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Gen Z slang revisited · Equipped for Impact

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Nate: Welcome to Equipped for Impact, the podcast designed to assist Christian parents, leaders, and educators to raise up the next generation, to stand firm in their faith, and influence the world for Christ.
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Nate: We're your hosts.
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Nate: I'm Nate.
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Nate: And I'm Lewis.
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Nate: And we are glad you're here with us today.
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Nate: Uh today we've got another fun episode, and and hopefully it's another eye-opening episode.
0:32
Nate: It's a look into teen slang.
0:36
Nate: So, Lewis, we did an episode of this.
0:38
Nate: Um it's it's been a while.
0:40
Nate: It's been a while.
0:40
Nate: Um it was like six or seven episodes ago.
0:42
Nate: Yeah.
0:42
Nate: I just threw one in there for you.
0:44
Nate: For those of you astute parents, you'll know what that you'll catch that joke later.
0:48
Nate: Um but we it's been a while.
0:51
Nate: Uh but the teen slang, it changes so fast, right?
0:53
Nate: And so um the the the episode that we put out, it resonated with a lot of parents, and and with things changing, Axis has released uh a new updated parent guide to teen slang.
1:05
Nate: And so we wanted to jump in a few of these new words and give you a second installment because you know it's always changing, and we want to keep you guys updated with the best uh knowledge and information we can.
1:19
Nate: Yeah.
1:20
Luis: And you might think like slang, not a big deal, right?
1:23
Luis: It's it's been around since we were young.
1:26
Luis: Yeah.
1:26
Luis: Younger, younger, right?
1:29
Nate: We're still we're still young.
1:30
Luis: I'm holding on to it.
1:31
Luis: But words matter.
1:32
Luis: Proverbs 1821 tells us that death and life are in the power of the tongue.
1:37
Luis: And so that applies to slang too.
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Luis: And let's be clear, our our goal isn't to shame or snoop, but but we're here to to equip you as parents so that you can shepherd your child well so that when you hear a slang word that maybe you're not familiar with, that can lead to a conversation.
1:55
Nate: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
1:56
Nate: And even, you know, maybe if it's not, we're gonna talk about some that are fun, we're gonna talk about some that are kind of borderline and and some that you need to be watching out for.
2:04
Nate: Uh so maybe even with those those uh ones that are uh fun, great slang, you know, you can even throw them into a conversation and your teenager will be like, man, that slaps.
2:17
Luis: Or you might hear your kid say, let's let's get this bread, right?
2:21
Luis: Get this bread.
2:22
Luis: So it is so bread just is money, right?
2:26
Luis: And so let's say an evolution of us.
2:32
Luis: That's an evolution of the slang, right?
2:35
Luis: Because when we were young, er, younger, you got the dough.
2:38
Luis: Yeah, but now the dough has actually turned into bread.
2:40
Luis: After a while it's bread baked.
2:44
Luis: And now that the dough has been baked, it is now bread.
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Luis: So at some point you might say, like, let's get the toast, and maybe it'll mean the same thing.
2:51
Luis: So it just it just means let's let's make money.
2:54
Luis: But the words have power, and a lot of slang is just fun, right?
2:59
Luis: Yeah.
2:59
Luis: Just just like we just showed you here.
3:01
Luis: It's fun.
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Luis: Uh it's gonna show up on your teens Instagram, it may show up on their Snapchat, it may show up in their group chats, on on TikTok, and we just want to make sure that you're aware of some of the ones that that you need to be aware of, but also know that there's some that you you might use in everyday conversation with your teen and and they might think that you're dope.
3:25
Luis: Can I say that?
3:26
Luis: Are you dope?
3:26
Luis: Is dope a thing anymore?
3:28
Luis: I don't think it is.
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Luis: Hold on.
3:29
Luis: We're googling it.
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Nate: I think it is, but I don't think it's the type of thing that we want to slang term.
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Luis: We want to promote anymore.
3:36
Nate: This is live learning right here.
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Nate: You you get to join Dope.
3:40
Nate: It is Dope is still a thing?
3:41
Nate: It's still in.
3:42
Nate: According to Gemini, um, it is it is uh it is still a a good adjective.
3:50
Nate: Uh the new album is so dope.
3:52
Nate: Okay.
3:52
Nate: Your shoes are dope.
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Nate: Okay, there you go.
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Nate: Or it could be an interjection, just like dope exclamation point.
3:58
Nate: But if you're talking about shoes, wouldn't you call them drippy?
4:01
Nate: They are drippy.
4:01
Nate: They're drippy kicks.
4:02
Nate: We we talked about that one our last episode.
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Luis: So go back and listen.
