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Why People Are Avoiding Relationships · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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  Speaker 1: Okay, wait, I'm so pissed off. I just got home
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  Speaker 1: from a date.
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  Speaker 2: The guy walked out literally 10 minutes into our date.
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  Speaker 2: So we matched on Hinge and I have really good
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  Speaker 2: photos of myself on Hinge. A few of them are
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  Speaker 2: AI generated. They look exactly like me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll be the judge of that. I feel like
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  Speaker 3: if you weren't trying to misrepresent something about your appearance,
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  Speaker 3: you wouldn't be using AI.
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  Speaker 2: While we were out on our coffee slash like walking date,
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  Speaker 2: within like the first 15 minutes, he asked me where
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  Speaker 2: one of my photos was taken.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not a liar.
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  Speaker 2: So I said that it was an AI generated photo.
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  Speaker 2: And he said, yeah, I don't think we're a match.
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  Speaker 1: And he left. He left.
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  Speaker 2: That seems so dramatic to me, and also, like, everyone
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  Speaker 2: is using AI-generated photos. If they look like you, who cares?
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  Speaker 2: The ones I use with dream ones look exactly like me.
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  Speaker 2: They're not like the crappy chat GPT ones. So what
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  Speaker 2: is the difference?
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  Speaker 1: Who cares?
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  Speaker 5: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: If you're a straight man, let me know.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think?
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  Speaker 3: You've got to be kidding me. You're gaslighting, right? It's
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  Speaker 3: easy to see why the guy was mad. The most
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  Speaker 3: noticeable thing that it got rid of was your acne.
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  Speaker 3: Less noticeable to guys, but her hair looks super dry
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  Speaker 3: and frizzy in real life compared to the AI photo.
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  Speaker 3: And last, I think the most important one, is that
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  Speaker 3: it removed wrinkles that are here, here, here, and here,
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  Speaker 3: which makes you look several years younger than you actually are.
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  Speaker 3: But you know what?
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  Speaker 1: Good.
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  Speaker 3: I love the idea of women using AI photos on
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  Speaker 3: dating apps, because the more severe the catfish, the more
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  Speaker 3: people will stop trying to find relationships on their phone.
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  Speaker 3: These apps are cancer. They're like if mobile game companies
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  Speaker 3: took over the relationship market. Anyway, it's been a while
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  Speaker 3: on this channel, so I thought we'd check back in
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  Speaker 3: with Modern Internet Dating and see how it's going.
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  Speaker 6: And ladies, even men who went to Harvard Business School
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  Speaker 6: are losers.
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  Speaker 2: I just went on a first date with a man.
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  Speaker 1: He picked a restaurant.
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  Speaker 7: I knew that this restaurant was a happening.
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  Speaker 6: Restaurant, but he picked it, and he went to Harvard.
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  Speaker 7: I thought that he knew to see if he was
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  Speaker 7: going to need a reservation.
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  Speaker 4: He went to Harvard.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't think this is a made-up story for
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  Speaker 3: TikTok femcels, then you're an idiot. I believe this person
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  Speaker 3: more than I believe her.
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  Speaker 1: I got catcalled twice on this walk.
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  Speaker 3: No, you didn't. TikTok as a whole, especially the dating meta,
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  Speaker 3: is literally just the Arthur meme.
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  Speaker 6: How do you know if any of this stuff is true?
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  Speaker 4: You mean, just lie?
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  Speaker 1: You really think someone would do that?
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  Speaker 4: Just go on the internet and tell lies?
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  Speaker 3: That shit is so hilarious, and no matter how many
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  Speaker 3: times I watch this, it progressively gets funnier every year.
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  Speaker 6: I just mean that some of the details.
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  Speaker 1: I never thought of that. This is terrible.
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  Speaker 4: What if none of it's true? What if they're all lying?
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  Speaker 8: How would we ever know?
