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Season 2 - Episode 354 - Keeping your sparkle · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let's talk about your sparkle.
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  Let's talk about getting your sparkle on.
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  This is something that we all want to do.
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  We all want to be able to light up a room.
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  We all want to be able to shine our best selves.
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  We all have this desire to say, you know, even if we deny it
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  like oh, I don't need the attention, it doesn't mean we
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  don't want it. We all want to sparkle and we
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  have to admit that first and foremost.
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  Yeah, we all want to do it. We all want to be able to go in
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  and be magical. That being said, we consistently
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  let people steal our sparkle. We consistently let people take
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  their down and out attitude and dump it on us.
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  And then we respond, and before you know it, our sparkle is
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  extinguished, done, done for the day, and we go with the attitude
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  of, oh, it'll be a better day tomorrow.
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  Well, point is, why are we having it extinguished by
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  someone else? Why are we letting someone else
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  extinguish our sparkle? Why are we letting them even dim
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  it? Why are we giving them that
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  power? What is the reason that we allow
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  it to happen? And asking yourself that
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  question, especially if you have a constant committer to this
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  where somebody you know is the person who comes in and they are
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  the pin to your balloon. They are the water to your
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  flame. They are the the one who just
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  constantly says and you feel like, why does this happen to me
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  constantly? Well, first and foremost it
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  happens because we let it happen.
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  I I, I'm committer of this myself.
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  I will let it happen. I will have these grandiose
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  visions and ideas and then I go and I'll talk about them.
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  I'll say something to my husband and then he'll be the pin to my
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  balloon. And I've said that to him.
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  I actually make that sound sometimes where I'll be like,
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  did you just hear my balloon go flat?
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  And then he gets it because he's very analytical and he's not in
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  that headspace and I'm in a very different heads space.
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  So sometimes we have those Clash of the World's and I used to
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  get, and I still do occasionally, not nearly as much
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  as I used to, but I used to let it own me.
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  I used to get so mad and I it would ruin my day.
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  In fact, it might actually ruin a few days because I I still had
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  to see him. It's not like I could get rid of
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  him in that moment. And I would.
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  I would carry it with me, I would take it with me and lug it
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  around. And every time I saw him it was
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  just like the offense happened again.
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  And it really over the over the years I've recognized that that
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  strategy does not work to shift somebody.
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  What has to happen is it's about me.
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  It's an all in inside job, so I have to shift my perspective of
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  it and I have decided that the sparkle is more important than
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  the offense. Does that make sense?
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  The sparkle in me that I am in charge of.
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  I'm in charge of stocking my fire.
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  Just like if you put a fire logs in your fireplace and you're
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  burning the fire, if the fire is going out, what do you do?
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  You go get another log and you put it on the fireplace and then
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  you stoke the fire to make sure you're all set.
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  You don't just let it die out unless you're going to bed and
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  you've decided you're done with it.
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  But if you still want the fire, you don't sit there and go, oh,
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  nobody else will get up to do it.
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  I guess I I'm going to just sit here and complain.
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  No, you fix it because you want it.
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  And it's the same thing with this.
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  You have to own it. You have to take it on.
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  And you have to take it as a serious thing, where you are not
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  letting someone steal your sparkle because it's too damn
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  important not to. In a world where it is sometimes
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  dingy and Gray and dark and damp and you can't get rid of it, you
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  have to own your sparkle. And going into next year, you
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  have to commit to that. I am not letting anyone steal my
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  sparkle, not for 5 minutes. Can they upset you?
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  Can they anger you? Can they actually piss you off?
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  Can you go into a place where you're just like, yes, but don't
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  stay there long and get your sparkle immediately back.
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  Figure out what's the strategy that you're going to use to get
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  that sparkle back immediately so you don't have to stay hopeless
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  and helpless in this. You can do it, I promise you.
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  You just have to recognize it and pull it out and make sure
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  that you say to yourself, Nope, my sparkle, my business.
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  I'm in charge of it and I'm not letting that happen.
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  End of story. So try it.
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  Make a declaration going into the new year that this is part
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  of what you want to own your sparkle.
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  I know I'm going to because it's on mine all the time and I'm
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  always working on it. And this year I have even more
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  plans of how to hold it. So as I learn them myself, I
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  will be teaching them to all of you.
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  I hope you guys have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.