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Have You Ever Experienced Body Shaming In Your Workplace? · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: It's topic times called eight hundred five five one five
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  Speaker 1: one to join into the discussion with the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 2: Morning everybody in cj Envy Charlamagne the Guide. We are
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  Speaker 2: the Breakfast Club now if you just join us. We're
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  Speaker 2: talking about an incident that we've seen happen at Costco.
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  Speaker 2: I guess a lady was body shamed because of the
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  Speaker 2: way that she looked in attire, and her coworkers might
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  Speaker 2: not have looked the same way.
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  Speaker 3: Right now, we're asking eight hundred five eight five one
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  Speaker 3: oh five one.
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  Speaker 2: We're just talking about our culture and the fact that
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  Speaker 2: you know, usually our women are more thicker black women, is.
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  Speaker 3: What you're saying.
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  Speaker 4: So is this a regular thing women go through that
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  Speaker 4: your body shape makes your tire look inappropriate? We got
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  Speaker 4: aj and Tam Bam from the We Talked Back podcasting.
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  Speaker 3: Hell, that's a question, Larry Lady.
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely, man, We've been going through that whole lives for real,
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  Speaker 5: in a real way. I think women of other ethnic
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  Speaker 5: cities get away with a lot more. I think Black
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  Speaker 5: women and girls are over sexualized from a very young age.
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  Speaker 5: So it is a real thing, and a lot of
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  Speaker 5: the disrespect come from other women now, So I deal
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  Speaker 5: I dealt with that in a corporate setting. You know,
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  Speaker 5: my clothes might look a little better on me, may
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  Speaker 5: not be inappropriate. But and this was coming from other women,
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  Speaker 5: though black women in particular, bigger black women.
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  Speaker 4: In this morning, I saw the sanitation workers losing their mind.
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  Speaker 4: They looking good girl early in the morning in New York.
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  Speaker 4: But that's just jealousy though, right the other women, the
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  Speaker 4: women they see you come into corporate workplace. You might
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  Speaker 4: have on the same dress that they have, on the
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  Speaker 4: same outfit that they have on, but because of your
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  Speaker 4: body shape, they probably just feel jealous or intimidated.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know.
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  Speaker 2: One of another producer of Iour said she used to
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  Speaker 2: deal with that in school. So I guess it was
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  Speaker 2: a uniform that she had to wear. And she said that,
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  Speaker 2: you know, when she was younger, she was a lot
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  Speaker 2: thinner up top and bigger on the bottom. And when
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  Speaker 2: she wore the uniform that the other girls and have
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  Speaker 2: a problem. But when teacher pulled it to the side,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, you can't wear that, and she was like,
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  Speaker 2: this is the uniform. I can't wear anything else where.
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  Speaker 2: They actually took her to the principal. She said, thank god,
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  Speaker 2: the principle was black and was like, no, this is
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  Speaker 2: her body.
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  Speaker 3: She can do it. And she was like the white
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  Speaker 3: teacher made a big fuss about it, like there's boys
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  Speaker 3: in there, this bois of that. But she was like,
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  Speaker 3: this is my body.
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  Speaker 4: White teacher ain't got no ass. That's just jealousy. The
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  Speaker 4: white teacher ain't got no hips. That's just jealousy.
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  Speaker 5: And her husban there on whatever the porn site ws.
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  Speaker 6: You know, women are made very conscious of their body
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  Speaker 6: from very young. I remember my mom would tell me
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  Speaker 6: a story when I was little and they were like,
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  Speaker 6: she's too big to be in a panther. Still, well,
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  Speaker 6: you need to take her out of paper.
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  Speaker 7: She's like that, ain't no pamp I.
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  Speaker 8: Don't know, no, maybe not.
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  Speaker 7: Maybe I just looked like I had one.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I know what you say.
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  Speaker 2: Wearing what you said, you was saying you were in
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  Speaker 2: a panther now, but but you're saying that it looked
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  Speaker 2: like you had a papa.
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  Speaker 6: Like I had a pamper on it was like bomb Square,
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  Speaker 6: We had a homeboy, like do y'all know Dre?
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  Speaker 3: What Dre?
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  Speaker 4: We used to call dra dirty diaper because I remember
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  Speaker 4: that I didn't used to call him that way, when
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  Speaker 4: when when you call him that, no I know used
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  Speaker 4: to call them that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, let's listen.