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  Speaker 3: If they only knew how many social media influencers would
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  Speaker 3: base their entire careers off of telling incredibly obvious lies
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  Speaker 3: that people are too stupid to recognize. I mean, how
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  Speaker 3: many men are taking dating advice on women from guys
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  Speaker 3: who are obviously in the closet? And how many women
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  Speaker 3: are taking pointers from other women who are obviously prostitutes?
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  Speaker 3: I can't believe we still have women saying shit like
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  Speaker 3: this after relationship guru The Wizard Liz got cheated on
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  Speaker 3: by a Pokimane simp.
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  Speaker 2: My husband loves me for simply existing.
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  Speaker 4: How do you and your husband split finances?
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  Speaker 7: We don't. This is not a two-way street.
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  Speaker 6: This is a one-way street.
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  Speaker 2: His money is our money, and my money is my money.
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  Speaker 7: And I just think now, like, people are like, oh,
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  Speaker 7: that's gold digging, or that's something. No, it's not. Okay,
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  Speaker 7: then I'm digging.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.
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  Speaker 1: For gold.
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  Speaker 3: Holy shit, this chick is married. Well, ultimately, I blame
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  Speaker 3: the man in this situation, because as bad as all
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  Speaker 3: the catfishing and TikTok advice is, it's not nearly as
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  Speaker 3: problematic as the people who willingly choose the wrong partners,
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  Speaker 3: despite everyone trying to warn them. However, it is entertaining
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  Speaker 3: to watch them double down publicly, especially if I don't
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  Speaker 3: like them, so let's talk about it. The woman you
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  Speaker 3: just saw is Jessalyn Singh. She's the wife of an
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  Speaker 3: Indian stand-up comedian named Akash, and she has a podcast
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  Speaker 3: and a TikTok account where she started cannibalizing the career
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  Speaker 3: of her husband for views. By openly talking about what
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  Speaker 3: a degenerate she is.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes I get so painfully nostalgic for college. So for context,
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  Speaker 1: I went to college from 2011 to 2016.
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  Speaker 7: I was popping my and living my best life in
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  Speaker 7: these white boy frat houses.
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  Speaker 2: And I had a roster of guys that I would rotate.
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  Speaker 3: So lesson number one of the internet is to keep
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  Speaker 3: your mouth shut. Everyone should treat the internet like a
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  Speaker 3: police encounter instead of like a therapist. Anything you say
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  Speaker 3: can and will be used against you by your enemies,
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  Speaker 3: especially if your husband is in a male-centered space like
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  Speaker 3: a comedy podcast. Akash, did you not sit your wife
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  Speaker 3: down and tell her that it's a bad idea to
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  Speaker 3: talk about how promiscuous she was in college? Clearly he
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  Speaker 3: didn't because that's not even the worst thing that she did.
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  Speaker 3: He's on my hall pass list.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Chase Crawford, Jacob Elordi.
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  Speaker 1: Austin Butler.
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  Speaker 4: And who else?
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  Speaker 7: Dean Thomas from the Harry Potter movies. Would y'all ever
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  Speaker 7: have an orgy together with your husbands? Rhea, I'm actively
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  Speaker 7: trying to have an orgy because this couple is so
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  Speaker 7: fucking good looking and you haven't seen Nav yet, but
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  Speaker 7: wait till you fucking see him.
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  Speaker 3: His body goes crazy.
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  Speaker 6: His face card always slays, never declines.
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  Speaker 3: And it's kind of weird because I'm talking about your husband.
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  Speaker 9: There's a difference being a scammer and being a hustler.
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  Speaker 9: Two very different things. I'm a hustler who scams a
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  Speaker 9: little bit. I'm not a scammer who hustles.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to lie.
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  Speaker 6: That was sexy. And that's why I'm actively trying to
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  Speaker 6: have a orgy.
