Latest / Good Morning From The Chicken Coop! / Are you a realist?

Transcript

Are you a realist? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

• 0:02
  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
• 0:04
  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
• 0:08
  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
• 0:11
  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
• 0:14
  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
• 0:17
  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
• 0:20
  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
• 0:23
  chickens. Hey everybody.
• 0:28
  Good morning from the chicken coop.
• 0:31
  So today we are going to talk about being realist because I
• 0:37
  hear that so much from people hey Kim I'm just being a realist
• 0:42
  and since we are focused on cultivating and building up Joy
• 0:46
  and gratitude this week with Thanksgiving being this week,
• 0:50
  I'm going to talk to my realist today.
• 0:53
  When they say listen this is just what I'm what I'm what I'm
• 0:56
  dealing with this is just what's going on in my life, these are
• 0:59
  the conditions. Now, I'm not going to deny with
• 1:02
  you that sometimes you just have to be real about where you are.
• 1:06
  I mean, even myself who's like chronically optimistic, you
• 1:10
  know, I do tend to be a cockeyed Optimist.
• 1:13
  However, in that I do have scientific back up with it.
• 1:18
  I also have proof in the pudding and the one thing that I can
• 1:22
  tell you for sure, is that being a realist is part of an identity
• 1:30
  that you develop. For yourself because you want to
• 1:32
  always be practical, you always want to look at things and say,
• 1:35
  well no, this is just the way that it is.
• 1:36
  This is how the this is laying out, this is what's happening
• 1:39
  and I don't disagree with you on some of that.
• 1:41
  I think that, you know, yes, that is all very, very true.
• 1:45
  And we look at ourselves and we say, well, this is this is where
• 1:49
  I am and we get hunkered down in where we are and that's the
• 1:54
  problem because once you know where you are, once you take the
• 1:58
  information and you say, this is where I am.
• 2:00
  And this is how I feel and you have a benchmark for your
• 2:05
  position. The job at that point is to say,
• 2:10
  who is this really where I want to stay or do I want to go to a
• 2:12
  different place? Do I want to be a different
• 2:15
  person? Do I want to think differently
• 2:17
  see differently here differently?
• 2:19
  What else can I do to shift my reality right now?
• 2:22
  And that's where the work comes in.
• 2:24
  And some people will say, well, this is just the conditions, and
• 2:26
  this is where I'm stuck. No, it is not, it's where you
• 2:30
  currently are. Our but it doesn't mean it's
• 2:31
  where you have to stay. And even in dealing with other
• 2:35
  people, people will often comment and say, well, I'm just
• 2:39
  dealing with them and this is who they are, and I can't do
• 2:42
  anything about this. No, you can't shift other
• 2:45
  people's behavior, but you can shift your response to those
• 2:49
  people, which is what's so important in, you shifting your
• 2:53
  response in you having a different reaction to them,
• 2:59
  different Straight trajectory around, whatever they're doing
• 3:04
  saying, or being you change the dynamic.
• 3:07
  Therefore, it's the butterfly effect coming into play.
• 3:10
  You know what? You change.
• 3:12
  One minut reaction condition in a situation and therefore
• 3:17
  something has to change. That's science.
• 3:19
  My friends. That's not whoo.
• 3:21
  So when you start considering this part of the puzzle and you
• 3:26
  start to say, I have options, I can shift things.
• 3:32
  It's inevitable, things will change.
• 3:34
  So when you start to approach your life from this position,
• 3:39
  instead of just seeing it, as this is where I am, I'm stuck, I
• 3:43
  can't do anything. Everything shifts, everything
• 3:48
  shifts. So it all depends on you.
• 3:52
  It all depends on how you're willing to allow yourself to
• 3:55
  make those small changes. And sometimes it's really hard
• 3:58
  when you're a realist and you've been trained in your brain to
• 4:00
  believe. I'm a realist, this is who I am.
• 4:02
  This is what I'm doing because it's a, it's a pattern of
• 4:07
  behavior and it's one. That's usually very, very, very
• 4:11
  ingrained and it's usually one that is by far without Question,
• 4:17
  one of the hardest ones to break because you know what you're
• 4:19
  doing and quite honestly you've done it so many times in every
• 4:23
  situation so you feel comfortable showing up that way.
• 4:26
  So you have to be the only person that can interrupt it.
• 4:30
  You have to be the one that makes the decision to say, I'm
• 4:32
  going to try something different and I'm not suggesting you give
• 4:35
  up being a realist. God forbid, we do that, we're
• 4:37
  not doing that, okay? All we're doing is saying, Hey
• 4:41
  listen, I'm going to put it in perspective.
• 4:43
  I'm going to be focused on the things, the small The things
• 4:46
  that I can look at and that I can shift right now which are
• 4:50
  tiny tiny just to start breaking the pattern, just tiny little
• 4:54
  things to start breaking the pattern.
• 4:55
  I'm going to look for a little bit of optimism.
• 4:57
  I'm going to try to find a little bit of gratitude.
• 5:01
  I'm going to turn my focus on me instead of the outside world and
• 5:08
  I'm going to be truthful with myself about what I'm thinking
• 5:11
  about consistently what are the things that are driving my
• 5:14
  beliefs around this stuff? And then I'm going to pull
• 5:17
  myself into a better position by doing the work inside instead of
• 5:22
  just observing that outside is so wrong and making me have the
• 5:27
  life that I currently have that. I don't want.
• 5:30
  So it's a it's a work in progress but it definitely can
• 5:33
  be done and I'm not at all suggesting that you give up.
• 5:39
  Like I said, you're not you don't have to give up being the
• 5:41
  realist. But what you do have to allow in
• 5:43
  order to cultivate that high level of joy and gratitude Is to
• 5:46
  recognize as the realest that you have far more control than
• 5:51
  you think you do, and you practice it in small tiny ways
• 5:54
  and everything around you will shift.
• 5:57
  So, I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you
• 6:01
  tomorrow. Bye.
• 5:46
  Is to recognize as the realest that you have far more control
• 5:50
  than you think you do, and you practice it in small tiny ways
• 5:54
  and everything around you will shift.
• 5:57
  So, I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you
• 6:01
  tomorrow. Bye.