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  Speaker 4: I do feel like that when when someone says that
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  Speaker 4: to a woman, they're just acknowledging how they see them,
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  Speaker 4: so they're sexualizing, exactly objectifying them.
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  Speaker 3: Very young Ashley, good morning, good morning. How you feeling.
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  Speaker 3: You went through something?
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  Speaker 9: So I did it myself.
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  Speaker 10: My daughter did talk to us.
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  Speaker 3: What happened.
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  Speaker 9: So it was a graduation in middle school, and had
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  Speaker 9: on a fitted dress, you know, one of those stretchy
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  Speaker 9: but fitted dresses. Yep, and she's sicker and there was
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  Speaker 9: girls in there, mind you, with her hanging out their
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  Speaker 9: after their body open, their sea grew. But they made
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  Speaker 9: her all need to bring her sweater to put around
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  Speaker 9: her waist because her.
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  Speaker 3: But was m that's crazy.
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  Speaker 10: And she was so embarrassed that all these kids seeing
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  Speaker 10: her get escorted into the front door, and they literally
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  Speaker 10: made her stand there with escorts until I got there
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  Speaker 10: to sweater around her rest her waist.
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  Speaker 9: So that her bohop.
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  Speaker 5: That's got to be some form of discrimination, is this
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  Speaker 5: girl discriminations?
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  Speaker 7: Clapper? Discrimination?
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  Speaker 3: Clapper? Why clapper?
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  Speaker 7: Because you clapping around the school yard.
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  Speaker 3: The morning now you dealt with this too. Yes.
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  Speaker 11: Actually, since I was in like BEAUTI school, I guess
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  Speaker 11: we had so it would be like ship sea woman.
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  Speaker 9: Sure that you will go to.
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  Speaker 11: Six inches, you would say, but the white girls did
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  Speaker 11: didn't have him for you know everything that's black girl.
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  Speaker 10: Okay, it would be mostly black.
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  Speaker 12: It's going to be used to it at the time,
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  Speaker 12: but it's not.
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  Speaker 3: She said. You kind of get used to it or
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  Speaker 3: what it's not right, But she said it's not right.
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  Speaker 4: I mean as black people, you get used to all
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  Speaker 4: types of forms of discriminations.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, who's this good morning?
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  Speaker 13: This is day the morning died?
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  Speaker 3: Good morning.
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  Speaker 2: Now talk to you a manager, right, yes, I am
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  Speaker 2: all right. Now don't tell us what job. We don't
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  Speaker 2: want you get your you know, want you lose your job,
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  Speaker 2: but tell us what's going on.
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  Speaker 13: Yeah, so that body shaming is not supposed to be
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  Speaker 13: done since not by a manager. I mean, we have
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  Speaker 13: enough of employees other things that have to work about
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  Speaker 13: coming from first be seen. If that's their body, that's
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  Speaker 13: their body. I don't know if they manages the training classes,
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  Speaker 13: but she definitely has.
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  Speaker 11: The loss to Okay.
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  Speaker 4: I do wonder if the the or the costco employee
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  Speaker 4: said it was the manager of out body shaming.
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  Speaker 3: It probably was a woman another woman manager. Problem.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well eight hundred and five eight five, one oh five,
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  Speaker 2: and we're talking about being body shame in the workplaces.
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  Speaker 3: This happened to you.
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  Speaker 4: I get body shamed here all the time, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I'm saying, just because I'm the thickest person up here.
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  Speaker 4: I get body shame from envy. I get body shame
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  Speaker 4: from Taylor because she's a hater, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: And it's actually starting to get to me.
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  Speaker 7: Why are you dressed like that? Whoa skinny jeans on?
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  Speaker 3: That their work plate?
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  Speaker 7: It's a uniform all over the building.
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  Speaker 3: Damn, don't tell them that. Don't The problem is he
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  Speaker 3: thinks he's thick, right, but he's not thick. Rights his
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  Speaker 3: own thing. Taylor can't help it, because Taylor couldn't wait
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  Speaker 3: to come in here.
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  Speaker 2: Comes Are you jealous of Charlamagne's thickness?
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 5: Let's be very clear that he started mentioning that because
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  Speaker 5: he's does of me.
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  Speaker 7: So why do you start think because of me?
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  Speaker 3: Why you want to do side by side comparisons all
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  Speaker 3: the time? And I don't be trying to test me.
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  Speaker 4: Like, let's drop down and get out eagle on right now,
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  Speaker 4: talking about you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: For what what's wrong with you?