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  Speaker 3: This is a divorce moment right here. If my wife
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  Speaker 3: told me that she wanted to have sex with her
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  Speaker 3: best friend's husband, said it numerous times on the podcast,
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  Speaker 3: and then brought me on to talk about it while
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  Speaker 3: she flirts with that guy right in front of me,
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  Speaker 3: I would be calling my lawyer and drafting up papers.
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  Speaker 3: Now for all the people saying that these situations are
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  Speaker 3: just random and you can never tell if a woman
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  Speaker 3: will treat you like this in the future, know that
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  Speaker 3: people always show signs that they aren't worth marrying if
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  Speaker 3: you wait a little bit before making a commitment. This
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  Speaker 3: one was obviously a bad idea. Her and her friend's
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  Speaker 3: entire personalities are TikTok.
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  Speaker 7: Like you don't have to justify your presence as you know,
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  Speaker 7: wanting to be in your divine feminine energy and staying
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  Speaker 7: at home and not having as much stress.
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  Speaker 9: I didn't wish her a happy, uh, happy birth month. No,
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  Speaker 9: happy birth.
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  Speaker 1: We got to stop. Happy birthday Eve today. He didn't
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  Speaker 1: wish me happy birthday. Happy birthday Eve. Yes.
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  Speaker 3: That was like watching a horror film. I mean, everybody
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  Speaker 3: makes mistakes, but there comes a point where you have
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  Speaker 3: to be honest about your situation and do what's necessary.
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  Speaker 3: But of course they didn't do that, which is why
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  Speaker 3: this is entertainment. So Akash and his wife started going
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  Speaker 3: viral because of clips like this. And I have to
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  Speaker 3: say that this is a no-win situation for these two.
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  Speaker 3: They screwed up badly, and the only thing they can
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  Speaker 3: do is shut up and wait two weeks for everyone
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  Speaker 3: to forget about it. Because the reality was that most
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  Speaker 3: of Akash's fans didn't know about any of this, and
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  Speaker 3: it was just drama YouTubers making fun of them, so
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  Speaker 3: they could have just stayed quiet. But instead of being
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  Speaker 3: smart and keeping the hate isolated to people who don't
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  Speaker 3: even watch them, they decide to do a podcast where
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  Speaker 3: Akash looks super uncomfortable the whole time, and we are
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  Speaker 3: assured that everything that Jeslene said... was just a misunderstanding.
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  Speaker 7: The repressed Indian girl that I didn't even watch Jersey
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  Speaker 7: Shore in high school because I felt it to be
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  Speaker 7: too inappropriate. So when I got to college, I'm like,
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  Speaker 7: oh my God, I can dress however I want.
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  Speaker 1: I can do whatever I want. You can have a
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  Speaker 1: roster of crap boys. What does a roster mean?
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  Speaker 6: So it didn't actually translate to a roster.
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  Speaker 7: It just meant like two guys I was talking to
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  Speaker 7: and flirting with at the same time.
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  Speaker 1: That's it. That's all. When you say hooking up, I
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  Speaker 1: think people think you meant fucking.
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  Speaker 7: When I mean hooking up, I just meant making out. Again,
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  Speaker 7: everything I say is so amplified and hyperbolic because it's
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  Speaker 7: so incongruous to who I actually am.
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  Speaker 1: As a person.
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  Speaker 8: Right, right. So you're saying you're a big old prude.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, literally.
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  Speaker 3: Let me just say, as a person who uses Twitter,
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  Speaker 3: I don't think saying that you're Indian as an excuse
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  Speaker 3: for your behavior is going to make people trust you.
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  Speaker 1: But I have IBS. There's no way. I do have IBS.
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  Speaker 3: Indian food's never going to beat the allegations. So, Jasleen
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  Speaker 3: is claiming that she's innocent and was a virgin until
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  Speaker 3: she met Akash, but I don't believe her at all.