4:05
Luis: It was actually I think uh episode episode 15 of our first season.
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Luis: Okay.
4:11
Luis: So so so so go back if you want to have some fun with with some slang and you're just catching on now.
4:17
Luis: Yeah, maybe maybe that's where she starts.
4:18
Luis: So let's start with some with some fun.
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Nate: Yeah, let's do some fun words.
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Nate: So these are ones, they're gonna show up in, you know, if you're looking on your your teens' social media, they'll they'll show up in captions, on group chats, whatever.
4:28
Nate: Uh there's a couple.
4:29
Nate: We'll just run through these because they're fun.
4:30
Nate: One you might have heard, and it kind of makes sense, is Delulu.
4:34
Nate: I've never heard that one before.
4:35
Nate: Have you never heard that one?
4:36
Nate: I think it's more well, you've got girls.
4:39
Nate: I have girls, yeah.
4:39
Nate: It's more of a girl, like a teen girl thing.
4:41
Nate: Like Delulu.
4:42
Nate: It I feel weird saying it.
4:44
Nate: Yeah.
4:45
Nate: Like that's one that I feel like I lost brain cells.
4:47
Nate: Maybe just now.
4:48
Nate: Maybe they do.
4:49
Nate: This instant.
4:49
Nate: I don't know.
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Nate: So anyway, it is short for delusional.
4:53
Nate: You see that.
4:54
Nate: Okay, there's that makes sense.
4:55
Nate: That makes sense.
4:56
Nate: That one makes sense.
4:56
Nate: Um and it's it's a humorous one, right?
4:58
Nate: It's it's somebody who's got wishful thinking, um, you know, they've got big ambitions or whatever.
5:05
Nate: And so, you know, if somebody says that they're gonna go, you know, uh be uh, you know, the next pro, you know, football player or whatever, and they're not really that good, and you'll be like, ah, that's so Delulu, you know, or something like that.
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Nate: She's Delulu.
5:18
Nate: She is Delulu.
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Nate: Okay.
5:19
Nate: Yeah.
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Nate: It's delusional.
5:20
Nate: Delusional thinking.
5:21
Nate: There you go.
5:22
Luis: There's there's that first one.
5:22
Luis: All right.
5:23
Luis: Uh glow up.
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Luis: Glow up.
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Luis: Glow up.
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Luis: You might have you might have heard that one before.
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Luis: Um that's a transformation, usually physical.
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Luis: And usually it's you're you're you're describing somebody's appearances has changed.
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Luis: And you might have actually heard that one at the start of the school year, right?
5:38
Luis: Because you might say something like he or she had a glow up over the summer.
5:44
Nate: Yep.
5:44
Nate: And it doesn't have to be like permanent changes, right?
5:47
Nate: It could be something of, you know, just new style, um, you know, just kind of dressing up better or whatever.
5:54
Nate: It's just part of that uh general, which for teens, right?
5:58
Nate: They hit these gross spurts, and then and that happens.
6:00
Nate: And so that's gonna be a phrase that you get out there, a glow up.
6:04
Nate: Um so next one, uh tell me if you've heard this one, Lewis.
6:08
Nate: It's vibe check.
6:10
Luis: I have.
6:10
Luis: I actually heard it recently.
6:12
Luis: Okay.
6:12
Luis: In the hallway of our school, some kids were actually uh talking about a vibe check.
6:18
Luis: Okay.
6:19
Luis: And I had no idea what they were talking about at the time, but now that I've read this article from Axis, I know that it means that you are getting a quick read on someone's energy.
6:30
Luis: So she failed the vibe check.
6:33
Luis: She failed the vibe.
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Luis: And that's the context that it was used is not she, but somebody had made a comment and somebody said, You failed the vibe check.
6:41
Luis: And so um Okay.
6:44
Nate: I've never heard that phrase.
6:45
Nate: Yeah.
6:45
Nate: I've never heard the phrase.
6:46
Nate: I've heard like vibe, right?
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Nate: You're putting off some energy.
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Nate: Like I understand that one.
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Nate: But and I heard a vibe shift, like a conversation, it's going good, and then something happened.
6:56
Nate: Yeah.
6:56
Nate: And you you you know how it is, you know, the it the conversation just kind of shifts, and then it was like, ooh, there's a vibe shift.
7:01
Nate: Yeah, yeah.
7:02
Nate: Um somebody says something or somebody came into the conversation and there was a vibe.
7:06
Nate: So vibe check.
7:07
Nate: Have not heard that one before, actually.
7:09
Nate: Um our next one, all right.
7:11
Luis: Uh keep it a hundred.
7:12
Luis: And not just a hundred, but a hundred with that emoji on your iPhone that's like red.