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  Speaker 10: Curve?
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  Speaker 4: You do it?
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  Speaker 3: Though you do it? I had something? Does this happen
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  Speaker 3: to you? Let's talk about this the Breakfast Club. Good morning,
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  Speaker 3: it's topic time.
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  Speaker 1: Called eight hundred and five eight five one five one
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  Speaker 1: to join into the discussion with the Breakfast Club, talk
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  Speaker 1: about it.
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  Speaker 10: I want everybody.
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  Speaker 2: It's d J n V Charlamagne the God. We are
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  Speaker 2: the Breakfast Club. Now if you're just joining us, we're
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  Speaker 2: talking about women being body shave eight hundred and five
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  Speaker 2: eight five one oh five one.
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  Speaker 4: Now.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, we got some special guest hosts from the
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  Speaker 2: We Talk Bad podcast AJ and Tam Bam, and we
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  Speaker 2: were talking about the situations working at a place where
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  Speaker 2: other women might not have the same body as you,
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  Speaker 2: and you know they don't look as good as you,
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  Speaker 2: but because you got body and shapes and curves that
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  Speaker 2: you know, manages and sometimes the boss thinks that you
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  Speaker 2: is man.
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  Speaker 4: These women be hating okay, hey, they be seeing these
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  Speaker 4: black women come through and you know they'd be of
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  Speaker 4: a certain.
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  Speaker 3: Shape and statue and they just be hating.
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  Speaker 4: That's really what it boils down to.
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  Speaker 3: Let's se it. Let's go to the phone line. It's
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  Speaker 3: got a lot of people on the line. Hello, who's
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  Speaker 3: this good morning?
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  Speaker 14: This is Christina.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Christina. Now this happened at your job the past
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  Speaker 2: fifteen years.
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  Speaker 9: Yeah, actually twice.
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  Speaker 12: I forgot when I went to join the army.
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  Speaker 13: You know, they have very strict standards, and I had
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  Speaker 13: to lose five pounds to be four an end. Wow,
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  Speaker 13: And I'm very hippie and I've been naturally like that,
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  Speaker 13: and then after I had kids it enhanced it. So
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  Speaker 13: the past fifteen years at my job, within the first
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  Speaker 13: five years they changed the dress code where we were
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  Speaker 13: legging and things like that.
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  Speaker 14: That shows off our shape.
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  Speaker 13: Anything I wear it, it's gonna be tight doing.
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  Speaker 15: Shop like mine.
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  Speaker 3: What did you wear around my hip?
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  Speaker 15: It's about fifty two inches around.
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  Speaker 8: My my butt?
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  Speaker 11: Yes?
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  Speaker 8: How tall?
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  Speaker 7: You're dragging a wagon by three?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah?
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  Speaker 15: Yeah, I'm definitely not gonna like it.
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  Speaker 3: It was aught about working for a little.
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  Speaker 13: Mama.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, now, I'm sorry. Goodbye, you're harassing the victim.
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  Speaker 7: What is happening?
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  Speaker 3: Hello, who's this?
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  Speaker 9: Hello in the morning?
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  Speaker 2: About the clubs at the by Lauren good morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 2: Has that happened to you, You know the fact that
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  Speaker 2: you probably got more curves of shape and it's been
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  Speaker 2: a problem for you at your work spot.
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  Speaker 15: Yes, I mean it's hard as a black woman having natural.
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  Speaker 12: Body part and it just being over sexualized like in.
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  Speaker 11: People's mind when it's not.
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  Speaker 15: If you all remember the home Depot all that was
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  Speaker 15: going around the internet.
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  Speaker 12: She wasn't even yeah, she wasn't aware enoughing anywhere in
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  Speaker 12: a but people were harrassing her.
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  Speaker 13: So it's hard for black women because we always being
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  Speaker 13: over sexual Yes, for no reason.
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  Speaker 9: We were natural hair.
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  Speaker 13: It used to be called nappy.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, So it's hard.
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  Speaker 13: Being a black woman, y'all.
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  Speaker 5: Remember the news reporter. I think her name is like
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  Speaker 5: Dmitria Dmetrio.
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  Speaker 7: Beautiful. It was all the white women.
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  Speaker 5: Calling and complaining, are putting messages online about her body shape,
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  Speaker 5: and she looked very good in her clothes.
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  Speaker 7: There was Mutria laughing.
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  Speaker 5: It's like a lord, oh b I l O R
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  Speaker 5: something like mut I know the Mutri.