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  Speaker 3: If you listen to both episode 6 and episode 7
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  Speaker 3: of her podcast, it's apparent that she's had sexual contact
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  Speaker 3: with multiple men, even saying that being good at oral
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  Speaker 3: is a green flag. How would she know how to
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  Speaker 3: judge that if she's only been with one person? Best
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  Speaker 3: case scenario is that she's trying to misrepresent herself on
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  Speaker 3: the lines of technically being a virgin because she didn't
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  Speaker 3: have vaginal intercourse. Though I don't believe her on that either,
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  Speaker 3: because trying to push your close friends into group sex
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  Speaker 3: is not the move of someone who has only had
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  Speaker 3: sex with one person. Neither is wearing incredibly revealing clothing
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  Speaker 3: on Instagram. So there's no way she didn't understand American
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  Speaker 3: cultural norms like the meaning of hooking up as the
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  Speaker 3: wife of someone who used to be on a show
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  Speaker 3: called Guy Code, where they talked about stuff like that. Also,
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  Speaker 3: the prostitute philosophy about how a guy should value you
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  Speaker 3: just for existing around him doesn't make her look innocent either.
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  Speaker 3: This entire podcast just makes Jeslene look worse, and it
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  Speaker 3: makes Akash look like a loser. right here was probably
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  Speaker 3: the most telling moment for me.
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  Speaker 1: You're cool with him just getting a handjob massage?
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  Speaker 8: Totally.
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  Speaker 1: Are you acting? Yeah, I know. Yes! I've said that.
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  Speaker 1: It's less work for me. I don't... Can you talk
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  Speaker 1: to our wives? I don't believe this. You can't tell
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  Speaker 1: you why I don't believe this. You know the horrible decisions? Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You guys are like, dude, I think your girl will
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  Speaker 1: be down. She keeps saying how pretty Wheezy is.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, even then, I was like, no,
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  Speaker 1: the fuck. She's all talk. She's all bluster. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I haven't tested the handjob thing. A paper tiger? She's
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  Speaker 1: a fucking, she's our dog. She's a yapping little dog
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  Speaker 1: behind a fence.
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  Speaker 3: I'm guessing she thinks that this is like a 4D
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  Speaker 3: chess move to cover up for the fact that she
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  Speaker 3: wants to cheat. She's only saying it's okay for him
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  Speaker 3: to do it because, for one, she knows that he won't.
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  Speaker 3: And because, two, if she does cheat, she can say, well, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but I said that you could do it if you
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  Speaker 3: wanted to. Nobody who actually loves you and is emotionally
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  Speaker 3: connected would allow a hall pass. This is one of
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  Speaker 3: those moments where a really bad person is trying to
• 9:01
  Speaker 3: LARP as a good person, but doesn't actually know what
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  Speaker 3: a good person would say in that moment, so anything
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  Speaker 3: she says just further exposes her. The correct move was
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  Speaker 3: to apologize to her husband, ignore the haters, never bring
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  Speaker 3: this up again, and stop oversharing and treating the internet
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  Speaker 3: like your therapist. Also, Akash, you're on the road a
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  Speaker 3: lot as a comedian. I would not trust this chick
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  Speaker 3: to be faithful when you aren't around. Because when it
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  Speaker 3: comes to people like Jeslene, I think the reality is
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  Speaker 3: that they actually despise the person that they're with, which
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  Speaker 3: is why she treats him poorly and can't help but
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  Speaker 3: say inappropriate stuff. I think a part of the gaslight
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  Speaker 3: from Akasha on this is that Jesleen, like, slept on
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  Speaker 3: the floor with him one time when he was broke,
• 9:36
  Speaker 3: but also they broke up when he was broke, and
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  Speaker 3: she mysteriously got back together with him right around the
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  Speaker 3: time that he started making money again, which is suspicious
• 9:43
  Speaker 3: considering all the gold digger ideology that comes out of
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  Speaker 3: her mouth. However, no matter how right or die she
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  Speaker 3: was in the past, I don't think that justifies her
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  Speaker 3: present treatment of her significant other. Now, they haven't had
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  Speaker 3: any drama since as far as I've seen, and her
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  Speaker 3: podcast appears to have been canceled, so hopefully Akash and
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  Speaker 3: his wife have learned their lesson. But speaking to people
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  Speaker 3: who are much further down the line of publicly displaying
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  Speaker 3: how unhealthy their relationship dynamic is, allow me to introduce
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  Speaker 3: you to Anissa Joma and her husband, Ian Joma, formerly
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  Speaker 3: known as Ian Washburn.
