#81 The Ways We Learn to Survive — and Why They Can Be So Hard to Let Go Of

She Rises: Faith, Freedom and Order for Christian Women · Oct 7, 2026 · 36m

Last week, I introduced you to more of the girl I was.

This week, we're looking underneath her story.

What did her mind and body learn to do with the things she couldn't understand?

For me, survival appeared in ways I didn't recognise for decades: compulsive nail biting, rituals, shutting down into overwhelming sleep, anger, self-blame, seeking care indirectly, being indispensable and constantly trying to fix myself.

I simply thought these things proved something was wrong with me.

Therapy eventually helped me ask a different question:

What were these behaviours trying to do for me?

In this…