7:17
Luis: Or do you have to do that one?
7:19
Luis: I think so.
7:20
Luis: Like, like, like I think that's how it's used.
7:22
Luis: It's it's not just the number 100, but it's got to be that specific, like angry red hundred with the like a hundred percent.
7:28
Luis: Yes.
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Nate: I feel like this one is one that's not really spoken as much as it's a text slam.
7:34
Nate: Yeah, yeah.
7:35
Nate: Like it, you don't say, like you don't say lol out loud.
7:39
Nate: You you text it.
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Nate: So that would be keep it a hundred is like be real, be honest, like hundred percent like this is what we're doing.
7:46
Nate: Keep it, keep it a hundred.
7:48
Nate: Keep it hundred.
7:48
Nate: Keep it hundred.
7:49
Nate: I don't know.
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Nate: You don't say a hundred?
7:51
Nate: I don't know.
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Nate: Keep it well, you don't say it, right?
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Nate: Hundred.
7:54
Nate: Yeah, you're right.
7:54
Nate: So it's just keep it emoji.
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Nate: Yeah, keep it, keep it emoji, keep it emoji.
7:58
Luis: So we're making up our own here.
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Luis: The next one is is poggers.
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Luis: Uh, that's an expression of excitement.
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Luis: Uh and it and it originates from gaming.
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Luis: And and I don't know, but I wonder if it goes all the way back to the pogs from like the 90s.
8:13
Luis: Did you have pogs when you were a kid?
8:15
Luis: That you might you you might be too young.
8:16
Luis: No.
8:17
Luis: So pogs were these little circular uh caps, and you had these things that in and and you could trade them and you could use slammers and you would slam them and they would flip, and uh but it was called pogs.
8:29
Luis: I think I think it was called pogs.
8:31
Nate: I might I'm I'm I might have to Google it.
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Nate: Pogs Champ there's a pogs championship?
8:36
Nate: Look, I'm learning.
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Nate: So maybe but that's I'm learning as we go.
8:39
Luis: But that's poggers, right?
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Luis: That's it's an expression of excitement and it originated from gaming.
8:45
Luis: Now, let's give you a bonus one, right?
8:47
Luis: Okay.
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Luis: And it's probably one that you've been hearing a lot lately.
8:51
Luis: That's right.
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Luis: And that is 6'7.
8:54
Luis: 6'7.
8:54
Luis: And it's not even just 6'7, it's it's the 6'7.
8:59
Luis: You're gonna say it like full on.
9:01
Nate: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
9:02
Nate: So this one, fun story.
9:04
Nate: Here at our school, we've got a big tradition of a senior parade.
9:07
Nate: The seniors come out and they do this whole thing with anything but a car, and you've got all this farm equipment, people riding horses, like it's great.
9:14
Nate: But all of the seniors, because there's hand motions.
9:17
Nate: Did you know that there were hand motions with it?
9:18
Luis: Uh maybe.
9:19
Luis: Is it the one where you're yeah with your hands?
9:21
Nate: So, you know, you can't see us doing this, but but it's the the kind of the hands back and forth.
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Nate: It's almost like you're trying to decide between two options.
9:29
Nate: Yeah.
9:29
Nate: Or like you're juggling without anything in your hands.
9:31
Nate: Yeah, you're juggling.
9:32
Nate: It's that juggling motion.
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Nate: And so it's like six, seven.
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Nate: And so there's a couple of different things that go with it.
9:37
Nate: One is it doesn't actually mean anything.
9:41
Nate: Correct.
9:41
Nate: Like, like literally, it has no meaning.
9:44
Nate: Um and so that's the first thing that you need to know.
9:47
Nate: Like people kind of get upset or they try and read meanings into it, which maybe kind of, but really at the end of the day, it means nothing.
9:54
Nate: Okay.
9:55
Nate: It can mean kind of like something so so, like, but it's almost taken on a life of its own, which is why the hand motions like that.
10:03
Nate: Eh, you know, kinda maybe, maybe 50-50, that type of thing.
10:06
Nate: But it's just the 6-7, it came from a rap uh that people took that line.
10:11
Nate: I think he's actually counting at some point in there.
10:14
Nate: And so it's like the way he says it is funny.
10:17
Nate: Six seven.
10:18
Nate: And so then they'll take that and they'll o s put that over a video and it's a TikTok thing.
10:24
Nate: And I think that they ended up using it to r to be with basketball players.
10:30
Nate: There was one specifically, a pro, like an NBA player who is six foot seven, and they were talking about how tall he is, and they're like, six seven.
10:37
Nate: Yeah.
10:38
Nate: So it's used like as a, you know, random, just kind of like sometimes it's good, sometimes it's mid, you know, it's fifty-fifty.