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  Speaker 6: The only reason why we changed or chose my name
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  Speaker 6: over his last name is because his last name is
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  Speaker 6: like just objectively ugly. It's just like an ugly last name.
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  Speaker 6: Like Washburn sounds horrendous.
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  Speaker 3: In the past, you might have recognized Anissa as the
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  Speaker 3: prostitute Twitch streamer girlfriend of the once popular creator iDubbbz,
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  Speaker 3: who was famous for doing a creator deep dive series
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  Speaker 3: called Content Cop that was very well liked by a
• 10:36
  Speaker 3: huge portion of the internet. But in more recent years,
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  Speaker 3: it's become obvious that she wears the pants in the relationship,
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  Speaker 3: and therefore she has graduated from being called iDubbbz's girlfriend
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  Speaker 3: and earned herself her own name.
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  Speaker 5: Can we chill on asking if Ian's here or whatever?
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  Speaker 5: I get it's funny or whatever, but I've spent the
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  Speaker 5: past four years living in his shadow, so to speak,
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  Speaker 5: and I've been trying to do my own thing on
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  Speaker 5: the internet for seven years before I even met him,
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  Speaker 5: and it is painful. I'd rather have five people want
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  Speaker 5: to be here for me than a bunch asking for Ian.
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  Speaker 8: Thanks.
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  Speaker 3: Congrats, Anissa. Now you're the star. Talking about you now
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  Speaker 3: draws far more interest than talking about iDubbbz. You made it,
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  Speaker 3: and all you had to do was taint the career
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  Speaker 3: of your husband so that it would be easy for
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  Speaker 3: you to outshine him. Personally, I think this is the
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  Speaker 3: move of a true anti-capitalist.
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  Speaker 6: I'm more extreme than Ian, where I'm, like, pretty anti-capitalist.
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  Speaker 4: I hate landlords.
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  Speaker 3: Now, for those of you who have jobs and don't
• 11:32
  Speaker 3: have time to keep up with all the iDubbbz drama
• 11:33
  Speaker 3: over the past five years... Basically what happened is that iDubbbz,
• 11:37
  Speaker 3: or Ian, got into a relationship with Anissa. Anissa has
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  Speaker 3: always wanted to be a popular streamer, but she's untalented,
• 11:43
  Speaker 3: so she's jealous of the success of her husband. Because
• 11:45
  Speaker 3: she's jealous, instead of being happy for her partner's success,
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  Speaker 3: she constantly sabotages his career by publicly shaming him, and
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  Speaker 3: instead of getting rid of this girl who obviously doesn't
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  Speaker 3: love him, Ian defends her, and even more damning in
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  Speaker 3: terms of social media, he stopped making content that people like. Now,
• 12:02
  Speaker 3: like I said with Jeslene, The blackmailing part of this
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  Speaker 3: is that oftentimes in these cases, people just see the
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  Speaker 3: end result and make claims that you can never tell
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  Speaker 3: if your partner will end up like this or not.
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  Speaker 3: But the reality is that girls like Anissa and Jasleen
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  Speaker 3: always show signs that they will become like this in
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  Speaker 3: the future, early on in the relationship. In Anissa's case,
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  Speaker 3: it was day one.