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  Speaker 3: Hello, who's this key? Kelly? Good on the hell are you? Kelly?
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  Speaker 12: I'm thirty two?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Now you said this happened to you? Before Mama,
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  Speaker 3: Oh heck, yeah, what happened?
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  Speaker 14: So then in like a white dominant area, I wasn't
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  Speaker 14: sympastic in different types of sports, and I was literally
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  Speaker 14: like to take my side so.
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  Speaker 12: That they wouldn't bust out, you know, or be too.
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  Speaker 13: Big for my tights or whatever. Oh my was too big.
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  Speaker 15: And then like it was really hard and gymnastics, I
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  Speaker 15: would always getting fun up because all these girls persons
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  Speaker 15: me and I'm sitting here in a legal part and
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  Speaker 15: obviously I have the biggest figure and everyone just there.
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  Speaker 12: And he wasn't the thing back then?
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  Speaker 3: How do you take me? Are you to take me
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  Speaker 3: a thigh?
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  Speaker 14: I would take.
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  Speaker 12: Yeah, I would take that stick and then probably makes
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  Speaker 12: my parts smaller on me?
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  Speaker 3: What did your parents say? Did your parents know you
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  Speaker 3: had to do that?
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  Speaker 12: So my mom found out when I was around sixteen,
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  Speaker 12: and she told me like she's like, you know, self
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  Speaker 12: worth and you know everything was within outwards, but you know.
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  Speaker 13: As I got older, like having a body became a thing.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Well, thank you, I'm sure I had to deal
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  Speaker 3: with that, Mama, No, thank.
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  Speaker 1: You so much.
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  Speaker 5: Good morning, guys, whose auto morning?
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  Speaker 7: What I'm hearing?
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  Speaker 12: Man?
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  Speaker 4: It boils down just the sexualizing and objectifying of of
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  Speaker 4: of black women, and you know, women at a thicker
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  Speaker 4: and just jealousy and envy of black women and women
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  Speaker 4: at a thickness because if I'm following the dress code
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  Speaker 4: with min your business right right.
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  Speaker 5: So we don't know if the Costco worker was white
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  Speaker 5: or black, though this is our experiences.
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  Speaker 7: She was black.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Now, I've never seen anybody take their thighs to make
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  Speaker 6: it look smaller. But I know I've seen girls tape
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  Speaker 6: under their butt cheek.
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  Speaker 7: Can I say that under their butt cheek to give them.
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  Speaker 3: All took.
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  Speaker 7: Hold over?
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  Speaker 3: What does that do? Now?
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  Speaker 7: Like if you tape under your butt but.
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  Speaker 14: Work?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, to give you that little pie?
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  Speaker 3: Don't you wanted to be smaller? Though? Is she trying
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  Speaker 3: to compress it now?
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  Speaker 1: The butt is cool?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, everybody want to do this.
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  Speaker 5: Person at Costco is probably just having a problem with
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  Speaker 5: that manager in particular.
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  Speaker 7: She got a person.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, she fine, I'm saying.
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  Speaker 7: Now, okay, So it just depends.
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  Speaker 5: So you know, and charlest and they have the port.
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  Speaker 5: So a lot of times they complain about women wearing
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  Speaker 5: because women are now working out there, they complain about
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  Speaker 5: them wearing.
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  Speaker 3: Leggings to work.
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  Speaker 5: I feel like you should wear cargo pants. You should
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  Speaker 5: wear like a thicker material if you and in an.
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  Speaker 7: Environment like that.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but leggings amongst mostly men out that we have
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  Speaker 5: to consider those things as women.
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  Speaker 6: Men have to consider those things. Why do women have
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  Speaker 6: to change their attire? Like the men need to change
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  Speaker 6: their mindset?
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  Speaker 7: Like focus on your not very support it's important.
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  Speaker 3: I agree with you. But what if it's hard for
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  Speaker 3: them to focus.
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  Speaker 7: Well, then they need to change their focus. That's not
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  Speaker 7: that's not the ladies fault. Put on your legs. It's
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  Speaker 7: one hundred and ten degrees out there.
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  Speaker 10: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And by the way, ain't no man complaining wash them.
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  Speaker 8: But washing.
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  Speaker 3: That's why we call them wood pants.
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  Speaker 15: Boy, that's right.
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  Speaker 4: You wear them all day long and when you take
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  Speaker 4: them off wool.
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