is okay because they're in a session and they're
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  coming to me and we are working through it and they're saying,
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  well, what do you think of this? I don't know.
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  That's totally cool. If we're contemplative where
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  it's not cool. Is if you're doing the I don't
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  know to yourself constantly or you're in your head and you're
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  just like exacerbated another one of like I just wish this
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  would end. I wish this would end.
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  I wish this would end because the language is a key to the
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  energy. The language is a key to the
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  energy that you're in. So you have to be in a place of
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  absolutes with yourself. Now, if someone asked me
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  yesterday, well, if I do that, I have a chance of getting
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  disappointed and I left and I'm like, well, yes, we always have
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  a chance of being disappointed, right?
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  Because we don't have any control over anything except I
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  responses, but you do have the opportunity to take that moment
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  of disappointment and say, okay, I'm just not going to let myself
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  stay there because there are no guarantees.
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  There are no guarantees about anything anytime anywhere
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  whatsoever, you know, we bought a brand new container of orange
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  juice and we opened it and it tasted awful and the first
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  thing. My son said to me was this isn't
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  supposed to be like this. This is brand-new and I'm like,
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  exactly it's not supposed to but it is.
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  Well, how did this happen? Why is it gross?
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  Well, you know, what doesn't matter, don't focus on it, this
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  is what it is. We'll take it back, end of
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  story, have something else. But we get so hung up.
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  He talked about that for the whole like the whole breakfast.
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  Like I don't understand how can they sell you something like
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  that and he was so offended by this, but it's silly because
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  it's a waste of energy. It's a waste of energy and he's
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  still learning, he's only 13, he's still learning his
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  emotions. But for us, we know better.
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  We can stop this crap in our head but it takes awareness.
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  It takes having a keen sense of listening to yourself.
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  Hearing your Patterns seeing where you get stuck.
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  My mother used to do this phrase to me all the time and she'd say
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  well whatever. It's just so sad, whatever, it's
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  so sad and that's how she would say it.
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  And you could just hear in her energy that she was just
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  exacerbated fed up and just like, well it doesn't matter.
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  You'll be disappointed anyway. And that was the nature of how
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  she, you know, took on her life at the And and it was really
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  sad, actually, probably more than just the end but I'll tell
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  you, it is a really, it's a really tough position when you
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  allow that to take place. It's a really tough position
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  when you don't help yourself by catching the language.
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  So today, I want you to go out there.
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  Listen to yourself, really listen to yourself.
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  Write down the words that are bothering.
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  You write down the words that you catch that don't feed you
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  fill, you make you go forward in a way that you can be proud of
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  and succinct with. And then Do something to shift
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  them because you need to do something to shift them.
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  I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.