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  Speaker 4: 2016 would also be the year Anissa would begin her
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  Speaker 4: relationship with the once popular YouTuber, iDubbbz. This relationship started
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  Speaker 4: out as all healthy ones do, with Anissa cheating on
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  Speaker 4: her ex-boyfriend in order to be with Ian. That's right,
• 12:34
  Speaker 4: before Anissa and Ian began dating, Anissa was in an
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  Speaker 4: active relationship with another League of Legends streamer named Akadian.
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  Speaker 4: Anissa and Akadian began dating around late 2015, and this
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  Speaker 4: relationship lasted until the first day Anissa would meet Ian.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how you can see this as a
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  Speaker 3: man and be like, Yeah, she definitely won't treat me
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  Speaker 3: like that, right? And when I say this, understand that
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  Speaker 3: Anissa started treating Ian like shit very early on. They
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: got together in 2016, and in 2017, she was already
• 13:00
  Speaker 3: being incredibly inappropriate with a YouTuber named Chris Ragon, who
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  Speaker 3: was also in a relationship with someone else at the time.
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  Speaker 4: Anissa being attracted to other men is a common trope
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  Speaker 4: when she's in a relationship. Another man Anissa had a
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  Speaker 4: crush on around this time was named Chris Ragon. Anissa
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  Speaker 4: would also show her romantic interest on Chris on Twitter,
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  Speaker 4: where she tweeted out a shirtless photo of him with
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  Speaker 4: the caption full of thirsting and squirt emojis.
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  Speaker 3: You know, personally, I think it's inappropriate to publicly post
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  Speaker 3: about your celebrity crushes when you're in a relationship, but
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  Speaker 3: I can look past that because it's like a fantasy. However,
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: in Anissa's case, her celebrity crush that she is openly
• 13:34
  Speaker 3: fangirling over while she's in a relationship with iDubbbz is
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: someone she regularly interacts with. And really, I think the
• 13:40
  Speaker 3: breaking point for Ian Joma was around five years ago
• 13:43
  Speaker 3: when Anissa opened up an OnlyFans account. He got backlash
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: and was like, actually, I'm okay with being a cuck.
• 13:48
  Speaker 10: For those of you who are unaware of the drama
• 13:51
  Speaker 10: I recently brought upon myself, I'll fill you in. My
• 13:55
  Speaker 10: girlfriend started an OnlyFans account. which is a website where
• 13:58
  Speaker 10: you can upload amateur porn. I think all of it
• 14:02
  Speaker 10: is cool. I'm okay with sex workers and girls being slutty.
• 14:06
  Speaker 10: It has no bearing on my life whatsoever.
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: As someone who watched this video the day it came out,
• 14:12
  Speaker 3: I love watching it five years later knowing that this
• 14:14
  Speaker 3: decision had such a huge effect on Ian's life that
• 14:17
  Speaker 3: he is now so poor that he streams on the ground.
• 14:19
  Speaker 3: I hope that in the current year we've all started
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: to see how toxic these open-minded beliefs are. It turns
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: out that traditional values and prejudices were correct the whole time. Now,
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: normally I would say this is sad, but iDubbbz is
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: such a backstabbing POS that I enjoy every clip I
• 14:34
  Speaker 3: see of Anissa shaming him.
• 14:35
  Speaker 6: If I look at you, even in the viewfinder, extremely
• 14:39
  Speaker 6: masculine chin, which is also why I like the buzz cut,
• 14:42
  Speaker 6: because it emphasizes your chin, and your heavy brow. I
• 14:49
  Speaker 6: would argue you have one of the most... Part of
• 14:51
  Speaker 6: the reason why I don't want to have a child
• 14:53
  Speaker 6: with you is because I'm terrified if we have a
• 14:55
  Speaker 6: girl that she's going to have all your masculine features.
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: Isn't that interesting?
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: I think about that a lot.
• 15:01
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 15:03
  Speaker 6: I have never met somebody who has such an eagle face. Like,
• 15:07
  Speaker 6: you have a very strong brow, which is very attractive
• 15:10
  Speaker 6: on men. To be honest, there's a lot of attractive
• 15:14
  Speaker 6: women that have that as well, like Kristen Stewart.