10:47
Nate: Sometimes it's just people being goofy.
10:48
Nate: Just being silly, right?
10:49
Luis: Literally just.
10:50
Luis: Sometimes it's just like if a teacher happens to say, We're gonna do problems six and seven today and then you've lost the class.
10:57
Luis: The kids are you have lost the class.
10:59
Luis: And while it's harmless, right, it shows us something important about our current climate and our culture, right?
11:06
Luis: Kids are gonna use language and means to connect and stand out.
11:11
Luis: Yeah.
11:11
Luis: And when we pay attention, we can turn something silly into a meaningful conversation because right now, six, seven is everywhere.
11:19
Luis: I mean, you can have a kindergartner, kindergartners are using it.
11:22
Nate: I heard from a first grade teacher that they were doing a handwriting sheet and they were practicing writing the numbers six and seven.
11:29
Nate: And like they could not make it through the handwriting sheet.
11:31
Nate: Because the first graders are first graders were just all thought it was the funniest thing in the world.
11:36
Luis: So it's not even teens, right?
11:38
Luis: I mean, I mean, it just shows you, and so the next time that you hear your teen or maybe your first grader say six, seven, right?
11:46
Luis: Don't panic.
11:47
Luis: Don't panic.
11:48
Luis: Yeah.
11:48
Luis: Just say, hey, teach teach me the joke.
11:51
Luis: It might be the perfect way to start a deeper conversation.
11:54
Luis: And and and none of these are are red flags, none of these are are slang that you need to be concerned about, but but they're great conversation starters.
12:03
Luis: And you know, if if you if you see the Lulu in a text message or you hear one of your kids say it, ask them what does it mean and and and see where it goes.
12:12
Nate: Mm-hmm.
12:13
Nate: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
12:13
Nate: And and this is a a great reminder that no matter what, when we are discipling our children, you know, just a single question can open the door to a dialogue and just really at the end of the day showing that you care about them and what's going on in their lives.
12:28
Nate: Even if it's something silly like six, seven.
12:31
Nate: Yeah.
12:31
Nate: You know, it's it's just you care, you want to connect, even if you're not cool, um, you know, it's still cool that you care about your kids.
12:39
Nate: And they and they love that.
12:41
Nate: Yeah.
12:42
Luis: Now let's talk about some slang that could raise your eyebrows.
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Luis: These aren't necessarily evil, they're they're not necessarily inappropriate, but but but they might reflect some deeper issues.
12:53
Luis: Maybe, maybe it might reflect a worldview issue, maybe it might reflect an emotional warning.
12:59
Luis: These are some that you probably want to pay attention to if you see it in a text message, if you hear your teen say it.
13:05
Luis: Uh and the first one is is crash out.
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Luis: Uh and this is this is about doing something reckless or emotionally driven, right?
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Luis: And so typically it's gonna be used as a descriptor of what I'm feeling uh or what somebody else might be feeling.
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Luis: I'm about to crash out.
13:22
Luis: I'm about to crash out.
13:24
Nate: Like they're just feeling lots of feels and they're trying to they're gonna do something dumb, for lack of a better term.
13:29
Nate: Yeah.
13:30
Nate: Um or delulu.
13:32
Nate: Yes.
13:32
Nate: They're gonna do something delulu.
13:34
Nate: And so they crash out.
13:35
Nate: Yeah.
13:35
Nate: Yeah.
13:36
Nate: Yeah.
13:36
Nate: When I think of this one, I think of like um like in uh maybe a video game or something when you're driving and then you like literally crash out.
13:45
Luis: Yeah, like the old like the old Mario Kart game, right?
13:47
Luis: So you like you just like spin out, crash out, and then your your little guy's just like twirling around.
13:52
Nate: And then the guy in the little um the the cloud comes and fishes you out and you can go again.
13:56
Nate: Okay.
13:57
Nate: We just got off track.
13:58
Nate: Seriously off track.
13:59
Nate: Um okay, the next one is bed rot.
14:02
Nate: Bed rot.
14:03
Nate: Um and this is just intentionally staying in bed all day.
14:08
Nate: Um and usually it's I'm gonna sit here, scroll on my phone, do nothing, just hang out in bed, which can be fun.
14:15
Nate: Yeah.
14:16
Nate: Especially if you get breakfast for dinner in bed.
14:18
Nate: Oh, okay.
14:18
Nate: Like that would be it's like breakfast in bed for dinner.
14:21
Nate: That's actually gonna lead to brain rot.
14:23
Nate: To brain rot.
14:24
Nate: That's right.
14:25
Nate: Which uh that's another one.
14:26
Nate: Brain rot.
14:27
Nate: Bed rot and brain rot go together.
14:28
Nate: They just when you're scrolling and you're just so emotionally spent or you're just so like drained that you're just scrolling TikTok, Instagram, whatever, the infinite scroll of social media that they've in instituted.
14:40
Nate: And you know, it could be a sign of emotional issues, you know, it could be a sign of depression or just you know, the low motivation, which let's be real, this time of year can be a thing.
14:49
Nate: Yeah.
14:49
Nate: You know, you just need that Saturday of bed rot and brain rot.
14:54
Nate: But if that's gonna be a habitual thing or or you see that in a in a greater context of a conversation that your your child's having, that that might be a little warning sign.
15:04
Nate: So just watch out for that one.
15:06
Luis: And uh, another one that's related to to bed rot, brain rot, is is Menti B.
15:11
Luis: Now, I've not I've not personally seen or heard of this one.
15:14
Luis: I've not heard that one inside outside of the article, but but but I thought it was important to share.
15:19
Luis: Um the idea here is that Menti B is short for a mental breakdown.
15:24
Luis: Uh and it's often used jokingly, but it can also be serious.
15:28
Luis: Like it can be a serious indication of maybe your child is having some struggles with just what's going on in their brain, right?
15:36
Luis: Maybe the thoughts are thinking, maybe they're overwhelmed, maybe there's a level of stress, and so they they are on the verge of a menti bee.
15:44
Nate: So menti bee.
15:45
Nate: Yep, yep.
15:46
Nate: And it's kind of again related to this is another one, uh touch grass.
15:50
Nate: I've never actually heard anybody use this one, but I've heard about it.
15:54
Nate: And it's that whole idea of you just gotta unplug, right?
15:57
Nate: You're so involved in either an emotional situation or the internet or whatever, you just feel like you need to get back to real life and you need to go outside in the sunshine and touch grass, right?
16:10
Nate: And so get out of the digital world into the real world uh and go go touch grass.
16:14
Luis: Um if your kid's a gamer, if your kid is is is a kid that that that does a lot maybe online, uh you might see these on some of the chats that are on some of the online games.
16:26
Nate: Bro, go touch grass.
16:27
Luis: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
16:28
Luis: You might you might hear it like if they're on a headset, right?
16:31
Luis: Yeah, exactly.
16:31
Luis: Like go touch grass, especially if they've been playing a really long time.
16:35
Nate: Yeah, or they're just really invested in making sure Mario saves Princess Peach.
16:40
Nate: That's the only video game I'm actually familiar with.
16:42
Nate: Yeah.
16:42
Nate: So it's Can you play?
16:44
Luis: I don't think you can play Mario online, can you?
16:46
unknown: I don't think.
16:46
Nate: I'm pretty sure you can.
16:47
Nate: Because the switch connects to online.
16:48
Nate: It does, yeah.
16:49
Nate: We don't do that, but I know it does.
16:51
Nate: Okay.
16:51
Nate: Because my kids always ask, what is online play?
16:53
Nate: And I was like, uh, we don't have to worry about that.
16:55
Nate: We don't just we're gonna play Mario Kart with the four of us.
16:59
Luis: We don't want you to crash out.
17:00
Luis: We don't actually on the topic of video games, the next one is one that I have heard before.
17:08
Luis: And this one is is main character energy.
17:11
Luis: Um and this is when someone is acting like the center of attention, right?
17:16
Luis: They are the main character of the scene, and so they have main character energy.
17:21
Luis: It it it it could reflect pride, uh, it could reflect insecurity.
17:25
Luis: Uh it could also indicate that maybe somebody's being targeted like um in an almost in a nefarious way.
17:33
Luis: If there's some jealousy, if if if there's a group of kids talking about it.
17:37
unknown: You know.
17:37
Luis: Look at her main character energy.
17:39
Luis: Yeah, absolutely, yeah.
17:40
Luis: Or you know, when she always walks in, she has main character energy.
17:42
Luis: And so and so you may want to be on the lookout for that one just to see how how you would unpack it with your child, especially if they're talking about somebody else.
17:51
Luis: Right, right.
17:52
Nate: And that kind of relates to um we talked about one in our last episode of uh NPC non player character, I think.
18:00
Nate: And that's the that's kind of like a dehumanizing, like oh, they're such just an NPC.
18:04
Nate: They're disposable.
18:05
Nate: This is almost the flip side of that.
18:06
Nate: It's a oh, they've got main character energy, or I've I'm gonna bring do they say it, do you usually say it about yourself?
18:13
Luis: No, usually it's usually other people.
18:14
Nate: Yeah, usually it's gonna be about somebody else, yeah.
18:16
Nate: See, I don't even know because I don't play like that.