• 15:16
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 15:16
  Speaker 6: But combined with me.
• 15:17
  Speaker 5: Mm-hmm.
• 15:19
  Speaker 6: I think the combination would be bad for a woman.
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: I think you're tripping.
• 15:24
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: Holy shit. Never in my best dreams would I have
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: imagined a clip as great as iDubbbz looking like he's
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: expressing the interest in having kids towards the end. But
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: Anissa says she thinks he's too ugly. I wonder if
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: she would have said that about Chris Ragon.
• 15:37
  Speaker 6: I actually don't think there's a world where I appeal
• 15:39
  Speaker 6: to straight women.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: You could appeal to straight women.
• 15:42
  Speaker 6: I think you're right.
• 15:43
  Speaker 10: Someone said, is there a look that appeals to everyone?
• 15:48
  Speaker 6: Hassan Abiy appeals to everyone.
• 15:49
  Speaker 8: Oh, my God.
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: I will never get people who think it's OK to
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: publicly shame their partner. For one, the more you shame
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: your partner, the worse it makes you look because you're
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: the one stupid enough to be with a loser. And two,
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: in my opinion, this is a breakup move. It would
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: be an argument the first time it happened, and then
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: it would be the end of the relationship if the
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: behavior were repeated. Because your job as a significant other
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: is to be your partner's biggest cheerleader when it comes
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: to how they're seen in public, and if they aren't
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: doing that, then in my opinion, they're trash. Not to
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: say that people can't communicate with friends and family to
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: process difficult parts of their relationship, But if your wife
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: is just unnecessarily shitting on you in public constantly, then
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: that's a sign that you need to get rid of
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: this person.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: This is a great Anissa moment. You know her eternal
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: quest to humiliate him? So this is a new chapter.
• 16:36
  Speaker 6: I don't know if chat can back me up.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: No.
• 16:39
  Speaker 6: Gay men, whatever. The bigger the dick, the worse it sex.
• 16:44
  Speaker 6: Like a lot of men.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: Just the premise alone, he's trapped. He's trapped from the beginning.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: Either he, A, is bad at sex, or B, has
• 16:54
  Speaker 3: a tiny penis.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: There's no escape.
• 16:56
  Speaker 6: I don't know if chat can back me up. Nope.
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: Back me up, chat.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Again, this would be really sad if iDubbbz weren't a
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: terrible person. I mean, Anissa just like has professional levels
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: of spite for her husband. There are multiple levels here. First,
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: there's like no correct answer here. There's just a less
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: bad one. And two, you get to hear about your
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: partner having sex with other men. She's flaunting her sexual
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: experience publicly while iDubbbz doesn't have any outside of his
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: wife because Anissa is his first girlfriend. And you know what?
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: Everyone's got to start somewhere. And certainly it's better than
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: being used up. So I don't blame him for that.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: But the part where I lose respect is the part
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: where he just lets this chick walk all over him.
• 17:31
  Speaker 8: I've met Ian. I've talked to Ian. I've seen his
• 17:33
  Speaker 8: content over the years. Ian is an asshole, but he's
• 17:38
  Speaker 8: also a very passive, live and let live, kind of
• 17:42
  Speaker 8: easygoing guy. He's not a confrontational, aggressive, hostile person. His girlfriend, though,
• 17:48
  Speaker 8: I think absolutely is. I can guarantee you that whenever
• 17:51
  Speaker 8: there's a conflict, she's the one getting mad and he's
• 17:54
  Speaker 8: the one saying like, bro, like, stop, stop.
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: So I don't want to deal with this.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: I don't want to deal with this.