18:19
Nate: You don't play me.
18:20
Nate: There's no main character.
18:21
Luis: And these are all opportunities for discipleships.
18:23
Luis: Yeah.
18:24
Luis: So that's right.
18:24
Luis: So we're not we're we're not telling you these so that you can go and you can confiscate your child's phone or the social media and you might need to.
18:32
Luis: You might, you might.
18:32
Luis: Um but really like it's how to ask questions, right?
18:35
Luis: What it's tell me tell me what you mean by crash out.
18:38
Luis: Uh are you are you feeling overwhelmed?
18:40
Luis: Like tell me t tell me why you're talking about this person and call and and describing them as having main character energy.
18:46
Luis: Like what does that mean?
18:48
Nate: Yeah.
18:48
Nate: Or um, you know, just the the bed rot.
18:50
Nate: You know.
18:51
Nate: And and even you don't have to address these directly.
18:54
Nate: Like these are ones that you may need to go an indirect route on, especially if they're using it about themselves and you, like you should be, are monitoring your child's phone or online interactions or whatever, you you can then go in there and you can come at it from a different perspective.
19:10
Nate: They don't necessarily know that you know what those words mean, but it's just a hey, I'm checking in, yeah, uh helping you touch some grass.
19:17
Nate: No, yes, that probably isn't a good idea.
19:20
Nate: That's not a good one.
19:21
Nate: Back back out of that.
19:22
Nate: You will not come across as dope if you use it.
19:24
Nate: No, you will not be dope, but they're just happy that you're bringing some bread.
19:28
Luis: That's right.
19:28
Luis: Ah, yes.
19:29
Luis: But don't mock them for using these words, right?
19:33
Luis: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
19:34
Luis: It's a different conversation, it's a different world.
19:37
Luis: I mean, sometimes when I walk the hallways of our school and I hear kids talk, I have no idea what they're saying because of just it's it's a different environment.
19:47
Luis: They talk in a different way.
19:48
Luis: It's a different vibe.
19:48
Luis: And sometimes, yes, and then it when I'm doing the the vibe check, right?
19:53
Luis: I need to make sure that I'm not making fun of them.
19:56
Luis: Um, use these to step into their world and lead them towards truth and and peace and and understanding.
20:05
Luis: Because sometimes they may not actually know what they're saying.
20:07
Luis: That's true.
20:08
Luis: They may use it.
20:08
Luis: Exactly right.
20:14
Nate: Exactly.
20:14
Nate: Now, before we get into some of the uh major red flags that you need to be uh, you know, having your your attention for, uh could we ask you a quick favor?
20:23
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20:29
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20:36
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20:46
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20:48
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20:50
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20:52
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21:02
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21:09
Nate: Now, with that, uh let's take a look at language that could indicate a much deeper issue.
21:15
Nate: And this is where device checks, accountability apps, things like that come into play.
21:20
Nate: Um, because well, really, uh several of these are um ones that may not show up if you've got something that gives you alerts to the conversations.
21:31
Nate: Yeah.
21:31
Nate: That it may not trigger an alert.
21:33
Nate: So just you need to be regularly checking what's going on on your your child's devices and all that.
21:38
Nate: So here's the first one Jeweling.
21:41
Nate: Jeweling.
21:42
Nate: It's spelled J-U-U-L-I-N-G.
21:45
Nate: And that's that's a term for for vaping.
21:48
Nate: Um, jewel is a brand of vape, J-U-U-L.
21:52
Nate: Um, and so you know, it's it's really just referring to any type of e-cigarette use.
21:57
Nate: So you might see it of, you know, hey, so-and-so is jeweling, or you know, hey, can you go because obviously you have to be over is it 18 to buy these things, um, you know, to because they're considered tobacco products still.
22:10
Nate: And so if they could be asking somebody for it because they can't purchase it themselves, you know, anything like that, the jeweling is uh, you know, it's an important one you need to keep your eyes out for it.
22:22
Luis: And it's it's something that is uh I mean it's a it's an epidemic in our society today.
22:26
Luis: That's true.
22:26
Luis: Uh you know, especially among young people.
22:28
Luis: Uh the next one is an abbreviation and and it's three letters, D T F, and it stands for down to and parents, you get the idea.
22:37
Luis: Uh it's a it's it's a four-letter word to refer to a sexual slang.
22:41
Luis: And so if you you're typically gonna see it in the form of a text message, you're gonna see it in the form of a Snapchat, you're gonna see it in the form uh it's it's gonna be something that is that that is typically in a written context, uh DTF.
22:58
Luis: And so if you see that one, that's gonna wanna lead to a bigger conversation.