• 17:58
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 17:59
  Speaker 8: And so that's, I think, kind of what happened. If
• 18:02
  Speaker 8: you've ever been in a relationship with a really domineering, aggressive,
• 18:06
  Speaker 8: hostile person like Anissa seems to be, you would know
• 18:10
  Speaker 8: how much that kind of puts your entire mind into
• 18:13
  Speaker 8: like a like a brain fog. You're in survival mode.
• 18:18
  Speaker 5: Exactly.
• 18:18
  Speaker 8: You're constantly in fight or flight around this person. And
• 18:22
  Speaker 8: you also like them, but there's this element of them
• 18:25
  Speaker 8: that's like extremely mercurial, aggressive, and seemingly so in a
• 18:30
  Speaker 8: random way. That to me sucks the life force out
• 18:35
  Speaker 8: of a person so fast.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: It is insane.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: This is probably true. Actually, allow me to add nuance
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: because I don't think Idubbb sees it like this. I
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: think if you asked him, He would say he does
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: stand up for himself, but the problem is that it
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: doesn't work.
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: Like, as our relationship went on, I share a lot.
• 18:51
  Speaker 6: He's wanted me to share less. I've wanted him to
• 18:53
  Speaker 6: share more. We've started to meet in the middle.
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so they probably have talked about Anissa making him
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: look bad numerous times, but she knows he's not brave
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: enough to do something like leave her, and because there's
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: no threat of negative consequences, it just falls on deaf ears. Instead,
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: she does whatever she wants and continues to treat the
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: internet like her therapist by oversharing, which further adds to
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: the pile of public blackmail against iDubbbz. All of this
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: makes me think about a book I read called Good
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: to Great. It's a book about how good businesses transition
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: into becoming the top businesses. So it's about companies, but
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: if you're smart, the ideas are universally applicable. One such
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: universally applicable idea comes from Chapter 3, where the research
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: team for that book found out that it's not a
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: well-written business plan or favorable market conditions that cause a
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: business to become a top company and sustain their success.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: The most important thing for a successful business are the
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: people in the room. Competent and good people are so
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: important that it's not even worth it to develop a
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: business plan until you have the right people in the room.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: This is very much something that was said a lot
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: about the founder of Apple, Steve Jobs, and the biography
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: that was written on him. He always wanted to be
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: around A players and not the C or the D team.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: But where I'm going with this is that it certainly
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: is also true when it comes to relationships. Everyone thinks
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: they can pull someone out of the bargain bin and
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: mold them into the perfect partner. when the reality is
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: that if someone's not already motivated to be great, you
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: won't convince them. So if you're having long talks about
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: how people need to change or be better and nothing
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: ever changes or gets better, the correct answer is to
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: not continue doing that. The answer is to go find
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: someone who has already figured it out or is motivated
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: to figure it out. Once you have found that person,
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: the next step to a healthy relationship is to not
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: demotivate them by falling into your bad habits. As for
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: your exes, don't feel bad about breaking off their relationship
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: because for the most part, If someone is resistant to change,
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: then the only way they're going to learn is through
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: suffering and loss, and by shielding them from that, you're
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: only prolonging their mediocrity. Last, the book says that if
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: you can't find the right person for their position, then
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: keep looking. The wrong people are so disastrous that it's
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: better that no one fill the role than to have
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: it filled with the wrong person. I know looking can
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: be frustrating, but taking anyone who applies or, if you're
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: an employee, going with any company who will have you
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: because you're desperate is It's how you get into a
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: situation like iDubbbz or Akash who, from the looks of it,
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: are really just holding on to their partners because they're
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: the first person who paid attention to them and they're
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: too weak to break up to find someone who is
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: a better fit. It's sad to watch. Well, Akash is
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: sad to watch. Fuck iDubbbz. I hope Anissa and her
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: husband never get divorced so they can serve as a
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: warning to other people who might make similar relationship decisions.
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: It's good to have a public example of the type
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: of relationship that you're trying to avoid as you search
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: for the ideal one. Anyway, thanks for watching, follow me
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: on Twitter, and I'll see you in the next video.