23:04
Nate: Um the next one is uh another abbreviation um is FWB.
23:11
Nate: And it again, it kind of goes along with this other one, but it's the friends with benefits, right?
23:16
Nate: And it's it's just normalizing um, you know, the hookup culture, casual sex, anything like that.
23:21
Nate: It's just, hey, we're friends, there's no commitment, and we're just gonna do these things, the extra benefits, uh, in that relationship.
23:28
Nate: And so again, if anybody's talking about, hey, let's be, you know, FWB or using that to talk about other people, like that's what they're talking about.
23:37
Nate: So whether your child is participating in it or not, um, they know about it and what it means, and that that diminishes, you know, from a biblical perspective, what we're talking about is the the God-given, you know, act that God designed for marriage.
23:51
Nate: And so if your child knows what that means and is using it, whether it's for themselves or for their friends, there's probably some conversations that need to happen there to to to talk about you know how God designed um sex for marriage.
24:06
Luis: Yeah.
24:06
Luis: And the next one is one that's fairly common and and it's actually probably used even even by a lot of parents, is is receipts, right?
24:14
Luis: And this is this is having proof of something, oftentimes referring to screenshots.
24:20
Luis: Um you see it a lot in sports culture, um, especially like if somebody was talking junk on social media, you know, and then somebody makes a big play and then and then they're like, I'm bringing receipts.
24:32
Luis: Bringing the receipts.
24:33
Luis: You know, and so but usually not so they can get reimbursed for their expense account.
24:38
Luis: Correct.
24:38
Luis: It's it's they want to prove something.
24:40
Luis: And usually it's something that people don't want to get out, right?
24:43
Luis: Yeah.
24:44
Luis: And so, and so if if you see like I've got receipts or I'm bringing receipts, um, you may want to unpack that one a little bit more because usually there's something there that maybe was hidden, was intentionally hitting that they're bringing out so that that they're bringing it to light.
25:00
Nate: So, yeah.
25:01
Nate: And it and it could be on the other side, like people don't believe your child, and so your child is saying, I got receipts, right?
25:08
Nate: And it could be something as simple as like I dunked on the goal at church last night, you know, and it's like, oh, we'll bring receipts.
25:14
Nate: Well, I got a video that my friend took, right?
25:16
Nate: Yeah.
25:16
Nate: It's the whole pics or it didn't happen.
25:18
Nate: Yeah.
25:19
Nate: Um, like that was a thing a while ago.
25:20
Nate: That was a big thing, yeah.
25:21
Nate: Of course, now with AI you can get pics and videos of anything, so the receipts don't matter.
25:26
Luis: There's actually, I think, of a a picture of me dunking on a basketball goal at church.
25:31
Luis: Is there one?
25:32
Luis: Yeah, we have one of those like low ones either.
25:35
Luis: Little types, yeah.
25:36
Luis: And so dunking on that one.
25:37
Nate: It's not AI generated, it's actually you, but dunking on somebody's.
25:41
Nate: But the basketball goal was how tall?
25:43
Nate: Uh we're not going to talk about that.
25:44
Nate: Okay.
25:44
Nate: Okay.
25:45
Nate: Good.
25:45
Nate: Gotcha.
25:46
Nate: Um I do have receipts though.
25:48
Nate: You do have receipts.
25:49
Nate: I do have receipts.
25:50
Nate: You dunked on a little tykes basketball goal.
25:52
Nate: Okay, so this next one um would be uh it's another abbreviation.
25:56
Nate: It's K M S or KYS.
26:00
Nate: And that would be, you know, talking about self-harm or suicide.
26:03
Nate: Kill myself or kill yourself.
26:05
Nate: Um and so again, there's a red flag.
26:08
Nate: If they're gonna type that in, it's gonna be, you know, it either talking about themselves or to someone, to somebody else, right?
26:15
Nate: Either they're they're it's a self-harm situation.
26:17
Nate: And so that would be a a pretty quick conversation you need to have if you're seeing your your child use this abbreviation.
26:24
Nate: It's not not you know, not something to joke around about.
26:26
Nate: And so uh that that's where an adult needs to step in and and have that gospel-centered conversation around what's going on inside in in their heart.
26:37
Luis: And just to clarify here, this is different than if you see your child say like I'm dead, or like I'm the skull uh emoji.
26:45
Luis: That's that's not referring to self-it's like laughing so hard, I'm dying.
26:49
Luis: Yep, and so and so dying laughing or whatever.
26:52
Luis: And so, and so just so that you distinguish, right?
26:54
Luis: KMS, KYS, that's serious, that's talking about self-harm.
26:58
Luis: I'm dead, or I'm the skull face emoji.
27:01
Luis: That's like I'm dead because I'm laughing so hard.
27:04
Luis: Right, right.
27:05
Luis: Um and so when you see one of these, you want to ask, what are they being exposed to, what are their friends talking about, but also remind them that their identity isn't found in in in how they look, in who they attract, but but it's found in Christ.
27:22
Luis: And so, and so don't freak out, um, because that's I think a natural parent reaction, right?
27:27
Luis: You know, if if I see if I see one of these in my child's text messages, in their Snapchat, on their TikTok, I'm gonna freak out.
27:34
Luis: But but no, like how how can you understand what they're being exposed to?
27:39
Luis: And so you might be asking, what do what do we do with all this?
27:42
Luis: So thank you for all this information.
27:44
Luis: What do we do with it?
27:45
Nate: Yeah.
27:46
Nate: Uh use dope, bread, and six seven as many times as you can in your next conversation with your child.
27:52
Nate: I think that's the way to go.
27:54
Nate: If you do that, email us at podcast at waynechrush.org.
27:58
Luis: And we will be sending you a sticker.
28:00
Luis: We got a new sticker.
28:01
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28:01
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28:02
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28:03
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28:09
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28:10
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28:15
Nate: No, we don't have a team.
28:16
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28:28
Nate: So that'll be fun.
28:28
Nate: We would love to hear about it.
28:30
Nate: But for serious, um, you know, we're we're not playing around.
28:34
Nate: What what should you do?
28:35
Nate: You know, uh obviously download this guide from Axis.
28:38
Nate: We'll we'll drop a link in the show notes and you know, sign up for their things where they will keep you updated because we see some of this stuff, and then it's you know later that we put it out for you.
28:48
Nate: So uh we want you guys to be as as up to date as you can.
28:54
Nate: That would be the first thing.
28:55
Nate: The second thing would be use some type of parental controls.
28:59
Nate: We've talked about this before, or monitoring software.
29:02
Nate: Um, you know, there's different ones, uh like Covenant Eyes or Bark or different things like that where you can be present and engaged in your child's life, especially the digital part of your child's life, so that you can be there and you can have these conversations if you see some concerning things in in their communication online.
29:23
Nate: Yep.
29:23
Luis: And when you visit Access, I would recommend sign up for their culture.
29:26
Luis: It's called their Cultural Translator, and it's a weekly email.
29:30
Luis: Um they actually give you slang of the week.
29:32
Luis: Their slang of the week this week was actually Bread.
29:34
Luis: Uh see, that's why I didn't know.
29:35
Luis: I haven't read the email yet.
29:36
Luis: Uh but they actually have some uh they have some interesting articles that they publish.
29:40
Luis: Like I was just looking at one where the uh current generation is rejecting the dating language of their parents and instead is embracing new terms that are disengaged from the to tr from the traditional goals of dating.
29:54
Luis: And so there's actually we may have to look at this one because there's actually slang for dating that.
29:59
Luis: That we didn't use like uh sneaky links or or zombies.
30:04
Luis: Um so, anyways, that's just a hook for another episode.
30:07
Luis: You're listening to us brainstorm all live, you know.
30:11
Luis: So But the third thing you can do, parents, is is ask questions, uh, not just about the slang, but about the heart, right?
30:18
Luis: Romans 12 2 reminds us do not be conformed to this world, but to be transformed by the renewal of your mind.
30:25
Luis: And so that's gonna include what what they hear, what they say, and what they look at on their phone.
30:32
Nate: Yeah.
30:32
Nate: And so uh just as you go through this, have those conversations and really try and speak to your child's heart.
30:40
Nate: That's what you're going for.
30:42
Nate: That's what we're here for, is to to really disciple our children so that they can influence this world for Christ.
30:48
Nate: And so it it starts with an inner transformation.
30:50
Nate: So, Lewis, any final um words of encouragement to parents as they uh go to to you know leave us today and jump on and really build those relationships uh through maybe some slang.
31:02
Luis: Yeah, so when you encounter the slang in your child's everyday vocabulary because it's there, um be quick to listen, be slow to speak, and be slow to anger because the goal isn't control, right?
31:16
Luis: You're not trying to control what your child says, but trying to connect with them.
31:21
Luis: And and you're not just parenting them, but you're but you're shepherding them.
31:26
Luis: And so keep showing up, keep asking those questions, keep keep pointing them to the unchanging truth of God's word, and just show them that you care, that you are invested and concerned about the world that they're growing up in.
31:39
Nate: Yeah, that's right.
31:40
Nate: So thank you all for joining us today on Equipped for Impact.
31:44
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31:47
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31:57
Nate: But until then, keep leading the next generation to stand firm in their faith and influence the world for Christ.